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How To Make Your Wife Happy

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Said Rageah

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I'm about about the law. And I'm on the head of the Columbia Columbia Law Hayden had he had the Mohammed in Salalah while he was selling them

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to have a coup d'etat in Baden COVID in Walla Walla Walla. tintina.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive our brothers who organize this event specially those who chose the titles for this speaker say I mean why you're so weak say I mean for them

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you know why?

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Every year Masha Allah Tabata kala, they had a beautiful title, easy title to manage. I think mine is the most difficult one. And that is how to make your wife happy.

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Every man who's sitting here, he's struggling and asking himself the same question. How can I make my wife happy? And what would make my wife happy?

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And every man that I asked almost everyone that I asked other than three each one of them said, I don't know.

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They don't know what would make or can make their wives happy. So tonight insha Allah, I want to touch upon few points and be in Manila with these points. We can all walk away out of this hobby inilah knowing how to make our wives happy, the needs to know who what data are we ready for this?

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I didn't call for janazah I said, Are you ready for this?

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Like the minutes like I don't know. Sisters, I want to ask the brothers one more time. Brothers. Are you ready?

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You said that out of fear right?

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Now, see Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says in the Quran, woman is he and hada document and fusi Kumasi Raja, from the Ayat of Allah subhanho wa Taala after he spoke about the creation of the universe and this complex system that we know Allah subhanho wa Taala said and from the Ayat of Allah, that He created you husband and wife, minion fusi kumars. Raja, what for what purpose? The test Kunal LA, so you may find comfort in your wife will generally be in a home and he plays between you to husband and wife, my word of

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mouth means love. And Rama means compassion and mercy.

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And we want to know Allah subhanho wa Taala said in the Quran.

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He said, deal with them with kindness, deal with your wives with kindness, and then never use Allahu Allah. He was seldom proudly, he used it to the Sahaba hierro komyo camellia Holly.

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Holly, he said the best of you are those who are good to their wives, and I am the best of those who are good to their wives. And whenever you saw a lot of money he was selling even the day that he was dying. He used to say you still so be nice.

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Be good to women. Be good to wise, make sure you are kind to them. So insha Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala I want to mention few points.

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And these points be in Mila. Voila, he the it Neela if you implement them, your will your life will love you forever.

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She will love you forever. So what is the first thing that we need to do?

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First thing that we need to do

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do is to show our wives that we love them.

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express them,

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show them that we love them.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not ashamed to declare his love for his wife.

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Nancy comes to the Messenger of Allah. And he says to him, you're a solo law, men.

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Who do you love most? He said, Ayesha.

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Ayesha, if I asked you who do you love most? You say my mother.

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Who's next? My grandmother?

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Who's next? My father.

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Who's next my children. What about your wife? Oh, yeah, she's me. I love her too.

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That should not be the case. The messenger overlap proudly, immediately is a manner habanero de la. Who do you love most? He said Ayesha. And then I'm gonna be honest. He said, I'm not asking about wives. I'm asking about men. We want to know who you love most. And look what he said. He did not say I love soul, one soul, but he connected me to his wife, abou Ha. I love her father.

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He didn't say I love aboubaker. But he made sure that I Isha is in the middle of this speech is the middle of the sentence. He say I love her father. He could have said I love a bucket, my companions on the journey to the city of Medina, my first men who accepted Islam, but he did not say any of that. Rather, he said I love most. I love her father most.

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So you got to show your wife

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and let her hear that you love her all the time.

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Sister so am I right?

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I can hear you. Am I right?

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See,

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see? They know the truth.

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You know a brother, Mashallah. What lie is that? I said to you, I said they had he said, Brother, when did he When was the last time you said to your wife I love you. He said last eat.

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Last eat? winner pray eat Aloha. I say what after that? You still love her? I love her of course. But he said what what did you tell her? I say no. I said why wouldn't you tell her? He said she knows I love her.

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But with women, that is not the case.

