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The Madinan Society: A Tafsir of Surat al-Ḥujurat Part 7/12
Delivered by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq on Friday 16th September 2016 at Al Kawthar Academy, Leicester (UK)
After the Prophet and his companions emigrated to Medina, Allah revealed laws with which Muslims must abide by so that they may live together peacefully. This Surat serves as a prime example of such intricate laws that detail not just how people should behave with one another, but how they should speak and think about each other.
This lesson continues to discuss the importance of creating reconciliation between two disputing parties and how Muslims should work hard in maintaining true brotherhood among themselves. The keys to creating brotherhood are detailed in this lesson along with examples from the Qur’an and Hadith.
The remainder of this lesson focuses on the mockery of others in any shape or form. It is unanimously agreed that physical assault is illegal, but what gives us permission to cause grievous harm to others by using our tongue? Abusing others by the words we use is completely against the teachings of Islam. This lesson details how we should show compassion when we see others fail, rather than sit back and take the opportunity to mock them.
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After a break of a few months, we gather once again for the continuing commentary, of sort of departure.
Today is the seventh lesson of this commentary on sort of the backdrop.
In the previous sessions, we've covered approximately 10 verses. And just to quickly recap, in the previous sessions,
we learned about various topics our last panel with Allah has mentioned
in these previous verses, namely, at the beginning, a lot of Agile reminds the believers not to advance themselves,
not to be to forward and never to place themselves before Allah and His messengers from the light ecosystem. And this is an everything
in speech and conduct in behavior in choice,
then law has
reminds the believers
about some of the etiquettes
of behavior towards a messenger single love it.
So maintain respect. recognize your limits and your boundaries when it comes to Allah and His Messenger so lightly.
Do not raise your voices, above the voice of the message.
Do not speak to him loudly as you would speak to one another.
Do not call it out, as you would call out to one another. All of this disrespect towards a messenger of a loss of the loved might even send them may actually lead to your deeds, perishing without you realizing.
law mentions the example of some of the companions of the love mine
who do maintain
this respect, and who do observe these etiquettes towards the messengers of the law.
And this curtsy these etiquettes this respect, all of this is actually a reflection of the fear of a law and God were in us and dakhla in their hearts. On the other hand, the law contrasts the respectful behavior of other companions with some of the visiting Bedouin, who being unrefined in that approach, being harsh of tongue and extremely forward. They called out to the prophets in the limelight equals them from behind the chambers whilst he was resting, and they summoned him outside. And in fact, this is this is a verse from which the whole server derives its name and what are those who called out to call out to you from behind the chambers and the whole sort of has been called
which are the chambers. So Allah says of them, that a thorough who now
most of them have no sense they lack the knowledge the understanding the correct etiquettes of behavior
lassies had been a patient until you came out to them this would have been far better for them.
Having spoken about limits and boundaries, when it comes to alarm is messengers the law it was the most about respect towards the messengers and the law and he was sending them love and speaks about
one of the obligations of a community of a whole society, that when they receive any news,
before acting on this news, then verify the facts ascertain the truth, less they in their haste, and in their judgment, inflict harm upon someone without realizing.
Then law remains the companion specifically that you have amongst you the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
you are his father.
Your job is to follow him, not that he follows you.
By all means,
have your opinion. When he consults you speak candidly
and offer your words of advice, however, have no expectation that he will act on your opinion.
But it was the customer, the messenger sort of the law, it was seldom solicit the opinions of the companions, that'll be allowed as a law commands and in another verse.
And then once he had reached that session, whether it's agreed with all of them, agreed with some of them, or actually disagreed with all of them, it was the duty of the companions to follow Him, rather than expect him to follow that
along love and actually praises the companions in the next few verses. Finally,
we then learned about
conflict and disagreement between two parties of believers, what should be done?
Or this should bring about peace and harmony between them try to reconcile these differing parties. And there are there some advice and there are some laws about that find.
A law reminds us that in the minority, who may not have a common law,
that even though these people may be differing with one another, and in conflict, they are still believers, and they are still brothers amongst themselves, and therefore reconcile your differing brothers. This is where we end. Now I've just given you a summary of each of the verses that we have covered. And the details on the previous six recordings of it sort of our job, so do refer to them and they are released. But
before I proceed with the next verse,
I just like to remind all of us about the theme of sort of what what is the theme? What is the overarching
topic of this
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quite comprehensive in relation to a few topics.
And we've named the theme of the sore a Medina and society.
Because this sort of teaches the companions of the alarm,
how our society should be formed,
how society should live and conduct itself
and what the relationship of that society should be with its creator and with the rest of creation.
instituted various laws and teach in Islam, through his Noble Messenger some of the law it
would serve as very firm foundations for just an upright and equitable society. And we saw evidence of that in Medina. During the time of the prophets of the law, it was some of them and there
with the earliest companions of the a lot more. And that's what this sort of speaks.
This aura is about
it's not so much about law.
do's and don'ts. Hello, Adam. Hello, Rob, it's about ethics. It's about respect. It's about justice. It's about recognizing one's limits and boundaries, when it comes to a lot of the Creator when it comes to the when it comes to creation, when it comes to
all of these topics have been covered in detail and inshallah we will continue to learn more as we proceed.
