Channel: Nouman Ali Khan
Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan gives an awe-inspiring lecture on the great legacy of Ibrahim AS and the lessons that we need to imbibe from this great personality.
Prophet Ibrahim AS went through innumerable trials and the many enormous feats that he has accomplished. The result of all these trials was that at the end of all of them, Allah gave him a certificate. Allah says to him that He has installed Ibrahim AS as the Imam over people, making him a leader over people, a role model for humanity. This is the medal of honor that is being given to Ibrahim AS after he went through some very difficult tests.
We can’t even begin to imagine a human being going through the kinds of tests that Ibrahim AS had to go through. And yet he walked away with Tawakkul on Allah SWT. We should know about Ibrahim AS that when anything came to him, good or bad, who does he remember first? Allah SWT is the first thing that comes to his mind.
Who is going to walk away from the legacy of Ibrahim AS? Who’s going to turn his back on the legacy of Ibrahim AَS? The only one to walk away from this legacy is the one who is fooling himself. We seek refuge in Allah SWT from this misguidance and pray ceaselessly to make us tread on the path of the righteous.
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I feel very personally hurt about my last permission and his favor, I've had the opportunity to travel to about 80 or so communities all over the United States in the last five years. And I've made about two weeks stops and each community Alhamdulillah.
And, you know, I am the youth that was raised in New York. And you know, when you live in one place for a long time, you kind of you don't know what's going on in the world, outside of that little bubble of yours, you know. So as I travel a lot outside, it was a, in some ways, a very eye opening experience. In some respects, it was something that I had never expected. On the other, you know, on the other side is very positive. But on the other hand, at the same time, I came to observe that there are certain problems that the Muslim community has that it doesn't matter if they're in California, or they're in Boston, or they're in Texas, or they're in Arkansas, they're the same.
They're the same. And one of those problems, that's probably to me at least, the most pressing issue of all of the issues is the problem of how rapidly we are losing our youth, how rapidly we are losing connection with our kids. And inshallah tada in this talk, I want to start with the importance of this topic, from the point of view of a large book himself. So Subhana, WA, Tada. I want to share with you the legacy of Ibrahim alayhis. Salaam just to give us an overview of the importance of this matter. And towards the end, I will share with you some some things from my experience. And some thoughts that I have on this subject. I don't claim to have solutions. And I
really honestly, I don't claim to say anything that probably hasn't been said before. But my hopes are really in the end, you cannot even hope to solve a problem until you're aware of the problem. So the first step really is we have to be cautious and aware and accept that there is in fact a problem. And the next step is we have to put our heads together. And we have to seek out solutions, of course in light of the last book and the son of his messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but then among mature among ourselves, as concerned, as people have shared concern, how do we take the next step? How do we, you know, come to some conclusions. But the very first big step before you
even talk about medicine is you have to convince the patient that he's sick. If he doesn't think he's sick, he doesn't need any medicine. He's not even going to concern himself and finding out what prescription Should I need to be on you know. So now I began with these few IR from Al Baqarah. And I want to go quickly on a very quick dose of these ions and a reminder from these is by no means are these you know
And elaborate the seed of desire. Just some brief reminder about him and his sentiment went through many, many, many trials. Whenever Hajj season comes close, you hear the hook, Baba Ibrahim are they set up and the many enormous feats that he accomplished. And when he accomplished all of those incredible things at the end of all of them, alarms Oh, Jim gave him his certificate. And this is about the certificate. Allah xojo says to him, tells us what he did with Allah.
When Allah when his Lord tested, Ibrahim had a salam, especially Ibrahim alayhis salam, thoroughly empty la Impala Ibrahim. And at the end of all those tests, he completed all of them but at the Honda he completed every last one of those tests.
Connor in Asia in Kadena see Mama, at the end of passing all of those tests, Allah azza wa jal, such a behemoth a salam, there is no doubt I am installing you as an Imam over people. I am making you a leader over people. I'm making you a role model for humanity. This is the certificate. This is the honor this is the you know the Medal of Honor that is being given to Ibrahim Alayhi Salam after he went through some very difficult tests. We can't even begin to imagine a human being going through the kinds of tests that Ibrahim Alayhi Salam had to go through. Like, you know, we say it so easily, that he jumped into a fire, we say it so easily that he put a knife to his kid's neck, your child is
holding a fork in their hand and you say hey, put that down is dangerous. You know, you get nervous. If your child is too close to the stove, what happens to you and here you have this man putting a knife and going at his own son's next holiday is easy to say it's very difficult to even put try to put yourself in that position is unfathomable. Then the fact that he has to leave his family in the middle of the desert, certain death, certain deaths. Our families when we leave them, for example, you have to pick your family up at the airport. I was telling the students this earlier today, right? You got late to pick them up from the airport. You get like 20 voicemails and you're worried
Where are you Is everything okay? Everything all right, you know, they're in an air conditioned, well secured, you know, bench somewhere sitting in the in this airport facility and you're you're losing your mind and your family. So I'm leaving his wife and child in the middle of a desert, where you could see the only thing waiting for them is deaths. That's the only thing waiting for them. And yet you can walk away from all of that and we're talking in the last panel with Allah is not an easy thing. So he goes through all of these tests, Allah says you pass you are now amount over humanity. And you know this, these tests like me said they're not easy. But something we should know about
Ibrahim alayhis salam, when everything when anything comes to him. When anything good or bad, anything happens to him? Who does he remember first? Alonzo first. The first thing that comes to his mind is a large. This is what we find find the monologue of Ibrahim alayhis salaam, that some of the students we went through today in the seminar.
And let me call upon him for who I mean. He's the one who created me but he says this and he said he's the one who created me he's the one who is he who guides me. When was he who are you? Money was a stain. He is the one who gives me the eat. He's the one who lets me drink. Wait a minute tovarisch Feeny whenever I become an American become sick in the past. He's the one who cares me. So now everything that happens in his life, what does he do? Does he remember? I lost parental autonomy. So you would expect when Allah gives him the greatest gift of all, the greatest gift of all in the life of a man is Allah says to him that he's happy with you. And Allah says he's happy with you. So Allah
says stable Rahim Allah, I have made you Imam over people. What do you expect him to say? We expect him to say Alhamdulillah Allah be praised. Will you have gratitude believe this honor for me, this humble favor of yours. Instead you find the response of Ibrahim alayhis, salaam kala, he said, Well, I'm into reality. What about my kids? and Maria is different from Abner er. Maria means future generations? What about my immediate children and their children and their children and their children? What about them? Allah made him evolve over mankind. He's worried about his future generations. He's thinking three, four generations, five generations 10 2030 generations in advance.
This is the mindset of genius. This is the mindset of someone who truly understands their role in this world. You know, the Muslim is unlike the non Muslim in many ways. And one of the ways in which we're different is the way we think about things. We think long term, and I don't mean long term like think about your future, get into a mortgage. That's not the long term I'm talking about. Long term. We're talking about getting into that house that I love, you know, for us where you don't have to pay a mortgage that helps you think that long term, we think generations in advance, we must have the belief
We'll be like 80 years old, ready to die any day now. And he's still planting a seed in the ground that one day a tree will grow, and somebody will get it shade. He's not going to slip to see that tree, but he's worried about the future. That's how we are sacajawea we're continually worried about the future, we're worried about the future. That's how we're supposed to be. But because we are so engulfed in a society that doesn't care about the future, like a small example of how the society doesn't care about the future, before we go on, is the consumption of ribbon.
