Envy- The Inferno Within Part 3

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Bismillah

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Rahim

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salam ala to lie

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my bag of firewood we love him in a shape on a regime Smilla Rahmanir Rahim in the law home at ICA who is known to be your Latina and also rally he was selling its

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Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina Muhammad in the BU to me was the he was semblance.

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Respect to lessons

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we continue with the

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topic of hassad envy.

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Today in sha Allah will be the final part.

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I've already spoken on this in some detail over the past two sessions

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as I've explained

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last panel with Anna

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and his little soul Sall Allahu alayhi wa salam have

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warned us against Hassard envy. I have both condemned it.

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Allahu Allah, Allah it was salam have condemned Hassard and warned as against it. And I've already explained many of the dangers from the Quran and the Hadith.

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In the last session, I was explaining how hesed is a fire,

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how it burns a person from within,

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before your hands and someone else

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mentioned a few poems.

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And

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I reminded us that hazard makes no sense envy hazard makes no sense. It's illogical. It's irrational. It's unproductive, it doesn't achieve anything.

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And

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the prophets of Allah Halley, he must have spoken of hesed as being fire. Poets have spoken of hesed as being a fire.

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It's disruptive.

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Hazard leads to

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intense rage within which consumes a person robs them of their sanity of the sleep

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of their peace and tranquility and serenity.

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It's self inflicted punishment. It truly is. It's a wound.

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One wise person said that hustle and hustle the Jura one laborer.

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hazard is a wound which festers

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and which never heals.

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And then he continues to say, what has said we'll have sue them I'll call meaning. It's punishment enough for the envious person what he actually feels and faces and experiences himself.

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That's punishment enough.

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So forget the punishment in the earth. The punishment in the dunya, which he inflicts on himself or herself, is bad enough.

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I mentioned before the Imam has someone bustling around to learn he really

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he.

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Others have actually said the same thing but one of the people to whom this statement is attributed as a mammal has someone buslee Rahim Allah and he said that Mara eat the volume and a Shiba Habima groom him in hassad. Now for Sunday in Herzen allows him or Abra to Latin fit.

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He said, I've never seen a tyrant and oppressor a wrongdoer

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who is actually more like the victim.

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So I've never seen an oppressor

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actually more like have more likely oppressed. I've never seen

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A tyrant

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actually more like a victim

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than an envious person, ie that if you look at an envious person, in reality, the envious person is the aggressor.

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And the end it is his victim.

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The envious person is the tyrant. He's the one who's been tyrannical.

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And the victim of his envy is the victim is the oppressed one.

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He should be the one who's suffering.

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The envious person has a wrongdoer. Clearly, and the victim of his envy is innocent.

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And yet, more than the innocent, envied person, the envier, the aggressor, the oppressor appears to be the great evict. Why, because if you look at him, and he describes him with these three phrases NEFA, Sunda in prison allows him or Abra to Latin fell, meaning

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nacinda in endless size,

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endless sun.

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So the envious person is always looking at the other,

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the object of his envy, and is always heaving.

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Great sounds

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taking in long breaths in exasperation, and frustration in agony and anguish.

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And the breathing doesn't help, so long sighs endless

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wasn't unless him instead inseparable, grief, constant grief.

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Why Britain Latin for and tears that never,

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never end in tears in separable grief, endless size, this is the burden that we envy or carries on himself or herself.

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Makes no sense whatsoever.

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One of the

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It's reported that one of the scholars met, a Bedouin

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was 120 years old.

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Now, this isn't far fetched, obviously, they would be counting in lunar years.

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So

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a few years younger, every approximately 33 years, you drop a year, so still 115 116 years. So he met a Bedouin, who was 120 years of age. So he said to him, what's your secrets?

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How have you lived so long?

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In his reply, he said,

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I abandoned the hesed anything, so I survived.

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It's good for the soul.

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To be at peace, give a pen

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doesn't achieve anything. Envy will never get you what you want.

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So it makes no sense neither from a religious perspective, or worldly perspective.

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It just doesn't make sense.

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In fact, envy can lead to great harm, it can lead you, of course and punish you and hurt you before anyone else be. If that envy incite you

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to aggression,

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to bad behavior, to actually harming and hurting the victim of your envy, then you are damned in the dunya and in the ark. And that happens of course, it's happened as I've given the explanations of the prophets of Allah whom innocent people who were the object of envy, use of Alayhis Salam suffered at the hands of his own blood brothers, and that was from a family of prophets.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam suffered the ill effects of envy on many occasions, and all the messengers of Allah were victims of envy.

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So,

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envy can incite a person to committing misdeeds, violence, harm, hurt, that can lead to crime, punishment in the dunya. It can lead to grave sin punishment in the earth.

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Truly, because you wish harm on the other person. Envy leads to shamatha. So even if you can't harm that person, what happens is you pray for harm to befall that person. That's exactly what Shimada is, which is a

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Chardon, Freud, gloating

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and feeling and expressing Glee and joy at the misfortune and suffering of others.

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And that's not the behavior of a believer, it's a behavior not of a Notman but a Vamana effect. As I explained before, Allah says describing the hypocrites in the Quran and addressing the Sahaba or the Allahu Anhu. In them Cisco has an agenda so when to sit can say year to year for who behalf

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that if good fortune meet you.

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So if Allah blesses you with a fave,

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and you meet good fortune,

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the sword whom it hurts them, it hurts the hypocrites, not the believers, it hurts the hypocrites.

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So we should ask ourselves when someone meets good fortune,

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are we happy or are we hurt? If we happy that's a sign of EMA.

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If we hurt, that's a sign of hypocrisy.

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And when misfortune befall some, when ill fortune afflicts them? Are we happy or are we hurt?

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Law told us how about have the love in them Cisco has the so if good fortune meets you, it hurts them.

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We're into symptoms a year to year phobia, and if a misfortune if a calamity befalls you, they rejoice that it is the Hippocrates the believers do not rejoice. When you are hurt, are companions of the Messenger of Allah. The true believers are.

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When you are afflicted by a misfortune or a calamity or calamity, they are hurt to, because they are believers.

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But

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the hypocrites are happy at your hurts, and are hurt at your happiness. So we need to ask ourselves truly, when we see someone else being happy, it could be for anything.

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A car, clothes, beauty handsomeness appearance, wealth, a hands a job or career or qualification? A good result?

