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Homemade Happiness #18 – Youth and Friends

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Hola salatu salam ala rasulillah salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. This is real Rosie we're coming off to

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homemade happiness. This is session number 18

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when it comes to them those of you on Instagram how's the sound today on Instagram?

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Is it as yesterday or is it better?

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How is it today?

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Sister yes me How is that today?

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Still robotic

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man

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well

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I am so sorry man that just something happened I don't know what Instagram has done but

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Instagram again it's a problem so maybe you can check back with I mean you can either stay there because I did listen here I went back and I heard it. It is a little bit robotic. Or you can move to

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you can move to

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Facebook, it's up to you. You know if you are you can move to wherever it can. I mean, when I heard it was still okay, you can still hear me that's fine, but it's the problem is different from Instagram. Because on Facebook sister Mariana on Facebook, how do you how did you hear me?

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How's the sound on Facebook?

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Just a Mariana on Facebook.

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Just as Mariana her sister Lula robe on Facebook How's that? Is it good? Okay, so again you know on Facebook is good on Instagram is distorted so

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I don't know it's it's an Instagram thing. Maybe we should report this to Instagram.

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So you can go back to

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you know, you can

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you can you can either end up joining me on Facebook or will report this to Instagram Mashallah.

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All right.

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Bye

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Bismillah al hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala we're gonna start with shallow Taylor those who have joined some of you on Instagram have complained about the sound you can you know this live on Facebook as well. You can join me on Facebook and the sound is alright on Facebook, but on Instagram, I don't know what the problem is, but I'm gonna carry on inshallah who tada I'm gonna carry on. Today inshallah we'll be

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session number

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would be session number 18 session number 18 homemade happiness.

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Now I'm a chef and mushkin marfil Instagram Mel Mandela and Nana live either on Facebook or Facebook. Yeah, Anisha Falco

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and Facebook Chevelle qui especialista grandmother salt, salt,

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salt, Facebook show girl Christmas and Instagram. A sophomore was born. Love mustache. Anyways, Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Welcome all of you back to our homemade happiness sisters and brothers.

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This is session number 18. And it is again still talking about the youth. Yesterday we talked about the youth and sexual relationships, right youth and sexual relationships.

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We and maybe what we

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the foundation that we had to mention yesterday because we talked about how that intimacy act is is a sacred act. So we need to add this as a foundation because I mentioned so far 10 foundations, so we need to add this as another foundation and that foundation or principle is intimacy is a sacred is a sacred you know relationship intimacy or you know, yeah, intimacy is a sacred relationship. So this should be foundation number 11 inshallah Tada. All right. Again, I'm live on Facebook as well live on Instagram. Instagram has some issues with the voice with the sound of the voice with the sound. It's most likely from Instagram because this is the second day that this has happened on

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Facebook we don't have that problem. So you may want to join me on Facebook as well. If you are annoyed with that robotic sound or you know from from Instagram, at any rate, yesterday my brothers and sisters again we talked about the youth and we talked about the you know the you know the Hello

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Relationships versus the hallum sexual relationships. And, and we talked about

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a lot of things and I'm just recapitulating quickly inshallah, tada for those of you who just joined, you know, the thing that we spoke about yesterday,

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we said that adjust Allah aka modasa you know, adjust meaning, you know, sexuality, you know sexual sexual relationship, this is something secret, right? It has to be done in accordance with the laws that have been set by Allah subhana wa, Tada. We also talked about harassment or flirting, which is also something head on that leads to, to to sexual relationship, which is how I'm as well. So

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don't think, you know, if you're that only, you know,

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these hard on sexual relationships, you know, is the only thing that held on but also something that may lead to it is also Harlem. And that would be flirting or harassment.

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We spoke about

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some of the ways to calm that urge, because it is a natural, you know, it's our natural instinct, both both men and women. It's a natural instinct. So we have that urge, what are some of the ways to calm that urge I mentioned about the muscle, I mentioned, lowering the gaze, I mentioned, fasting, I mentioned,

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sports, I mentioned, being involved with being involved with

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being involved with

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voluntary work, you know, being busy in all volunteer and voluntary work may be a message, it may be a sports center may be a library, whatever it is, you know, a charitable organization, but keep yourself busy. Because you see, when you're when when you have so much free time, then you start thinking about other things in the shape and comes in as well and start playing with your, with your mind. So you have to keep yourself busy.