You know, some of the wealthiest people in this country are people that become rich through what
through the interest economy, and the easy it is. I'm not gonna give a lecture on finance, but very simply speaking, you have a like a Donald Trump,
this guy, one of the richest people in the world, right, if you paid all of his debts right now, if you paid every last one of his debts right now, guess what?
Not even zero minus in the millions, he pays the minimum payment on this property minimum on that one minimum, and that will rents all of them out then refinances then goes to an old property, got debt upon debt upon debt upon debt upon debt and making minimum payments on all of them. Probably like a 300 year mortgage before he pays everything off. Is he going to die before that?
He figures I'm gonna live it up. When after I died, somebody else's problem, what do I care? This is the mentality of someone who doesn't believe in yahara. Live it up? Who cares what everybody else? I'm not worried about them. I'm worried about me. So you know, Al Gore is crying about global warming and 50 years, who cares? I'm gonna die in 10. I don't care. That's not my problem. You know, national debt, our children will be national, that who cares about our children, we got our problems now. So this is a society that is that's the hallmark of the human condition can level to a Boolean algebra, you love to get things quickly. You don't think long term. But Allah azza wa jal conditions
this in his book to think long term. So when we come to this country, you know, and allow Muslims, they come to this country, a lot of them immigrants, a lot of them even indigenous. When we think the idea of long term, we think where is my child going to go to school? Where are they going to go to college? When are we going to buy a house? This is long term. I'm talking about a different long term. How will I make sure that my future generations 345 generations from now, how do I make sure there will be saying that the law in the law, and they'll be teaching others? How do I do that? That's long term thinking. If your kids graduate from school and get a nice degree and get a great
job and marry the right, rich family and all of that, right, and then they lose that in a high line, just one generation? Have you succeeded or failed? Think about that. Who's gonna answer for that? Ibrahim Ali Salaam understands this. So when Allah said, You're the mom, he said, that's not enough. I'm responsible for my children. And if I if they don't become good, then their children will be worse and their children worse and on the Day of Judgment, who am I tied to? The whole generation of failures, I don't want to be answerable for them. No matter how many good deeds a person does. It let's just imagine you did millions and millions and millions of mountains of good deeds. If you
didn't raise your children properly, and they lost this Deen
whether in our pita in their beliefs, or in their practice, they lost this deep when they get married and have children are they going to teach the theme? No. And then what about two, three generations? Now we're going to they're going to use their religion? No. So now you're going to have generation after generation being born of this believers that started with your irresponsibility, right, on the day of judgment with all of your good deeds, can you compete with all of those bad deeds put together?
There's no way there's no way. This is a very heavy burden placed upon a parent. Every parent is an amount. Every father here is an Imam over people, the mama that Allah gave to him on his salon, whose Imam ship was he worried about first over his own children, his own children first. So Allah says my response to his daughter, he said, quite a lie. And I mean, he said, What about my kids? Allah said, No, my guarantee doesn't extend to wrongdoers. Allah told Ibrahim on his own in between the lines, some of your kids are going to be wrongdoers. Not all of them are going to be righteous. And we know the vast majority of the children of Abraham on a solemn are wrongdoers aren't the
children of the Rocky Mountain center. They are where they wrongdoers. Sure, sure. And for generations, not Ibrahim alayhi salam, he hears this answer and I'm sure it would have heard him that Allah said that my guarantee is not extended to wrongdoers. Bali mean. What does he do next? Does he give up? No. He goes, he comes back to a lot counters on you see, now, the next thing we read is Ibrahim Ali is skipping an IRA just because of a rough time in Sharla. With Karla Ibrahim.
He's been assigned to build the house of Allah. So as he's approaching the house, he makes
Our Oh my Lord make this a peaceful city make this a peaceful city. What is the minister Murat and provide its children from all kinds of provision. Okay provides people from all kinds of fruits. So he made two parts on so far. He said, make sure the city is safe well as an ammunition, and the second thing that they get all kinds of fruit. In English literature, we call this peace and prosperity you ever heard that phrase before? Peace and prosperity. And in political science, you learn that for a society to function. The first thing you need is law in order, which is peace. If your house is not safe, if your store is not safe, if your office is not safe, if your money is not
safe, then you can't function in that society. But even if you have peace, if there's no jobs, if there's no way to make money, if there's no way to run your business, then is that society going to survive? No. So you need peace and you need what? prosperity? This is what you've learned in political science. Now, look at the genius of this man's law. He says make this a peaceful city, and make sure they're provided for from all kinds of fruit. But then he adds a little bit of a disclaimer. In the end, he says, What is Allah who Minister marotti man, man, I mean, who milania when
he says only provides the children of mine who believe in the line the last day.
Allah said to him, not not my guarantee is not extended to wrongdoers. He responded okay make this a great city make its people enjoy all kinds of provision make them well off, but only make the believing ones well off. In other words, I would rather the for the disbelieving the wrongdoing children I would rather they starve off and the generations just continue because I don't want to answer for them. I only want to answer for my team even showing you the genius into that.
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only the ones who believe in a mind the last day, a lot responded again on a woman cassava tomahto kanila.
Allah said, by the way, the one even even the one who does believe I'm going to give him a little too. I'm going to let him have some enjoyment also.
Then I'm going to drag him into the punishment of the fireworks. So mostly stern words from Alaska, what a horrible place that is to go to. So now I brought him out a salon first he asked for his children. And I said not everybody. Then he asked only feed my believing children. No, no, I'll feed the disbelieving children too. And then I'll drag him into Hellfire and rahimullah slam doors and we countered twice. Does he give up now? No. He said this is a concern father. So we read further. Wait
a minute he was wearing him on Instagram is building the foundations of the house. But does he do it alone? Who does he include? as well? as well. And you know, this is this is part of the genius of Ibrahima is when you ask a law for something. And this is advice, especially younger people. You're not praying, you're not remembering the law. You're not concerned about your obligations to a law, you're not lowering your gaze but your your final exam is tomorrow. And like five minutes before you haven't studied Yala, the midterm. You know all of a sudden you remember, this is you know, remembering a lot by convenience. Right by convenience. The best time to ask a lover something is
when you do something that makes you happy with you. The best time to ask you know, what's the one of the best times for the eyes? What time after salon, you just have a lot of restaurants, one of the best places to as the as the house of Allah, when you go there is a great act of obedience now is the best time to ask the best time to ask the other the last portion of the night. Because that's the way when you're showing obedience to a line the best possible way, the best time to ask why is Ramadan because you're obeying the law at that time, ask Allah at that time. So now is the time is doing one of the greatest acts of obedience to Allah. He is building a law's house on this earth
with his son, this is probably the best time to ask again. Right? So he asked again. But he knows what Allah has said no to already so he's gonna keep modifying his thought, because he's adjusting accordingly. So what does he make? Number one, there have been
a couple minutes, our Lord except from us. You see in the previous door, it was rugby, rugby. My Lord make this a peaceful city. Rugby is my Lord. Now he said what? Our Lord? Who does he include? His son like this time, I'm building a large house. I'm going to make God but I'm going to include my son in the block. So at least guarantee me this boy right here. robina Taco Bell Mina except from both of us in the current SME of nanny, no doubt you are the one who hears everything he knows me so hard. So he ensures at least one son
then he knows the next ayah is a control
enumeration of the doors which means a lot did not respond with words when one does not respond. It's silence and silence means what? acceptance. Right so let's have to da da. So he goes further. He doesn't stop but why? accepted? Might as well keep going robina was Muslim Any luck? Our Lord make both of us incomplete submission to you make us Muslim before you accept us first complete incomplete submission before you. By the way, Allah has already made him a mom because of what because of his submission. Hasn't he already submitted? So why is he asking this? Because now he's including his son. Nick is in complete submission before you.
