Human Behaviour

Nouman Ali Khan

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And yes, he does

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have a new face

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well the shuttle is

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one

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of the lucky ones to have solved

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seldom at the Sleeman kathira from now, so

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he had a lot of money to send them

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but he never

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opened up

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down

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on number two

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in a seminar in massage

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school

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when I first came

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in

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from the city I mean

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a lot

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a lot

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of new study has

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been arguing

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about the 23rd I onwards 17

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there are a set of

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about which you are bustling with lot of times my says these are the equivalent of what he saw, he was given the famous term uses the 10 commandments, the essential principles and guidance for that community, the formatting of that version of that also.

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I think he's 18 or 20. So, a lot of fundamental guidance for community starting with family like parents, and then moving on to finances and then criminal law is essential, the word community needs to be abided by, in order to be a healthy community. towards the tail end of that passage, are these two. And I'd like to share with you in this instruction that was originally also given to many bodies. And now there's been a soul ballad that has been continued and given to us as well. A lot has been said why

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don't we pursue number five in Arabic, interesting words, all the beans are cassava is the back. When you call somebody closely behind your back, for the different words are formulated from it at the every language and another word is used in the profits one after another.

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We sent them one after another continuously have also needs to follow exactly the footsteps of somebody else. So the closest word in Arabic to that is,

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you know what I

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don't follow. But this means don't follow very closely and precisely. It's talking about a very particular kind of human behavior. When we have something in our tradition, in our culture, in our family, maybe something in our country, in our society that everybody follows. Everybody follows it exactly. And so you follow it to duty with you. And you have been doing it for some time. So you get used to doing it. And human beings are creatures of creatures of habit. So when we do something for a long time you get used to doing it, you don't question it anymore, it just becomes a part of your life. And it's very difficult for human beings to change their behavior is very difficult to change

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the way you're doing things. And to do something else. The very, very difficult to do especially like for example, even psychologically something like learning a new language later on in life can be very difficult. As opposed to picking up that habit earlier. That's why children

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is still what happens in children at an early age. Because as they get older, making new habits that will stick for life is very difficult. How many of you try to go on a different kind of diet, or go to try to do some exercise in a regular part of my life is very hard to make those changes later on. But something you've been following early on in life is easier to stick to. This is true of behavior. It's also true of ideas and beliefs and flaws and then we will understand things your opinion of certain things when you have had an opinion

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about something for a long time, it's very hard to change your opinion, a lot gives a warning here, he says, Why

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not at least have a rough translation suggest, don't follow what you don't have knowledge of,

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don't become so committed to something you have no knowledge of. But the Arabic cookie is very beautiful. First of all the word man, you know, you can say, what you don't have knowledge of you can say My mind is more ambiguous. So already talking about something that you really don't know at all. It's a mystery. Why you do it, you don't know, we just do things this way that says, a lot of times in our families, for example, there are some traditions. And the younger in the family say why do we do that? This is what we do.

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And the parent gets angry answering the child, you know why? Because he doesn't know the answer, either. That's why he gets angry. Just do it. Just be quiet and do it. This is how we do think.

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So as I said, it's already a mystery to you. And then he says,

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He doesn't say

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what you don't know. He says what you don't own in terms of knowledge. And I'm here to say something you own, meaning you don't have solid knowledge of what you're following, you don't even know a little bit about it, you have no ownership of it. What it also suggests is that when we follow something, we should have solid knowledge of what we're following, not just casual, I came to know casually from some, you know, blog somewhere, or somebody texted me something or I saw some I heard overheard somewhere or something, whatever we follow, especially things we follow closely, that we're very committed to are supposed to be proper sound, deep knowledge. It's not supposed to be

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hearsay. It's not supposed to be hearsay. Now, that brings us to a very interesting observation. We are a religion and a civilization of a millennium and a half, all over the world, you know, 1400 to 1500 years on the web.

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And in every tradition, there are things you pass down from one generation to another. Every generation every every civilization has this. And if you stop questioning, if you just do it, you just do things a certain way. And you don't question. I mean, think of your co workers and your friends and your observation, educated people. And they'll celebrate Christmas, for instance. And when they celebrate Christmas, they have some idea as to do Jesus's birthday, etc, etc.