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With sisters, that is not the case. They need to hear it every single day. Every single moment. When you leave the house. You say Honey, I love you Don't forget that.

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And she says I love you too.

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During your work time your corner I say I love I love you.

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She says I love you too. When you come home you say I love you. And she she said I love you too. One of the brothers he said he is not solo. He's just a wife.

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Yes. But you need to say to your wife, I love you more than five times a day.

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Because for women, that is the fuel that is the energy when you show her that you love her and you let her hear that you love her. You absolutely absolutely making her life better. Second thing inshallah we're running out of time.

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Secondly, how for men,

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make sure you're you make your wife laugh all the time.

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makers, make sure that she smiles all the time.

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Be the comedian of the house. Right? Be the funny person in the house, do stupid things. It's okay. If your wife likes it, do it.

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Listen to your wife. You know, don't say I'm the man of the house. You know when I come? The kids should hide. You know, you should run to the kitchen. You know, I don't want to see anybody around. No, you should be her joy. When she sees you. She should be ready to smile and laugh. That is the case. And that is the trick. Because all day long. Maybe she's busy with kids who maybe work maybe with other purpose, other issues with life but when she sees you, you the source of her joy

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or sorrow Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He used to have fun and joke with his wife. He used to be with her. Talk to her

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listened will come to all. But this is very important.

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You know, most of the comedians, most of the comedians, especially the Muslim or non Muslim, they get most proposals, you know that.

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You know, that

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is not the serious man that gets the serious serious sisters will run to know they love the funny man. So if you funny, you lie, your wife will love you because she doesn't want to be stressed, she want to smile, she want to laugh, she wants to be Potiphar, she wants you to be part of this.

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And that's why we never use a lock rally. He was always used to be aware of the moods of his wife. He always used to make sure that and he used to say, I know when you're happy with me, and I know when you're mad at me, and she said, How do you know? How do you know is a well, when you happy with me? You Say what? Mohammed? I swear by the Lord of Muhammad. But when you're not happy with me, you say what a baby Rahim by the Lord of Ibrahim,

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by the Lord of Ibrahim, Aha. So the Messenger of Allah, every time he comes, he will gauge the emotions of his wife, and he will make sure that she is in a better mood.

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Number three will I am running out of time. And it can't get to every single point the way I want it.

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Number three

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presents gifts. Always to your wife.

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Always to your wife.

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gifts, women love gifts. But look, see the difference between men and women? You think your wife will evaluate you by the size of the gift. So if you buy her a car, she will love you more. Yeah, more than if you buy her, you know, a flower or something that she likes. Why? Because with men and women, there's a point system. What does that mean? Every time you give your wife something, she consider that one point. regardless of the size of your gift, you know that. So if you give her a flower, or give her vehicle for her is one point.

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For you all the car cost me 50,000 pounds. And this caused me to pounds. So she would appreciate the car more than the flower. That is not how women work.

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That is not how they work. If you don't know that much, then you really don't know women well.

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Women, they love gifts. And by the way, you need to know what your wife loves. Maybe she doesn't want you to bring her expensive gift every day.

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Maybe she just wants you to bring simple things.

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Maybe she loves certain types of coffee. So when you're coming home, then you you stop by this coffee shop and you get her you get her coffee in here. Mine is not how much the coffee cost is like no, he had me in mind.

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He was thinking of me.

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And that is what makes her love you more and would make her happy.

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Number four

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be romantic.

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Be romantic.

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see most of the older generation they don't know how to be romantic.

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Sisters, am I right?

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I think we all should pray janazah on the older generation as they don't want to learn

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your wives whether you're young and all she wants you to be romantic

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and romantic again, it's not according to the Western media. But romantic is you know, you be kind, loving you you even touching your wife holding her hand

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holding her hand. That's the romance. You know, you come home and you kiss your wife. That's a romance. Before you leave home, you kiss your wife.