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and out of our children, not all of our children but out of our children because the main here indicates a fraction right? At least some of our children guarantee that they will be a Muslim Ummah and oma Group, a nation that only submits to you no one else who met a Muslim at an NEC
group that will only submit to you. Okay, some of my children will be wrongdoers, but at least guarantee me some of them don't guarantee me Okay, you didn't get into me all of them guarantee me some omata Muslim metallic, and those that will be in complete submission to you. What arena manasi Cana and show us our rituals. We built your house we don't know how to please you. How do we worship you at this house? How do we make a lot how do we make some art teaches these things? Show us our rituals. What do you gonna want to buy in and start over?
You know, when you ask for Toba
when you do a sin. You asked for Toba when you do something wrong? Why is he asking for Toba to Marlena? Has he done anything wrong?
The greatest messages from the universe? And he said well, what is he making? This is a profound lesson. When you do something for the sake of Allah. Like we just prayed that we make mistakes in our prayer.
Was there the shortcomings in our Moodle? Were their shortcomings, you know, our mind wandered? What's for dinner? They said there's going to be dinner.
You know. So when you come up from Roku, or your belly gets a little stretch, and you say whom?
I hope to have rice
that's going on in your head. So now is that is that a shortcoming into Salah? Absolutely. So be just because you prayed doesn't mean you've performed the best prayer you should ask Allah to extend repent to Allah for the shortcomings and even the things you do for him.
He's building a house and he's humility, the humility of this man, I'm building your house, maybe I didn't put a brick where I was supposed to. Maybe I did. Maybe I made a mistake. I don't even know if I made. So if I'm making a mistake that I don't even know I made. I'm still admitting my fault what the Valena except.
And this is this is an attitude we have to learn from Ibrahima is we ask people to make a squad man, I haven't done anything wrong, man. Why am I making stuff? You've done plenty wrong. We've done something wrong, whether we know it or not. What's in Mecca? And
so he makes them. But then there's no response from Allah. What does that mean? Again? acceptance. So he keeps going.
He says, ba ba, ba, ba, ba, ba tsunami, no.
He thinks carefully about what Allah has told him. And he calculates his words. And he says to Allah, our Lord, appoint from our future generations, a messenger who is from among them, not just a messenger, but a messenger who is from among them, this is genius. If you just ask for a messenger, and he's from the outside, then people will say, I don't want to listen to you, you foreigner,
even people that will like listening to foreigners, when those of you that come from Pakistan or India, when your kids are totally American, and they go to Pakistan, nobody listens to them. They make fun of how they talk. And when somebody comes from the Arab world, or Sudan or Indonesia or Malaysia, and they don't speak any English, they come here and they try to make our people listening to them or know Now listen, they're not from here, they're outsiders. So and in any region, an outsider is looked at as less relevant, less relevant, they can't they can't be a leader definitely outside. So he makes the odd that a messenger should be from among them from within them, so that
when he talks they listen. What's the point of having a messenger of people don't listen. So mean home, yet you either him I attic, and not just a messenger, he will read on to them, your miraculous signs. He will read on to them something that will mesmerize them and bring them closer to you so that they stay in line they stay Muslim. When you are leaving home will Kitagawa hikma and He will teach them the book and He will teach them wisdom will use a key Him and He will cleanse them he will purify them. This is a well thought out the OG of Rahim Allah Salaam and we all know we've learned this from childhood. The response of this is the advent of Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, so you understand the power of God.
Rahim Allah made this law with what motive what was his motivation? his motivation was my children, my children, when a concerned father makes sincere daughters, Lord, then the Lord responds, the DA of Ibrahim Alayhi Salaam is responded with the greatest response humanity has ever seen. It is the advent of Muhammad Rasulullah Salallahu audience and so do not underestimate the power of the heart. Do not underestimate the power of the heart. The revolution of the Quran that we are reading now is a response to a draw. It's a response. Think about that it's a response to the hundreds and millions, if not billions, of people that have said La ilaha illAllah. Since the coming of Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam all over this world, generation after generation is the response to a DA is the response to that one day they will, he will cleanse him, he will purify them, he will read the book onto them. This is the concern of a father who thinks ahead, he thinks ahead. So Allah tells us and this is what I'm going to conclude with and talk about some other practical stuff inshallah. Now, when when Yakubu miletti Ebrahim,
who is going to walk away from the legacy, everybody who's going to turn his back, turn away from the legacy of Ibrahim, who would be that dumb? In Roman Sufi hanok song, except the one who is fooling himself.
The only one to walk away from this legacy is the one who is fooling himself. Well, I call this coffee now for dunya. Why no Phil.
We had selected him in this world and in the hereafter. Truly he is from the righteous under his center. So this brief passage I shared with you because it's the passage in the Koran, about Parenthood, about concern for the future generation the passages in that might as well just do two more is and Sharla was saying that will also be hard to move anyway, aku Ibrahim on Islam and yaku may gave a will give a legacy to their children. What goes the legacy, Yaba Nia in the last, moody for camuto, mutanda, illawarra, Muslim moon, my children, there is no doubt about it. It is a law who has preferred and given selection of this beam to you. He's preferred it for you. That Don't you
dare die, except that you are in complete submission to Allah. Our times the parent turns to the child, don't you dare get less than a 90.
Don't you dare ever go with those friends again? Don't you dare do this. Don't you dare do that. What's he saying? His children? Don't you dare die. Until you are unless you are in complete submission to a lot. You know, this is this is something Allah has. This is a gift Alliance chosen for you. This is a large gift to you this Lyla high Lama? Don't you dare lose it. This is the advice of concern fathers. And by the way, this is the beauty of the DA. He said we're gonna talk about Mina which son was with him,
which was expiring on insulin. But the next net profit mentioned is who? Yahoo, Yahoo. Yahoo, and insulin is the son of who is the son who was not there. So Allah didn't only answer the dog, but that son and his progeny, he answered, the door offer is hard to come to his progeny to follow along. He answered the prayer to and even they grew up to be concerned for others. So jacobellis ROM is one of the greatest fathers in history, who's talked about as a role model father in our book. So last one, I'm going to Shahada I overlooked overload. Were you around? Did you all see when Jeff came to Yahoo, when just presented itself to Yahoo varicella? Now imagine this old man on his
deathbed and all of his sons around and taking care of him giving him water crying, and he's worried about them. He's not worried about who you're gonna marry or where are you going to live? What are you going to do with the property? Make sure you pay your taxes? None of that stuff, Nothing? Nothing. Make sure you finish college no concerns. On his deathbed he says yeah, bunny. Oh, my, my child my son's in a lot of other comedy. There's no doubt about it. It is Allah who is selected to the for you
know, anti muslim or Don't you dare die, except you're the superstar and when he says not Abu Dhabi, what are you going to worship after I'm gone? What are you going to do after I'm gone? What are you going to worship after I'm gone? And he didn't even say meant Abdullah. He said, Mata Medina, which illustrates is quizzing them. What is it that you're going to do? What form of worship Are you going to take, and they responded Nabu A Da Da Da Da, da, da,
da, da da.