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Attention absolutely anything.

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If we are happy at their happiness, that's a sign of Eman and faith. If we are hurt at their hurt, that's a sign of Eman and faith. If we are happier, they're hurt and hurt their happiness. That's hypocrisy. It truly is. That's how the hypocrites were at the time the messenger Salallahu Alaihe Salam, these are the traits of hypocrisy till the day of reckoning.

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And do you know why it's a sign of Eman?

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As I explained last week in madness that you have to learn how it relates Hadith from a war era huddle the Allah one.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said well I aged me around if you call me up the Lima and I will have said that two things do not merge. They do not coexist.

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They cannot come together in the heart of a servant

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Eman and acid faith and energy. And do you know why that is?

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And this is why I've sort of lost sight of Allah Almighty Who Selim says in a hadith later bamboo Hardy Muslim and others from an Asana man he called the Allahu and now you may not have your head but he he and I will NFC one of you cannot believe one of you does not believe one of you truly does not believe until he desires he loves for his brother that which he lives for himself.

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Do you know why Eman and Hassard cannot combine in a heart? It's very simple.

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Because a McMann believes that everything comes from Allah.

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So when if a Mothman believes in Allah,

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part of that Eman is that Allah gives to whom He wills withhold from whom He will.

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So if everything's from the bounty of Allah

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That's why Allah says

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when the rage objected

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to the prophethood of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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and their demand was that Why wasn't the Quran revealed to a great man from one of the two cities McCahon Bife what are all olam Zilla the Quran Allah Raja the minimum Corgi attaining Alene. They said Why wasn't the Quran revealed to a great man of the two cities?

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Allah's reply was a homework Simona Ramadan pick

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a homeopath Simona Arabic, what do they distribute the mercy of your law?

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Man awesome. Naveen, Aisha inherited dunya

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that a lot continues. I'll explain this verse again in a moment that what do they distribute the Mercy of your Lord?

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It's Allah's mercy. Its laws bounty, its laws grace. When the messengers were objected to that, why why? Why were they chosen by law? What are their jetsam is? Allah and not Mannahatta not the Mithila ma oto Rasul Allah, Allahu

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Allahu Salat.

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They said whenever a sign came to them, either former messengers and their peoples, the people said,

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We will not believe until we are given the lack of what these messengers have been given. So Allah's reply to them was also Allahu Allah Muhammad. Ali Salat. Allah knows best where to place his Prophet.

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Allah knows best, where to place his messenger Hood is prophethood Allah knows best who on whom he should bestow his mercy on whom He should grant, bestow His favors, to whom he should bestow to whom he should grant His mercy in favor, Allah knows best do we know what Allah

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Allah inhale formula B they love you d human Nisha Allahu ideen.

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Allah, the Federal rbwm, Allah says to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Quran, say, Indeed, bounty. Grace is in the hands of Allah. He gives it to whom he wills, and Allah has all bounds for all knowing.

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He makes exclusive His mercy for whom he wishes. And Allah is full of immense bound.

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Allah has one of Great Bounty. So this is a bounty of Allah. When a McMinn believes in Allah, he believes in the Mercy of Allah, the gifts of Allah, the bounties of Allah and most importantly, he believes in the wisdom of Allah and in the choice of Allah. He doesn't object to the choice.

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That's part of Eman that I believe in Allah. And I believe in the choice of Allah. So if Allah has given someone a car,

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why, and we believe

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that car that gift that wealth is actually part of my Iman Allah.

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That gift if Allah has given someone a gift, that gift to that person is actually part of my Eman.

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It's part of my faith.

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Because he hasn't acquired it himself

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was given it.

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Allah has chosen to get why should I object to the choice of Allah?

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You've argued even Allah, I believe in the choice. I believe in the selection of I believe in the Grace and Bounty and the bestowing of Allah.

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Simple.

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Once a pair this is why Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says Eman and hesed cannot combine and coexist in a heart of a servant because they are contradictory. You can't believe in Allah and be envious of someone

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just as Abdullah he must order the Allah Azza

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LA to Allah

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do not oppose Do not be enemies of the blessings of Allah. So his students have How can we be the enemies of the blessings of Allah?

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So he told them

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that those who objects and question object to and question the choice and the bestowing of Allah's favor, they are the enemies of the blessings of Allah.

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And he quoted the verse of the Quran in which Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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me so Dona NAS Allah atta who Lachman for today. What are they envious?

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Do they envy the people that which Allah has bestowed on them of his grace?

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So if a person envies anyone, the gift or the gifts that Allah has granted them they

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All by the testimony of Abdullah animus ruderal. The Allahu and enemies are the blessings of Allah. Simple, given all of this, it truly is

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easier, far better for the heart for the mind for the soul for one sanity for one's mental and emotional health, for one's own happiness to x.

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To accept what Allah has given others

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except

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the person is happier, relieved, truly is really.

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And that's part of his Iman Allah. It's part of the Eman of other of Allah. We believe in Allah. We believe in the choice of Allah We believe in the other of Allah, someone, someone has been given something by Allah that's other

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and from a number of Hadith we learn that a person will never realize the reality of faith a person will never reach the reality of faith until he believes that

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that which was going to reach him will never miss him and that which was going to miss him would was never going to reach

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as I'm delighted now bursts of the love and my relates in that hadith from way to Birmingham, Timothy and others

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why alum and amount of Saba Columbia Columbia

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Columbia commonly use libre and know that that

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which afflicted you which reached you was never going to miss you.

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And know that that which missed you was never going to reach the say in English, a Mrs as good as am I.

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And you know how that's related to this heavy. Of course, it's not originally related. But one of the meanings is

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if someone says, I was that close to getting it, I was this close

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to getting that job, I was this close to marrying that person.

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Just that much.

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In English, as the saying is, A miss is as good as a mile. Meaning it doesn't matter whether you are that close, or you're a mile away.

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You missed it.

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It was never going to reach and that's the meaning of the Hadith. And know that that which mystery was never going to reach.

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So there's no point agonizing over the fact that you were this close

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the reality is, it was always going to be a mess, because Allah had not destined it for you. So

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to be at peace

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you let go

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you let go of agonizing over what other people have

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of what others have achieved.

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Of what others have been given

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and one shouldn't think that why him not mean

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why her not me.

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undeserving The reality is no one knows what the other person is living through suffering

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someone

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fail.

