5 Things We Should Teach Our Children and Youth
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I begin by praising Allah subhanho wa Taala thanking Allah subhanho wa Taala for all the near misses that he has bestowed upon us, whether we are aware of it or not. And I began by saying by sending our salaams and peace and blessings upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam, may Allah subhanho wa Taala keep us steadfast upon the Drina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the ability to emulate the prophets that Allahu Allah he was sending them may Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the ability to live the life like well Sula, sal Allahu Allah he was sending them and be a representation of what the prophets of some he represented in this dunya and
ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah that He grant us first of all hottie Ma Ma Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us his companionship in gentle for those of ANA I mean Ramadan, Amin, brothers and sisters.
As we go through summer, Ramadan came in summer began, and our kids were at home. But because of Ramadan, the exhaustion of Ramadan, the fatigue that overcomes us in Ramadan. And then the last stretch which which is the last 10 Nights at a mob on every other night and every night we are engaged in everybody. A lot of times we don't pay attention to what is going on around us. But then Ramadan finishes and summer starts. And this is the prime time where we can connect with our children. We live in this very fast paced life, where we're always trying to move ahead. We're always trying to climb the ladder of this dunya we're always trying to move ahead. We're always
trying to advance. And we do this in the name of family. But a lot of times we don't realize that the one that's being jeopardized is the family.
So today's football I want to share with you a story from from the Quran, about a very interesting man, a man and the story that you and I have heard many times. But the reason I share this story with myself and yourself today is because we ask this one question over and over again. The what do we teach our kids? What are we supposed to focus when it comes to educating our kids when it comes to educating our youth? When our youth are educating the other youth when the Imams and the leaders of the community when they are educating the youth and the children? And when the adults are also teaching the children and the youth that what are they supposed to focus on? They hear so many hold
bars, and they're so confused. Do I focus on this? And do I focus on that and what do I focus on? Where should I take and where should I leave? The story of mine teaches us that as long as we're teaching five fundamentals, five important things to our youth and to our children, then this is the most important things and as long as we're doing them, this is we aren't covering a major
In fact, we are covering majority of our deen
the very first thing that came to mind, first of all, who was the man, and without getting into this, his old biography and so forth. One thing I do want to mention is the majority of your honor man, they say that he was an abbot, then Harvey, and some say that he was older than us was the he was a he was a colored person. He was a black person, and was interesting to notice this. The Prophet said, Allah, Allah he was sending him when he even came to this dunya, who was a very first person to take care of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it was a black woman, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam life, at the beginning of his life. He has a woman there who is not an
Arab, who is someone from outside? Why did Allah put a person like that in the life of the prophet saw Selim? Why did Allah share with us till the Day of Judgment, a story of a man who was a black man, why? Because Allah is teaching us a very important lesson that when a good advice comes, you don't see who is coming from you don't look at the color of the person. If it is a great advice, you take the advice.
And because racism existed in the time of the prophets of Salaam, before Islam came in, and racism was was poured throughout the land, that if you were an Arab, then you had the respect and if you were not an honor, that you had no respect. But this is what Islam came to change. That if there is anyone who has dignity and respect in the eyes of Allah is only based on your tequila. It has nothing to do with the color of your skin. It has nothing to do with the language that we speak, it comes down to our our man, and it comes down to our heart. So the fact that Allah mentioned this man's story is such an amazing story. And not only that, but the almighty refer to him as Superman,
and Hakeem that he was a man who was full of wisdom, whenever he would talk gems would come out of his mouth, amazing things would come out of his mouth. So let's go to the story that when he was talking to his own son, first of all, what's important to know is this. In the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, What if all and oh man who live in he Well, who are you? Are you do who were who were your Are you do? Remember the time when Superman was giving an advice, not just advice, you're able, who implies a very humble advice, a very gentle advice, a very sincere advice. And he says, Yeah, Boo name. Oh, my dear son, the owner might have said that. The reason why, Look, man, he mentioned
this. And this is a very subtle, you know, very setup piece of information. A very beautiful and note here for the fathers, is that when it comes to our mothers, our children know that our mothers love us. But very few times, our children see genuine love coming from their father. Because for the father, he thinks to himself, that I work hard, I go outside, I earn money, I bring food on the table, I provide a shelter over my children's head, I provide a bed, I provide pillows, I provide food for my children and my for my family. And we see that this is a form of love. But a lot of times our children, they don't translate that into love. So meaning that it takes the father more
additional work, to show your love to your children. A father needs to go out of his way and do extra things. And be gentle when you talk to your children. So that this is how you show your love. And so he first thing he says he's giving a very humble advice, a very genuine advice. And he says, Oh my dear son, oh, my beloved Son, how many times do we talk to our children as all my beloved son? You know, how many times do we talk to our children with gentleness is a lot of times with anger, a lot of times it's about defeating their confidence. It's about destroying their confidence. And I tell you, honestly, many of us here who were born and raised overseas, when we were growing up, when
we were probably growing up, our parents would scold us, our parents would give us a one hour lecture and this one motivate us when they would demean us. This one, this would push us up this will provide us more confidence. And we think that when we raise our children in this country, if I demote them, if I break their confidence, they will increase in their confidence and that is not the case. When you destroy the confidence of your kids. And they see that the one person that who's supposed to give them
See the most amount of confidence when they are destroying my confidence? Where do you think your children are gonna get their confidence, you're another increase in their confidence. When you give them a one hour lecture, and you hammer them over and over again, they're not going to come close to you.
