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left hander left, so to sell so that's Mr. de como matoba Tada when

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it comes to their global capital flows welcome welcome to episode number two of homemade happiness. Homemade happiness.

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Cave how to come?

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Hello say hello hello?

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MB

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Li

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MB

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me

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You're still you're still hiding your hair. I'm gonna get him a haircut tomorrow. So that's why it's a bit embarrassing. It does not look big. It's so big look at Russia. Oh no my mind is I took a machine and the Jesus did on my own the first time and then I messed it up a little bit. Right. But it's okay. Right? I just took the the trimmer and I just did it on. I used to do that. You know when I when I was a when I went to the US, right? I was 20 years old or so. 20 Yeah. 20 in 1920 my first year in the US I used to live in San Francisco in the dorms in the dorms. And I remember that first year because I was living in the dorms as a student. I would save any money I would not go in on

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having a haircut like at the barber shop. I would just take a razor and I would just like myself then do this

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with us kind of like you're like naturally very handsome but come on man.

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You are the one Mashallah You're the one

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handler How are you? So we started the new series called homemade happiness. Oh my son love my show. Yeah, this is our second session come to that today we finished the end of time and we just started we just started a new session you know it's about families it's about how all the members of the families handled that me Do you have anything about families in your in your mid you're in mesh Alia treasures? Unfortunately I haven't actually I'm actually in the process of writing something about family related specifically for the mother. Oh my mom, you got to share this Yes. Once it's complete, I will I will definitely share with you I have this a poem about mother which I'm going to

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share with them in shallow data very soon because now I changed a little bit my my route and I'm doing more poems and not like you Mashallah not like you a little bit of a CD in there, but hamdulillah Yeah, why don't you send me the poem on and on dm inshallah, let me see if I can use it as lyrics and make it into a song maybe. Okay, all right. I can do that in Sharla it is a it's an out there. It's not I just made my some tweets do it. But it's a beautiful poem about moms about mothers.

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Bi you have something new coming up. I mean, you have a new album, right? I have a couple of new singles coming out. I'm not releasing any albums at the moment. I want to start working on those albums inshallah in the next couple of years, not just yet I want to get some singles out first and then once I'm happy with my singles then I want to work on a full album because albums a lot more difficult. Yes, yes no, Mashallah you guys are I mean, I thought your job is easy, but trust me it is not easy. It is very difficult. Especially when you're doing a part time. full time student as well and I work full time as well. Are you doing it part time? It's a lot more difficult. Mashallah.

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Mashallah, do you have anything to share with me today with us? I'm trying to sing something for you. I'm just trying to call up the lyrics at the moment. Yes.

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What do you do that I do this?

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Li iE bedini

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I just I'm greeting everybody would set them as they're coming in. to come in and come in and then give you some time to find your lyrics.

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I got the lyrics already. Yeah, love it, man.

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I was a fool.

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little

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crazy things I used to do. And all the pain to put you through, Mama now I'm here for you, for all the times I made you cry. The days I told you lies. Now it's time for you to rise for all the things you say goodbye. So

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if I could turn back time rewind if I could make you a swear word. I would make it up to you, Mama.

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It's a brand new day. I would like to put a smile on your face every day. My mom growing up now, and it's not to laugh. I would like to put a smile on your face every day.

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This little one for me. You are the one that's number one for me. You are the one that's number one for me. Oh no for me. So

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this is actually my kids favorite. Really?

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Yes.

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That can take your place. Oh, I'm sorry for taking you for granted. Oh, would you use every chance I get to make you smile when I'm around you.

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Love you. You love me. Oh, God knows how much you mean to me.

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If I could turn back time rewind if I could

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swear that

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I would make it up to you. Mama. My mom growing up. No, it's a brand new day today.

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Every day

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I tried my best. I love you for the sake of Allah. I love you so much. For the sake

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Did you hear my new machine? No. I see fire. No, I want to hear it. All cows I'll see a little snippet in sha Allah. Allah please.

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If this is the way to you, then pray for me or my mother. Was these flames raised

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as we by calling you

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I beg you forgive us. So as the flames burn overall.

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And if we should

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then we should Oh, dang it together. raise my hands up.

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For the last coding you Milo. I beg you forgive as the flames but overall, it's hard. So don't you didn't know I'm running?

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Because I see.

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Inside Bobby. I see.

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Bernie trees I see.

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Bernie Holmes I see.