Mo, we will worship your ELA and the inner of your father's Ibrahim is married this happened we are Muslim completely to him. Now I'm going to close Muslims inshallah tada and share some practical realities. In contrast, let's compare ourselves.
What has just been learned? This is a story of old times.
These are great children's. At the end of this passage in a lot of lessons. Tikka Masala that's a nation, they're already gone. They're already there past America, but that group that nation earned what they earned when I go nakazato. And you will get what you earned.
You don't just think about them and say, Oh, those were good times. No, no, they got what they got. You will have to earn what you what you earn, you will have what you earn. When I first aluna American, you will not be interrogated about what they used to do. What you were interrogated about. What you did was words at the end are learned the lesson and change yourself. You will be asked about whether you know the historical names and figures and dates, and you can you name all the sons of yaku, Bernard and Israel, what will you be asked, What did you do with your children? What did you do? Now I inshallah Tada, very briefly, I'm going to talk about a couple of things that are
plaguing our oma today. You know, we have to understand the time in which we live, if we want to understand the teachings of our Deen, we have to understand for and so not. And we also have to have a good understanding of when we are living, where we are living, what is around us what's happening in the society around us, that actually happens to be a statement
that we find that a man must know the age in which he lives, there's something we're supposed to do, we're supposed to be aware of our surroundings. You know, the Muslims today, the vast majority of them have lost touch with their religion. And they become more concerned with the practices of their tradition of the family than they are with their religion. Okay, they're more concerned with their culture than they are with their religion. So when their young son or daughter becomes a little bit religious, and says, I want to get married, but I want the kneecap to be in the machine.
The father says, What are you crazy? We don't do that in our family. We'll get a hall. And he's the son says of all says, I want the gathering to be separate. I don't want many women mixing. No, no, no, we don't do that in our culture.
This is extreme, you're you're turning into a crazy person. So don't be crazy like that. That's not how we do things in our family. That's not our tradition. Have you heard that before? That's not our tradition. Okay. That's not your tradition. If you're, for example, from the indo Pak or the Arab society, right? That's not your tradition. But what about your fathers and their fathers and their fathers and their fathers? If you go back seven or eight generations, your great, great, great, great, great grandfather would have said the same thing that this youth is saying. So who's true to the tradition?
Who's upholding the tradition? And who's defying the tradition? These are these ideas of we don't do things this way. We don't act like this. This is the hypnosis that the colonizers put on the oma of Islam. They came and put these clothes on us. They taught us how to eat with a fork and spoon. Right? To know that English is the language of the dignified and Arabic is the language of people who don't really get a good education. Right? They taught us this stuff. And then we got so hypnotized into thinking this is our way. This is our way. So Pamela, you have to have a sense of dignity for who we are, for what our legacy is. Our legacy is not 50 years old. Man. This is the
other thing that happened to this oma is a part of our problem today. We think our history those of you that are from Pakistan, oh, we're, we're a tradition of 50 years ago, or 70 years ago. Right? Or we're 100 year old country we're, no we're a 1400 year old plus oma. Those lines were not drawn by Muslims. Who are they drawn by? microphone by the enemies of Islam? Don't think that's our traditional tradition is much bigger than that. Don't limit yourself. Now, having said all of that, let's come back to the United States where we live in our children. Yes, our children are being raised in this society. They're being raised literally as Americans, you like biryani, and baklava
and whatever you like, they like pizza. You don't like pizza? Right? They like they like a cheeseburger. You can't stand it. And the things that you laugh at, they don't last night and the things you the things you eat for sweets. They're allergic to they'd rather have a candy chocolate bar or something, right? It's a different culture than what they like to eat, how they speak, what they like, what how they entertain themselves is different from you. The elders are sitting together and they're listening to poetry from old times ago. Good stuff. And their use of what they're talking about. And knowing and he's got 50 cents on are
different worlds two completely different worlds. So now we not only do we have a generation gap between ourselves and our children, we have a continental gap.
Right? Our parents are from a different continent, a different world where things work entirely differently. But what's happened and this is my assessment of it. What's happened is when we come to the United States
We built these massage 100 Allah, may Allah reward those with even a penny in the building of the massage. Because if it wasn't for the building of the massage, we would not be sitting here today, there would be no doubt. So we reward we asked a lot of reward the people who spend even a penny for the sake of Allah and building his house, right. So this is this is a great contribution to this oma. But then what happened is the problem too, let's talk about the problem, too. Let's not only talk about the good, let's talk about the bad too. So we build our massages. And then right now when you when you turn on sign up, it's America. And when you turn into the parking lot, and you park
your car, now we're in Pakistan.
And when you enter in here, it's Cairo or Lahore or has been in here, we've left America in a different country here. Right, and we act that way too. We would never do the things you would do in a in a mustard bathroom. In any other bathroom. You would never park your car in any other parking lot, the way you park it at the machine, because you're in Pakistan when you get in here.
Right? It's no, it's the mentality of the Muslim, if you were, so this is an island, where we own was bent inside back in the soldier from back home. Now the thing is back home, things were a little different. The Imam would come, he would give us an RV, he would give a lecture or in Bangla or in Mali or anti or like in Turkish, right? And you will listen and you would enjoy. Is that going to work here?
how's that gonna work here? And you know why? The biggest proof that it doesn't work here, the shoe or here? The great scholars are here and they're wonderful. But when they're talking who's listening?
The elders are listening where their kids outside in the parking lot out in the basketball court. It's a great court, by the way, right there in the court. They're not here. They're not here. And machine after machine after machine is having fight over who should be the amount of the machine? Should it be in this country? Should you be from that country? Should you feel this mother sorry, that mother Assad? Should you be from this ideology or that ideology? No matter who you get, guess who doesn't care?
Okay. They don't care. They couldn't care less. So we're fighting over things that don't make any sense. We've left a legacy of Ibrahim on insulin he worked on his primary concern is who his children is, what do we do in this mustard? And every month? What do we do at our massagin that turns this a magnet for young people turns this into a place where young people are heard, they flock to it, instead of a place that they run away from, instead of a place that they run away from? This is the first concern. And by the way, just to add a little bit of irony to all of this. Ibrahim Alayhi Salam was building what when he asked for this future generations,
is building a less house. Alan's house has directly something to do with preserving the future generations. If you lose connection with a law's house, you've lost everything. lost every now massaged in this country are our refuge, our refuge, our youth. Now let's talk a little bit about the youth and what their problems are. probably the number one catastrophe of our youth is they have no one to talk to.