So the best way we stopped was when Laura mines Is that what you bought it for? Me, Nina that?
First of all, we know
that if two groups of believers fan
and that means actual without actual physical violence conflict,
then what should you do? This is what we covered
a lot then says in sort of number 10. And this is where we actually stopped or did part of the sort of investment button. This is where we stopped last panel with Allah says that despite two groups of believers,
quarreling, fighting, and being engaged in conflict to the extent that they take up arms against each other, despite all of this, do not forget that one, they remain Many believers. And that's why a lot of tellingly say is in the beginning of verse nine, what implied for them and then meaning
that if two groups of meaning of believers fine.
So that's point number one. The second point, never to forget, is despite their conflict, despite their taking up arms against each other. Last quarter, Allah says in the beginning of verse number 10, in them, I mean, all native
believers are but brothers amongst themselves, believers are but stubbornness.
They may fight, they may quarrel, they may even take bonds against each other. But they are like one fact.
As human beings, we are very important.
And that means we argue we fall out with one another that we disagree with one another. We disagree strongly, even violently at times with one another. But
the same blood runs through our veins. We are one family.
And what binds us what joins us what unites us
is far more and far greater than what divides us.
So Allah reminds us again in them and normally
the believers our butts, brothers, and I spoke about the topic of brotherhood in the final previous session. So I won't repeat any of that. But here last things in the middle men on the believers, our butts, breathers for us little been at Hawaii, therefore reconcile your two brothers.
If two people are fight,
then reconcile the two. If two whole groups are fight, they still remain believers and they still remain brothers, and they remain your brothers. Therefore make an attempt
to reconcile it. Think of yourself as one faculty. And like any one family of blood relatives of siblings, people find
is that any family that does not find? Yes, some fight more than others. But conflicts as part of human nature is one of the facts of life.
We find ourselves as I keep him saying, forget agreeing with someone else. We are in conflict with ourselves. We disagree with ourselves. We can never agree with ourselves.
One day, we feel one way the next day we feel another way.
One day we have one opinion sometime later, we'll have another opinion. There's no guarantee that that opinion won't change.
So one of the best ways of breaking our arrogance, and of coming to terms with people disagreeing with us is to ask ourselves a question. At which point do you want them to agree with you?
Do you want them to agree with you as you are man?
Or as you thought and believed in a pound a week ago?
what you thought and believed and held opinions a year ago
As you will hold another opinion a year from now. So at which point do you want people to agree with you,
when you yourself
are forever changing in your opinions and your thoughts and your feelings.
So it's the height of arrogance to expect people the whole world to move with you, the universe to chime in and to synchronize itself with you that you are the center of the universe. If you are happy, everyone else should be happy. If you hold one opinion, everyone else should hold the same opinion.
We don't agree with ourselves.
Speaking of that, there's one scholar, he remained with his teacher for a long time in his company serving Him, studying with him learning with him.
And then, when he finally departed to return home, this was one of the
will allow the earlier period
as he was departing, the he was a scholar in his own writings.
But when he bid farewell, and he sought leave of his grand teacher,
he said to him any parting advice?
So the teacher scholar said to him, what advice can I get?
So he insisted, no share
any parting advice, any advice? The teacher said to him, my only words of advice to you are, do not be God and do not be a message
Do not be God and do not be a messenger.
So he said, Subhana Allah, What is that supposed to me?
She said, when you leave from here,
do not expect
that everything will be as you want.
Only Allah has that right?
Do not expect everything to be as you want.
Only a law has that.
So do not be God.
And to do not be a message.
Only a messenger has the right to expect his people to follow and obey.
And you are not a message. So people will oppose you.
People will disagree with you and disobeyed.
So these are my two words of advice. Do not be God and do not be a message.
So we don't agree with ourselves.
Despite our disagreements, despite our conflict, we should never forget that we are wrong.
And therefore lassies fell asleep Rubino awaken, therefore reconcile your two brothers even though they may be warring?
And if I can our own families if we see two siblings, sister, brother or sister fighting with each other?
Do we just ignore them?
Or if it's in our ability,
don't we make some effort to bring about peace, harmony and reconciliation between
because if their problem is left to fester,
it will only grow and it may actually come back and bite us, it will affect us. So to the best of our ability, circumstances permitting, we are concerned and we make an effort. So the same concern and effort should be seen when it comes to the wider family of the marvelous Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as Allah says, believers are but brothers, therefore reconcile your two brothers who may not have a
mother in law
and be wary of law.
Perhaps you may receive
this final part of verse 10.
Say so much.
Law says what the law Be wary of
wish to realize true brother
if you wish to exercise that brother,
if you wish to see the beautiful effects of brotherhood and sister
if you wish to behave and live and be as a family of believers, than this can only be achieved with that.
If there is no taqwa they cannot be true.
If you wish to realize the same color that law speaks on, then it can only be achieved with
the code changes everything
that overcomes our weaknesses,
prevents the worst and brings about brings out the best
overrides our basic instincts.
undesirable reasons which lead to conflict are actually overcome by
and taqwa is not just the fear of a love as part of that one means awareness of loss.
being fearful of a law, being wary of a law, guarding oneself from largest displeasure. And being constantly conscious of a law has a job. That's the meaning of if someone has that
it will go
a long way, in helping that person, be a believing brother.
and act like a believer
and realize that ideal of brother.
