GEM #15 How Prophet Muhammad Dealt with the Youth

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Today Inshallah, we're going to talk about how Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam treated and how he dealt, and worked with the youth of the community. And when we talk about the youth, it's not only just the youth I'm talking about in the community, but if we have children, who are of that age, who fall into that category of youth, this is something that we can learn from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, of course, I do have to say that when it comes to many of our youth, it is, you know, you have to understand that the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam also understood their challenges, the fact that sometimes they feel like that they know. And a lot of times, they don't

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know, how many times we talk to children and our own youth, and they feel like and you they act like as if they know everything, okay? When they don't know anything. You know, one is a person does not know and says, I don't know, when a person says when one is a person does not know. And they say I know everything, you know, in Arabic is called Jana mudra cup, it's like layers of Johanna layers of ignorance, okay, like they think they know, but they don't know. And a lot of times, it becomes difficult, because they think that, you know, we know more than the parents, the parents are back, you know, the backward, they've come from the use of living caves, okay. And now they came here to

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America, they don't know anything about America. So hence we know better. And so sometimes they treat their parents is exactly this way. But once again, Rasulullah sallallahu. Some he taught us certain things that inshallah I want to share with you today that how do we work with our youth, and once again, the province has always had a very balanced approach. So Inshallah, just as I will go through five, five important points that we can learn from the life of the prophet Sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. So the first, the very first thing is when it comes to our youth is, especially in this day and age, they are going through many internal battles, including a battle of faith. You

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know, I understand that many parents will say that, well, I will not commit the same sins, as these kids are coming today, or as our youth, they are so much involved in sins, while at the same time, you have to also understand that time was very different a long time ago, the promiscuity, the Bay High. The lack of morality that we see today on social media, and everywhere around us did not exist when many of us were growing up here. So now when we see all this open, and not just that, but now especially living this country, when you talk about a factory shut that is being hidden away. Nowadays, that's one thing, but the factory shot is so open, and it's so inviting towards everyone.

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And nowadays, it's so easy to commit haram and to commit sins. That is why our youth do go through a challenge of faith. By the way for our youth, you're always going to be tested in terms of your faith. Why? Because Allah subhanho wa Taala shares with us and South Africa have that you have a group of young men, they were called towards shidduch. They were to call towards Gopher, and what did they do the escaped from that Cofer from that Sheikh, and they sought refuge in a cave. So the fact that Allah subhanaw taala mentioned a story of young men who sought refuge in a cave to protect her eemaan This is an This in itself is a sign that throughout history, our young men and our young

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women, their Eman will always be put to test. Yes, there are some who will succeed and there are some who will lose their who may lose their faith in that process. But every one will be our test our faith we put to test including this is the desire to commit sins. Now imagine if your child came to you or your teenage son, your teenage daughter came to you and said they want to commit a sin. This happened to us allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the profiling some is sitting you have a young man who came inside the masjid and he says Yara so Allah, I want to commit Zina. Now I want you to ask yourself, this one simple question. Imagine you're sitting inside the masjid and someone comes

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to you and says, I want to come into haram. Okay, first of all, is that before we say anything, you know what will happen?

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Okay, usually that will happen first. Okay. And then we'll call them everything God and AMR and you know, we'll use all the words that exist in our in our language, to to degrade this person. Then we will say that How dare you ask a question like this? What do you Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam do Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he used simple logic with him. Because see, you have to understand Rasulullah saw some did not go into a lecture or a sound did not sit there and say why is in a haram he never went into that lecture. The fact that this person is spiritually compromised at this point that he had so much audacity let me come to the property some and ask him

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permission to commit Zina the Prophet it is I think it's time knows he's already spiritually compromised. Hence, Ross wa sallam in that particular situation. He uses Hikmah he uses wisdom

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And he applied logic in that situation. And he asked him what would you want anyone to come and do that to your sister? Would you want anyone to come and do that with your own with your own daughter? Will this person you're going to commit Zina with is someone else's daughter, it might be the sister or someone else. If you don't like anyone doing that to your family, that you should not be doing that to someone else's family. And we have to understand that next time a situation like this happens. Yes, you can share some idea of the Quran and Hadith, but to pick up something Buhari and throw it at that person says, Read this book, read the Quran read this, this person is already