Look at Aquaman Yabu Navy, oh my dear son, and he begins to give me some advices. In a nutshell, there are five important things that when it comes to our children, when it comes to our youth, we need to truly focus on the very first thing that Luke command he addressed was faith. That was the first important thing, because without faith, everything else is not accepted in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa taala. Without faith, nothing is a boon in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa taala. First thing he says, Yeah, Bonilla, nurse, Krishna, Camilla. La to should be law. Do not associate partners with Allah subhanho wa taala. And a lot of times when you and I when we hear this idea, we
automatically go only towards Schick, we go towards Shetty. And this is not the only type of * that doesn't exist. There is as we find in the hadith of Rasulullah, sallAllahu wasallam there is a shift that is very apparent, very transparent, very clear. And that is when people they make the Jews and they believe and they worship other deities besides Allah subhanho wa taala. But the other ship that does exist, and in our lives in many cases, because we say that you know what, I'm not doing Sheikh I believe in Allah subhanho wa taala. But there is something called I should call Harvey,
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a concealed shake, a shake that many of us we don't pay close attention to, and that is to do something for the pleasure of someone else besides Allah subhanho wa Taala we need to teach our children Yes, our children know that they don't do *. But we need to also teach our children that when it comes to pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala when it comes to pleasing Allah, you please only Allah subhanho wa Taala when it comes to righteous deeds, don't do them so you can please anyone else. When you teach your children, teach your children that you need to praise the Lord, not for me, but you need to praise the Lord for Allah subhanho wa Taala say, when you do good, don't do it.
So I can be happy but do is Allah can be happy with you. And not only that, but we have to also teach our children when it comes to *. That if they ever find themselves in a situation when their Eman is in jeopardy when they begin to question their faith, especially based on the society that we live in with the atheism that is spreading like wildfire. And not only that, but doubts are being planted like seeds in the hearts of our young ones.
Then at that time, we need to teach our children that if you have any doubt in Allah subhanho wa Taala you need to come and talk to us about it. You need to go and talk to your Imam about it. You need to go and talk to your religious leaders about it. This is what they need to do. So the very first thing that we need to really focus when it comes to our children and our youth is making sure that they have full Yaqeen and Allah subhanho wa Taala they have conviction in their heart for Allah subhanho wa taala. The second thing we need to focus on is a bad diet, making sure that they are punctual with their iba that in the story of Superman in the story of Lachman. He said he not
mentioned about zakat He never mentioned about HUD He never mentioned about see young the only thing he mentioned was solid. Yeah Boonie again, oh my dear son, every single advising he's giving all my dears and all my dears and all my dear son and he says up he was salata. Establish your salons. Take care of your salats because when a person establishes something, imagine when you establish a pillar in a building. You know what happens? An earthquake can come, a tornado can come that pillar is still going to be in its place. When the fitness they come when the trials and the tribunal the tribulations they come when the challenges come in life. If our children our youth have been able to
establish their salon and they're seeking help of Allah subhanho wa Taala through the salon because this is what this is exactly what the purpose of salon is. Salon is not just simply going up and down. And that is it. But remember the time when Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he needed a support. His uncle had passed away his wife passed away he was rejected from thought if he needed help he needed support whether Allah subhanho wa Taala do he not just sent you by Islam with a command he called me a mustard aloha to send them to him. He called Mohammed Al Salam to him and he gave him this gift of salaam
Through the salon, you ask Allah subhanho wa Taala for help how many times when our youth are in desperate need of help, how many times when we are in need of help, we resort to salons. And it's not just the five times the salon, but it's about waking up at night dedicating ourselves to Allah subhanho wa Taala waking up in the last part of the night when Allah comes to the lowest part of this dunya the lowest part of all the all the skies above the earth, and he says is there anyone who wants to be forgiven and I'm willing to forgive them is there anyone who has any needs that I can fulfill that is the time we reach out to Allah subhanho wa Taala this is the way we ask her, this is
the way we reach out to help. I'm not saying that we cannot reach out to her from others. But the very first one that we reach out for help is Allah subhanho wa taala. And we will establish ourselves through the salon, I will establish my faith through the salads.