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So

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if someone

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let's say, has been given beaut

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and other see them has been very beautiful.

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I'm giving these examples because

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the reality is we

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I've given examples of cars and homes and jobs and qualifications

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and careers

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and money and wealth,

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bank balances and clothes.

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handsomeness and beauty.

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And if you're wondering, why do I need to mention these things? Well, unfortunately, this is our reality. Do we envy someone who's a half of the Quran?

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Do we envy someone because they prey?

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Do

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Do we envy someone who tries to follow in the footsteps of the men

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Ginger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, now, we think he's an idiot.

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We label him as a Mullah Maulvi.

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In order they don't say mashallah, he's a pious man. They just dismissively say, Maulvi type.

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Maulvi type Binda.

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That he's a Maulvi, like slave servant.

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person. So we're never envious of someone being religious or pies.

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If anything, we judge them, we mock them, we ridicule, we question their sanity. We think there's something wrong with them.

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We don't even want to be like them, why would we envy them we don't even want to be.

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These are the things we envy of the dunya.

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So I was given the example of beauty if someone's beautiful for Allah has bestow beauty on someone.

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And we feel that we are not as beautiful as that.

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How are we going to change that reality?

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What are we going to do? That will make us more beautiful and ugly?

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Other than committing a crime and a great sin

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and defacing them, scarring, hurting them disfiguring?

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What else can a person do? Nothing

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that's a gift of a lot of them

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nothing can be done. It's other of Allah subhanho wa Taala and that's true for everything.

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Except since when a person accepts they will be at peace they truly will be at peace.

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So one should let go one should just drop acid

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so famous question is okay then how do we drop hesed

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like you drop a burning coal

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How do you drop hazard like you drop a burning cope

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there's no strategy

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you can't be holding on to burning cinders

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and tell someone right how do I get rid of this

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show me away guide me advise me and counsel me lead me demonstrating how do I get rid of this on your burning at the same time? What do you do you drop it?

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You do it yourself?

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If you know let me give you an example.

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What's wasa

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Pula will service

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which means whisperings doubts, invasive thoughts

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throughout history

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throughout history, whenever Rula ma have been asked, How do I get rid of doubts how do I get rid of invasive thoughts? How do I get rid of

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personal persistent data?

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So a good example is OCD obsessive compulsive disorder.

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Now obsessive compulsive disorder isn't just about

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someone constantly washing their hands, or checking the door to see if they locked it.

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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder OCD can be about anything.

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It can be about intrusive, invasive, repetitive thoughts that just don't seem to go away.

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And those thoughts could be about anything. Truly.

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Sometimes these thoughts are about doubts regarding one span. These thoughts are about another person or persons constantly ruminating about what others think of them. These thoughts could be about hygiene, washing hands locking doors.

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It's not the

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subject of these repetitive, compulsive, obsessive, invasive intrusive thoughts. It's not the subject.

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It's the process. It's the cognition that really matters. So in Arabic, you call these invasive, repetitive obsessive thoughts.

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and doubts was our was Jim aguas was that meaning? It means that a whisper.

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So throughout history will Amma have always been approached?

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In fact, it's one of the most persistent questions I get.

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I have these repetitive intrusive doubt, doubts or thought, What do I do? How do I tackle them? It's very painful, truly is.

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And do you know what the standard advice of the orlimar has been throughout history? Invariably.

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They've always said one thing, teacher after teacher shave after shave more or be after more be spiritual master have spiritual master saints. And scholars have always said exactly the same thing to note, they've said, Stop.

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Don't think, get rid of it. Now people walk away. People walk away.

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And they say, I approached this person with a huge problem.

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And they just dismissively told me stop thinking,

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dismiss the thought.

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I can't, that's a problem.

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Now,

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over the past few years, especially in the last one or two decades,

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neuroscientists,

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neurologists, neuroscientists

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have actually looked into

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the

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neurological processes of obsessive compulsive disorder.

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And they've actually developed strategies to help people overcome OCD.

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And in many cases, they have just one advice.

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Do you know these neuroscientists and neurologists, and psychologists who specialize in OCD, I have one ounce stop think

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they say exactly the same, as all Mr. have been saying from the time of Rasulullah, sallAllahu phonemes.

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No fancy strategies, stop thinking. And they'd say this on the basis of neuroscience by observing how the brain actually works, during its episodes of OCD, and how that can be stopped, or that can be tackled, and control.

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In fact, some of them advise as a 92nd rule,

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if you stop thinking negatively, within 90 seconds, this is according to some research. Within nine seconds, if you stops

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thinking about something negative,

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then the brain can actually move on to other things. Because the brain is a tool.

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If you let it, it's like a car, you take the hands off your if you take your hands off the steering wheel, the car will continue to run. You just go anywhere and everywhere. The brain has no direction. It truly doesn't. It will leap from thing to thing.

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Unless you grab the steering wheel, and you take charge, you take control, and you steer and guide the car, stopping and starting it's when you wish.

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So similarly with the brain, you take hold of the steering wheel, you guide it, you direct

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and you control.

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So how do you stop a car? You slam the brakes?

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How do you obsessively stop thinking about something? You physically train yourself?

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No one else can do it for you. You train yourself to stop thinking. And you know what these neuroscientists and neurologists have actually discovered by observing the brains of their patients. They've discovered what they call neuroplasticity, which is that by adopting this practice of forcibly stopping yourself, thinking about something and forcing your brain think about something else, you actually bring about physical changes in the cells and the synapses of your brain.

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No one else can do it for you. And why did I give that lengthy explanation? Same with a hassad

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How do you tackle a hazard?

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You let go

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There's no fancy strategy, you let go, nobody else can do it for you.

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He said this fire

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how do you let go of hesed you let go of hesed as you would let go of a burning Cinder of a burning coal of fire in your hands,

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you drop it you train yourself you discipline yourself, you force yourself to drop it and to move on.

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Force yourself to pray for the other person.

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Someone has a blessing, say Masha Allah hola hola. Quwata illa biLlah what Allah wish. So you remind yourself that this is what Allah wished, who am I to object to what Allah wish?

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What are hola What are Quwata illa biLlah and there is no strength and there is no power excepting. Except with Allah II, Allah chose to give this person this thing. Now I have absolutely no power to take it from.

