Resting the Soul and Avoiding Burnout

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Omar Suleiman

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This audio is brought to you by Muslim central.com. Dear brothers and sisters, if I was to walk up to someone who even speaks Arabic can say Kayfun bad? How is your bed?

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People would look at me funny, because you'd be more accustomed to how is your hand capable Hal cave mahalo calm. How was your hand? Now, of course, if you don't speak Arabic, they sound very similar. And in fact, they have very similar meanings. And I know that there are similar words and oh to do in other languages. To that your situation, when you ask someone, how are you? What do you mean by that? And what exactly are you asking about? If you walk up to someone and say, how are you? Are you really interested in knowing how they are? Or are you simply giving a greeting? Right, as an extension of your salon? You've already moved on to the next part before you can even let them

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answer right tip and Haddenham, the key for how to get Hamdulillah. How are you I'm doing Hamdulillah, I'm doing well. Now, the word Belle is a very interesting word in the Arabic language. And it's a little more comprehensive and specific at the same time than the word hat. So I want to break this down a bit. And then I'll explain to you why I'm even doing that in the first place. A lot of times there is an external part to you. And when someone asks, How are you? What they mean by that is everything good with the family, everything good with work, everything going okay with your time, they're asking about predominantly external things fed? Well, you have your money, you're

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taking care of there, everything is good there. They're not really asking too much about your emotional well being. They might be they're really good friends, but they're not really asking about that, for the most part. They're saying is everything covered? You know, as the Arabs used to say, during the story, he's taken care of when I say k for Hi, Luca, how are you? I mean, are you taking care of where you get for tonight, you have a place to stay, you've got something to eat him did a lot of anatomy, the emotional part of this, we don't talk about that part. Right? They used to get mad at the profit slice on them for kissing his grandkids. This is different to them. Right? But go

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beyond that. When you go beyond that. How are you? How are you? And so before I get to the idea that mentions this is very interesting, when you dig deep into it the word Bell, which sounds very similar to hell, when used together, the Arabs meant a bell refers to your internal states. What's on your mind? What's in your hearts? What's keeping you concerned? What's keeping you up? What's letting you sleep? What are you looking forward to? What are you worried about from the past? What's keeping you down? That's what they mean when they say you're bad. It refers more to the things that are not at the surface, whereas the HAL, the situation of a person refers to things that are more

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external, very simple analogy. Your bed would be what's on your mind, your hand would be observable in some way with what's on your head. Okay, there would be an external notion of this fucker. Poverty is a hand, right? It's something that you can see on the outside that definitely has an internal components. However, they're not the same. And to not get too technical here but but to also look at the spiritual dimension of this a person's had a person's external might be alpha, it might be poverty, but they're bad. They're internal might be Xena. I'm rich. Hamdulillah. Because Lina is Lena is going to help. I'm Rich in the heart. I am contented hamdulillah Blimey, I am

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content, whereas a person might have Linna on the outside their external state might be wealth, but their internal state is complete bankruptcy, complete poverty complete fucker lost on the inside. And so there's an importance here that we should speak about. Now. Why is this important in the Quran? When Allah says de him well you'll see who better so you do him well you'll see who that will you the hero whom will janitor Allah for her law home that Allah subhanaw taala will guide them and correct their bad correct their internal correct their condition. If you're reading a translation the word is going to say condition most likely their state or their condition and will enter them

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into paradise, which he has made known to them. Okay, what does Arafa home mean? The Prophet sallallahu wasallam said welder the nurse cvrd He in hada on demand city he for the Jannetty I mean who be Manzini, Hila de cana for dunya the prophets lie some said that I swear by the one in whose hand is my soul when you enter into Paradise, and you need to go home? There is no Jenna GPS. You don't need to ask an angel for directions. You don't have to be like which Palace is mine? Do I go here or do I go there? Which bridge do I take? As an ambassador the low tide and Hamas

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commenting on this, you will go to your home in Jannah as a person who lived in a home their entire life, at no point in error at no point confused exactly where you need to go. And that's from the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala enough familiarity, right? Because if you get into Gemini might get overwhelmed. Where do I go? Which one is mine is that one mine is that one mine. So part of the comforting part of this is that this is where you go. Right? You already know you're already programmed to go home to go to your palace and gentlemen, and nothing looks more beautiful than the palace that you are entering into. Now the dunya we reward of this the worldly reward of this,

