Why Cant We Be Friends
Channel: Musleh Khan
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This talk/lecture was given at the One Ummah Conference 2016 (The Contemporary Muslim)
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And therefore reminding us that
a super ordinate goal, a goal that we all can agree on, is what leads to the outcome of unity. We can't just say, We're gonna do a unity talk. It's all about action. Thank you for reminding us. You see, they recently came up with this concept called with the North. Anybody heard of it? Show of hands. You're all basketball fans, right? But it didn't start off as a basketball thing. It started off as a unity project to unite people in Canada on something specific we the North. Now if we want to think about a united Canada, we have to we must take what the shift spoke about into the sincerest of considerations. If it's going to be a united Canada, what do we need to be doing?
Because there's a difference between being marginalized and being isolated. If you don't want to have anything to do with your own people, and nothing to do with society? That's marginalization. But integration is, as he said, maintaining your identity fully,
and participating in society. So thank you, Chef. The chef will be out in the back for speaker's corner. If you have any questions, he'll be there for about 20 minutes inshallah. Now,
our next speaker,
we know very well, we've seen him in Calgary multiple times. He's the type of Imam that parents say you should be more like him.
And he's the type of Imam that you say to their parents, you should listen to him.
He's a bridge between the two. And not because of Masha Allah has extensive knowledge, but it's his experience. He has over 10 years of process to lead to this outcome.
is more than credible when it comes to the Quran and the Hadith.
After studying, he came back to Canada, after studying into Medina, he came back to Canada to start what I believe is a lifelong trajectory of answering the difficult questions. My son the other day asks me how old is Allah?
Now what do I do? I put on my most intellectual mindset. And I said, You know what?
Allah doesn't have an age.
So he says to me, so he's zero.
Now, how am I supposed to define infinity? No beginning no end to a five year old, cognitively, psychologically, cannot process abstract things. Much like so many of us who received those questions from community members, from leaders, from friends from colleagues from children themselves, and we cannot answer it. Thank God for asked Muslim
because any question you have can be forwarded to him through his video series. So he's a martial and hamdulillah valuable resource. Now.
If you're wondering how to answer any question, a child asks that you get frustrated and flustered with simple four words that any counselor will tell you is perhaps the most powerful four words when he says how old is Allah?
Now, some of us would say, well, you should tell him in a wonderful robot, but he doesn't understand a word and he doesn't understand first and last
doesn't understand no age. So I said these four powerful words that I hope you can take away with you they are, what do you think?
So I get to understand his thought process shift. Muslim, Han,
youngest one of the youngest imams in Canada,
perhaps. And again, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable or anything or pressure but the pressure is on because I do believe even the elderly imams are looking to him for answers. Our youth are looking to him for answers. Please welcome with sincere our share, Muslim Han.
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I'm going to begin with a very short recitation in shalom Tara
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wa Salatu was salam wa ala to manually acmella Ania Hydra hulten la he was early he was Herbie he urged Marian Allahumma eliminare be million foreigner one foreigner Bhima alum Tina was in our in mania Kareem or beshara. His surgery was silly. Emery was the Tommy Lee Cerny of Cabo Kohli, some buried my brothers and sisters. So I have just recited selected verses from suitable for upon and my title for you, I believe it's called why we can't be friends.
And this title is extremely important not just for the young people, for anybody, especially if you call yourself a believer, from a spiritual aspect, it is just as important and as any other practical or logical aspect. But what I'm going to do is I want to address with you some of the spiritual bankruptcies when we're choosing friends. So there are going to be two areas that I would look at in sha Allah. Number one is the whole concept of gender interaction. So can guys be friends with girls vice versa. And then the second aspect of the topic really is the kinds of friends that we choose. So we see or want to see good in them. But the reality is, they can disrupt your entire
life as the messenger RNA is Salatu was Salam once told us that you are upon the dean upon the path of your friends, my mother always used to tell me the same thing. Show me your friends, and I'll tell you who you are. And this is actually one of the ways that I learned to, to choose proper friends. I actually learned that discipline from my mother. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to begin by talking to you a little bit about how Muslims approached the religion of Islam.
