The Prophets Love For Children

Riyadul Haqq

Channel: Riyadul Haqq

Topics: Hadith

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The Prophet’s ï·º Love for Children – Delivered by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq on Friday 26th February 2017 at Al Kawthar Academy, Leicester (UK)

If we take any aspect of the character of Rasulullah ï·º we come to realise that he is a shining example for all of humanity. His attitude and behaviour towards children was one which was full of compassion, love, justice and mercy. Despite being the leader of the Muslims, leading them into battle and conducting himself with leaders of various Arab tribes, he would adopt a playful and caring attitude when it came to spending time with children. His softness and leniency towards children serve as a prime example on how we should behave and treat children.

Rasulullah ï·º was blessed with many daughters and was often mocked by the Quraysh of Makkah for not having any sons to continue his lineage. This was at a time where daughters were looked down upon and mistreated, however the Prophet ï·º treated his daughters with much love and affection. Many examples can be found of the Prophet’s ï·º love for his daughters, especially those who saw how he would treat and behave with his beloved daughter Fāṭimah رضي الله عنها, often raising from where he sat to give her his seat. The Prophet ï·º also demonstrated showing love and affection equally to all children, regardless of whether they were a relation to him or not. If we could but act on his conduct, we would have a society of much happier and healthy towards children.

Find out in this talk how the Prophet ï·º would show compassion, love and mercy to all children with many examples from Qur’an and Hadith.

Below are some of the timecodes and topics relating to this talk:

5:22 – The Complete character of the Prophet ï·º
14:14 – Celebrating the birth of boys and not announcing the birth of girls
18:34 – The irony of the attitude of the Pagan Arabs towards daughters
24:44 – The difficulty of the childhood of Rasulullah ï·º
34:27 – Would you want to be your own child?
41:02 – How Rasulullah ï·º would handle his son, Sayyiduna Ibrahim
56:59 – The playful nature of the Prophet ï·º with children
1:08:32 – The Prophet’s ï·º love for Usamah ibn Zaid
1:16:27 – The Prophet’s ï·º consideration for children

Episode Transcript

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim

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Salam Allah

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Allah

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when Allah

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snellman see the dinner media for them

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when you

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want to shut up ilaha illAllah

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Muhammad Abu

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sallallahu alayhi wa Leakey also

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about kilson them at Sleeman Cathedral Cathedral,

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in their home in a sheep army regime similar

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in the law home and he kept the whole use alone. Adam

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you're under the sun right. He was some limits

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a lot

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in Kumasi later on. He

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achieved a lot about marijuana improvement come about Allah Ibrahim. Ibrahim

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respects listeners salamati

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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is

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repeatedly referred to as

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a mercy for the world's

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last panel who calls Him such an

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awesome marketing material.

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And we have not sent you but as a mercy for the world's

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law in various places of

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speaks of the mercy and compassionate the mercy and compassion and the soft character of the sort of last a llama Heidi was

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in fact,

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a LARP puts down his success and his ability to unite the

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Arabs of Arabia

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unite the warring factions

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and the many different tribes who were forever engaged in internecine warfare. Last round of war data

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stays of that success

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of his ability to unite them that this was the result of his leniency His compassion and his softness.

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Probably Mara met the minimum law he Linda

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welcome the father and mother evil. Learn from boom in Holic

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law essays and it's his have some compassion

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from Allah that Allah instilled in you so for the morality minima, so it is of a compassion from Allah, that you were soft unrelenting towards them.

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What the leader can

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learn from to mean How long had you been

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harsh of term

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heart of hearts, they would have surely dispersed from around.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his character, his softness will search that indeed everyone to him for so long and he stood out or Salam was not harsh of tongue in the least.

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Not even with enemies.

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Boss even with the Bedouin, who themselves were unrefined of tongue and character.

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And, in fact,

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a last round of what the other mentions his

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lack of offense

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has been one of the things referred to in the previous scriptures, Alenia to be all of a sudden the beat me into the air to do the homework to rot in jail, in that long verse in which Allah mentions that they are the companions they follow.

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A prophet and a messenger

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whose record they find in the Torah and in the Injeel in the earliest scriptures by them, and then the Sahaba rhodiola relates to as an authentic hadith as one relates by mahadi as well as others. What that description is in the

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Previous scripts and the description actually begins with the words later before then what I believe in well as the hub in fill as well.

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That's how his description begins and the earliest scriptures, that he is not harsh of tongue or heart of hearts, and noisy one to raise his voice in the marketplace. Everything about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was of composure and nobility, compassion and softness.

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And this was even towards children. And that's actually the subject of our

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talk today, which is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam them's merciful and compassionate character and behavior, and in fact, his love towards children, not just his own, but to all children.

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The prophets of the love, right, he was a warrior.

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He was a lead.

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He was a legislator.

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He wasn't a poet.

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But he was a man of great philosophy and wisdom.

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He was a messenger of Allah, but in worldly terms, we see him as a messenger and prophets of Allah. But even for those who don't see him as such, they recognize him as being a political genius.

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A leader, the highest order, or the first rank,

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a warrior, a commander

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for such a person

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to have this compassionate, soft, lenient, loving carrot, especially towards children.

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It seems to be at odds with that position and with his achievements. If you look at other military command us

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leaders,

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founders of empires,

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they may have been militant, they may have been powerful, they may have been belligerent, they may have achieved a lot of what they achieved through sheer ruthlessness and that ruthlessness showed even towards adults and even towards their own friends and companions.

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For someone of the caliber of the Messenger of Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, If, on the one hand, you look at his achievements, his ability, his

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military campaigns, his courage, his valor, his bravery, his political leadership, and then on the other hand, you look at this soft, compassionate character, to animals to children, not just to adults, but to all.

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For us, this shows how complete a character he was, how wholesome a person he was. And in there is a beautiful example for us.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has loved towards children was at a time and in a society and in a climates that often did not entertain such ideas. In fact, the Arabs at that time, not not all of them, but some of them. They were guilty on infant side of killing their

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newborn females children their gifts. The Arab society being a very warrior like tribal society pretty loners. they relied on men

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for earning for learning for protection for fighting,

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and in that society.

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In most parts of Arabia, not all women were looked down upon.

