Struggling with Fear and Sadness

Nouman Ali Khan


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AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the importance of fear and sadness in human experiences, including exams, immigration, and family. They also touch upon the sadness of the past and how it is not a sign of sadness. A woman with sadness experienced a sad experience while trying to move her baby into a river. The speaker explains that Islam will help overcome these feelings and allow her to live with them, and the speaker describes a woman who had to do something so incredibly sad and felt lost.
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So the idea that human beings are created, and we're placed in a situation where they're going to struggle, they're going to have to deal with very difficult circumstances, very difficult situations and even people they're going to have to deal with that is part of life. And that has nothing to do with you. If you had more Iman, you wouldn't have these problems. It doesn't work that way. As a matter of fact, the higher your iman, you know, people assume the higher Iman the problems are going to go away know, the higher your iman something else. And that's something else is what I hope to explain to you today. To put it as a, an image, Allah created us and He put us inside of a storm.

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Okay, like imagine a storm in the ocean, you're in a storm, and the waves are turbulent, and you've got your little boat, etc. And you're constantly worried about sinking. And you're worried about those who are thinking next to you. But Allah azza wa jal what what is the faith do it gives you the strength, and it gives you the ability to go through the storm to navigate the storm. It doesn't mean you don't get wet, it doesn't mean sometimes the boat almost doesn't tip over. But you now have the ability to go through it and survive the storm. You see, that's the purpose of our faith is not to get rid of the problem, but to actually strengthen us so we can go through the problem. The one

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of the most powerful examples of that, actually, before I get into that example, because really, at the heart of all of this hotbar today is one phrase from one ayah from Surah facilite. And I'll get to that at the end. But for now, I want to give you an example the two of the hardest burdens that human beings live with our fear and sadness, fear and grief. Those are the two heaviest burdens that human beings live with in this life. As a matter of fact, when Allah sent Adam alayhis, Salam to the earth, He told him that when he gives his guidance from Entebbe, Allahu Daya, falafel, Allah him, welcome, you know, whoever follows My guidance, they're going to be able to combat fear and sadness,

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essentially. In other words, Allah knew that in the story of humanity from our family salaam, to the last human being that's going to walk on this earth, every one of them is going to have to struggle with fear. And they're going to have to struggle with sadness. Now, what are these two things? Fear is about what's going to happen in the future. fears about am I going to lose my job? is what's going to happen to mom? What's gonna happen to my family? What's good? What are they going to say? What's going to happen tomorrow, what's gonna happen with my exam, what's going to happen with my immigration, what's gonna happen with this, and what's going to happen with that these fears about

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what's going to happen in the next few hours, or in the next few days, or in the year from now or in the future. These fears are small and big, and they're all the time they they're a part of us, you're you wake up afraid, you're afraid you're going to be late to work. You know, you're afraid that you're you know, you forgot about some tasks that you have to do, or the time's running out small fears, big fears. But fear is a constant part of life, it's always there. And what you're afraid of, let's say a student is afraid of failing an exam. Up until the moment of the exam, there's fear, fear, the heart is pounding, and they take the exam, and then unfortunately, they get

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the result that they failed. And when they fail, there's no more fear. There is no sadness. I mean, there's fear of what your dad is going to do to you. But there's sadness, mostly, right now their sadness about what happened already. So fear is about the future. And sadness is about the past what already took place in the past. And just because it's in the past, you don't get to tell someone well, it's in the past, get over it. It's done. Now. You can move you should move on with your life. No, you and I are not in any position to tell anyone that they are no longer they no longer have the right to feel sad anymore. Our messenger sallallahu alayhi salam continue to feel the sadness of the

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absence of Khadija or the Allahu Taala on her for years. For years, feeling sad is not a sign that you don't have enough faith. That's a mean he has the greatest faith of all and yet he carries sadness Yahuwah he Salam lost his son, Yusuf Ali Salam. And he carries a great amount of sadness. So much so that he cries so much, it'd be about it now. His eyes turned white, his eyes turned white out of sadness. But that's part of that doesn't mean he doesn't have faith in Allah. He doesn't have actually have that. And as a matter of fact, he would only cry of his fear and cry of his grief and his sadness to Allah and nwachukwu Bathsheba who's Nina Allah. I've given a lot to you about that

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before. But today I want to talk to you about an extreme case of fear and sadness first. And that's the mother of Mousavi Salaam. I can't think of a more extreme case of a woman who had to do something so incredibly unthinkable. She knows that any minute from now soldiers are going to break her door and they're going to kill her baby in front of her own eyes. For a mother to imagine the murder of her own newborn baby, unthinkable and the only

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The idea she had that Allah put in her is you need to put your child in a basket and put that basket Alki feel young throw it into the river, it's not even nicely, gently put it into the river in QA is to throw. Now when you throw something in a river, the river is moving water. When you throw something in a in a river, it can flip. It's also the case that a basket may not necessarily float, it may get water inside, it may hit a rock, there are animals inside the water. There are all kinds of things. As a matter of fact, I often when I used to teach the story a long time ago, I used to give the example when you see a child go even two feet near a swimming pool.

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Not even the deep end, the shallow end, a mother will go crazy. She'll drop everything and push people out of the way and grab her baby.

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There are women that give their their their baby's bath, you know, in the tub. And they put the water this little and the baby's like, come on. No, no, no, too dangerous. This much is too you'll drown. I can't even fit my head. No, no, no, not gonna let you there is a fear. And this mother has to take her newborn. He can't even crawl yet. He can't even do that yet. And she has to throw this thing into the water. Can you imagine the kind of fear this woman has in her heart when she does that. And when she does that she can't even look at it and can't even cry and scream my baby my baby. She can't do that. Because if she does that the soldiers will No one survived. And they'll go

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after him and kill him. So she has to not even be even if she looks she has to look from the side. And then this water is not standing still it's moving. So this basket is slipping away from her sight. To the point where she doesn't even know what happened to it. She has no idea what's happened to it. And now she's living with this incredible overwhelming sadness. What have I just done? What's gonna happen to my baby? You know? And in those moments, Allah azza wa jal told her latter half you will a destiny.

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Don't be afraid, don't feel sadness. And even though she still felt afraid, and she still felt sadness, what we're learning in these ayat is Allah will help you overcome, not being drowned by fear. And now being drowned by sadness. He can let you navigate those two feelings. Those two feelings are very powerful. They're enough to drive someone mad. They're enough to drive someone to the point where they don't want to live anymore. It can be that powerful. And yet Allah can give you the strength to overcome what you and I don't have the strength to overcome. This mother like no other mother could stand doing that and survive. So Allah says what else behalf who I do owe me more

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that Musa Farrakhan Musa as mother's heart was you can think of the imagery as it was bleeding out. It was emptying out. It's like her heart was exploding. In a guy that led to the DVD. She was on the verge of just lead screaming out, that's my baby. I want my baby back. She was on the very verge of it. She couldn't hold it in. Lola robata, Allah Kalba had we not tied her heart up. Like literally, something's about to shatter and leak. And Allah says he, like a rope, tied it up and held it in place. What are we learning, we're actually learning that you and I are not capable of controlling our emotions, until Allah gives us the strength to do so.

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The situation didn't change. The baby didn't start flying instead of floating in the water. The reality didn't change, but her heart changed. Her heart was strengthened by divine intervention from Allah Himself, Lola Rabbana, Allah cobia and she's not a prophet. What we're learning in these ayat is that Allah will give you and me a strength to our hearts that will be will be able to overcome the most powerful fear and the most powerful sadness, the deepest, deepest kind of sadness. He'll make us strong enough, not that those things will go away, but you will be strong enough to go through it. You won't collapse your heart won't fall apart. And he says all of this leader who

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nominal meaning so she may be from those who truly believe she could truly hold on to faith. She won't she won't ever accept that my baby drowned. She won't accept that she will hold on to her faith, she will hold on to hope as a matter of fact, and this idea for her to be a believer actually is the same as for her to be hopeful.