And if two people have thought,
then that their level of true love.
And it does happen this How about the love, demonstrate this beat. And I gave many examples.
And there are countless examples of how this how that'll be allowed to truly live life.
And that was because of so on last season, but the law and be wary of law.
It's not just a random comment at the end of the verse, it's related to brotherhood.
Be wary of law, learn looking for her moon, perhaps you may receive mercy. This is a second thing.
Which means that how should believers
behave amongst themselves? How should family members be with each other? How should brothers live with each other
with compassion, and mercy, with forgiveness,
without forgiveness, without toleration, without compassion,
without overlooking, we have to overlook things every day.
Otherwise, we will not be able to survive.
A husband and wife
a husband and wife cannot truly survive in a marriage without overlooking
as a lot whole season sort of the moon, for the Apple will yes for him and to him in your federal law, local law.
And that was in relation to a worker acidic or the alarm, who had questioned he had every right to feel indignant and angry.
Mr. One of his relatives who he had maintained and provided for who actually survived on the charity and the donations and the maintenance of his elderly relatives and we'll look at a severe cut of the alarm rang.
He repaid all of that kindness by repeating false rumors about the daughter of a worker of the law. So in his anger workers to deal with the alarm said by law
I will never spend a single again
So Allah subhanho wa Taala reveals fers when I thought it would have resulted in medical massage and up to about one Misaki in Omaha Gina feasibly. Well, yeah for the
love of food.
Law says and let's not those of bounds
and wealth meaning
But they will not give
and see the way Allah
The language is beautiful language means so much, which Be careful on what we say and how we say it. That famous story about some anecdotes with it's a true one more Leviathan. But we've always heard it from our elders that in the olden days, there was a king, who saw a dream that all of his teeth fell out.
So he's quite startled. In the morning, he summoned his interpreters, and
scholars of the court.
And he said, I saw a drink, in which all of my teeth fell.
So what's the interpretation?
So one scholar said,
you might just
unfortunately, in your lifetime, you will witness the death of all of your relatives.
So he was already startled as it was, and now he was angry and shocked to find a way to punish.
And he sought another interpretation
is that again, who will give me the correct interpretation, I saw a dream that all of my teeth fell out. So another scholar said, Your Majesty, of all your relatives, usual enjoy the longest life,
just a reward.
So one on the same thing, but the choice of words, the language.
last panel with Anna doesn't say, Let not abubaker or let not the people of wealth and riches and bounty, refuse to give to those who have heard
or refuse to give to those who have slammed their family, or refuse to give to those who have been ungrateful for their charity in their kindness. A lot does not mention a single negative point about Mr.
The law says, Let not the people of bounty and wealth refuse to give
the relatives a law reminds a worker of the law firm, that forget everything else, he is your Revit
one Misaki and to the poor, Allah reminds abubaker all the time, and to not think anything outside of him. Remember that one he is your relative to he is poor.
And thirdly, Allah sees one more hygiene effusively and to the immigrants in the way of law. Obama. Forget his insult, forget his ingratitude. Forget his laps, forgets his mistakes and errors. Remember that one he is your relative to he is needy, important. Number three, the greatest of all things when we're hygiene a piece of Eden. He is one of those who did a hedgerow Han emigrated in the way of Allah.
So Allah does not mention a single negative point. Allah law only reminds back of the law firm of all the good points and all the redeeming qualities of Mr. The same one who had insulted him and his family, who had been extremely ungrateful.
Who have repaid charity kindness and favor with
sort of love and says well, the Apple will you let them forgive and let them overlook and excuse
allow you for a law.
do not wish that a life gives you your sins and a life's most forgiving, Most Merciful. Whenever what could be your loved one heard this verse He wept, he shed tears. It was very soft.
And he instantly said he matched his earlier words and he contrasted them before he said by a lot, I will never spend a single bit on Mr. till the day I die. When he heard this verse, He wept and he said by Allah till the day I die, I will never withhold a single bedroom from this.
And that was someone who hurt.
So when it comes to brothers when it comes to sisters when it comes to siblings, family, parents, children, when it comes to our spouses, we cannot survive. We cannot live
meaningful life, without compassion without forgiveness without overlooking. So, this is the way you people should be with each of the family should be with each other. So, as I said earlier looking to whom perhaps you may receive mercy, how should How should believe is lived amongst themselves
with forgiveness, with compassion, with with mercy, if you live by the law and you live by Rama, then Allah subhanho wa Taala himself would miss for torch.
How can you expect mercy and Ratna from Allah when you have no recommend compassion for one another?
We have a tradition in knowledge which is that
they are known as a heavy thermal sensor
how about the law
relate to certain heading to their students and they to their students. And that is something which is always copied. There's something unique at every link of the chain.