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Not only were they considered inferior, but frowned upon what's considered inferior, they will consider the bird

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a burden to be buried at bear.

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In that counts, the prophets of Allah Almighty who showed love not just towards male children, but even to girls. He commended the companions

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to look after their daughters in fact, he has mentioned virtues of catering for and looking after and bringing up daughters, which he has not mentioned for male children that are rewards exclusive for a father, looking after and loving his daughters that are not to be found in the Hadeeth are looking after his male children.

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No such rewards have been mentioned

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promises of gender

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promises of forgiveness promises of Paradise promises of Allah's mercy

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specifically for raising and looking after girls. And in fact one of the word one of the words in the Hadith in relation to looking after girls and bringing up girls is that he fears a lot what Allah Fie him, that he fears a lot in respect of his daughters.

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That when it comes to one's daughters, one should fear loss.

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One should be conscious of his accountability to a law

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that's been mentioned specifically just for dogs. And how was the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his own relationship with girls in his family.

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Look at his daughter's father model the law.

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If I'm filming de la la relaxing it from me and Erica Chateau de la Horne,

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who says that she describes how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would greet his daughter and be greeted by

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so she says, When

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Fatima rhodiola

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would visit the Prophet sallallahu Eagleson and this is

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by the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in a society and in a climate that frowned upon women looked down upon women that considered women to be a burden

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to be buried at birth in that society. This is how the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would receive his daughter.

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And a Chateau de la Miranda was a first hand witness, being the wife of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. She says that when father model the alarm and he would come to visit her father, the prophets of Allah would stand up.

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He'd receive father

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of your loved one, it gets

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at moderation, the Buddha would, he would kiss her hand.

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And then, where he was seated his main seat of honor, he would bid Fatima, his daughter to sit in his place.

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That's how he treated his daughter.

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And not just part of the model, the Allaha. And how we know of that, because it'll be a lot more in her gives us a first hand witness account. Otherwise, he treats all of his daughters in the same

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way. And when fancy model the alarm around her would be at home and the province of the love it will send them with visitor, she would reciprocate his behavior and his reception. So she would stand up, kiss him and kiss his hand and then vacate her place. I've mentioned this before the Arabs had in their culture, they had a tradition of a seat of honor for the owner, for the proprietor, or for the head of the tribe or the family.

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We don't have that. So it's difficult for us to relate it.

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But the Arabs have this in their culture, even before Islam.

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So but so that nobody was allowed to occupy that seat of honor, not even a guest.

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If someone vacated that seat of honor,

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and bid someone else to sit there, then that was a sign of great esteem. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would do this with his own doors.

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province of the law it was

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instructed this habit of the law,

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to look after their daughters to honor them feel a law in respect in respect of them, show them love and compassion and he set an example himself again in a tribal society, which

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lay great emphasis on male children and also the eldest of the children. And sad to say, some of this ignorant mentality persists till today, in some cultures, both the

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frowning upon girls

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and giving exclusive privileges and thereby creating a climate of injustice, unfairness, and bitterness and resentment in the family to the eldest child, so the eldest child has given exclusive privileges, elders,

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MailChimp.

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This creates a climate of

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injustice, unfairness, bitterness and resentment. And this persists in some cultures, in fact, to some degree in our Muslim culture as well in various parts of the world. When it comes to

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girls, you may have heard that

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even now,

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there are some people who observe the tradition of celebrating the birth of a boy, and announcing it to the world and sharing the good news and receiving and exchanging

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greetings and gifts. But when a girl is born,

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the whole matter is kept very Hush Hush. It's almost a source of embarrassment,

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to the degree that the birth of girls is regarded in our culture as a lack of manliness

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who was a greater meme than the messenger of a law. So the law was,

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in fact, there was a scientific study or there was a service study done a few years ago, which showed that the

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hard men

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were predisposed to have daughters. So soldiers, leaders

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valient, courageous, hardened men,

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who were mainly in every sense of the word, for some strange reason for a quirk as they refer to it. They are, they tend to have daughters rather than sons. So far from this, only mention this because in our culture, there's this idea that girls are a sign of a lack of manliness, and men lead on the part of the father, who was a greater men than the Messenger of Allah, some of the law Holly was.

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And

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it's mentioned the game that fertility clinics that actually intervene

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and try to temper with the sperm and with the fetus, or before conception, or they guide conception to one direction. In fact, they end fertility if there is a sign of a female child or gender specific fertility treatment,

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the majority

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This is surprising, even in those countries, where Asians are a minority, not just in this country, but in other countries, where Asians are a minority.

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The majority of the clients in these fertility clinics that do gender specific treatment are ancient. So despite being a minority of the whole population, they constitute the majority of the clients and fertility clinics. And all of this results from this desire to have male children as opposed to female children. And this is an ignorant mentality it persists from the days of ignorance not just from Arabia from but from other parts of the world. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam through the Holy Water earn through personal example, combat this by words by d by example.

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Alas, Carnival with Anna condemns it in the strongest terms.

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And the extent to which this mentality persisted amongst the Arabs, which leads to very lopsided thinking is that they wanted female children sorry, they want a male children for themselves, but female children, they ascribed to Allah.

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So the goddesses were all Daughters of Allah. The angels were regarded as females.

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JOHN melodica Levine, who may borrow money in a shadow.

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Law says they have made those angels who are the servants of the gracious one, it made them females, what were their witness into their creation.

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And when it comes to

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goddesses, Allah Caesar for our eternal love will reserve an authentic aura and accommodate kawalan take a visa that have you seen last resort and Marina, the three goddesses.

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They used to refer to them as being the daughters of Allah. So Allah says have you seen last resort and mana

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the third man what should you have boys and he have girls.

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This indeed is a strange or you

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division. So the arrows rather stupidly, they would shun girls themselves but ascribe them to Allah. And when one of Allah mentions the reaction of the news reaction to the news of the birth of a girl very graphically, in more than one place, Allah says, without wishing to

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be vanilla with whom sweat the Mohawk alene yet awara Amina amin su Mr Boucher de Cicco who Allah huning Musa COVID terrassa, my Allah, lot of salesman, one of them is given the glad tidings of the birth of a girl.