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you'll see who Bala whom Allah subhanaw taala will rectify their condition means their internal thoughts, their internal state, your mood could be your bed, your emotional state is rectified. As a result of that guidance, you have the right perspective. You have the right thoughts. There's something there that corrects you on the inside. And you feel a certain way you feel a certain way. Contentment, tranquility, these are all things that we seek from Allah subhanaw taala justly who Birla home. Now why is this important to the discussion that we're about to have right now about balance and about, you know, baraka and about blessing and about how to be proportional and about

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how to relieve distress. And where do I find find these outlets. When I feel overwhelmed. Almost every person you talk to right now is overwhelmed in some way. Work is overwhelming families overwhelming, you know that the pandemic is overwhelming, something is overwhelming, I'm stressed out, I'm looking for something and I'm not going to be little the mental health component that is there. The spiritual upliftment is part of it, right. But it does not negate it, there's something serious there there is something that is real there, there is something called depression, there is an emotional component of you a physiological component of you. And while it is connected to the

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spiritual, the spiritual does not tell you to neglect those. Okay? However, when we talk about balance, when we talk about finding an outlet,

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one of the ways that we fail is that we restrict the discussion to time your family has a right upon you, yourself has a right upon you. So you need to give more time to your family, you need to give more time to yourself, which might be true.

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But the ban is not simply encompassed within time. Sometimes it's not about time, it's about the things that consume your thoughts and energy, even with less time.

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Alright, so if you give more time to these things, but you don't treat the bell, you don't treat what it is that is consuming you,

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then you're not going to solve anything. It's not just a matter of giving more time here giving more time there. It's not just a matter of taking more days off for vacation. It's not just a matter of taking more walks, all of that is good for you. But you can't treat this just in terms of time finding an outlet for what burdens you and removing what burdens you to the greatest extent possible is what's going to actually make you a more complete person is what's going to actually bring you to a desirable state, one that gives you what you want in this life and one that gives you what you want in the next. And so when we talk about outlets for the soul, and resting the soul, how do we

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approach this to some? It's simply worship Allah subhanaw taala more. And you know what, if your worship can become a source of relief and hamdulillah when worship is done best, it's not just a reward in the hereafter. It's relief in this world as well. When worship is done best, it's not just reward in the hereafter. It's relief in this world as well. It cannot be high Joby that comfort us with the prayer Oh Bella, I want to pray. I enjoy my prayer. Take me back to that prayer. Not just to do out to get me out of the situation do art in and of itself is an outlet with Allah subhanaw taala in a school bethey where has needed Allah, I complained of my sadness and my grief to Allah

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subhanaw taala I have those moments where I can release the valve

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and talk to Allah. The very act of Dara is comforting to me whether I get exactly what I'm asking him for or not the very fact that I get to go into that door and have that conversation. I feel so much better. Think about a person that you really love just talking to them. The comfort of their voice, the familiarity of their voice. There's a there's a release of tension there. There's a release of stress there just because you got to talk to somebody, it was really great to talk to you 30 minutes an hour, whatever it may be just having that person on the other side of the phone, what about when a person goes to Darat so there is like that Valve

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to just go into drought, whether I'm doing to speaker is the fog, glorifying alar seeking His forgiveness, whether I'm asking him for something of this life or asking him for something in the hereafter release, right? I school bethey where his knee and Allah, I take it to Allah subhanaw taala I am in those moments with a rock man, I'll halwa the rock man to be alone with a rock man is the greatest drummer to our lives, let it out.

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complained to Allah, it's okay. As long as you're not complaining to Allah about Allah complaining to Allah. Talk to Allah relief. And that's what the profit slice I'm not gonna be higher beta. comfort us with it. Oh beat up. So the greatest relief if done right is worship, the worst burden is sin. Sin bears consequences that burden you. They constrict the chest and they eliminate your reward in the hereafter. Now, here's the thing about that there's a lot that's in between here. Okay, the greatest relief is worship done right? The greatest burden is sin. What about other outlets in between that Allah has made permissible to us that Allah has opened up for us, if you remember the

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hadith of surmounted Pharisees all the low tide, or the low on where the prophets lie, some parison man with a Buddha

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and Superman sleeping in his house, and he realizes, I wonder that is way overboard with the religiosity part.

