Nadim Bashir – The Etiquettes of Social Media

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The importance of learning the meaning "has" in the Quran and the use of "has" in shaping Islam to be a comprehensive religion is emphasized. The use of media and social media to facilitate interactions is emphasized, along with the importance of practicing etiquette and not spreading false information. The speakers also emphasize the need to practice etiquette and be flexible in social media. The need for teaching children to use it when needed is emphasized, and a new curriculum for children to learn about is also mentioned.
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Bismillah R Rahman Rahim in hamdulillah Muhammad who want to start you know who want to start. When are all the humans surely and phocoena woman say yet ah Marina, Mejia the healer who for them will the Lilla woman you'll for her Have you ever wanted to do Allah? Allah Allah? Allah should eCola when I should do I know Mohammed and I will do what a Zulu I'm about

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for the correlo to vertical with our left mochila for quite Hamid, but I will be learning mishit one rajim Bismillah Al Rahman Rahim, Jonas the ORA Bakula the Halacha minasi Wahida wahala common Huzzah. Jaha what was the main humeri jeden cathedral when he says What's up Hola. Hola Rita. Certainly you are harming Allah cannot equal nakivo Walk Allah to Allah. Yeah, you hola Dina. I'm an otaku. Haka. Takata. He would like to move to LA Antimo Simone, because it's either Yeah, you're Latina amla. Taku. Our Guru Conan said Either you're like oh my American way of feeling that comes from my new thriller or Sudha forgot the first if I was an all the Masonic Allahu La theme for us to

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call Hadith eatable law. Well, how do you how do you Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, why should I tell her Welcome to the team? Will it be the art in Bala we're collaborating for now I'm about

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we begin by praising Allah subhanho wa Taala and thinking ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada for all the near misses and blessings that He has given us. Whether we are aware or unaware of them, and we begin our by sending our Peace and blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make us for to make it to get to give us the ability to remain steadfast upon the on the deen of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam May Allah subhana wa subhanho wa Taala grant us his companionship in Jeddah for those of Allah along with our families, Ameer Abdullah Al Amin, brothers and sisters, the Quran indeed was revealed 1400 years ago. And there is no doubt in

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the fact that no matter what time and what era we are living in, the Quran is a is a guy a means of guidance for all of us anything or any situation we that we come across, that there may not be exactly something mentioned in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but yet for guidance purposes will always go back to the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and therefore Islam becomes a very comprehensive religion. And this is why the Quran says in sort of Nahan that what Zilla alagille kita but to be, yeah, and then equally shade. Well, who then well, Rama 10 What Bashar in Muslimeen Allah subhanho wa Taala says that we

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have revealed the book of what we have revealed his book, and what exactly is this book? To be? Yeah, and then equally, che a clarifies all matters. And not only that, well, well, who then it is a means of guidance. Well, Bush, what is a means of mercy? Well wish it all in Muslimeen and is a means of glad tidings and a source of good news for the believers. How so? Because whatever situation we find ourselves in, we will find some solution or some story in the Quran that will bring us some consolation. Brothers and sisters, one thing that we find is that no matter whether the matter is a worldly or religious matter, whether it is a classical or modern issue, we'll find

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something in the Quran. And there is a lot of o'clock and I dive in Atticus, they're also mentioned in the Quran. And this is something that we all need to learn that before our deen comes out a lot in our IDEV in our manners, with a Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, Boy, a stoolie or Tima Makati with a crop I have been sent to perfect character. Before even the province as salam became a prophet, he had a character which means is that we can do everything that we want when it comes to religion. We can be the most pious person we can be the person coming to the masjid, every single day. We can be giving so much sadaqa but if the key thing in our life which is character and

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elegance do not exist in our life will lie we are Muharram and we are deprived.