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His face dark.

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Once he is repressing his anger, his range he hides from the people because of the ill news that has been delivered.

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Thinking

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should he hold on to this girl, baby girl in disgrace? Or should he thrust her into the soil of the earth? That's the word thrust you do so who

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should he thrust her into the soil of the earth? That's exactly what many of the well, some of the Arabs would do.

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In that climates, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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warned the companions warned his listeners and audience to be just to all one's children, to be compassionate, especially towards girls, to care for them to look after them to feel a lot in relation to girls. And by

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with through his own daughters, he sets a perfect example, whose match we can't find even then.

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What he did with his daughters is not just show them love and compassion, and care and concern, as I've just related from the heavy shadow the a lot more in her. He showed respect to his own daughters, unique respect.

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And when he came to the second

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ignorant attitude, especially in our culture,

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of

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giving exclusive rights and privileges to the eldest son

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Mahalia, Muslim, and others relate to the front of a Shiva Lila

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who says that my father

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gave me

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his father had children from different worlds. So he had half brothers and half sisters, while he had half siblings.

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So now I'm out of them, but Sheila Leila says that my father gave me

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a gift.

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And it was of some value, immense value. So the mother

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told her father told her husband machine that I want you to make a witness to this gifting to my son. I want you to make the messenger or witness.

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So the Prophet Sall Allahu alayhi wa sallam was approached by not Madame number she is far but the elaborate woman

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and he said to him, or messenger of Allah, will you be a witness

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to my

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gifting this thing to my or this gift to my son?

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him,

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Have you given all of your children the same gift?

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So mushy, you have the alarm said no jasola. So the province of the law it was send them said in that case leave for our will not be a witness to injustice.

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So then normally when the machinery of the law and his own son returned the gift to the Father,

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the sun returned the gift to the farm.

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And one of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says clearly field law

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where they will Viola

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Viola decom, fear law and be just amongst your children.

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To that extent,

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he instructed justice instructed compassion,

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and he sets an example himself.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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was born an orphan. His father had already left the world before he was born.

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He lived with his mother for a very short while.

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And so the Prophet salaallah alayhi wa sallam was an orphan,

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grew up as an orphan.

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He had no siblings, no brothers or sisters.

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And so he had no immediate family, per se.

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And yet,

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probably Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam grew up to be a perfectly healthy emotional individual.

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Despite having moved from home to home, as a child,

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despite not having the love, attention and care of the Father, the mother, except for a very short while. But imagine how traumatizing it is for any child and how traumatizing it wouldn't be. For the Messenger of Allah love. It wasn't them, no father. And then at the tender age of six, he witnesses his own mother's death and burial

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without the support of a father,

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or a brother or sister now,

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when he goes into the care and custody of his grandfather,

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lives with him for two years before he does,

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before moving on into the custody of his unkillable party, who don't know Bill was poor.

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And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had shared a small home, in poverty, with many cousins, sisters and brothers.

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And then, to look after himself and to lighten the load of his uncle, at the tender age of 12. He went out, and he would go out every day and work as a shepherd as a boy Shepherd, that was a messenger of Allah. And yet when he grew up, he recognized that he felt

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the importance the need of a loving, caring family units. And despite not having experienced that himself, being emotionally extremely healthy.

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He was able to show the utmost love and compassion to his own.

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Humanity the law he lay relates these from a shadow the law,

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we say is a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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that the best of you is the one who is the best historically, and of all of you, I am the best.

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And that meant his wives. That meant his children, mentors, grandchildren, it mentors adopted children. At one time adopted children, it meant even his stepchildren.

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It's difficult for a man, any man

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to take into his phone, his care and custody children from another man from children from another farm.

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Yet the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had a number of statues, and even to the statue.

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He showed nothing but love and compassion, not just love them compassion, he wouldn't ignore them. He teach them he learned

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it gives them w

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mojari and others are Muslim as well related Ramadan NaVi cinema holy Allah,

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the son of almost cinema or the alarm.

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When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married

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she was related to Barbara de la Horne.

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And according some narrations he was one of the messengers to her.

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So

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her husband will send them a huddle the alarm had died.

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And she had been truly tested in the way of love her story at the time of hedger when she emigrated from Mecca to Medina, his heartbreak, she was separated from her husband separated from her son, all son, Mother, father were all separate forcibly.

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She suffered.

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Some suffer, her husband suffered

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and he was a good man.

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He came home and told her that I heard the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying, whenever anyone is struck by a calamity then let him read. And other I was loving God him see, but you absolutely hate him in

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that will reward me

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In my suffering,

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and grants me something better to follow

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something a better substitute. So

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he's the one who related the Hadees.

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And then sometime later, he passed away and she would recite this there are men reciting this, he would say, Oh Allah, reward me in my suffering,

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and grant me something far better

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than my loss.

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And then she would think that who could be better than I will set the alarm.

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And then the province of the law, it will send them sends word to her seeking her hand in marriage. So she sent she was a very intelligent and wise woman, very intelligent, very wise. She was solely responsible for advising the Messenger of Allah, at the Treaty of who they be, as we've learned, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually acted on the advance.

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So

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she sends word to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying all prophets of Allah,

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I'm not young.

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I have children, and I do not wish the children to be a burden.

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And number three, three things. And the third thing

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and neither

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am a woman of intense jealousy of a greater jealousy than normal women.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he received a reply, he sent back word saying,

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as for you saying that you are not young,

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one of the one who is seeking your hand in marriage is no younger than you.

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As well your children alone will take care of them they will not be a burden

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and ask for your intense Genesee, Allah will remove this. So she accepts it. He married her and then almost sort of modeled the alarm or in her says, By Allah myogenesis disappeared to such a degree as though he never existed.

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But her children were never a burden to the Messenger of Allah. She had children and the daughter, Sophia Habiba. She brought her daughter, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam had stepdaughters and stepson.

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So a lot of the cinema or the Allahumma, one of her children. He was in the care and custody of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam showed love care and concern for him. He says in that Hadees later my mom had in a Muslim, but one day I was, I was I was eating with the Messenger of Allah, and my hand was flying all over the plate as a child does.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, these are the words the leech flying all over the place. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lovingly taught

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that will Chang samila, what couldn't be mean? What could be my colleague?