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And I also spoke to the sisters saying, you know, to watch out, you know, in terms of their tone, when talking to men, when talking to boys, when talking to even a shift in what you want to ask a question, you know, to watch that tone, because that tone, may I send the wrong message to the, to the to the other person. And again, the fact that we both men and women are so different in so many ways. And I explained a little bit of that yesterday, how, you know, maybe a sister who could be behave in such in a very normal way, but you could be sending the wrong message to the brother or the brother or the guy could take that message in and decoded in a very wrong way. So this is

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something also to be analyzed, OSHA has mentioned that it

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was

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fair to my lead if

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you see, this is not just from me, but it isn't the end. So the

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Salatin a, no one will call you for that. And then he says, and, and don't you know, you know, with your voice, make sure that you're,

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that you, you speak in a very, you know, in a decent way so that you fire up my lead if you can be bothered, because that others whose hearts are sick, they have disease hearts, so they may take it just from your voice from your sound, and then they may interpreted it differently. And then as I and I met, my last advice was for the, for the parents, whether you know, dads and moms to help their children get married, help the boys and their sons and their daughters, you know, get married, and support them, if they want to get married.

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I want to talk about something very important to deal with, because today inshallah Tyler wouldn't be my last session, you know, talking about the youth, and to more shallow Tyler, I want to summarize the whole series, be in the lead, and then start a new brand new series with all of you. So today, I want to start this, I want to just, you know, start a new session, talking about the youth, but something that you know, that 99% from the youth who get, you know, who became sort of like,

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who became who become a stray 99% as the studies have, have showed, you know, the ministries that have been conducted, and the and the and, and, and the statistics have shown that the 99% of these youth that fall into that become a stray and fall into drug addiction or any type of addiction is because of their friends, as their friends. So today I want to talk about the importance of friends, and how they can influence you as as a as a boy or a girl, you know, into either becoming successful or becoming a loser. You know, how fragile

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Play that instrumental role in shaping who you are as a person, now they do your friends do play a very instrumental role in shaping your personality as a brother or a sister.

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So maybe the question that we should post today is how should we choose our friends?

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How should we choose our friends, what should be the framework, what should be the characteristics that we should be looking for, in terms of, you know, a friend,

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when a son or a daughter, you know, six years, she's six years old, seven years old, eight years old, number one person in her life would be her mom and her dad, his mama, his dad, but once that son or daughter, maybe more of a son and a daughter, once they reach the age of 14 1516, you know, the teen age, the teen age, then who becomes their first number one in their life,

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love them, you know, from you, as a dad or a mom, you know, being that number one, you may be go down into number, maybe four, or five, or sometimes even 10. And number one becomes the, maybe their friends, I know. So, this is why we need to inshallah huhtala talk about this problem, either about the youth and the friends. And the peer pressure, the peer pressure that love used to have to go to write the, because there is a law amongst them right amongst the youth, you know, that you have to melt in, you have to belong, and if you don't belong, then you're an outsider, they'd be calling you names and whatnot, and a lot of youth, they, they they fall into that trap, because it's all about,

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you know, when they reach a certain age, they have to become part of that gang or whatnot. Not necessarily bad, you know, like gang, but I'm just talking about the, the clan, you know, the, the, the that, that, that circle, that friend, that circle of friends, and for them, they have to do certain things to be approved to be amongst that circle of friends. So

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and if you don't follow that rule, or if you don't follow that, that, that, that, you know, the laws of that circle, you will be kicked out from that circle. So everybody wants to belong in you know, so they want to be part of that circle in terms of this is this is where our youth This is what our children, sometimes they go straight, especially when the parents are not there, when the parents are oblivious as to what goes on in their lives, especially when, you know, I'm not saying about giving them too much freedom. And, and, and, and, and, or, you know, monitoring everything they do, again, go into the extreme, but I'm just saying where when you're when you're not they're part of

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their lives. And as they go through these challenges. So this is what happens to them when they start going astray. May Allah Subhana Allah forbid. So we want to talk about that today in sha Allah who tada

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in Arabic There is a saying that says or does an expression that says in no In other words, they have this expression, it says,

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tell me who you hang out with, I tell you who you are, right? Tell me who you hang out with. I tell you who you are.

