Mufti Menk – Depression, Anxiety and Stress

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © The importance of learning to see one's own success and avoiding negative influences is emphasized in various settings, including the Internet and the pandemic. The uncertainty surrounding the US and the pandemic, as well as the potential impact on the economy and customer base, are also discussed. The speakers emphasize the importance of being flexible and customer centric, while acknowledging the uncertainty and potential competition in the future. Overall, they emphasize the need for flexibility and customer satisfaction.
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Salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu

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Bismillah R Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi wa ADA who was Allah Allah who was salam ala Baraka Allah Mallanna BIA Babu Allah early he was happy here Jemaine

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if we look at Allah Almighty is plan

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what we understand of it, Allah Almighty created all of us, we came to this world,

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born to parents.

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That is part of the plan of Allah Almighty. Although the first of our species Adam May peace be upon him, was created, he was not born. He was created in the exact shape and form of an adult from amongst us, but much larger according to the narrations. And Allah Almighty says why.

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We taught and we gave the knowledge to add them of all the names, all the nouns, we taught him everything. So when Adam was created, he already knew how to speak that was unique. But with all of us, we are born to parents in a state where we are totally helpless. The worry, the concern is that of the mother. The mother is more concerned, our mothers were more concerned about us than we were about ourselves, have you seen a child, a child is carefree, it doesn't understand exactly what's going on around it. But the adults around know that this child needs to be taken care of. If there is an animal or something dangerous around the child, you will always find those adults around the

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child more worried than the child.

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So this is part of the plan of Allah when Allah made us, he prepared a beautiful mechanism of protection for us from the adults around us. In the case of the vast majority, when I say vast majority from amongst us, they are orphans from amongst us, they are those who lost their mothers in childhood, or in infancy or upon birth from amongst us they are those who circumstances did not permit or allow for there to be the same people whom the rest of the world probably has had because of whatever it might have been. But the plan of Allah is always that a child is considered absolutely innocent. So cute. Mashallah, so naturally the hearts of adults are supposed to be

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inclined towards this particular child, you might be thinking, how would I commence a talk on depression and anxiety, worry and sadness in this way, but the reason is to appreciate the mechanism that Allah has created us within.

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Over and above that. Allah has created a system and a plan in order to provide for us the best possible way forward in our lives. If you look at the creation of the day and night, which happened prior to the creation of man, Allah Almighty says, Allah Who levy Jaya Allah, Allah como la isla Lita schooner movie one.

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It is Allah who created for you the night in order to rest in order to sleep it is dark, you're supposed to go and rest and the day you can see you're supposed to be working. So if you get up every morning, and it may require an effort for you to do that, part of your problem will be solved. Because you are within the plan of Allah you may not understand the benefit of the sleep of the first part of the night even though medicine is speaking louder and louder in that direction telling you go to bed go to bed early the quenching of your sleep happens in a far greater way than earlier you go to bed whereas Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam came to us and reminded us after Salah

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Tala Isha if you do not have something constructive, such as this to do, what do you what should you do? You should go to bed. He may not have mentioned all the detailed reasons, but it's the plan of Allah. Those whose sleeping patterns are not in sync with what is supposed to be for no reason whatsoever with their own doing or the doing of their own hands. They are the ones to blame when they find themselves sliding into a form of sadness or worry or depression or anxiety.

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In the system of Allah, when you follow it in a proper way, it will, it will empower you, it will actually provide for you goodness in order to protect you from the adverse environment and from the challenges of this particular world. That does not mean that those who are depressed or weak in faith, it is actually the other way in the sense that when you are strong in your faith, it will protect you. From that anxiety being harsh on you do you know it is absolutely normal for us to go through sadness. To a degree, it is normal to be anxious at times, absolutely. Even as Muslims were taught that it is normal to go through worry, to be concerned to have a slight level of depression

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in the sense that you are sad, you have worry, you have concern, you might not feel like getting up in the morning, you might feel like there is no hope those feelings are human feelings. But what happens Allah tells us in advance to empower ourselves so that when that comes to us, it does not overpower us.

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It's like if I were to tell you Look, your body needs nutrients, and this is also part of the plan of Allah. He has created foods, different types of fruits and vegetables, different types of foods for us to eat. Each one has minerals and vitamins, and so much that the body requires in order to strengthen your not only your body, but more so your mind. If you don't eat healthy, how do you expect your mind to ward off the negativity that is going to come in its direction from the world. When I say the world, I mean those around you.

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If you don't eat healthy and you don't sleep healthy, your system becomes weak. Therefore, you may be overtaken by things that you were not meant to be overtaken by so I invite you my brothers and sisters to eat healthy and to sleep well. Subhanallah I don't mean that come eight o'clock and you say wow, the chef told us you should sleep while I'm still sleeping. You got to get up early in the morning. Allah has kept Salat al Fajr. Because when you get up early, you are contributing towards your own goodness of health. Remember this. So my brothers, my sisters, look at how the nutrients, the supplements, the minerals, the vitamins will strengthen you in a similar fashion. Your faith

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strengthens you. Going back to the point some people look at others who are sad or struggling with suffering with depression with anxiety with stress with worry, and they immediately say your Eman is weak, strengthen it. I'm sorry, you're wrong. It's not necessarily what you have said. In fact, if anything, you should come out and empower those who are going through this type of struggle.