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say Bismillah take the name of Allah, eat with your right hand and eat what's in front

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of you cinema hold the alarm.

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His relationship was such imagine

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stepchildren

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do not view a stranger in a good light. Once that stranger takes the suppose in place of their farm.

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And yet, the sentimental the alarm.

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Imagine how well the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam must have treated him that he viewed his stepfather in the following line. He says, ever since the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam uttered those words to me. This has been my style of eating ever since.

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One message, one teach and he absorbs it and adopts it as a lifelong.

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So even with not just his children, and not just his grandchildren, but even with his stature.

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And as far as his love for the one time adopted sons at the heart of the law, and that's legendary.

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Speaking of his own children, what love to do

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and not just the love of a father, I speak about someone who was a warrior a military commander a political

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can lead the leader of a nation.

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Someone who is busy in every sense of the world, we think we are busy, we have no time for our children.

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A thought occurred to me today, which was, if you want to rate yourself,

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as a parent, even in this day and age,

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if you want to rate yourself as a parent, just ask yourself a simple question. Would you want to be your own child?

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Would you want to be your own child?

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Because you know yourself, you know how you are?

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Can you entertain the thought of being your own child I

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would you accept yourself as a father or a mother, as a parent, knowing exactly how you are.

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But the prophets of the law and he was one of them.

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Despite being who he was, the love and compassion, the playfulness he showed with his children. It's, it's truly amazing. With

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he had a son Ibrahim or the Allah

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who was born from malaria 50 out of the 1100, who died. That's a very again in his infancy. This was one of the sufferings of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu It was one of them that all of his male children passed away in infancy.

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And there was wisdom in that. So Ibrahim al de la

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he was born from malaria. 50 out of the a lot more in her. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam loved him.

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He couldn't keep him around the masjid because of the wives.

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Because Marty, I think the out of the allama and how was close,

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but the wives were all intensely jealous of each other.

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And there were two factions amongst the ones.

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So when it came to the wives, they were all jealous of each other. But when it came to Maria, via the alarm her

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or all of the wives came together,

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and they were intensely jealous of her. So much so that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had to take him around him his newborn son whom he loved dearly

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to a different part of Medina. And there he had to

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keep him and his mother separate. So someone saw that when he was born, prophets and love his little gladly brought, he brought him under the alarm, and showed him to the whole family.

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Broughton to shadow the alarm.

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As a proud father, he said to a shadow, the love and her Look at him. Do you not see my resemblance in Him? Do you not see the resemblance? So are in shadow the alarm has scoffed because of our jealousy and she said I see no resemblance.

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So they were intensely jealous of Mario kick the out of the alarm. So he had to take her away and listen.

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man he called the alarm relates in a quarter by mumble hardeen among Muslim delay and he and his he This is his word and he says, I have never seen anyone more merciful towards children than the Messenger of Allah. He himself was a child. And it's

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so he said, I have never seen anyone more merciful towards children than the messenger.

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And then he goes on to describe how

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would go to see Ibrahim or the alohar

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his son

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and remember this was in a society

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which

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regarded softness as weakness.

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compassion, as weakness, and love towards girls and children, as a member

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of the love article relates to having a Muslim lady from a warrior for the alarm, that once one of the Arabs, Arab mahabis was with him.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam had his grandson has some lovely alarm. So you kissed

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so okrug mahabis

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What saw it? And he said to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Do you kiss your children

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I have 10s children by Allah. I've never kissed any of them.

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That was a society you said, I have 10 children. I've never kissed any of them. Do you kiss your children? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam looked at him and said, malaria.

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He was not merciful, no mercy shown to him.

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That was a mercy, compassion which all our places in in a person's heart. So that was a society where the

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shuttle the alarm her herself relates that

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someone came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he must have kissed again, he kissed them the children. So this visitor said, Do you kiss your children? We never kiss our children.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was words to him were that what can I do if Allah has snatched mercy from your heart?

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So that was a society. So and I saw the alarm says, I never saw anyone more merciful towards children or compassionate towards children than the Messenger of Allah. Then he goes on to describe what he would do with Ibrahim or the alarm, his son who go to visit him

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and Iran he would have the Allahu Allah was being breastfed by a lady in Medina whose husband was a blacksmith.

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So the house would often be filled with

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smoke

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or the odor of smoke. So to

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fragrance a house, he would actually burn lemon grass.

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So

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and so the alarm says a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would go there.

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And the house would be fumigated with lemon grass. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will take him around him or the alarm, and he would hold him. He would

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kiss him, smell him smartly him with kisses and actually smell him as a loving father. What?

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And then, a sort of article the alarm says that on one occasion, I went with him, along with other companions because he had heard that his son was extremely ill. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went

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and

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he picked up his son

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and he was in great pain.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam began weeping and he actually died. The son died, he brought him on the alarm. He began to weep.

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So again, because of that,

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thinking and history and traditional the Arabs.

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Good morning now for the allotment. There were a number of Sahaba presence under 100 now for the alarm spoke up and said Yasuda law up

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Oh, even our own,

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this is a mercy which Allah places in the heart of compassion.

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And then he said, Indeed, the art is we. And the heart grieves that the tongue does not say that accept which pleases Allah.

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And then, indeed, law belongs what he takes To Him belongs what he gives. Everything's for a fixed time with a law. And then addressing the behemoth of the law and prophets of the law. It seldom said we're in there before our became Brahim on a massive boom. And we are with your parting of Ibrahim, immensely agree? And then he continued weep. And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Allah does not show mercy to those who are not merciful themselves. A law only shows mercy to those who are merciful amongst us.

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So this is a ministry of compassion. But as I said, the tradition the thinking of the Arabs was one of manliness one of not showing weakness, not showing compassion, leniency or softness even towards children in that climates in that tradition.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did what he did.

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He did the same with one of his grandsons, but the son of Xena but on the alarm her, she summoned him saying, My son is in the last throes of life. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam went and he picked up the Son, and he wept.

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He wept again, although that son actually survived, but he wept again in some of those were present sourthern norba de la mer instead of messenger of Allah. You we started MOBA was

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Originally from Medina and but I was originally from Makkah. So this thinking this mentality this whole approach of softness and compassion towards children was saying in Mecca or Medina.

