Sins We Commit When We’re Scared and Vulnerable

Omar Suleiman


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Dear brothers and sisters last week we talked about this powerful the supplication that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us to have to remove our anxiety to remove our fear to remove our grief. And we talked about how simple it is. And we talked about some of the distinctions where the prophets of Allah hearty wisdom taught that young man to seek refuge in Allah subhana wa Tada. I mean, it'll help me when it hasn't, from an him, which refers to anxiety about the future, it hasn't refers to grief about the past, will actually will castle from laziness, I'm sorry, from inability and laziness. ilads means when you don't have the strength, you actually are fully incapable of

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doing anything for yourself, while kecil which is when you have the ability, but you don't have the will. laziness, the inability to do though you have the means and the prophets of Allah Almighty Who was suddenly mentioned a journey will buckle from cowardice and from stinginess, those two things where you hold back either your courage or you hold back your wealth out of fear of what you will be letting go. Should you spend from yourself encouraged or should you spend from your wealth and generosity, and then Hello better Dany mccahon idrija from the burden of debt and from being subjugated to men. Now I'm going to venture to say that the last part of this Hadeeth is actually

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the most misunderstood part of this Hadith, even though it's the most easily identifiable part of the Hadeeth. People know what it feels like anyone who has been in debt, knows the misery of debt. And may Allah Subhana Allah allow everyone that is suffering from the burden of debt, to be relieved of it, Allah I mean,

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we know what it's like to be at the mercy of another person, and how humiliating that can feel to have your steaks rest upon whether or not someone else is going to show you some mercy to be at the mercy especially if someone that you don't particularly like maybe, or an enemy or someone that just makes you feel a little, no one likes to be in that situation. May Allah Subhana Allah make us always independent of his mahalo of his creation, Allah I mean, however,

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when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was seeking refuge in Allah from these things,

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he was not seeking refuge in the love from these things, because of the worldly consequences of these things. Just very powerful. If you look at the Hadith, the prophet sly Salaam is really seeking refuge in Allah from suella flock, from bad characteristics from bad traits. He's not looking at the worldly consequences of these things, as much as how those worldly circumstances lead to asherah consequences consequences of the hereafter. Meaning if I am lazy, I'm not doing what I need to do to better my situation in the hereafter. If I am stingy, that I'm not spending in a way that will elevate me in the hereafter. If I am cowardly, then I am not showing the courage that I

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will be asked about on the day of judgment that these are things that have Hera oriented, consequences, hereafter oriented consequences. Now, what about debt? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a man who could easily never have a debt, there's probably no one in the society of Medina that did not need to worry about debt like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam not even that I'm not even overall the Allahu Tada, I don't know where it might have been, I found all the along. Why? Because if the profit slice of them had a debt, all he had to do was this.

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And then everybody would pay off his debts, who would not respond to the profit slice that I'm saying I have a debt, yet in his humility sallallahu wasallam he died in debt, but not available today. So I'm gonna make this distinction. First, there's a difference between owing someone $3,000 or $300 and owing them $100,000 or $200,000. There's a difference between a debt that is crushing you for years and years and years and years. And a debt that you know, it's it's it's smaller, it's more manageable, and the profit slice Sam's debt was manageable debt. And that's from his wisdom Salalah who it was solemn, that though he lived a life of poverty, he did not it his Salatu was

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Salam take on debts that were not manageable. So till the last day of his life, he used to, for example, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam do business with some of the people of the book in Medina he actually owed he pawned his shield some Allah hiding the Salaam to a Jewish neighbor. At the day of his death, he was managing those types of relationships with society and teaching the oma how to transact. But what about today refers to a debt that is insurmountable that's

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Just really over your head,

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but he could have even done away with that too right? So guess who is surprised at why he seeks refuge in Allah subhanaw taala from debt so much I saw the Allah he

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said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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Yasuda Allah, I'm amazed at how much you do str either you seek refuge in Allah from a Dane from depths like it's on one hand, you can easily do away with it. On the other hand, the prophets lie some does not take on unmanageable debt. yada Salaam surprised how often this comes up and you're doing

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and the Prophet salallahu it he was setting himself up in who men Halima, that when a person is in debt had data for cattle.

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When they speak, they'll learn how to lie. Well, what are the fluff. And when they make promises, they'll start breaking their promises. What a powerful Howdy. He's our teacher sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He's saying that the greatest consequence of debt, and being in a compromising situation in a vulnerable situation, is not the humiliation when you get that phone call or when you have to meet your debtor, and the debtor starts to become rougher with you. It's that you might take on the luck of nifa the characteristics of hypocrisy to get yourself out of that situation. And you might get good at it.