For instance, I had either blog in which I'm delighted now birth of the librarian whom I relates
that property to law legal alayhi wa sallam when he would meet to the gibreel alayhis salaam
and gibreel alayhis salaam would recite the Quran to him
gibreel the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his eagerness and desire to catch the words of God and he would move his lips along with us all along with God letting them sort of sort of lost the love language to them in his desire and enthusiasm to catch the words of God and not to miss any of them from God. He would repeat the words under his breath but move his lips
so last panel with Anna told him
what are tangible or animal appear in your
kidney Hillman do not hasten with the or
before it's revelations completed to another verse
that heavily healer sonically
in Marlena Jamal
but do not move your tongue
in order to haste them with the poor.
So remember how it relates to love the man who describes the meaning of these verses, and he says that the prophets of the love it who sent them out of fear that the words of the orang would escape him. He would recite the order and along with jabril ella his Saran move his lips so Allah told him not. So then the Latin Ambassador the lover infamous said and I move mind
just as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to move his lips and then Abdullah nobis of the love Imam, he would silently demonstrate to his genes and to all of his listeners that this is how the messenger Salalah it would move his lips.
Now that heavy
when history agents would relate the Hadith to those who came after them, they did the same. And their students did the same with their students all the way down to all of the teachers from whom I have heard this hadith they did exactly what I'm delighted members of the alarm I come at it with a continuous chain. So the I've done it for you. Now this is what we These are what we call a heavy thermal sensor, the chain narrations. So the first chain narration which most students have had eventually here is urashima.
Memphis, these are the first often this is a first chain the heavy, which we which students hear from their teachers, and the meaning of the head ethers urashima omega hammer,
the Compassionate ones.
The Compassionate One is merciful towards
helping them fill up. Be merciful towards those who are on earth.
He who is in heaven shall be merciful torch.
So what law, law look into, and be wary of law, perhaps you may receive mercy. These aren't just random words.
At the end of this verse, they are connected to a whole one brotherhood, that if you wish to realize brotherhood, first of all, be wary of alarm exercise.
Number two, if you wish to receive the mercy of ally yourselves, and live like brothers with compassion and mercy, and towards each other.
Moving on to the next verse, verse number 11. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Yeah, you're
all believers now. Yes. Amen. Amen. So
let's not a group of people, mock
another group of people,
lest they be better than that.
One undersell Minnesota in a certain year.
And let's not a group of women, mock another group of women, lest they be better than that.
What are the Muslim forces?
And do not talking to yourselves do not defend yourselves what are their neighbors
and do not talk to each other with offensive tight
bits and listen for super bad and
evil is the name of sin after faith or Muslim get to
the moon and whoever does not repent, then the
they are the
they are the wrong
this is verse 11.
I'll comment on just this verse for today.
last panel with Anna mentions three major sins
in this verse
way to kill
giving one another offensive names and calling out to one another with offensive tight
now all three of these are seen
so the first one Allah says let's not unbelievers, let's not a group of men, less lots of group of people.
mock another group of people less they'd be better than
laughing at others scoffing deriding
making fun of
poking fun at the laughing at the making a joke after all of this is a harangue.
There are no ifs or buts there are no two ways about it. All of this is how
comedy does not make it harder.
To say that I'm only joking, does not make it any better or
wanting to be laughed at others.
Why do we make fun of others?
Often this is a result of
low self esteem, deep insecurity.
Person personal fears, projection.
This is one of the most famous explanations of psychologists that why do we even children,
little children barely have understanding of things when they see someone else tripping over
or getting into trouble. Even infants they laugh and joke and point at one another to invite one another's glances to make a spectacle of the other person. Why do children,
children, adults, we all do.
So what's the psychological explanation now there's a myriad of explanations, deep insecurity, projection of fears, distraction deflection.
We won't go into any
but the properties of the law Heidi
One major cause
when a person is Eric
when a person feels that they are superior,
they are in title.
Then they look down on others and hold others in contempt derived.
Now one may ask
how do these two explanations square? On the one hand, people believe that laughing at others scoffing at them, mocking them ridiculing
all of this as a result of deep insecurities, and low self esteem.
And yet on the other hand, we are also saying that this is a result of arrogance. How do the two square what as I've mentioned in my talk and arrogance, ultimately, arrogance itself, is itself a result of low self esteem.
arrogance is masking one's weakness, one's
insecurity, one's loneliness.
Someone who is confident has no need to be arrogant.
So when a person thinks good of themselves, thinks they are special, superior, more worthy and they will look down on others hold them in contempt derived.
That is Eric.
And he wanted me the others that all relate
from Abdullah in school there'll be a line
he says that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
but never does a person
never will a person and to jump.
In whose hearts there is.
an atom's weight,
of arrogance of approach
and never will a person into the fire.
In whose heart there is an atom's weight of any man faith.
So one of the meanings of the truth is that he man and Gibbon don't go together.
They just cannot go together.
So one of the listeners said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Yasuda, Allah or messenger of Allah, he was actually quite handsome.
So he said, O Messenger of Allah.
Allah has blessed me with handsomeness. As you can see.
This is not the wording of Muslim but it's the wording of other collections of heavy
that law has blessed me with beauty as you can see.
And I like my clothes to be good and beautiful. And I like my shoes to be good and beautiful. Is this good? Is this pride and arrogance or messenger of Allah? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said this is not pride and arrogance. In the Law of Demeter
lies beautiful. He loves beauty,
but rather pride and arrogance. What are they have given birth
to mass, gay pride and arrogance are the defiance of the truth and the derision of pain.