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Bernie

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that's just a little snippet. Yep, it's on YouTube. It's about Mother's Day. No, so it's about I thought to myself, so I'm 25 years old. I thought hamdulillah Allah has blessed me a lot and I get to live in the UK. Allah has given me immense amounts of bounties in my life so I thought how would somebody my age feel in a war torn country? You know what I mean? Like in all our brothers and sisters that are struggling in countries that are they don't have the same facilities as us how would they be will be my age in those country countries so I co wrote the song with somebody got the melody Alhamdulillah and I finally got a complete hamdulillah but hopefully you can if you can check

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it out. inshallah. I will and I would like it brothers and sisters j vocals on Instagram on YouTube I've got because I got Facebook writing as well right at the same time. Okay. So I'm taking them right there as well. J vocals that's the name j vocals like it you know whatever how you guys do this. You know push that that button. Subscribe. Beautiful as you can see that right beautiful voice and by the way

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Only 25 years old and he's still single

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j vocals, J vocals, your life will will and I just saw you know, you know whoever your life would be filled with songs, songs, so So if I were you click that button be

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private and then make an offer all right this is how it works

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look me up on Instagram it's alright hello hello hello

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pray pray for me myself a good spouse in less than

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23rd nights as well tonight so yeah hopefully yes it's Jay volkens that's correct j vocals that's it JA vocals guys, j j vocals j A vocals people are asking on phase one underscoring shall last I'm on available on YouTube on on Instagram guys give us give us a follow and if you guys have any requests for me to do, I'll do them if Allah wills inshallah so just let me know guys, I don't want to take too much of your time.

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Luck by the Columbia thank you so much for coming. Thank you

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so

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much kotula What a beautiful way to start our session homemade happiness brothers and sisters. How are you guys doing? rasmalai are you seeing better by cotton? Oh come on man. How's everyone doing? Everybody's doing all right. So my brothers and sisters welcome welcome all of you to our second session. The

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Ah

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yes, yes inshallah tada Eamonn. Amen. I've

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Moroccan guy, maybe Samia, Samia has some so my xo so my xo and shallow data is a good guy. I like him, right? I like him. You know? So metallisation vis you all we just had Jay vocals joining us and gave him a shout out to Michael and Shane with as his latest hits by Salalah quite a leveler.

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So what a beautiful those of you who've come in late, you missed out one of the best, best best, you know, intros to homemade happiness. We started with a beautiful machine from ja vocals Mashallah karate libnah

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Why

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is a guy and this guy's a guy? Why are you know? I don't understand. Anyways, brothers and sisters Welcome to my second session. Homemade happiness yesterday.

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Yesterday we talked about the

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By the way, anybody who's coming late please go back. Or occupy is your brother Hollis? Okay got it. I did not know activism brother. Alright, how is your brother so

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sad baby's not happy you have have a tape and and who is the name of your other brother? Because they know that they went with me by the way. Did we miss

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you by the way? My phone number Okay, I got him I got him. Okay, I know now, I'll talk to happy.

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But this is sisters. Those of you who've come in late, please go back and check out this amazing

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first session. You know when you know those of you who have come in late, you will you will be in exactly 70. So go back and check it out and shallow to it because it will be saved on my stories don't come late next time. Don't come in late start from the very beginning. We had an amazing, amazing hamdulillah beginning my brothers and sisters.

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Yesterday we talked we started our series,

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talking about the families talking about you know a message to the husband to the wife, to the moms to the dads to the sisters to the daughters to the husbands and wives to everybody you know from the family, my brothers and sisters.

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And

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I left it where

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we were going to look into the life of the Prophet Mohammed as a prophet Mohammed is salatu salam, as a father, Prophet Mohammed as a grandfather, Prophet Mohammed as a as a as a as a husband, Prophet Mohammed so set them as a as a

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man in general but as a father in law, and he sought to set up

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profitable Mohammed Ali sought to swim as a father, as if I see him that day when he was sick. And then every time a Fatima used to come in Prophet Mohammed

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would stand and would kiss her on her forehead. And we would make her sit next to him some of the lesson but that day because he was sick, he could not get up and kiss her ideas or sell them because this was almost the day when, you know, a few days before he was gonna die or even that day before he was gonna die. And it's up to him, you know, he cried. He cried, because he could not kiss his beloved Fatima about the level and heart of the Prophet Mohammed. It says to them, the Father, the Son, the son after 50 years, after 50 years, my brothers and sisters

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when he stood by the grave of his mom crying, weeping, weeping is so sad when he went, you know, and the Sahaba they saw him crying, and they did not know why Prophet Mohammed was crying, he just came to this old grave came down and he started crying, it says to them, and then, and then they did not know why he was crying, they started crying to just because Prophet Mohammed is crying, he started crying, too. And then Prophet Mohammed le Salatu, salam, he,