Usually when it comes to us, wanting to practice our Deen many Muslims fall into under two major categories in terms of their approach to the religion. You have what I call the first category which are the conservative Muslims. These are the Muslims that are in Islam for all the acts of worship, they pray, they fast they go and make Hajj they're always in the masjid, they grow their beards. They were there hijabs, they are in Islam, and they're in it to stay. There's just one problem with that. Look at some of their friends. Some of their friends are terrible. Look at the way they treat their families. The guy can't give his wife, her mom a hug, and he's been married to her for 25
years. There's all these bankruptcies in their lifestyle, aside from the spiritual aspect, so they are amazing Muslims, but they're struggling to be good people. They're not patient, they lose their anger. You can trust them, you can do business with them. So that's the first category. Then you have the second category of Muslims. When I say this, I say this again, it's a generalization. Not every single Muslim is like this, which is what I call the ultra liberal Muslims. These are the Muslims that Masha Allah they are amazing people. You can trust them. You can handle
them the keys to your house, you can give them everything in this world and know that they will carry it or return it back to you just the way they've received it. The only problem is is they say to themselves, well, I'm a good person. So why do I need to pray five times a day? Why do I need to practice all of these things? Why do I have to fast? It's summertime? Why am I gonna do all of that I'm a good person. So they are amazing people struggling to be good Muslims. Now, having said that, always remember that our religion causes the individual or cause an individual to be both of these things. You can't be one without the other. You need both to be a complete Muslim. Where am I
getting this from? Do you remember who the messenger alayhi salatu was Salam was, before he was a prophet.
Do you remember and read all the stories of what kind of individual he was when he interacted with people, you could do business with him, you could trust him. I mean, subpanel law, one of the most famous titles given to him before Prophethood was the trustworthy one, I mean, he was also called a solid. And I'm kind of proud that he was also called a Muslim. So he had all of these wonderful titles attached to him, before he started that deep spiritual journey of becoming a prophet. This is when Allah subhanho wa Taala completed him as a human being. And so the first lesson for all of us, when you're going to approach this topic, or this practice in life called friendship, then you first
need to know and need to understand where you stand as a Muslim. Because when you know that, then you know what you're going to look for and want to achieve out of that friendship, you're not just going to be an individual, that anybody who gives you a little bit of attention, you're like, Oh, my God, I can I be your friend, you're not going to do those things.
You're always going to be critical of yourself, because you want to surround yourself with people who are better than you better than you, in what sense intellectually, socially, whatever the case is, somehow there are a couple extra pluses on their side. And that's beneficial to you. And then as the friendship progresses, then they realize that, Mashallah you also have some qualities that I want to work on as well. So you begin to inspire each other, one of the first and most critical ways that you will learn and know you have a good friend, is that both of you can inspire each other to feel good about yourselves, you inspire one another that regardless of what your state is, you can
still be better. So you don't point fingers and call each other idiots all day and point out each other's mistake. But even if the other person is lagging in something they should be strong in. The other friend is always there and say, Bro, I know you're not like them. And Come on, is that how you talk to your parents? I never heard you talk to them that way. And you're always looking out for one another. Now, having said that, our topic is why we can't be friends. So let's start with the first troublesome point of this topic, which is friendship between guys and girls, men and women.
I don't know how else to say it, but it's just simply not going to happen.
Okay, that's enough for me to finish with this point and move on. But I'm supposed to elaborate further.
There are literally dozens and dozens of experiments and articles written on this topic. I mean, you can Google it, you can YouTube it. So many that psychologists and therapists have discussed of whether or not opposite genders can actually remain as friends. They can actually remain acquainted with one another. And I'm sure a lot of you here, you've seen some of these videos of guys going on college campuses and doing social experiments, asking people and students, if you have a guy, friend or a girlfriend, can you remain best friends with them? And I think like 90% of them said, No, I can't actually, whenever I'm with my best friend who's a girl. I always think of her as more than
that, but I'm never going to tell her that.