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Today there is one thing I do want to really stress upon in my hotbar today, first of all, Allah subhanho wa Taala he talks about the importance of communication, that when we say something, everything is recorded. Allah subhanho wa Taala Surah cough he says is Yet Allah Allah, Allah Metallica Yanni, meaning Why Is she mad he carried, he says the one the two receivers receive me that when they hear when they receive some

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thing see the on the right in the left man says the man these are two they're sitting there. Allah says my yell Philomena Colin Elana day he rocky when it is a man does not matter any word except that with him there is an observed it there's an observer prepared mean that everything that you and I we say brothers and sisters, it is written and it is documented. Not only that Allah subhanho wa Taala he tells us that an ayah that we hear every single Juma every single hotbar Juma is your holiday in Allah wa Kulu Onan sadita. What does

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that mean? It means in brief, saying something that can help a situation, not saying something that can aggravate someone not saying something that will that will, that will create a bigger problem, but to say something that will bring peace to other people. And not only that, but there is a Hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam narrated by Bilal al Hadi for the waterline and wasn't he that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, a man speaks a good word without knowing what is the value of his good word. And then he says Ana, he's Salam, Allah recourse for Him in His good pleasure, till the day that he meets him, me that ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala we want writes a reward for

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him. And he writes that He is pleased with him, to the day comes that he meets this man. And on the other hand, there is a person

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who says something and they say something wrong. They say something of that is considered as an evil word. And they think that what they have said has no value. They think there are no consequences. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, The Allah records for him his displeasure to the day comes, that he meets Allah subhanho wa taala. So this is why these few ayat and this hadith Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaches us something very simple, very important. Everything that we say there is it is being recorded. Everything that you and I, we say it has been documented, everything that you and I, we say Allah is aware of it. But then here comes a complication. And this

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is where I want to get in my hotbar. Brothers and sisters, just like there are rules when it comes to the spoken word. Just like there are rules when it comes to us talking and communicating with each other. Today, there is another means of communication, there is another means of communication that you and I, we use, and that is writing, whether it's writing, whether it's posting, whether it's texting, whether it's anything, but when it comes to, especially social media, a lot of times what we don't realize is that when it comes to talking, we observe the etiquettes, we observe the add up. But when it comes to writing, we don't observe these add up writing is a means of

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communication, just like talking is a means of communication, hence, and therefore what we learn is that just like there are our job of talking to one another, the same rules, the same ad that will also apply to social media. There are not two different things that are the same exact thing. And this is where this is the time that we are living in that in more than talking actually. We communicate with each other through social media, whether it's Facebook, whether it's Instagram, whether it's WhatsApp or any other or Twitter or any other means of communication. This is why today I want to take this opportunity to talk about this. We honestly may think we honestly may think that

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this is something simple. Why do we need to have a football on this, but you we will learn and you will be shocked that when it comes to social media with Allah, He many of us are deprived of the etiquettes of social media, the world that we live in, yes, people are talking, people are communicating, but we lacked the other. First of all I do want to mention when it comes to social media, is that not all social media is bad either. I don't want to give this vibe to anyone in this hotbar that social media is completely evil. It is completely wrong. No, it comes down to how the person who uses social media, there are some people who use social media to gain more knowledge.

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There are people who use social media to connect with friends and family members and classmates and people of their past that they have never been able to connect with. Social media has also been used when it comes to making aware making people aware of certain things that are going on around the entire world. Just imagine we know the situations are going on the world news that is going on. Imagine if we were living 1015 years back when social media was not so much relevant in our societies in our lives. How would we know about

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What is going on the crimes of people that need to be clear in front of people, the issues are going on. All these good things are happening through social media, and through social media, we are able to find out what certain Islamic organizations are doing is suddenly organizations are able to share the good that they're doing with the entire community and the entire society. So really, when it comes to social media, it really comes down to how you use it, you can either use it in a positive way, or you can use it in a wrong way. If you use it in a positive way, then we will inshallah benefit, if we use it the wrong way, then there is no one to blame but ourselves, and we will suffer

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the consequences. If I use social media the wrong way, then there will be consequences. Of course,