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he, when he came back, he said, that was my mother's grave. This happened 50 years later, after the death of his mom. 50 years later, Prophet Mohammed Azam went to pay his tribute, but she believes, you know, the fifth to him that he cannot, you know, sort of like pray for her and seek is too far for her because she died in a state of non belief. So he really started crying and weeping because he could not seek us to fall for his own mother Salalah Islam, but after 50 years, he never forgot his mom, some love letters in Prophet Mohammed, the father in law, the father in law, when he heard that I really want to learn who you know, was little bit sad and upset when he you know, went out,

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you know, because he had a little argument with his wife, Fatima, right. So, Prophet Mohammed, he heard that Fatima was said, and it was said and it was out, you know, he stepped out. So he went to comfort him, at least sought a sermon. Then he was sleeping on the on the ground, and he has some Earth on his cheek, and then he called him up or the men of Talal Abu Taleb, the father of tala because we all come from Tulum, we all come from Earth, he says, All the father of Earth Get up. So he went and he hugged him, you know, and brought him back home. And he sought to sit in families. It's all about families. Prophet Mohammed dahlias of Sudan, the granddad right the granddad May

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Allah subhanho wa Taala some of you who are already having you know, martial law, children metalized always yell and shout Allahu taala make you live to see your grandchildren inshallah tada and estab all of you, all of you, all of you. May Allah azza wa jal, you know give you put Baraka in your life's best that you could live to see your grandchildren in sha Allah, Who tada When, when, when Prophet Mohammed was in the US to play with that hassanal Hussein, with a husband with Hussein, and he would, you know, piggyback them and he said, You know, when we call it piggyback, so the Prophet Mohammed would piggyback and hessen what he was saying, you know, I don't the Allahumma lahoma,

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perfectly Mohammed Elissa to send them the the husband and the husband arisa to sit down with his wives, you know, with our Isha with Khadija and how any tender tender he was Allah His salatu salam so as you can see my brothers and sisters homemade happiness, you know, it's it's for all the members of the family. The Prophet Mohammed Ali Sato sermon he said with regards to you know, the families he says about him Allah Hola, shoden karma Mina Lily phi Cardozo Jetta for Sunday Yara katerini Alpha salata, katerini fukushi Berman advocating Allahu Allah, Allah, Allahu Akbar. He says, Allah says, Allah will put mercy upon a couple you know, who wake you know like a man who

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wakes his wife up to pray, you know at night, he works his way up to pray at night, he says, and then they pray associate in the day pray to Allah to Allah decree that he wrote them from a decade and Allah Catalan was lucky that those who make a mention of Allah those who make Vicar of Allah Xhosa, you know, a man, the Prophet says Allah will put up on the on the on the on the household where a man wakes his wife up to pray at night, Allahu Akbar, to pray at night. They pray together. And they said that yesterday for remember one of my first Foundation, the first Foundation has said, we know pray together as a family especially now in the light of this pandemic, pray together,

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right, pray together in sha Allah who tada in the in the in the face of this pandemic. So the prophet SAW some says that Allah subhana wa tada will put blessing on the on this on this household where the man will accept to pray to wake up his wife, and then Allah subhanho wa Taala will write them from the executive Allah kathina and those who make a mention of Allah Subhana Allah. This is

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If you look at the West today and how they portray, you know,

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the family some Halloween you know, even in these movies nowadays how they make the kids you know, hate the moms and hate their dads you know as he you know some handler This is the western our children are watching these movies and somehow you see this they go up and having so much hatred to the moms and dads you know they don't even call them names they call them they don't care you call them moms and dads they call them by their first name, they he calls his dad by his first name and he calls his mom by her first name with Ebola right. So,

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this is their, their their image or this is how they portray the image of the family whereas in a stem family comes in first. family comes in first and when I said earlier, the one that

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puts

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this drama on a household where the husband wakes his wife up to pray for him to play the play in the middle of the night they pray together not necessarily fashion no but they pray together. So Pamela so yesterday I mentioned to

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her foundations if you remember right when he says he came in last manisa what is the first foundation I mentioned yesterday? What is the first foundation I mentioned yesterday? Remember I shared with you two foundations and to then shallow tight I'm going to share one more Bismillah what is the first foundation of principle I mentioned I shared with all of you yesterday

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Exactly. I have good money sir. pray together as a family right?

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Together worship a lot together, worship Allah together exactly like a tsunami Exactly. You know, and when I say worship Allah together not necessarily just praying so that you could read and together you could stay together and then do the act together right you know it's it's it's it's a worship of Allah together. That's foundation number two what

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Excuse me? What's foundation number two I shared with you yesterday

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foundation number two that was number one what's number two that I've shared with you yesterday? Yes getting mad that was worship a lot together. That was the first one was the second one.