When a person defies the truth, and refuses to accept, despite its obvious, and number two, a lump of mass a person derives the people and holds them in contempt. When a person considers anyone else to be beneath them. They derive them. They hold them in contempt. This is pride and arrogance. Not looking good.
And this is why a person can pride
is not just in speech. And it's not just in presentation.
Just because a person dresses well.
You can't say he's arrogant. Just because a person drives a good car. You can't say he is arrogant.
judging them and calling them arrogant is arrogance itself.
Who gives you the right to judge them
Do you know what their hearts contain? And hear the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says it clearly.
The man said O Messenger of Allah, Allah has blessed me with beat. He actually said that to the prophets of Allah it was similar. That law has blessed me with beauty as you can see.
So he was hands. He needed his hands. People told him he was hands. And he said to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi Salaam, our messenger of Allah, Allah has blessed me with beauty as you can see.
And I like my clothes to be beautiful, and I like my shoes to be beautiful, even down to his sandals, his narrative, his sandals.
He says, I even like my sandals to be beautiful is this arrogance, messenger of Allah, Allah and he has some sadness.
So a person might be poorly dressed, shuffling along, with head bowed down, speaking softly.
And yet, his heart and mind may be filled with pride. And it may not be the pride of wealth, it may not be the pride of good clothing, it may not be the pride of material possessions, that it may be the pride and the arrogance and the sense of superiority in piety that is happens
when we judge others, our judging others and labeling others as being arrogant as itself Eric
when a purse How does it what's given the profits in the long run isn't himself said looking good is not necessarily arrogance. Dressing well is not necessarily arrogance, even having beautiful shoes
is not necessarily out.
So we should stop commenting on people's shoes to
Rather than looking at other people's shoes and commenting on them, we should look at ourselves,
our judgments, our judgmental behavior, our labeling. All of these things are reflections of our own pride.
So that's good. When you hold people in contempt, when a person holds another in contempt, they are judgmental. And not only are they judgmental, they laugh at them they mock them they scoff.
And that's what last panel with the alphabets.
we think humor is sacred.
We think comedy is sacred.
We think satire is sacred.
when it comes to satire, not one is sacred and holy satire itself is sacred. satire has the right and we and people have the right to satirize, to scoff, to mock to and to ridiculed and to poke fun of any woman anything. Beat God beat God's messengers
beat anyone else.
A lotto tells us satire is not safe.
People are saying
satire is not sacred. People's dignity is sacred.
People's honor is sacred.
People's self worth is sacred. Not something
that doesn't mean Islam is bland.
And he has and dry
and overly serious
and that the believer should be a dreary alot now, but
if you wish to poke fun, poke fun at yourselves. Why does it always have to be someone else's mothering?
Or why does it always have to be someone else, including God and God's Messenger? Subhana Allah when it comes to you?
Nobody can mock you. Nobody can criticize you. Nobody can poke fun at you. Nobody can even question you. But you have some right self given right to mock everyone and everything including garden is messengers, including others.
So we've elevated comedy human satire
And in the process, we rob everyone else of their self worth and dignity.
along his messengers, little alarm and even some of them
have taught us
the people's dignity is sacred.
People's self worth is sacred, do not violate.
No one gives anyone the right to punch another in the face for no reason.
That's recognized as physical assault, and in laws all over the world.
In all societies,
and in all religions.
People recognize that a person has bled a person's property, a person's life, a person's body, a person's physique, a person's physical well being, all of these are sacrosanct, that cannot be violated.
And if they are, there will be consequences.
They will be punished.
only until recently and it's still an evolving process.
Very few laws very few societies recognize
the harmful nature
and the prohibition of
variable abuse of mental abuse or emotional abuse.
And it's only now through psychology and the study of the mind
that we are beginning to realize the extremely harmful effects of verbal emotional and mental abuse, which far surpasses
the detrimental effects of even physical abuse.
But law is also the law it was sent him have told us this centuries, from the very beginning, and the Hadeeth have taught us
that just as physical abuse is hard.
In one way, or the athletes by Muslim Hardy and others, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says suburban Muslim for Sue or cough,
to abuse and this is a sin
and to fight within his disbelief.
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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said indeed one of the greatest of the major sin.
He didn't just say a sin. He didn't just say a major sin. He didn't just say a great sin. He said, Indeed, one of the greatest of the major sins is that a man abuses his own father and
his own parents. So this harbottle the alarm or even said the law How can a man abuse and curse his own parents? So the prophets of the law it was seldom said, a man abuses the father of another man. So he in retaliation, abuses his father, and
what does he tell His Prophet sallallahu wasallam tells us that by being the first abuse another person's father, he becomes ultimately he becomes a cause of his own parents being cursed and abused.
And he is sinful for
verbal abuse is a major sin. swearing someone else is a sin. taunting is a sin. And all of these three sins mentioned in this verse are nothing to do with violence, or the body or blood or wealth or property. They are all to do with the tongue and with another person's
mouth mocking another Is
it true lives.