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You might actually get good at it. So yes, brother in sha Allah to Allah, you know, oh, I was waiting on one thing, and then you make up stories about why you're late. on paying the person back. You make up stories to delay. You start lying, and getting good at lying, you start making promises, and breaking those promises more frequently. And so you take on half of the characteristics of a monastic or the hypocrite while trying to get yourself out of a worldly situation. Do you see how profound that is from the prophets of Allah hiding in the Sunnah? That he's saying, Yeah, it's I'm not doing this because I want people to I don't like the feeling of having my ego bruised a bit in

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this world. Or some of what comes with that. It's because when people become accustomed to compromise and vulnerable situations, then eventually they start to compromise of their Deen and they start to compromise of their, of their religion, and of their characteristics to get out of those situations. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu it was done in another profound Hadith, an additonal the Allahu taala, and that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told a man shall I not teach you some words that if you save them a loss of 100, which either will take care of your debt, your Dane, particularly your debt, even if it is like a mountain thought it is salatu salam Allahu

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mcaveeney behala can harmonic will ultimately be fought leka among siac, again, Allah McPhee, niharika, and harmik whatever mini Repubblica Iman siac Allah suffice me with your halaal with your lawful so that I don't resort to the unlawful akinyi be halik anharmonic Let me have enough Hello. So I don't fall into how long? That's my reason not because yeah, Allah gives me more income so I can have a bigger house so I can have a nicer car. It's okay to ask Allah for those things. But my main concern is that I don't want to be in a situation where I have to dip into haram

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and your father What the * leaker and this is a hard one to translate and bestow upon me your favor your bounty so that I don't need anyone but you luck. I'm Mansi work, I want to keep needing you. I just don't want to need anyone else.

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Why am I bringing this to the discussion for us? When you see those a hadith where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaches us to seek independence.

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You know, he made the Sahaba take baotou him allegiance to him. And NASA say that I will never ask anyone for anything. Even if one of our whips or something in our hand fell when we were on top of our horses and camels, we would get down and get it ourselves so that we don't ask someone else to get it for us. It's a mindset. It's a mindset that allowed me to believe that the strong believer is better than the weak believer. It's a mindset that you seek a position of strength and he ended earlier Hey dominaria the software to be the giving him the upper hand is better than being the lower hand. It's a mindset for a community. I've been Allah Tatiana fitna, Attorney Latina. cafaro

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Oh Allah Don't make us a fitna a tribulation. For those who disbelieve, they see us in weakness. They think that they're beating us. And because they think that they have power over us, then they feel even more invincible and immune to having to believe in Allah because look, we're crushing the

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Believers, we seek positions of strength as individuals and as communities, first and foremost, so that we don't resort to that which is displeasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Because Allah knows that sometimes when we're vulnerable and we're compromised, that's when we will compromise our faith. And that's when we might do things that are very dangerous. And there is no greater example. It's one of the least flattering stories of a Sahabi that you will find that I'm about to share with you. But it's certain in our tradition for a reason. And it's actually shared by the man who is guilty, how to be belterra or the Allahu taala. And how to was one of the better the veterans have

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banded the cream of the crop of Islam, the best that you can think of, of the companions.

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When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was about to go to Mecca for the conquest of Mecca, how to look around then he didn't have tribesmen in Mecca. He didn't have family in Mecca, meaning if things go wrong, there is no one from the kuffar the disbelievers and Mecca to say okay, we'll protect him we know this was a bad fall out but at the end of the day, these people put tribe over creed will protect our tribesmen and will take care of the path of had no one in Mecca.

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And in his moment of feeling vulnerable, like I'm going back to Mecca, I don't have anyone.

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He did something horrible, horrible. What did he do?

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The Prophet sallallahu Sallam confided in a group of companions about his plans to go to Mecca how that took those plans, wrote them in a letter called one of the disbelieving women and gave that letter of the plans of the prophets lie send them to go to Mecca, to deliver to the heads of grace.

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That's treason of the highest order, right? I mean, that's really compromising the mission, compromising the profit slice, I'm putting the profit slice, I'm in a very bad situation. And this is a person of veteran, a veteran of better.

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And so the woman takes the letter. She puts it in her hair, she wraps up her hair over it, she puts her keyboard on top, and she makes her way.