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I had no power to claim it for myself. Because all power lies with Allah. I have no strength to deprive this person, what Allah chose to give him. This is a large choice, Allah's wisdom.

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You pray for the other person, may Allah subhanahu, WA to Allah bless them

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further in their gift of Allah.

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That's a way to relieve oneself of the spirit. There's no other fancy strategy, nobody else can do it for you. We have to learn to do it ourselves. So even from a non religious perspective, it makes perfect sense to be at ease to be at peace.

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Many people of the world, even non Muslims, many non Muslims throughout history, they've renounced the dunya. They've given up their possessions, their wealth, their belongings, they've led

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a simple life.

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Because they've discovered that therein lies happiness.

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Not even being attached to wealth, and in chasing after the dunya

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because there's no end.

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We are slaves to other things, and it never ends. We think that okay, if I get that I'll be happy. We get that.

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If I get that I'll be happy. We get that

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the pauper

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is in anguish,

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and the rich man is in anguish. What do we want as I keep on repeating that poem sullied on your dual Kibera worker bee, you don't have to Sarah

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howling yesterday amarilla will do Amylin be here. Khadija

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was Marlon. V Darebin Wolfie, Tabby, manif Takara for her how to mount a year old. Meaning the little one wants to be old and the old wants to be young.

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It's true children.

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Love Adam. But I remember when I was a child, I didn't think oh, I wish I could just remain an innocent child for the rest of my life. I never thought that we used to look at the old people. He can drive. I wish I was an adult.

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I could drive. In fact, I used to see older people writing

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with a pen and important papers. And I used to think to myself, I can't wait to become an adult so that I can sign papers and sign checks. When I was a child.

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Please don't tell me that I was alone in such thoughts. I'm sure that every child looks at adults and the fact that they drive the fact that they can go out when they want. We used to think I can't go out to play when I want. But they can go out whenever they want. So I wish I was an adult. So children want to be adults. And then we are adults. We also have a show as a child.

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That's what the poet says. Poets continues.

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Howling Yes, the hammer

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with 1 million vehicles

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that the unemployed seeks employment and the employed is tired and frustrated of his employment.

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The jobless want jobs

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and the ones who have jobs look at the job listen to her I wish I was in his place.

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The poet doesn't mention anything about marriage but I'm sure

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align could be added that those who are married wish they were single, and those who are single wish they were met.

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For those who are single, be careful of what you wish for.

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It's a sentence

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and the third lie was all Merlin feed that had been Morphe, daddy manif Takara that the one of wealth

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is in pain and fatigue. And the one who is poor is also pained and fatigue for how long?

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A year or so are they bewildered by the weather of Allah? Or have they been killed and the other of Allah itself? What do we want? So we think wealth will bring us happiness, the things or the dunya will bring us happiness, we look at others and we always think I wish I was in his shoes I wish I wish I was in her place. I want to be like him not like him I want to be better than I want to be better than

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and eventually if we do get what they have, we're still not happy we'll look at someone else

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some people

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they wish to be

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it's all about it's all to do with the knifes the ego and truly is.

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First a person you have everything

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a person needs food.

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He human being needs

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then water, then food and shelter, then clothing then shot once these basic necessities have been taken care of, then the body is taken care of. The mind is restless. So what does the mind wants? The mind wants stimulation and entertain

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they need conversation they need company

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once they have and the mind has entertainment

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the body has all its needs taken care of the mind has its needs taken care of through entertainment and mental stimulation then still not happy

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then that's

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the knifes once it's nourishment to

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benefices something else see the bodies of this world

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so the body being of this world will only want the nourishment of this world

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so body comes from the earth the nourishment of the body will come from the

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but the soul is not earthly it's not from this world

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it's has its it has its linked to have

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its celestial in origin.

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So you think the soul the rule, the knifes will be satisfied with food and drink and clothing and shelter or entertainment.

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It won't.

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The ego the lower self than knifes because it's heavenly in origin it's celestial in origin.

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It's nourishment

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can also only come from the sky.

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If it's good, it's nourishment will be spirituality will be the Quran

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and be the love of Allah. Allah Allah it says.

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But the lower self if it's not pious, if it's not pure, you will still want nourishment but you know what it's nourishment will be.

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It wants to rival Allah.

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So the food for the knifes is not food and drink and clothing and entertainment and shelter. Its attention. Its adoration, its adulation, its worship.

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This is why Allah says I found our aid the Minister for the Allahu Hawa. Have you seen one who has made his soul his God?

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It wishes to be God, nothing else. This is why some people have immeasurable wealth. They have all the comforts and luxury you may want. And throughout history what has happened, people aren't satisfied by with that. They want to be leaders than when they are leaders. They want to be the leader of leaders. They want to be kings. They want to be monarchs. And throughout history what's happened Muslim or non Muslim even in our Muslim history.

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You will discover

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that through the rule of primer janitor which is when the

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Son, or the eldest child takes the monarchy. What happens? There are there is rivalry between the siblings. And in order to ascend the throne, the eldest brother or one of the brothers will often kill kill his own blood brothers that he grew up playing with. And history is littered with replete with such examples of brothers slaying each other, in order to ascend the throne.

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So no one's happy being a leader, they want to be the leader of leaders. And even when they become leader of their nation, of their fiefdom of their kingdom, they aren't they are still not satisfied.

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That knifes drives and such aggression that they want to conquer the lands conquer the world's

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millions of people have been killed as a result, millions it makes no difference Muslim, non Muslim, it doesn't make any difference. Believers in a religion, believers and no religion. Throughout history, all kinds of people have

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in vain invaded

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nearly for reputation for honor for glory, killed millions of people built mountains of skulls literally

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for what not because they needed food not because they needed drink, not because they were driven to poverty. And not only because they needed Lebensraum,

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Lebensraum,

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the German word for living space, which was the justification for Hitler's expansion.

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So even that wasn't true.

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It's all about being ego maniac

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egomaniacs to do with the ego, that's what the ego wants. There's no end to it. And when someone becomes the most famous, the most powerful person and the leader of the most powerful nation on earth, and there's nothing else to conquer,

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they're still not happy.

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They still behave like children.

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Man child.

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And being at the peak of power, unparalleled, unrivaled.

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The ego of this person still leaves them restless and unhappy. Why? Because, oh, people liked my predecessor more than they like me.

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I'm hurt, I'm in pain.