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The second foundation I should value your family's like a lot have value your family family first. Exactly. value the needs of the family.

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Okay, value the needs of the family, the the bounty, the blessings of the family value the family because if you don't value your family, may Allah forbid me Allah forbid, you don't want Allah Subhana Allah Donna to take that number from you were in

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law

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to sue her. If he were to enumerate the blessings of Allah you won't be able to you won't be able to count the blessings of Allah Xhosa.

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You want so your family is a is a is a nearmap so value that neoma value and respect that that blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala because May Allah forbid if you don't value it, Allah subhanho wa Taala may take it away the foundation number three.

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Now it may become a nicoma

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Foundation number three. Before I share that foundation with all of you, let me ask and see how you're doing nassima How are you? How are you? What I love one love How are you Hi deja How are you Angela Hey man, how are you? nazwa analyst ally and forehead and they weren't How are you? How's everyone? How's everyone doing? How's monisha doing? How's Eamon doing? How's Sofia doing? How's he doing? How's everyone gave a how to come? How's rasmalai Oh man, how are you? Oh man. Yes man. How are you? You all doing great and charlo Tada and hamdulillah mellitus. neem How are you? sure that our honey? Yeah honey happy behind you. How are you? And Nola Rob How are you? Are you doing great

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yes scene of rice. How are you? Yes, you know, rice. I hope I love it. How are you doing? Well hamdulillah everybody shows you it. How's everybody? How's everything? Good. hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen nazwa light spread. You all get hungry La La Monica. alumina Khan. Maya Maya kivlehan you good hamdulillah how's the family? How phase move on how's everybody have his mobile house? How's how Sulaiman hustling man? How's it you know? How are the kids doing? All of them are listening CF How are you see?

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You're doing great. Angela doing okay. Yes. Seeing those of you doing okay, loss rosani you're doing all right. hamdulillah and hamdulillah behind me rose

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Then Ali Mashallah beside me. All right, so sisters and brothers,

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sisters and brothers. foundation number three, the one great

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not i'm not going to iccm tonight tomorrow Sharla on Sunday on Sunday I'm going to be there iccm Shabbat Sunday, I will be going to iccm for a surprise in sha Allah for the surprise

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sisters and brothers. Mashallah foundation number three or Principle number three.

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I call it the mercy principle. I call it the rational principle, the llama principle.

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I want to have gender in my home, and I cannot have gender in my home. If there is no drama in my home.

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We cannot have gender in our homes. If there is no drama in our homes, you understand. So, this is why my brothers and sisters, I need to bring back the Rama in our home, me and my wife having

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me and my father with me and my mom having a hammer, me and my kids, Rama, me and my brother, me and my sister Rama, me and my uncle me and my cousins me, Rama, Rama, Rama, you know, and this talk or this principle is for all of us, for everybody. For the father who sometime is very harsh towards his kids, or very rough towards his spouse. Right? I say about him. I say for the father, still who sometimes complains about everything his children do. I say Rama,

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Rama for the still the father who's absent. I say a hammer for the wife. For the wife, who maybe sometimes does not care only cares about her look, but she forget about her children or she forget about her husband, I say about Mama. I say like mama

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for the mom, I say Russia because you are meant to be like my mom's I said for the daughter, for the son for the daughter or the son who are somehow sometimes absent, neglectful, neglectful, they're always on their phone. Day in and day out on their phone, in their rooms. isolated from everyone and anyone they are just in their rooms on their phones, on their phones. Right? I say I say the brought you to this world.

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And they raised you just so you can go on your on your room and isolate yourself and then just spend most of the time on your phone with your friends. Which social media Yeah, and he even when you are eating a bite together some times that are breaking your fast together, the phone is next to you. Right 111 hand eating food and one hand you know watching on your phone, I say

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I said

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I say Rama for the daughters. And they say for the sons, I say for the dads and they say to him or for the moms, I say to the husbands and they say to the wives

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to the husband,

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sometimes who is rough or sometimes who is harsh

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towards his wife.

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Please have Rama

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to the both of them the spouses sometimes having this trivial, trivial

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argument, senseless argument. I said

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I said

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we cannot

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some have Allah

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bring happiness at home, as I mentioned, and listen until we have a hammer in our homes. And it's amazing brothers and sisters when you need to earn and you see how Allah has also talks about families when he talks about families he mentioned.

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Wouldn't that be amazing? Wouldn't that be amazing?

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When Allah subhana wa Adana right

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vinci's families in the Quran emerges.