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Because it could be you It depends on the level of or the magnitude of the issue that they are facing. And different people have different thresholds, some face humongous issues, but they go through it with a smile because Allah has created them stronger. Some perhaps their immune system towards those things happens to be much better, much stronger. Don't just point at someone and say strengthen your faith that should have been before all this clocked in it should have been before the worry and the stress. But yes indeed your closeness to Allah will help remedy the condition you're in. Now I want to take you to the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him his words, his method,

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his style, his way of dealing with it. The fact that he used to repeat a certain supplication already shows how important the topic is

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Allahumma inni obika Oh Allah, I seek Your protection from Allahumma inni who became Meenal Hemi will who's ni O Allah, I seek Your protection from Worry, worry, worry that leads to everything else right and sadness. This worry includes anxiety, you're anxious, you're concerned you don't know what is going to happen. The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him himself used to seek the protection of Allah from worry. So therefore my brothers and sisters, repeat this supplication often it is not only a sunnah, but it will help you in a

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way. Oh Allah protect me from worry and protect me from sadness. It already shows that you will face days where there will be worry and sadness, right? You're worried about something you need to achieve something you

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have a deadline you want to get married you want to earn something perhaps you'd like a job you need to pass an examination. You have an enemy perhaps you have something happening. You need to seek the help of Allah by saying oh Allah protect me from worry, protect me from sadness. And he continued to say what I will do Becca

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Minelab Z well Kessel I seek Your protection from inability, I become unable incapable. I seek Your protection from laziness. I spoke about it a moment ago when I said getting up in the morning you have to push yourself.

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Even if something negative is occurring is happening has happened in your life. Push yourself to get up in the morning, push yourself to wash up because part of the life of a Muslim is to commence his or her day with Salat al fajr What is solid will Fajr you cannot just get up and start your prayer Allah has has asked you to wash up before you pray. Subhanallah imagine if there was no voodoo or ablution before the prayer we would be half in our sleep.

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And that's it you have depressed my brother, you need to freshen up cold water whatever it may be. And you need to wash your face wash yourself. You know as Muslims what exactly we do that is in order to help you to boost you people might not look at it as something beneficial. But I swear by Allah, if the Almighty has asked us to do something, the benefit of it you may not know but it will come with a lot and a lot of benefit. And if Allah Almighty has asked you to stay away from something, it has to have some form of negativity in it. That's why he's telling you to stay away. The Quran says that whatever was halal and made permissible, there is benefit in it it is pure and

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good. And whatever was haram and made prohibited, there is a reason for it, you may or may not know it. So you get up early in the morning and you fight your laziness it requires an effort ask those who are not used to getting up in the morning for Salatin Fajr, they will tell you, it is so difficult. Whereas once you get yourself into a routine, Allah has created man in a way that the body becomes used to something and without the need of an alarm clock at that moment, your eye will open. You don't need anyone to remind you because the routine it's there you are now accustomed to getting up at this time, your body knows there is an automatic body clock, it will get up no one

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reminded you how many times have we gotten up prior to the alarm that we set one minute and you turn off the alarm. So it didn't disturb perhaps the little children or whoever else it may be. That's amazing. So ask Allah to save you from laziness and the inability.

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The fact that these are all mentioned in one supplication there must be a connection between them when you are lazy. And when you do not even want to face the challenges of this world, you will automatically be overcome by a lot of grief and sadness and worry and perhaps anxiety and you might slide into depression to a degree that is toxic. My brothers, my sisters, fight your laziness. Don't think that you are incapable? If he could do it, I can do it. If she can do it, I can do it. If Allah has asked me to do it, I will do it. Go ahead.

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Look at those who've achieved across the globe. Whether it is religiously or otherwise, look at those who are wealthy those who are in a position perhaps far better than yours and tell yourself Am I not a human being born out of parents as well? Have I not the ability to achieve the same if not more? And guess what? The sky's the limit?

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You can go even beyond the skies nowadays. May Allah grant us ease every day discovering more and more planets with the James Webb Telescope amazing.

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But if you feel I can't do this, you've already given up before you started, commenced start. And sometimes if you have failed in one aspect of your life, don't give up go again and again. I've read stories about some of the wealthiest of the world. Their school dropouts. Subhanallah what happened they went back they tried after that they went to something else and the doors opened today I met a young lad telling me well I don't have all levels but inshallah one day I will achieve Mashallah. That's amazing.

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I will achieve

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people who have failed in one aspect, it's not the end of the world. You need to protect yourself your mind understand. Allah has created us different when I enter a school with little school children. I love

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I have to ask them, What do you want to become?

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Many of them at that stage don't really know. But they just have some form of a respect for some field or a love or some connection because of something that happened in their lives. Many of them, I want to be a pilot, have you heard that? I want to be a pilot, but not everyone. The other one, I want to be a fireman, I want to be a doctor. What does that show you? It shows you Allah has blessed everyone with different inclinations. Allah has blessed everyone uniquely, there is a space and a place for every one of you and I on earth, there is a place and if we all had liked the same thing, and we all followed exactly the same path and plan of whatever field we wanted, what would have

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happened on Earth? Where would the rest of the people we need in our lives be when all of us are doctors have the same specialization. So it's part of the plan of Allah, that Allah Almighty has kept you unique, and he knows you personally. And he knows the issues you're going through and he knows what you will face and he knows what you are facing. He knows more about you than you know about yourself, that is the Lord of the Worlds. So call out to Him, we seek His protection.