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Jabri on Islam comes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and tells him what how did so that the news from the heavens comes that there's a letter in the hair of this woman and she's in

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a very particular garden right now. Jada sort of lost son someone to go stop her and get that letter back the profit slice some calls Addy. That's dad and this is where what the law of Thailand Whoa. And he says go to this particular place. There's this woman she looks like this not and she has a letter in her hair with the news of what I plan to do in Mecca. Make sure that you get it from her so they go quickly to that garden they find the woman they tell the woman give us the letter she says I don't have a letter I need all the alarm who says look we can do this the easy way or the hard way we really don't want to do this the hard way. Give us the letter.

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She takes it out from her hair She's not even Muslim takes it out from her hair. She gives them the letter it comes back to the Prophet slice if you are hot right now, I mean you could deservedly be deservedly be killed you almost put the entire community at risk because of your own compromised your own vulnerability your sense of insecurity shavon played with that with his head and not met in that manner.

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So the prophets lie some calls half of all we're going to have a problem the alarm who's standing next to the profit slice on them

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ID net that is better there.

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And the profit slice some says yeah how to what did you do? How to says yada Silla.

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I thought about all of you and you have people in Mecca to take care of you. If things go wrong, this person has his tribesmen

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and I wanted to have a hand with Quraysh

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in case things did not work out so that I would be protected to and yada Silla, I knew that Allah would give you victory in any way and that they were not going to be able to overcome you. I mean, it's it sounds contradictory, right? But he's saying to the profit slice I'm but yada so Allah will lie. I did not do that out of any allegiance to Cofer, or at any wanting disbelief or out of any getting out of Islam. It was a moment of weakness. I regret it. I hate that I did it.

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But you also don't think I did that because I'm I'm the love No babe and saloon and I want to undermine Islam. I want to hurt Islam. I got weak shavon got me in my weak moments.

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The Prophet sly Salaam. Here's his excuse. I'm going to toggle the alarm who says yes with Allah.

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Let me take care of

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that tomorrow. The alarm was answered. And he's right, right. I mean, in the sense that justifiably so. This is treason.

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The prophets lie some looks at how somebody says he's telling the truth.

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And he said, yo Omar, it might be

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that Allah looked to the people of better and said aeromedical magic for Allah Allah can do as you will Allah subhanaw taala has forgiven you and so

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Allah has forgiven you on how to seek Allah's forgiveness and go back spamela

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prophets lie some could have killed him, and he would have been justified. He didn't do that. sallallahu it was some what was how, what the Allahu was thinking, he got weak. And sometimes when we get vulnerable, that's when shavon finds his easiest way into our heads. That's when he finds us in our low points. In our low points, when the money is tight, hold on money becomes so tempting.

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When we feel like we've been wronged it becomes so easy to wrong someone else. Right? Isn't that how a lot of injustice perpetuates in society? Someone wronged me, so I'm gonna wrong somebody else. That's how cycles of abuse take place in families, entire families, my parents abused me, I'm gonna abuse my children too.

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Because cython preys on those moments of insecurity and vulnerability. However, let me just put one thing aside with half the battle the length of time, no one of us ever went to bed.

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So how committed a grave crime but he had a grave a great deed on his scale that's unlike anyone else.

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So we don't count on getting the forgiveness that how the battle the Allahu anhu got, but we learned the lesson of how to and we learned the lessons from these Hadeeth that first and foremost when we make draft to Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah put us in a position of strength. It's not because we enjoy arrogance, if that's your intention, when you're making the durab because I don't want to be talked down to I don't want to feel less. That's not the right intention for these dads dear brothers and sisters, when you supplicate to get yourself out of these situations. And by the way, if a person ends up in a situation of weakness regardless, that we're not a people who believe that those who

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are wealthy Allah loves and those who are poor, Allah hates No, you're being tested with your position of strength, others are being tested with their position of weakness, but you seek a position of strength so that you don't find yourself in a position of compromising your faith. Recognize the tricks of shape on when it comes to you and tells you you're weak. You're in debt, you've been wronged. It's your turn. It's okay. A little bit of this, a little bit of that. And for those of you who have never been in that situation, may Allah subhana wa Tada, keep us all out of that situation. Make that the intention for the dura of Minerva, today, pneumococcal Reja that Allah

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protect us from being in a position of being overburdened by debts are subjugated to men, not because it's going to hurt my ego but because it might hurt my acima I might develop bad qualities and characteristics and traits I don't want to develop. May Allah subhanaw taala protect us from ever resorting to harm as a means of curing our harm? May Allah subhana wa tada protect our character, protect us in this life elevate us in the next life. Robin artina for dunya has enough and after that he has worked in a political la de la comunidad Muslim infested

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