And you see this is the problem. Because one of the issues that come about of this opposite gender friendship, is that you put your E men at risk. And the problem with that is Allah subhanho wa Taala told us what as an A A that is absolutely one of the most powerful verses in the whole quarter end
was Takara buzina. Inna who can afer hisher tomasa Sabina
This is an area that's usually quoted for extreme cases. But what this a is telling you an AI is Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Don't get close to Xena. He didn't say what ASEAN. He says don't get close to it, which means that there are surrounding factors that lead somebody to commit the spiritual crime of Xena. And then Allah azza wa jal doesn't have to, because if he says couldn't say, a coup that's sufficient for us, but Allah azza wa jal now tells us why you shouldn't get close to Xena
in Canada, was set as sebelah two things you always have to remember. Number one, that path that you're about to take that's reminding you and causing your brain and your imagination to be stimulated in the hot arm way. All of us know what we're taught what i'm talking but I don't want to elaborate that any further. Allah azza wa jal says, this path that you're taking, what it's going to do is number one, it's going to cause you to become fat fish and fat is generally a term used to describe shame. You're going to develop this level of shame amongst people, that this is where the attitude begins, where people start judging each other, by the way they look by how big their noses
how kind of lips they have, and they start losing this content that Allah had blessed them with the lust because of the choice of friends and company they surrounded themselves with. And then Allah azza wa jal continues and says, Well, if that's not the case, if you don't develop shamelessness in that friendship, okay, fine, because a lot of people would argue that for the most I'm just acquainted with her. She's just my colleague, she's just my classmate like, what's the big deal? Okay, fine. What's a sebelah? Set? From the word say it, it's an ugly path, don't take it. Now, having said that, I know including myself, everyone, most of us sitting in this audience, we have
acquaintances or friendships with the opposite gender. So what is brother Muslim telling you to do right now? Now, here are some guidelines in sha Allah huhtala that you can use. Understand. Number one, nowhere in the Shetty era, are you prohibited to talk to the opposite gender. This is the general principle. Any students of knowledge knows this, how you engage and how you talk to the opposite gender is where the problems begin. It can either run smoothly for you or it's going to be a disaster, but that interaction with the opposite gender is never cut off or prohibited in and of itself. Having said that, all of that comes from one verse or actually two verses and Sudeten nor
Allah azza wa jal says in verse number 30, and 31 just the introduction, I'm going to give you a lot so a Genesis poorly meaning your whole domain absorbing him why follow Fujifilm, that's verse number 30, verse number 31 starts off the exact same way except it's addressing the females will call the minute you're done. I mean, I'm sorry hin or foreigner Farrugia one for you. Both of these is or a attain are calling to the to the following number one, they are calling to believers, the A doesn't say poorly muslimeen. It says meaning, say to believing men say to believing women, it doesn't say say to Muslim men and Muslim women. So the first lesson that you can test your acquaintance or your
relationship with the opposite gender is
where's your amen? in that relationship? Do you find that your mn is unstable in the sense that when you're not with that person, you can focus you can do all the right things. You're disciplined in your deen. But as soon as that person comes into your life, whether they come via WhatsApp via Facebook, or they're actually standing in front of you, do you forget your priorities and your discipline in front of Allah? So instead of the conversation starting off Salaam wa Alaykum Do you have the assignment ready or are you going to be at work can you take over for me instead of the conversation remaining upon subject something that is permissible it starts going like this Sally
come Oh my god I saw the bio your today Allahu Akbar.
Then he's saying the same thing our she's saying the same thing. The way you recited core and today Oh my god.
It starts going in that direction, you have a problem not with her. You have a problem not with him, you have a problem with your Amen.
