Ramadan Gems 2019 – Night 13 – Al-Lateef, Al-Khabeer
Channel: Nouman Ali Khan
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Instilling love for Allah in our children.
Allah is al-Lateef , The Gentle – The subtly kind. Allah is always present but we do not always notice. Allah is always doing something for us e.g providing us with the air that we breathe
Allah is al-Khabeer, The All-aware, well experienced. Allah has direct knowledge of us.
hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala ZV mursaleen while the early he was Sufi minister Nebuchadnezzar he elomi Deen Allahumma dynamin home. wamena Latina Amina Mohammed Ali heard whatever so be happy, whatever so be sub mineable holla mean, my bad for Allah Billahi min ash shaytani r Rajim Allahu la de familia de Yasuko mania Sha, Allah Z's arbitrary Sabri. We are silly Emily looook determine rissani of Kali I mean terrible Halloween. I want to share with you today inshallah, some things about a name of allah actually names of two names of Allah that are paired together, that he mentioned often and before I do, I want to highlight that a lot rarely mentions
lessons that are specific for children to learn, meaning things that Muslim kids should know from the very early age that will help shape their personality. You know, there are lots of things we learned about a lot as religion, we learned that Allah azza wa jal has many names and many attributes. And Allah does many, many things. But of those certain things, even a child needs to know about Allah, and some things a child it's too early for a child to know, at a certain age. I'll give you an example of what is too early for a child to know. You see, in the Quran, Allah azza wa jal describes that he destroyed I mentioned this in yesterday's session, he destroyed the nation of
new he destroyed the nation of loot, he destroyed the nation. He destroyed the nation of shrine. All of these are mentioned in the Quran, that Allah azzawajal is as he is one he don't take on, that he can punish that he is, you know, the COVID helmet in his mighty and he takes here Avengers His messengers, and he punishes those who do wrong and this is something that allows no agenda is made clear and no Quran. Now, for children, sometimes we say maybe we should teach our children's stories of the prophets. Right? But there's a small issue with that. If the first thing a child learns about Allah azza wa jal is that Allah flooded this nation, and he gave this nation an earthquake, and this
nation got destroyed by the fire from the sky, and this nation got wind and these people died. in their mind. They associate profits, and they associate alized religion with destruction and punishment. A child is not smart enough to understand the difference. So child is going to hear the story of Noah and he's gonna say Oh, Which one is that? Is that the flood? One? Always want to say is that the earthquake one or which? How did I kill those ones? So in their mind, whether we like we think we're doing something good we're teaching them stories of the prophets are Lima salatu salam, where they're learning about the messengers. They're learning about Allah. That's a good thing. But
here's the challenge. There's age appropriateness. There's an age appropriateness, you see, think about it from this point of view. Allah azza wa jal revealed the stories of these prophets in Makkah, most of them. When the Prophet was were in Makkah, some aloha lives in them. And in Makkah, he was dealing with koresh and the Quraysh were acting like fit our own. And the Quraysh were acting like the people of Noah, and the Qureshi were acting like the people of Saudi and the people of Sri so Allah gave them these stories to tell them you are behaving like these people. You know, for Inca bukata libero Solomon public, you know, if they're if they're calling you a liar, other messengers
were called liars before you and here are their stories. So the point of giving those stories was you are heading down the same path of destruction as these other nations don't go down that road. Our children are definitely not like to crash. They're not heading down the path of destruction. So they don't need the warning and the threat at that early age. As a matter of fact, children are creatures of gender. And a creature of gender doesn't need to be given the fear of a lie. They need to be given the love of Allah and appreciation of Allah, gratitude to Allah awareness of Allah, but not the fear of a lion. What we do with our children, so many times when we introduce them to Allah,
is the first thing we teach them is how to fear Allah. And that's unfair to a child. You know, Allah decides how long somebody's life is, when you go to the graveyard. Sometimes you Find a Grave it says, not, you know, born this year, this year, right? So born 993, to 1957, or 1986, to 2013, or whatever else and sometimes you find born 2018 died 2019 sometimes you see born in 2010, died 2019, eight years old, six years old, five years old. Those children when they die, they are no good. There's no questioning for them. These are creatures of heaven. They had no reason to fear Allah because Allah made them on the fitrah and they were not questionable yet they hadn't reached the age
where a level questioned them for their behavior yet, so if Allah won't even scare them yet, why are we scaring them? You understand? So and if we do that early on, then they get a distorted picture of who Allah is though is that is that a lie is a Punisher and sometimes parents do very destructive things. Sometimes parents say things like don't eat those cookies. Allow will be very angry.