So being punctual when it comes to our salad is the second thing that we really need to emphasize. And once again, the reason I'm putting all this in one hotbar is because when you divide this into many hotbeds, some people are going to be here and wonderful. But some people are not going to be here and the other hotbar I want to share all five things with you today. And this can there's you know, if I went into the deafness and the details of this of this tough scene and this passage in the Quran, we can be sitting here tonight, but the point is I want to leave with you five things that we really need to focus the very first one was faith. The second one was a badass, the third
one maraca. What does Moraga mean? maraca means to have the awareness and to have the consciousness of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the awareness of Allah subhanho wa Taala I'm going to ask you a question. Imagine imagine you came to your son and you brought as Allah subhanho wa Taala says you're gonna you're in the integral, Miss Allah Huberty min Hordaland fetac when fee Sacra, you know Sahara is something in Arabic, what you call a huge boulder, a huge rock that is not is not possible for one individual to break. Now imagine you tell your son or your daughter, that you know what this is this huge boulder and a boulder can be as big as it's grown to. And there is one, one small seed,
one small seed somewhere in this rock, I want you to carve, I want you to break this rock. And I want you to find that seed. First of all is even if this task was given to the adults, I don't think any of us could accomplish this. Because to find one small seed is like to find a needle in a haystack. To find a need to. To find a small seed in such a huge boulder is humanly impossible pretty much. Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that you may find it impossible to find. But for Allah to find that is not it is absolutely possible. It's not impossible. It is not impossible, it is absolutely possible. What is Allah trying to tell us from this, that even if we commit a sin,
even if we commit a sin in the most darkest of the darkest places, and the most loneliest of the loneliest places on Earth, where there is no sign of human being, there is no one there. Allah subhanho wa Taala says yet to be her law, on the Day of Judgment, Allah will bring that up and He will show us on the Day of Judgment. And not only that what was beautiful about this idea is that there are two different words in the Quran when Allah says bringing something there is Jah and there is a time, okay when they come with the preposition of bat in the Arabic language. Jarrah means to put to put some effort and to bring something forward, attach. It means that to bring something
forward without any effort, Allah subhanho wa Taala saying that if you were to commit a sin of so small and so minut and a place where no one knows and you think that no one knows, Allah will bring that and for Allah to bring that and to surface that there is no effort that is required for Allah subhanho wa Taala
then Allah subhanaw taala the third thing so he taught him first right? Faith, the second eternal wasn't a bad the third thing He taught him was more about we need to teach our children that wherever you are, it tuck in that as a professor some says it tequila hyphema that fear Allah be conscious of Allah subhanaw taala wherever you are, you may not have anyone around us. But Allah is always around us. So monopolize the third thing, the fourth thing,
how to treat people, how to treat people, what is our o'clock supposed to be first thing that look
Man teaches his son is well was slain in Santa Fe well today when it comes to your parents be be respectful towards your parents, be humble towards your parents be gentle towards your parents. And I've talked about this before that here in this idea a man is giving this advice to his son and he's telling the his He's telling his son this advice, but at the same time, at the same time, Allah subhanho wa Taala also says in the Quran will injure her Dhaka, Allah and to Sri kabhi. Maliki silica be here in one fell out. If the parents they are advising and they are telling their children to do something, which is against the orders of Allah subhanho wa taala, which is against the
teachings of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that Allah teaches us for law to clear in that it's not me. It's not me who's saying this. Allah is saying this, Allah is saying over this, that for law to that do not obey them. Now Allah is not saying to be disrespectful. Allah is not saying to be rude with your parents. Allah is simply saying follow out to their homes, that do not obey them in that situation. The second thing that you that man teaches his son how to be good to people is walk us through the fee. mushfiqur Walk Dodman. So take when you walk on Earth, be gentle. There are some people that are so harsh in their nature, that when people come close to them, that people
