Domestic Violence in the Name of Islam

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una Mohammed Abdullah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman kathira yeah you Alina Amato, la tokachi malata mutanda illa one tombstone yohanna sutopo Bakula de hakomi nuptse wahida mahalo Pamina Xhosa. wahba. Salmon humare Jalan Cafiero manisa watagan la la de de Luna Viva La hum. In the LA Cana la cumbre Kiba. Yeah yo lilina Armando Tacoma havapoo Colin de de de la cama como la Koo monitoring in law Rasulullah who for the first season of Lima, America inner circle kalami calamari tabula rasa Iran Buddha Buddha Muhammad Sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, Bashar Al ohmori Machado, Hakuna Matata, Hakuna Matata Hakuna Matata Latin for now,

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our Prophet son alone while he was silom. During his lifetime, he delivered many many sermons. He gave the hook back to Jamaica many times in the hundreds. And he would give sermons or other occasions like we usually do at the time of read. Or when, for example, he made his hands on the dev out offer for the eclipse prayer and the rain play and so on and so forth. These sermons are part of the suddenness of these acts of worship.

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But then other times he would also give a sermon to his community in Medina. And when he wanted to gather the Muslims together, he would make the person call out of Sala to Jamia Asara to Jamia which means that the prayer has been gathered. It is a call and a system that they had that if they heard this is not the time of the advance not the time for one of the scholars, but it means that the Muslims all of them should gather into the messenger because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wants to address a very serious issue. If you go through the books of Sudan, you read the sermons of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. This phrase and the statement is something which you will

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come across as solid to Jamia It was a system of gathering the people together. Because sometimes something would happen within the community. They can't wait until the Friday for the jamara where they can't wait for another occasion he needs dealing with immediately. It is one of those examples in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam gathered his companions in this way that I want to base today's football upon howdy that you find in the center of Abu Dawood on the authority of a companion by the name of er Sydney Abdullah robiola one, this hotbed speaks about the issue of domestic violence. Just as over 1400 years ago, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam gathered the

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companions with that whole of a solid to January because of domestic violence within the community. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in this hadith he had already spoken to the Muslims. And he had said to them law totally will Mr. Allah, don't beat your wives or your women for it was a common practice amongst the Arabs of jania. In that society, within the culture, it was the norm that they would beat their wives, sometimes even their mothers, their daughters, their sisters, they would beat them physically, and they wouldn't think twice. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to them, don't beat your women for a number of days passed by the head is mentioned that a number of

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companions then came, a number of the men came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they complain and they said, O Messenger of Allah, let us beat our wives again, let us do what we were doing before. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he gave his tacit agreement, gave his approval said okay, carry on. Because it was the norm and the culture of that way people don't know how to behave in a different way. That night, over 70 women according to some narrations, like the nation that is in a hypnotic ban, over 70 women came, and they complained to the family of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, to the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam about the abuse

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and the physical beatings of the companions of the husbands of their men. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then gathered the companions together in the messenger, call them together. This isn't an issue that can wait until the next hop is not an issue that can wait until read or some other occasion, something that needs to be addressed. He gathered them together and he said to them, he said to them, lockup offer be early Mohammedan Nisa on Cathy, a schooner as well john. Lisa hula, it can be here. Last night, a great number of women came and they complained to my family complained about the treatment that they were suffering.

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at the hands of their husbands in the other eration they complain of the beatings, though well, Barbies used they complained of the beatings that they were receiving by their husbands. Those men who do this, he said something along while he will sell them. They are not from the best amongst we have to understand the context of this Hadeeth is in, because today in 2017, when we say don't hit your wives, domestic violence and abuse is something which Islam doesn't tolerate. It's not allowed. We think it's probably something obvious, even though as we will know, it is still something very common within our communities and in society at large. It's not something which has been eradicated

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or is even close to being eradicated. Very common. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his companions, they lived at a time when women had no rights. They weren't given any worth. They weren't given any importance. They had no rights. The men would beat them and they would slap them and they would whip them. They wouldn't allow them to inheritant as we know, sometimes they would even bury the newborn daughters alive. This was the statement on the situation of women and say hello Buhari Abdullah abass rhodiola Juan Houma. He mentions a statement of Omar Viola one where over the long run is describing the situation that the Muslims used to live in at the beginning of