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So, sadly nobody said Yasuda la you weep. So the province of the law legal system said the same thing to this is a compassion and mercy, which a lot of places in the hearts

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so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam showed immense love and compassion to his son Ibrahim al de la hora to his son to his daughters, to his grandchildren, and especially has an unforeseen or the alarm.

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and to what degree playfulness can we imagine playfulness on the part of the Messenger of Allah?

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prophets Allah love it, what are the alarming relates that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam relates us in his Muslim

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that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was actually delivering a sermon on the member. The mustard was full, whole congregation in front of him. When all of a sudden Hassan and Hussein Lily Allahumma, both of them wearing red, brownish clothes, they came running and stumbling.

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Towards the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam, he actually stopped his sermon is hookah, descended from the member picked both of them up.

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And then addressing the congregation, he said, Indeed, Allah has spoken the truth. And then he recited the verse of the Quran in the mountain while okumoto louder than fitna that your children and your wealth are only a distraction, and a test. And then he said, I saw these two sons of man running and stumbling. And I could not help but stop my sermon and descend and pick them up.

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So

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when it came to pass it on proceeded with the Allahumma, he even broke his sermon.

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This is an this is a lesson for us.

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And I speak frankly, in our machines. Let's ask ourselves, what's the attitude shown towards children? In many machines, we they actually have

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aside, saying no children under the age of seven allowed

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even a company,

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obviously, but parents aren't allowed to bring their children under the age of seven.

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And I heard a humorous story the other day, well, recently,

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that there's a Masjid, which

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announced that it was going to be very progressive and very open minded, etc. And the people who frequent the machines and who actually

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set up the committee, etc. They were very vocal in their opposition to other machines,

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where children were

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discouraged from coming with their parents.

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So they kept an open door policy let children come.

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But then I think there must have been overwhelmed that now that same machine has a sign saying no children under the age of seven allowed. And the reason this was related to me was I was asked, Is there any legal basis in the fit? And why age of seven?

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There are reasons for that. One of them is that instruct your children to pray Salah at the age of seven. So that's one of the distinguishing

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features, but when it comes to children, we as adults, we need to be more tolerant and understanding even in the machine, even in the machine. And I'm sure many of you will remember us children. I certainly do.

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We used to have to play chicken in the masjid. Meaning we were always fearful of and trying to escape the clutches of some of the older Mr. Lee's who would use any excuse to give you a clip around the air.

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So when it came to sunlight, they saw you talking in the corner Come on what you're doing talking here, click around the air, especially that are we in there are we you always had those busybodies who don't pray that are we himselves but they stand up the bank and they become self appointed monitors of the children to ensure that the children paid

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so

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and then you'd have people shouting at children, parents, but people complaining that children are making noise

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Why do we allow ourselves to be disturbed? Are we better than the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam than the sort of law and he has set out or some article the alarm relates

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by mahadi and others.

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Any Muslim, and his family could be your lover and Hussein says the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, I start the prayer, the Salah, and I actually intend to recite a long surah but I then hear the weeping of a child.

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And so, I shortened my prayer,

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out of concern

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for the yearning that the child feels for itsma

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I shortened my Salah, out of concern for the yearning that the child feels for its mother.

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In law, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would reduce the length of his prayer

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for the whole congregation, because of the weeping of one child.

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And he was standing in the masjid on the member saying came running. He could have said he descended, showed love

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gave his reason to the whole congregation.

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And in one generation

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Chabad don't have there'll be a lot more in relates to Panama. Listen to this when it comes to solar in the mystery shed that it will have it on the alarm and release heavy from Ecuador hamlins mustard.

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He says that one day, we went to the machine

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and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He came to Salah with

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one of his grandsons.

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And he went to the front and he had his grandson with him.

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Then when he went into surgery,

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the grandson climbed on his back.

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And the way he describes the story is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went into frustration. When he mentioned frustration, he just remained in frustration for a very long time.

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So even I got worried and I raised my head to see what had happened.

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So he said I saw his grandson on his back. So I went back into surgery

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when some are finished,

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so how about the lover and who said to the Messenger of Allah or Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you performed a frustration for so long. In Salah.

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We were concerned has some Did something happen? Or were you receiving a revelation from Allah? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, No, none of these things happen meaning they actually said, we fear that something may have happened or you may be receiving a way from Allah. So he said, none of this happened. All that happened was the son of mine. He made me arrived.

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The wording of the Hadith is he he made me around.

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If I hadn't, he made me a rock. So he made me a ride. He claimed on my back.

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So

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I decided to leave him until he had finished his play.

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That's all.

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Imagine any mom today whose grandson climbs on his back, and delays the congregation's prayer by a second

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that your mom's gone, the grandsons gone.

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Remember once in the month of Ramadan, I delayed I didn't delay sama his Salah.

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At the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there was no clock. There's never been a history of clocks. Now it's like military timing.

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So your mom's in the machine out of sheer fear

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of the congregation

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and the committee.

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They time Salah in such a way

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that they know the number of steps they need to take before they reach the Sajad the masala and how many seconds

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It takes they stand up at the right time they walk at the right pace so that they reach the masala all at the right time and their Salah can begin

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on time.

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But no Eman makes a conscious decision of delaying the Sunnah jawara Salah

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there could be a delay in the announcements the hook but there could be a delay in the there are in the thilawa it was a Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on occasions to read

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sort of Allah in the first paragraph and sort of arshia in the second regard.

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Another account on other occasions of jamara he would read Sudoku jamara in the first

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one a second in the second row. And this second combination is much much longer than the first one.

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So even today, we follow the Sumner so one jamara could be known to jemar as are going to be the same in LAN Hayden. I once led Jim arcilla. And at the end of the summer,

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the I was late by three minutes. We're not late, but someone felt that was liked by three minutes in the month of Ramadan. He went out to the machine. And

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don't worry, I'm not offended. And I'm not relating this out of pain. But it's too for us to take spamela reflect on what was said. Why and in which month. So in the month of Ramadan, he goes out the masjid and he kicks up with us. And he actually begins announcing to the people that this Hiromi delayed Salah

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Forgive me for repeating

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harmala by three minutes and even he accepted that there's Hiromi delayed by three minutes. We must have spent 30 minutes just

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arguing outside with everyone. Hey.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the machine when it comes to children.

