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Altavilla ministry Tanana Jima Smilla rahmanir rahim. hamdulillah Hello Billa let me Alameen wa salatu salam ala Showfield MBM he will mursaleen so you didn't have Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam ala alihi wa sahbihi wa verrucosa Lim My respect to you, brothers and sisters and children. Salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah heeta Allahu Baraka.

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Once again, I welcome you

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to this beautiful facility on this blessed day of Juma May Allah subhanho wa Taala accept it from you and from me. On May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive our sins, and grant us the best in this life and in the life to come. I have a few quick announcements. First of all, I want to acknowledge the our young brother Sulaiman, who called the oven, beautiful, masha Allah, it's important that young people step up to the plate with their skills in serving the deen of Allah subhanho wa taala. And we're open for that. So if you are a young person, and you have a skill, and you have some knowledge, or you have a skill that you would like to give back to the community, please step up and

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subhanahu wa taala Phaeton zero yeah yo Latina ermine temple la her political party he wala termo tuna in LA and Muslim on some buried my brothers and sisters first and foremost, let me begin by asking Allah subhanahu wa taala to accept from us our efforts especially in a blessed month of shuffling Movado Allahumma Amin and we are still in the blessed month of show well, I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala allows us to live a life that is pleasing to Him. And if you find yourself that you're doing something different, it's a little bit more than what you did prior to Ramadan. then realize that that is a sign that Allah subhanho wa Taala has accepted you and that in sha Allah

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Who Tirana all that you do moving forward Bismillah is a sign it's a reflection it's an indication of Ramadan benefited you. May Allah azza wa jal allow all of us from to be amongst them. Allahumma and Amin Are you all today want to speak to you about one of the most important etiquettes that a believer should and must have, and that is forgiving others forgiving others. Everyone makes mistakes. Nobody is perfect. We are not angels. We are all subject to error and mistakes. And our Prophet Eileen has Salatu was Salam told us in an authentic hadith in the Muslim of Imam Muhammad, very beautiful, very simple Hadith you can all memorize. Where he tells us Allahu Allah, he was

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salam ala Pharaoh, you will felt welcome. If you forgive each other, a law in turn will forgive you. Very simple, very beautiful. However, there's an issue when it comes to the process of forgiving.

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In the month of Ramadan, we begged Allah for his forgiveness more than we usually do. And in sha Allah we all continue to do that till this day. And Allah will do it for the rest of our lives be it's Nila. So we want to Allah to accept us. We want Allah to forgive us. Despite that we as human beings, we will commit sins and we will do wrong. Allah azza wa jal forgive us, Allah Who mean? Well, when it comes to each other, it's a different story.

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There are grudges, there are things like you've wronged me so much, I can't forgive you. The memory is lifetime. Even if you've changed and you've become different, I can't find it in my heart, forgive you. And then you know, there's a there's a bunch of things that follow the relationships are broken, friendships are broken, and so on and so forth. So what I want to share with you is how to forgive others. We understand the blessing, we understand the importance, but I think some of the points I will share with you might surprise you.

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It might surprise you. There are five things to keep in mind when it comes to forgiving each other.

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Number one, our Shetty eye tells us that there is a response that is totally and strictly haram.

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When somebody wrongs you

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haps they may have said something about you. And you know, they said that even if you didn't hurt hear it or you heard it, you and I are not allowed to respond in a way that's worse than what was said. So we can go and physically hurt somebody or do anything of that nature. So the first category It is haram for someone to respond when they are wrong with something worse, the shredder yard says no. So that's clear. Number two onwards is where things get interesting. Our scholar is that the second category is you don't forgive, but instead you respond with what was said or given to you. This is an area in the Quran in surah Assura where Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us what Jezza WUSA,

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ye 10. Say ye a to miss Luhan the respond. The response for somebody who has wronged you is the to respond with the same wrong in return. Somebody insults you. The Sharia allows us to insult back. Now, if you're thinking, well, this is interesting, this is a free card really. I can go back now to people who have said stuff to me because today's allowed me to do that. Keep in mind brothers and sisters,

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the response Allah also calls that say yes.

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So if someone has said something to you, that's despicable, condescending, rude, insulting, and you choose to do the same in return. Islam allows you to do that. But understand you are responding in the same manner. Allah says, say here was say to Miss Liu Hmm. So you have one wrong, you're countering it with another wrong. And in the sight of Allah, you're both now equal. Nobody has actually done anything different. You're in the same status. So just keep this in mind. Why do I say this?

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A lot of us are brought up that the only option when someone has wronged you is you forgiven, walk away, how you feel, the aftermath, the emotions, all of the trauma, the stress.

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Just forgive.

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Forget.

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Put it behind you.

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Your feelings. Just forgive. And human beings don't work that way.

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The prophet Isaiah he'll salatu salam,

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the man who was responsible for killing his uncle Hamza Ibn Abdul Muttalib Radi Allahu Allah and that man eventually became Muslim. And the Prophet Allah His blood was salam still couldn't be friends with him. As a matter of there were times where this man would try to get close to him. Salallahu Alaihe Salam, and he didn't have a close relationship with this man. So the law while he was he's a human being. I can't get over what you did to my uncle.

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Some of us feel this way when someone has wronged you. I, every time I see you,

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wherever we go, if I see you remind me of that time moment.

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I'm here to remind myself in you that that's okay. However, keep in mind, yeah, in Haoran continues.