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We seek His protection from worry from sadness, from in capability in ability and laziness and the dua of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him continues. What are all the Beqaa mean Rolla Bertie de ne waka Harry vigil

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in fact, he says Mina lads Z well castle will boldly will do BNIB Oh Allah, I seek Your protection from miserliness and cowardice. Don't make me a coward. Let me stand up and face my challenges. Don't make me a coward. Oh Allah, and oh Allah do not make me miserly. Do you know why, when you share what you have with others, it is an it is a remedy for you in a holistic manner, it will give you a lot of comfort, you have a smile, you have food, you have drink, and you pick from it and you give those who are struggling with food, it is automatic remedy for you, your mind, your spirituality, your well being you sleep at night with an extra smile, because you know, Allah has

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used you to serve those whom he provided for through you. I always tell people, when you don't give, don't think that chapter is going to close, it will continue minus you. Without you. Someone says that's a poor person in need. And I'm not encouraging begging, but someone is in need. If you have the ability, even if it is a small amount, or in a small way, or just with a good comforting word, do it.

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Why? Because a comforting word could be a greater charity than $1,000. Or even more.

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Sometimes what a person needs from you is just an ear. Listen to them. And that's why my beloved parents who are here, I started off this talk by mentioning the mechanism Allah has made it is your duty as parents to take care of your children. Listen to them, give them importance, when they say things that go against the very grain of your existence. Listen to them, respond with wisdom, give them a response that will convince them. And if you do not have that type of response, because of your inability, go to others and seek help yourself in order to respond to this innocent child asking you a difficult question. One of the reasons why we find ourselves so backward at times on

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Earth, is because we used to at one stage as Muslims, I'm not too sure about here, but where I come from, they used to say keep quiet, you're not allowed to ask this question. Whoa, okay. So what's going to happen? Well, someone's going to answer it wrong. I'd rather said you know what, I'd speak to you tomorrow. If I'm too embarrassed to say I don't know the answer, and go and find out yourself. People will ask you about the Almighty, they will ask you about so many rules and regulations. They might say why is this and why is that? Not? Because they don't believe because they are confused? Or because they are ignorant, they don't yet know. And sometimes we ourselves as

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adults and knowledgeable people, we don't know the entire wisdom of everything that the Almighty has said, we don't but it's our duty to continue to try to understand there comes a point when you know, my faith will lead me to adopt something I may

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understand, but I know it's somehow beneficial for me if the Almighty has instructed it like I said earlier, it has to be beneficial. So my beloved parents Miss

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under your children, many of the young children slide into suicidal thoughts simply because they feel rejected by you, my beloved parents, and you don't think because you're too busy working, you're too busy in something else. At times, unfortunately, sadly, and I'm going to say it and it's a red card. We're too busy having an affair, unfortunately. And this is why the children are struggling, and what are you doing, oh, you're busy doing something you're not even supposed to be doing.

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So this is why I say lend them an ear, do not just admonish them and tell them, Don't ask go away. I don't want to hear this again, etc. These are harsh words. As generations are passing you notice the globe has become a little village. This global village is such that if you don't help the child will receive perhaps the wrong help

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online or from anyone else.

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So spend time with your children quality time. And if for some reason one of the parents is not there, or if both are not there. It is the duty of the next people who are the closest in relation or connection to that particular child to do the same.

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This is a duty from Allah Almighty. Why do you think Allah Almighty has taught us through the blessed glimpse of Muhammad peace be upon him? Anna what caffeine only a tea mica Hatha and even Jana, myself, and the one who takes utmost care of an orphan and brings up and often will be like these two fingers in paradise. Why so much importance because that child is lacking a parent. So let the entire community stand up for that particular child. Your father's not there. But guess what? We are all there for you. Subhanallah that is what we are taught. This is amazing. What is it? It's empowering. When you empower a little child, you deserve paradise. That's what it is.

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People would not be so depressed if we

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were together in a matter and gave each other hope and listened to each other and said, Don't worry, things are going to be okay.

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So the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says, Oh Allah, protect me from miserliness and from being a coward and then at the end of that dua, he says, Oh Allah, protect me from being overtaken by debt, or being overpowered by men, men, meaning if an army had to come and overpower us, that is the dua we're making Oh Allah do not allow us to be overpowered by others. And not just an army, but anyone being overpowered by someone else. Oh, Allah protect us from this, this dua, I'd like you to learn it, I promise you, I encourage you, because it will give you reassurance, when you plug in with the maker who made you in the first place. What are you doing, you are having your supplements,

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your minerals, your vitamins, from a spiritual angle, in order to save God, your heart, your soul, your faith, your belief, your mind, and in order to protect yourself in a better way from the challenges and the curveballs that the world throws at you. And it will continue to grow. And this is the reason why up to a certain age you find a child is carefree, then when they become teenage, they become conscious of themselves of their appearance. A small pimple on the face will cause a lot of sadness and grief for a child at times. Because you look at the world out there, and you don't notice. I always tell my own children, your teeth askew your noses bent, you have a few pimples

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here. Nobody ever notices it besides you. Because whole day you sitting in front of the mirror and you look at yourself so many times, you're the only one who's going to notice all of this. So don't worry, we are normal. When you do this all the time, then people begin to notice because you noticed it. Don't worry, we all have flaws because perfection is for Paradise. Every single one of us one or two things will have this way or that way. It's part of the plan of the Almighty. Don't stress there will be people who love you and they love you dearly, exactly as you are. That's part of the plan of Allah.

