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Ramadhan Reflections Ep 13 Obedience To The Parents

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Medina brothers and sisters and my dear viewers, as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. My name is Rosie and I welcome you back into another episode of reflections of Ramadan. Today, inshallah huhtala will be talking about

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obedience to the parents in this blessed month.

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Our parents honoring our parents. It's a very, very, you may say, some of you may say, yeah, it's a very important topic. It's sad topic, you know, when we look at what's happening out there, our sons and daughters and problems and conflicts with the families and whatnot. So I think we need to explain the importance of honoring the parents in Islam. My brothers and sisters,

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parents, normally they sacrifice everything for the sake of their children, to provide for the children and give for the children to please their children. And sometimes what do they get in return some unfortunate bad treatments from dead children.

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The latest thing I have heard, which is something quite very unfortunate, it was actually in the news about a guy who stabbed his mother to death with a double A in a Muslim country who stabbed his mother to death because she refused to approve his marriage with some girl.

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And this guy goes out and he stabs her with

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my brothers and sisters, ladies and gentlemen, we have to understand the importance that Islam really gives the parents be with if they're Muslims are not Muslims. But honoring the president Islam. In fact, it's something that Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions in parallel to his to hate in parallel to his oneness, but that would be Lamanna Shivaji gene. What bah bah bah Boo.

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Boo.

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Wah bah, bah, Boo.

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Boo in

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Santa Ana la your Lord has decreed that you worship not but him that you'd be good to your parents. My brothers and sisters, obedience or disobedience to the parents is in fact considered to be a major sin in Islam. The Prophet Mohammed Elisa Selim says in his hide reported by Bukhari and Muslim and narrated by be by Abu Bakr Ah, not Abu Bakar by Abu Bakr Ah, he says, The Allahu Allah, that the Prophet Mohammed Allah says, Allah will be at variabel Don't you want me to tell you about the major sins that you may want me to tell you about the major sins? And then the Sahaba said yes, it'll Sula. Please tell us about the major sins. And then the Prophet Mohammed area. Sufism says, the

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first major sin is associating someone with the worship of Allah which means shook. And the second major sin right after, you know, shook the Prophet Mohammed. Islam says, well, Coco led this honoring the parents, disobedience to the parents is considered to be a major sin in Islam. The profit was declining, it sought to sue them. And then he stood up when he says,

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zoo, zoo,

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zoo, false testimony, false testimony, false testimony, he repeated that three times. Meaning that you just defy that you have heard somebody said something which that person hasn't said, or you just defy that you have seen something, that person does something which that you know, wish that person didn't do and what not. That's called false testimony. But let's go back to the second segment of the heady, whereby the prophets of the Lord lucidum says, open every day is obedience to the parents is considered to be a major sin.

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The Prophet Mohammed allyssa to Sudan. Also, he says in this Hadith, reported by an nessa au one bizarre this hadith is also reported by Allah

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hacking besana D, G ID.

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And this hadith is narrated by Abdullah.

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But the Prophet Mohammed Elisa to slim says that

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any kinds of people that Allah subhanho wa Taala will ignore when neglect in the Day of Judgment, who are they three kinds of people, number one poliwhirl. Today, the one who is who dishonored his parents, he may come with mountains of good deeds, he may come with mountains of charity in southern Yemen. But because he's been this honoree, disobeying his parents will hurt parents, he will be amongst and also you will be amongst the losers will Allah selasa leyendo him?

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The one who dishonor his parents, Allah will not look at him in a day of judgment, meaning he will be ignored, he will be neglected you'd be amongst the losers. What are the validity of judgment? So that's number one. Number two, you know, I will say an apple every day. And then you have alma mater, Rashida, women that act like men, number two women that act like men, women that behave like men that walk like men dress up like men talk like men, Allah will ignore that woman should be amongst the losers in the Day of Judgment. And number three at the youth.