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Allahu Akbar Has it ever seen the alarm like climbing on his back, running up to the member?

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On occasion, prophets alarm It was one of the Sahaba of the alarm relays again, even the manager relates the he he says that one day we were invited by the prophets and the love It was

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so

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to a dinner, so the Sahaba de la, a few of them went. And once we're walking along the road, along the streets of Medina,

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her saying that same with the alarm, the grandson of the prophets alarm and he was he was playing.

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So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam imagined the scene,

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province of the Lama and he was is going to an invitation

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along with a large group of companions. He is a messenger of Allah, a guest of honor. He has his entourage and is walking with them in the streets of Medina

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preceding the alarm is play. So the prophets of the love it Absalom sees him. So when he sees in the province of the love it stops.

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And does this spreads his arms

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and signals to her saying to come to him

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and her saying or the alarm, instead of coming to the province to love it or send them here he's darting here and there. So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is chasing

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as the Messenger of Allah. He's chasing him. And he's laughing with him. He's laughing with St. Louis Allah and is laughing. The prophets of the love Muslims laughing with open outstretched arms, he's chased. Eventually he catches him when he catches him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam hugs him, grabs his head like in a vise. He played he holds his chin with one hand and the top of his head with the other like we do with children. And then he draws for single the alarm around himself, kisses him and in wonder he kissed him on his lips. And then in front of everybody who said, Hussein is of me and I am of her saying, and

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Allah loves the one who loves her saying.

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And her saying is by himself a tribe of the tribes.

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But the imagine the scene this was a messenger of Allah, walking with an entourage, a guest of honor he being who he is. And he with outstretched open arms playing with his grandchild in the streets of Medina. laughing, joking and he wouldn't just be with his own

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Children who do the same with other children. Mahmud neurobion de la hora is a companion,

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one of the youngest companions and one of the last ones to pass away he actually died 99 years after the Hitler

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he died in 99 history in Jerusalem and beta mcnelis one of them one of the oldest to have out of the 11 and the last ones to pass away.

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And this Mahmoud no Robbie is very interesting

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because he was only five years old.

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Because what will a man have had this discussion that

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at which age can we regard someone

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as being capable of relating heavy

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so in this discussion that will I'ma

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make various points? Well howdy man Buhari rock, no lobbying.

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He relates the hadith of Mahmoud of Nairobi

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in this chapter, about what age

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to prove this point about what age a person can be considered fit to hear and relate to.

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So my modem neurobiol, the law firm who says that the man will hearty relationship with Ethan so to others, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam visited them. When he visited them, he, there was a

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bucket by there well, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was drawing water from that and drinking and he was only five years old, and he was standing there. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam took water in his mouth. And then he lets loose a jet a stream of water on his face.

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five year old child so he let loose a jet and a stream of water on the face of them not rugby. And he cherished that all his life, all Islam, and he would forever mentioned.

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So Buhari brilliantly mentioned his idea, to show that the age of five should be regarded as the age from which time a person can understand and absorb at ease to be able to relate it afterwards. So we do not repeat was no relation. And yet the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam played with him, and his family could have your loved one. He would play with us. We're nomadic. He play with other children to play with his grandsons.

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That was the playful nature of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam he would understand them and he called the alarm says that he would play with his younger brother

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McCarty and others all relate that I must warn him earlier from Santa Monica Viola and he had a younger brother.

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His name was Abdullah but his idea was mine.

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So

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he was younger than us, and he had a bird,

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a red beaked bird,

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and he's to play with it. So one day the Prophet sallallahu wasallam went to the house and

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for me, was very sad. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said why he's always playing with him and joke with them. She said, Why is he sad? So they said the birders died. So in Arabic the the that particular bird is no good.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made a play on his name on the boy's name, and a play on the name of the bird and with the same meter made them run. So

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the little boys Kenya was a war made to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said yeah, about me and my family and no hate that I was made. It was a no haved and what's happened with the NaVi

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but understand them article the unlocker and says that he would play with his younger brother not just be coming towards him. The wedding in one heading is your bar shaker and one human zero he would joke with him he would play with him. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam played with his grandchildren with others, even with stranger children that he had no relationship, no relation to.

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But that was the nature of the sort of last in the law and equal send them with his grandsons hesson russain kissing them, playing with them in the machine, even in at the time of summer with other children and the way he treats children law and the Santa Monica law the alarm

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is a beautiful example. And it's one of man it wasn't even friendly. We've learned how

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He treated his daughter, his grandchildren.

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Even his adopted son is at the heart of the labyrinth even before the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam received a revelation on the

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zaidan haritha. The loved one was

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captured and sold in slavery eventually found his way to the Messenger of Allah,

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prophets of the law and even some of them captain,

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his pet his father, his uncle would travel the length and breadth of Arabia looking for him. Eventually, that someone told them that he is in Makkah. So they came to Makkah. And they found him in the Messenger of Allah. father and uncle spoke to the prophets a lot while he was alive in the absence of xe.

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And they said to him, Look, we have heard a lot of answers you We know you're a noble man. We wish to reclaim our son, and we are willing to pay anyone's Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I'll give you a fair off.

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Do not ask me less ask

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your son.

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If he wishes to go with you, he can go with you freely, I will not accept any rats.

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And I will honor his wish. But if he wishes to remain with me, then you must honor his wish. father and uncle fought which child was going to remain with anyone else. There's someone's at the heart of the hold the alarm. And he said to them, Father, Uncle after greeting remeeting, he said Father, uncle.

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Of course, as a child, I would love to go with you. But I will not give preference to anyone's company over the company.

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He wasn't recognized as a messenger of Allah.

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father and uncle pleaded with him, but he would not be

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in the end they were happy.

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Imagine how the Messenger of Allah must have treated him that even when his long lost father and uncle arrived to collect them. zaidan had a third of the alarm and said, I will remain with one. So the prophets of the love and he was told that uncle and father that From this day on he will not be called eight and a half with her by a doctor.