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Socks hanging from the fireplace was was

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really, you know what, why the gifts in the morning and the bobsled? And where did that come from? Most people even though do they fall into a lot of commitment, though? Yes. They follow the great deal of commitment, even though they really don't know what that's about. It's been passed on maybe there's some good historical origin to it. Some of us some historian might know, the average people don't know, the same thing starts happening with Muslims. We have certain things we follow certain things we do. And we just tell us something over time in the next generation, we just do and we don't worry, you know why we're doing it? Actually, that's exactly what a one does not one for

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every generation of Muslims should know exactly why they're doing what they're doing. That is our tradition. Our tradition is never to become blind. Our tradition, however, is to have our eyes open and know exactly what it is that we believe. What is it that we follow and why we follow it? We're supposed to be thoroughly educated, thoroughly oriented, you know, what I

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mean? And why is that important? Let's understand why that's important. Before we go on to the rest of the iron.

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You know, in the last 100 years, a lot of literature has been written against religions, not just Islam, against religion in general, there's been a war against religion in the last 100 or so years. And one of the most famous quotes that's often quoted by a philosopher is that religion is the opiate of the masses. And religions like a drug, people just follow it, they don't question it, and then you can control them. So the people that control religion, if they're priests, other rabbis, you know, or they're saints, whether it be moms, whatever they may be, they have the power over the people, they can tell them to do whatever they want, and people will do it. And this is how people

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are controlled. It's just the means of controlling religion. They use the name of God, but it's really their own agenda they want people to follow this is a very common and widely held belief about religion and how people are basically people have followers.

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And they're manipulated. And the fact of the matter is, if you look at the history of religions in the world, with a common philosophy, organized religion, there's a lot of truth to that. People have been manipulated by religion, people have been controlled by religion. People were told don't question it, just follow it. And then comes the religion of truth, a lot of the deals

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they will have you know, the interesting the Arabic word hot also used to discover truth, to find truth out to dig up something. You know, this is a religion that makes you look for the truth, not just accepted the message

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commandments of the love heart is what

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I call to a love with eyes open with clear insight. I'm not calling you to something that should close your mind and then come to know a lot so that it needs to complete and build on to the operation after that.

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Why don't you understand? Why don't you use your brain? I want you to think about this before that moon, how do you make your decisions? Avoid asking people to think not, don't think, to think, to think, interesting, I met a Muslim. Just last week, I was in Little Rock, Arkansas, the young man who became Muslim when he was 16, only Muslim Middle School, white kid, only Muslim in the school, right? And his preachers really worried because a small town, they'll go to the same church. So speeches were trying to talk to him for like three or four years now. So having a conversation with this feature about coheed. And how, you know,

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perfect sense. And you know, that imagery basically told them again, when you're being too logical.

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You shouldn't be so logical.

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You just have to accept and follow something without having to make sense of it. You just have to follow it. That's it. Just do that. You know, a lot of commands the exact opposite. But you know what? We're being we're being tricked.

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Are you for also being tricked? All religions must be faultless, baseless, and our youth also are starting to think our religion is baseless. We just do what our parents do. We just come to do harm for parents.

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We just don't know why we have to dress a certain way over certainly do. All we can do this without the other European Europeans have questioned this. Why can't we do that? I mean, I was I was teaching a seminar one time and the little boy, how can we can sit with the women? How can we maintain the women? And what was what do parents typically say? Because it's hard.

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Because the end is bigger than your base.

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That's enough for you. And your story, there's no need to talk about it, no need to set the foundation. Now this is actually the exact opposite of what

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he wants to He wants us to be thinking open minded people think about it this way, only presented to you this way.

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We ask people to be open minded when we're giving them data.

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We want them to consider the possibility that this is the truth

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about the character of the messenger someone love mornings, we want them to think about it, the open mind, that's what we want them to do. How can it be them that once you become awesome, you're supposed to be called mind.

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The entire foundation of Dharma is for people to be open minded and personal knowledge and personal understanding. And yet you find when people come to this value people that claim to do simple most of our community when it comes to pursuing knowledge.

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We just follow this. We learn to look into it again. We don't have to know more. Which is a real question. No, I'm not saying you have to question everything. But if some if your family, your friends, the people asking you fundamental questions, you have to try and find out the answer from genuine sources. This is just part of who we are. And it's not something I'm adding as a new instruction is a lot of something goes way before and he felt when he saw it before us. Number four.

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And then he adds a warning in that somehow, when massamba was

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very interesting, I have roughly translated for you No doubt about it, the hearing the scene and our heart. Each of them as far as allies concerned with a lot, they are going to be asked about, they're all going to be interrogated in order the licensing, your hearing will be interrogated, your seeing will be interrogated, and your heart will be interrogated. And this is part of the same idea in which Allah says don't pursue things you don't have knowledge of.