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Islam. He used to say canal je de la camisa Shia philam Magellan Islam or the Quran Allah, Allah una vida de carlina haka, he says in St. Hell Buhari in this Hadith, or Marathi, Allah laquan said that before Islam in pre Islam in the days of Je li of ignorance, we never considered the women to have any rights. They were nothing, nada Musa Shia, they were nothing to us. But then Islam came, and alaric xojo mentioned them in the Quran, he spoke about them, he gave them those rights. And so after that, we understood the great rights that they had upon us and within our communities, because a large region in the Quran, he makes men and women equal, not equal in the sentence in the sense in

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the way that sometimes today we hear in the media and so on, doesn't mean uniformity. But a lot of zones you'll meet them equal. There is no preference of a man over a woman or a woman over a man they are equal in the sight of Allah subhana wa Tada. They were created in the same way. And both of them were given that same honor. Both of them their path to gentlemen Paradise is the same path. The obligations are the same. Men have to pray five times a day, so do women. Men have to pass the month of Ramadan, so the women, men have to pay the cost, so do women, men have to respect their parents, so do women, men can't lie and cheat and steal and backbite and likewise for women, those laws even

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though there is some difference in the mind machine and the detail generally speaking, those laws are the same, they apply the same and the rewards are the same, and the path to gender is the same. A large soldier says in the Quran, law with the Ramallah army men come in that arena. A large soldier will not allow the good actions of the believers to go to waste whether from the men or the women, but Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran Minami lasallian in the Quran. otava mcminn Fela nakiya Hayakawa, Whosoever performs righteous deeds and is a believer, whether male or female, then we will give them a good new life. That is something that a large religion gave and afforded to the

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people. The Companions understood this, they understood that a large religion is speaking about them in the Quran, giving them their rights, making them equal to men. Not only that, but then the bond of Islam and a man comes in. That's a basic dignity that's the human rights that they have. But then Islam brings an added sense of honor and dignity mixed in secret. I will bond together as Muslim brothers and sisters, the thing that unites us our image and belief in a large scale agenda, it adds another layer of rights adds another layer of sanctity and honor. When a large soldier describes the believers in the Quran, he says when you know, not one Minato, but only about the believing men and

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believing women are protectors and allies one to another. Not just that the men are protectors of one another. The men and the women mutually are protectors and allies of one another Shaykh Abdul Rahman Rahim Allah, the teacher of Shephard nasimi Rahim Allah is the CEO of this verse. He said that it means that the men and the women are equal in terms of the way that they should have that mutual love and care and protection for one another. That's just as your Muslim fellow sister or brother, when that man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in that famous Hadith that you've heard of before, and he wants you to commit sin and adultery, well, there will be law and he

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wants you to seek permission from the Prophet son alone while he was sillim. That he should be allowed to commit Zina the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam played upon his sense of Eman, that bond that alaric zildjian has placed between us to Hippo Julio McKee said to him, would you prefer that someone

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did this to your mother, to your wife, to your sister to your daughter? And he said no, because that is the way that we treat our fellow Muslims, as if they are our real brothers, our real sisters, our mothers, our real daughters. This is the bomb that Islam places upon us. That is the sanctity that a large soldier gives. And then Allah subhanaw taala adds a further layer of sanctity and a further measure of honor, and that is that sacred bond of marriage that a large region has legislated for this.

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As Allah says in the Quran, woman a yachtie and Holla Holla come in and fusi come as Raja liters como la wa Jalla. Vina kumada Tawana and from the signs of Allah is that he created from for you, your spouses, so that you may live with them in peace and harmony and tranquility. That is the whole point of marriage, that the bond between the husband and the wife is a bond which mutually for one another, it brings to the other person, a sense of peace and contentment. In a world that is full of turmoil. You go out and you work, you're busy and the woman goes on and she has all of this drama that plays around in society, the media, our communities, even extended families and friends, all of

