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Riad Ouarzazi

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My brothers and sisters.

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Few months ago, I was given a football

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in Canada

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after the hotbar, the Juma

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I came down and then my brother came to me and he said, check, I have a problem.

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I need your help.

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And I said, What's your problem? He said, my kids called the cops on me. They kicked me out of my home.

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My kids, they call the cops on me, they kill, they kicked me out of my home.

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I cannot go back home.

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I cannot go back home.

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In another generation, which is true, which happened in a Muslim country,

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all over the vapors.

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A boy, a young man stabbed his mother to death.

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Because she refused to endorse his marriage with this woman, which he fell in love with. She says I'm not supporting you.

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He started to death.

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And on and on and on. I was giving a lecture here in the UK not too long ago.

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In the middle of the lecture, I noticed this father crying.

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And then after the lecture, I went to him and I said, Okay, you're right. He said, my brother just called me. The next year was in Bradford.

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The brother told me, his brother just called him from London. In fact, his mother, not his brother, his mother called him on the phone from London. She said her son beat her,

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beat her. So she called the other son who was in Frankfurt to come here, there's nothing I can do. I have to leave because my other brother is beaten up by mom.

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And we're asking Allah for help.

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And we are asking Allah for for the grace, we're asking Allah subhana wa Taala for the blessings with asking Allah for victory. We're asking about fasting to come back. We're asking for Sudha we're asking Allah How can I give no sir to such people.

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But this is sisters.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala. in,

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in, in so many ayat, in so many it mentions the obedience of the parents. He mentions honoring the parents in parallel with his age, in parallel with their age.

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As he mentioned in Islam,

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your Lord has decreed that you worship none but him and to be good to your parents.

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After to eat right after the oneness of Allah. Allah says your Lord has decreed that you worship none but him and that you be good to your parents. Be good to your parents does not mean only Muslim parents are smarter. The Allahu Akbar, she came to the Prophet Muhammad.

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Allah gonna still honor my mother who's not Muslim. The Prophet says yes, yes, yes, honor her, even if she's not a Muslim,

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in Islam in

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worship Allah and do not associate anything with him and be good to your parents.

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In such a way

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that

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we do covenant

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not to worship anybody other than Allah and be good to your parents. In so many if in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala talks about honoring the parents in Berlin with history to show you an eye the importance of the obedience of the parents. And rest assured my brothers and sisters that this honoring the parents is considered to be one of the major sins. Kabira means a major sin. What's a major sin? The Prophet Mohammed Ali Salatu was Salam. He says in this hadith reported by Bukhari and Muslim

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Bukhari Muslim the Hadith is narrated by a ba ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba, ba ba God. She said that the Prophet Mohammed Salim said one day to the Sahaba, don't you want me to tell you about the major things we said yes, yes to the law. Tell us about the major sins around the province says number one, I should Kabila. associating someone with the worship of Allah number

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to

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number two, this honoring the parents

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and kindness to the parents.

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be unkind to your parents.

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So much so what kind of what kind of unkindness the parents let me tell you what the law says. What?

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What kind of disobedience we're talking about here. This COVID disobedience, as as I say to them. Oh,

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even that Oh, it's not a word.

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It's not an Arabic word. It's not an English word. Even that

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don't say that to them.

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Oh, you talk too much. Oh, why you keep asking me. Oh, why don't you ask my brother? Oh, you this? Oh, you're disturbing me? Oh, even that, Oh, don't say that your parents

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man predecessor, when known as

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an Abba door shipper in his Salah. Listen to this, in his

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in his Salah. His mother called him Yahshua lies

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in the Salah. He says you're a big saga to me.

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You're a big sadati I'm only in the saliva. So Allah, my Salah on my mother. So he chose

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he chose the Salah, which angered his mother, she made Dragon's Den.

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He was not on the phone. He was not watching TV. He was not doing his homework. He was in the favela. His mother called him. He could show pockets in salah and went and attended his mother.

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She he called his mother called him. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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He said that to me. He said that bakey only Yes. Oh, my mother. But then he realized, Oh, I think I have raised my voice.