This is why you will find yourself. Parents Here you will find yourself when you try to have these conversations with your children. You tell them about, you know, it's you, I don't want you to have a girlfriend or a boyfriend and not even a friendship in that manner. I want you to be careful. And you give them all the yet and Heidi's you can imagine. And when they're done, they go and they pick up their phone and they call their girlfriend and be like, you're the only one that gets me. My dad always lectures me.
My mom, same thing, but you you never do that.
This is a problem with your child's Amen.
There's a bankruptcy there's a cut of there's a problem with their connection, and how they connect with Allah. They don't understand these rules, these principles they don't understand. They are not grounded with with why these rules and principles are set in stone for them. So how do you solve that, you're going to have to go back and start over again. And how you start over use the template of lokman arley, who seldom use the advice of lokman early he said him to his son. All I'm going to mention to you is how he began his advice. What's the first thing look man it Salaam said to his son? He calls his son Yeah, boo nay. So he respects him. So the first thing you have to do is what
this is the biggest problem that keeps someone like me very busy in my office is so many parents. I know they have good intentions. I'm not picking on them. I'm one of them as well. So I know you have good intentions that when you try to address these issues with your children, that sometimes you might scream and yell or be like, Are you crazy? I never did that. When your your grandparents never did that where we grew up. We never did that. What's wrong with you? And you put your child down without knowing the consequence without knowing the consequences of your choice of words, because remember, you're their hero. At the end of the day, they're supposed to be inspired by the same
people that's putting them down. It's not gonna work. Look, man, either his son called his son Yeah, boo, nay. Oh, my beloved son. So you can translate whatever Oh, my beloved child means in your language. And the first thing that he tells his son is to Shrek bill. Don't you dare commit any shotoku with Allah? Why does he start off with the this is not just a lesson on our payda sciences or belief in Allah subhanho wa Taala. It's also a discipline. Look, man, he said I'm is telling his son, what I'm about to say is all going back to who's in charge.
It's a laws rules, not mine.
You know, if we had our way.
And I'm only speaking like this once upon a time I couldn't. When I became a parent, then I realized why parents give their child everything.
And if we had it in our control, whatever your child is happy with, you'd want to give it to him or her my correct. You remember when, at least for myself back in the early 1800s. When I was a kid, I remember a lot does that qualify your system?
So back in the days when I was a kid, the whole world and for all of us as well, back then, the whole world was all about us. It was all about what we want. When we were teenagers, what made us happy, we didn't care about no one else. But then when you became a parent, your whole life is all about your children. You stopped with what you want. Now, you'll do anything to make your children happy. Sometimes, if you're not under control, what tends to happen is you start to give them more than what they deserve, or what they need without realizing the consequence. So the first point in understanding why you can't have this kind of friendship with the opposite gender. If you don't see
it today, you'll see it later on the consequence of that choice. Because shaitaan is evil.
And show your time loves that relationship, no matter how dignified or civilized you think it can be. And so what scholars teach us is when you have relationships or friendships with the opposite gender, keep it business related, whatever that business is, you have to be extremely cautious because in our culture in 2016 This concept is one of the most difficult ones for people to swallow today. It's just like
Being good to parents, mothers and fathers. You remember back in the days when your dad told you to do something you just send me or now what altana even if he told you to marry someone, you just accepted it and did it. But in today, when you tell a child to do something, why
he never did anything for me. I shouldn't listen to him.
So what used to be the most straightforward, simplest command is now one of the most difficult ones.
So this is the same idea. I know that when I'm saying this to you, generally as an audience, for some of you, it's strange. For some of you, it's almost impossible for some of you might come up to me and argue with me and see, you know, rather than say, this is Canada. This is the culture we need to be with each other. I get it. I live here too. I work here too. I go to ski school here as well. I know it I'm in the same Battlezone as you are, but I'm saying to you is when you can control how you think and what you look at, then you will control what you do.