That's the number one catastrophe or you. Your child goes to school. Let's say they go to public school, that's the majority of Muslims, they put their children in public school because they can't afford Islamic school or whatever reason, right? We don't blame them for it. That's their circumstance. So they put their children in public school. By fifth or sixth grade, their children learn some pretty filthy vocabulary in this country. I don't care what state you're from, right? You do some pretty dirty vocabulary. They learn how to access some pretty disgusting websites, they learn how to download some pretty hideous things on their psps and iPod videos, or iPod Touches or,
or iPhones or whatever. So they're pretty advanced, when they're very early age, things you would never have learned into or 25 they know when they're 12. That's the reality. That's what's going on today. So how many parents here know what Facebook is? Here's what Facebook is show of hands, please. Okay, Twitter, you know what Twitter is? It's not when your eyeballs out something else. So your kids are on these social networking sites, where they have there were predators literally predators have access to talk to your teenage daughter, or to your son, and just say engage in relationships with them over over the internet. And eventually they meet up with them and things
happen. This is a reality of the Muslim youth today, this is happening, that we shouldn't close our eyes to it. We need to open our eyes to it. And you say to yourself, Nah, not my kids. No, no, no, no, please wake up. Don't and some basic solutions before we talk about the bigger picture and what we need to do at the massages, some basic solutions. Do not have open access internet at home, especially when you have children under the age of 12. Do not that is a horrible idea. Do not give your children a laptop. Do not give them a machine a phone that has anything but phone numbers, no texting. Don't you don't give them text message phones. Don't give them internet access phones. You
looking for trouble, you are asking for trouble. You will regret what you did later on, you think you got them these things because you love them, you are destroying them, you are destroying them, they are not smart enough to figure it out, I shouldn't be doing that, or I shouldn't be doing this. Don't assume that they will make all the good decisions. Because you come from a nice family, please don't fall into that trap. For a lot of sake, take those things away. There are other ways to entertain your children.
So this is the first thing when your children become teenagers, by the way,
which happens a lot, right? Our children become teenagers. And as I travel the country, you know what happens with a lot of parents, they come to me and they say, I have a teenage girl. I have a teenage boy, I want you to talk to him. This has happened to me hundreds of times, literally hundreds of times. And you know why they come to me. And I don't I don't judge anyone. I don't judge anyone lucky. I don't judge anyone. You know why they come? Because when they're teenagers, they become independent. And when they become independent, they no longer listen to you. When they no longer listen to you, you have to find somebody that they will listen to the ship has already
sailed. When was your chance? When was your chance before they turned into semi adults. That was your chance. Take don't lose that opportunity. The thing that we have to learn here is we're in a different world. The way you deal with your children back home is not the way you deal with them here. They're two different things back home, you can yell at them, slap them, do whatever. It's all good. That's how everybody does it. Over and over. You yell at them a little. They'll go and talk about Yeah, my dad, he's a total loser. They'll talk about you like that. They will among the friends. They will talk. I used to run a Sunday school. I was the head of a Sunday school and my job
primary job. You know what it was? It was to be a spy. That was my prime it wasn't curriculum, or am I teaching hockey? Or what textbooks to order? No, no, no, no, no, no. That will come later. Let me go around during recess and spy on the conversations these kids are having my mom let me buy an NC 17 video game. And I'm only eight. She loves me. No, she doesn't.
I have Grand Theft Auto whatever. 85 now, right?
Did you see that movie, it's pG 13. But you still got to go see it or it's rated art. I've seen it even have the DVD at home, is what the kids are talking about their messenger kids up. You think you love that this is love. This is whatever
we approve of ending near this isn't good. This a concern for children wake up. Really wake up. We've we've you know, exposed our children to things in this society. It's gotten progressively worse in media especially. So a movie that was pG 1310 years ago is PG now. Okay, the standards have dropped, they're talking about it's not even mean we're talking about it. Right? So and you know, for example, homosexuality, and these kinds of filthy things have now become norm, even in cartoons. Even it's not Tom and Jerry anymore. Things have changed. Things have changed, we have to be aware of what's going on what our children are watching the kinds of language they're using the things
they find normal, the things that are just become part of life. And you know, when you come to the machines, and you see people with beards and making Salah, and they're, you know, they're talking in a certain way, do they do children see more of that? Or do they see the real world war with the children see more is what they define as normal. So to your kids in their head, this isn't normal. That's normal. And that's a problem. That's the real problem. They don't see this as they see the outside world is normal. How do we change that for our children? How do we make this change happen for our children? This is really what I want you to first be aware of this problem. And then let's
talk about how to address this problem. What do I say the number one catastrophe for our children is they have no one to talk to. They have no one to talk to.
When your child goes to public school and sees a boy and a girl together. Or some some girl comes up to your boy and says you want to go to the prom? Or we're getting together at this restaurant. You want to come with me? You're kind of cute. This happens to your fifth grader, this atmosphere seventh grader, your girl your boy, it happens to them? Are they going to come home and talk to you about it? No, my Hey, Dad, this girl told me I'm cute.
is this why we brought you to America?
Flat lab, you know the works. This child knows my parents can handle that information. So you've got to talk to someone about it. Guess who's going to talk to who's going to talk to his friends. If you go to public school, are his friends Muslim or non Muslim? or non Muslim? So when he talks to his non Muslim friends, what kind of advice is he going to get Muslim advice or non Muslim advice? non Muslim advice, go for it, man.
That's what he's gonna get.
And now your children are confiding in their friends and not in you because you're too strict. You don't talk to them. You don't open that door for them. Because you're used to having that authority that your father had on you. But that
was back home, this is here, man, this is different. This doesn't work like that. We have to be friend our children we have, we have to let them open up to us. And this is a problem even for me. I'm a father of three daughters. Right? And I'm you know, I'm a protective father. So when my daughter was in preschool in preschool, there was a boy that sat next to her. And she came home and said, Holmes, I sat next to me today. And we colored together and I should watch.
And my wife looked at me and said,
leave, I'll talk to her, you leave. Because if I show anger now, then she'll know my dad doesn't like hearing about thumbs up. So next time comes or does something or says something? Is she going to tell me? No. So I've, I've actually chopped off my own foot when I said that, I have to learn how to deal with these things. It takes a little bit of tactics, it takes a little bit of patience to deal with our children, we put them it's not their fault, we put them here. We put them in that school, we put them in that environment. They didn't ask for it. We put him there. So if they're exposed to bad things, whose fault is it?
Oh, so we have to take a little bit of responsibility and not just say, oh, how dare you say this? or How did you learn that word for you put me in that school. You put me in that situation? You let me watch that movie. You didn't ask what friends I have and where they live and who their parents are and what they what we do when we get together. You didn't ask? That's your problem. So open up the doors of communication for your children, open up those doors, open them now before it's too late. really opened them now before it's too late. Too many of our children have rebelled from their homes. Too many of our daughters have run away with boyfriends, too many, too many. And I know it's
ugly to hear, but it's not reality, we have to face it. Too many of our sons have illicit relationships. You know, this is this is a sick reality. We have to deal with this. And we can't just cry about it, we have to deal with it. So this is the first thing open up the doors of communication with your children. The second thing for your teenage children. I give you the example of yaku Valenzuela, we said he's a wonderful father. This is this his son's doing something really messed up.
They what do they do you remember?