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What did he say? He said to me? Yes. All Mother.

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Mother, he felt he raised his voice. He went he purchased two slaves and he freed them for the sake of Allah.

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His mother told him

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Oh, my son, I want some water.

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He went outside to get her some water.

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When he came back, she was asleep.

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So he held the cup of water.

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And then he says our mother.

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The mother is sleeping.

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So he stayed up. He stayed up. Because he wants when his mother wakes up. She finds him with a glass of water.

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She stood up or he stood up the whole night. The whole night standing. When he feels tired. He sits. When you feel sleepy, he stands up. When he feels tired, he sits when he feels sleepy, he stands up. And first of all, when his mother woke up as soon as she opened her eyes are mad mother is your glass of water.

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This is what we call Bill.

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Bill bill at

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Abu hanifa.

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His mother came to him and she says or Abu hanifa or son, I have a question. I need you to go and ask

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another move to

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another movie. Here's my question, please go and ask

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Abu hanifa he knows the answer of the question. But but because his mother wanted to hear from

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the other shave the other mostly he went to him and he says My mother has a question for you.

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My mother has a question. He told him the question

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is Abu hanifa You are the Mufti? I don't know the answer.

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I don't know the answer. Abu hanifa give the answer to ammo loaded ammo give the answer to Jennifer's mother.

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Abu hanifa could have said Mom I know the answer.

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And

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I am the Mufti. But because his mother wanted to hear from Mr. Buddha, he was that he gave him the answer and give the answer to Abu hanifa mother. We call this bill LED.

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Is your mother alive?

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Is your father a life? Well, we

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He laid out in a in a who will not devalue, we will not know the value of our parents until the day they are gone.

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And then when they are gone, you can cry and cry all you want and cry in tears is not going to be enough because you need to cry blood. Like this man from the tablet in predecessor's when he says to cry and cry so much when his mother passed away, they said, Why are you crying? He says, How can I not cry? How can I not cry? One of the gates have just been closed before me one of the gates one of the people that used to make that for me, my mother, and one of the gates have just been closed before me. How can I not cry?

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Brothers and sisters,

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the prophet Mohammed and his son to sit him says, Phil, howdy lady.

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Phil Masak.

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What's the how minha de la tarde cada Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Salah sadaqa

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listen to this hadith.

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The Prophet Mohammed Allah says in this very self authenticating report is by necessity and can very sound authentic. They're reported by NASA and Hakeem and narrated by Abdullah Rama, that the Prophet Mohammed De Soto says three kinds of people, a lot of judgment,

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three kinds of people, a lot

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of judgment, they will be ignored in the Day of Judgment, who are they yasunaga number one,

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the one who is anchored to his parents, the one who dis honors his parents, he will not be looked at in judgment, which means Allah subhana wa Taala will ignore him which means he may come with mountains of hierarchy, he may come with mentors of Salah he may come with monsters of good deeds, he may come with matters of charity, but because he or she has been bad, and country, his or her parents would not look at that person.

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Awake, your parents, your parents, some one may say how about if they oppress me? How about if they oppress me? How do they oppress you by him?

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Let's go back to ask him. How many four parents oppressed us? Should we split the country then?

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Let me answer this question. To a man who came to him. He told him while I was on a Mac while I was on a Mac Windows or Mac, even if they oppress you, even if they will press even if they oppress you, you will still be considered them. This is between you and Allah. Whatever they do is between Allah subhanho wa Taala Yes, maybe we can have another talk about how we should treat our children.

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But now the hookah is about the parents. And whatever goes around comes around however you treat your parents, Allah subhana wa tada when either the blessing would kids or afraid you would give them we treat you the same. If you treat your parents with kindness, Allah subhana wa tada may bless you with kids that will treat you with kindness. If you treat your parents with kindness, with dishonouring with disobedience does Allah May afflict you with someone with some kids that will treat you the same karma? Dino to Dan The Prophet said so.

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Is there

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an essay very authentic, narrated by a Lama he said that the Prophet Mohammed himself is not a Jew.

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Two kinds of sins, whosoever does them in this life, he will get his punishment in this life before the hereafter to since sin number one disobedience of the parents.