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In other words, these two ideas are connected to each other. They're not two separate lessons. As far as I'm concerned, this is the same lesson. Don't follow what you don't have knowledge of because you will your hearing will be interrogated, your ears will be turning you will be listening to

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what were you What were you looking at? And what judgments did your heart make this breathing allows

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for sooner? So let's talk about these three things. First of all, usually Allah says For example, He says, well, Java was somehow when the eldest Allah, when he plays people hearing for you, he put eyes

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for you. visions for you will have the Latin parts for the plural, everything is horrible. But in this ionomycin,

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hearing, seeing and by heart, everything is singular. And the benefit of that is every single person is responsible for his or her own self. I cannot say I don't have to know this myself. I'm just following what somebody else

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knows. You can't rely on somebody else you have to know for yourself. Why is it that you're committed to something why is it that you're following something you should know for yourself? You should seek that knowledge yourself.

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So guys, listen to your own, your own see your own life. Let's talk a little bit about hearing

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someone talk about wireless as hearing person sees it. Because our knowledge, the first of the most important mean, quote, delivered the most valuable knowledge guidance, the message of the profits I made.

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Was that message seen first or heard first, it was heard for the priorities of listening carefully. The people of Hellfire are saying,

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Have you only listened? Have you only paid attention and be able to give them an attentive ear. So listening is a big part of us acquiring proper education, proper understanding, we have to become a people of careful listening.

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Then let's talk a little bit about the word for you. There are two words in Arabic for the fun part.

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And I'll tell you something, this is about being interrogated. So what you listen to you better be careful what you listen to you better listen to authentic, good thing. Don't just listen to yourself, not just what you say, what you hear, what you see, and what you're willing to see. Are you willing to open your eyes to reality? Or are you willing to not open this is literally and figuratively? Are you going to accept reality for what it is? Or you're going to pretend that the world hasn't changed? And you don't have to learn anything? And if

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so, how long are family so many members of our community are delusional, literally delusional, they don't realize where they're living and what, what's going on.

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They expect things to be a certain way that we're used to back when they were home, you know, and they come for example, I've seen this in massages in our country in this country. You'll have people that come from some some country, you know, back home, and they come here, and once they walk inside the machine, it's like they want me to walk. Or they walked into heaven. They walked into Somalia, or they walked into Cairo. So they expect things to be just like they were back home.

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So when they see somebody that looks different,

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in one way or the other day, it really really upset,

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really upset because it no idea of how the world has changed, and what the consequences of your your anger can be on somebody else. But regardless, I want to talk to you a little bit about the word fly, before we share something with you about the next time.

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And that means a heart that's overwhelmed.

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When you are overly emotional,

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or overly angry, or is called fun. When you're really excited Your heart is

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when your heart is inflamed and goes in flames. That's what it's called. What a lot of somebody was saying is sometimes people misbehave and they blame their emotions. Listen to that carefully. Sometimes we misbehave and we just blame our emotions. You say, yeah, you go home and you start yelling at your wife, then you calm down after a while you took a lot. And I'm

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sorry, that wasn't me. I wasn't myself. I just had a long day of work. It's not my fault. That was fine for all of you, again, like that sometimes.

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Allah says that it's not going to be an excuse. I will interrogate your flaws.

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I will tell you, that's not going to be an excuse. Father sometimes become really abusive,

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yelling at them, humiliating them cursing them out, whatever. And the mother comes into his room.

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Like that, sometimes. That's not him. That's just

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that's just who he is.

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He's really good at heart. He knows it loves you

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eat that Father is not going to be able to go on judgment day.

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To understand, right.

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Even if overwhelmed heart is going to be

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there. It's not just a matter of anger. It's a matter of you were depressed. You were sad. You were overwhelmed. You were afraid you were excited. You were tempted you did something wrong. That's when we were overwhelmed by some kind of emotion. You know, and then you say, Well, you know, it was a moment of weakness. Okay, you know, that's not that's not how it

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works. By the way. It does fly modern colors. I've seen when I was a student of psychology, they will show us court cases, police officers that are on these car chases. And there's this guy's got like a Ferrari or something. So they can't catch him until he runs out again. But when they do catch it

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all

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right. So now they're being sued for police brutality. So the defense attorney comes in says, you know, there are certain chemicals that are released into the brain when in high pressure situations that make a person more aggressive. So it's this cotton medium of expose chemicals that

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you know, it's not just the neurological function, it's not his fault entirely. The same thing they say what mob mentality, you know, people just regular

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Every day accounting broke out. And there's these riots industry. So it takes a baseball bat breaks from the best way and grabs a TV. My dad and an accountant by Nike says

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he couldn't help himself as a psychological phenomenon that drives people crazy. Unless First of all, you will all be interrogated for your individual actions, you're allowed to be able to play many games in.