It all starts off with your eyes. If he or she is more than a friend through your eyes, then this is an indication you need to slow down or you need to stop you need to take a break from that kind of friendship. It's not going to go away. So I'm not going to give you these unrealistic goals and say to you, you cannot have friendships with the opposite gender, you cannot interact with the opposite gender, I'm simply not going to do that. And as a matter of fact, our Shetty our or our religion has never done the the messenger Allah His Salatu was Salam. He spoke to women. And as a matter of fact, he addressed them face to face with some of the most intimate issues. They would come up to him and
ask him yada Sula, how do I pure my purify myself after my menstrual? How do I do that? And they're looking at him face to face. You know how awkward that can be. And you know what the messenger alayhi salaatu? Wa Salaam did? He answered her?
He answered her he gave he didn't say Don't. Don't you have any shame? I'm the Prophet of Allah. What are you doing? didn't do any of that? He answered her question. So clearly there is interaction permissible, but there's a limit. Because that same Hadith narrated in Bahati. This woman didn't understand his answer. So she said yado Sunil Latif, how how do I clean, clean, more purify myself. So he repeats himself a second time telling her you need to do A, B and C. But she said Yato, sola Kaif, she asked the third time because she still didn't get it. That's when he said, Go siasia.
Go ask my wife, she'll explain it to you further, clearly, there was a limit. That's your key to this kind of friendship. Otherwise, you can't be friends, it's not for you. You're not ready for that. So that's why having said that point, the verses that I chosen suitable for Pon kind of gives you a glimpse of the consequence of why people fall into trouble with these kinds of friendship. And it also introduces the second category, which is why we can't be friends with anybody we want to or desire to call a friend, you have to look for certain qualities in an individual before they qualify to be your friend. You can't be friends with just anyone. We know that just by sheer common sense.
So these verses here, give us a glimpse of how to do that, and the consequences. So now we're going to go into a journey to the hereafter. And that's where we'll end and shout Allahu taala
in reality, but also in the lecture as well. Okay?
A lot. So Joel says, Well, you only are Abdullah Limor, either your day on the Day of Judgment. This man is gonna come. You know, when you're nervous, or some people in the nervous like, Oh, my God, oh my God, my interview is gonna come up, oh my god, it's my turn to go speak. And they're nervous, and they start chewing on their nails. Well, on the day of judgment, this one individual, whoever they are, is going to actually chew on their knuckles. So this is the most severe of severe. That's the image Allah puts in front of you to start thinking about and look at how this discussion continues. So that's the image that I put in front of you. It's pretty scary. So Allah azza wa jal continues.
Yoku lujah Layton Isla de
kulu. Yes, yeah. Later neelum attack with morogoro suli sebelah. look at why this individual is chewing away at their knuckles. He says, yo, Layton? Yeah, Layton. It has tomorrow. rasuluh sebelah. He says, Oh, how I wish, how I wish and how I desire that I had taken this other individual, Mount rasuluh
Sabina who was with the Prophet Sall, Allahu Allah was send them on on his path. In other words, how I wish I chose good friends, friends that respected me, respected my way of life, respected my choices as a Muslim, respected who I was how I wish I chose those friends. Because now on this day, I can see why I needed them. The problem with choosing friends, is people who are careless in that process, don't think about the consequences of their choices. They don't think, well, five or 10 years, what kind of friend is this going to be for me? How am I going to interact with this individual, I need to see some potential in my relationship with this individual. Listen to what I'm
saying. It sounds so foreign, especially in our culture, because we're taught to anybody who gives you a little bit of tension, just go with the flow. It's all good. But Islam, or at least our religion taught us No, no, no, you have to be more critical than that. This is why Allah says philanthropy Don't, don't you think don't you reflect? And he doesn't say that. Just in one circumstance. He says that as a general rule, the Muslim is an intelligent individual. I bet you if I put a chair on this stage, and I said to all of you look at the chair, I can guarantee that some of you in this audience is going to find that very beneficial. You're going to find some fat eater?