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May Allah Almighty strengthen all of us and help us and our children. My brothers, my sisters,

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the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him speaks about our being overpowered by debt because it is one of the reasons why people suffer depression, anxiety, etc. When you have financial trouble

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when you don't know where you're going to eat the next meal from when you don't know if you're going to remain in a job or even get a job.

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What should you do?

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You need to

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keep on working hard to achieve what is beneficial for you using the ability and capacity the Almighty has given you

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It's not good enough to just make a draft Oh, Allah got me a job and then you sit at home and you someone makes you believe that sit at home, make the DUA, if you're meant to get the job, you will definitely have someone knock your door and say, we suddenly discovered through revelation about you, and now we need to give you a job, please come out, you're going to get such a salary. And so

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that's not it.

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That is called terroir could not work. There is a difference between the two to what could means to lay your trust in Allah after having done whatever you can in your capacity, which is God given itself. So get up and go and search and hunt, apply not for one jobs for 1000 jobs.

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Apply not just here, but anywhere in the world. Guess what, you will have a response. It will bring a smile to your face. It is coming. What is right for you meant for you is coming. Many people want to get married, may Allah grant us goodness in our homes. Marriage is not easy. Marriage is a sacrifice. It's probably one of the biggest sacrifices in terms of your social living, marriage itself, as exciting as it might be at the beginning. As soon as you get into it, you know, you realize move, I've got to adjust and I've got to chop and change. And I've got to make myself a better person in order to be able to live then we have children if Allah has willed and so on huge

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sacrifice, but people who are married are sweating because they are not prepared to sacrifice either way.

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And those who are not married, what are they doing?

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They are making dua, oh Allah get us married, oh Allah help us open our doors. Some people struggle, anxiety because my parents are growing older, I am left alone at home, I'm not yet married, what is going to happen? My brother, my sister, you have a capacity Allah has given you try your best given with that capacity that is given to you by Allah. And after that, relax, Allah will take care of you.

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Like I said, your faith in Allah will help you from sliding below a certain level

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of anxiety.

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When it becomes a problem, it's lasting too long, you will have to seek medical help as well. I cannot deny that if it lasts very long, and those around you and speaking to people and therapy and so on, and trying to look at how best I can help myself come out of the sadness that we all feel by the way from time to time.

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Then you may require medical help, you will have to go to the professionals and I am not a professional in that particular field. But I can lead you to them. However, let me bring to your attention a verse that was read earlier by the sister who read and BA for your information. The recitation was almost perfect. May Allah grant us all success.

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be Vickery.

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job, those who believe their hearts are comforted by the remembrance of Allah for indeed it is only the remembrance of Allah that will comfort the hearts. What does that mean? That means my brothers, my sisters every day. Remember Allah every day, repeat the words of praise of Allah, it will empower you, it will help you understand that you are helpless beyond the point. Understand that there will be things that will happen that are totally out of your control. If I were to ask you today who wants to die? Very few people, some who are fed up of life might say you know what I want to die. Allah says none of you are allowed to take your own life. Suicide is prohibited in Islam Come What

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May it's not allowed.

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Why? Because Allah says, We decided when you will be born so you were born we will decide when you shall go you don't jump the gun.

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But all of us are slightly anxious. I'm sorry, what's going to happen to me when I die?

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A little bit of worry concern you probably a correct word. I tell you what the same rule applies. Do your best be the best possible person you can use the God given ability that you have to achieve the most and to help as many people as you can and to worship He who made you and talk to him. Tell him Oh, you who made me? I tried my best. Forgive my shortcomings. I know. I'm going to return to you. I have hope in your mercy. Notice when the Quran starts before you begin the recitation you say Bismillah

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Manu Rahim in the Name of Allah the most

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Merciful, the Most Compassionate, the Most Merciful in every single way. Wow. Just by saying Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim you should be smiling man. You're declaring the greatest qualities of your maker, what are they the merciful maker, and the most compassionate of all? That is Allah, He is your maker, my maker

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that should bring about a smile, and it should reduce your concern about the hereafter, which means as much as I am concerned, we all have to be in fact, but it will not slide beyond the point where I just feel like I don't want to get out of bed because I'm going to die.

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I have a brother of mine in faith from another country altogether. unwell. So he calls me and he says, You know what? I think I'm going to die. Now what do I tell him?