are afraid of coming close to them. Allah subhanaw taala says, What does it feel mushy when you walk on Earth, be gentle on Earth, have a personality that people can come to you people can talk to you people can converse with you, but do not have this personality that people see you and they run away. Do not be do not have that kind of personality. And not only that Waldman, something that when we talk Be gentle in your voice, be humble in your voice. This is Superman teaching his own child that what is o'clock and what is character. So the very first thing he taught him was faith. The second thing he taught him was a bad. The third thing He taught him was MODOK about having the
awareness of Allah subhanho wa Taala The fourth thing He taught him was a character in manners. The fifth thing that he taught his child, which is very important is that standing up I'm gonna be in my roof and here on Moncure standing up against injustices and standing up for what is right ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala says Yagoona Your man is giving this advice his children Yagoona your Artemis salata, what would been maruf 100 monka. Establish your Salah is standard for what is right in stand up against injustice is. And not only that, but see the rule is this. The rule of the dunya that we live in today is this, that people who will stand up for justice are always going to be vilified.
They're always going to be demonized. They're always going to be they're always going to be determined and they're going to be labeled as wrongdoers. And so when you find yourself in this situation, Allah tells you there are two things you do number one is what's been sawbuck the Be patient. And not only that, but how do you get that help? How do you gain that support? And how do you gain that mental strength? Go back to your Salah. This is why Allah says in the Quran, Western, you know, be somebody was salah, that when you need help you seek to help Allah subhanho wa Taala through southern and through solid. So once again, everything is this one idea to stand up for
justice. And not only that, but when you find yourselves in the corner when you are pushed into the corner and you are criticized because you're standing up for what is right then seek to help Allah through suburb and through salons.
And not only that, but he also taught him another piece of advice. He says, when after starting a fight the colonists will come she will only Maha that do not turn your face in contempt. Do not turn your face away. When someone comes to you with proper advice. It is your responsibility to take that advice if someone is coming with proper advice from the Quran and from the Sunnah. And if any of us turn it down, that is a sign of a cabal. It is a sign of kibble. It is a sign of arrogance, because the definition of arrogance is built on will help to suppress the truth. Today we see what's happening in the world that we live in today. People are standing up against the injustice is around
the world and the people are pushing them down. People are pushing them down. And so no man teaches his son that as long as you see this, it is your responsibility to stand up against that. And not only that, but if you find yourselves in this situation where you are in a position of leadership. Well there are two sorry the fact that can a nurse that do not turn your face in contempt. Do not turn your face away just because you want to ignore the teachings of the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW Allah
Are you center or when people people who don't believe in Allah, like we see in the general war politics, that the boom that is taking place and people in countries are standing up against, you know, the leaders and so forth, and they want justice and fairness and equality.
And they're being pushed down, and they're turning their face away from the people even though they know that they are wrong.
The mind says do not want to have to sorry to put that in as well. At times you fill out the model, and do not walk in the faces Earth with arrogance, do not walk on the face of the earth with your with your chest wide open and your chest wiped out that I don't care about what anyone says, I'm gonna do whatever I want to say.
Or I'll do whatever I want to do. Look, man, teach local man teaches his son to always stand up for what is right. So as long as we teach our kids these five important things, faith, a bad mood, aka. And then there is character in o'clock. And finally, justice, it doesn't matter whether it's social justice, or any other kind of justice, to stand up for what is right. As long as we can teach our kids these five important things in sha Allah, our kids will grow up and they will have the right principles of life. And not only that, but if we raise great individuals, when we build confidence within our children, our children grow up with confidence Inshallah, and they grow up with this
ability to stand up for what is right to have the Rebbe to have the aspect of faith in their life and all the five things that I mentioned that inshallah when they become fathers, when our young girls become mothers inshallah one day then they will be able to teach these five things to their children also, I ask Allah subhanaw taala to give all of us the ability to act on has been sent and heard I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to give us ability to learn these advices from the Quran and implement it implement them in our life, Baraka Valhalla now welcome fillable and Aldine want to find out why yet on the right with the kill Hakeem stuff Lulu hurry welcome What is it mister
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