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Meaning Tell me who your friends are. I tell you who you are. I can know who what what kind of person you are, just by looking at the friends that you hang out with. This is very true. This is absolutely very, very, very true. You know, your friends, as I mentioned initially, will will will have a big impact on shaping who you are and shaping your personality. Do you Who do you hang out with? Do you hang out with positive friends positive people or negative people? Do you hang out with losers or winners, you know, the types of friends that you hang out with? And today's shallow data, we're going to put some sort of criteria in selecting those friends.

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Number one, three main things here are you I hope you guys are listening. You know, those of you on Instagram and those of you on Facebook, I know those of you on Instagram have complained about the sound. The sound is from Instagram and a lot of people have moved to Facebook because Facebook you know, you know they said that at least the entity the sound is you know is better. But you if you can handle it and shout out on Instagram, I hope you know you'll be alright and I'm not annoying you with this with that crazy sound. It's not It has nothing to do with

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it has nothing to do with me it's with with the system with the Grom so I'm so sorry about that again.

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So here three things for the youth Zakouma lucky. It's okay Hamza calacatta, Yasmin and Zack de la cabeza Ahmed and please these things will be will be recorded as well.

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And so that you can share them with with the youth and your loved ones, this will be recorded on Facebook and on YouTube, you know. So, again, on Instagram is a little bit, it's a little bit distorted, but we'll be recording it inshallah huhtala and posting it online. Anyways, there are three things that you need to know about, you know, when it comes to your friends, your friends,

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they play an instrumental role in your future.

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And your success in your life. That's number one. And I would explain each each, you know, like, sort of like criteria here. Number one, your friends,

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they have an impact on your future, and your success in your life.

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Number two, your friends will also have an impact on your relationship with your parents.

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Very, very important that I would explain. Number two, your friends will have an impact on your relationship with your parents. That's number two. Number three, your friends will also have an impact on your relationship with Allah Subhana. Allah dad

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did you know down these three things, sisters and brothers

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somebody is taking notes I think his sister Yes, me. She says she's taking notes, did you take note of the three things here, your friends would have an impact on your future.

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You know, on your on your success of your, of your of your life, either either your success or the failure of your life, your friends wouldn't have an impact on your relationship with your family, and your friends will have an impact on your relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala how, even with your friends would have an impact. Let me start with that. Let me start with that.

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If you pray,

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you don't pray. You wear hijab, you don't wear shoes. Yeah.

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Those who maybe take drugs or those who don't take drugs.

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You pray the mosque, but you don't print the mosque. You know, Friends have a lot to do with that.

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The type of friends that you hang out with the type of friends call you on the phone, the type of friends that that that that mingle with you

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know,

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they will have an impact on the relationship with your Lord.

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They call you on the phone, there is a party today, the calling the phone, there is something happening in the beach today, they're calling the phone, there's something going on in so and so's house today. Let's go here, then let's go there, you know, but the same friends, if they are righteous and good, they could also call you to tell you there is a program in this machine, there is a seminar happening here, there's a conference happening there there is and not necessarily something static, and that would explain it about this, but something good that would have something beneficial to you.

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How can you friends also have an impact on the relationship with your family. Now it will have an impact on your relationship with your family, your your your manners, you see them you see how they talk to their parents, or maybe you see how they respond to their parents on the phone or how they text their parents. So when you see that, that will have an impact on you.

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If you see friends, you know when their parents talk to them, they're very polite, they honor them, they respect them, they don't talk back at their parents that will have an impact on you as well. But if you see these friends that you hang out with, whenever the parents call them, either they don't answer their phone or they ignore them or they yell at them or they sometimes speak back to their parents right you know, so that will also have an impact on you.

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In some will even obey it.

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Insanity ignore it the man ism is a is the son of his environment.

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This is a this is a this is a rule is this is a universal rule a universal law. The man is the son of his or her environment. It depends on what environment you live in. That environment will have an impact on you.

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How would my friends impact my future? My success or my failure?

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I hang out with successful friends and hang out with a students I hang out with you know with very motivated friends. I hang out with that. We have fun

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Have fun, they're great people, you know, but at the same time, they are, you know, motivated, highly motivated, successful, a students, positive thinkers, of course, they will have an impact on me.

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I hang out with losers, I hang out with people who are demotivated, I hang out with with boys and girls who are who have no dreams, no goal goals, of course, they will have an impact on me.