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I told him I think we're all going to die Subhanallah Is that not true? I'm going to go to but my brother, don't lose hope. keep on

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searching for a remedy to your sickness, keep on following whatever you need to in terms of medicine and so on. And Allah is the Lord, He made you in the first place. He's going to take us all back when the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, lost his son, Ibrahim. And by the way, he lost all his children one after the other. Isn't that a point of sadness. It was such that the year he lost his wife Khadija and his uncle. It was known as Amel huizen the year of sadness. Imagine the year of sadness, referring to the sadness of whom none other than the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. That's why I told you earlier, it's normal to be sad. It's normal, but it's not normal to let it

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make you slide beyond the point where you don't even want to live. You don't want to get up in the morning, no matter how sad you are. Fajr is fragile. The horror is over. You will praise Allah you will repeat the words of praise of Allah you will remember him you will develop a good relationship with him. So the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said when he lost his son in law Hema Allahumma Appa what couldn't do che in India who be agilely Musa, indeed for Allah is whatever he took away, it was always his, from the very beginning, whatever he gave was also his. When he gave us this child, it was from him. And when he took the child away, it's still from him. And everything that he

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has made, has a prescribed time when it comes, he's going to end it or take it away. That's Allah. So understand this plan of Allah Almighty, where he will take things away. Those of you who've lost loved ones, I cannot help you beyond a good word. I cannot change your mindset beyond speaking to you listening to you trying to understand those of you who've lost children, may Allah make it easy for you. That's a dua I can offer you. Nobody will be able to understand your pain, but Allah, so talk to Allah connect with him, it will help you it will give you a reason to look forward to tomorrow. There are people who have lost not just one child, but plenty there are people who have

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lost many family members. We were fortunate in this country.

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With the pandemic that just ended. We were fortunate. I was one of those, in actual fact, who was concerned about malaria. Because I've been here so many times lovely people and I told myself you know what, the population is such an it's in such a place and such a way May Allah protect them and grant them goodness Wallahi I tell you, the goodness you've been blessed with is only from Allah.

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The goodness you've been blessed with is only from Allah but don't you agree? There are people who lost loved ones even though small in number relatively, we cannot belittle the number.

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You cannot tell someone who lost a father Well, you know what, you only lost your father, we didn't lose ours. That is so insensitive.

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We need to pray we need to reach out we need to talk to when someone passes away. It's so difficult on for example, the widow or the widower or a parent if it's a child and so on. It's very difficult. After a few days, everyone forgets about it who is living with the struggle, it's you.

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But Allah is with you. So you develop your link with Allah and it will help you to overcome certain things. It does not mean your faith is weak know when the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him cried at this time of the death of Ibrahim his son, a tear rolled down his cheeks the Sahaba of the Allahu Anhu asked him what is this all messenger? You know why? Because people sometimes have a misunderstanding that your faith is strong. You're supposed to be sad, your faith is strong. You're not even supposed to cry.

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I know what he said. He answered so beautifully.

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In nama here Mattoon Jalla Hala, who? Ruhama

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these tears, they are mercy that Allah has placed in the hearts of those who are merciful. The tear is a sign of mercy. Why do I cry because I love my child so much, because I love you so much. And I'm witnessing things go pear shaped. So I'm crying, I'm a human being crying is good, by the way. Sometimes, it will help you. It's a mechanism that Allah has created man by

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you cry, it's natural, it's normal. You have tear glands perfectly made by the owner of the universe.

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From time to time, empty them.

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Allahu Akbar, may Allah grant us ease. It's normal.

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You cry out to the Almighty, not because you lost anything because you desperately want something. So you are here early in the morning when everyone is asleep, raising your hands to the Almighty. And suddenly tears roll down and Allah says, oh, my beloved worshiper, you're not crying because of a loss. You're not crying because I took something away from you. You're not crying because I've punished you. You're crying because you desperately want something from me.

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So what does Allah do? Allah will only give it to you, if he knows it's better for you, and when he knows, or when he knows this is better for you at that particular time.

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If it is better for you, you get it. If not, you won't get it.

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It's like a small child and example, when adults become very depressed simply because they cannot get what they want. If Allah knows that that example is equivalent to a small child asking a parent for a sharp knife.

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Wow, the knife is sharp. It is so beautiful. It cuts it slices. It's one of the best in the world maybe. And this child is crying to you to give them the knife and making tantrum upon tantrum. What will you do as a parent? Will you ever give that knife to the child the way they want it?

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Impossible because you know something the child doesn't understand. I promise you an example of Allah is higher than that. When Allah does not give you something be convinced that there is a noble reason for this. That's why look at how Allah has remedied us. He tells us through the blessed lips of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him when you asked me for something I've heard you.

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Yes, you can keep on repeating it. No problem. It's beneficial for you. I've heard you and I will respond when it has a bad day. And if in Caribe OJ Buddha, I wanted that either and funnily Yes, the G Bulli, Allah says, Whenever my worship has asked you about me I am near, I answer the call of those who call or the call of those who call out to me, all of them, whenever they call out to me. So Allah says, So let them call out to me. Allah says, either give you what you want, how you want exactly where you want it and how you want it. Wow. May Allah grant that to us, man. But I think if we all were given that it would clash sometimes we asked him for the same thing. I know of a time

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please don't laugh at this. But it's it's really it's a reality.

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Two different guys came to me, asking me to make dua for them

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to get married to the same girl, without knowing this one is saying make dua that I marry that person and the other man comes to me, the guy comes to me says Make dua said I want to get married to who he said the name because I knew it was a community I know that

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I'm stuck because what do I do? Subhanallah it's impossible. You can't both be married to the same person here. That's just one example. But for Allah, when he has kept something away from you, you need to realize he told us already I either give you what you want, how you want it, or I give you what you want a little bit later on. So be patient or I give you something better than what you want or I replaced for you what you want, which was inferior with something you don't realize is actually far superior than what you wanted, or I keep for you the reward for the hereafter. So when you get to the hereafter, none of your two hours go for waste.