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When Eliza talks about husbands and wives for instance, I'll give you an example husbands and wife. Well, I mean, he and her partner come in, forsaken as well janitors kuno in a

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way I mean, tea and hot,

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fuzzy komazawa janitors kuno.

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And amongst his signs is that he had created amongst you mates, husbands and wives, so that you may dwell in tranquility and he has put amongst you he was put between you

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love, affection and

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affection, wood and the hammer.

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When Allah subhanho wa Taala talks about children, about husbands and wives, fathers and mothers, you know, and then children, Allah subhana wa tada says about parents about parents, he says, What Fiddler will manage? Only mean of watmough

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boo

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boo Illa

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What do you need a you need your son in?

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law woman?

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What Allahumma bonan carry man walks with level Mirjana has only mean

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well first level manager now has only mean

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what what B is 100 huemer gamma biani barony saw me long. And your Lord has decreed that your worship not about him and that you'd be good to your parents.

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And if they were to reach a certain age like under the age, then Allah subhana wa tada says, lower on to them the Wink of submission and humility to the

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to the mercy. So this is why I said this foundation should be mercy urashima live with Rama

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foundation number three that I would like to share is live together we

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live together with mercy, Mama.

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So much so that Allah subhanho wa Taala calls the kinship in Arabic, a rhyme a line in Arabic it's called a Rahim was Allah him the kingship? No, the brother the sister cousins, the uncles, the Auntie's, they're the moms though the desert.

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It comes from Allah.

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Allah.

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Allah Xhosa says, Whoever man he is

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what he over him and she is a writing the kingship is derived from men.

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He derives the the the name of kingship and rahem from the name of Allah, our men look the importance of families in Islam.

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And the Rain

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Man was on our salto woman,

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whoever oppose the kinship our appalled him whoever severe is it, I would severe him and cuts it. I would cut him

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your hair moment fill out your hammock, Memphis summer have mercy upon those who are on Earth. Allah will have mercy upon you.

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Sisters and brothers,

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sisters and brothers.

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And those of you who have come in late I feel sorry.

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I feel sorry. But go back and and watch what you have missed from the beginning. Sisters and brothers. Please listen to this. What I'm going to say right now. Those of you who say my father did my father did my father did those who said my mother did my mother did my mother did. Please listen to him. I'm about to say right now. Okay, listen to what I'm about to say right now.

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Maybe you can never change your dad.

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Maybe you cannot change your dad's

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or change your mom.

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You Your dad is your dad. And your mom is your mom.

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They are who they are.

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Maybe I would never be able to choose my dad, especially when your dad reaches a certain age. Especially when your dad or your mama reaches a spirit. You know a certain age you will not be able to change them. They are who they are. Yes. I'm going to be talking to them as well.

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Trust me, trust me, I'm gonna be having sessions just talking to the mom and sessions talking to the dance. Yes. But I'm telling you now that maybe you won't be able to change who they are.

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Some of us may be holding grudges towards their parents. Some of us maybe are still holding grudges towards their parents. But I know May Allah forgives me at some point I was as well. Because my father was really tough on me. My father was tough on us, my father used to beat us up really, really, really hard. He used to beat us up so much journey, sometimes you only my blood will reach the wall.

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How he used to beat us up, and you grew up, sometimes you have that resentment, but it's a feeling. But you know what the day when I said to myself, if your father knew better, he would have treated you better. That's what he knew at the time.

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That's what your father knew.

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You see, so I'm telling all of you don't hold any grudges towards your parents, because they raised you a certain way, or they were harsh, or they were different. They were that if your dad or your mom knew better, they would have treated you better. That's how that's what they knew at the time. That's what they knew.

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Maybe your mom she's reckless.

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She doesn't care. And I found that to be really hard to believe a mom who does not care

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Hmm

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So what should you do? make dinner for your mom and make that for you that

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make dinner for them?

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That's all because maybe you cannot change them or maybe they are in an age where they can never be changed unless they want to open the one conclusion is Allah subhana wa tada is Allah. So, what you can do instead is make to have freedom make to have freedom

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try to live in your home with

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you will see

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maybe I can help you I can help you have a plan.

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I can help you right later. They know right now. Now it is life changing. Because let me let me share with your plan. Maybe on how to inshallah huhtala have Rama trying try to have a condition Samia, Samia, so Samia

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try to have a more Sharla what's the Mashallah try to have a condition let's say from today I'm going to put this condition I'm going to be living with asthma with my family put that as one condition number one have this condition number two have a follow up

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metabo follow up.

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Yeah,

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have a follow up.