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His wife is being left behind. He prays all night long fasts every single day, he's got no time for his family got no time for this world, all these dedicated to his his worship his spirituality. And so what does he do? He forces them to go and spend some of the night with his spouse he forces I would eat lunch with him like some days you need to not fast, you spend some time with your family. And he tells a Buddha in Nairobi County, Kochalka verily Your Lord has right upon you your family has a right upon you with enough. Sika haka yourself has a right upon you now is part of giving yourself to your Lord, not beneficial to the self. Of course this

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of course, it is again worship done right, like I would that would tell you, I'm really liking my theme here. I feel fine. I don't need to go for a jog. I've got to middlin I'm okay. So I'm giving my right to my Lord, but I'm also finding relief for the self. And if you are with your family, and you do for your family with the intention of pleasing Allah is it the Leka also the beaker isn't for your family also for your Lord. So one of the scholars mentioned here, the for yourself part that the prophets lie some confirms, by the way when he says that a man told the truth. The for yourself part is primarily not something that is worship oriented, you can make it an act of worship. But

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every human being needs some time. Every single person needs some share of relief D stressors, they need time they need leisure. I know what's really interesting is a Buddha that took the advice of the dad or the Altana. And he says in Neela as the gym Moon FCB bar, the lovely the corner that he can own and need a little help. It's one of my favorite sayings from him. And until today, quite frankly, I never connected it back to the incident that actually happened with him. Talk about waking up to the reality. He says in Nila sturgeon when FCB Marley Luckily, he said I find that my heart finds relaxation through some of Allahu La who is entertainment. So amusements, leisure, some

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things that are level to indulge in it is actually can become sinful. But he said I find actually sometimes that I find relief from in my heart in my heart from some of those things. And he said, You know what? The Akuna that he can own and the eyelid hack that makes me stronger in my dedication to the truth. That gives me the energy

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to do what I am put on this earth to do.

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it invigorates. It gives me exactly what I need. I need those breaks of whatever that is saying, I came to that realization. I need those breaks. And so if this great scholar and great worshiper is saying sometimes I do those things. They're not necessarily acts of worship, but they're not haram. I don't do disobedience and then worship. I do worship and then move back permissible things. So I can be better with my worship be better with my purpose. So that's one outlet that even the Sahaba and the Sahaba that were known for being distinguished by their worship are saying you've got to have that in your life. You've got to have that in your life. Now, as the moment has led Rahim Allah

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said active leisure is better than passive leisure. Active leisure is better than passive.

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of leisure. So the Sahaba preferred the throwing of spears, the shooting of arrows, the swimming, the horseback riding, they preferred that because there was a data in that as well that was better active leisure is better than passive leisure. And by the way, even when it comes to mental emotional well being active leisure is usually better for you than passive leisure. However, even some of the passive leisure sitting down telling jokes reciting poetry, they did that stuff. And they did it because it gave them an outlets need a break, we need a relief, take a break, get that back, and then go right back into what you're doing. The Sahaba needed those things. However,

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when they got into passive leisure in particular, they did not stay there for longer than what they had intended to stay there with. Meaning what as long as it came Allah Tala mentions that when they would recite poetry, they were mindful that they weren't going to miss their pm will lead in a night in poetry. So they wouldn't binge poetry.

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Okay, because they knew that would sacrifice their piano, they understood, let's sit for 30 minutes, let's sit for some time. Let's share some poetry. Let's joke around a bit, let's hang out. But they were mindful of the time and so when they got into passive leisure, because sometimes passive leisure can become way past this time, you can go way past the window. They knew exactly how long they were going to spend in it. They didn't keep clicking the links, right, keep going down the hole. Keep watching the next video in the next video in the next video in the next video. Right. So it's halaal in its nature, and there's a boundary that's intended before you even go into it. The

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next thing that we learned from the scholars in this regard is that one of the things that drains the soul when we said we don't just address this with time

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is that destructive distraction, destructive just distractions. So there are the disobedient distractions are the distractions that involve sin. There's the neutral halaal MOBA, keep it limited, but have it as a part of your life. If you can be active, that's better. And then there are destructive distractions destructive, in what sense? destructive and how much energy, how much headspace? How much heart space? They exhaust your soul with?