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while social media is the main platform in this day and age to communicate, and to share and connect, there are some things that social media are not. And there are some things that should never be done on social media. First thing is I do want to mention that social media is not the qualifications of any person or any individual. Today, when it comes to Islamic knowledge, when it comes to Islamic scholarship, not necessarily in all cases, does the views of a person or the followers, the amount of followers of a person mean that they are a proper Islamic scholar? Yes, there are genuine Islamic scholars, where they have a large following. They have people who listen

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to them, there are so many 1000s and 1000s of views. Yes, there are proper legitimate scholars. But today, you and I are under this impression that if they have a huge following, and there are a lot of views, that this is a sign of their qualification. This is a sign of their scholarship. Brothers and sisters, social media is not a place to gain our Islamic knowledge. And I want to clarify when I say this, they Yes, there are things that we will learn Islamically online, there are some times you know, snippets, there are some short videos that we see. And they are they increase our iman, They boosted our our iman, there's nothing wrong with that. But if we think that people who are on social

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media, we can identify the scholarship based on views and followers. This is not what social media is about. If we truly want to learn our own Dean, our dean has taught us there's one way of doing that. And that is going to the proper Allama, the proper scholars, those who have given their life for this deen and going and learning from them. The second thing that we need to learn when it comes to social media, is that while there is we are living in an era of fake news, okay, and I'm not using fake news in the context of the President, because everything that is against him, he calls it fake news, I actually genuinely mean that there are a lot of things online that we find that are not

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actually true. And while we have to deal with that, there is another issue that we are dealing with. And that is, you know, wrong. fatawa has a wrong Islamic information that we find online. What's important to understand is that we have to contend with all this that is going on, but that we have to contend with all the Islamic, you know, some information that is circulating in our communities. Once again, I urge you, and I urge everyone, including myself, that when things come to you, especially via WhatsApp, because we have a habit, that anything good that we see, we may not know the source, we may not know where it's coming from, we may not know that sometimes something is

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written now and it says that this is what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, whereas it is not a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and you and I, we simply forward it to others without verifying it. First of all, any kind of news that we share without looking into it. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says in a hadith, that it is sufficient, confirming Murray Caliban, and you heard this as we call him as semi that everything that you hear and everything that you see, and you simply just share with others without knowing it is the province of someone saying that it is sufficient to call that person a liar, because they're not simply

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verifying what they're hearing. But on top of that, when we share with others, and we are telling others that this is a Hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I remind myself and everyone here, a very war, a very stern warning of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he says that anyone who attributes a lie to me fun yet about what? Goofy now, can you just imagine the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a man who is filled with mercy

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A man who loved his Alma, yet he's making this very, very clear that anyone who attributes a lie to him, he shall reserve for himself a place in the fire Johanna a very stern warning by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this is why everything that we come across brothers and sisters, please verify you're not forwarded to anyone else. And even this not only that, but we find also in the Quran, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the story of the man when the Prophet saw some sent him to a tribe to go and collect the Zakat money. When the man went to the tribe, and the people of the tribe came out to welcome Him. He thought that they came out to attack him, or they

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were going to be confrontational to him. And he came back running to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he informed the province of Salah that I went to this tribe to collect your Zakat, and they came out possibly to attack me and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was about to he was thinking what to do in that kind of situation. When Allah subhanho wa taala, he sent down an idea to the Prophet alayhi salam saying, Yeah, you and Nadine Manu in Jah confer sequin, be B never, in fact, have a yes or no. Oh, people are Muslims, when someone comes to you with some news, and the news may not be true, it may or may not be true, that Allah subhanho wa Taala is instructing us he

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says fatter buy your new look into it, inquire into it investigate, is this something actually yes or no? This is what is this the person who sent you this message? Is this what they're exactly trying to say or not. So this is something very important that we must do when it comes to social media. Another thing that we truly need to do and this is what Allah he this is what I've seen so many times. And I have to say this to what I've seen in this last one week, where I've seen in this one last week.