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So an incentive to buy at the man is the son of his environment, the environment that you're in will definitely have an impact on you. So this is why it's so important that you know how to meticulously choose your friends and who you're hanging out with. It's extremely important

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to choose who you hang out with those brothers and sisters who just joined us on Instagram. I really apologize again, for the sound, the sound is from Instagram, on Facebook Live as well. And it is just you know, perfectly fine on Facebook. But there is a problem on Instagram. You can still hear me You can still but there's that distorted sound. And I'm apologize for that.

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You all must have heard of that story of that man from Venezuela is

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the man who killed 100 lives. Have you people heard about that story? Those of you on Facebook. Those of you on Instagram. Have you heard the story of the man who killed 100 lives?

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Have you brothers and sisters?

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Yes, sister Mariana right? Yes, yes. You mean? Yeah. Right.

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He kills 99 people.

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He killed 99 people and he wanted to repent.

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He wanted to repent. So he went to a lay man and he says, I he went to a lay man and he says, I want to, I want to repent. I kid 99 lives can Allah forgive me? The man says he's a lay man. He's just worship. He is a worship. He says, How can ALLAH forgive you? You COVID-19 I live yours. You're a serial killer. You're the serial killer. You're a killer. You could 99 lives and you want I love to forgive you. Allah would never forgive somebody who can 99 lives. So he killed him.

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Completely 100

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This is a true Hadith. It's in Bali, very self. Then he still wants to repent inside of him. He still feels pain and feels Yeah. And he said this and he wants to repent. So he looked and he found a Harlem. He fell down and he found the scholar. He told him his story says I killed 100 lives but I want to repent. Can I lost it forgive me if I repent? Then the man says the scholar the scholar has Hickman, the scholar has wisdom, the worshipper, he just warships.

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But the scholar has Hickman

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and the hikma here is he told him, of course Allah can you know accept your repentance.

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Who can come between you and the apprentice, nobody can come between you until but but you've got to do something.

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And here's the key. This is the gold, you've got to do something, you've got to move out from this environment. This is a filthy environment you're in this town is not a good town, you have to go to that other town.

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The people that will help you that town is more conducive to you be coming good rather than staying here. Because if you were to stay here, this place is not good. So he told him he had to change his environment.

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You see, that's the key, you want to become good. You need to clean the area that you're in, you need to cleanse your environment. He says you need to move out from this environment, which is not conducive of you know becoming righteous and move to that other town. There you will find people who will help you become good.

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This is why I said that friends, the incentive will be it the man is the son of his environment. The friends that you hang out with can either have an influence a good influence in you to you know, driving you to becoming good or a bad influence on you, driving you to becoming bad.

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You understand?

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The meaning of or the essence of the story. Somehow Allah let me explain again, the essence of the story. But as as sisters is not about moving from the town or the place, moving from that environment that you're in meaning the people that you hang out with. That's what it means. Not necessarily moving from Toronto and going to Montreal or moving from London and going to Manchester or moving from Manchester to go into Bradford

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Moving from Malaysia and go to Indonesia, that's not you know, that's not the essence of the story. The essence of the story is to know the friends that you're with your environment you're in, where do you spend your time? Where do you go that type of environment, the friends that you ain't got what you need to change that environment.

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Because it is not conducive of you becoming righteous. That's what it means. Right? So this is why I said your friends wouldn't have these three things right here. Three types of impacts impact on your, on your success, impact on your relationship with your family impact in your relationship with Allah subhanho, wa Taala.

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Even some wives, they have communicated to us, you know, how their husbands have changed, how their husbands have changed when their husbands have changed. How much acquainting with the same gangs, we know the same those those bad people that husband used to hang out with. And then when their husbands started changing that how their husbands have changed and became totally different people.

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So the question again,

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I know we're talking about changing your friends. I mean, if somebody wanted system, when does that all go Normally, I don't, you know, respond to these questions right now. And I don't respond to your comments, because I want to focus, but I'm going to pick something here, you know, change your friends, if you are the one did, you know you need to nurse your wound, you need to attend to your wound first, before you can fix somebody else's wound. Right? So I'm sick myself, right? I cannot heal somebody who's sick. Let me heal myself first, before I can heal somebody else. This is exactly the concept of changing your friends. If you are, you know, in that strength, you know, in that

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righteousness, you know, inside of you that you can possibly make an impact, then do it. But for now, because you are sitting in that healing process. If you are in that healing process, you cannot change your friends yet. Maybe later on, you can come back and change them. But for now, you need that place for you. You need to change yourself, you need to heal yourself. Once you heal yourself, then maybe you can have an impact on your friends.

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So first things first.