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This morning I treated

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with the Juma in mind making a prayer for the building of relationships of kinship

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family ties, and I said May we not break family ties

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it's like more of a dua at any cost. So one of my friends messages me and says, I disagree. How could you say at any cost? I said my brother it's a DUA. It's a prayer to Allah. I can ask Allah the impossible or what's what's the big deal? In fact, it's, it's good. I'm asking Allah something I consider impossible May Allah soften their hearts, I will get a reward for it. Oh, Allah help me never to break family ties at any cost. Why don't you just say I mean to that, because sometimes family ties, it's impossible to maintain them beyond a certain point when something really toxic has happened. But that's not the norm. It's not supposed to be the norm. But it's okay if you stay away

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from someone of your own family, when something really toxic that is deserving of that has happened, although you are still encouraged to try and solve the matter.

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But I don't know every circumstance. So I cannot just say that for every single person but to make a DUA,

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what will I benefit from it? In the hereafter? Allah will say, all of this is a reward for you. Because you made so many to us. I didn't give you that in the world, but here it is in the hereafter. That's Allah. That's Allah. Isn't it? A means of us understanding okay, I might not get this but it's okay. I'm not gonna give up. It's not the end of the world.

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May Allah grant us is you want to become a head boy or a head girl at your school and suddenly you will not chosen so what happens? You become sad. You don't want to go to school anymore. No, my child, you must get up and go and work even harder. My father used to teach us when we were young, don't worry about positions. You want to be the chairman. You want to be the head boy, you want to be the work hard, people will automatically think you are the chairman Subhanallah because you work so hard. They will think wow, this person is the one when they want something they come to you because they know this is the worker. It's when you are put into a position. It is a very big

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responsibility. Not everyone can stomach that all not everyone can fulfill the roles so Allah keeps you away from it for a reason.

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Don't let it stress you and depress you.

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Let's go to the Quran.

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The verse that was read like I said, is connected to the remembrance of Allah what is the remembrance of Allah Subhana Allah, constantly repeat words of praise Glory be to Allah, masha Allah Alhamdulillah Subhanallah La Ilaha illa Allah Allahu Akbar Alhamdulillah I thank Allah, O Allah, glory be to you, Oh Allah, You are the greatest, and so on. These words are known as words of wicked, but the remembrance of Allah is also whenever you are tempted to do something wrong, you remember him so you abstain. Whenever there is something good to be done, and you're feeling lazy, you remember him so you fulfill it. That's also part of the remembrance of Allah, to speak good with

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people and to be in good company. Why does Islam give so much of importance to good company, because when you are down, they will lift you up. When you're feeling sad, they will empower you by lending you and air and by telling you a good word.

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And like I said, the good word is a charity, great charity.

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When in the Quran, Allah Almighty addresses the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him.

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I said earlier, he lost his children.

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All of them besides one.

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People fought him. People called him names.

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You know, if you pick up, I'm going to give you an example because I'm on social media. You pick up Twitter,

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you will have perhaps people who want to listen to you, a lot of people follow you and so on. You have millions of people mashallah, who will appreciate what you do, if not millions, at least a large number of those, but you will always have a healthy chunk that is smaller, but loud and vocal that is very vulgar. It says more about them than you do not allow social media to cause any one of those words you see behind me here today. Don't ever allow someone calling you a bad name on social media trying to perhaps defame you or trying to, perhaps character assassinate you don't allow them to depress you, I tell you, they love you so much low key, the jealousy has overtaken them, perhaps

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to the degree that they have invested their time, money, effort and energy to study your life so that they can pick on something just thank Allah. You didn't even know that Subhanallah they know you so well. They've studied every aspect of your life, the way you breathe. They say his belly moves like this, bro. I haven't noticed it. It's my own belly. I haven't noticed it up to today.

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And you're

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supposed to move anyway, thank Allah you see it. I have had someone, for example, called me about what did I do? Subhan Allah.

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He looks exactly like me. He's from the same species, everything is quite similar. He speaks the same language as a dog Subhanallah Why do I even need to respond, don't let it bother you smile at it, laugh and carry on.

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The other day, I was enjoying some water sports somewhere. And I'm giving you my own example.

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And I thought to myself, You know what the world needs to know that you can be a practicing Muslim. It's not all doom and gloom, you can enjoy your life within the means and limits of Allah. And I promise you 10 minutes, 1520 30 minutes, perhaps of a water sport that you enjoy or something else doesn't make you a person who's drowning in this worldly life such that you forgotten Allah. In fact, as you're enjoying your sport, you might want to say subhanallah, Allahu Akbar, Alhamdulillah. And who would know is converted into an act of worship? Agreed? They don't know. But people say no, this man, you're a scholar. You're a traitor. You're this you're supposed to be you're not supposed

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to be doing this. And what are you, you know, beaming to the people. What are you teaching them? You know, what? If you don't have a beautiful sarcastic answer to that don't respond. They don't want the response. They know for a fact that they are wrong. They know it.

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You either leave it in smile, and thank Allah and go again.

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Someone told me you're not allowed to skydive. It's haram. You're putting your life at risk. I went again.

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SubhanAllah. And I promise you if they say it again, I'll go with it.