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The crowds were bigger for my predecessor than they are for me.

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No problem, I'll just lie. My crowds are bigger.

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But they aren't and he knows them.

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And still,

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he puts on a show a face a mass, but deep within suffering like a petulant child.

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What your power could a person want?

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This is it. The ego has no end. So this is what we envy in others. The reality is, even when we get it, we won't be happy. So rather than going through all of that lengthy and laborious process, to discover at the end of one's life, that it was all wasted, it was all for nothing. Why not just drop that envy now? Simple.

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Dropping and be happy,

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to the best of one's ability. One can truly be at peace, peace, to be at peace with oneself, to be at peace with ALLAH SubhanA wa. Because this is what Allah wants from us. And that's why Allah says, what the man no man felt that Allah will be bound for Kumada literally died in a scene from the civil willingness in sebum in the seventh was hola hum in fatherly in Allahu accountability, Shana Halima, Allah says, And do not covet do not aspire to do not desire that which Allah has given in his bounty and grace to others. Ovie

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for men is a share of what they have earned and for women is a share of what they have.

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And ask and see of the bounty of

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ask Allah of His Bounty. Indeed, Allah is all knowing of all things. So do not covet what others have.

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This is why I said earlier one of the

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Treatment of envy is really one of the cures of envy is the pray to Allah.

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Rather than looking at someone else and

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squirming in anguish, and burning from within,

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why not just think to oneself or hamdulillah I'm happy for that person. I would like something of the same

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without any malice towards this individual. So what should I do? What Allah have in front of Allah says, Ask Allah have his back. All of that energy that one expends in hating in seething and raging in coveting.

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In

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thinking obsessively about the other person. Why not expend that energy, one enduring, pray to Allah asked Him of His Bounty, and in trying, if you really want the same thing, just try yourself, try for

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and that's what Allah says, Do not desire do not aspire to do not covet that which Allah has given of His Bounty, some of you over others. That's a fact of life.

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Life isn't equal.

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The dunya is not equal.

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Last choices in giving to people sorry, Allah's gifts are not equal. Match true. They are not equal. Because Allah says so in the Quran.

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Some nabina said, hey dunya I said earlier that I will expand on that verse in a moment. And this is that same verse, When the

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what he said was in the Quran revealed

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to one of the two men, what one one of two men, one, a great man of one of the two cities, McDowell life. What is it? What was the last reply? Simone?

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What do they distribute the Mercy of your Lord and Alison, Naveen Kumar, you should hire to dunya. I said, I'll comment on this on a moment. Allah says, what do they distribute the Mercy of your Lord, we have distributed their livelihood for them in the worldly life. And then Allah says, what a final barber whom folk are Bhatinda Raja.

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And we have elevated some of them over others in many ranks. That's a fact of life, we are not equal.

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We all need each other, we all depend on each other because Allah has given some of us some things and others other things.

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So that some of you may take

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each other in employment.

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So we need each

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we depend on each.

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But then Allah Anza verse with the words, big hero image Marine and the Mercy of your Lord is far better than that which they gather.

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So the lesson in there is that you are not equally with some of you have more than others. Truly, some of you have more than others.

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Look at the Prophet Sall Allahu Allah.

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Allah subhana who would that Allah made others richer than the message? So Lola has some truly.

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When he first married,

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Allah made his wife richer than Him. Think of that.

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Think of that? Allah made his wife richer than Him.

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In fact, Allah says in surah, two

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which are the CARA in them for other now did Allah not find you in need and then enriched you? How did Allah enrich the prophets, Allah Allah, it was salam through here the marriage to limit minima for the general the Allahu Anhu. She was wealthy, and he became wealthy

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and sufficient through her wealth.

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So

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he made his wife richer than Him.

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And then in later years,

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he and his wives led a life of simplicity. And others how about all the law when we're richer than the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and his family and household Allah's choice?

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But why has Allah chosen to elevate some of us over others in the dunya because the reality is, it doesn't mean anything.

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It means nothing to Allah as as mentioned in the Hadith.

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But if the dunya was worth the wing of a met sorry, if

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if the dunya was worth the wing of a mat, Allah subhanho wa Taala wouldn't have given a sip of water to those who He does not deserve.

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The weld is not worth the wing of a mat.

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That's why Allah gives to everyone.

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And in one verse of the Quran, Allah says, When can you read Arjuna Arjuna houfy Hamana Shah Willimon moody. Whoever wants the quick life, one of the names of dunya is Arjuna.

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One of the names of dunya is Arjuna.

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In fact, do you know what one of the meanings of dunya is?

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One of the mean we will always say dunya what does it mean? What does dunya mean? Of course, it means the world originally me, one of the meanings of dunya is low hanging.

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Something which is close. For those of you who know Arabic, Adena? Dunya is the modern north of Edna. Edna means opera.

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So dunya means Cordoba.

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So one of the meanings of dunya is that which is close.

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So obviously, this life is closer to us than the afterlife. So that's one of the meanings. Another meaning is that which is low hanging, fruits that are low hanging,

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Estonia.

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One of the other meanings of dunya is quite simple love,

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one of the meanings of dunya is love, because that which is closer and nearer is lower.

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So one of the meanings of dunya is love.

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One of the other names for the dunya for the world is Arjuna ie the quick life so that's what Allah refers to here man, can you read Raja, whether seeks the quick life

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fine. Or Janata? houfy Hamana Charlemagne read, then we will quickly give to those whom we wish whatever we wish.

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You want something quick instant, will give you something instant.

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But then after that there is nothing

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you want something quick, will give you something quick. You want something instant, you'll have something instant, but after that there is no share for you in the life of eternity.

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And then Allah says in the next verse, woman rather Wasaga ha Surya woman for all Ghana, Satya homeschooler. And whoever seeks the afterlife, as opposed to the instant life

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that are FIRA as opposed to the agile

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and not only does he seek not only does he seek the afterlife Wasaga saya but he strives for it in belief whilst believing he strives the striving. He makes the correct effort for the afterlife. So Allah says Allah could Ghana say you homeschooled are, these are the people whose efforts shall be rewarded and appreciate. Then Allah says and this is a verse that I wanted to get to Gulin Ahmed Doha Hula, hula immunol

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well Monica and I thought it would have become okay for for Donna. Marla what on earth? Baroda Rajat leela, Allah says,

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having spoken of those who want the instant life as well as those who won the ACA. So Allah speaks of both. Allah says Kula knowmad into each eye. Whether you want the instant life, whether you want the afterlife, it doesn't matter to both to the good and the bad, the pious and the

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sinful. Allah subhanho wa Taala says to each we give and we increase of the bounty of your law, ha Allah it will hurt all these and these men are partly Arabic from the gift of your Lord or Magana, aka Rebecca Mathura. And the bounty the gift of your Lord is not restricted to anyone.