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So the question again sisters and brothers youth out there. Who are your friends?

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Who are your friends? Are your friends those that you know commit? haram?

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major sins, adultery, adultery,

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they drink they smoke they deal with drugs?

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Did they don't pray? Or if they do they don't pray the machine. They don't bring Gemma. Who are your friends? Who do you hang out with? How are your friends? successful friends? Are they successful? You know people? Are they successful at school? Are they always you know they? Do they get good grades at school? Are they you know really like on top of things? Or are they? You know,

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if they're not successful, then they that's not successful? What are they working? Are they? How do they treat their parents? How do they talk to their parents? All these are questions that you need to think you know about Do they? Do they like sports? Do they love sports? Are your friends positive friends? Or are they negative friends meaning that every time you want to do something good, they come and then they don't help you? They always try to you know

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discourage you from doing good? Or do they encourage you? Or they like you know, positive thinkers, they always encourage you to become in good to do in good to try a new project to try and a new, you know, investment here and there or whatnot? Do they try to really help you? You know, excel in life? This is the type of friends I'm talking about here. Who are your friends?

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Do you have a friend that has a goal in life? Do you have a friend that has a vision in life?

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Do you have a friend that's got a project in life?

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Did they talk about their dreams? Future dreams? How they see themselves? Oh yeah, I've got this friends. They talk about dreams all the time. They talk about dreams of becoming you know drug dealers and becoming well maybe like you're already doing it wrong. They talk about dreams what the wrong type of dreams. That's not the type of friends I'm talking about here. Because your friends have three categories. All right, but as the sisters Listen up, what I'm going to tell you right now is gold. I hope you're taking notes my friends.

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There are three types of friends

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Are you guys taking notes here?

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Are you guys this knit up?

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Three types

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are you guys with me here with with my with my distorted sound on Instagram? Are you still with me here? Because there are three types of friends this is extremely important. Those of you on Facebook Are you there? Are you guys there Kiko? You came in late my friend.

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Three types of friends.

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Three types. Number one saw Hey boo.

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First stop a friend, an evil friend. This is the first type of friend and evil friend.

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He will always mislead you, an evil friend.

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Whether he's Muslim or not Muslim, not because he's a Muslim. Yeah, and Hamas, Mashallah he walks on water. He could be Muslim by name, but he's so evil

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or non Muslim, and evil. So regardless of the faith, regardless of the religion,

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number one side sought an evil friend. Number two, a friend who's not evil, nor good is in between. He is not negative. He is not positive yet he doesn't help you in any way. But he doesn't mislead you either. Yeah, and he doesn't help you. And he does not mislead you. The snap friend number two.

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You tell him Let's go, let's go, come back, come back here and he may he has no goal, he has no mission. He has no message in life is a Irish, he's just living ice.

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So he's not good. But he's not bad either. That's number two.

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Number three, a good friend saw that friend or righteous friend, the one who likes or loves prayer for you, he loves Good for you.

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He will not mislead you, He will not mislead you, he will support you, he will believe in you. He will encourage you or she she he or she three sets of friends.

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Number The first friend the evil one, he does not want you to become successful. He does not want you to become successful and he does not encourage you and he only wants to mislead you. Number two, somebody who is not this not that

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is neutral. Number three, the one who loves Good for you, the one who wants to encourage you the one who loves care for you, the one who wants you to become successful, the one who wants to motivate you, that type of friend, number three,

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successful guy.

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So that's why you should be friend, the passionate guys the passionate people, the President's friends, those who have passion those who have goals, those who have dreams.

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And

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he had a common Hadith the Prophet Mohammed Samson said that he had it very son unauthentic, the man who would follow the footsteps of his close friends that each one of you meticulously choose their friends.

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Prophet Mohammed iclm has mentioned that very sound authentic hadith, and men will follow the footsteps of his close friends that each one of you meticulously choose their friends

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so that's why I said in the beginning initially that your friend can have an impact on your success a friend can have an impact on your relationship with Allah and your friend can have an impact on the relationship with

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with your family.

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How did you choose your friends by the way?

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How did you choose your friends?

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I I didn't choose them. I just found them. These are things sometimes you hear I didn't choose them. I just found them.

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I I choose friends, those who who who know a lot of girls because if they know a lot of girls, I would get to know little girls to do that. That's how I choose my friends. Those who have money those who have cards, those who are those who are and also their active side. I'm with them because they know a lot of people and if I hang out with them, I get to meet this other people. Is that how you choose your friends? Is that your

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criteria on choosing friends.