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that stuff that goes on. But then when you come home, you know that you have someone there that will bring to you a sense of tranquility, a sense of peace, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would go out and he would face the oppression and tyranny of Quraysh who would he come back home to and seek solace and contentment from after large xojo it was his wife Khadija, the Allahu wa Jalla Bina Kuma what the law says that he placed between you mercy and compassion. That is what Islam did. It is an added layer of sanctity and honor within the bounds of marriage. But despite all of this, it is still very prevalent within our society, within our communities. And it is very rarely spoken

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of because it is somewhat of a taboo subject, that domestic violence is still very common, very prevalent. Men and sometimes it is women as well, but most likely, and most generally men beating their wives. And I don't mean a small hit or a small I mean, physically beating their wives, leaving scars, breaking bones, so that to the extent that they have to go into hospital. It is something common. The United Nations did a worldwide study, an international study. And he found that 40% of women, at some time within their lifetime will be subject to domestic abuse, what is domestic abuse and violence. It's not some stranger on the road, cursing your wife or swearing or spitting at her

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because she's a Muslim. Well, that she's wearing a hijab and bad well, because she's a Muslim, they sing making fun of her or pulling us off to domestic violence is when a husband, a father, a son, a brother, someone that is the closest person to them, in terms of relationship. They are the perpetrators of their abuse, and that violence is their own family members is their own husbands that should be looking after them, their own family members they should be providing and protecting them. They are the people who are performing this violence. A study was done in the United States of America. That said that every 25 seconds, a woman is subject to domestic abuse and violence every 25

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seconds within the country. Only last year in the UK, nearly 2 million people was subject to domestic violence and abuse. It is something which is still common. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam understood how dangerous an issue this is not only because it involves oppression, but because it is a cycle. People who normally abuse well are people who were generally victims of abuse themselves. They were people who either saw their parents or their father abusing their mother when they were young. They grew up with that same mentality, or they were the victims of abuse. So now they become the perpetrator. When they are in that position of power and responsibility. It is a

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cycle that doesn't break. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam understood this. And he placed within the companions a sense of dignity and honor, the way that they treat the women folk the rights that they have. One of the most famous Hadith that you will read about the lives of the daughter of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Fatima rhodiola and her with her husband. It is once when they had a dispute and an argument between them. And that's common in marriages. Yes, you have disagreements. Yes, we have disputes. Yes, you disagree. And you have issues that come up between you. It is the way that you deal with them that Islam has legislated. They had an a

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disagreement, they had an argument, they became upset with one another. your loved one became upset and he left the house, didn't make his wife leave the house, didn't make his wife take his children and leave. He left the house. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came and visited later on and he said to Fatima brother, your loved one How was it was your husband. She said O Messenger of Allah there was between me and him and others.

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He became upset and he left. So the prophet SAW Selim said to one of the companions go and search for him. And he came back and he said, O Messenger of Allah is in the masjid. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went to the masjid he find him sleeping, he found him sleeping on the dirt in the masjid. And because he was sleeping in the sun and the debt of the question, his face and his clothing, had dirt and dust on it. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam woke him up, and he said, Can you stand up or father of dust, or the rhodiola? what I'm used to say that from all of the names, the titles, the nicknames that I was given, the most beloved to me, is that name of the

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father of dust, because of how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave it to me. That is how we changed in this society. That's how they used to deal with their issues. It is something which is commonplace. And we have a number of myths and misunderstandings concerning this issue of domestic violence, from amongst the greatest of those myths, and misunderstandings is that it is rare amongst Muslims, these statistics of the UN and the US and the UK and all of these countries, that's about the non Muslims. It's about people who don't believe in Allah who don't understand the Quran and the Sunnah. And that is a great myth. It is as common within our communities as it is amongst Muslims.

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It is common even amongst people who are practicing people who have beards, people who pray, people who offer the Salah people who if you were to meet them in public, you will think this person is very nice. He has good character seems like a good brother. But then at home, those same people are the people who are beating their wives, and sometimes their children. It is common. Even in the studies of the UK, it is said that within the ethnicity of the Indian subcontinent, Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, those kinds of ethnicities, where the vast or a great number of those people will be Muslim. Two calls are received every single day to the police, just from that community alone,