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Any condition you put it upon yourself? condition you put it upon yourself. I'm gonna live with Rama and then after a week two, three, have a follow up. See how you're doing number three a month have an assessment and assessment. Me living with this llama did it change anything in my in my in my household? Do this and I swear by Allah, you will see changes in your homes inshallah.

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You will see that in your homes, trust me

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first do Mashallah a condition. My condition is from now on. I'm going to be living with Rama in my whole

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number to have a follow up every week every to see how you're doing.

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After the end of the first month, have an assessment and assessment. I love you to my head for the sake of Allah, I love you all I love all of you. And after you know a month, have an assessment and assessment inshallah who Tad right, and then see how you're doing Be it Neela it's a plan on how to bring money into our homes. You know, this is it. This is so Pamela I'm as you you know, if you have to have an Indian Muslim handler once you have brothers and sisters, listen.

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The father will not never will no longer be the one who is making decisions decisions will be a home decision. So Pamela because we call it home made happiness. So any decisions that we need to make it will involve all the members of the family.

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The husband will not no longer be the one who's making decisions or maybe the wife or the mom will no longer be the only one who's making decisions. decisions will be done by everybody, every member of the family, every member of the family. Why? Because now we have into in our

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Homes look. So Pamela, I was reading this idea about breastfeeding,

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about breastfeeding. Just so you see, just so you see the importance of consulting with one another in Islam, with the families with the family, how we need, you know,

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any chicken with one another. Right. And, and, and consulting with one another. What do they got to, you know, the breastfeeding? breastfeeding is a matter that you know that that Subhanallah relates to the wife to the mom, the mom, she's the one who's breastfeeding, she can say, I want to start breastfeeding after the first month

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or the second month

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or the first year.

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She can make that decision. But Allah subhana wa Jaiden for the client says even the month for her breastfeeding, she needs to consult with her husband. Look, look as he unless I know what that is. Is that any insalata Baqarah verse number 233 in sokolova, verse number 23, just so you can understand in a matter of breastfeeding, we need to have consultation. How about in bigger matters? How about in traveling? How about in marriage? How about in jobs? How about in homes? How about if moving in moving out in any matter? You have to have some sort of consultation with one another. So Allah subhana wa Dionysus one worry that you're

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gonna have Lainey, kameena Kamini Lehman Avada a new t ma ra for the mothers, you know, they desire what the laws are saying they to breastfeed, you know, they're to suckle their kids how lady came in for two years for two years, for whom ever wants to complete this two years of suddenly second debate.

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That in all that feeds on that in Ananda visonic talad him in Houma with a show on Fela, Juna Holly Hey man, I love it. Allah, Allah Kabbalah, the mothers shall give sack to their babies for the whole two years. Then Allah subhana wa Jalla says, Who ever desires to complete the term of suckling? Yeah, and it'd be a for the two years, what should they do? After they consult with each other husband? My husband, I want to stop suckling. I want to introduce the baby, the bottle. The husband, he's doing this.

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He doesn't understand what's going on. Is what he says. Yeah. You want to stop, stop. Don't keep carrying. It doesn't go now. What's going on? He's doing

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the husband.

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The husband is

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you want to stop the suckling? Who's gonna say to me, I'm gonna breastfeed him now. I'm gonna breastfeed him. What do you mean, you're gonna stop breastfeeding? I cannot breastfeed him. Just wait. Just wait. She's trying to consult with you. Yeah, yeah. Don't make me call your name or your husband. Don't make me call your name. Your wife is trying to use the N with you. She's trying to consult with you. She's calling you Mary jam. Marriage, marriage and Mary john. She's calling you you're Habibi. She's calling you know, Annie. She's calling you Beautiful Names. She's trying to consult with you. Right.

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And she's trying to tell you, I'm going to stop the breastfeeding. She I think we should stop the breastfeeding and you just boil it? What do you mean, stop the breastfeeding? I'm not gonna breastfeed her. I have no milk.

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That's not what she meant. You're not making me call your dummy. Not making me call you some names. Please.

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She's just trying to consult with you. What do you think? And I'm hurt. And it sometimes sometimes you see some handler blood comes out from that from from the breast right? Little bit blood comes because they suck and suck and suck and suck. Right? So she says, Can we stop? And we can introduce she's so what Allah is saying in the end. What are they saying? And you know, for the mothers, they shall give sex to their to the babies for two whole years. for two whole years. Who whenever desires whoever desires to complete the term of cycling, after they consult with one on one each other. It's fine if they want to stop the cycling after they consult with each other. Yeah, and even with the

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matter of suckling, she should not make that decision herself. She should consult with her husband.