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So Allah doesn't reward on piety remember this the Quran tells us that Allah doesn't give you the dunya on piety.

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So if Allah has given you a good house, don't think that Masha Allah this is a result of my good deeds, I am pious. That's why Allah has given me wealth.

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If Allah subhana who would the Allah wants to reward piety with wealth in the dunya he would have made as

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Messenger of Allah, the richest man ever.

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Rather, he lived the life of a poor, simple purse.

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So this is what we seek.

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This is what we are envious of that which matters not a.to Allah. That's why he gives to anyone. This is why he says we've given to everyone the good, the bad, the pious, the empires, the one, the ones who want this life, or the afterlife makes no difference to each these and these do a given to increase or the bounty of your Lord and the bounty of your Lord is not restricted to anyone. And not Allah says all evil, observe, watch, see how they forgot and

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see how we have given some preference and privilege of this same thing. The dunya is not equal. And the reason it's not equal because it doesn't matter.

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Then Allah Enza verse with the words will battle that what both of Lila and surely the afterlife is far greater in ranks and in grades and is far greater in bounty and grace and superiority and privilege and preference.

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So

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these are not the things we should be envious of. Because they mean nothing to Allah, absolutely nothing.

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Now competition, rivalry, vying, looking at others wanting to be like others wanting to be in someone else's place, competing with others. All of this is natural part of human nature, vying rivaling competition competing, all of its natural. So what do we do? One of the cures of envy is you don't waste your energy in hating in raging in envying the other person and coveting what they have, or in wanting to deprive them of what they have rather expend that energy one in praying to Allah make the art or two in trying in striving. But does that mean that oh, let's Iman means you try hard to become rich now.

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Eman doesn't mean that you try hard to become rich. Yes, Islam has encouraged the generation of wealth it truly has.

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Islam has encouraged the generation of wealth, stand on your own feet, do not beg do not stretch your hands.

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Do not ask of others.

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The upper hand meaning the giving hand is better than the taking hand.

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Be givers rather than receivers.

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So earn generate wealth, trade do business the prophets Allah love it was someone was a trade a worker or maracas man idea the love I mean, we're all traders.

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They had businesses they traded, they had markets, Maga was a trading town.

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The whole

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the Quran is replete with words that speak about trade,

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profit, loss,

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buying selling.

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So Islam in strongly encourages the generation of wealth, but with a purpose. Once you've generated that wealth, what do you do?

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Be charitable.

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And number three, do not let that wealth distract you from the remembrance of Allah. And remember that it's a test.

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So

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make dua to Allah. And number two strive for the same thing, but to a limit to a limit.

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And if you read because competition, vying and rivaling is natural for a person, you should direct that energy to

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wanting

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and aspiring to and desiring the right things. I mentioned right at the beginning in in the first session, that there are three terms related to our discussion. One is hassad envy that I've been discussing, which is malignant envy. Another is jealousy which is real or real. And I'll explain that and the third was Arabic. English doesn't have a word for it. But Arabic has a word benign and

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be where you see something and there's no malice in your heart. You don't want that person to be deprived of it. You're not hateful. You're not seething, you're not raging, you're not glowing green with a envy. You are happy for them but you also want it for yourself.

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That's a HIPAA.

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And that's something I haven't actually discussed yet. But this is what Islam teaches that yes, a ziptop is permissible, ie benign envy, where you are happy for that person. You don't want them to lose their favor and blessing but you want the same for yourself.

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But then Allah has of a social Allah Allah Who Some have also taught us that if you want something, then it should be the right thing. Why do you want something of the dunya? Why do you want to covet and envy something of the dunya and strive for it? This is why Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has taught us law has said that he left with nothing.

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Law hassad left with nothing.

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There is no envy ie benign envy, there is no zipper.

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And this hadith is related by Imam Bukhari, Imam Muslim and others

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from Abu Dhabi Allah and as well as other Sahaba of the Allahu

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La hacer that he left with nothing.

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And the same hadith is related by Muhammad and humbling as Muslim from another Sahabi is either earnest that'll be your la horn.

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An interesting point about this with Ethan in the narration of Imam Ahmed and a handle in his Muslim

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from which companion you see the mental illness. The interesting point about this hadith on this hobby is that this is the only Hadith he relates from Rasul Allah, Allah Allah and Islam he has no other Hadith His name is either gonna settle the alarm the companion has only one Hadith to his name and it's this and the wording of his Hadith is large enough for Sabina elaphus Latane there is no competition or rivalry in your exception to things so there is no envy in you accepting two things or you benign envy and there is no competition amongst you accepting food two things meaning there should be no competition amongst you accepting two things. There should be no envy in you know,

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desiring in you after seeing someone else except some two things. What are those two things? Wealth, degrees, qualifications, careers, jobs, cars, many riches clothes appearance, mansions, palatial homes, none of has nothing to do with the dunya the words of Bukhari and Muslim Ah, la hacer that you left with nothing

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illogical Allah Allahu Akbar,

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for who you are to her Anna lady were Anna and Maha for Samira who Jah Rula for call Layton et tu Temecula UIA fallen on fire Milton Muslimah here.

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There is no envy except in two things. One a man Allah has taught the Quran so he recites the Quran, the words of ALLAH night and day. So his neighbor he is him reciting the Quran night and day, and the neighbor exclaims, that how I wish I would that I had been given the gift that this person has been given, so that I can do what he does, which is I wish I was given the Quran so I could recite.

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That's the first thing. The second thing in which there should be competition amongst you.

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There should be envy in you, benign envy is a man whom Allah has given wealth

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for what you liquid Warfield.

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So he spends it in the truth

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i in the way of Allah in charity.

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So another person sees him spending in charity and says, would that i How I wish that I would have been given the same wealth that this person has been given Foreign Minister Mithra My Allah so that I may do what he does I give in charity.