I can guarantee you Allah will not be angry, you will be angry and when judgment day comes
Love will not ask that child, why did you eat those cookies? It made me that's not going to happen. But you know what, that's it, that's commonly parents do this very easily a lot will be very upset, be fear, be afraid of Allah, you know, it's okay to say I will be upset. You don't have to drag a light into it. And we don't control the less anger. We're not in charge of deciding who Ally's angry with. And who Ally's merciful with. We shouldn't be doing that in any conversation anyway, not with anyone, especially not with our children. But one of the names that the name that I wanted to talk to you about today, that a lot as we just mentioned, especially when Luqman was teaching his young
son, a boy, he was teaching him about Allah. So this is a passage in the Quran, where a man is teaching his young son, about about Allah. And he says that, you know, Allah had given lokman wisdom, the man was given wisdom to teach to learn for himself, and he used that wisdom to teach a child and by the way, part of wisdom is learning what to say, and when to say it. A wise person will say, Well, first, who am I talking to? What is the occasion? Is this the right thing to say at this time? Maybe this can wait a little bit later on, you understand? So the fact that the law says he spoke to his young child, yada yada to Shrek Villa, when he told his young child things about Allah,
part of that was the names of Allah in the Lucha Latif and Javier Allah is the thief and Ally's hubby. These two names come into Quran together multiple times. The word Latif is two things. The word Latif means something very delicate, something almost invisible, you don't even know that it's there. But it's always there. Like the air in this room right now is an Arabic example of what is the leaf, we don't think about it, it's there. It's playing a role. All of our lungs need it. It's the it's present. And it's due, it's playing a role. But we don't think about it, it's not consciously something we're aware of, you see, so that would be the thief, the rays of light that
you're able to see me with the photons that are invisible. They're here in this room, making vision available, accessible, but they're actually Latif. They're subtle, they're very, they're barely noticeable, and we don't even think about it that their presence is there, and they're doing something you understand. The blood flowing in my veins currently is also the thief. Allah describes himself as the thief. What that means is a lie is always present. Allies always doing something for you and me, but we pretty much never notice. We never notice, Allah is doing something for the one who forgets about him, his heart is also beating because the lies of a thief with him. They don't
realize it, the one who is disobeying the law, the one who is betraying the law, the one who is angering Allah, all of them, yet Allah is still taking care of them, their lungs still expand and contract with every breath, because Allah is the thief with them. And the other meaning of the thief has kind, the other meaning is kind. So there's two things Allah is doing something in a very subtle, very delicate, very unnoticeable way. And at the same time, whatever he's doing is driven by kindness, by gentleness. So he's being gentle with us, and he's being kind with us. But there's the other side of the thief to the other side of Latif is, if something is happening, you know, if a bad
something bad happens in your life, even almost immediately, any human being says, Where was the law when that happened? Why didn't Allah help me? Why did I have to go through this? Why did my child have to get sick? Why did this happen? Why did this happen? Why did this happen? Why am I Why do I have to have this diagnosis? or Why did I have to lose my job. And so in those moments, we feel like Allah wasn't there. And unless I was still there, and I was still a thief. He's always the thief, he's always watching. He's always present and actually actively helping actively doing something for you. But he as the name hubiera, they come together and look around multiple times. Latif one hobby,
what that means is we have to look at these two names together. Kabir in Arabic means someone who knows what you're doing from experience. You know, it's one thing that somebody you know, I, you know, someone you've met with them, you've talked to them, you've done business with them, you have experience with them. And when you say I know this person, then you say I am hubiera of him, because you have experience with them direct experience. But if you heard about somebody, you read about somebody, you watch somebody from a distance you could be I mean, you know about them, but you're not happy, you're not happy because you don't have direct experience. A lot. So just describes
himself as the thief. And at the same time, hobbies, meaning he's subtle, and he's kind and he has direct experience of you and with you. He has direct knowledge of you his immediate knowledge of you. Now, let me put that in human terms. And before I do, I'll take two minutes to explain a very important concept allows names like Latif like hubie like Eileen likes me. These names can also be used for human beings. A person who listens very well can also be called semia. A person who is gentle can also be called what leave a person who's experienced can also be called hubby. As a matter of
effect last name, Rahim. Rahim is in the Quran also used for the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam bill meaning for him. So these names of Allah, the word, the word is sometimes also used for human beings. But there has to be a difference, doesn't it? So what is the difference between when the same word is being used for Allah, and the same word is being used for a human being, and then we'll come back to Latif Colombia quickly. Remember three differences. The first difference is, let's just take one example, the one who sees bossy the one bossy means the one who sees and jacoba is Salam. When his vision came back, yet people see law he can see again, the same
word is used for yakugaku salaam, and the same word is used for Allah xojo. Yeah, so but what's the difference? When Allah is seeing his seeing has no beginning and no end? There was a there was no point ever where he was not received, and there will be never a point where he will not be able to see, but any human being, they were not always perceived, they were not always seeing, there had to be a time where it started. And there will be a time where it will come to an end, ours has a beginning and an end, a loss has no beginning and no end. That's the first difference. The second difference is ours has a limit. If I can see, I cannot see on the other side of this wall. If I can
see you I can't see inside your heart, I can't see inside your thoughts. I can't see the past and I can't see the future. My vision has limits allows vision has no limits. That's the second difference. So even if the same word is being used, if you're aware of these differences, you'll be clear that we are not talking about the same thing. The third difference. So the first one was no beginning no end. The second one is no limits, no limits. And the third difference is my ability to see, my power to see is not actually mine, it was given to me. It's not it doesn't belong to me. But a lot of seeing was not given to him it is his to begin with. So because it is not mine, it can be
taken away. But a loss will never be taken away because it originally belongs to him. Now, even though there are these three differences, Allah chose in his wisdom to use the same word didn't. He didn't use a different word for him. And a different word for us. Why? Because first he wants us to understand how we use these words for human beings. How we use these words for human beings. And then when we think about how we use these words for human beings, then we compare them to infinitely more powerfully how we are supposed to use them for a Lara's origin so we can appreciate how far above Allah is from his creation. So let's think about Latif and Habib for a moment when we use it
for ourselves, for when we use it for ourselves. You see, for example, I'll give the example of my child if my child is misbehaving in front of me.
That's not a time for me to believe.
I'm not going to be subtle, and my guidance is going to be invisible and I won't even let him see that I'm upset. And because I saw it in front of my own eyes, it's happening in front of me. He's breaking the plate on the table in front of me. I'm Habib, I have experienced so what he's doing right now, the moment I am happy, I will act right away, don't do that. And when I stopped him, I'm not being a thief anymore, am I the thief means that I'm acting in a very invisible way, in a very subtle, unnoticed kind of way. Human beings, when they experience something they want to get involved directly and human beings when they are have or become aware of something. They expect
someone to get involved immediately. Like when there's an emergency, you want to call the police. You want action right away. But Allah says he's happy. But even though he's happy he's while he's Latif. And that makes a person confused. Something's happening. Why isn't Allah stopping it? Something's happening. Why is it intervening? Because allies and just hubiera? See, if Allah knows, he knows everything that's happening, he knows these people are doing bad things, why doesn't he just stop them? What isn't? Just get rid of the problem? Because he is a thief? then the question becomes, what why in the world? Is he the thief? What is some of them? I thought about the word, the
thief, and what is the law telling us when he is the thief, that he is gentle, and he's subtle, and he's delicate? What is he actually telling us? There extrapolation from the Quran is as follows. In the same in simple words, Allah will make you go through some very difficult experiences.
And you will not be able to see what good can possibly come from it. You will not be seeing what God's good comes from it. But Allah is fully aware that whatever experiences you're going through is actually good for you. That's still an act of kindness. Your sickness is still an act of kindness, your terrible experience is still an act of kindness. If somebody humiliated you, that's still an act of kindness. If you were betrayed, that's still an act of kindness, not from them, but still from Allah. There's something good in it for you. There's something good in it for you that you cannot understand. There's something happening behind
This means that we don't we don't know. You know, it's simple to understand nowadays, because we have technology, you have all these apps on your phone and everything else. And the apps have a very simple graphic design, you just tap a button and you go wherever you need to go. But behind the app, there's a source code isn't it. And that source code is developed by programmers and those, when you read that, you can understand it, that's complicated code. The same way This world is the outside the skin of the F, it's the outwardly. But behind that is an elaborate code from Allah is an elaborate formula, which we are not able to understand. All I saying is, trust me, I'm there, and
I'm still kind and I'm still gentle with you. Musa Yusuf alayhi salam, after many years when he was reunited with his family, when he was really finally reunited with his family, you know what he told his family, my brothers, which had gone God, between me and my brothers in all of this happened, he said, in our ability, if only Maya, my master has always been very subtle and very delicate with whatever he wants them. This is the last thing I'll share with you to help you get this point across, and then tell you what aligns with that. Why, how is he Latif with us? Yusuf Ali Salaam says Allah has always been kind and always been basically invisible a Hidden Hand. You know how to bite
the Christian say God works in mysterious ways. Right? That's basically the equivalent in the Quran of the word Latif, the mysterious ways in which Allah is always present in our lives. That's what you saw today. Sam says, Why? Because otherwise, how can you understand that child got kidnapped? Why would God do that? Why would a child be taken away and thrown in the middle of the woods in a ditch? Why would a child be sold into slavery? In a marketplace like a goat? Why would a child be taken away from his loving father? What did he ever do wrong? And he's now working as a servant in some crazy lady's house. Why would a young innocent man get in accused even though he didn't do
anything wrong, and get thrown in jail even after he was proven innocent? Even then he goes into jail? What is his fault in all of this? Where's God and all of this? Why is he living so many lives surrounded by criminals inside a dungeon in a prison? So many catastrophes, one after the other after the other, if anyone has a lifelike use of they would say, I don't know if I believe in God, because if he was there, I don't know if I would have gone through all this.
And he says at the end of all of those experiences, Allah has been very subtle and delicate. I couldn't, if you if I didn't have faith in a lot, I will think he's not there. It's almost invisible, his act, his role in my life, every one of those experiences was necessary. Every one of them was necessary. Think about it, even to this day, the greatest wealth you and I can have the greatest wealth you can I can have before Allah is good deeds. To this day, we learn from the disasters of use of holidays, alarms, life, and every time somebody learns from them, and changes something in their life who gets the reward. He does and his family does. And when he came out of
the prison and interpreted the dream, 1000s upon 1000s of children were saved from starving to death. If he never went to jail, he would have never interpreted a dream. None of that would have happened. One family lost a child for several years. Yes, it was a tragedy. But so many children were not separated from their parents by death, because of use of being in jail. Because of the allez Latif, Allah has a plan. And because of Allah, He recognized the last plan in the law. Hi, Latif, only Maya Shah. So but that's for the somebody who could say yes, Allah is Latif for profits. That's That's nice, but they were prophets that's why Let's leave with though. What's he going to do
for me? How is he looking for me? I'm not even that good of a person. I need to let him be the thief too. So do I get that and allows origin says well, law hula t from the Rebbe de Allah is the thief with all of his servants. Allies Latif with all of his servants. And then he says, Listen to this carefully yo Zuko, Manisha Yasuko, Manisha he provides whoever he wants, he provides whoever he wants, and this is important. Sometimes he will hold this from you something you want in life, he won't let you have it. And that's the him holding it back. And you being deprived is also risk. That's also risk. And when he gives you that's also risk, when you get what you want, that's also
this, when you don't get what you want. That's also risk. That's from Allah to and when you get what you want, you can feel the presence of Allah, when you don't get what you want. You need to understand that a lie is being What? Nothing. That's the difference you see, when you get a proportion alized logic
when a child gets a present at eight Eliza logic, you know, when you have food in front of you Alhamdulillah You know, this is this is the the one who provided us this has given us the risk, you know, but when you don't have food in front of you, when you don't have the opportunity when there's deprivation when there's starvation
When there's no loss, then you don't see allies LASIK what you was still see a lot as Latif would have been, he knows exactly what you're going through, and he is there anyway. The last thing about this, you know, when someone takes care of you, someone says to you, like your wife says to you, I will always take care of you. I will always be right next to you. That sounds great on the first day you got married. But if she was always right next to you all the time, or the husband was always right next to the wife 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and he's What are you doing? What are you going? What are you sitting? I'm going to sit next to you. What are you doing? What are you talking
to? Can I switch it? How are we talking to those eautiful? Let me let me look, let me look, let me look. When somebody is with you all the time. Remember, I told you, I'll always be with you.
I'm just keeping my promise. When that overtime, what happens to you?
Can I get some space? I just wanna I just want to claim, you know, play some football, or I just want to talk to my friends for a little bit. Can I be in the car? No, no, I just want to do this by myself. But I thought you always want me to be there all the time. You know what Allah made human beings in a way that we can't be in the presence of the one we love all the time? That's just how he made us. We can't do it. We are in a loss conscious presence when we're in the machine, yes or no? Yes. But when you're at a party, either star or star in Ramadan, and you're enjoying a meal with some friends, and you're thinking about the chicken that's about to be, you know, you're about to be
unleashed on the chicken. You're maybe at that time, maybe maybe some people are doing the other people are doing the other motive come sooner, like you know, but at that time, you may not be in the close spiritual presence of allies in it. But that's not a crime. Allah is not imposing himself on you in every situation is he? You know, there are times where you're not thinking about Allah, you're thinking about getting something for your mother or you're thinking about school or you're thinking about your kids or you're thinking about work and you're and so Allah takes a step back from you. As if he's not imposing don't do this right now. Okay, you have to do work right? Then you
have a business meeting right now. You have an exam right now. But so what does Allah do? A love becomes the thief in your life. Allah becomes the thief, he becomes invisible, subtle, he's still there. He's still taking care of you. And he doesn't impose himself he doesn't become a hoarder on you all the time. You know, dominant Are you all the time? Why aren't you doing Vicar right now, and some people think that Allah wants that from them. Allah wants them to remember him all the time. In every circumstance, that is not the case. Because Allah has mercy on his slaves is that he's the thief. So that he can live their life, they can appreciate good things. And they can remember that a
lot, even when they of course at the end of an experience like that, you know, for example, when a young man's getting married, I'm pretty sure he's not doing Vicar
unless he's being forced to get married then he's probably doing a lot of the good but
that's not the time he's thinking about Whoa. You know, that's but at that point, ally is what for him? The thief for him? You know, and even when the man comes and give us a Baba, you have a taco Bakula de la comida sinuata la la caminhada de de Mama's given Baba, taco tanika ceremony. Everybody else has stopped by right now. And he might get somebody you know, His heart is somewhere else right now. His brain is somewhere else right now the reminders nice, you know, but other people may not be thinking too much about taco at the moment everything when is When are they going to serve the meal? When are we gonna get the food, you know.
And that is actually a mercy of Allah that He did not is not an overbearing God. He's not an overbearing master. He did not impose on us what we couldn't bear. So he allowed us to live in this life. And so janela can see him is he made in this world we means by which you can live well, you can enjoy your lives. And in those moments of love becomes what for us, Latif and he knows that we need those experiences too. Sometimes we need the break. If you can't pray all night, you can't. And sometimes you're praying and you need it. You take a little break. I know myself, I study Koran, and I have limited attention span I studied 4045 minutes, 15 minutes, and then my brain checks out. You
know when I'm talking to one of my colleagues transaction history, so hips enable discussing Tafseer and I tell them listen, my switch turned off. I'm just gonna go eat a banana or play some basketball. I'm gonna do something, recharge. Because I you know, right now I need to step back, step back and reboot myself, and that's a human condition. We can't always be in a less presence. But Allah is always present for us. That's a lot of being Latif. May Allah azza wa jal be make us grateful for Allah which has been the thief in our lives. barakallahu li Welcome to call it again. When a fight anyway. iacobelli it was the king