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Not necessarily a good friend. You can find him in the mystery by the way. You can find him in a budget. You can find him in school, you can find him in a conference you can find him in in your neighbor. There are many places where you can find a righteous good friend

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Not necessarily just a measured definitely Madrid, you know is a very good place in a very good you know high chance that you will find good people there.

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This is why I always say to the massage and the management of the massages to have activities for the youth bring let the youth come to the mystery don't kick the youth out from dimension. Do they want to play basketball have a basketball court in image, they want to play soccer, football, have a soccer field in the masjid somewhere they want to you know, have a sports have sports, you know, facilities in the masjid. Let's invite the youth to come to the ministry versus kicking the huge from the massages.

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At least when they come to the ministry they play they have fun, but at least at least at least when the summer comes, they will stop and they will go and pray Salah

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at least

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my sisters and brothers Your friend is a risk from Allah. A good friend, a good friend is less common law.

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How now,

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this is not necessarily money. It is not necessarily systemness wealth, because a lot of people they relate risk or sustenance as wealth. And this could be you know your mother is less. Your father is risk your job is this your car is a risk. Your brother your sister their risk. Your health is risk.

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Your friend is at risk from Allah, a good friend, a good friend is the risk from Allah is a gift from Allah.

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Somebody who calls you tomorrow Let's pray together tomorrow. Let's do pmla together tomorrow, let's get together tomorrow. Let's go and help this that people in the in the hospital they need our help. Let's do this to get this here and here. There's a project you know, building a mission there's a project building a well in Pakistan building a well in in Bangladesh. They are building a well in Africa. You know they are planting trees they have projects Let's help let's do let's just lay this this friend who comes to to buy these things has a risk from Allah He wants he wants you to be successful in this life and wants you to be successful in the hereafter.

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Bad friends

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bad friends.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says why oh my Advani more on the way oh my ob anymore Anaya de

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la 22 Ma Ma Sunni Sabina

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yeah ya know de la Tony la phoolan and canina La Paz aghani kariba

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any work on a shape on in in Santa Kaduna. These are two friends, these are two friends who are these two friends about nothing right and adhesion

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from the from from polish

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and Abuja

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right the Prophet Mohammed I just set up you know, he These are from they were from the elite of Mecca of Polish, the prophet went and spoke to him and Akbar was really you know, affected. And he thought of becoming a Muslim. So the Prophet invited him for for the meal. And he says, I will not eat until you believe in me after you say that, you know, halal law. So this is the honorable, he says, Oh, you know, I want to eat. I want him to eat. The Prophet says I will not eat until you believe in me. So he says eyeshadow Allah lotion on the cassava. So he became a Muslim, right? He said that and then the Prophet aid but then he was not really convinced of it. who heard about that

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Abuja, his friends, his pal, he wants him in he says, I heard this and this and that. He says yes, but you know, it, just it because the man came to my home, he didn't want to eat. And I just say this so that he can eat he says, You're no longer my friends unless you log in my friend, unless you go back to Mohammed's home, and then you spit at his face. You spit out his face, then you become my friend again. Look at the peer pressure. Remember I mentioned that in the beginning, peer pressure, this is booth pressure, you're no longer part of the hood. You're no longer part of the circle, unless you go back to Mohammed and speak at his face. So he went back to the Prophet Muhammad

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Sallallahu Sallam and he knocked at the door Prophet Mohammed opened the door and the man aka he spotted a prophet Mohammed's face.

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Allah subhana wa tada says that in salt

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in South Africa, in South Africa, by the lamina Shivaji yo maya

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The yup ooyala Toma masani Sabina

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fula nan Halina, La Paz balani Reba,

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any work on Houdini, Sunny Sedona did they want that man the criminal, you know, the wrong man, he will bite on his hand and he will say, I wish I did not follow the path of so and so his friend, I wish I followed the path of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, he will be too late, but he will say, I wish I did not follow that trend. How many of our use today? How many of people today? You know, they would say, I wish I have not followed that gank I wish I did not follow that, you know, click I wish I did not follow you know, those those guys who deviated me?

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You need to be patient with your friends as well, especially the good ones, the righteous ones, what's the Mandela denier on Alibaba home bill, I believe that you will as you need to know as a prophet Mohammed

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in Salatu

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was about and be patient. Keep yourself patiently with those who are they only seek the pleasure of Allah subhana wa adad.