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That's the only answer. I don't need to say no. Oh, my brother, you know, it's okay. It's permissible. It's this, you know, we do have a parachute. But if you flew, if you jumped out without a parachute, maybe you can come and try that and see what happened. No, no, no, we're not going to be that we will leave it. It's okay. The reason I spend a moment is because we are living in an age of social media.

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And I'm sure you're aware of the fact that I have quite a presence there. So I do face a lot of flack and challenges. But guess what? It's less than 1%.

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Don't allow that to determine. Sometimes there's one person with 20 or 30 accounts pretending to be 20 people, could you be bothered? The answer is no, I can't. I lead my life. Those around me who mean the most. They understand and appreciate those who know me know me, I try to be as genuine as I can. I've tried to help. There will always be people who will call me a sellout and a hypocrite and a traitor and whatever. It's okay. I will never allow that to cause any form of anxiety, depression, stress, whatever else it may be, because I believe in the Lord of the words he has given me. And perhaps he has blessed us all much more than others.

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The people who are the most depressed at times are those who are bothered negatively about the lives of others. You're not happy for someone else. So you're so sad, you can't even live why. Look at that guy. And look at this. What are you? What are you worried about? The hadith tells you when you see someone with goodness, make dua that Allah grant you the goodness and strengthen the goodness for them. Don't make dua that Allah take it away from them and give it to me. No. Give me Give them to, oh Allah you bless this person, bless me to not take it away. But the minute you start saying take it away from them, there is another person saying take it away from you.

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That's not noble.

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So the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him was told by Allah. When people said bad words about him.

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He says, Allah Almighty says wala de la

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Rocha Bhima yaku alone, O Muhammad peace be upon him. We know that it is tightening your chest to hear what they are saying about you.

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They used to call him a magician, a madman power greedy, greedy for money after this and after that, and they used to say he's all sorts of names start with Allah. Allah says we know we know what they're saying.

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But we want to give you the remedy. What is the remedy?

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So be be Hamdi are a big welcome Mina Sergej. Dean. Declare the greatness of your Lord and find yourself from among those who often prostrate. That means pray to Allah and declare His praise. Make sujood prostrate to Allah. It will help you. It will help you turn to the maker of the universe turned to the

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Be a to have entire creation, it will help you

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is telling His Beloved, we know that what they're saying isn't hurting you, we know it. But don't hurt, declare our praise and fall into frustration for us and continue to worship us until the day you meet your Lord. Continue. That's empowering, so empowering.

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In fact, Allah Almighty speaks about the recitation of the Quran itself. And Allah says in it, there is cure in it, there is beauty in the Quran, there is a cure for the hearts that are diseased.

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Why Allah has an ally him, Allah says, Do not be saddened by what has happened to them or what they are doing etc, etc. Allah says you know what you need to know that's in the hands of Allah.

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So my beloved brothers, my sisters,

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your connection with your maker will definitely help you.

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But something interesting, if you reach out to someone in need,

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Allah will reach out to you in the same need and in other needs that you have.

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So if you would like the help of Allah, help others and see the help of Allah coming to you.

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Can Allah Who fee I wouldn't elaborate de MacConnell Abu fee only Effie, the help of Allah will continue being with a slave for as long as that person continues to help another. So don't give up on helping one another. You see in this world, we have come on Earth in order to worship Allah alone, my maker, your maker, the creator of entire creation, we worship Him alone, primarily, and secondary, in order to serve the rest of the creatures of the same maker. And we've said this time and again, I said it this afternoon in Joomla. And I'm repeating it again, you are considered an amazing human beings. If you've achieved both of these, you worship your maker alone. And you are

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busy helping people reaching out to them, displaying goodness to them, your character, your conduct. And at times, when you feel low, Allah will create people around you to cheer you and to help you up and to make you feel good again, because a lot of it is in the mind. And sometimes the heart

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is affected.

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Don't think you're alone in your struggles. We all have struggles. If you had to sit with me for an hour, and only asked me about the troubles and struggles that I have faced. You will never imagine what I would tell you.

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Because normally when we see a person, we only see the good. You see people and you think, wow, they're living the life. I promise you if you knew their life, you are the one living the life. That's what it is. Because Allah tests everyone differently. I remember one of the chefs say, a very interesting thing. In the masjid, there was a person who came to complain about his problems. So the chef announced to say, Listen, quite a few people have come now to complain to me about their lives. I'd like each one of you tomorrow to bring a piece of paper and write only 10 of the main problems you have in your life.

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Many of them didn't even feel the 10 You know, there were only four or five if I asked you today, highlight the main problems you have in your life, I promise you, you can count them,

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you will be able to count 123 Unfortunately, some of us it's a list of names because people are a problem sometimes. Right? But you name and it's there. I can tell you that chef says the next day when they all brought their papers, or how many people were in the masjid. I put all those papers into one little like a hat and he says a box. He shook it all and told the people in the masjid make a line here and pick out one paper and choose which paper you'd like this is real life these are the real life problems of the people of this world. You are not happy with your so pick out someone else's life and live it. He says every one picked up one says no not this one picked up the other

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one. Not this one. Okay. Oh, whoa, not this one at all. This one? Yeah, no, no, where is my paper? Let me take it back.