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That Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us ferment naffaa Will Aslan, for agile Who is Allah, that whomsoever pardons so if you dig deep, and you say to yourself, you know what, I'm still going to pardon you. I'm still going to forgive you. And you know what US law, I'm going to build a relationship with you, I'm going to try my best to be friends with you. Allah says that your reward for doing that is with him. No one really knows what is the true reward for forgiving each other for the sake of Allah. Allah says that to ensure and reward is going to be with him, wait for it. Bismillah. So you see there's still an incentive to forgive and pardon. But the Sharia is so perfect

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and complete, it takes into consideration the gray areas in between. Here's the third point to keep in mind. If number two is difficult, and you choose not I'm not going to do what they did to me. Number three, and I've had to do this quite a bit is you leave the matter with the courts of Allah subhanho wa taala. On the Day of Judgment, Allah will deal with you. Like if people talk about me, or they make videos about us or they insult us in private conversations later on you

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hear about that.

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And you say to yourself, I don't want any problems. What I heard hurts but I don't want any problems. I will leave this matter with Allah. Allah will account them. The [???]tier allows this May Allah azza wa jal give us strength, because all of this is going somewhere, so bear with me. Number four.

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You can also forgive, but avoid that person in this world. You can forgive but you don't have to be best friends.

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You can forgive in your heart and the bare minimum Salam or Aleikum. Wa alaykum wa salam that's it. The Sharia allows this again, it goes back to the incident of Hamza Ibn Abdul Muttalib Radi Allahu Allah and but there are several examples in the poor ena belt this there are several examples in the Sunnah about this look, my point here is why is the Shetty are allowing this it's very different from what we were taught when we were growing up. We were taught to just forgive and walk away why is the Shetty out even allowed this? There's a couple of reasons. Number one,

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you must have a sense of dignity for yourself.

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You must stand up for yourself. If you allow the Islamaphobe to tell you and say to you all you want and you stand and say you know what I forgive you was salam Wa alaykum guess what what could happen, this is the next problem. You leave the door open, that same person will continue to do it to others and it might escalate so the trend and culture is born. This is the way the person is and because nobody really put them in their place or confronted them. That behavior continues. May Allah azza wa jal give us wisdom and strength for loving me And number five, forgive forget as if it never happened. This is the highest level in the sight of Allah and it goes back to the area. If you do at

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the end of the day, decide I'm going to forgive forget it's all with Allah, don't worry about it. May Allah azza wa jal bless you that is an honorable position in the sight of Allah. But realize that there are other choices in between why this hurts my brothers and sisters. I will conclude with the second part of the headband share with you some of the reasons why we want to have this reminder Bismillah I pray Allah azza wa jal continue to purify our hearts may Allah subhanho wa Taala continue to bless us an honor us may Allah azza wa jal always in forever bless our hearts and our lives with the beautiful quality of forgiveness. And alpha Allahumma Amin Apolo meta smartphone was

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Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Allah He often a Salah woman was buried. First thing is that the first category of people you should always try to forgive and forget is your family, your spouse, your children, your relatives, they take priority. Why? Because of one Hadith. And it's a hadith we all know our Prophet alayhi salatu salam told us, the best of you are the best to your families.

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You know, on a day, I'll talk to a family that said to me, this is one of the worst days of my life we got into a conversation and they explained a habit many families have you on the outside so many Muslim families will hug kiss, embrace, laugh, joy, till he gets in the car till she gets in the car and everybody is angry, and they're fighting, the bitterness comes out. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam said the best of you are the ones who are best to your family. Some Muslims are the worst to their families. So this, these points here is to help us dig deep. Dig deep, if there's a problem, work it out, forgive and move on. The second point brothers and sisters why the subject today is our

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scholars tell us when you forgive, there's an internal healing that takes place. You know how we say you can you bury the hatchet. You know, even experts when they sit down they listen to our problems is one of the first things they say to you let it go, you'll feel better. And it's actually quite true even from an Islamic point of view. When you can let things go. It helps you to heal inside the anxiety, the discomfort slowly starts to go away. And finally brothers and sisters. Our scholars tell us that one of the greatest reasons why you should always do your best to forgive

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Is that? Remember the area? The reward is with Allah? Can you imagine that?

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We know the rewards or at least some of them for the basic deeds we do day to day. We know some of the rewards for fasting, we know some of the rewards for Salah and all of the other EBA done, but the thing that we interact with every single day if you find it deep in your heart, to just always and forever get along with one another, Allah says Men Subhanallah Your reward is with me. That's personal. There's only one act of worship that Allah subhanho wa Taala said the same thing about which was the Ramadan fast. For him know who Lee was an edger Zb the Prophet alayhi salat wa salam say your Ramadan fast. Oh, that's for me and I will reward you with that. You don't know what that

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is yet? Well, Allah azza wa jal except from us our efforts, it's such a beautiful and complete Deen May Allah azza wa jal always allow us to continue to learn to continue to benefit and uplift our lives. Allahu Mermin we send peace and blessings to our Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or LA Kemet. Mr. Rana subhanho wa Taala Phaeton xili in Allahu wa mela Iike to who you saw Lunarlon Irby yeah you hola Xena mn was salam ala he was a limitless Lima Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad wa ala early Mohammed como Selita Isla Ibrahim while early Ibrahima innaka Hamid OMA Jean Allahu Mfu Massimino Willie Muslim and well meaning I will move minute here in a minute in a category was

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