We took his son kidnapped him, dropped them in a ditch in the middle of the woods, and came back with a shirt with false blood on it. Did he know they're lying? Okay, so now, here's a situation. There's some young sons. Here's a father, the father knows they did something horribly wrong, horribly wrong. Does he say us scum? You better go back and get that. Do you find any of that? What do you find? Are some bruun jahmene?
When I hear that response, I see what kind of that is? Why did he yell at them? Why didn't he? You know, you know why? Because he's an ingenious father, a father, who really takes care of parenting knows, what is the age to advise your children? And what is the age when they have become independent when no matter what I tell them? They're not going to listen? A father knows. So there's an age where the only thing you can do is what? sovereigns I mean, there's an age that comes with all that's left to sovereigns. I mean, that's it, that's all you can do. Because now the ship has sailed, they're on their own, they're on their own. So your job is before they get to that point.
Now, if they've gotten to that point, if you have teenage kids, then the best you can do is try to introduce them to a better company, to try to, you know, first of all, you know, give life to the youth groups. At the massage, I don't care what problems they have still give them life. And my advice to youth groups in general, is keep the boys and girls separate. have two separate youth groups. Don't combine them because you're asking for trouble. If you're a teenage boy or girl living in this society, then you have been exposed to enough shameless bombardment of media, that those ideas are constantly running in your mind. And when you get a bunch of 15 1617 year old Muslim boys
and girls together, and they're having an Islamic Islamic program, please, please, let's be realistic. That's not a good idea. There are there's no way a teenage boy can tell me nothing crossed my mind this whole event. There's no way. There's no way you know how you were when you were 16 and 17. So don't don't think your children are any different. So my advice to youth groups is separate the boys and girls. And I don't care what youth group it is, well, like, I don't care if it's mass youth, or it's crested youth, or it's wire or some other youth group you guys started or it's an MSA, whatever it may be supported. Help it out. Instead of telling me what problems they
have. You have more problems. Don't tell me what problems they have. Tell me. How can you make them better? How can you support them? How can you live in them? Because these are the refuge for your children. your children, your teenage kids are not going to go listen to a shave. They're not the vast majority of teenage Muslim teenager wouldn't even listen to me. You think they listen to me? Just because I don't have an accent? No. They're not gonna listen to me. They see this they run
their own. That's the reality Google they talk to other kids their age. youth groups are the lifeline of Islamic Dawa to our youth. There's a lifeline if we don't support them. We're losing it.
We're gonna it doesn't matter who the man is, it doesn't matter how big the machete is, no matter what color carpet finally won in the board meeting, it does none of that matters. None of that matters. What will the only thing that will matter is, do we have a vehicle by which we're bringing the youth back in to ascend what they're bringing back into the machine. And then the next advice, piece of advice for community centers, Islamic centers all over the country. And these are my father's and my uncles. These are my elders, my respected you know, elders, that I love for the sake of Allah because of the time and the effort they put into building and maintaining these massages.
But my sincere advice is a bigger problem than getting an Imam for the machine is getting the youth director for the machine. A brother, youth director for the brothers and a sister youth director for the sisters, this is critical in our time, more than any man, you know, you get any man you say he's a father or his Island or you move the reason which day he's got a degree in. Is this another the other? He comes in and tells you something about his opinion? And, and guess what most of the community does? I don't like his opinions. I'm gonna go find another opinion on Google. Why did you hire him with a huge resume when you're not gonna listen to?
Right? It's, it's demented, how we become, we're not facing reality. Youth directories are far more important. young brothers, young sisters in your own community Houston's Mashallah hotbed of like energetic, really, really great potential youth. So you take a bunch of you, you take a bunch of sisters that are studying Islam, a bunch of brothers, you say the one or two of them will pay your college tuition will take care of your college tuition, you become the youth director full time for our machine, you make sure a program is being done every week, you make sure that we you take the kids out for some basketball or ice cream or a trip to the beach or whatever, our overnight or
whatever, every week, something's going on every two weeks, something's going on, you take care of that we'll take care of you. Because you're taking care of the children of our community. You have to think like this, we have to invest in people now. We have to invest in people. And there is no shortage of remarkable youth in Houston.
And I mean, there's a shortage in other communities. I look around the machine. I don't see any young people here I shall live. There's great potential in the youth among the brothers and sisters. So capitalize on it, get over your your debates, whether it's 830, or 20, throw away, your children don't care. That's a bigger problem. We can worry about those problems. When times are good. These aren't good times. So whether it is Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday, it doesn't matter. Our children are more important. They're more important. What are the guys heavier shaffir, Maliki or whatever you think he is. That's less important right now. Our children are more important
right now. Let's prioritize, let's be really have the right priorities. If we don't take care of our children, these debates will die with us and the next debates that are coming, if we don't take care of our children, as anybody heard of ishod Manji.
Right. There's 100,000 new challenges brewing. Right? When we don't take care of this level of our next generation, that's what happens. That's what's next. They're not just going to be in CNN, they're gonna be board members at massagin. If we don't take care of business now, think ahead. Think ahead. I was telling you in the in the in the hopper of the churches in New York City that didn't think ahead and what are they turned into now? There are nightclubs, churches turned into nightclubs in the heart of New York City, one of the oldest Catholic communities in the country. And still, that's that's what ended up happening with them. So on the other hand, you have the Maasai I
met this brother lolani. When I met him, I just I went in a corner and I cried, I just cried. I met him in Las Vegas. And I was in Las Vegas for the Quran conference, don't get any ideas. Okay. So this is a few years ago, I was at a client conference. And there was this, this elderly fellow, he's about 80, some years old, he and his wife, you know, a white couple, blonde, you know, blue eyes really light skinned. They're sitting next to each other at the salon conference, and I'm sitting there. I was curious where they came from. So I went over and I said, you know, how are you doing Somali Casa Monica salon? So I was already surprised Muslims. Mashallah. So we started talking to
them. And they said, Yeah, well, what happened was, you know, he told me his name, I forget his name, but some Russian or some kind of Slavic descent. But his great grandfather was actually a Muslim.
And he, their family came to the United States some 150 years ago. And in two generations, they lost Islam. Right. And then they were raised as just another Christian family. And, and he was doing research on his family tree. So he dug up some stuff in his attic, and found out that his great grandfather was actually a scholar of Islam.
And then he started looking into Islam. And he found truth in it and took the Shahada, reviving his great grandfather's tradition, and his wife came to Islam to and then they live in Massachusetts somewhere. So they decide they're going to buy a Humvee and they're going to travel the entire country stopping it every month, should they find
So how long they were in Vegas at that point. So however, but you know, a lot guided these people had written that for them. But you know, that album that came, who came to the US? Do you think he intended a shoulder loser slam one day? He didn't. And he didn't think that was a problem. Maybe just like we think it's not, you're making a big deal out of nothing. If you could just see 50 years in advance, if you could just see 50 years in advance. So the last thing I want to share with you inshallah, and we'll open it up to some discussion we can have together, they've been is a social statistic. This social statistic was conducted by sociologists about the Orthodox Jewish community,
in the East Coast of the United States. You know, in New York and other places like Massachusetts, the Jewish community, Orthodox Jewish community is very strong, right? Some parts of Brooklyn, you feel like you're running in Tel Aviv, right, that's how it feels. So now that strong use with the sociological analysis was in 60 years, there will be no Hasidic Jews in New York,
and 60 years, a long time. And they're far more organized than we are. And they're far more infrastructure and yeshiva Institute. Instead, I used to live in Forest Hills. And in a 12 1213, block Street, there's like six synagogues, very organized. And they're very, they have infrastructure, right? And the claim is, they're losing their youth. And in 60 years, there won't be any left. They're gonna lose their orthodoxy, their traditional Judaism, they're gonna lose it in this country. That's the claim that's being made.
