You’re speaking to the wrong person

Sometimes when we have a problem with someone, we'll go speak to everyone else, except the person who we have a problem with. Don't get me wrong, there are situations when speaking to someone else first can be beneficial. For example, seeking someone's advice on the best way to talk to this person who we have a problem with. But let's be real, a lot of times when we're speaking to other people, is just to complain to them about this person. And when we're complaining, we can easily fall into major sins, like slander and backbiting. You know, sometimes speaking to the person who have a problem with first can squash the whole issue in the beginning because maybe it was a

misunderstanding. And because we spoke to them, we're able to clear up this misunderstanding, on the other hand, speaking to other people has the potential to exacerbate the problem because maybe they're just not the right people to speak to. For example, because of their own bias. They end up reinforcing our negative thoughts and feelings towards this person who we had a problem with.