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Sin number two.

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Whoever commits gun oppression, whoever commits or being disobedient his parents in this life, he or she will get the punishment in this dunya before the

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man in this Muslim country or a big Muslim country and I don't like to mention countries by name, but he's been grabbed, dragged. People saw him in the streets, being dragged by an old an old man was being dragged by young boy dragged

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people they came to him. What are you doing? This is an old man Chachi bajada you know why you put him you know a and then they started you know, pushing him some came in and and punched him. The old man was saying please leave him Please leave him He is my son.

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He is my son. And then they kept on beating him up. This is your father and you doing this to him? Is your dad doing this to him? They keep on beating him up. The father said please don't do it. Don't beat him adopt what by Allah. I did the same to my father.

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He says by Allah I did the same to him.

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That.

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Another boy, his father took him and he took his grandpa. Where are you taking my grandpa Dad, I'm thinking into this elderly home, foster home, elderly home, they've take care of him. They're in his become old. Let's take care of your way. They'll take care of him. They'll feed him. He's become old. He's become old. And he talks talks too much in too much. He needs to be changed. He needs to be fed. He needs to be this he needs to be that. Let's just take him there. On the way back. The son told his dad that.

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Zach laka thank you for teaching me what I should do to you when you grow up.

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That made the stepfather he went back and he got his own father.

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Whatever goes around comes around. May Allah Subhana Allah help us to practice and COVID Cody had

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smilla hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah

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Ma Ma has

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been good to your parents.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala will bless your life will bless your income will bless your business your best whatever you've

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been cut to your parents, Allah subhanho wa Taala will make you amongst those that will be Mr. Jab Doha. If you are to make $1 to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah Allah will answer that.

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Just like the story of always some corny fairy we know a waste of money.

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The Prophet Mohammed is set to set him says whoever meets a waste of money.

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Ask him to make dua for you because he is granted.

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Who is always a waste was he used to live with his mother, away from Medina and Mecca very far away from a different country.

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He wanted to travel to Medina to meet the Prophet Mohammed Ali salatu salam.

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His mother said, I need you. I need you to be with me. I need you to serve me.

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He sacrificed the title.

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He sacrificed the title of Sahabi

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to be with his mother

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until the Prophet died, but before the Prophet daddy heard of him,

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he heard of this man always the colony

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in the era of bad was born, he came to Makkah to perform has

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not met Him and who his alma mater was from the 10 people 10 people who's given the gluttony but also from the people of Jana Omar went to him as he said, Are you always he said, Yes, yeah, always please make the half for me, Lima that why is this about sodoma said that you are Mr. Jabba. The Prophet says you are used is granted. Why? Because you served your mother and your sacrifice your mother.

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He became Mr. Javid to

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your mother, your mother, your mother.

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Best was given a lecture.

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And someone came to him and he says you have not at best.

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There is this woman who I fell in love with. Look what he said. He says I fit in love with.

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And then she married somebody else. This is in Bukhari. She married somebody else I went on I couldn't because I still loved her.

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I couldn't resist. I was like either.

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I make Toba. I gave I paid this and whatever I need to but the best, what can I do to expiate my sin?

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Best was looking and looking and looking. And then he says, Is your mother alive?

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He says yes.

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If not best is cool. and serve your mother.

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On the way out, one of the students of best came to him and he says you have not best.

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Why did you ask him about the mother?

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Why not? Why not to have why not stepfather? Why not charity? Why not?

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Why the mother, even I bet he says I could not find for him anything that will get him really close to Allah. Other than him being being obeyed and serving his mother.

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Nothing. I couldn't find anything better for him to do now than being good to his mother.

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Hopefully that will explain to you since

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you're the mother, your mother, the mother, my brother is the mother who sacrificed her dreams because of you.

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The one who helped you in her womb for how many months, nine months suffering, wishing your life

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wishing your life and now that she has become old. What are you wishing for her?

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The one who used to carry his mother and he can talk. He can't carry his mother, he on his shoulder, took her out into the, into the outskirts so she can take care of her needs. And then he brought her back.