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That's a romance. And how did we learn this from Hollywood? No messenger over LA County. So he had Bahari I Isha said where the when the messenger overlay used to leave the house. He used to kiss his wife and he used to go to the immediate

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And then as soon as it emerges, I just said they asked what was the life of his lifestyle for a solar home? She said, as soon as he comes home, he used to take the Miss whack and use myself. Why? Because he wants to smell fresh. He wants to smell nice when he's getting up when he's approaching his wife. Uh huh. So that means you got to be romantic with your wife.

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Once, I'll tell you a funny story. The worst pneus he had that I ever gave to somebody.

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This naseeha was to a man who was born in different parts of the world, who married young lady who was born in the West. I told us in the Somali community, they, they know the story, but I'll tell you this. So what happened? The brother in law, he doesn't know anything about being romantic. You know, but the young lady she watched all these shows, and she wants her husband to be romantic, you know, bringing flowers home, bringing, you know, chocolate, like, like a heart, you know, bringing something and everyday he comes home with empty hands. She said, my husband, I want you to be more romantic. He went out and he got berries. He got rice and chicken.

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She said Jazakallah head but I don't want to eat. He said what do you want?

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So she said okay, she tried to explain to the situation. And she said I want you to let us go to shelter in those days. I'm sorry, but those days I was known. Dr. Love this is before I made Toba

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because after that incident, I may told her

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so she said Let us go to shelter aid. So she they came to me. I said okay, what is the issue? Is he said well, this is the issue. So he was a Somalian, rather. And I said to the sister, can you leave us we want to private time I want to educate I want to I want to give him a you know, Crash Course. She said okay, so I said Listen to me, young man buries Mombasa, you know,

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they not gonna cut it. So what should I do? I say do the following.

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I said ask your wife to go out of the house. He said okay. I said okay, they go to the flower shop and buy roses, red roses, you know, only the leaves. And he said but she didn't she she won't like that. I said Trust me.

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So he went and I say also buy roses to actual roses. So he did his Allah had he was listening. So what he did I said What should I do with this okay? You make sure you spread the leaves from the door

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so spread the leaves around Mashallah. All the way to the dining table and make sure that you have nice dinner for your wife. He said I don't know how to cook I said go to Somali restaurant just get moves on buddies and all that I would be fine just get meal. So he did. So I said okay, nice dish, make the make sure the flowers is covering the table and then Mashallah Tabata color. And then mix your flowers and leaves are all the way to the bedroom.

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And I said dress nice. Just nice for your wife, Somali brothers that line

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he put my was, you know what my wish means is

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he put his arm around? I thought he's gonna put something nice, you know? Mashallah, you look like a Mufti mink, you know, something like that. But no, he put an eraser on. And I said, Okay.

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When you when she comes on opens the door, you know, you bite a flower like this.

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By like this.

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And when when she comes, take the flower, and I said, I love you My love, you know?

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The miskeen he did not know the flower has Thrones.

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He didn't know. Or maybe he thought he can do it. So what he did he bit the flowers Mashallah.

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And one of the phones were like this on his mouth. And he was to say, I love you. And what did he do? He all cut himself all the way up to here from inside.

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So he's bleeding.

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In a sort of nice dinner, they end up in emergency.

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So few days come he comes back and he can hardly talk and his cheeky stop back because

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and he said his bill

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Cause of you people get divorce

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is so handsome I was trying to make you and your romantic. So some of us, there's no hope for us.

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Others we can learn

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five minutes I'm running out of time. So what do you do be romantic in a way that suits your wife, not romantic, according to you, or romantic according to your wife. And that leads to the point that he should know what she likes, what she doesn't like, you should know what make your wife happy and so on. The other point that I want to mention a five minute is spend good time with your family quality time they say, spend good time with your wife. And I don't mean spend time with your family bring the children No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Lose the kids for one night. donate them anywhere. Give them to your anywhere, if anybody takes them, just give them away for that night.

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Give them away. So take them to your mother in law, take them to anybody who would take them Mashallah, even if you hire a babysitter for them, you take them out of the picture. And you have this time, a night or weekend or whatever time only. And I say only for you and your wife.