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Another very powerful benefit that comes out of this ayah

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is that we become very adamant about things in our religion, especially the things we don't know anything about.

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Don't do that.

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Yeah.

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What did you learn? And

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you don't even have knowledge of that yourself?

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What if you're seeking

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to deliver to people with

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things you don't have absolute authoritative knowledge of, don't assume that kind of knowledge. And when you do, when you do assume that kind of knowledge, and that is a form of arrogance. That's what that is, you don't need to learn anymore.

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You already know.

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And you haven't learned anything.

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Yet, you say I already

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figured out.

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This is this is by definition, what arrogance is I bring up

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the very next

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one, I

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don't

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mean to accomplish something huge, you feel like you're on top of everything you gotta be figured out and people that you talk to, you

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know, walk around like that. Don't walk around judging people, condescending people. It's just the next instruction. In other words, if you don't fulfill the first one, this is what you're doing. And if you fulfill the first one, in other words, you won't pursue things, don't become committed to ideas, if you don't really have knowledge of yourself.

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On top of that, you don't even pursue it, pursue learning about it, and changing your opinion about it. Because your flaws is too committed to ignorance, you'll change yourself, obviously, the next instruction is don't walk around with pride in

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your get up can cause cracks on you know, your place. Know your place. You know, it's interesting in our culture, that as I was growing up, I noticed something about our culture in this country.

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It's slowly changing, I don't see changing fast enough. Everything that I mean, as far as character, I mean, the praises is looked down upon is very strange. In our pursuit of knowledge is praise. And not just knowledge of religion, knowledge, all those years of

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all right here we have acquisition, here's

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everything. But what do we do every culture

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geek, the loser

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class

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is already own.

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Basically,

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the one who walks around with pride, he's got a swag and swag.

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The one as you can, if you're looking at the iPhone or Samsung,

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not one, that's a praiseworthy quality.

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Everyone walks in on the earth and humility is a weakling is pathetic.

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Exactly.

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And we instill these values from the very beginning.

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We allow those values to be still.

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We don't feel like you need to say anything about privacy just in high school, by the way to teenagers, to adults, and most adults.

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We constantly put down what other people have other people or address where they live. They live in

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financial decisions. And we constantly comment.

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And we have a lack of accomplishments. And we don't fail to mention our own accomplishments.

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What do you think you are

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talking to us like what was written

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on here.

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Don't go outside of the mountains, know your place, understand your role. These two IR these are concluding IR towards the end of the instructions given to the body. And essentially the point of that was you should learn more and become a lesson. take a lesson from

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you should be a person that's continually learning and not become a committed follower. And if you don't actually positively, and you remain humble, and the truth will enhance. I'll share with you a list

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comes from a famous scholar.

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He was giving advice to students of knowledge.

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And he was talking about the benefits of seeking knowledge. And interestingly, one of the

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very unique

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was when a tree bears fruit, its branches come down from the weight of the fruit. What he's telling the students is when you learn knowledge, it's like, if you like a tree, you have no roots. But when you start learning and understanding, the fruits are coming out,

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every fruit trees rises,

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it becomes more,

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it becomes

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unnecessary result of

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any

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more arrogant than maybe you've increased in ignorance, not knowledge. That's not really knowledge. As far as I'm concerned. Knowledge is supposed to be supposed to make you realize, if you acquire

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knowledge, you realize it's a drop in the ocean to realize how little we have

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some doesn't even know the ocean.

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This is the advice

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that we do not accept is, is arrogance. It's not it's the antithesis of our human. And if that arrogance comes out in our conversations with each other, it comes out and how assumingly very confident in our opinions about especially things that have to do with their religion, and we just say them with with no fear of consequence, you know, without properly knowing or even consulting with people that are qualified to know about those things, and we talk about these things so casually. And that is by definition, what that means. That is what are some examples

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of humility, because people have a true

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truly love seeking knowledge and don't speak what they already know about that learn to follow and commit themselves to what they truly know. That increases your knowledge of this woman and my use of that genuine knowledge we allow you to increase your sincerity

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on a Friday with young

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hungry like yoga or Salatu was Salam.

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ala

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Muhammad Ali,

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see a lot more

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data

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in

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a lot more.

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Coming

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in, a

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lot, a lot. A lot.

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A lot

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of insight.