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because of domestic violence and abuse within parts of this country. And that study, if I'm not mistaken, was in somewhere like Scotland, with a number of Muslims and the population is less than the rest of the UK. It is something which is common. And one of those misunderstandings and myths that we have is that it's an issue between husband and wife. It's an issue of misunderstanding, the man lost his temper, you know, it's something part of their culture is how they used to do things back home. But what needs to be said and is an important issue as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stressed to his companions, that it is not an issue of culture. It is something which is

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haram and not allowed in Islam. So irrespective of what they did back home, doesn't make it right. respective of your culture and the norms of your family doesn't make any right. irrespective of what you may think or how you may try to justify it. It doesn't make it right in Islam. every form of oppression as we know in Islam is something which is haram. And the greatest of those myths and the most dangerous are those people who will beat their wives and their children and then try to justify it with Islam. So it's part of the rights that Allah gave to me something which Allah legislated, sanction in the Quran, something which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam allowed within his

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pseudonym in his lifetime. And those people will take and cherry pick one word from the Quran a single word, or they will take a single incident from the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and exclude the rest of the Quran and the Sunnah. And that's what people often do when they want to justify their behavior. When it goes against Islam, people who are extremist terrorists, all of them people who are liberals, everyone just defies Islam by cherry picking parts of the Quran and the Sunnah. And they see that as part of our religion. It is not part of our religion, domestic violence and abuse is not something which is tolerated or accepted in Islam. There is no verse in

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the Quran that allows domestic violence and abuse. No single scholar of Islam in the history of 1400 years ever said that it's allowed for you to beat your wives and your children like this. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the hadith of Abdullah uzima that is collected in Sangha Buhari be minobu merata who come

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from Allah, Allah, Who you Annika, why does one of you come and beat his wife like she's an animal, and then expect to go to bed with her at night, to sleep with her at night. It's not something which is allowed in Islam, that a person would come and they would treat their wives in that way, beat them the way that they would beat the animals. And by the way, we know in our religion, that even those animals have rights. It's not allowed for you to harm your animal in that way. It's not allowed for you to break the bones of an animal to whip the animal to such an extent that you leave story on its body to Harmon in such a way that you deprive it of food, or security or anything else.

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It's not allowed in Islam.

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But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has given this example that people sometimes treat their own women folk like they would treat an animal, but then at the same time, they expect them to extend love and emotion to them and affection and care. How is that possible? How does that even work the profits on a low while he or send them to

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Spoken his community about this issue because it is an extremely important issue. And it's something that we need to also become aware of. Not only is it terms of physical abuse, which is something which is common and easier to quantify and qualify, because you have markings and so on. And by the way, all of these statistics that I've mentioned to you our estimates, because the cases that probably go unreported, are much more than those that are reported, especially within our communities, within our families within our society, as Muslims, it is such a taboo issue, that you probably don't even hear the extent of what's going on. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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didn't just speak about the physical violence and abuse that is carried out, but even spoke about the emotional side of this emotional psychological abuse, which is often done, in which case the woman is made to feel like she's worthless. She doesn't have any self esteem left, any self confidence left, because of the way that our husbands will speak to her and treat her every single day. And so she becomes program like this. She's in this difficult situation. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speaking to the men concerning the rights of their wives. He said, Well, I

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don't demean or belittle her. And the word to publish comes from the literal word in the Arabic language of ob. COVID means ugly, don't make her feel ugly about herself. That's the literal meaning, don't meet, don't belittle her, don't demean her. Don't take away from her, her self worth. That was the way of Jackie Leah. That's how they used to view their women. And that's why they were then able to beat them in that way. They were able to bury their daughters alive within the ground, wouldn't even kill them, bury them alive, and throw dust and mud on top of them until they suffocated, because in their eyes, they're worthless anyway. They don't mean anything. In our

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religion, a large xojo gave us equal honor men and women, we have equal paths to Islam and our role, especially as Muslims is to look out for one another, to help one another. So when we see oppression within our communities, when it's a problem within our families, amongst our friends, it's something that needs to be spoken about. Something that all of us need to be made aware of, is something that needs to be on our radar, so that when it happens to someone that we know whether that person is the perpetrator or the victim, we know that we need to step in and do something about it. Whereas colarusso generally protects us and our families, and that Allah subhanaw taala allows us to

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understand Islam and to act it truly, and that allows us to improve our courage and images from those people who have beautiful character barakallahu li walakum phylloquinone was soon whenever anyone Yakubu Murphy

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was stopped. Howdy Welcome to Jimmy musty minimalism in first of Euro in the Horn of Africa.