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The lack of respect

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when it comes to attacking someone's honor and dignity. Remember brother and sister I said earlier the fatwa.

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Just like we apply these rules and these etiquettes when it comes to communication and talking to each other, the same rules apply when it comes to writing about other people to the same rules apply when it comes to writing against someone.

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You disagree with someone you disagree with what is going on, you have a right to give your opinion. But that does not mean that you can be disrespectful.

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It doesn't mean that you can attack a person. There is no room in our deen for this.

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And you cannot justify it. No one can justify it.

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If a person says yes, I did cross a line, but because there was a certain reason. I'm sorry that's not justified.

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When it comes to respecting each other Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says that the worst type of usury is to is to one to attack the honor in the dignity of another Muslim. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says and Muslim women Solomon Muslim Munna Millison he was ready. I must say Muslim is that a person that other people, other people, other Muslims are safeguarded by the misuse of their tongue and misuse of their hands. So today when you and I when we get online, and when we disagree with someone who said earlier, first of all is I would tell honestly, everyone here, go back to the Quran. Go back to the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam go back

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to the story of Omaha Bob when he was when he had to confront an ignorant person when someone acts with you in an ignorant way. My honest advice to you would be is walk away with either hot or humid Joe he's gonna fall Oussama

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there are a lot of people online who have Wallah you know etiquettes they have no add up, they have no filter. They will say things in the most vile manner that you can possibly imagine. And yet when they come in front of you, they will have a big smile on their face. But behind the screen, they will say things where is that honor? Where is that respect that we need to have for one another.

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When it comes to certain matters that require dialogue.

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You see a person that they have posted something you see someone who has said something on social media. It is a it may be a valid opinion. You may disagree with it. Yes, you have an opinion. We all are entitled to our opinion. But that does not mean that in that

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situation you try to get into a dialogue. There are certain matters brothers and sisters, that cannot be discussed on social media. There are certain things that is not healthy to discuss on social media, it is better that you go to the right person is better that you go to the person and you talk to them about the situation itself. Rather than then blasting a person online. Rather than saying something negative about them, or something crosses the limit and saying something about their families online. You rather go to the person and talk to the person, or rather go to the right people and talk to them. Where is the hikma? We see something in our society, it is appropriate that

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you go on social media, and you bring up this matter. Rather go to that person, go to the person who's in charge, go to the people in the community who are considered as leaders and talk to them about it, rather than going online and saying things that we may not even have the full picture of. We don't ever find. We don't ever find the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, even though yes, there were times when Sahaba disagreed with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam Nope. Back to the story of the Battle of battle. After the Battle of Obamacare. The province of Salem is consulting with Alberta in honor of Yolanda and Houma, Albuquerque size with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam. Omar never sided with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he disagreed with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet SAW Salem. He never was disrespectful to him. There were times when the Sahaba disagree with the Prophet SAW Salem, go to the story of how they BIA when the Sahaba were not on board with signing the treaty of Arabia. But the Prophet SAW Allah while he was sending them he had his own. He had his own heckler. He had his wisdom. He had a connection with Allah subhanho wa taala. He knew exactly what he was doing. He did exactly what he had to do the Sahaba they may have disagreed with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but they never

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disrespected Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam? Can we disagree with one another? Yes, indeed, we can always disagree with one another. But there is no place where we cross a line. And we are disrespectful towards one another.

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Another etiquette of social media

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is that when it comes to near Muslim blessings, Allah subhanaw taala has given you and I, the very first thing that we feel like that we feel obligated to do is that we have to put on social media. Just imagine, you go to a restaurant, you go somewhere, and you're sitting in front of a, a plate of food. And you take a picture of it and you post it everywhere. Once again, I'm not saying it is haram don't don't take that I cannot make somebody that's haram. But just think about this. Where is our where is the sympathy in this empathy of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this idea that we have to think about others too. When you post something like this, imagine there's a person who