And how does the law describe it? Oh, believers, let not a group of you mock another group less. They be better than their meaning the ones who are mocking be worse than the ones who are being mocked and the ones who are being mocked are better in the sight of Allah than the ones who are scoffing at them and lucky
once prophets alarm it was some
Seated against bamboo hardiness he invite others including among determine the another's
profits alarm it was the normal seat of the couple of the groups have out of the alarm. A man walked past was one of that shuffle mean and one of the mobility. So a nobleman walked past prophets in the law, it will send them set to this habit of the alarm. What do you think of
this? How about the lover who said how about this one? How do you
want each different in
When you bother and use my
messenger of Allah, this is a man
who is so highly regard
that if he wants to propose someone to someone for marriage, he would be married.
If he was to intercede on behalf of another, his intercession would be accepted.
And if he wants to say something, then his Word will be listened to and obey
prophets the law it was said and remain silent. Another person went past who wasn't one of the nobility, prophets of the law, it was seldom said on what do you think of this purse?
So this is the artist sort of law. How about this one? How do you
what you suffer and now you suffer, we're in honor Elias murder. He is such that if he was to propose he would never get
and if he was to intercede on behalf of someone else's intercession would never be accepted. And if he was to say something, no one would have listened.
So the profits that have allowed him suddenly Sallam said, this one,
he is better than a world filled with the likes of the other.
This one, he is better than the world and a world filled with the likes of the other.
In the province of the law, it says that there are many who are
disheveled and unkempt, in appearance, covered in dust, driven away from the doors.
Meaning people hold them in contempt. He opened the door, take one look at them, and slam the door shut in their faces. That's the meaning of the hidden because they open the door. So who is this unkempt hair,
disheveled appearance, covered in dust, some poor lowly individual.
The province of the law says that all those who are disheveled and can't covered in dust driven from the doors, but who are such low ups the Maratha law in Burma, that if he was to swear In the name of Allah, Allah would not allow his oath to go unfulfilled.
Because they hold such a position with
so we should be extremely careful. We do not know the state of a person's heart. A person could be poor, a person could be rich. A person could be wealthy a person could be powerful a person could be lonely or weak and meek. We do not know anyone's condition. If we mock someone that is a great danger that we are ridiculing, scoffing at and mocking someone who is held in great esteem by lost
in front of last names.
that there is no messenger.
My finger rasulillah can be used as a mighty human being can be used. But there was never a messenger except that they would mock and ridicule him. There was never a prophet, except that they would mock and ridicule him. In fact,
mockery, ridiculing poking fun laughing at others. This has always been the trait in the Quran.
described in the Quran as being a trait of those who oppose the messengers of
the opponents of the messengers of Allah. Were the ones mocked, ridiculed the Prophet Mohammed Hassan all the other prophets of Allah saying, no messenger came except that he was ridiculed. No messenger nonprofits ever came, except that he was mocked
and truth is often not first rejected, then ridiculed, then tolerated and then finally accept.
And during the time of the problem, some of the law writing will send them in Makkah, his opponents Martin
They would find every reason to poke fun at
and a curse individual.
When will gel and his cronies sat around the Kava
and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam kings praise Allah again another headache later Abdullah, literally Allah horn,
a she camel had just recently given birth.
So Buddha said to his cronies of all staring at the prophets of the love, it was in informing his summer in the motto of the gardener.
And he said, which one of you will go and fetch the amniotic sac and the after birth of the she camel of such and such a family that has just given birth.
So the most skip despicable and the unworthy one of the whole group, he rose, and he went to fetch the amniotic sac.
And who was that?
He went, collected the afterbirth of the sheep cattle with all this
blood and gore. And he came and as a journalist suggested who would go and get it and dump it on the back room.
So he came and he dumped it on the back of us all lots of love. It was seldom when he was in frustration.
It was so heavy
that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam could not rise from his such delight at school that at the lower end of essays I was in the mythos. But this was in the early days of Islam. So he said, I was helpless. And I couldn't do anything.
So momentum inform the family of the province of the law, it will send them so far the model the law, was a young child, she came and began screaming at and abusing the group of cronies, the aurash. But prior to her arrival, when he dumped will be my dumb, amniotic sac on the back of the School of Law. So the law was in them, what did they all do? They all fell over laughing and poking each other and pointing at the messengers and the law, it was yet alarmism as a last as of others in the Quran, that when they would wait our model,
that when these opponents of the believers would pass by them, what would they do? They would wink at each other and poke one another pointing at the believers. So it will gel up with the NaVi marine and his group of cronies. They, when they saw the spectacle, they weren't nudging each other winking at each of the product, each of them pointing out the profits in the lab, it was laughing and falling over in their loft.
Until Falcon model, the alarm came, pushed it off. And then she stood there, abusing them, and loving them. I saw there'll be a law that says the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam rose, he raised his noble hands. And he prayed to Allah that Allah sees and he named every single one of them who was there over last season
of the law. The law says by a law every one of them I saw fallen in the well.
It took years for the drama to do I was accepted. But the manifestation of the acceptance of that was many years late. But mocking, ridiculing scoffing, laughing in Makkah, before the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam this was the tradition of the opponents of the messengers
during the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. This was a tradition, all his opponents and adversaries amongst the court Ah, in Medina.
in Medina, this was the custom of the hypocrites.