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spiritually compromised. You see Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam applied immense amount of wisdom in these kinds of situations. This is something that we need to learn from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So next time if there's ever a situation like this, we always try to use some logic, explain it to them, make dua for them at the end, Ross wa salam made dua that Allah clean and purify his heart. So this is one one situation we see from the life of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now we find another situation and how the Prophet SAW Salem once again, you're talking about young men, okay? There's a lot of joy. There's a lot of excitement. A lot of

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times, our young brothers, a young sisters, there's so much excitement in their life, that sometimes they don't see the silver lining of things. So we're talking about the Battle of heart. Okay, let's go into the battle of a heart before the Battle of our heart took place you there are a lot of young Sahaba because of their tender age, they could not participate in butter. Now what happened was that the battle of horde comes around. And now these young men, they're saying now this year, we can go and fight. So now the the Kibana Sahaba, the elder Sahaba see when the property is some because they're older, and they have under in the understanding Hikmah they understand wisdom, they

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understand things better than younger people do. When the Prophet SAW Saddam was telling them let's go out let's go fight and so forth. The problem I mean, sorry, the problem is I'm saying let's stay in Medina, the property is something let's stay in Medina. We know our city. We know the ins and outs of our city. If they come here, we are in a position of advantage. That Kibana Sahaba, the owner Sahaba understood exactly what the problem is. I'm saying he's saying he wants to stay here and fight in Medina. But see these young men, they were like No jasola We want to go out and fight. Let's take it outside. Let's go outside and let's show who we are and so forth. At that time, the

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prophet has Salam he got up, he went to his home, and he began to wear his armor. At that time, the senior Sahaba began to get upset at the younger ones that don't you understand? Like you have to understand the message of the Prophet you have to understand that the wishes of the Prophet sunnah of the Prophet is some wishes to fight here in Medina and you're trying to take him outside, you are going against the wishes of the prophets of Salaam. That is when these young Sahaba they realize they made a mistake. So they went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they said yes sir, we apologize. If you want to fight here in Medina, we did not understand what you wanted. But now we

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understand if you want to fight here in Medina, we are fully on board with you. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he then said that once us once a prophet wears his armor, he does not take it off. Simple as that. We're gonna go outside, we've made a decision. We're gonna go outside and fight. What do we learn from this? There are a lot of times young men, young women, they get overly excited about certain things. They don't see the Hikmah in their wisdom and certain matters, even when they realize it later on. And they come and apologize. Learn how to let it go. You know, I've had I teach. And, and there are times where I've had students who have been openly

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disrespectful at times, because once again, they're going through a lot of life challenges. I understand. They're not being disrespectful, because they want to be disrespectful. They're going through so many things in their own personal life, that it just comes out. But I have the same students who come to me later on years later, and they will sit there and they come and they say, I apologize. I acted with you in this particular way. I should have never treated us I've never talked to you this way. But what do I do? What do any person in that particular situation just like these young Sahaba when they came and they apologize to the Prophet salaam to the Prophet, how did against

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them? No, he let it go. So if there's ever a situation, that you have a young man or young woman they come even years later, even our own children, if they come years later, and they apologize, because they did something at some time, now they have a little more understanding, learn how to let it go. Don't use it against them. This is the key thing. Now Story number three.

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When it comes to our youth, every single young man or young woman of the community, they have certain talents. One of the most beautiful things about Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that he knew how to use people for their talents. One of the things I see personally a biggest a big issue within our own community is that there is no one who understands

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Everyone's talents and knows how to plug them in the right way. Everyone knows everyone has different talents. But Rasulullah salaam, this was a beauty about him. That's why a man came to prom. Someone says yeah, so I want to be a leader. What is the problem some say to this man, he said you're not fit to be a leader with a properly some is us is not saying that you are not good at all. He's just simply saying you're not fit to be a leader. But you are good at other things and I will use you where you are good at, I will use you where you can shine. And same thing when it comes to our kids. When extending when it comes to our youth. We have to use them in the proper places. Let