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I think the most precious thing in your wife's heart. If you really truly good husband, that she wants from you is your time. Am I right? Sr?

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See, they want your time. They don't want you to you know say oh, I'm with you. But at the same time you text messaging somebody or you charge no they don't want that.

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They want you they want us husbands that you say I'm listening to you.

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Talk women talk a lot about a kilometer right?

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women talk a lot. Allah give them energy. You listen to her form. salatu salam ala Isha she's still talking about it a lot. She's still talking. It's okay. Let them talk.

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Let them talk, but

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you respond smartly.

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Look at Are you more busy than the Messenger of Allah? No. Are you more responsible of the first of the oma? No, but look, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Mr. Bahari was soon in a tournament he was at messenger overlock came home, and I was waiting for him. And she tells him his story of 11 women. And each one of them described her husband. The Messenger of Allah didn't say I just came from a meeting, I was getting ready for a war. I have fatwa. I had issues with this, you know, some of the people trying to attack Muslims. He didn't say I'm carrying the weight of the whole nation on my shoulder. I have no time for a wife. No, he sat there. And he listened to her.

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And he spent all the time that she needed from him. Salalah while he was, that's why he said, I am the best husband amongst all of you.

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And women by the way.

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You don't wise, you don't have to understand what she's talking about. As long as she's talking to you. That's fine. Do you want her to talk to someone else? Do you want her to talk to her friends that tell her you know by this, do this, give her wrong information know, let her talk to you.

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And they love talking to their husbands.

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But sometimes because we men, and we think that they think like us and they feel like us that she only needs a little bit of my time. She only needs an hour of my time. And that's a volume one law he does a volume because your wife, even if she had one, especially those who have children, who's running after your kids who's trying to prepare a meal for you, who's trying to look nice for you. And then at the end of the day, you want her just to go away.

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One of the Sahaba in that Hadith she says about her husband, who I'm sorry one of the latest she said when he eats he eats everything on the table masala when he drinks he drinks everything. And then he goes to the room and he sleeps and he faces the wall. He doesn't extend

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His hand to feel what the pain is in my life. He doesn't do that. So don't be like that. The someone that the wife would love to talk to you,

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all the time will lie will lie if you only know how much our sisters struggle, you would give much of your time for your wife, be it nice panel with Adam.

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The last point about Allah I know the brothers are giving me a sign. The last point that I want to mention is the point of you, husband, US husbands Mashallah Tabata Cola, trying to

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let us show gratitude to our wives, let us say to them, jazak mama Hawaii Jazakallah head for being my wife Jazakallah head for being the mother of my children Jazakallah paid for taking care of me just come a long way for being there for me when I need you Jazakallah head for listening to me when I you know complain about things, be grateful to your wives, be grateful, because will lie Behind every successful why every successful man is a righteous wife, every successful man imagine the wives of the dice. Imagine how successful you know, Mashallah these days are and who is carrying the load of the family wife. Imagine the wives of these brothers who are putting together this

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conference who's carrying the load wives. Remember, remember, when you're running around, they also carrying heavier load. So we got to learn to say jersey como la jolla, and sisters on behalf of every speaker that is spoke on behalf of every volunteer that is married. I want to say to you just our common law wife. May Allah bless you say I mean brothers. May. I mean?

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Why are you so stingy? Subhana Allah.

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You want me to pray against them?

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Say yes.

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Can you can you please where's the camera? I want to see that man. Where is he? Just kidding. It's just Just kidding. I'm

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just kidding. Just kidding. May Allah subhanho wa Taala reward your sister which is aka mala headed May Allah Subhana Allah Allah bless you all on one line whenever you sell along and he was sending me a food, mela euskara NASS Monday's caranas livescore Allah who is not grateful to men who will not refer to the people who is not grateful to those who did him a favor. He is definitely not grateful to Allah subhana wa Tada. We want to say to you is our common law head Zakouma law. And forgive us for shortcomings was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.