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has nothing to eat. Imagine there's a person who has not had a good a good meal of food in a while. And they see these kinds of things. Yes, you may say to yourself, Well, if he cannot be thankful to Allah, that's his problem. But now at the same time, we have to also be considerate, and we have to also be careful of what we post online. You don't have to post your entire life online. When there is some happiness with you. There is some happiness with your family. Yes, time to time, you can share something. But there are people in our community, every single time every single thing happens in their life. They're posting every single thing on social media. Remember that there is something

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called a lying when you post something over and over again, then someone could be could be jealous about you. Someone could have this negative eye on you. This is why it's very important. Yes, total time you want to say something, you want to post something 100 Allah, Allah has blessed you with something you want to share that I understand. But you don't have to post your entire life on social media.

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And lastly, I will say as I talked about this very briefly before, that not every single problem has to be solved online.

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If you see an issue, there are times when I see people who want to get into a long debate and said, Go back to the person, go talk to the person. There are times when we disrespect, go back to the person. There are times when there are times when people are sitting behind social media, with different names and different aliases attacking each other. This is not right. We have to learn how to communicate with each other. We have to learn these kinds of others. If our if we are behaving this way online, if we're behaving this way on social media, and we have no Hikmah I mean at times, we are so smart Alhamdulillah when it comes to social media

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Yeah, for some reason, we just you know, we do things the wrong way. When we get to social media remember talking and communicating in these ways they're the same exact way. We have to apply the added etiquettes ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala that whatever we do online, whatever, whatever our interaction is online, may Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the ability to do it the right way. May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us Hikmah May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us wisdom May Allah subhana wa Taala give us the ability to differentiate between what is right and what is wrong. May Allah give us ability to give America give us the ability to think before we do things, rather than rather

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than doing things and then thinking May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the ability to do that what is right May Allah subhana wa Taala forgive us for our shortcomings. If we have done everything we have if we have done anything, or we are spreading anything that is not for the Prophet SAW Selim, we ask Allah subhana wa Taala to forgive us into the hole that against us Baraka hola hola Anna welcome him when I find out what you recommended with Hakeem and stuff Lulu How do you welcome when he say Messina festival fiddle in all awful Rahim

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Mr Miller Hanrahan minute 101 who want to start you know when I stopped feeling when I was below him is surely unforeseen. I'm gonna say yeah, Marina, Miyagi Laflamme Avila when when you didn't follow her, the Allah wants to allow you to hate Allah. Why should he? Listen You don't know Mohammed and Abdul what I'm about to call out the baraka Allah for grammar. Jeeva Hamid Dada will be live in Shere Khan or gem. This will never happen Rahim in Allah wa Malaika wa salam ala Nabi Yeah, Latina Musa Lu Ali was able to sneak along with Saudi Allah Muhammad wa ala Ali Mohammed come isolated over Rahim Allah already brought him in the Camila Maji of Attica, Allah Muhammad wa ala Ali Mohammed

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Ibrahim Ali Ali Ibrahim in the cabinet Majeed. I'm about one last thing I do want to advise everyone here

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is that remember that social media is simply just a tool. It is not our life. Go back, go back to your phones. Look at your phones. Look at how much time you You and I we spend on social media mode majority right now America is spending somewhere around eight to 10 hours on social media. There is a third of our day if a person is spending eight hours a day on social media. That's a third of our day. Yes, we sleep a third of a day and we you know if we are on social media for a third of our day, then what's the point of our life? Once again, use it to use it when you need to use it. And not only that, but we need to teach our children also. Yes, our children they love to have their own

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phones. Our children love to create all accounts and all these different social media platforms. But we need to teach our children also use it when you need to use it. Just like the restroom. I'm going to give this example honestly, we don't go and we spend time in our restroom. We use the restroom when we need to use the restroom. We go to social media when we need to go to social media. That's how social media should be used. Not all the time on these kinds of platforms. Ask Allah subhana wa to give all of us ability. Aloha monster is someone with some in Allahumma so if someone was significantly McCann Allama Sona lemon holofcener, Wofford Billa dinner was the whole dinner was

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