Well, let's see. Let's see, what what do I find out of this chair, some of you will get the best sleep of your life, I'm sure. But others, you'll find your look and you'll find those benefits. If you wash your car, you'll find benefited the, if you take calculus or Shakespeare and shot alone, they will find benefit in that right. So the point is, is that all the things you think might be useless. A Muslims intellect causes them because they are thinkers, because their brain never sleeps. They always find good and beneficial things in everything. So the first step or guidelines that we have to take from verses like this is you have to stop men and look around you and the
company that you have, what kind of companies then this is for adults as well. Don't think this is a talk just for the young people. The biggest crime I can commit right now is speaking to you. And the adults aren't taking this seriously. Don't do that to yourself. As a matter of fact, this topic was actually inspired to me by adults. They're the ones that came up with this whole concept of Okay, Who should we choose as friends and why can't we be friends with certain individuals? You think young people came up with this topic? Young people are trying to avoid this topic. They don't want to listen to this. They don't want to hear that reality. So that's the first lesson. Now listen to
what happens. The regret and the remorse is already there. So it's kind of over. But then look what happens next, Allah azza wa jal continues. Yo whaler, Layton, Isla Duffy, phoolan and Halima. Now this individual is so disappointing, he starts cursing at himself, Arabs use the term whale and wild means to really put yourself down and you're shamed. Like how could you allow yourself to do such a thing? So on that day, the same person because of the choice of friends they had, they say to themselves, how could I do this? So they're chewing on their knuckles? And at the same time, there's they're talking to themselves? What kind of life did I have men?
Every time I was saw that time, my boys used to tell me no, no, no, forget that, bro. Let's just go just tell your parents who did it. Every time my mom would tell me that I need to put that hijab on. I did until I got to school.
until it got to my friend's house. Every time my parents sent me to the masjid for my evening madrasa.
Little did they know, I never made it to one session, because I was going somewhere else and doing my own thing. Ramadan is around the corner. Parents, your responsibility in Ramadan, and the mature young people here.
Watch out for your children who are not praying either near you, or literally beside you. If you can't see them. Then be critical of yourself. Be honest with yourself. Don't say yourself, Well, he's probably in a corner somewhere being tattooed by himself. Don't do that.
Because Don't be surprised that they're standing outside with timmies with a bunch of their boys and then when tarawih is done, they sneak in for Salatu Witter. Don't, don't be surprised so many kids do that. And if you go to tarawih you'll see you'll see who's hanging outside when taraweeh is happening. So be very responsible and you young people, this is the problem.
For you young people sitting in this audience, you got to take this stuff seriously, man, you got to take this stuff seriously. Because you always an every one of us, the adults understand is what for the young people, you have to constantly be reminded and that's okay.
You're going to die.
And you don't know when and you don't know how Allah azza wa jal says, well, while at mo tuna, Illa one and two Muslim mon, don't you dare die or leave this world unless you are in the state of Muslim. You know what that verse is really saying? If you're sitting outside with your boys, and they're all smoking and drinking or doing whatever and having a good time, or you keep clicking that mouse and watching the thing you're not supposed to watch, or you keep doing just complete, how long defined to your parents? That moment? If death comes to you, it's not gonna say, Oh, wait, you're having an argument with your parents. I'll come back when you're in good mood. Oh, wait, you're
watching a horror movie. I'll come back when it's poor and time.