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Have I fulfilled her needs? Or have I fulfilled her rights? Have I fulfilled my obligations towards her? He said, No. I said, No, she did the same thing to you didn't say just to change your diapers. He didn't

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choose to change you in cleats. You didn't say she did the same thing to you when you were a baby. And she she won. And she needed with love. She did and she did with love. And she wanted he prayed for you. And she wanted you she wanted to live for you. You're doing the same thing for her. But you wishing her death.

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You're wishing her death to old you have to take it every time to the washroom and back and forth and back and forth. You're doing it but you're not doing it from your heart.

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But she did the job, but she did it with her heart. Your mother your mother, your mother Oh.

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Look

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at that, as the Prophet Mohammed Salim says about the DA, the daughter of Mr. Shah, one of the dads Mr. jab at the mother or the father to his son or daughter.

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If your father is alive, if your mother is alive, go today before tomorrow and ask them to make the hell for you. Maybe that would be the way to do I view inshallah inshallah inshallah. Go but if, if they are no longer here, if they are dead, pray for them, cry and ask Allah Subhana Allah to forgive you to forgive them.

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Your mother, your mother, your mother, I have a quick

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poem for all the mothers here today.

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I have a poem

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and I hope in sha Allah hota Hana that this poem will reach the hearts of the mothers it is in Arabic, but will give you

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will give you a translation somewhat to insha Allah and

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before I do that, I just want to remind you of this hadith which is amazing.

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Integration by Mousavi Mousavi ceremony as the last panelist, Allah Oh Allah.

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Oh Allah who's my companion in Jenna,

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who's my companion in general.

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Allah has given to most I almost

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go to that very old place that all like house.

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You will find your companion in general

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Moosa goes.

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And then he find this young man

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with this old woman

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of color crippled, but he goes, he cleans the old woman who feeds her. He feeds her, cleans her. Then he cleans the house, and then he comes out. She's all the blind. Moosa goes in to that woman. Sarah, Mark said,

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Who is that boy? Who are you? She says, that's my son.

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That's my son. He says, What's so special about him? Do you make any particular for him? She says, Yes, I make it to have for him every day. Or Allah make my son the company of Mr. Engine.

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Musa told her I am Musa Allah has answered your cough

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ami

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ami

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Yeah, Asha Petunia.

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Yeah, sure. to ship coffee. Okay, yo, Phil Melissa yaku ladonia Emily until a colossal mana

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for the

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for the Mad

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Mad god kiyomi mina Tanya kalbi.

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Oh she and Farsi

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Oh my mother, my love, my love my life.

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The sun rises

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my entire life of Mother

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Father and to be a gift from Allah or mother. You are a gift from Allah or mother.

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Tanya, what should I give you from this life or mother? tongue up my heart I in my eyes

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and fasting, my soul, my breath

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and colloquially known everything is so

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For your mother everything is so little for your mother come late in Sahara tree Martin. Typically what to do? How many nights have she stayed up? Making the

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playfully happy to be happy Tanya she's making for her son of bee. Bee gives you for to my son.

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Oh my

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god I love you by Allah. Oh my mother. Yeah.

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Mona

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Mona

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but many, many on me, called me on me. Carry me on me hugging me on me explaining the meaning was 13 he was there he was there he

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carry me on my mother carry me hug me hug me and let me rest in peace or mother. Let me rest in peace of mother my brothers and sisters, please please, for those of you whose parents are still alive, and those of you who have parents maybe have passed away. One thing you can do for them as reported by Buhari, make the half for them and make it safer for them. The Prophet Mohammed Salim says in his health report in sin Buhari, a man will come into the judgment and he will find himself in a very high level, very high level mountains of favorite he will say Oh Allah, I did not do all this. All this mountains of hierarchal Allah I didn't do all this this level, Allah in general, I

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did not reach out and I reach this level. Allah subhana wa Taala tells him or her buddy, this is through this default of your son to you.

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Your son's been making the heart for you. Your son's been making this fun for you. This is what Richard is high level in Jannah. Make dua for your parents in sha Allah May Allah help us to practically