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me give you two examples. One is the difference between the hola Juan xavion CyberZone hola Juan was an extremely intelligent youngster hobby of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at the time of burden. Just to give you an idea at the time of burden, he was only 13 years old, he was only 13 years old. When Ross was a son passed away, he was only 22 years old, you can see how young he was. But Rasulullah saw was some he saw that this young man is intelligent, he can pick up things very, very quickly. So when as we all know this was some cannot read and write. So when the Jewish community would interact with Roswell Salem, and they would write letters to the province of Salem,

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the province is some cannot read it, when they when the primary sound want to communicate with them. The primary is some does not know Hebrew. Likewise when other from other places when letters would have come from from their people, who would be the one who was who will read this to the problem sudden because the poverty is some cannot read the other languages. When the Prophet needed someone he realized that this young man is intelligent, he can pick up things very quickly. Let me utilize him that's why it was so awesome. He came to a demon service and he said that I get a lot of letters from the Jewish community. Can you help me in this Subhanallah within 15 days, you talk about

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Rosetta Stone Babel all these big you know you know software's this young man master the entire language within three weeks.

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Because see, you see the point is Rasul Allah so Allah Azza mu when he saw that he can use a he can hear he can get the help of an of his intelligence that practically some used him in that place. The fact that when after the Prophet SAW son passed away when obika The Allah won so many Sahaba they lost their lives because there was a battle that took place the Battle of Yamama so many offers of Quran died in that approximately 75 Quran Halfhill they passed away in this battle on a hilltop came to overthrow the Allah one who said that Oh, Amin, amin, we need to compile the Quran otherwise the Quran will be lost. If we're going to depend only on these people, the Quran will be lost we need to

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put the Quran in a book format. At that time overcrowding Allah Allah He hesitated that how can I do something that the Prophet Allah is something I do? This will be classified as a bit odd. But he pushed him he showed him the importance and who did he choose? He created actually a shooter. He created a shooter and in the shooter, he appointed Zaid Bin savate to lead this entire project to gather you know manuscripts of the Quran and compile it and put it into a book format until today Subhanallah anytime you pick up the Quran and you read you have to understand that this is because of the efforts of Zaven saboteur Viola one, but you see once again He was intelligent. He was a

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young man Russell was a Salam used him where he can shine. Then you have a person like Mossad been on air for another example. He's the probably some knows that this is a person who's young, he can he has this ability to energize others. He has this ability to you know appeal to others. When he talks other people listen to him. At the same time the prophet is I'm know that this young man has gone through many challenges in life. So when it came to Medina, when you have the first the first pledge of alpha that took place, what did the Prophet saw some do? He said, most have been? Oh my God, Allah Vaughn to Medina, why do you say to him, because once again, he has this ability to

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appeal to others, he's young majority of the Sahaba or these Sahaba to be in Medina are young that he can appeal to them had he sent another person there. You see the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam. It's interesting that he knew all his young men and all his young women, and he will use them in the best way possible. Story number four, and this is something that I'm going to you know, if you please do bear with me, because this is something very important and if you get me you hear me getting upset, but it is something that you know, we see often in our community.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a man, that he was always approachable by the youth. He was always approachable by the youth. When the youth had a problem, the poverty some understands that sometimes these people cannot go to their own parents. These people cannot go to anyone in their own family. So who would they come to? They will come to us Allah Allah hottie was salam. And whenever they had to complain, their Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he will always provide a balanced approach.