Allah says in Surah Baqarah
that when they meet with the believers,
they say we have believed along with you, we are believers just like you that Allah says, what you that Hello Ella shell Dini.
And when they retreat to their devils, to their like minded devils, they say to them, don't worry, we are with you. In Amsterdam. We are merely joke.
This was always the tradition they would always joke poke fun, laugh.
poking fun at one another. And
people love poke
That's not to say that people should poke fun at others. And not at all. No.
But it seems to be a running joke.
Someone quoted a story to me.
And this was actually, this took place in a conference.
they stood up.
And they said that people often accuse Muslims of being humorless. I'm paraphrasing, but we don't joke we don't laugh. So I'll tell you it.
So the joke is that any man
went to someone's house to ask for their daughter's hand in marriage.
So as is traditional in our culture, the women were seated in the other room,
the men in the front room.
So the father
of the girl was questioning this man.
And he said to him, so do you have a job?
She said now
insha Allah, Allah will provide
Do you have any income?
No insha Allah Allah
Do you have any savings?
said no insha Allah lol.
So he questioned him further along these lines.
And the man would simply say inshallah Lower,
lower provide a lower
no job, no assets, no house, no income.
So how will you look after my daughter? How will you how's my daughter inshallah Allah will provide? The father then comes into the room. Now, I'm only quote, the father comes into the room, and the mother of the girl eagerly and excitedly asks him so What's the news? What do you think?
She said, good news and bad news. So what do you want to hear first, the good news or the bad news? Is that okay, give us the bad news. Well, the bad news is that he's a poor boy
No job no income, no assets, no home. Absolutely nothing
is a pauper.
So the mothers then said, well, what's the good news? She said, the good news is that he thinks I'm God.
He thinks and God now is this the only example of Muslim humor that we could offer to others
others may not see this as some may see it as being very funny but I don't see it as a good example for the following reasons and more
Do you know last
masala hain I mean, Eva de como, Mr. equal?
And Mary, meaning marry off
those who are unmarried amongst you
and the pious ones amongst your
men and means
a lot and saves.
Why was this verse reveal because people were reluctant to marry each other and get married because of the fear of poverty, and that he's penniless. He's a poor, he doesn't have anything so the verse
Allah subhanho wa Taala sees in your goon for euthanasia, allow me for the day, if they are poor, then allow will enrich them through his band.
This is why the Sahaba of the alarm, including Uber, Casa de la vida, de la Juan and others used to say if a person seeks riches and lets him seek which is through marriage,
marry, and Allah has promised in the order that Allah will enrich you through your spouse. It doesn't mean you'll become a millionaire.
But through the Baraka of marriage, last panel with the IRA will motivate you inspire you enable you
to be able to provide for yourself and your family.
And there are many reasons
I was saying that seemed to be the butterball jokes, Imams and Alana. Let me relate the narration to your Hadith related Imam poverty in his seed and in his other works with an authentic chain.
Alas, Pamela with the other cities in the
And if you ask them, they they will surely say in reply in America and
we will only
doubling in jest and play meaning we were only joke
to say to them or messenger of Allah. I've been
was going to
say, what were you joking with Allah and His songs and His Messenger
do not offer any excuses.
You have disbelieved after faith.
not the life
journey, even if we excuse a group monster you wish or punish a group amongst you because they were criminally insane for of course, there's a lot of background to this first, so But the interesting thing here is, what does this relate
to law relates the incidents in connection with this first what had happened is that one of the hypocrites like I said in Macau, the opponents of the province of the love and isn't was their customer to laugh, to mock to joke to poke fun. And in Medina, he was a customer the hypocrites to do the same
as what they would always do, even in the early years and later, he is some one occasion in the campaign of the book, or before the campaign of the book.
What round about that time?
One of the one of them said to the Prophet said to another Sahabi, of the law horn, he said,
What is the story with our aura?
And what did he mean by aura the plural of
amongst us How about the alarm? Today when we say body, we mean someone or recite. But during the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the Sahaba of the Ummah, even after he passed away, the word rd and its pleura oughterard, did not refer to reciters. It referred to Alana,
since the most knowledgeable, were the ones who had the most knowledge of the poor, and they will refer to as Follies. And
so when the Sahaba de la Han, who would use the word Adi and or are they meant that within the learner, not just simply the responses. So this person said to the other that what's the story without order our meaning without dilemma?
They have the most desirous of stomachs, meaning they love their food.
And yet they are the most cowardly.
And then he said a few other things to disparage them.
And he was speaking about that with Emma, and the overall of the Sahaba of the law.
since not all of the Sahaba of the alarm, of course, they were all learned. But there were some amongst them who were
supreme in their element in their knowledge. And they were regarded as that would amount to hover around amongst
mocks companions. So when the Sahaba you'd only allow her and heard what this person had to say. He said to him, how dare you, I shall go and complain to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam what what you have just said, and all he had said was that what's the story with our older man, our
most desirous of stomachs, and the most cowardly of the people.
That's all he had said. And one more thing again about the old man, nothing more
He didn't say anything about Allah. He didn't say anything about the verses of the Quran. He didn't say anything about the messenger sallallahu wasallam
so this habit of the alarm went and complained to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
that person went after him later.