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These are the only two things

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for our knowledge and wisdom. And number two charity

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that's what we should be competing with each other.

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Just like a bucket and our model the Allahumma Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said who will bring their wealth and what are the Allah Who and he used to always compete with a worker of the Allah and always but only in good

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little the hola horn said to himself, Imam Timothy and others relate this hadith he said to himself, If there is any day that I

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go into compete with Abu Bakr and beat him then it shall be the state

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of the Allah horn said the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has made a plea for funds. I will gather half of my wealth, half of my entire wealth off. That's no mean feat.

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Imagine if we were to go home and calculate all our assets and possessions. And then with one stroke of the pen decide that half of all that ion.

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I'm going to give it to charity. So I'm going to the Lavon said

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I wish to bring half of my wealth he brought half of his wealth. So the prophets Allah Allah Hardy said, what are the love aren't game prophets of Allah and Islam said, Oh my God, why have you brought he said O Messenger of Allah. I have left Allah and his little soul at home

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brought all

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remodeled the hola horn said. I then realized that I will never be able to beat and will

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never be able to compete with

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us compete with them in good.

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Once Abu Bakr and Omar the Allahu Allah we're discussing with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam after Isha Salah, the affairs of the Ummah they were in the masjid, they were discussing the affairs of the Ummah after Isha salah.

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Late into the night, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, Abu Bakr, Muhammad Ali Allahu Allah.

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They then got up and began leaving as they were walking. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam heard someone in the masjid reciting Quran in the darkest hours of the night Allah

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam halted stood, we'll look at an amount of the Allah halted and stood and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa salam, listen.

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Then he said, Whoever he is reciting the Quran,

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go and give him the glad tidings that he is reciting the Quran as of the Quran is just being revealed.

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Fresh.

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He was reciting loudly, then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam continued.

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So tomorrow the Allah haram says, I went close to see who it was, it was none other than Abdullah hidden in the salt.

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So I decided that tomorrow morning because it was engaged in Salah tomorrow morning, I shall be the first to race to him and give him the glad tidings of the Messenger of Allah. The next morning, I went I rushed to give and Dillahunty was rude the glad tidings of the Messenger of Allah, that he recites the Quran as though the verses have just been revealed fresh. And lo and behold, I saw that Abu Bakr had beats me too.

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So he would compete and everything but only in good

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and he could never beat Abu Bakr Siddiq in anything.

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So if we want to be envious, benign envy, if we want to have what others have, if we want to look at others and say to ourselves, I wish I had that I wish I was in his place. I wish I could do what he does.

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Then the Messenger of Allah has told us it should only be in two things or knowledge and wisdom.

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And number two, chat

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and when we say knowledge and wisdom, which is related to the Quran, because in some Hadith the narration is not the Quran but l and wisdom. When we say wisdom, I don't mean knowledge because people like that. When I say Quran, I don't mean that people here at Adi reciting the Quran, and he's sitting there on the member and swaying and reciting, and everyone's saying, Wow, masha Allah Subhana Allah

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in fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has warned us that there is a special Valley reserved in the Hellfire for the hypocritical recitals of

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those who display themselves using the Quran,

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who make a display of themselves using the Quran. So when we say he hears someone reciting the Quran, the idea isn't his own mashallah, yes, that's what I'm envious of. That's what I want to do. We go to the masjid the masjid is full, we go to a hall The hall is full. We go to a conference center or a tent, and everyone seated respectfully and there's an audio on the member reciting the Quran in a very

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melodious voice. Beautiful recitation, everyone swaying and loving it.

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because it's a form of entertainment, and everyone wishes. I wish I had a voice like that. I wish I could sit there

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and do that. But the words of the Hadith aren't that Oh, I wish I was given the Quran. No, I wish I was given what he has been given so that I can do what he does. So what was a man doing? He was reciting Quran in the privacy of his own home. Sincerely to Allah for Samira, who saw his neighborhood.

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This is sincere recitation. So don't aspire to knowledge and wisdom in the Quran in that manner. If you see a scholar, people opening doors for him for him picking up shoes for him, people being humbled to him

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deferential to him, respecting him, giving him gifts.

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He is sitting on the member and everyone listening to him. Of course, everyone wants this.

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abou Jaffa Ullman saw all the above acid emperor,

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the ambassador Emperor Abu Jaffa elements Su, who rose to the height of his power, he wiped out little maids. He inherited the Omega kingdom.

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He was the architect of the ground above Sudan Empire fabled for its 1001 Night, stories of glory and riches and immense, immeasurable untold wealth and power.

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The emperors of Europe were paying homage to him

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to the later Ambassador Emperor's, he had achieved everything.

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Do you know what he said once

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someone asked him what is your desire?

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He had slaves, slave girls. He had maidens. He had wet riches, he had palaces, he had wealth. He had armies. He wanted nothing, he lacked nothing. What did he want to call tears? He had everything.

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He wasn't just a rich man.

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He was an emperor.

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People's lives were spared or taken at his whim.

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So he was asked

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your greatness, Your Eminence, Your Majesty. What do you want? What is there that is left for you to desire? Do you know what will happen when Saul said said My desire is

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I have P students seated around me

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already with their notes and their papers and their pens. And then I say to them had the thinner fallen on Allah had the thinner fallen on Allah had this enough abandon that for now related to us that he related to us that he related to us. And then one of the students leave? These are his words, that one of the students leans forward and says, What did you just say again? So then I repeat it and then he makes a note. Who would do this? These were the

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this is what the orlimar would be surrounded by students.

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This is what they envied. What will Amma have is what even Emperor's do not have in their treasures,

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and what they envy.

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But is that good envy? No.

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So there's a funny ending to this story, which is, so the core team has been called tears. Quality is always sycophant. So what do they do? Your Majesty they all ran off and came back with pens and papers. And they all sat around said start so he's uh, not you.

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And talking about the students with a rough clothes, poor clothes, ie the students of Illumina Hedy

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so even Emperor's aspire to Allah ma being Allah ma,

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but not that kind of aspiration where you want the glory. It looks good, doesn't it? Are you sitting on the member of the Imam or the shave? Or the Alim sitting on the chair and everyone sitting in front of him and he lecturing, speaking and everyone listening attentively. Everybody, nobody wants to sweep the Masjid. Who wants to sweep the masjid anyone wants was sweet last year.