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So for example, when a when a man came to propose a sermon and says, I want to provide my son a gift, what are the pros? Some do? He stood up for all the other kids in the family? He said, No, if you're gonna give only one, this is an injustice. I don't want to be part of this. Because this man came and said, I want your blessings when I give my son a gift. Or some said, No, you cannot do this. If you're going to give one a gift, you give all them a gift. And I don't want to be part of this. The problem is I made it very clear. See, when the poverty is phenom, he had to put his foot down, he put his foot down. And when you want to show mercy, he was showing mercy. When he had to be

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firm, he would be firm, because the problem is I was trying to teach something very valuable here. You had a woman who came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she's telling the property, you said that I was forced into a marriage against my own wishes. This is a young woman who came to Providence, Salem. Now you think about the same woman who she you know, first of all, she said to her family that I don't want to get married, but she was pushed into that marriage. Her family didn't listen to her. She was pushing that marriage was the final. What's the final resort final hope? Let's go to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he she went to the Prophet sallallahu ala

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he was setting them and the Prophet SAW setting them asked her Is this true? Is this the truth? She says? Yes. He says he then allocates some said called the Father. He told the father that if this is what she's saying, and she does not want to be in this marriage, how dare you push her into the marriage, the Prophet saw some stood for the youth. Now, by the way, I'll tell you, honestly, I get a lot of calls from women who say that my parents are pushing me into a marriage. And I tell those ladies, I told those women, if you don't want to get married, you got to let your parents know. You know, subhanAllah you know what I have to hear? This is where you know, sometimes you hear these

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kinds of things. First time you're really your blood boils. Okay, we hear these kind of ridiculous comments. But you hear with people and people in our community saying things such as you know, that many merci unlucky Mercia

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you know, I'm sorry for my language. You know how stupid that is.

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It's almost as if this parent is saying that whatever I want. That's exactly what Allah wants to. So if you're telling your son that go and commit haram, because I've seen parents do this, you know, I've seen parents openly giving them things that are completely haram impermissible, and they're saying that go and commit haram. You think that's, that's, that's Allah's mercy? You know, it's almost as if they're saying that they have received some kind of worry from Allah, that whatever Allah, this is like, this is what I want. This is what Allah wants. Also, this is like almost borderline, Cofer. When you say something like this, it's almost as if, once again you're saying

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that Allah knows this is what I want. This is what Allah also wants. How can you say this with someone in your family? And you know, I have to be very blunt when I say this, you know, as even as Imams, and she you can leaders across the board. There are very few families, that when you go to them and you tell them you're doing something that is wrong, very few families will listen. But majority of families I'm trying to I'm sorry to say this but majority of families are such on the outside, they will come to the masjid, they will respect you and so forth. But Subhanallah when you go and you tell them something personal in their life, you're doing something that is wrong. You

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share Allah Allah Allah Allah Rasool sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know when people say, This is my family, you know, I'm supposed to stay away from it. Stay just stay out of my business. You don't know what's in my family. Like I you know, I usually have to tell them that look, it's my job to tell you what you're doing is wrong. The rest is is between you and Allah subhana wa Tada. Like, I really sometimes feel like I can't, I really want to see what they say to Allah on the Day of Judgment, when these parents can come and say something to me, okay, not because of me. They are openly denying, openly saying rejecting the Quran and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi

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wasallam and saying that what they're doing is more right?

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Than I really want to see what they say to Allah subhanaw taala de judgment because Allah is gonna ask him the same question. You did something that is wrong. Good luck to those people who say that because they usually told me Yeah, inshallah Allah will take care of it. And that's it. You know, subhanAllah you when you say these kinds of things, you don't you don't The audacity you're showing to Allah subhanho wa taala. When people when people do wrong, and you tell them, you have to answer to Allah on the day of judgment, and people will say, Yeah, Inshallah, we'll we'll see the matter when we get on the day judgment. Like,

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you have, I mean, people who have this mentality, you have to be very careful. Well, Allahu Allah is watching what you're doing. Allah is watching, and you're not going to escape Allah's wrath on the Day of Judgment. So this is something that we find that Subhanallah the most one of the things about the Prophet Solomon was he stood up for people, even for young men and young women who were oppressing their families. The problem is someone stood up for them. Unfortunately, we don't have a situation. Even if someone does step in, in their family, you stay out. You stay out, let us continue our loan. That's what they're saying. Let us continue our volume. We know what we're doing.

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And this is approved this dome is approved by Allah subhanho wa taala. Good luck. Okay, last thing

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One thing, that the fifth thing that we learned from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when it came to young men

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is that in the case of Osama bin Zayed, I'm gonna finish on this inshallah.