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And from now on, he shall be called zeta, zeta son and he had the honor of being the only adult who has ever called z the son of

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and that other remained with him all the way till the fifth year of HR

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until a law banning

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calling people by their adopted parents names.

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So he was saddened by that. But Allah substituted that honor with another arm.

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Which is Allah mentioned him by name in front

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of all the Sahaba of the land will no one is mentioned by name not even Abu Bakr Omar only zaidan Hanif and in fact, as I've mentioned before, something unique about the Quran is unique book. its constitution is unique, its structure is unique. Its approach should be unique.

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Of all the prophets, the law, it was someone's contemporaries, everyone who lived at that time.

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Only two people are mentioned by name and

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one Muslim, one Muslim, both members of his family.

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And

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these are the only two mentioned by name in the entire from all the contemporaries of the prophets of the law. It wasn't.

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So they didn't had it that was a member of his family, and he regarded him as a member even after he was no longer called Zaid, the son of Mohammed bin Zayed of La hanifa and the Prophet salaallah alayhi wa sallam lost him in the Battle of more daily atheists. Hitler is at the heart at the heart of the alarm. I'm had a son Osama Tablas, a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam loved him dearly. Now zaidan the Hadith out of the alarm.

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He was one of the Arabs of the Northern tribe but with him he avoided the alarm la ma from the same tribe.

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So who the hell can be and zeta mahad if they can be

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and be one of the northern tribes. One of the Northern Arabs they were like you can see even today they are very fair. So zaidan had a thought on the last run was extremely fair. But he was married to a man with the alarm her she was an avid senior lady.

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And also to mosaic his son had taken on the complexion of his mother. So he was quite dark in complexion. So the Arabs would taunt or summer and the fall.

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But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam loved him did also say him. I'm Timothy Abdullah, he relates it from Abdullah normale de la Abdullah, the Allah

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says that, in the time of Bob, in his head after my father, he fixed a stipend for me of 3000. There.

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And he fixed a stipend for zaidan Osama tableaus aid of 3500.

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So I objected to my father and I said, Why have you given him a greater amount than me? It wasn't a one off thing. It was a fixed stipend.

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He has never surpassed me in anything. In terms of my commitments, my attendance, my participation in the campaigns, because that was the order. People were given time, according to their seniority, and their participation in the earlier campaigns. So the veterans of but were the greatest dignitaries.

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So I'm delighted. Normally the alarm I say is why have you given him more? Listen to the reply to the alarm? The alarm was,

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he said, I was saying,

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the reason I've given or summer more

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than I've given you

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is because

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he was more beloved to the Messenger of Allah

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than you were, just as his father was more beloved to the Messenger of Allah than your father was. So I gave preference to the love of Rasulullah of Allah.

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That was the love the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had for someone who was not his flesh and blood, but the son of his adopted son, one time adopters

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are a shadow the lover and how relates that once

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the people have to speak to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in a very grave matter. But no one dared to approach him no one. And they actually said amongst themselves, who will speak to the Messenger of Allah who can about this matter? Then they all agreed, that no one can speak to the Messenger of Allah, except the Beloved of the Messenger of Allah. And who are they referring to? Or sound with?

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So

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Well, some of them there's a little the alarm when he was much younger. Again,

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relate to it from a shadow the alarm who says that

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once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he wished to remove the mucus from the nose of Osama.

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So he was about to go and do it. When he shouted the alarm has said O Messenger of Allah leave it let me do it. So the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam allowed her to do it as a child she was cleaning him up cleaning his nose. And then he said to her Anisha

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if you love me the level sir

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if you love me the level

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and again at your shadow the alarm on her relates, listen to this following heavy

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related baking imagine in the sun and from a shadow of the alarm her. She says once or sound with a machine, he stumbled and fell over the doorstep. As a result he got he gashed himself on his face. So he began bleed. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he may have been at some slight distance at shuttle the alarm must have been closer to the prophets of Allah and he was told at each level the lover and quickly cleaned him up. Look after him.

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Golden

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so because she saw bled out you shall have the alarm around her says. Meaning I refrain from it and I held back. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam rushed or sound with him as a this was a messenger of Allah. And this is his, not his son or his grandson, but the son of his one time adopted son.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam took hold or sama Tomasi.

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And

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this is actually in the Hadith do not have to be cleaned up the Glatt gash, he began

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sucking the blood with his own mobile mouth, suck the blood and spitting it out sucking the blood and spitting it out. And then because sama was crying, you're sucking the blood spitting it out. And then he began caressing him, and consoling him soothing him with the words, that sama, if you were a little girl, I would dress you up like this and I would dress you up like that, that was a messenger of Allah sallallahu he was.

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In fact, look at his justice. Again did me the African law here relates from San Jose himself that what the prophets of Allah and Islam would do is that he take his son in law and his other great grandson, and he placed him on one knee, and he taped me or some of them was even placed me on the other knee.

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And then he would hold both of us and he made the dura, though Allah love both of them just as I love both

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and have met sorry, have mercy on both of them just as I have mercy, not love, have mercy on both of them and show compassion to them just as I show mercy and compassion to both of them. So he created an equality between hessen that some of the model the Illa her and her his own flesh and blood and all summer, the son of Zane one time adopted so

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if that was the love He showed people like or sound with him as a there'll be a lover and you mentioned

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was remarkable in not showing love, but consideration. Children are ignored. There used to be a saying children should be seen, not heard.

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Seen not heard, they ought to be ignored. And look how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam treats children

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remember how he relates in his he

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that Abdullah himself Massara that and slowly Lila relates that Abdullah lambasted the love and mercy to the prophets and the love right there was a gathering

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and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will seat

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and

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to the left

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were seniors How about the lover in the words of the hadith of Shia meaning the shoe of the Sahaba were all seated to the left

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and the prophets of Allah it will seated here are delighted now a boss of the love randomize cousin brother was seated to his right

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so as we know you should give to the right

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unless of course there's someone more senior an elder so you always start with the right unless there's someone more senior an elder. But look at the way the Prophet sallallahu wasallam did it. Someone brought him a drink of milk and water.

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So the prophets of Allah and he was a little drunk.

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And this How about the lover and they wanted the rescue the remains of the water of the Messenger of Allah, they always wanted.