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Everybody wants to be the more than want to give her that.

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And even greater than the than everybody wants to lead. So

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that's not about Elon, that's not about or that's not about Shipman wisdom which we should be envious of. That's all about the ego. It's still an ego.

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So the knowledge, the wisdom and the Quran that one should be envious of is the

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That boron which is purely insincerely, and exclusively only for

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that alien which is only four

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that's what we should be envious, not the deference not the respect not the glamour and glory because will lie there is no glamour and glory in that either. Everything comes from nothing. Imam Bukhari I've told you many times when we're highly recommendable that it was a victim of envy. Envy is actually quite strong amongst other matters. Well, you have academic rivalry.

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Will Amma are perpetrators of envy and victims of envy, like Will a man are human beings

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and being human if they do not control and curb their knifes, they are as guilty of envy and covetousness as anyone else.

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And where are they whereas others may envy the naran dyrham and cars and homes and clothes and belongings are a matter of being a bit more a bit wiser. They may not envy that but they still envied glory, and fame and naming and that can lead them to doing terrible things, or that man.

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So they have the Quran and the Hadith in their hearts. They have the knowledge of Allah, Allah, Allah Allah wa salam in their hearts, and yet they are still guilty of envy and not benign and the malignant envy.

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But why do we want that fame? Could Can anyone hope to be greater,

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more famous than someone like mumble hottie or hamdulillah Haley

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who could aspire to have a memory likers of fame like as an authority like his

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true

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some one scholar visited Egypt. And he said in Egypt, I met 30 Ruler man, every single one of them said to me, that I will one desire in life is to see the face of Muhammad nice smart enough.

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The wants to see his face.

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True.

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He was that famous that capable? Because Allah chosen,

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but even he was a victim of envy. In May Sabu, he was invited to the city of Nissar book in modern day Iran

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originally used to be called Nisha pool, we Arabic is nice,

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but the Persian is near sharpell. So he huge city, huge city are the greatest tragedies is

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is was a city of knowledge and learning.

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But

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the Mongols

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after Genghis Khan,

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His descendants in the desire to conquer the world I spoke earlier about the ego not being satisfied with the leadership of their own tribal region, in their desire to conquer the world. What had happened was,

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I believe it was genius coms son in law, his daughter's husband, he was killed in the battle for Nisha Abu

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Musab Oh, it was a city of knowledge and

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she wanted revenge

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just because her husband was killed.

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And her demand was the for the life of her husband. The entire population of the whole grand city of Nissar. Boo should be Exterminate.

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Man, woman, old young child baby infant.

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They erected skulls of the inhabitants of the entire city. The city was pillaged and plundered. Not a single soul spare they weren't even taken as prisoners.

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That's what Eagle

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that's why I said one is never happy with the dunya never.

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Genghis Khan killed his own brother in his childhood.

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So

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ma'am, how do you get him to La healing when he went in a survival

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for what's remarkable is Genghis Khan's descendants. One of his grandchildren. Birkey Han.

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He embraced Islam

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And you know where he embraced Islam.

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So he went to Hara and there he embraced Islam. So Birmingham, he embraced Islam but

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Imam Khalid Abdullah, he had a he went in a circle, and he was invited there by the multitudes and by the scholars and the leadership like he was received many miles out on a sidewalk. they showered him with Dean gold sovereigns with their homes with silver.

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But in the end, he had to leave the city alone.

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And the day before he left the city,

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he feared for his life

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and one of his students who left the city with him, only two people left with him in mumble hurry, Imam Muslim and the student even though Salam.

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So he spoke to him.

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And this was Imam Hadees reply. Imagine. This was his reply. He said,

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when he was told that look, you know, these people are against you. And this one particular scholar he, he is most powerful in the city. In fact, in the whole of hora, Sam transaksi Nia, and especially in the city of Mesa was it was a huge city at the time one of the main capital cities.

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So he said, that we have no choice in this affair, and he is most powerful, the scar

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and he opposes you.

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Do you know what ma'am cloud is replying was he put his hand on his beard, lowered his head and he recited the Quran he said what will fall with Omri it Allah in the law have a serum belabored. He said, I submits my affair to Allah. Indeed, Allah is watchful, watchful over his servants. He said, I did not. He said, Allah knows. He said, Oh Allah, you know that I did not seek to stay in the city of Mesa Whoo.

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In arrogance, or in hoarseness, or boastfulness?

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The only reason I chose to stay here is that I could not go back to my own homeland of Bukhara, because all my opponents are most powerful and dominant there.

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So his opponents because of envy,

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had driven him from the city of Baja his his birthplace, eventually had come to Mesa.

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He was being driven from here, and his words well, and he said, Oh Allah, you know that I did not want to stay here in haughtiness, boastfulness or arrogance, but only because of the overwhelming dominance of my opponents in my homeland. And then he told his students, he said, he said, I believe that this person does not oppose me, does not oppose me for any reason, except out of envy, for what Allah has bestowed on me.

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So he said to the student do not worry tomorrow Ashley.

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So Allah ma, and his life was tragic. He, he then went from the soccer ball, he went back to Mahara again, he did go back to Mahara with the hope of being remaining there, but he was driven out again. Then he went north to bake and he couldn't stay there. Then he decided to go to some out of band, which is all of these cities off in the SIBO is a modern day Iran. So he went back to Mahara, which is in the west of Uzbekistan, modern daters, Pakistan. He then went north, which is still in Uzbekistan to bake and then he couldn't stay there. So he decided to travel all the way to the furthest end of modern times Pakistan, to the furthest end of hurrah son, which was in the city of

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summer, and

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he traveled to summer.

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But as he was arriving, the summer open, he was told that we don't want you here. The people of Summerlin had splits into two half of them wanted in half didn't want them. This was a man that Allah would pray that we just want to see his face and now people didn't want them in their city. So the city fell into two arguing amongst themselves. Half said we don't want him you won't allow him to come into the city. So he then decided to come at his amongst his relatives in a village 20 miles from the center of summer have been in a village called Cara Tong, he had actually had relatives there. He was there he was so sick of everything being who he was. He actually made dua to Allah in

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the month of Ramadan. Oh Allah La Dhaka you'll have him with me Lake Oh Allah. The Earth despite its vastness had become has become narrower and restricted for me, or will Allah claim me unto Himself, He prayed for death. Buhari pray