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So Pamela

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Allah, Allah Allah. So this is the Ashima. This is why I said my brothers and sisters, once we introduced the Rama, imagine, if only in matters of Sakhalin, we need to consult with one another. It is not the father who makes decisions always. It is not the mom who always makes decisions. It is not the father who says I, you will marry your cousin, or your cousin. It is not your mom who says you will marry Khadija or Khadija you will marry sumiya or sumiya, you will marry a man or a man you will marry a man you will marry a beloved, beloved, you will marry learn.

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It's a consultation. It's a dialogue. It's a conversation. So Pamela so even in cycling, we have to have consultation. In bigger matters. We need to have this consultation and we cannot have this endless we introduce this principle number three, the principle of Rama Rama mercy.

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Prophet Mohammed associate Prophet Mohammed one more time Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam

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one day

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one day

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he's having an argument with his wife.

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And then the wife said

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the man on the mountain, you know, even shave I used to get scared of Rama shaitan used to get scared of Rama. Rama is going on one path, and we'll go the other path.

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And then his wife she's arguing with the advocate. Maybe she raises her voice I think and then and then he says, abortion. are you arguing with me? Are you talking back at me? She's talking back? Are you talking back at all? Are you talking about says yes. Even the Prophet Mohammed his wives are talking back at him. So hammer hammer, he rushed to his daughter hafsa. He rushed to his daughter have some because she's the wife of the Prophet. And then he goes to his hafsa do you do you do you ladies? Do you talk about Allah? Do you argue with a woman? She says yes. Oh, his wife does. All his words they do.

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l his wives. We talk about the you know the

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the allowance, the allowance that we get? Sometimes we argue

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on the way giving only this much one more hour. Sometimes we argue with him.

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To punish you. How can you argue with us?

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And sometimes the husband when his wife talks back?

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You talk back at me? Don't you know who am I?

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The the woman who talks back at me she's not born yet? Hey, yeah.

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They aren't men. Oh, yeah. The woman who will argue and raise her voice at me she's not born yet.

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Have you

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learned new Intel you think grandezza what do you think you are into? Hey, hey, the Terminator. Oh, keep on bola.

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Then

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you might use the i o Tiger for you.

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So what what sort of ideas are set up perfect Mohammed even his wives they used to talk back and argue and race sometimes they voice at him.

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So he understood. He understood. So one day a man was coming. He had an argument with his wife. His wife was yelling at him. So he went to

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so he wants to he wants to complain about his wife. And then he heard from outside the Lord.

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From outside the door, he heard the wife of mama raising her voice atoma

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raising.

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So he he stepped back. He heard the footsteps. He opened the door. Hey,

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Joe, Joe. Joe. Joe, Joe. Joe. Joe. Joe. Johnny in arabic.com. Joe Joe, Joe

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What did you come to see me before? He says no, no, no, no. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. This isn't at cha cha cha cha cha cha TK, TK Tell me tell me

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out Oh, yeah. Oh, no job. Oh, I keep saying Joe. It's out and you come come

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out. Okay, okay. Okay. Come on, man. Come on, man.

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He said, No, no, no, no. He said, Yes. Tell me

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He said

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I had an argument with my wife.

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I had an argument with my wife.

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And then and then I came to complain to you that I heard your wife was screaming at you and yelling at you. So I just left I said if your home up home on the mountain his wife is

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you know who am I? He says what up what through the night be patient with her. She looks after me. She takes care of the kids she you know, she cooks my food and should I be you know, merciful towards her

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mercy.

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So, again, we have to live with Rama brothers and sisters. This is why I said this foundation should be called the living with a llama. This is foundation number two moms. moms

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have Rashmi upon your mom's and I will have one session again many sessions just talking about moms and dads and children. But your mom

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how can you break her heart?

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How can you make her

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How can you make her cry?

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Your mom does have homework.

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If the sun is is Lima, the rain is lahoma

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The sun is like a map but the sun does not talk. The rain is a hammer but the rain does not talk. Rain is up for them along. The sun is up. But they don't talk a lot as though he created

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a talk in the AMA.

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Allah created a talk in Alabama. Okay sisters and brothers. Who's that talking?

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Who is the talking llama that Allah has created?

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Rain does not talk and sun does not talk in sama. But Allah created those are silent. But we have a talking to him. What's the talk in Lima? What am I talking about?

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Mother caca. Mother mom's mom's mom's they are the talking ama. Ama oh me however you want to say it. Oh man. Oh, me. Oh me. Wait until I share my poem with you. Wait until I share my poem about the moms with you in sha Allah who tada and then I will have another poem about the dads insha Allah tala one poem about the ohm. And one poem about the the dad in sha Allah Yama, Yama, we say your motto ami ami, Mama. Mama.