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The youth is the one who has no protective jealousy, no hero, he sees maybe his wife, you know, going out I know without a job shaking hands with whomever she wants, he doesn't really care or his daughter going out half naked with the upper cut, lower cut whatever it is, you know, he does not care he has no real Allah will not look at these three types of people in the Day of Judgment, but again, what matters here is the first segment of the head it was the by the prophet Mohammed is ultra slim says,

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Allah, Allah one day.

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Oh Coppola every day. It is considered to be a major sin.

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My brothers and sisters mighty view is really my sons and daughters. I am talking to you from the bottom of my heart. As I'm trying

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and asking Allah subhanho wa Taala I really would love you also to to listen to me with with your hearts.

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I love you.

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And I'm telling you this because I really care about you.

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You've parents, your parents, your parents, almost almost almost your mother, your mother, your mother.

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And then you father as the Prophet Muhammad Ali Sato slim says

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Yes, indeed.

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That's why Allah subhana wa tada

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mentions the obedience of the parents in parallel with Mr. Heat in so many areas. He says

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he instructed a SWAT

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Allah has decreed that you wish if not by a man that you'd be good to your parents, when they reach a certain age, and sometimes they talk too much. Sometimes they may be nagging too much but you know what? Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Well

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don't even say off to your parents don't even say Oh, why? Oh, you talk too much. Oh, why me again, don't even say that oh to your parents. Don't raise your voice against your parents. They are your parents. They have sacrificed everything regardless of what they do. You may come and tell me Well, you know what my parents they have not given me my rights. Well, you know what, while I was on a Mac well over a Mac while I was on a Mac, even if they oppress you, even if they do they oppress you, they're still your parents. You have to obey them you have to, you know, honor them, and that's between them and Allah whatever they do towards you, that's between them and Allah but we regarding

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you and then you still have to respect and honor them. Why? Because they are your parents. Just because they are your parents. In this hour, the godparents

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Allah Subhana Allah Allah says, In Surah An Nisa Ayah number 36. We're going to learn how to

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worship Allah and do not associate anything with him. What bill Worley they need a Santa and that should be good to your parents. Right after he Allah talks about obedience to the parents. Allah subhanho wa Taala assistance welcome back Allah. I ended

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At 300 Nami savani is on Isla de buena.

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Santa covenant from Venezuela, that you worship none but Allah and that should be good to your parents, that you obey your parents. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, here's what I have. And number 15 what was finally in

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what was fighting an insanity while he that he.

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And we have, you know, ordered in son, the son of Adam to be good to his parents to treat them with,

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with excellence with respect with honor. Why? Because they are your parents.

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They are your parents. The Prophet Muhammad Allah saw to see them says it's not your agenda whom ALLAH hafiz dunya cobden Hara this heading is very self and authentic. If you add to the hula hoop with dunya with the same head it is also narrated by Abu Bakar

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Abby bakra and reported by a band of Allah Allah, the prophet Mohammed Ali Sufism says, It's not your agenda, Humala, COVID donya cabinet, two types of things whosoever commits them, Allah subhana wa tada when haston the punishment upon that person in this life before the Hereafter, two types of sins, what are they number one

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in this honoring the parents dishonouring the parents being unkind to the parents, disobeying the parents. And number two fornication.

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Any fornication or adultery, Whosoever commits these two sins, Allah will inflict punishment upon those who commit these two sins in this life before the hereafter. And remember my brothers and sisters, whatever goes around comes around, cannot add to that if I'll mesh it cannot add to that, do whatever you wish, or do as you wish, you know, 11th is static mesh, it cannot add to that whatever really goes around comes around. If you were to treat your parents with kindness, Allah Subhana Allah, Allah will bless you or may bless you with kids that were treated the same. And if you were to treat your parents with kindness with disrespect, Allah May afflict you with kids that

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will treat you the same. Why? Because what goes around comes around. We're lucky we've I've seen it, you may have seen it as well. Let me show a couple examples of maybe just maybe two or three illustrations with you here, which I have, you know, not witnessed, but some of them in fact, they were so true. That happened in some prominent Muslim countries. A guy in the middle, you know, people saw him in the streets,

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dragging them old man.