And that's the community as much older than we are, and much more organized than we are much better funded than we are because revised not a problem. Right. But on our sites of handling, we have much less resources, we only have to work in a law. Again, I started with it, I ended with it. Don't underestimate the power of the law. Do not underestimate the power of the law, we have to now start thinking big bigger, we have to start thinking how do we solve this problem? How do we connect to our children? How do we open the doors of the massage to make the children a better place of the people that are going to be watching this on video in child law, if you're, if your machine does not
have a basketball court, get a basketball court, a professional one, raise the funds for that first before the chandelier, the chandelier can wait. And we have most of the time anyway, because you're gonna wind and it causes too much electricity bills. So don't worry about the chandelier. worry more about the basketball court, worry more about the soccer field, worry more about the sports facilities that the kids can come hang out with. And even if they don't come and pray, if they're just here, it's better than than being at the club. So let's be realistic, right. And for the girls, you know, have lounges or places the girls can hang out at the machine where they can just be by
themselves. And they can just do their homework there. Talk to other Muslim girls there. So they're not at the mall. So they're not hanging out with non Muslim girls, they have a safe refuge at the masjid. You have to start thinking like this because this is America, we need refuge. This is not Pakistan, because back then you would never think of you know, somewhere to play at the machine of stackable love. How can that be here? We have to draw them in. We have to if we don't, where they're going to go, where are they going to go? So we have to start thinking inshallah Allah along these lines, we are larger which will make all of us sincere in our efforts, may Allah will reward us for
whatever little we get done will protect us and especially our youth and our future generations, that they may become ambassadors of this Deen in this land and make this a permanent fixture make this land the land of Islam when the time comes, and Siobhan Tada. So panic a lot more behind the ignition and start to relate inshallah Allah. If anybody has any comments or questions I'd like to I don't know if I have the answers for you. But I'd like to open it up for you guys. And Shawn, what's your clinical gratitude?
Like I said, awesome.
Well, I don't say 10 separate schools, actually. But the rest of it. I did say
it's just isolating.
No, it's not. I disagree. I'll tell you why. I'll tell you why I disagree. The issue is, you know, unless you have separate youth groups, are we isolating them? You know, look, there's no isolating you from America. You're here. And there's there's no way a child is not exposed to American culture. That's impossible. But at a certain age, children are more susceptible to certain temptations before they reach certain maturity. They're more susceptible to danger than other ages. Teenagers are very emotional, hot blooded. They give in to temptation very quickly, right? They get angry quickly. They get seduced quickly. They get excited quickly, right. Everything happens very,
very fast. This is the age where they're volatile. So we need to be set they have you need to handle them with care, is what I'm suggesting. When they reach a certain age, then of course they have to be out in the real world.
But if we took care of business at a certain age, then they should be responsible on their own. You can't You can't shelter them their whole life. But at a certain age, we need to guard them. There's this Western mentality of or not even Western, it's a non Muslim mentality. It's not a Western thing. Let's the kids figure things out by themselves. They're smart enough, that's retarded. That's, I mean, really let kids figure out what things on their own. Have you seen what's out there? What the kids are up to support a lot, you know, so So on the one hand, it's not i'm not saying that we turn this into like, you know, downtown hairballs or something. But what I am saying is, genders
need to be separated for certain things. Facebook, my problem with it is it's completely redrawn the lines of hire.
So Muslim guys are getting on Facebook, and then some other girl from their MSA is also on their phone sends a message can I be your friend already? This is very inappropriate. lantis Click Yes to isn't it. So now she's your friend, cuz they're on the MSA together. And now he's staring at her picture for five minutes.
Nobody knows. It's on his laptop. Nobody knows. Right? I've seen this happen. I've seen guys, you know, they do these brothers from the MSA. They'll go to the laptop, they'll hit up Facebook or MySpace or whatever. And then they'll look stare at pictures of Muslim girls. Oh, she's cute.
That would be my friend. That would be my friend.
They're doing this. You know, and then we're saying over isolating. Let's take a step back here. Let's Let's be a little realistic. I mean, I you know, there are two extremes in our in our community now, one that says let's turn this into something. Let's turn America into something it's not. And on the other Let's forget everything about Islam and America. That's all it's all good. Let's just let's find a balance here. You know, so in general, that's at least that's what I'm suggesting.
Thanks for highlighting the problem. one more problem. We are self.
We are by self responsible. I don't know what that means. Because only a couple of people who have not dish at home, or like dish like DISH TV mean. Okay, I guess mostly people have dish and even their kids room?
They they're watching Indian movies if they're Indian, I suppose.
Yeah. See? Yeah. So this is this is actually a really serious problem. Control of media intake. There are some, there's some works by Christian groups. Look, I'm a realist. I'm not going to tell you movies, watching movies is head on and listen to music is wrong. And you've heard this enough times already, and has haven't changed anything. So let's talk about it from a realistic point of view. Okay. The realistic point of view is this. There are some Christian groups who have the same concerns as we do.
They, they're concerned that their children are watching sexual content in certain movies, and that they're, they're exposed to explicit material, etc. And they've actually started developing programs, like for example, there's a program called I think, I don't know if it's still around, it's called clean flicks. Right, there's a Christian group had developed it, which is basically movies that come out in theaters and stuff. They take all the filthy language out and the filthy scenes out, and they cut them out, and they make DVDs. The Clean, relatively clean version of that movie. Right. Now, this is what they're doing is that Christians are not even most of their
Christians. They're that realistic about this stuff. And I'm not saying endorsed clean flicks. But I am saying our kids are watching stuff that they really shouldn't be watching. at a younger age. My suggestion is this at least something I do personally, it may or may not work for you, our children, our children, we, we, my wife and I, we we get videos from the public library, like you know, Dora episodes, or, you know, Borneo for the younger kids, or, or even cartoons from older times nowadays are pretty disgusting. But older cartoons. We watched them the night before for censorship. And if they're okay, then they can watch that DVD next day on Sesame Street or whatever. We don't let them
watch live TV. We don't because we don't know what's gonna come on in the next second. We just you just don't know. Right? You have a question or something?
Just a comment. Okay.
Comment on the Facebook.
group. They have one.
Yeah, this is a national problem now.
Yes, it is.
Yes, this is true.
Yeah, no, this is I mean, actually there. There are a few cases. There are a few cases like that even within the Muslim community. I know of cases. I know of cases. But see, that's the thing. We need to raise awareness of this issue. And then you know how law says what are our new eligibility what's taqwa? We're not.
Right. And then a law calls us to cooperate with the People of the Book. Not
nakida we are there's some concerns we share with them.