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With those who seek the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala seek those friends look for those friends. Look for them.

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I remember when I was in the US, this is when I was a youngster hamdulillah You know, there and I in my in my you know, in my 20s, early 20s I was like 21 you know, I went back to Morocco. I know him to live in, you know, becoming more religious and whatnot. I came back to Morocco. And I you know, we'll start you know, seeing you know, I went to a lot of massage a lot of places. And I met some guys, you know, from Morocco as well, you know, back when they went back to the US, they said Morocco has become so bad. A lot of you know clubs, a lot of you know, the people are going naked in the beaches, people this and that I said, I said you saw that I didn't see that. I saw hijab, I saw

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niqab, I saw brothers with beard, I saw a lot of massages, it depends where you go. It's you It depends where you go, where you choose to go, you choose to go to the wrong side, you will say the wrong thing. You choose to go to the robot side, you will see the good things. It's your choice. Again, it's your environment, you make that environment, you make that environment.

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You want righteous friends, you know where to find them, you know, bad friends, you know where to find them as well.

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You know, brothers and sisters,

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something really beautiful. That good friends can also have an impact on you on the Day of Judgment.

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Good friends, they will not only benefit you in this dunya but they will also benefit you in the area. How can my good friends benefit me in the afra?

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Or this sounds like an amazing cliffhanger. But I don't want to do that because I want to finish this session in charlotte, charlotte talking about us talking about France.

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France can benefit you in this dunya. And they can also benefit you in the hereafter how in the head is in the head it's a head.

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In the head, it's a hash

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that the Prophet Mohammed you know that the when it was mentioned that the day of judgment and the Day of Judgment.

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People are in Ghana enjoying themselves. And then one day was enough, some would start asking where is my friend so and so where's my friend so and so is believer, but he didn't make it to China was my friend so and so they would be told Oh, he didn't make it or she didn't make it.

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And then that righteous men in general or that woman in general will say yeah, I'll be there attacked me Let it be so they pay for that.

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That men would say well law, my my pleasure would not be fully fulfilled.

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Until and unless you bring my brother so and so with me. Luck.

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He would say Oh Allah, Allah, my fulfillments my pleasure in Jannah will not be totally fulfilled until an LSU bring my friend so and so admit to China. That friend was from the righteous men's but he did so many bad things. So he happened to be thrown in hellfire. For us a reason or not he that friend happened but he's from the Muslims is from the believers, but because of his sins and whatnot.

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In his crimes, he had to go to China for some cleansing. So but his friend in Jannah, he says, Oh Allah, my fulfillment, my pleasure will not be totally good fulfill be fulfilled, unless you bring my friend so and so we'd meet in Geneva. And then Allah subhana wa Taala will allow that person to go to hell fire and bring his friends out from jahannam and bring him to john.

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And bring them to john. This is how your good friend will save save you and serve you in this dunya. And in the ACA, the friends that you're in with today, may Allah forbid if I am dying, right? Let's say I'm dying, right? And my friends are surrounding me the one that I hang out with, would they be helping me to say that before I die? Well, then we run away from me.

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This is why I said Who do you hang out with? Who do you hang up with?

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Right? The friends that I hang out with today, if I'm dying, would they be helping me c'est la vie de la la la la la, la la or would they run away from me?

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So ask yourself that question. Those that you hang out with? Are they really worth you hanging out with them or it's worth that today is the time for me to do to go to that cleansing process filtering process, I need to go to that filtering process. Filter everybody tell us right. So this is really so it is your choice, it is your choice to make that choice to make that choice, it is your choice to either go to the filtering process, if you're not happy with your friends, are they really worth you hanging out with them. Or your friends those who only call you whenever they need you whenever they want to use your abuse you Are those your friends or those friends are only you

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know I've also called you to ask about you to check on you to you know those that want like I said those that that seek success for you I want you to be successful they want you to be good they want you they want to motivate you and they want to encourage you and they want you to become masala any good at school and whatnot Who are these friends that you hang out with?

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In the day of judgment

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in the Day of Judgment brothers and sisters

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around the throne of Allah subhanho wa Taala they will be these these minab members from from from nor from light

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people will be sitting on them

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beautiful adornments

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faces have bright north in them.

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They're not profits that are not martyrs.