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Loud from the Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. While early he was talking to a woman where Allah was seldom at the Sleeman kathira ameba, one of those myths that we have about domestic abuse and domestic violence and is something which often those people who are suffering that domestic abuse are made to feel is that they feel that they are somewhat responsible for the situation that they're in. They often think why don't they leave? We often think why don't they just walk away, or if they do want to leave a walk away, we make them feel guilty about us, who make them feel like they're doing something wrong by breaking apart their family. The purpose of this footwear is not to

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break someone's marriage with the family apart. But the purpose of the hookah is to tell everyone that oppression isn't allowed in Islam. It's not just defined under any shape or form. And therefore if a person is in the situation of oppression, and they try to rectify it, and it's not something which that which can be rectified, then it is within their rights as a Muslim, to walk away from a marriage, to say, I'm not going to stand for it, and they're not responsible in any way. This is something even if that person isn't practicing anyone in any marriage, irrespective of their religion, or irrespective of the man, while they're practicing this, it is something which is there,

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right? But especially when a person is a practicing Muslim, and you find that this is their character, it is their right, that victim to walk away. And also I want to say that we as a community, we as people, every single one of us, I think within this mission today will know someone who is suffering from from domestic violence, someone that we suspect is having problems in their marriage, because of domestic violence, either because they are the perpetrator or because they are the victim. It is our family members, our friends, our parents, our children, these are the people that are doing this. And so if you know someone that is the perpetrator and you can step in, you

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have that authority, you have that influence, it is your duty as a Muslim to do so. Not just something which is an option something which is recommended something which if you feel like doing it

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It is your duty to step in and to stop that oppression. Our Prophet told us all along while he was seldom also a part of volume at home of Luma help your brother whether they're the prestel that are or the oppressor. They said almost in Java life, they're oppressed, we understand, but how do we help the oppressor? He said stop their oppression. If you can stop that oppression, it is your duty as a Muslim to do so. I want to leave you with the final Hadith that is collected in Sahih Muslim, in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam needed to act, but it is the law in which he is stressing to his own man, his community, the importance of the rights of this group of people. He

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said alone in the original Huckleberry Finn, Alia T Mobile, Mara, Allah, I implore to you the rights of these two groups of people, the orphans and the women, the scholars of Islam, and they come to this hadith and they say, why did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned the orphan and the women in this scene. One of the reasons that the game is because orphans normally have no one to look after them, they have no one to protect them, they have no one to love them. They have no one to look after the interests because their parents have passed away and they have no other family. A woman oftentimes when she marries into a different family, she doesn't have that same strong

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connection with our own family. Maybe she's moved to a different city or even a different country. She doesn't have that same bond that she had, or parents can look after and out for her the way that they did when she was under their care. So in many ways, she also needs that care and protection, the love and affection, the prophets on the lower eyelid. He was telling me this to add to Allah, Allah beseech you and implore to you the rights of these two people. These rights are extremely serious in Islam, and scholars of Islam of the past us to see that we don't mind whichever sin we face a law with so long as it's not a question to another person. And it's in between you and Allah,

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you tend to align ask for forgiveness inshallah, Allah will forgive you. But a sin in which you oppress others is not just about Allah forgiveness, it is about the rights of those people who have been oppressed. And people are not so forgiving. Those people who are victims of abuse, they will have their day, whether in this life or the next and a large soldier will give them justice, whether in this fight for the next we need to ensure that it's not us and our family members, the people that we love and care for, that are the perpetrators or the victims of their abuse was a large soldier that protects our families and communities that alert surgical guides as to what is good,

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and it prevents us from what is evil, and that Allah subhanaw taala keeps us safe from the traps of shavon. That alarm social helps those who are being abused, and those who are being oppressed. That alarm soldier gives them strength and helps them and that Allah subhanaw taala gives him the ability to find that strength and courage to come out of the situation. wrestlers diligently stops the oppression of the presses. And that Allah subhana wa tada makes us all firm and united upon the Quran and the Sunnah. Subhan Allah manasi foon masamune artemisinin hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen