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How Do I Express My Anger

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Nouman Ali Khan

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Ust. Nouman Ali Khan was asked this question during a live lecture on the 2015 Gulf Tour.

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So I want to call everyone in the Gulf tour, I received a number of letters, here's another one of them when someone gets on your last nerve, and you run out of patience, and the person replies This is because they're shaytaan. How do you respond? You don't respond. When somebody gets on your last nerve, and you explode. First of all, you shouldn't have been in that position. You should allow, you know, a lot of times we confuse bottling things up with patients, when you just stay quiet. And don't say anything. That doesn't mean you're being patient. Patience actually means that you can remain calm. But when you're being offended, or something wrong is being said, you can respectfully

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speak out and say that's not true, or that's not acceptable. That's not losing patience. And if you did come to the point where you had to snap and somebody took advantage of that, and called, you shall know that's because of shaytaan. You know what? Maybe they're right. And you know, what, if at that point, you don't really have any point in continuing the conversation. What are you going to get out of it? No, it's not yet odd. What are you going to do? Those kinds of those are the kinds of situation where you say, Salomon piece about we can have this conversation anymore. inshallah we'll talk another time. Any any situation you're in where you're losing your calm, you should try to

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avoid. And if it's getting to that point, you should actually let the other know that they're being offensive. Or they're, you know, they're hurting your feelings. It's as simple as that. And you know, when when you think staying silent or not saying anything is the same as patients, that's your mistake. anybody else's. Human beings can't keep things bottled up. They can't. It's the way in which you express your frustration. That's patience. You can express your frustration calmly, and say, This is unacceptable, or you can explode like you do. The person who asked this question. That's a lack of patience, actually. So I pray that Allah gives us the strength to communicate our

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sentiments with respect with love with courtesy, and at the same time, not to, you know, not to fall into this extreme of anger as a result of bottling things up that certainly, yes, anger does come from the shape and you know, what the other person is doing is also pretty evil, but you're no less if you're if you allow yourself to get overwhelmed with anger. melasma didn't protect us from anger, and certainly protects us from his anger. barakallahu li walakum wa salaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.