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Osama bin Laden was someone who was very loved by Roswaal Salam at the end the day he was the son of his adopted son Zaytoven. Khalifa, even when many young Sahaba when they wanted something to be approved, there was suddenly somebody mandate go and as you go ask because the Prophet of Islam loves you very much. So, somebody even said he was sent on an expedition. See, this is this story teaches us very, very valuable lesson and the bounce of us Allah. So Allah Allah wa sallam, he went and he killed a man during battle. When they came back to Medina, they informed us was salaam of everything that happened. And they said that jasola was so much evil as they've killed a man despite

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the fact that he said that in the halal law.

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So the property is some said, he said called Osama imminent said, he called them he goes, Did you kill a man? Despite the fact that he said Allah Allah, Allah Allah? He says Yara salah I did but I he you have to understand that he did it because he was fearing death. He said line Allah because he was fearing death. And what are the prophets of salaam saying? He says Hashem cocklebur? Like did you open his chest and check his intention? Why he said, lie the head Allah. Now here we see the balance of Rasulullah Salam. See a lot of times when our young men and young women when they make when they do something that is wrong. Sometimes that there's there's usually an imbalance. One One

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extreme is you criticize them, you demean them, you, you know you kill their confidence completely. The other extreme is, don't worry, things happen that go. And what happens is that our young men and young women they realize that even if I make such a big mistake, I'm is I'm just there's gonna be like a slap on the wrist and I'll get away with it. Rasul Allah, so Allah while you do some todos balance, he got really, really upset with somebody gonna say, even though he was a young man, he got really upset with him to the point this summer urbanization said that I wish I would have taken my Shahada that day, meaning that if I take my shot that that day, that means that everything else in

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the past is wiped away, right? Like this thing, this thing I did, it will also been wiped away. But you have to understand that probably some is teaching us the balance that when when our youth, our young men, and our young woman, they do something that is wrong, we need to be firm about it. We need to highlight the wrong that they did. We don't put them down. We don't question their intellect, we don't kill their confidence. But we have to show that what you did was wrong. And there is no ifs and buts about it. So this is Ross was teaching us that yes, when the time comes that you need to be firm, and you need to highlight their mistake and what they did was wrong. You

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have to highlight it. But the also the key thing is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never used this against him forever. In fact, later on right before the death of Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he appointed with some urbanization, to go and lead an expedition to Syria. And in fact, we find that in this expedition, there were some major Sahaba in there, there was a major, you know, you know, prestigious companions in this group. And he was the younger one, and there were people who came, and they question that how can this young man be the leader of this whole group, and there's so many prestigious Sahaba in there. But on the haka when he heard this, he got upset

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that if this is the decision of the province of Salem, how dare you question the decision of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam. So the property is some when he needed to get upset, because the young man does something that is wrong, the Prophet of Islam was very firm. And he made it clear to him that what you did was absolutely wrong, and you know, is unacceptable. But at the same time, Roswaal son did not use this against him forever. When needs when the time came, that he has sort of paid his his debt to society when he understands his mistake, than the Prophet SAW Allah as I'm realizing that now there's a time come, the time has come, I can make him into a leader. The Prophet

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SAW Selim made him a leader later on. Of course, we do find that that when he found out that the Prophet of Islam has become extremely sick, he actually did come back. He did come back to be there with the province of Solomon at the last moments of his life. But as soon as that happened, the poverty son passed away Hindi party obika The hola Juan said that the poverty Assam sent you on an expedition to Syria, and you did not go to Syria, you have to fulfill the wishes of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, you need to go to Syria and take care of your responsibility and Subhanallah with someone even as they took this entire group went to Syria for the Expedition and came back

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successful. So yes, we need to be firm when we need to be firm, but we don't hold it against our Youth forever. Always give them another chance to prosper, Inshallah, and to learn from their mistakes. So I ask Allah subhana wa Tada to give us two feet Inshallah, about these kinds of things. May Allah Subhan protect our generation, may Allah Subhan protect our upcoming generations? I mean, Obadiah Allah mean what is that from Allah? Hi, Salam are they going to live but I'll catch you

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