That reality is always watching and if you still aren't convinced, go to a cemetery and look at some of the dates on some of those graves. They'll they'll say the person was born in 1950 and die 2016 but then decided there's somebody who was born 2015 and die 2016. One year, Allah gave them in this world. How long do you have? And so these verses here and I conclude in sha Allah who tarla
the person eventually admits Laughlin although learning on it victory BARDA his journey what Karina shave pontal in San Jose Lula, they said this friend, all they ever did was misguide me steered me in the wrong path, made me live a path of shame, made me make all the wrong choices destroyed my relationship with my wife, with my husband, with my children, with my parents, with my community, with my Imam with my teachers, all of those people were lost, because I chose these kinds of friends to be around who just told me, bro, do whatever you want. feels right, just do it. So it's like a bunch of sprite cans, just rot walking around, you just do whatever feels right. quench your thirst
the way you want to quench it, just do it. That's the kind of company and so the biggest regret on that day and this is what I conclude with my brothers and sisters. The messenger Allah, his Salatu was Salam is going to complain to Allah and say, well called Rasulullah Robbie, he will say, Oh, my master, in nakoma Tohoku, my people, they took this Porter and has Al Quran, Emma Judah, they took this photo. And now the word that's used is the head though, which means something right in front of you. The Quarter end is right here. It's right in this auditorium. But it's coming to you in a lecture form. It's coming to you through other forms of reminders. The Quran is right in front of
you. But what happened is some of those individuals they made hegira away from that quarter and they made it they didn't just turn their back, they actually walked away from it. And then they try to make a hedge row back to it. When Ramadan came when Friday prayers came when something else came. And at that point, it was too late. Because Allah subhanho wa Taala, as he told us in like a caddy home a lot of BK Callaghan from Ola p, you're on a conveyor belt, and you're moving forward, no matter how you twist and turn your destiny, it still keeps going forward. There's nothing you can do.
That's why we can't be friends with just anybody we want. We have an ultimate goal and an ultimate reality that we're preparing for. I just want to conclude with something aside from my talk and my topic for you today. And I just want to quickly for the last 30 seconds or so
address and put my heart out for those victims and those those people those passengers on the Egypt Air Flight. And this is well lucky one of the most heartbreaking things because I just arrived from India last night. And I got that news whilst I was sitting in the hotel room in India. Can you imagine what I was thinking now that I'm going to get on a plane and fly almost 20 hours here? This is all that's going through my mind. And I started saying farewell I have to do it. Just for my own sanity. I had to start saying goodbyes to my family and to my children. I asked all of them to pray for me I started what sapping everybody I knew just make dua for me pray for me that I get there and
I get there safely. Because it really woke me up as a person who lives on a plane and I travel so often. I have to be up there and all I can depend on is Meryem sequel 111
Rockman nothing is holding this thing in the sky except to a Roman, those people on that plane, they weren't on the wrong flight or on the wrong airline or the wrong place at the wrong time. That was a lot harder upon them. But it's still so sad.
And so shocking, that that quickly, they were 45 minutes away from landing at their destination, that quickly, whatever they said, and whatever they were doing, that was the last thing they could submit to Allah, and it's time for them to go on trial. And the second and the final thing is you all know what's happening in Fort Mac. Brothers and sisters, the reason why I'm concluding this way is life is extremely short.
And it's too short to be stuck in problems and issues with families and grudges and hating one another and all of these issues. Because at the end of the day, that same problem in fourth Mac, why isn't it coming here or coming to Toronto? Why did it happen here, a love sparked a fire in that part of the world. Why not here is because Allah has mercy and he's saving us for something else, our time will come, but maybe not through that route. It's going to come somewhere else. So what I want all of us to take as a lesson why these tragedies are happening is if you're still sleeping, it's time for you to wake up. If you're still sleeping, start waking up and wake yourself up with
Allah subhanho wa Taala his book, and if that is not waking you up, you have the best alarm clock of the year just around the corner. Take advantage of it and set your life on a proper alarm clock that is disciplined and obedient to Allah. Life is too short. And we simply don't know when Allah subhanho wa Taala will take our life and we're finished. So I want to conclude that metalized switchel reward and bless us for our sacrifice in our effort. May Allah azza wa jal make it easy for the families of that flight. I don't know what it feels like. I can't even imagine when that plane is going down on those passengers who were probably drinking water. One of them is sleeping, one of
them is on their iPad, and everything in a split second turns into a chaos. What was happening in those last few seconds before that plane went into the sea. What is happening when those people who built their lives and their homes in that area in Fort Mac, knowing that there was a fire bigger than mountains coming their way and there was nothing that they could do. They were people just like you and I and now they have to start all over again. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for them and ease their pain and their suffering alone. I mean, just come along halen was Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh