Channel: Omar Suleiman
We finished out Ramadan strong alhamdulilah. So how do we maintain the spiritual momentum and overcome the post-Ramadan blues?
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cathedra we want to welcome you all back in Charlottetown after your aid break and we prayed that you had a blessing that you had some time to refresh after your Ramadan or Eva Eliza accept all of your eba all of your recitation, your selenium, your PM, everything that you put forward this Ramadan May Allah subhanaw taala allow the good that you gained from the small blonde to continue forward and handed it out. One of the things that we gained in Melbourne was really an online community and it was beautiful to see the same names popping up every night and the people that were joining and 3430 Mashallah, we had 10 people accept Islam, mainly through the Koran. 3430 comments
ended up taking Shahada over zoom. So we welcome them to our community as well. hamdulillah and I think everyone got a chance to meet so many members of the team would love hunt. And we're here now to pick up where we left off in sha Allah Tada. So, by all means, as we talked about the post Ramadan blues Tonight, we're excited to announce our keeping connected with an program that's going to start in Charlottetown this coming Monday, and every Monday through Friday, there's going to be a different program, a live program and show what's out of that deals with one elements of the plan. We'll have a program on the parables of the themes in the town. We will have a program on verses of
healing in the
program on some reflections on the whole and I know I'm missing one. I'm not sure which one I'm missing maybe one y'all can help me. Miracle themes, parables. parables was the first one I thought miracles
will have parables, themes, miracles, reflections and verses of healing inshallah. So every night Monday through Friday, inshallah tada we're going to have a special live program and we hope that the 90 Tada we can continue that online community and that Ramadan spirit that we had in sha Allah, and really emphasize keeping connected with the Quran, that was the theme of the song along with everyone at home, there was a great emphasis on connecting with the Koran even more so than what we usually see. And that's because everyone was reciting on their own. We didn't have the Imams leading us until the week we were doing it ourselves. And so that's why we want to make sure we maintain
that connection button and it tada going forward. But that being said, inshallah tada we have our esteemed panel today
that are going to be sharing with us their number one tip for how to avoid or how to overcome the post Ramadan blues and shuttling So the way this is going to work is that everyone's going to have one tip that they're going to share and I'm going to ask everyone to chime in and share what's out and share a little bit from their perspective on what was mentioned. And then we'll go to the next tip and in total, we'll have five inshallah tada and hopefully end off with a beneficial discussion then as well. So I'm going to start in sha Allah to Allah with Dr. earthman. Margie inshallah, Tyler, can you share with us your tip for how to overcome the personal bond blues?
Does that matter? salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Malala salatu salam ala rasulillah. Water early he also habima. So my tip is continuing our journey to Allah subhanho wa Taala, through having a regular
engagement with the post Ramadan. And I want to begin with this analogy that I think a lot about, and it's that spinal, there's things that are really, really high quality require high quality fuel to make them function. So when I think about like a high end sports car, you have to put premium fuel into it. And if you put anything else into it, it's going to mess up its engine. And so I think about that as it pertains to how Allah subhanho wa Taala has made us the premium creatures in this life and he has made the poor and the premium fuel for our hearts. And Allah says in the Quran, when azita milk or any man who wish he found what a hammer to limit meaning Allah says that and we have
revealed from the Quran that which is a cure and no mercy for the believers. And so when I think about this last month of Ramadan and and what makes it so special, and what makes Ramadan so special is that it's a month of intense immersion for the poor and it is a boot camp of Pura. We are reciting it by the day we're saying from the most half, we're standing before Allah in prayer at night in the whole month is revolving around the poor. And so what I found amazing was this humbler we have 3000 people who responded recently to our survey about how Ramadan went. And three out of four people said they read more and this year than they read previously. And similarly three out of
four people said this was a better Ramadan than it was last year. So it seems to be that at least correlation Li people who read Barker and are having better Ramadan and what we also find is that regularly leading the poor and has been associated with so many amazing outcomes and I think this is part of the post Ramadan blues. People are in a spiritual high in the Ramadan because they're engaged with the Quran, and then at once they leave, and you're gonna be you're gonna lose those benefits. So people who regularly read the poor and they have better mental health
less anxiety, less nervousness, they're more relaxed. We found they have better marriages and relationship with their spouses. And they're actually more grateful to a lot and they see more blessings in the world. So there's a verse in sort of law that makes me think about this world law says, ba Ma, are now illegal for analytische. For that panel, Allah says that we have not revealed the Quran to cause you distress. And so the opposite of that, is that we have revealed this quarter and to cause you to be in a state of peace and a state of comfort. And this is really why Ramadan is such an amazing time for Muslims worldwide because it is a time of peace and comfort, because we're
inundated with a plan in our life. So my post Ramadan tip is to feed yourself a daily diet of porn, and I mean a daily diet. And that means continuing with that energy every single day. Begin with one verse only, just read one verse, to build a habit for 30 days. And if you can build that habit for 30 days of one verse, then you can move up to five verses a day, or 10 verses a day like that, but start with one. And I'm reminded by the story of honorable Aziz Rahim Allah, the great Khalifa and great grandson of Oman hooked up something profound that he had said, and he had said that a day of his life would not go by that he did not engage with a plan. And he said, there'd be days that his
eyes were so tired, that his eyes would be watering and blurry that he actually could not actually make out the words of almost half on the plan. But he would still open the port and stare at it for a moment, and then close it. And the point is that he did not want to let one day of his life go that his eyes did not meet the words of Allah subhana wa Tada. So this month of Ramadan, you know, we had 3430 you know, 30 days of put and for 30 minutes, I want everyone to have 365
right? May Allah make us monks was capable of doing that. So that's on the recitation side of it, build that reading habit with a verse a day, on the content side, like chiffon, where you mentioned, underlie your penis, facilitating five days a week of programming every single day. So pick 12345 and immerse yourself in the study of Quran in a from that sense, and I'll close with one Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam, where he said, that it will be said to the Companion of the poor and on the Day of Judgment, recite and ascend as you recited in this dunya in this life, For verily your rank, in the editor will be determined by the very last verse he recited. So I asked Allah subhanaw
taala to give us that strength to continue to engage with the Quran regularly outside of Ramadan, so that we may achieve that spiritual blessing. The physical health, the better marriages, the better mental health,
more gratitude, all the benefits of the Quran, we may benefit from them 365 days years on their bigger applies to Mr. foon wa salam O Allah mursaleen Well, hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen wa Taala the beginning of swift baja mountains and it could put it under the touch bar at the end on an Avalon victory for another humeri shutdown Blanca whoever turns away from this reminder will have a constricted life. So there's a direct correlation there. Anyone want to chime in? I
actually just wanted to comment on on the last part that you mentioned in terms of resigning Hold on, and that being a means of raising your rank. Because every time I think of that, and as I'm reading what I actually tried to visually imagine that like, how does that look? So as I as I read, I, uh, I imagined myself sort of just going you know, having that noise in my head like ding ding ding as just as video games arcade, whatever, you hear those noises as you're, you're increasing in levels I just I visit I visualize myself physically rising level by level and it's honestly so incredibly motivating when you do that. So if that helps I recommend people just as even if you want
to go start with the the chapters with shorter verses and raise your rank higher that is the most merciful and it could be just two letters of an idea and he will still raise the rings about ranks. So it's really satisfying just thinking as you read just going higher and higher and higher.
Anyone else want to chime in on that?
Yeah, if I could chime in for a second you know what I tell like convert sometimes and people that are trying to make a change in their life and you know, you know, you know before becoming Muslim it was New Year's resolution but then now you know, Mashallah and Ramadan is kind of like the dawn resolution right? That's gonna be a beginning for something I just say look, go in the index of your of your Quran and look at a subject that's interest you right? And then just go to that page so if you see use of and then it has a number of different pages, just opening the book and making that effort and going from that you know, molar as subject matter if that's something that will help you
in opening the book then do so. So so what I tell people sometimes is, you know, when starting that relationship with the client, just go in the index and then see a subject that interests you and then start there.
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Should we move on to the next tip, I love the idea of connecting with the court and everyday, even if you're not physically able to read it, I feel like makes such a big impact on on that relationship that we have with the crown or with Alma, and I, a lot of us get busy, and we're not able to read as much as we can. But just hearing that reminder, that beautiful reminder of that, you know, even just looking at it and feeling like you've been physically connected with the most part, even if you didn't read anything. I think that's something that everybody could just take away. And it's motivational because it's such a small thing that we can do in a couple seconds.
I think I mean, what speaks to this is that engaging the plan, in the most wholesome sense possible allows you to enjoy it in the most specific sense possible, like there's no way that you're not going to enjoy your touch, we'd more if you're learning to see it. Or if you're listening to this reflection on the surah. It'll make memorization of the surah. So much easier somehow. So the holistic engagement of the Koran makes every specific engagement with it so sweet. And every verse is worth it, right? So for the prophets lie, some said that the space of one with an agenda is greater than the entire world and everything that's within it, then every degree matters. Every
space matters as we elevate ourselves. So inshallah tada with that stem test name. Will you share your tip with us inshallah? Yes, so thank you, everyone, excited to be back with you guys. And the tip that I have, it's pretty simple and straightforward. But when it comes to Ramadan, and it comes that feeling of like excitement and motivation, what, what it really is beyond, of course, the blessing, the bulk of that comes with the month, and all of the extra good deeds that are just everything is doubled. And all of that, what really is so exciting about that month, is the fact that you have these new goals in place, right, you're telling yourself, I'm gonna read a certain
amount of, I'm gonna pray a certain number of hours every night that I'm going to do certain things in my day that are going to be different. And that's what makes the month special. And so, because throughout the month, you're constantly pushing yourself to do different things. You're constantly pushing yourself to create habits that you want to keep after the month, but you're also doing things that no, it's not gonna happen throughout the month, but you're taking advantage of that blessing of that month. And that's okay, that you're reading, you know, you're spending all night reading and praying, just because you know, what data is promising you a reward you can't even
imagine. So we push ourselves to a degree that we can even do consistently throughout the year. But we also create goals that we can carry on inshallah, after Ramadan. So you've got all of these different types of challenges, right? challenges unique to the month and the challenges that you want to set for yourself, you know, for the long run. And so what really is so great about Amazon is that you're just doing things that you're not, you know, that you won't do most of the year, or you want to do something new. So that, fortunately, is something that we can always do that every month is an opportunity to set new goals to set new challenges for yourself and to hold yourself
accountable to push yourself to those goals. So think about, you know, think about what it wasn't a Milan, what were those things that you're doing on Milan, that were particularly, you know, inspiring that were really those those acts of worship that were so rejuvenating, because now as you're trying to look at sort of this holistic approach to change and to kind of continuity and consistency, you can start off with that one thing that you really loved and enjoyed. There's some acts of worship that we enjoy, but are difficult for us or challenging. I'll be honest, fasting is one of the hardest acts of worship for me. And I really really struggled with it. So for me, I'm
thinking chawan what you know, what do I really want to push myself to? Well, I personally love No, we didn't put on I love reviewing I love reading about the commentary of something like that right? And so I'm going to set a goal that's going to challenge me to get going to push me to my limits this month, just as I push myself and hold on for that one specific you know, act of worship that I particularly if there's multiple acts, think of smaller consistent acts that you can do throughout the month. But really think about those those those old that you set and try to imitate them try to create them. You know, whether you want to do it for the year you want to do month by month, week by
week, set goals to keep pushing yourself and challenging yourself. Now for those of you who are like Well, I have no idea what my goals are. My challenges are Don't worry, we've got that problem solved for you inshallah, what we're going to be releasing early next week, inshallah is a weekly checklist. So if there are certain acts of worship you're not quite sure you want to focus on if there's certain things you want to be doing but you don't know how hard to push yourself. What we're going to be providing you with is a weekly checklist of different things you can do to engage with content that will boost inshallah, your Eman in regard to the Quran. It will it will increase your
you know, your intellectual understanding of this religion and inshallah will also
Strengthen your relationship with less data just as you were doing in Ramadan. And so we'll have different activities that you can do different reminders, videos, you can watch things to really keep yourself engaged spiritually, and also activities that you can do with others. And that's also very important because this is an opportunity for you to find a friend, find a family member, challenge them, hey, listen, I'm doing this weekly checklist. I put the certain goals for myself this month. How about you join me Let's compete, let's set points for different types of activities. And that's really, really fun and inspiring when you know you can check in on your friend,
especially when it comes to like fasting the six days of chawan for those who can do it, having someone around you just texting them. Hey, you know, what are you making profile tonight? Let's break our fast over Skype, zoom, whatever it is, it really makes a difference in terms of keeping up with that morale? Because of course and hold on. Yes, you know, we're motivated, there's, there's a lot of blessing in the month. But one big Herc Ramadan, is knowing that we're all fasting, we're all in it together, we're all super thirsty and hungry, and that we're all going to be breaking our past together. So try to recreate that sense of community of togetherness in trying to meet those goals
and challenges. And
you don't want to add to that.
You know, I think as you were speaking about that, somehow a lot this idea.
It's not a set equation for people, you know, as I was thinking about it the other day, because we love to make these mathematical equations. So it's like, you know, if you've got six days of show, then that means that there's some divine equation of five times, you know, or one fifth of your ego, or something like that. It doesn't work that way. Right. So for some people, taking from the start, right half of my call and reading in chawan, is what I'm, you know, half of the plan that I read in a lot, I'm going to read and show up, for example, or even a fourth, it's going to be different, both in terms of the quantity of the proportion, as well as in terms of the nature of their ibadah.
Right. And I think there's something to be said, I don't know how y'all feel about this. But But switching it up sometimes is important, not necessarily doing the exact same thing about the Hadith of the Prophet sly Southern, and the amount of the political fee joviality compared with the film that sometimes faith can wear out in the chest, the way that a garment would wear out. And part of that is touch D the amount of renewing faith is sometimes doing different things to
to move the to move your face to ignite something inside of you. So sometimes diversifying is good. So I'm not sure how you all feel about, you know, carrying the goals, or sometimes even switching the goal setting entirely different goals for sure. Well,
I appreciate that. I mean, I I like this idea of
having goals that are time bounded, so do something for like, a couple weeks, and then you can always switch it up, I think it's easy to burn out. And if you're just doing the same goal, and you just have to maintain it forever. So and a lot of it is different. I mean, certain people have, you know, they're, they they like to focus on one thing get really deep and become the master of it. Some like to dabble into a whole bunch of different things and be competent and 10 things and, and that's just a luggages what He wills to his servants. So
anyone else, like chime in on them?
Yeah, I think men, you know, mentioning the goals, and then having that which facilitates,
you know, just taking the time to kind of look at the end of the tunnel, you know, each each person individually, and then seeing what do they want to see before the next Ramadan? Like in shabang, the month right before Ramadan? What do they wish to see themselves, like if they're at a dream and just close our eyes and say, Okay, I want to see myself doing this, right. And then that's just a one realistic goal for them. Just one goal, that may help just kind of visualize what you want to see by shot by end of next year.
So how about the value of that one? are you bothered, that you can carry like, What's in it? You know, if you just if you're just carrying with tips panel, I want to be I want to be praying with it. Right? I think that's powerful. So chef Abdullah Waltz with you in sha Allah, my esteemed co host from core and 3430. I know everyone missed you and wants to hear from you.
So what's your what's your tip for us? And so
really, it's just it's kind of it kind of correlates it with everyone else is saying, the main thing that I really want to, you know, take home and I'll expound upon it is transformation over motivation.
You know, a lot of times we look to be motivated. And sometimes we use the excuse to say, Well, I'm not motivated. We should not look for motivation, we should look for motivation to be a catalyst for transformation. You know, motivation is just the beginning. Because what happens is when we look for motivation,
a week after Ramadan, a year after becoming Muslim, a year after you know, a couple of weeks after just starting to pray, you will say to yourself, and it can be from shaytaan at times, well, I'm just not motivated.
No, it's let's look for transformation and transformation is that change that is needed and change. You know, we as human beings, we do not welcome change naturally. I mean, when we look at the prophets they call for change in their connection with the Creator. So it's really looking to transform in one thing, as Omar mentioned, Witter and using the means that shake shaker tesni mentioned, you know, you know, yaqeen, providing a platform or providing a means for transformation. So, some people may need a schedule, some people, you know, in my garage, in my little gym, I have whiteboards, not one but a number of them and just just letting my brain get free, and then making
sure that you know, I can organize a bit in the light on it. So whatever means that you use, make sure that it's leading towards transforming yourself, you 2.0 the better version of yourself, you know, a lot of these taglines that we hear, but make sure that whatever you're inspired by at the moment, it leads to something and that something is being trance transformed, and whatever little aspect of life and I think that's really really important because we as human beings love to be inspired but let's make sure that it leads to something that is long lasting inshallah and that will help change us as human beings, you know, the prophets of Allah and he was selling them were talking
about the Quran now. He mentioned in a hadith and so he Muslim. He says, I had to build Koran. He says recite and keep you know your your your connection with the Koran. Whether the Mohammedan nessa Mohammed in the Yeti in who should do to follow 10 million a belief iraq Alia, process and said he said, I swear by whose Mohammed Sol is in being the last metalli swears by Allah that verily it will leave a shut due to falutin he said this is the most severe form of leaving or escaping someone than the camel from its or oculi have from it's, it's it's what it's tied to, because the camel, if you don't monitor it, it will leave and run away, unless you have that Urkel that, that that element
that will prohibit it from escaping from you. And the Koran is in that fashion. If you know, they say, if you don't use it, you lose it, if you don't ultimately act upon it. That's what the tofik from a loss of power without it to assist in your memorization, preservation, which leads to transformation, right? So making sure that you're honest with yourself, you look at yourself and like the test name said, you know, like for her, you know, fasting was a trial for her, what's a trial for you, you're realistic with that, don't look at someone else, and know what you're capable of doing? And do as a citizen, another form of advice,
putting him clear, is staying below what that attaches. And, you know, he said, Oh, it's LMA and farrokh was to me level attaches and how do you feel Muslim, he said, you know, the strong Muslim is more is more virtuous than the weak, the weaker Muslim, and both of them are good, both of them are higher. And then he said, you know, it's LMA and Falco, he said, be busy, busy yourself with that which is beneficial for you. Seek help in a law
and do not give up. Do not give up. Just as check on you know, Mr. Mukherjee was mentioning that, you know, you take something whether it's an idea a day, you know, do something that you know, you can handle and be consistent with that, or the postal system as we know, within our D to habit series. You know, even though a lot of these programs we are doing you know, I remember a second where he gave me a text one time he's like make sure you you're a little more generous with your message. Why? Because these message this message should be timeless. Ramadan is just a catalyst for a new beginning for a new habit. So going back to the deeds to habits, you know, which is paramount
coming from the Hadith, the promise of Salaam and a Mani Illa Duomo, one of the most beloved actions to Allah are those that are consistent, even if they were a little bit So looking at our deeds to habits 3430 can be 3430 every month, right? whether it's 29 or 30 days, it's it's irrelevant, right? We we go back to those verses in the Quran and we say to ourselves, Okay, I'm gonna listen for 3430 from ossur you know, till mugger and then looking at my schedule that they gave me. I'm going to, you know, this year, try to be committed to winter and 3430 when I sit with my child, when I sit with a friend of mine, I'm going to call them on the phone. We're just going to talk mention some
benefits from that, but something that is consistent and then I'll end with the beautiful verse.
You know, that's the part that I mentioned the chapter of Taha, where he tells the Prophet what more after administering a gene What more can be sold it also better Allah. It's a beautiful verse. I always remind
me because, you know, I remember when when I embraced Islam Subhan Allah, I was told that I had to pray, and me being human. You know, I said to myself, Okay, I gotta pray, but is that for the rest of my life. So you have to pray five times a day for the rest of your life. Wow, the rest of my life, I have to pray five times a day. In the beginning, it sounds stressful. It sounds like it can be like, Am I really going to be able to do that. But we shouldn't look at it as a challenge, let's change that word to an opportunity. If we look at it as an opportunity, and we try our best to reflect on ourselves and our abilities. And we ask a lot to help us in this journey of life, we look
at it as an opportunity to be better. And that's what we should strive to do to transform. So inshallah, that's what I really want to capitalize on, take this time to reflect one part of your day, and look at yourself. And then you know, making that goal the SR tesni mentioned using what was which was in the materials, and again, that will be coming out, looking at the material such as 3430 deeds to habits, and then using that as a means to help you transform to help you transform. So transformation over motivation meal is meant to help help us on the show.
I think people underestimate how,
how low the amount of happiness that comes from having accomplished that transformation, right, because in our situation there is
there isn't just one transformation, there is the transformation to Islam, right, which is the most obvious transformation, but then there, there are multiple transformations and evolutions that take place in our lives. And the profits why some stuff, either silica has been outsourced to Clinton woman, when your good deeds make you happy, and your bad deeds make you sad, you're a believer, that's a sign of, of goodness, that you look back and say, you know, I want it to be here at this month. And you know, I have the law, I made it. So
to take a moment and access 100 it offered that because the instructor knows he doesn't come if you're grateful and increasing. So I think just the moment for everyone in the office, you know, that's that's watching, that's been engaging. Like if you, you know, look back, if you finish a certain amount of people, and at some point you didn't think you were going to be able to If you prayed a certain amount of records, or you did something, you know, that was
that was heavy in the beginning of Ramadan, but you you power through it, say and have the love for that and have the love for life.
As a result of that.
Anyone else like to chime in on that.
One of the things that I really like that you said was not waiting for motivation in order to move forward with, you know, working on your good deeds.
Sometimes we really create these barriers for ourselves. And I think people get into the mindset that I have to have motivation. In order for me to do this, or I I need to get rid of my anxiety and my depression in order for me to move forward with that. And you know, part of behavior activation is just do it just even if you don't feel like you're motivated to do it, take that first step. And that will build momentum on its own. Because if you wait, there's so many missed opportunities for that to meet that eventual transformation.
Right, right. Actually, there's just one thing that I want to mention too, is to finalize, uh, you know, me, Roger, he made a beautiful palace. He made a beautiful point, he was talking about how
I can't remember the bait that he mentioned. But it's basically saying that
you thinking a lot for a NEMA is a NEMA.
The fact that you think a lot like we are mentioned, you know, you recall the end of Ramadan while I prayed, which is the majority of the month or while I read the Quran, or I was consistent with this, the fact that you thought that is a NEMA.
And when you remember the fact that you think Allah is another network. So it just continues on.
And he shook will come down with the crushercrusher NEMA, you know, the fact that you remember, you think the law and you thank him for that. That's an M, that you're conscious to thank him all that is an M and then that leads to an action, which increases your Amen. And it's just a constant process. And that's the whole battle with shaytaan. You know, and that's what's so beautiful that, you know, and he he mentioned that and I just want to say this last point is so important, and I think needs to be talked about more. Is this this system Nigel mentioned,
you know, this is a huge opportunity for all of us. I think it's tied to the crime. And he put them in a play box, that we watch what we eat, we really need to be conscious of what we eat. And it's Ramadan is a huge opportunity. Because we fasted for 30 days, and our body has been, you know, it's been kind of transform and Detox Detox to a certain degree depending on how we break our fast, but, you know, it's a huge opportunity to try to change and tweak a little aspect of our diet.
I'll just end by please try to consume more greens and vegetables and more water inshallah, I think I just really need to put that on here that talked about a lot, but we really need to work on our diet and what we eat and shallots out and that will help transform us as well.
We're not going to go into samosa eating again here though, we're beyond that Milan was a month of Toba from
now ourselves at that point, obviously,
I just there's a lot that showed us the possibilities with our physical cells, we're able to move forward in our spiritual selves as well. And
anyone else want to say anything to that? Not so most of hating, but what the beautiful points that Cheryl della made.
I'll go I'll go on to my point, then inshallah, because it speaks more to the
keeping certain things out. I said this in one of the Bible man lectures,
just that importance of
taking back your consumption, in terms of what you view in terms of what you what you engage with the faculties that Allah has given you, and keeping your demons locked out, keeping yourself being locked away. There's a powerful statement and you know, Abdullah mentioned half of another book in the LA Times and he has a quote from Karen body law on the path of life. Where Karen says that whoever says as Ramadan is ending and who lie that he will not disobey Allah Haney after once the day of rains and filter comes once Ramadan is done, does Allah agenda then he will enter agenda, the lady masala Ting, whether he served without being asked without being punished. Without any type of
accountability, Allah will give him the full reward. So long as that person will hold you had the throne epsa I don't have the exact quote in front of me. But a person tells themselves which is very powerful. A person tells themselves you had different so I'm telling myself I will not disobey Allah, I will not return to those sins, I will not go back to watching you know, whatever I was watching, listening to what I was listening to doing what I was doing, I will try to manifest the goal of taqwa, which is talking about IRC, mindfulness, and particularly mindfulness of God, that leads me to abandon that which is displeasing to him, I will not disobey a lot, you had the phone
upset, and I'm going to do what I can to not bring those children back into my life, bring those sins back into my life, then that person will enter agenda without being asked, and without being punished. But he said, on the other hand, whoever tells themselves that as soon as April 15 comes, that I will disobey Allah the same way that I was before Ramadan, then Allah subhanaw taala will return that Ramadan to that person model dude rejected, may Allah protect us. I mean, that that statement model dude is a tough one, right? Because literally, it's like the package came right back to you presented the package to a loss of hundreds either in the package came right back to you
delivered back to the sender. Why? Because you had already told yourself, I'm going right back to what I was doing before on the bond, that I will continue to disobey Allah subhanaw taala, that I will continue to do these things. Now the powerful thing in that statement is what who you had the feeling
that the person is telling themselves something?
That, and I'm sure I'm sure Sr najwa has some powerful insights on that concept since he wrote the paper on West West. And obviously, there's a lot to do with the psychology of this all but this is not, this is not the shape on this is you telling yourself, I'm going to stop or I'm going to continue. And that doesn't mean that you will not inevitably fall back into some of the things that you said that you were going to stop. Because there are going to be those times that we buckle under pressure, that we fall back into the sense that we said that we were going to abandon I was able to quit this. But then I had
I had a moment of weakness after Ramadan where I fell right back into it. I don't have to turn that moment of falling right back into it into a return to that habit. I can say, No, wait, I'm not doing this again. No, you know, it doesn't feel right. It's kind of like it's part of our, you know, similar to the physical consumption. Spiritual consumption is the same way with our fifth law, that when you detox and you purify yourself for a long time, then when you put something that that's not good for you back in your system, it feels off. And so spiritually speaking as even spiritually detoxing when you put something back in, that doesn't feel right, that's not good for you. It's not
good. It's not going to resonate the same way. And you're going to have that moment of consciousness like, wait a minute, do I really want to go back to this? Do I really want to make this a part of my life again, and you have to have that that at least that commitment, that initial commitment, that sincere initial commitment that you're like, I'm done with it. I'm gonna stop. I was able to put it away for a while and I can put it
Going forward as well, while I'm not going to be able to maintain the same level of currency, and do our indicates that I was in Hold on, I'm not built that way. We're not built to be able to worship throughout the year the way we do in Ramadan. Ramadan is supposed to be an elevated sense of worship. But we are created in a way that we can abstain from the same things that are hot on Ramadan, outside and all along, we do have that capacity. And that's not an unreasonable ask to make of ourselves, you know, what Allah showed me my potential not just been doing good and pushing myself to the next level with good a lot, it really showed me my potential in staying away from that
thing that I thought I could not live without. So thinking about this, and being very intentional about not letting those bad habits back in, even if I'm going to brush up against them a few times, maybe I might, I might find myself in a weak moment.
watching something listening to something doing something that I wouldn't have done it on the lawn, I say, this, this isn't how I want to proceed.
So keep your shin locked away. Allah subhanaw taala Sophie that the shelter and feed Ramadan, as we mentioned, shelter interchangeably in Ramadan, and what the implications of that are in the reduced effect. But you have the power
over your shape on whether it's well done or not to limit the impact that they're going to have in your lives. We have that power. Because anybody Lisa, like it him so fun, they don't have power over us in Ramadan or outside the realm of luck, right? So we have the ability now to use that spiritual strength to push
back even further, you know what, stay in those chains. I don't want you back. I'm not gonna let you back into my life with this habit. So my tip, my number one tip is keep the shape the chains, keep them in chains, don't let them back into your life. Be very sincere about your initial commitment.
Overcome your initial slip up, because it will you know, initial slip ups might happen because you you know, that atmosphere for Ramadan is gone. And it's like, wait a minute, I don't want to go back to this. And I think you know, I'm going to make sure that, you know, I think I can stay away from this, I'm going to make sure that I'm going to take the necessary steps to not let it become a regular infraction. And then once again, either once again habit that I have to wait for the next one along if it comes around to get rid of
not sure if anyone would like to comment or share anything on that. And then we'll go to sister natural Ansel the fifth tip.
And it's good.
I was gonna say, you know, there's there's two parts, right, there's a part that we have control over putting preventative measures from getting to wherever it is that you, you know, we're trying to avoid. And then there's the second part is once you slip up, having the mindset that it's okay, this doesn't define me I have the ability to bounce back from it. And you know, something that I hear oftentimes people say, I don't have control over this behavior. But you do have control over and just reframing and telling yourself, it's something you don't have control over. It's, it's very difficult for you to get over it. And there's a huge difference between I have no control over this
versus this is. This is a fitna for me. This is hard for me. But you know with hard work with perseverance with that and show us something that I can master over time.
Anyone else like share this beautiful reflection circle aka check dollar yacht? Something I know you're not sure? Yeah, just just it's a panel I was reading.
You know, last month Allah says, all mankind. It took a lot to party. Well, let's move to the you know, anti muslim, we hear this in the hot button Hajj and the opening sermon of a lot of Dumas's you know, fairly busy or have mindfulness of allies, you should be mindful of him to the degree and do not die except in a state of submission to him alone. And then you find some scholars in tafsir, they'll say that that verses abrogated with the verse of Allah spent Allah saying it took a lot demystified to share as much as you can. But then talking about Australia makes a nice trophy and he brings her both together.
He brings them both together and he says, What tuck wha he says it's both all apply both together because a tuck water cooler and sand medulin and a taco he says that every individual has the raw material and wiring if you will, but the fitrah to be there able to be mindful of Allah. Now the degree is that to the you know, to the level of as he should be feared, quote, unquote, but then he even mentions that we will never be able to get better luck, aka the we will never be able to fear a lot totally as he should be feared. But it's again that Sister najma mentioned you know, it's it's in a shaker mentioned in his advices. It's the effort
That counts, it's the effort of you, firstly, realizing that you do have the raw material and elements to do what's requested of you. And as Michelle, as she mentioned, you know, that it's a huge difference in saying that I can't, versus saying that I can, but I just need to try and, you know, make the effort show.
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I just want to add one real quick thing. And this is something that really impacted me when I heard several years ago, is the concept of your Suna acts. So something that is not obligatory, whether it's praying extra prayers before your your, your obligatory prayers, reading extra, just doing extra fasting, that the sooner acts of worship serve as a shield to your obligatory acts. And so the more you you engage in certain acts, the more you sort of go out of your way to strengthen your obligatory acts, it serves as a shield, and it strengthens that shield. So when you do lapse, those moments of weakness, what happens is that your shield is chipped away and not what's what the shield
is protecting. So if you know if at moments you feel that, you know, you've engaged in a certain act, you've been trying, and that, you know, sometimes you feel like you weren't able to make meet your goals, you weren't able to get exactly what you wanted, you kind of fell back, know that by doing extra by punching yourself during your moments of strength, that those that those acts of Santa, those extra acts will serve as that shield. So the first thing that would chip away in those moments of weakness are not the things that are obligatory, not the things that you're going to be held accountable in front of data, but things that you went out of your way to please the last panel
data, and that those will protect the things that that ultimately matter on the Day of Judgment. So building your shield is something that I like to think about when I'm engaging in snacks.
That's a panel love that, that idea that the cinema is a layer that guards your thought on the following there's a player that guards your email, you know, so if you if you fall and that's the Hadith of the prophets, like something that he could be shaken will equally show up in federal law, that that everything has a peak and then everything has a moment where it crashes or runs its course and he emphasized ly southern Canada that lesson nativa that whoever has their federal their low points in accordance with my son and they will be guided and if it's in accordance with anything else, then they will perish and many of them spoke about that in this way that if in your low point
you're not engaging in major sense and you are not omitting your photo then that's a good that's a healthy low point but you know what, in my low point I'm not gonna you know maybe I'll my center will suffer a bit but my thought it will stay intact and I might fall here or there like we all do inevitably with minor sins but I'm not gonna resort to major sins that's a healthy futsal
got to make sure that we emphasize both
collector of money for sure anything yes at the same year I mentioned this point about the shield and I think that self control is something we speak a lot about but one of the keys I think to think about his Try not to have to use yourself control as well. So after all, Milan, what are those things that you were struggling with? And try to remove them from your life? So should I believe you mentioned that eating healthier? Well don't have your pantry full of junk food so you don't have to exercise self control, get rid of it. If you're following people on social media, you shouldn't be following, unfollow them, so just do the best that you can so that you don't have to exercise those
self control muscles below.
So you just told people to unfollow me on social media. So
I said bad people.
lie about Akiko. So sister nuts. Well, we're gonna we're gonna go to the fifth tip inshallah Tada. And then we'll, we'll conclude with a discussion and talking a little bit more about our program next week totally bissman that. So I think my number one tip in terms of the post Ramadan blues, is to continue working on your relationship with Allah, and then speaking no nearness to him that's thinking good of him and being grateful to him. And I think as we kind of touched on, naturally after Ramadan, we do miss Ramadan, we have that.
That emotional low, it also may be like a social low, not being able to connect with other Muslim men on on such a high and wonderful thing. And it's really interesting. I was looking at research the other day and there is research that suggests that during Ramadan when people fast or that their serotonin levels go up, and they measured this on the 14 day and on the 29th day, and serotonin is usually associated with those good vibes with us feeling good associate a lot of things but it's feeling good. So I wonder even after Ramadan, so if that's something that dip is not just set in
feeling of letting go and move on, but also with a physiological dip as well allow them. But anyway, so how do we continue to connect with a law? It's for me, it's just that that reminder that know that even with Ramadan passing that Allah is always there, right? That doesn't matter the time of year, although we feel a lot of us feel closer to him during Ramadan, that he is readily available all the time. He's there in the last third of the night just waiting for us of when to answer our
heat mesh, especially when whenever we reach out to Him, He always comes back to us with more. So we're some during Ramadan, there's that heightened sense of like, I can connect to a law more. But just that mindset is that that, that we shouldn't have that black and white thinking that it's not all or nothing that I can continue to go to a lot, it might not be in the capacity that you were able to do in Ramadan. But working on that attachment and that love to him. I think when we think about attachment in the field of psychology, it's natural to look at attachment with parents or children or you know, our spouses. But when we look at attachment with a lot, how much how many of
us are secure in our attachment with him, that we love him and we want to be around him whether we're in Ramadan or not, or in the good times or not. And so what are just practical ways that we can feel closer to him is remembering that he's close to us all the time, he's always there ready to hear our data and to forgive us persons and accept our good deeds. And
another thing is also thinking well have a lot to, you know, a lot of us we tried our best to, you know, do all these good deeds. And we asked for forgiveness. And I think when you think highly of someone, whether it's a loan, or just someone else, you are more likely to want to do good, because you are expecting good of them. Right? If I go to someone, and every time I go, I feel rejected, I'm not going to want to do those deeds. But thinking of a lot makes me want to are thinking highly of a law, we don't know with any certainty that our good deeds are going to be accepted. But thinking highly of him will increase my motivation to want to do those good deeds, not just because I'm going
to get the pleasure, but because I want that closeness, I want that that love from him.
And then also practicing gratefulness to
you know, it's gratefulness is kind of two parts, when we are grateful to someone,
then we are reminding ourselves of those blessings that someone gave us. So it's a good reminder to us, but naturally, the other person reciprocates, when we do, when we are appreciative, the other person gives us more and we know that Allah is surpasses any human capacity that he gives us way more than we are able to give to him. If we go by a handstand, he comes by an arm's length. And so keeping that in mind that that having that appreciation is a way of feeling closer and and building that secure attachment with a law. So all of these things are, you know, things we can continue outside of Ramadan. Now, we can't necessarily do to hash it every day, or we're not meant to fast
every day. But, you know, reflecting on like, what are one or two things that I did during Ramadan that made me feel closer to Allah that maybe gave me the warm and fuzzies or just, you know, opened my, my heart to Him, and then working on those things. And it like, I think someone had mentioned that it varies from person to person. So for you, if it was reading Quran for five minutes after fedrick that made you feel closer to a lot and, you know, work on that, if it was volunteering at the mesh that made me feel much closer to him than continuing to do that. It's those small consistent deeds over time that are so, so impactful. And then if you feel like it's a constant
struggle that you are carrying baggage, in terms of your relationship with a lot because a lot of stays the same and it's not that he ever goes with us, right, it's we create those barriers, in terms of how we
approach him and and beseech him. So if you do feel like there is baggage, we do have that trauma series from a while back that really looks at the cognitions that we have, and how our past experiences affect some of the ways that we interact with the world and more importantly how we look at a law and our relationship with a law and our attachment to him. So if you feel like you are carrying that baggage that you know something has shifted inside of me or for whatever reason that I feel like I can't connect to a lot. That's a great series to go back and explore and see what are some of those could cognitions that are contributing to that
but may allow you know facilitate us being close to him during Ramadan and outside of Ramadan as well.
Coffee king that really is such a valuable series, the trauma series, both what's written and what's recorded. So I know that a lot of people have not had a chance, especially some of our newer subscribers to YouTube have not had a chance to scroll down the playlist. But do go down and see that playlist and check it out on our website as well the full trauma series Mashallah, as pilots one reflection I have which, which I actually noted this in a comparative religion class back in back in college.
What's very unique about our religion in terms of its seasons, the most blessed season being the season of Ramadan is there is not a single ibadah that is specific to Milan.
Fasting is something we can do outside of Ramadan. So we have just another name for a PM, we live in Ramadan, this PM, the word comes later, but often on recitation of charity, volunteerism, the kids, the types of things that we do, the types of remembrance that we do, literally every single, everybody that we do in Ramadan is still accessible to us outside of Ramadan. And I think there's something beautifully profound, I mean, that's profoundly beautiful about that, that it's just, we are so
connected to Allah subhanho wa Taala, that even in the seasons that Allah gives us, we simply are using the mechanisms of connection that exist throughout the year. And we are using them to the fullest capacity that we can push ourselves but they're all there and it's it's a it's beautiful. Think about piano lessons. How are you never know, you know, one of my Messiah, he said it. Obviously the meaning of it was different from the literal the apparent meaning he said that you never know when you're laying the other is and you know, similar to when the prophets lie sunset so that young boys are set to that man who asked Mehta Sarah, what is the day of judgment, and he said,
that if that young boy lives to see old age, you would have already seen your salary, you would have already seen your hours. So he was speaking about it in that vein, or in that in that in that space that that look, it's not you never know which night is going to be the night that you really turn to alone, you have a moment where he is always responsive to you and you are saying his stuff, but a lot in your brought to tears. And you say yeah, I want to change my life, that can be in the middle of any month, right? It can be at any any night of the year. And that's the beauty of this Dean is that gives us constant access to Eliza in all of these moments.
The thing I think about the joy that you brought up, though, so beautiful is that this Allah subhanaw taala is the ultimate attachment figure. I mean, in this life, you know, we find attachments with our parents, sometimes with our spouses, sometimes with our children, we attach to different human beings, but all of those human beings will come and go, but Allah Subhanallah he will remain. And this idea of that from attachment like that Allah that from that idea in psychology, a safe haven that no matter what happens, you can always go back to that source of attachment. So that fulfill through a loss or run back to Allah. Anytime we feel discomfort,
anxiety, stress, confusion, that we can go back to Allah, he's always willing to with with open arms, except us will have on
how do I will a bother, right? Like that is the most important element of everybody. And it's also the most flexible and raw. Just call upon Eliza to keep that your outline open, obviously, as well, in that in that running back to Eliza Cheb, dollar seven test name, would you like to share anything?
Ladies first no way I could do that I used to think?