And he grabbed the reins of the Prophet some of the love it was some of them pleading and making excuses. And he was saying to the messenger, Scylla love it or some of them.
In America man who the winner lab, we were only joking.
We were only engaging indulging in jest and play. And the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was saying and reply to him exactly what Allah had mentioned to him,
say to them, I've been lucky to hear what I saw. He couldn't
say, Do you joke with Allah and His messenger and His signs? Now I related all of this because nowhere did that person speak of Allah, or the message, or the verses of the Quran. He only spoke about the Quran and the rollout of this habit.
So why does Allah say and why did the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say to him, Do you mock? And do you joke with Allah and His signs and His messenger? The reason is, we honor people because of their connection. And we often ridicule people because of their connection.
We honor people because of their religion, because of their knowledge because of their connection there pints. And sometimes when we mock people, we do so because of their connection.
So we have to be extremely careful
that that person mocked the aura of the Sahaba of the alarm, and that
but because he did not mock Allah and His messenger or the verses of the Quran, or the signs of Allah, but because these are our connected to the origin, and these are all animals, the companions were connected to the enemy of Allah subhanho wa
Taala loves the warm the messenger sort of alarm I need to sort of warm that ultimately, and in effect, you are mocking Allah and His messenger and the signs
and the verse.
Now, none of what I have said, Is any suggestion that aura the people of the people of the urn or religious people
they should be aloof
from being mocked? No.
I'm not saying
anything of the sort. All I'm doing is commenting on the verse of the Quran in which Allah makes it forbidden for any one of us man or woman to mock and ridicule any man or woman.
I'm delighted I'm a screw. There'll be a lot more in the essays
in companion who we've heard a lot of today, he says, and he was one of the law he was one of the amount of the Sahaba
he was alive and Masuda the alarm says, I fear
even mocking a dog lest I be turned into a talk that was given in Moscow. That'll be a la
la la narrates from me in a Chateau de la.
That was moving in shadow the a lot more in her. What she did is that she said to the prophets in the LA and he was saying she was speaking of Sofia de la.
The other way, she said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Yasuda law. As far as Sophia is concerned. All you need to know is this. And she pointed to the humans even say the word she said, mean Sophia to cover that all you need to know about Sophia is this. And she pointed with her hands.
Not even saying a word but simply signaling
about the height of Sophia or the alarm rang her she was slightly short.
So the alarm is set to the province and the lobbyist or messenger of Allah hospital come in Sofia.
But all you need to know about Sofia is this, that she's short. You know what the province and lilavati of Sims replied to her was, he said, Oh,
you have uttered a word. She never said anything. She merely said. And he said you have uttered a word, which if that one word was mixed with
The waters of the oceans it would dilute
an area shuttle de la Marina continues to say that once in the gate
I imitated some you know how we copy someone we imitate someone.
She said I imitated someone before the messenger, some of the law might equal some of them. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Oh,
I would never imitate anyone. Even if I was given so much, so much so much wealth in return.
I would never imitate anyone. Because why do we imitate people in order to mock
him I'm harder to learn he had a
he wants to relate to the heavy. Someone asked him about a heading.
And you know how sometimes when we marvel at something when we are shocked and pleasant surprise.
And we make
we signal with our hands, we motion with our hands, we make strange gestures.
One of them is wahala. You
rock your head and you gesture with your hands. So once a man will direct you to learn.
He relates to the heading
in response to a question.
He was like a computer.
So when he came out of the heavy, someone who was sitting in front of him, he marveled at the genius and the quick response in the intelligence of a mammal Hardy, Diller Healy, so he rocks his head and made gestures with his hands. So emammal highly likely to lie there. Since he was sitting right in front of him. He was taken aback, he didn't laugh, but he's smarter
than he realized. And later, he approached him. And he said, I wish to seek forgiveness from you.
And I want you to make something Hello. For me. This is a phrase that the Arabs used to use, quite simply that if I have wronged you, than I am indebted to you.
So I want you to free me of that debt. And they used to use the phrase make me holla.
So he said to him, I want you to make me Hello.
I want to be in a state of Hello from you. Just one why, man, what's happened? So he said, when I relate to that had Ethan you were there. And you marveled at my narration of the Hadees. And you began gesturing with your head and your hands. I found that funny.
So I smiled, he didn't laugh. He smiled. So he said, I shouldn't have done that. And in a way it's mocking you, and therefore I seek your forgiveness.
Thanks so much that can be said on this topic.
mocking, ridiculing deriding others, making fun of them poking fun at them is completely wrong.
And I'll end with this and I'll continue with the remainder of the verse next week. Just as a final reminder, last, here's our believers, let's not a group of you mock another group, lest they be better than that. And let's not a group of women amongst you mock another group of women, less they be better than
Sophia, mockery, scoffing, poking fun making fun of others, ridiculing all of these
comedy is entirely permissible here is entirely permissible. We should know our limits.
Freedom has its limits. Humor has its limits. satire has its limits.
And comedy human are all welcome in Islam, provided they do not violate the boundaries of another person. And they do not violate the sanctity of another person's dignity.
I end with this or some of the levels of the murder after he was sold in the Vietnam humid water. He also in a lot more commercial