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An old man dragging him.

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What are you doing? This is an old man, why are you dragging him? Hey, come on, Have some shame.

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Let me afflict you with keys that will treat you the same. Why? Because what goes around comes around what? I've seen it, you may have seen it as well. Let me show you a couple examples of maybe just maybe two or three illustrations with you here. Which I have no, not witnessed, but some of them. In fact, there was so true that happened in some prominent Muslim countries. A guy in the middle, you know, people saw him in the streets.

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Dragging an old man, an old man dragging him and then some people came in he says, What are you doing? This is an older man, why are you dragging him aid? Come on, Have some shame.

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And then the old man says, No, leave him leave him. He's my son is your son. And then they went beating up the sun. You doing this to your own father? I will tell you we just like an old man. But this is your own father. you're dragging him in the street, you know, like this and all the men and the father said, Please, please, please don't hit my son. Don't beat him. Because while I did the same thing to my father.

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I did the same to my father. Another man took his own dad and his son was with him. He took him on the ride. They went to this foster home and then he dropped his father there and then he came back on the way his little central told him that what did you take grandpa?

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The dad says I just took him to this fostering home they take care of him. Why that? Well, you know, they will take care of him your dad, your grandpa's become old. He talks to Marty people to take care of him. You know, we need to change him to feed him, you know, so that then take care of him. And then the sunset, okay, that it's all right. Then when you grew up, I was doing the same thing to you.

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What goes around comes around.

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Another very interesting story. It happens.

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A guy in a Muslim country again, drug he took his father on the ride. He took him in the middle of the desert. And the father was asking him that you know, Sonny, will you take me up Will you taken me and then the son was just Just be quiet

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and then he took him in the middle

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of nowhere, and then he says, I'm going to kill you in the desert. I'm going to kill you. Why? Why? I'm your dad. Why? No, I'm going to kill you. I'm sick of you that house. I've made up my mind. This is your too much. All these problems happened between me and my wife, you're the cause of all our, you know, all these problems. So I'm going to get rid of you. And the father said, okay, son, if you want to kill me, please. You see that rock there? You kill me right there. Take me to that rock. And then you just kill me there. The sunset doesn't matter. he'll buy that rock. The father said yes. Because we're like, that's what I killed my own father.

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What goes around comes around.

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So be careful, my brothers and sisters on how you treat your parents. Be careful how you treat them. Be careful how you talk to them. Be careful how you you know, if you In fact, specially your mother, how you treat your mother. And look over unlock unlock. When this man came to the Prophet Mohammed who should be my best companion, your rasulillah. who shouldn't be my best friend, the prophets. Lawson says I'm your mother.

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And then who next? Your mother, who's next your mother? And then

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the Prophet says you father. So in Islam, the mother takes precedence. Yes, she does, takes precedence.

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And this is how it is in Islam.

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Of course, the mother, Abu hanifa is the mother came to him and she says, I have this this

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fat? Well, it's a question. It's a question. And I need you to go and ask Mr. Lubell who was the Mufti asked him

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about this fact, too. I need a federal and then I'm an Abu hanifa as a chairman, he went to Ramadan when he says My mother has a question. And then he gave him the question. He asked him the question and I'm told Abu hanifa hanifa. I don't know what the answer is. You are the Mufti as an Abu hanifa give the answer to him the Buddha. And I'm gonna give the answer to Abu hanifa asthma.

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That is called.

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One man came to London,

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from Yemen, as he was carrying his mother from Yemen all the way to Mecca. He's carrying her and performance tawaf. And then he says,

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oh, Abdullah, have I given my mother her right?

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Have I given her right?

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He says no.

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He says, No.

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You have not given her her rights.