Um, no, I, I think that you guys really discussed and summed it up very well, but just this concept of
really not doubting the power of even just small actions. And that's honestly, that had it like, if there's any heads in the world that I live by, it's that it's just so incredibly powerful. And people always ask me, you know, how do you do multiple things at once and like, you just, it's not that much, you just do something and you do it consistently. And the power of that is so incredibly enormous that, you know, I look back and think to myself, well, how did I manage so many things. And, you know, if you didn't, you didn't have you know, the 5000 sentence said, This always just blows my mind that. I mean, he really, like cater to every facet of our lives. And the advice that
he provides us is something that is cuts across, you know, this worldly life, spiritual life, whatever it is, it's just, it's just so holistic and universal. And these reminders, just remind me of that in terms of when you talk about goal setting talks about motivation, inspiration, commitment, scheduling, all this stuff. It's just it's inherent in our religion. And really, if that doesn't convince you of like, how incredible Sam is, I'm not really sure what can it's just everything is so
Set, laws, principles, everything are there just to make your life easier, make your life greater and better. And so that's just a reminder that really connects everything to me together. And it pushes me to keep going forward.
I knew you would do it.
I knew you would do it honestly motivate me that this comes up, come up, come up with something. I knew it. No, but
just don't be, you know, when she was talking about, you know, the little deeds and how you look back. And you say, you know, well, I did all of that. And but while you're doing it, it's something that you enjoy. It's just the process, right?
You know, and that's one thing that I always remind myself and you know, is Don't, don't be little abeka. cuz sometimes what'll happen is, you get caught up, like we were mentioning, all of these means are mechanisms that allow users to incorporate the better care because the little that you do and that's what better kids who have kids here, I mean, I'm in college, I mean, Shane, clean it a lot from a little, the little that you do a lot will, he has the total authority to multiply it. And he mentioned that in many, many Hadith is mentioned, praying salata, jamara, praying, you know, by yourself, you know, reading the Quran, every letter that you read, it's totally up to a loss of kind
of a doll. And so, just remember that all of what we're mentioning, are means to an ultimate goal and that goal is Tuckwell velocity kind of went down, it's that mindfulness that pushes you to keep doing those actions. But know that Salah is a means reading the Quran is it means all of these are means to reach that, that that unseen, unseen connection and that's what we term as spiritual, right? And that is something that we'll never be able to, to to quantify. Winter due to lilacs are so high, we'll never be able to quantify that those blessings that Allah has given us. And that's why we should always remember when we do an action, you know, Allah gives us much more than we
actually deserve. And that's just what the concept of Baraka is, let's not belittle that in the little that we do, as she mentioned, Mashallah, last month that will give you much more, you know, than you can imagine. And that's something that is a beautiful, beautiful thing.
I love I love the definition of Baraka and these
are Don't be little any of your good deeds. You belittle your good deeds, because you're only seeing the exterior of them. But what Allah is making of those good deeds, if there's done sincerely is beyond our capacity and comprehension.
Hello, FICO. So, before I'm going to ask him to share one more thing with us in Sharla from the expanded learning site about some of the things are going to be available in Charlotte high with this next coming month, but I've got the whole schedule in front of me and shuttler on social geo and shot loksatta. Here posted as well. So starting this Monday in Chatelet Santa, Dr. f mom started testing myself we'll be doing Quranic parables, we'll be going through some of the unsolved and on Tuesdays, we'll have puranic miracles and Sharla doesn't put on with Chef Mohammed is shonali sexy man honey, who by the way, we want to congratulate him on how he just finished his master's from
Harvard. Mashallah, after he already had his master's from Germany over the Nia already, may Allah bless him and increase him and all that is good. Wednesdays and Chatelet time will have automatic reflection so and 3430 running it back and Celestia hubzilla, myself and a third guest every Wednesday inshallah we'll just be reflecting on a portion of the plan. We'll be joined by one week Dr. Todd Wyatt, Dr. Tamra gray wolf capital hfts are funny. Thursdays we'll have four Anik themes hosted by yaqeen Canada and Charlottetown with Chef Brian Hindi Dr. Nasir Han Shan unload and others in Charlottetown so expect because it's up in Canada expect a lot of apologizing but also some
beautiful insights and sell that data from our brothers and sisters in Canada and on Fridays inshallah finally we will have verses on Anna Keeling.
So one week we'll have with our sister network inshallah. One week sister sada so fun one week, Dr. Vanya Awad and then one week doctors O'Hara manage Allah to Allah either. So really looking forward to our month long programming and so lots of keeping connected with the plan and keeping that nightly community so this is gonna be every weeknight at 8pm Eastern inshallah, but we have much more inshallah to add it from the expanded learning side and curriculum. So start with just name if you could just talk about what people can expect from their insurance.
Yeah, handler the team is working on a lot of cool different projects. So inshallah in the coming weeks we will be releasing a conversation deck on the on so just a conversation starter, different questions, get you thinking about how to really build a relationship with God and appreciate the miraculous nature of God and to really think about how you know how the Quran was, as it was revealed to the Prophet peace be upon him as it was revealed to
Arabs at the time and sort of just the, what it did, how it changed people and how it changed hearts and how we can relate to that inshallah. So that'll be really exciting an opportunity to get you know, go get together with friends six feet apart, and really talk about that and reflect on hopefully also snippets from what I'm for that 3430 as well, to get you thinking more about how you can build that relationship with the Quran inshallah. Our curriculum team also has just started how the law we had a long Call Today we're building a high school curriculum kit on the edges of the Quran. So the miraculous nature of the Quran, talking about its authenticity, how we know what how
we can prove it and how, how really it's just an incredible miracle the biggest miracle from the pulse of salon and how we can create activities around that to really relay that to high school audience which will eventually inshallah be transformed into a classroom lesson which will be available online taught by one of our own instructors. We also will have you know, discussion kit based on these papers. So you know, college students young adults want to come together read these papers on and really engage in deeper discussion and reflection questions to get into the meat of the content inshallah. So plenty of different activities different discussions of different
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mafate on to all of all of our panelists today for joining us. Again, really appreciate it and benefited from all of your insights and your tips. And inshallah Tada. We're going to be seeing all of you throughout the month, it's all the time of keeping connected with the subject of failure to all of you to panic 100 shadow olanta stockbroker to break, so don't worry for him to where he would Academy