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The Sahaba said della sola Can you describe these people to us who are they they're not profits, if they're not martyrs, these people sitting on these you know McNab, from from from light from North that the the faces rate radiant, you know and bright faces. Who are they then if they're not prophets, if they're not messengers, if they're not martyrs, who are they?

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The prophets of Allah Islam says these are people who love one another for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. brothers sisters, they loved one another for the sake of Allah Xhosa, they met

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and they left one another with the same love loving each other for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala just like us here today my sisters although I don't see you, you see me but I don't see you. Right. You listen to me we are here you know you're locked in listening to this lecture. from wherever you are, wherever you are, however you are whether you're sleeping, sitting reclining, you know maybe in the in the backyard or in your in your in your in maybe it could be in the beach all I know, I don't know where you are, is just like reclining and listening and whatnot. But what gathered us all together here, what guided us is the love of for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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because of that love for the sake of Allah as friends, we're friends. We're brothers and sisters for the sake of advisors, you're right in Islam, in in humanity. In sha Allah, Allah will be sitting on that minab from north on the day of judgments.

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Your friends,

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you know, Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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One day he took the hand of Abu Bakar from his right hand and an armbar from his left hand in love together. And then he says he raised their hands altogether. And he said, we will add to the agenda like this holding hence, friends, brothers for the sake of a lesson that you want those type of friends. Those are the type of friends that you want.

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Somebody who will hold your hand and

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If you were to fall down, he would help you and pick you up. You will have someone who can give you a shoulder to lean on. Yeah, lean on me.

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No, no, no, no, no, no, no, lean on me.

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Lean on me. Totally lean on a lean on me. Yes, a good friend, a friend that will give you a shoulder you know to lean on a friend who would hold your hand a friend who will help you who will guide you who will who will support you, who would encourage you and motivate you that type of friend that you need. Not the one who will only use your abuse you

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isn't it?

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So let us change these friends now.

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Change them from friends to brothers and sisters.

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If you want

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change them from just friends to brothers and sisters in sha Allah, Allah but remember, your family always is first.

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Friends, yes friends, but family always comes in first. Yes, they can be part of the family inshallah hudaydah but change them from just mere friends to brothers and sisters. Then before that, inshallah Tada. Go through that filtering process and see who you want to keep as a friend. And who you really really really for now, I cannot hang out with that person because that person is only being somehow law says I've met him or her since I've been hanging out with him or her. That friend has only been in medium for me to go straight.

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Not friend has been the reason for my for my failure has been the reason for me, you know, becoming somehow a lot naughty with my parents. He's back. He was the reason for me, you know becoming a stray with my family with this and that, you know, that friend was you know, for me becoming addicted to alcohol becoming addicted to drugs, becoming addicted to this becoming then Then what are you waiting for?

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has been in the hot tub a homie Jaden accardo Salama, when the J. Hill the state tried to talk to them they say Salaam Salaam. You don't want to stop. So friends brothers and sisters, sisters and brothers, Zach Camilla here and again. May Allah bless you all may Allah protect our children and protect our loved ones protect our youth.

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The series as I said they have been recorded all they're recorded on Instagram, they're recorded on Facebook and they're recorded on YouTube. You can find them in Sharla who tada homemade happiness today is session number 18. And tomorrow will be number 19 in sha Allah huhtala tomorrow is the conclusion. So with that being said sisters and brothers is that Kamala hair, I have no cliffhanger for all for you today. Nope, no cliffhanger because tomorrow inshallah who tada will be my conclusion. And tomorrow will be a talk to every member of the family. Every member of the family, you know, they will come tomorrow and we've talked to each one of them shall long Tada. I will give

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a short message to everybody tomorrow, Sean Lowe Tada. So make sure everybody comes back tomorrow to your brothers and sisters to come tell your mothers to come 10 years to come. Tell your sons and your daughters, husbands wives everybody should attend to martial law to because tomorrow is the conclusion B is Neela. I'm done the other words as he is a common law here for those of you who have joined those of you on Instagram. I'm sorry about the voice. I'm sorry about the sound it is from Instagram. Those of you on Facebook. Thank you for joining Kamala hair. May Allah bless you. Thank you. Thank you Thank you Zack Lockhart again. And I will see you tomorrow and shout Allahu taala

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Friday, same time six o'clock pm B is Neela six o'clock. Six o'clock Eastern Time. Or 11 o'clock pm UK time for the homemade happiness bollock. Hello FICO is Kamala Harris. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.