Why Me #16 Why Do They Get The Life I Want

How did you get here?

And how did they get there?

How do you resolve a problem when you

feel too exhausted to even confront it?

How is it that others seem to have

the blessings you pursued in all the right

ways?

Whereas you have all these problems that they

promised would go away with prayer.

Why does someone else get to have the

life you wanted?

Why do you always seem to get the

shorter end of the stick?

Abdullah ibn Mas'ud radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu narrates, Inna

la abdilayhumu billamrimina

tijarawal imara. Hatayu yasrallahu

that a servant of Allah will want something

of this world of wealth or status until

it has been facilitated for them.

Then as it's on its way to them,

yamdulullahu

ilayhi fayakuulil malaika

aslihahu wa'an Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta A'la looks

at him and says to the angels,

take it away from

him. Fa inyasartuhulahu

atkaltuhunaar

Because if I give him this blessing, then

I'll have to put him in hell fire.

Meaning this blessing is going to cause him

the heedlessness

that's going to end up taking him to

hell. Fayastrifuu

Anhu So he takes it away from him.

Now what happens to the person?

Yathalu yatatayiro

yakuul

sabakanifulan

dahanifulan

So he keeps on saying, so and so

beat me to it. This person got the

position or the possessions that I thought I

was going to get.

And the whole time it was nothing but

Allah's blessing upon him. The part of the

narration that I want you to pay attention

to here is not the part of Allah

withholding something from that person for his own

good.

It's Allah actually giving it to someone else

and you being able to see it on

someone else.

And you might start wondering if someone interfered

with your Qadr and got what was otherwise

yours.

And that especially becomes painful if the other

person is someone who hurt you before.

Someone else seems to be living your life

or someone else seems to be enjoying what

you earned.

In every generation of people, there were those

who seemed to be so deserving of an

easier life,

but had to put in the hard labor

to make history.

Whereas others had the fruits of that labor

handed to them and lived comfortably despite their

awful characters.

You give and you give and you give,

and you make sure not to offend anyone

and you try your best to help everyone.

But it seems like no one is affording

you that same courtesy.

The prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, iyakumulhasabfainal

hasada yaqululhasanati

kamaataqulunarul

hapa.

Beware of envy for verily it burns your

good deeds the way that fire burns through

wood.

But before you let envy burn you emotionally

as well,

first understand that we tend to see other

people's blessings

but our own hardships.

But just like there is blessing in our

hardships,

sometimes there is hardship in their blessings.

For those that are evil, Allah Subh'anaHu Wa

Ta A'la says, fala turjibka amwaluhumwala

a'uladuhum

inna mayurid ullahhu liyaathibahumbiha

So let not their wealth or their children

impress you

because Allah only intends to punish them with

those things.

They're being punished with what Allah gave them

because they have no barakah, no blessing in

those things. And so they feel empty.

And not only that,

their money ends up becoming their greatest source

of worry and leads to all sorts of

betrayal.

Their kids who they didn't even try to

raise with righteousness turn on them with that

same wickedness and cause them all sorts of

pain. But we don't see all of that.

We just see the outside.

And this is especially true in the case

of oppressors.

It can be really hard to watch someone

so evil strut around seemingly without any consequences.

Imagine Ammar ibn Yasir radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu watching

Abu Jahl strut around Mecca for 6 years

after he murdered his parents in front of

his own two eyes. But Allah says, wala'aqibatuh

lilmatakeel

The end victory is for the believers.

And for those that aren't necessarily evil but

just don't seem to be as deserving as

you,

It might be that Allah is giving them

a little more of this world because their

hearts are weaker than yours.

And that's the prescription they need for the

moment that they are at right now.

That doesn't mean it isn't annoying when you're

in a position where you've done the most,

but the person who seemingly did nothing at

all is getting all of the worldly reward

and recognition.

I want you to imagine how the Ansar

who took the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam in

during his lowest moments

felt after Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta A'la gave

the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam his highest victory

in Mecca. These people sacrificed

everything for Islam

and Allah praised them exactly for that. Wayuthiroona

aalaandfusihim

They always preferred others to themselves.

And then here you are after all the

struggle

witnessing the conquest of Makkah which was a

victory from Allah and largely through your efforts.

And now you're expecting that you're going to

be recognized.

Then imagine seeing the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam

turn around and give the spoils of kunayim

to the same people that tried to kill

him. The same people that tortured the Muslims

for 2 decades.

The same people that you defended the Muslims

from.

And most of them just became Muslim after

the conquest and now they're getting the spoils

of all of your efforts.

So yes, the Ansar were hurt and they

thought maybe the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam

is going to move back to Mecca and

forget about us now.

But then the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam calls

them and he says, aren't you pleased, oh

Ansar,

that these people go home with their money

and their camels,

but you get to go back to Madinah

and you have Rasulullah SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam with

you.

And that was far more precious to them

than anything

because they had a certain afterlife in mind

that was far more important than any type

of life that anyone would want to live

here. And so they were at peace missing

out on the spoils because they knew that

their Prophet Alayhi Salatu Wasallam was still with

them. And that Jannah was still ahead.

Rabaddatul Nussamat radiAllahu Anhu said to his son,

Oh my son, you will never truly taste

the sweetness of faith. Hata ta'lima annamaasabaka

lamyaqunyahdiak

Until you know that what has come to

you was never meant to miss you. Wa

annama aqpaaklam

yakun yoseebak.

And that which has missed you was never

meant to come to you. So as Iblal

Qayeemahhimaw

Allah said, la buddhaminnu foodal qadr fajnahlisil

Destiny is bound to happen so make peace

with it. We don't realize all the ways

that qadr is working out in our favor

even though we think it seems to be

for someone else.

We get tied up with the means, the

people,

the worldly causes to what we want

and we forget what we actually really wanted

in the first place. You didn't really want

that specific person.

You wanted love and companionship, and you thought

it would be found with that person.

So ask Allah for what you really want,

but open yourself up to new possibilities and

trust in Allah's plan.

And sometimes he will place blessings on your

path from places that you least expected.

Wayarzukumunhaifullahiatas,

he provides for you from places that you

least expect.

Inna maja'alaha

mahlala lil ariari.

Wama'adinaliwujoodal

akhdari.

Tazheedanlakafiha.

He has only made the world a place

of others

and a mind for troubles

so that you would not love it. And

you know what's beyond the rizq that awaits

you?

And as Imam Ghazayrahimullah

says about the verse, Alaisallahu bi kafin Abda,

isn't Allah enough for his servant?

That the one who has Allah will feel

like he has everything.

And the one who doesn't have Allah will

feel like he has nothing.

The life that you have in that Masjid

now, in your reading and reciting, in your

praying and listening,

is one that someone on the outside still

trying to find the true source of happiness

would love to have.

But as you're reflecting deeper now over your

own deeds as you're making peace with Allah's

decree,

you may start recalling some of your past

especially the ones you committed against other people.

especially the ones you committed against other people.