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Even the wives.

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one occasion when two of the Sahaba of the lover who took water and splashed on themselves and make their faces and even drank from it. One of the wives was

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listening to all of this. And she actually spoke up and said,

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leave some of the remnants of the water of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for who she said leave some for your mother too. That was a why.

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When we speak of the wives of the Messenger of Allah, yes, they treated them as a husband but more than a husband. They actually viewed him as a messenger.

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They believed in his Baraka.

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They wanted his sweat that used to collect his perspiration and use it as perfume. They wanted his water his father,

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the mother from spoke from behind saying Leave some for your mother. So how about all the love? They wanted the remaining water Rasulullah it has stood out to us alone to drink.

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But here the province alone is almost seated with Abdullah bass, a young child to his right, and to the left will all see me as a habit of the alarm. One of them was Holly Goodman will eat.

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So on to the left the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had all these senior statesmen

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and hardened warriors and generals. And to the right. There was this young child of the Lardner bus

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profits in the lungs really drunk. And then this is what he did. He sat down delighting our bus, or abdillah do you think

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Give me permission to give the water to these to you, meaning the seniors. So he took permission

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because it profits in the lungs and wanted to start from the rights but then he also wanted to give preference to the seniors.

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He could have just given it to the seniors, they took permission. So what did that look like number so the love and mercy He said the art of salt Allah By Allah, I will give no one privilege or preference over your remaining bought

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the province and the Lucky Seven gave him he actually put it in his hand and the light no matter the allotment metric. What this story tells me is not just love, not just compassion, but some

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consideration respect for children. You mentioned the scene. To the left you've got generals like Holly who lead battle hardened warriors and commanders you've got show you the scene is of the Sahaba of the love

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and to the rights of child and this is how we treat

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a lover and not even his own son, but his cousin brother.

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There are so many stories of this house out of the a lot more income and profits in the lungs and with children. Sharmarke

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with children and asuna Malika the alarm

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he was the page boy in the attendance his mother almost a middle the alarm took him to the province of the law it was Sunday and said the art of sort of law or the people of Medina has given you a gift I have no gift to give you. Here is my little special one. accept him as a gift. use him as a messenger boy an errand boy use them in your service. prophets. Allah loves them took him into his care.

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And a sort of article the alarm saves for 10 years I served the messenger of Allaah 10 years we learn from so many interactions. And in those 10 years, never once did he say

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now it's off.

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What are lahoma in Walla Walla Houma.

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La Salle speaking of parents

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that do not even say often

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I don't speak ill to them. Don't speak offensively to them. Don't rebuke them. Don't admonish them.

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Don't say harsh words to them. Forget words. Don't even say off. That means if someone like we click our tongues and we make noise off, that's what it means. Not even a word not even half a word not even two syllables might even off Don't even say often.

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So Emerson mnemonic or the alarm says in 10 years I speak from different narrations. He never found that me. He never scolded me. He never abused me. He never struck me. In fact, in 10 years he never said

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never did he won't say to me Why did you do something for something I shouldn't have done or why didn't she do something for something I should have?

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Never once

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any man Muslim law healing relates listen to this howdy my Muslim relates in his so he that listen early called the alarm says one day the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent me on an errand and he's a child.

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Speaking of children, all children are Muslim raised another beautiful heavy

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Imam siyar

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he's one of the Great's of the Hadith. In Sahih Muslim he says I was walking with Imam Tabitha bonanni. So we passed by a group of children. So imagine that my shape and teacher Imam Tabitha bonanni. He said to all the children of Saddam already

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the children returned the Salah, that Imam thought within bonanni term to say yard and said, I was walking with a mnemonic or the alarm, our teacher and she and we passed by a group of children. So he turned to the children said a Salaam already, and then he related to us, but I was walking with the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we passed by a group of children playing. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to them as salaam, it and in one narration, he actually said to them as salaam alaikum all children specific that is humility.

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So under the monocle the alarm says one day I was with the Messenger of Allah sent me on an error.

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So even though I intended to go in my heart, I made an intention to go

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children being children. Do you know what he said to the Messenger of Allah? Will la de la hub is a by law I'm not going to go.

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And it's when a man except to the Messenger of Allah, by Allah, I'm not going to go.

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He said inside I was going to go late. So he went out, walking slowly like children and there was a group of children playing. So he joined the children began playing Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam got delayed, so he came out.

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So understand a monocle. The alarm says whilst I was busy preoccupied playing with the children, I felt someone placed their hand on my name.

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So I turned around and it was a messenger of Allah. And he was smiling.

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And lovingly, his name was Ennis. But in Arabic, if you speak compassionate compassionately

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you use a diminutive

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So you said Yeah, well, nice. Oh, little anus. So I turned around was a messenger of Allah who was smiling at me. And he said, Oh, little anus. Yeah, Oh, nice. Have you gone to fulfill that errand that I sent you for? So and so the alarm and the other sort of law are gone now. But some of them sent on his way. So

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imagine how people treat their waiters their attendance their servants, them messenger boys, their employees, adults, employees, adult subordinates,

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over a little thing.

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And look how the Messenger of Allah treat someone whose mother has said I give him tea,

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who served him for 10 years, who tells him to his face by alarm, not going to go.

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And that's how the Messenger of Allah with Islam.

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There are countless stories I could relate from different to how that of the alarm of how the Messenger of Allah treated just children. He showed them respect. He showed children respect, love, compassion, mercy, not just his own sons and daughters or grandsons and daughters, but even strangers, even other people's children. There's a great lesson for all of us in that.

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I pray that last panel with Anna enables us to follow in his footsteps. May law makers amongst those who are loving, caring and compassionate towards children. In fact, something which is extremely difficult to achieve, because parents do both. They show love.

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And then they also show anger.

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They berate children, and then apologize to them and show love. We have the splits attitudes towards children we all have.

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The Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam was consistent in his love, in his compassion in his mercy. And one remarkable and very difficult thing to achieve. And I pray that we could actually gain a share of that, which is to show respect and consideration to children.

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That's something which he demonstrated to us was the law was that he was sworn in to be you know, Mohammed Weiner. Earlier he will send me a dream Chronicle la

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