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You have not this is doesn't even equate.

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Just one contraction, when she was given birth to you.

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Hold is the tribute to your mother.

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carrying her performance tawaf is not equivalent to not even one single contraction that she was having. When she was giving birth to

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go to the pain of labor.

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Moosa asked Allah subhana wa Taala Allah I want to see my partner in Jenna my companion engine.

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And then Allah subhana wa tada says, almost

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go to this place. There is an all sort of like a cave and then you will find your partner in Jana

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Musa goes

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scrutinizing, from very far so an old woman. A frail old woman is this kid washing her clean sinner feeding her and then he would go out. And then Moosa came to her.

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And then he says,

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Oh mother, who's that kid who was here serving you.

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She says, that's my son.

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But Moosa wanted to understand what's so special about this son. We also have our mothers. But what made him so special that he will be my partner, my companion in general.

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So he asked her, and then she says, what you see, he serves me he helps me, cleans me, feeds me,

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feeds me, cleans me, helps me, Moses, is there anything special about him? She says, yes.

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Every day I make dua for him. And I say Allah make my son, the companion of Musa in general.

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And then Moosa told her, Allah has answered your call. Moosa

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and your son will be in sha Allah make compelling agenda.

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All it takes

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all it takes

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is one from your mother.

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A broken heart mother.

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You just wonder

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coming from her with sincerity. That can be the vehicle that can drive you to gender

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wonder

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coming from your mother, or your father. In fact the Prophet Muhammad Ali sought to so many seasons of Muslim

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at the heart of a father of a mother to her son or daughter is Mr. Jab.

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That's why one men from the past with assessors he used to cry when his mother passed away.

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He used to cry so much that they asked him why do you cry so much after that will be a mother

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and he says How can I not cry?

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One of the gates of China has just been locked before me.

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One of the gates of jedna has just been locked before me.

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My mother

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my mother passed away.

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If your mother is alive,

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go to her today. Before tomorrow

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and ask her for one day.

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Give her a hug.

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And say mom

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what do you have for me?

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That's all

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maybe that

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can be the vehicle that can drive you to shut night shut Laughter

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But if she's dead

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cry

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and cry blood

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because maybe crying is not enough.

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One boy wrote a letter to his mom.

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And he says mom, today

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I have cleaned my room

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$10

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I have shoveled the snow $15

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I have washed the dishes. $10

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I have done my homework. I have done this. I have done that. And at the end he says this is the total

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she took that same paper

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turned it to the other side.

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And then she says

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I carried you in my womb for nine months.

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free of charge.

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I carried you in my home for nine months free of charge.

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While I was giving birth to you.

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It was so painful. I thought I was gonna die.

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free of charge.

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When I used to get sick

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I used to spend the whole night sitting be just waiting to sitting next to you make it to our for your client, Allah subhanho wa Taala asking him to give you Shiva

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free of charge.

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I used to feed you before I used to feed myself

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free of charge.

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I nursed you. I took care of you.

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When you became a teenager.

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I used to go out

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and come home very late. I wouldn't go to sleep.

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I will be sitting waiting for you.

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You'll have been fun outside with your friends. And I will be sitting home worrying. Making the heart Oh my son, my daughter, my son

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asking Allah subhanho wa Taala to protect you

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for the off charge.

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You broke my heart so many times.

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I never asked Allah to curse you. But in fact, I used to make dua to Allah to guide you,

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to guide you and protect you.

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Free of charge

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and the total. At the end she says love

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because I love you.

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So my only request from my dear brothers and sisters was you would meet today.

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If your parents are alive, go to them today.

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Pick up the phone and call them if they're very far away.

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And just ask for forgiveness.

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Ask for forgiveness.

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Ask them to make the halfway

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especially this blessed month

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that could definitely be in sha Allah.

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Allah, the vehicle that can drive you to

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do it

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and do it today

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is that comme la vida koloff

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salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.