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That's the plan of Allah. Allah gave you a capacity to go through what you are going through even though it seems like it's about to crack your back. Don't you hear? Alumna Shara. halacha sandarac. While not always like and let me call Baba Harrach that Surah Shara where Allah Almighty speaks about how Allah is the One Who granted the cure and the purity

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Under strength after the backs we're about to break. So Allah takes you to the point to define you you never knew you could achieve until you were tested and challenged and then when you got up to face the challenge you realized, you know what, I can do this mashallah ask those who cannot swim.

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While I'm in the Maldives I'm sure everyone can swim, right?

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Did I just hear no?

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Oh, I don't think I heard correct.

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But imagine those who cannot swim you tell them I'm going to throw you in the water. No, no, no don't I can't swim throw you in the water you will swim. By the way, don't try what I just said.

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I'm just giving you an example to say sometimes you think you cannot do something. If you put your mind to it for a little while you will achieve beyond your imagination. That's what it is. The problem was us. We were frightened by shaytan who else and sometimes by the people around us who are not prepared to empower us they create fear in us you can't do it no you will never do it Don't even try don't even bother. I can I will I shall and I have and tomorrow when I have the gold medal here it is I did it. Mashallah. With whose help the help of ALLAH what else? Determination? Don't worry. Get up and face your fears Mashallah.

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So the guy gets up and stands right in front of his wife.

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Well, that's not what we meant. Mashallah, mashallah, that's not what we meant. At least you guys were listening to what I had to say.

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My brothers, my sisters, we must get up and face. Whatever Allah has chosen for us in life, but do not use your own hands. To destroy yourself, be wise. Be humble. Be calm.

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Reach out to people help others see how Allah will help you.

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Pray often, like we said earlier, read the Quran. The Quran has in it cure, read it on a regular basis and see what Allah does for you.

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The DUA of the Prophet sallallaahu Salam and I think I'll end on this note beautiful dua. He says Allah Who Majid Al Quran Alavi ma Robbie Upolu Bina were no Rasul during wa Jalla zand. Nina WHAT THE * about hormone Mina? Well, whom Amina I'm sure we've heard this dua so many times in Salatin Witter in Ramadan. Oh Allah, let this Quran be the spring of our hearts. Robbie Colombina were Nora sudo Rena, let the Quran be the moon and the light of our chests, our bosoms

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what Jalla Aza Nina, let it be the detachment of our sadnesses let our sadnesses go as a result of our connection with the Quran, the hubba humo mean our home Amina, let all our worries our anxiety go as a result of our connection with the Quran. That's a dua of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. So definitely if you were to connect with the Quran, five minutes a day, five minutes a day, your life will change.

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May Allah Almighty help us to help one another? And may He assist us and guide us to go through the challenges of life? Yes, indeed, there are many.

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Yes, indeed, there are many challenges. And there are so many times we don't even know what's going to happen to us. But you're not the only one. There are so many of us. Live your day for the day. And when you look ahead, keep trying. But remember, your Lord will take care of you. Allah will see you through. Even if you happen to be terminally ill. You have no option, but to hope in the Mercy of Allah as you grow older. And you might be looking forward to a day when you will be meeting with Allah. Remember, it's going to be a beautiful day. I have heard that Allah is merciful, kind, forgiving, Beneficent, the Most Amazing, the most beautiful, the most loving, the most, the most

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forgiving, etc, etc. I've heard all of that. I've tried. I'm not an evil person. I've tried my best I faulted as a human being here and there. I sought the forgiveness of Allah on a regular basis. That is very empowering. Now what has happened to me? I'm honestly looking forward to the day I meet my maker because I know he is amazing. He is amazing. I have hope in the Mercy of Allah.

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Yes, if evil qualities are overtaking us, we need to be concerned we need to eradicate it. The temporary gratification that one achieves through sin will only bring about sadness in the long term, the temporary gratification that one achieves through engaging in that which is illegal and unlawful.

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We'll all

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Only bring about long term regret. The good thing is, in the eyes of Allah, you can always seek forgiveness forgiven, but if it were a crime against a fellow human being, then you will need to perhaps pay a price or seek the forgiveness of that particular individual. May Allah Almighty forgive us all. May Allah Almighty help us in every way. I've thoroughly enjoyed the hour that I've spoken. I spoken exactly for an hour. And I must add, every time I've come to the Maldives, I've noticed growth. I haven't been here

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the virus had

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affected us.

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But coming after about two, two and a half years, I must say, Wow, Masha, Allah, Allah has blessed you. And I noticed superb growth infrastructurally and I feel a sense of calm and a sense of goodness, May Allah help our hearts, soften them towards him rather than away from him. May Allah help us and guide us to respect one another, even if we differ with each other. Because what I've noticed across the globe, one of the greatest downfalls that we are facing today, we don't respect people who disagree with us, that's a problem. We should be mature enough to understand the difference between agreeing with you and respecting you. I respect you but I disagree with what

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you've just said. I respect you, I will honor you I will not cause chaos. I will not utter bad words. I will not for example, reduce my own place to rubble just because I disagree with you. That is something we really need to consider. Take a look at the Muslims across the globe and try and see what's going on. If we do not respect one another what's going to happen to us? May Allah Almighty help us and guide us in the correct direction. appunto Leha wa sallahu wa salam ala Baraka ala Nabina, Muhammad was Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Maldives, October 2022

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