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Mama SHA three Rahim Allah to Allah he says and keep in mind we're coming up on the 15th of Chandon, in the middle of Shaban, Allah will look out to his servants and Allah forgives forgives each one of his a dot each one of his worshippers coming up next week. Not because of the lengthy nights of DM No, because they removed from their heart should they be removed from their heart polytheism and they removed from their heart shall not they remove malice grudges, they let it out? Clear your heart empty it out before Ramadan needs to be filled with something else. Clear it out right now. Imam Shafi Rahim Allah said lemma fold to an unhappy that I hadn't arrived to an FC minha Milada at

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one once I learned how to forgive as a habit and a shaft he was a man who was frequently backbiting right? Once I learned to just overlook and forgive,

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he said to enough See, like my soul just became so at peace law how not to talk about the reward. What do you offer what else Allah to have buena? Allah Allah come Don't you want Allah forgive you? Like once I started letting stuff go, even the justifiable ones it's not like Imam Shafi was someone that was getting into a bunch of fights, even the stuff like he had reason to be bothered by it, and reason to be drowned in it. Once I learned to just let it go and overlook it. To an FC like myself, my soul felt so much peace in hemel Adalat, from the worries of enmity, the drama of graduates, the drama of enmity.

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You know, people get into these disputes, you lose sleep, you lose time you lose energy, you don't enjoy your life anymore, because all you're thinking about is the test match.

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That's not just a distraction, it's a destructive distraction. Go to Hawaii, you're still gonna have your phone and you're still going to be thinking about that. It's not gonna do anything for you. Go into tyrolia Totally, it's not going to solve your problem. Maybe temporarily. You just have to cut it, cut it. Right. I'm not gonna let this exhaust myself anymore, exhaust my heart anymore. It no longer will find space here because it's taking a toll on me, even if I'm justified. And then even when you're justified. This is not saying tolerate abuse. Now we have room for retribution and justice. But don't let it become so dominant in your life. That is all that occupies you. Keep it to

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the extent that you need to get justice Hamas' Move on, move on. Find ways to get it

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out for yourself, not just for the other person, and for the reward of relief of the soul in this life, not just for the great reward, which is even right here in the next. And so dear brothers and sisters, I want to end off with one thing inshallah to add, in this regard more talking about the outlets of the self, the solution to burnout because many people complain about burnout. And honestly, we're all feeling it, I don't want to project it on you. I'm feeling it, a lot of people are feeling it. I think most of you would say that you felt a little burnt out that you felt like you're going through a lot. You felt like it's been a tasking time. Right? The solution to that

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burnout is not more vacation time. Because more vacation time from an unhealthy life is not going to solve the unhealthy nature of that life. By the way, vacationing is a modern concept.

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last 200 300 years,

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taking off a few days, and especially now with that being, you know, diluted with everything that we take with us to our vacations that totally defeat the purpose of physically putting ourselves in a different place. Right, it's not going to be as beneficial not to say that vacations aren't good. I love vacations, and I'm sure you'd love vacations as well. But to say that it's not the solution, it's not the outlets, and it's not an excuse. And it's not in place of actually trying to find the daily habits, the weekly habits of healthy outlets with ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada healthy balance with our worship with our space with our time, so that we could have a better bad so we could have a

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better state, internally, as well as externally. And so I give you seven things in Sharla to Ana to recap this, number one, avoid disobedience even when you're down, it's not a healthy outlet, it's only going to burden you more. Number two, get rid of the destructive distractions that waste time energy head and heart space. The Grudge is not worth it, the mouse is not worth it. You get a greater reward in the next life and you get relief for the soul in this life. Number three active leisure is better than passive leisure when you have that choice. Number four, if you're going to engage passive leisure which you should sometimes then discipline it's time not just keep it head up

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discipline your passive leisure number five, bring remembrance zycus into your silence and active moments when you can bring the ticket into your walk bring ticket into your time away bring the ticket into your contemplation into your relief brings ticket into your into your treadmill and into your working out now shall we had the brother who came in took shahada a few weeks ago he said that I was listening to the angel series while working out I said man you've listened to it many times masala is huge biceps, alright, bring it into your active bringing into your passive when you can. Number six, enjoy good company where you can

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that does not cause you to transgress the limits company of joy. The Sahaba used to take along some of the funnier companions when they would travel because they knew that they brought some relief on the journey. But they knew that when they're with those companions, they don't have to worry about backbiting and gossip and all the other stuff that's going to drag them into some of the other things so have people with you engage good company where you don't have to worry about transgressing the limits. Number seven make worship your greatest relief edition Obeah make worship your greatest form of relief May Allah subhana wa Tada let that be such for us alumna Amina Hulu COVID Heather was

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