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Baba, however you want to call them ami image. m you know, Mom, not Yo, not Yo, come on. Me. Molly. Oh me have been Who?

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Me mi Hoban

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me Yeah.

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Yeah, see till Hubba

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Habiba, Habib. Yes, it in

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the back. Yeah, Habiba. Oh, me. Oh, me. Oh, me. Yes, it didn't have a hobby, but a hobby but so much. So. If you remember my brothers and sisters, you know,

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the

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I mentioned this story. When I said about the

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the man who was in His sight. I remember that story from the end of time. When he was praying, there's always delays and his mom, she came to him and he my Salah on my mom, my Salah with my mom. So he kept on praying. And the next day she came to him in his little place of worship. And she called him Yes, relays, yes. relays.

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And then, and then he he said My only or sadati. So he ignored his mom on the third day. Yes, relays. He has relays. And again, because he was praying somehow she just came when he was inside out and he says on me or sadati my mom or my daughter, and then the mom. She was really upset and then she made that against him. Right. And you know, but he was in his center.

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He was in his Salah.

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He was not on his phone.

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He was not on his social media. He was not just relaxing on his PlayStation plane. He was in his center. So my brothers and sisters, I will ask

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With this, what would I end with? I will end if you need Rama, you need to also be able to forgive.

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Now you need to be able to forgive. Well yeah for 20 years follow him on a

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hula con them pardon and let them forgive, but you want Allah to forgive you.

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You may be holding some grudges or resentments because she wasn't able to serve you. Or maybe he wasn't able to serve you. Or maybe he was mean or maybe he was or she was or whatnot. In this month, the blessing of the month of Ramadan, in this final 10 days of Ramadan, which are the most blessing days in the sight of Allah subhanho wa Taala brothers and sisters, for the Rama to overwhelm our homes. We need to be able to forgive. Let us forgiven shout Allahu taala this will give us a Friday he said, You know the story, you will suffer a sudden 20 years who caused him to be thrown in the in the word his brothers, his brothers. So you complain about your brothers or you complain about your

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sisters. Yosef had a set up his own brothers. What did they do to him? They throw him into the well.

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NET they they outstrip him. They removed his shirt right they stripped him they throw him into the desert into this well, freezing cold the desert at night, freezing cold during the day hot during the night, freezing cold, no food, no water they throw him into this world.

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20 years later, he forgave them.

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His own brothers he forgave them

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and he said Oh no.

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Oh no. He saw

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me and to eat Egypt in sha Allah safe you're all safe for you. young fellow law Allah forgives us I forgive you. Can you be like yourself inshallah brothers and sisters? Can you be like yourself, or be like Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam who forgave forgiven shout love to Allah, for Allah to overwhelm your home in sha Allah tada a la la la la la comme la based in salt hood for 773 SOT hood verse number 73, Allah subhana wa tada says, A LA Metro la he will go like to lay come bait the mercy of Allah and His blessings will be upon you or your household or your people of this house.

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Don't you want a lot to say to have the plasma and that blessing upon you? Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh Can you say salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Right when it comes

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to cattle so unlike saying here, to Mahi wabarakatuhu aleikum Al Bayt da of Allah and the bobcat upon you or your people of this house.

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I saw a dream. I effect I saw three dreams. Amazing dreams. Would you like me to share my dreams with you? Maybe just one. I saw three amazing dreams and I want to share them with you.

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Can I share my dreams with you? 123 dreams.

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Amazing dreams. I saw them a while back. I saw them few years ago. I saw them a few years ago. I never forgot them.

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Amazing dreams. And I want to share them with you.

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Maybe only one dream, but I saw three.

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I mean, I saw so many dreams. But for those dreams for me to remember them. They were so amazing. That that that you know I never forgot them. And I want to share them with you

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know, cliffy Mmm, amen. No. cliffie Yes. cliffie Yes. Layla cliffy?

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Yes. Layla cliffie we will share those dreams with you tomorrow inshallah hota. Tomorrow, I will share my dreams with you. In fact, you are all my dreams, all of you out of my dreams.

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All of you Mashallah. Our dreams? Yes, you are. Is that Camilla hair? metal. I bless you. May Allah reward you. May Allah subhanho wa Taala Samia, no tomorrow in sha Allah to Allah. May Allah bless you tell I paid I haven't seen him in a long time. Tell him he needs to come back. I don't know what the heck he did the disability get married and disappeared. 2019 seconds left for Instagram. May Allah bless you as I can love her Instagram. May Allah bless you. May Allah reward you while kullfi come as we see you tomorrow shallow to Allah because Instagram is caring is caring. 654321 Santa Monica Mr. Graham. Sorry.

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