There are. And in those things, this is a golden opportunity for Dawa. If we come up with solutions for youth, the problems in America, the problems our youth have are not Muslim problems. They're American problems. So the solutions we have to offer are not just solutions for us, what is solutions for everybody? So this is a meet this is a doorway into the church, into the synagogue to give Dawa to them and look at the solutions we have. Right? This is actually a doorway to that solutions to marital problems. The Sunnah has the solutions to marital problems that no other religion has, they don't have what we have. So I mean, even sharing this with the people of the book
as a means of Dawa to them, and this you have to start thinking along these terms. inshallah, you had a comment, I don't know how we can get to the sisters to have any questions or comments. I guess they could pass them in writing or something, and then make a paper plane and then shoot it over. inshallah and then we could try to catch it. Okay.
This is my my suggestion. I said, one of the key jobs, job openings in the Muslim community is one,
your directors is the second key job opening.
psychotherapists, psychologists, Muslim, social workers,
Muslim period, female pediatricians and male pediatricians that can give a health class to Muslim kids at the masjid
instead of taking them taking a health class at high school, or at the documentary that they're going to watch their, that they get it from the Muslims themselves in a proper fashion, right? This is absolutely critical. It's absolutely critical. We don't have these resources right now. Now there are people that are doing this, but they're kind of doing it on their own. And the massages are doing their thing, and they're doing their thing. We need to find these people and we need to support them, we need to help them out. Because they're doing our work for us. They really are. So these are the openings that we need to create. The I don't know, you may find my comments
controversial a lot. And what I have to say what I'm convinced, you don't have to take it. In my opinion, just because someone has a degree in Sharia does not mean they know how to deal with a teenager. Nor does it doesn't mean that they know how to deal with somebody's family problems. memorizing a bunch of bodies, does that mean you're a counselor, counseling is something else. Something else, the best form is when you have a scholar of Islam, who is also a counselor, but just becoming a scholar of Islam doesn't necessarily turn you into a counselor doesn't necessarily make you capable of dealing with people's problems, to the point where it may even be the case that
you're an Imam, and you're a scholar, but you have people problems in your own family that happens to that happens to why does it happen? Because we don't we're not looking for those qualifications. Right that we have, we have we have this problem of interaction with people. And it's not it's a certain kind of Ireland that we need Ireland that can deal with the family problems of the community. Right, this is what we this is the need of the hour. So are on Omar, one of the things they need to do for as a service to the oma is they need to study psychology, they need to study, you know, families, family counseling, they need to become certified counselors, in addition to
being mollema. So they can bring these two things together, their knowledge of Quran and Sunnah, and knowledge of how to deal with these kinds of things. Right? This is this is absolutely critical. This is absolutely critical. And it's not happening for the most part. Very few things that are you know, there are a handful of automatic that our psychologists have, I can count them maybe maybe on one hand in the country, nobody Islamic centers we haven't the country, and how many people that are to talk and just one thing just to give some perspective, the projects that are going on that we should support, in my opinion, let's see how projects. Remember this phrase, let's see how project.
Okay, this is a group out of Canada, this started an 800 number that you can that youth can call if they're having problems anonymous 800 hotline for Muslim youth that are having problems, they want to talk to somebody, right. So they started this hotline. It started about an almost a year ago and they put a documentary out after the first month of operation. In the first month. They got 20,000 phone calls in the first month. And they took statistics on the phone calls. They got like this percent, like it was like 27% we're talking about, you know, having relationships with a boy or a girl without their parents knowing some other like 30% were talking about drug abuse. Some were
talking about family abuse, so like, like 15 16% of the calls they got were about suicidal teens, suicidal Muslim teens. You know
These now we know and feel bad to hear, but at least we know, we know what you know what's out there. So projects like that need to be funded, we need to support them. Because this is this is the stuff we need, you know, and I'm embarrassed that happened in Canada should have happened here first, we should have come up with that first. But if it's there, we should support it. So, you know, this is this is what needs to be done, how do we help you? You know, so this is I think the direction the community has to now take our heads need to come together, when this is a common concern. And I shared this with you because you know, Muslims come from all different parts of the
world into the country, or every machine is so cosmopolitan, we have so many different backgrounds and thought processes and agendas, etc. Everybody's got their own agenda in the machine. But this is one agenda we can all agree on. What do we do with our kids? That's one agenda nobody will disagree with. So let's unify ourselves on this one agenda, the legacy of Ibrahim alayhis salam, what better agenda to unify on and the massage that I've done that whose primary concern is taking care of the needs of the youth or massage where the communities are flourishing, they're doing really, really well. You know, so inshallah Allah, May Allah give that ability to all of our massages and help
solve some of these problems for us. The evening panel time.
All right. Okay, last one.
Okay, depends on their age. What do you do about children who are good in front of you, and bad behind you know, who their friends are, number one, know where who their friends are, who their parents are, where they live, go to their house, be friends with their parents. Parents should know their friends, friend's parents. Why? Because if they're getting together and getting in trouble, who's gonna gang up on them? All the parents together?
That needs to happen. If you're if your children know that my dad knows your dad, then there'll be more in line. relativity more. It's not a failsafe, but it's relatively more in check. Because they can, they can tell you small stories about oh, we were over there, his dad knows well, I know his dad, and you weren't there. Right? So you see what I'm saying. So this is absolutely critical, we need to know the parents of our children's friends, this is absolutely critical. Okay, this is the first thing. The second thing is a when it comes to our children acting a certain way with us. And another way with with with others, it really in the end boils down to who their friends are. And
this is a hadith I didn't share with you, but it's at the center of this problem. And not Allah de
a person depends on the religion of their friend,
a person depends on the religion of their friend, then watch out who you make friends with. So in other words, by extension, watch out who your kids make friends with, watch out. Because your friends, your kids will do good things or bad things depending on what who their friends are, who their friends are. So that's your primary concern. That's why I say give them a good life. So their friends are at the youth group at the machine, and you know, all of their parents, this is your refuge start here. This is the best place to start.
Could you make it a complete sentence? So I know what you're saying?
Yes, we do. Absolutely. We should know why Muslim kids are more messed up than non Muslim kids sometimes.
So just because you're you know, your friends, your boyfriend, is, you know, Kareem, that doesn't mean that he's a great kid. You know, I'm looking pretty jacked up. You can you know, you could be you know, so I'm gonna take one last written question, and then we can talk personally, inshallah I'm around, but my throat can take much more. Okay. Rather, somebody can please ask the parents to be with
with the times or be with the times and should be concerned with what's going on in the kid's life? I thought I did.
I saw missed
guys with shorts. On Facebook.
None of not. I can't read your none of the mothers probably know about it. Oh, because they think they have joined the Muslim program. This is just to let you know, the state of affairs of Muslim youth. Yeah. You know, maybe you could knock on mist or whatever. But at least those kids showed optimist.
That's how I look at it.
Really, because if they didn't show optimist, guess what else they could be they could be doing. So instead of criticizing a mist, get involved with mist, fix it up. So write letters to mist and say this is what I think the problem is, and this is how I think I can help. Don't just have one problem. And this is not just a Mrs. Matthews, Lyon, Ms or whatever it is. Whatever program is going on. Don't just tell me
what your problems are help. These are Muslim organizations, volunteers, these are not endless resources they're doing