AbdelRahman Murphy – 3 Types of Modesty

AbdelRahman Murphy
AI: Summary © The transcript discusses the struggles of men in society, including their desire for women to hold onto to them and their desire for men to be the most beautiful. The segment also touches on a woman who was the most beautiful in the town and was known as the most beautiful woman in the town. The segment ends with a recap of the woman's struggles and a weekend invitation to practice what they preach.
AI: Transcript ©
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Sorry, I haven't seen a lot of people like them.

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I just got in.

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Got it as a long flight and boy are my arms tired.

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Okay, anyways, this one out. Hello. So that was

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the guy who's 10 seconds late. He's like, oh, they're really bad joke okay Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah he was happy. He was happy one molar

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Lama said he was sending my last either no Mohammed, Mohammed alarma Saudi will send them either so you know, Mohammed, Mohammed alarm so send him either see you there with me when I'm hammered by the Adam Hammond about.

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So how many of you know that I was supposed to get here this morning?

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Okay, long story short, I was supposed to get here at about 11am I've been up since 4am. I was in Memphis, doing some programs and visiting my in laws and some the law. My flight was at six in the morning, my plan was to get here at maybe around noon, take a nice long nap for about seven hours and prepare us prepare a speech and then you know, deliver the talk have a good time to the brothers have some pizza, you know, typical MMIC stuff. Mashallah. So, what happened? Who gives up here for that? What ended up happening was, my flight from Memphis got to Atlanta, Atlanta was where my connection was. And Subhanallah It was not written for me to fly in that plane because the plane

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actually left 20 minutes early. I know we've all heard of planes leaving late but this plane actually took off 20 minutes early. And not only me, but also about like 30 3035 people, very angry people were also left out. And as I was getting my ticket, my new ticket for a new flight. There was a lot of people using a lot of bad language I don't any of you ever say behind me. And that poor lady behind the desk was like almost in tears. But I wanted to say one thing, it's upon a lot. For me. It was kind of a test.

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It wasn't We'll see. But because every year since I've been coming to MMIC with brother socket, Mashallah. And his wife, Ayesha, who introduced me to this conference in the first place, that brother, Hatim and earphone chitauri started, I've taken it for granted that I would always be here. And even though that I was in even when I was in Memphis, I was talking to my wife and my brother in law. I was telling him, I wish you can come to this conference. There's something so unique about this conference. I don't think any other place that I've been any other conference that have spoken it, any other group of people that I've met can match MMIC and Michigan Tech beer.

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And I was there. And as the lady told me

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that the next flight that I can catch was 10pm. Well, I started to cry.

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Because I didn't want to miss this for anything.

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And I told her I don't care what you gotta do. You get me to mmrc

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you fly me to Toledo? I will drive there. You fly me to Flint, even though I don't want to go to Flint.

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Who are the Flint guys here? Not here. Awesome. honolua man weaksauce. Okay.

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You fly me to Flint. So hamdulillah Hamdulillah, Allah subhanaw taala wanted to test me. And he wanted to show me that don't take things for granted. Because why he coming here is more for me than it is for you. No one cares about hearing a big white guy with a beard talk. Let's be honest, maybe you guys benefit, we have a few laughs and we have a good time and inshallah we all benefit from it. But for me, being here is a spiritual enrichment that I can't get anywhere else, very few places. And so coming here is a treat. And coming here as a speaker is an even bigger treat. Because I'm not speaking to a group of people that are below me. I am your servant. I'm the servant of a law and I'm

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trying to serve you. So I'm offering suggestions. And this talk tonight the topic I was given is about modesty. And modesty and Islam is something that is extremely important. I was going to get a niqab in a job and wear it and say this is modesty. But I figured that that would defeat the purpose of a 45 minute speech.

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What I really wanted to talk to you all tonight, and this isn't a lecture because a lecture as I say before, a lecture is something that you give to someone when you're angry and I don't even know you guys, so I can't be angry at you. So we're gonna call this a chill session, right? This is just a chill session. We're just gonna have a good time. Right.

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None of that a logbook logbook. modesty is something in a slump that the prophet SAW a lot of a sudden I'm everyone's just so awesome. in a heartbeat. He said that every religion has a defining characteristic, every religion that has come from Allah subhanaw taala has something that sticks out. And he said, the characteristic that sticks out from Islam, and the message that I was given the Quran and the Sunnah is modesty.

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Many times we think of modesty and the first image that comes to our head is what I already said one right

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Mashallah, maybe a sister who wears in the carbons in bed? Anyone else? Raise your hand Give me something modesty What comes to your head? Yeah Yello ha close lowering the gays

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Adam sound like I heard you going to state Mashallah. I think they're I think they're losing

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all the laws in the law when they lay Raja.

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Guys, guys, guys and girls, guys and girls. We have we have an amazing speaker next so I don't want to take over my time. Check out some coffee I don't wanna take his time. Yes. I'm humbled being humble humility.

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Sorry, both you you said what? Quiet? Yes, sir.

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being Muslim, we talk. So we all have different images, right? Some of us want physical, some of us want intellectual and some of us went spiritual. And as I was preparing this talk on two hours of sleep on a plane with some dude, I swear to God, he was he was drooling on my shoulder.

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And you know what? Let him draw. He had a good sleep. Okay. All right, because I've drilled on my mom's shoulder plenty of times. And I know how it feels.

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As I was preparing this speech on a plane on many planes, by the way, I got stuck in Atlanta for seven hours. And so I went to this special like, they haven't MSA conference, the Eastern Conference. So I just went, and it was pretty random. Everyone's like, why are you wearing sweatpants? Do you want to speak? I was like, no. So anyway, so as I was preparing this talk, I thought to myself, and it's upon a lot, you guys hit it right on the head. The three things, the three components of modesty that we're going to talk about tonight, are the spiritual, the intellectual, and the physical. Because many of us have already achieved at least one of these three

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things. But when we're going to break it down, inshallah, we're going to talk about it real quick. I don't give long speeches for money from any of them, whoever minimum on my talks, I try to cut it short, because no one again, no one wants to listen for a long time. Right? We're going to talk about these three things, and how these three aspects of modesty the spiritual, the intellectual, and the physical are cures for diseases that can really bring us down. The first I want to talk about is the spiritual because the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, as he taught us, in many, numerous ahadeeth, that the heart is the center of the body. The heart is the spiritual center, the command

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center, right? Like everything else, you have like the the the right of the non and the heart is like the briyani is like the main dish. Right? It's like right there. That's it. So first, we got to talk about the heart. And what I want to talk about is not what a modest heart looks like, not what a person with a modest heart acts like. I want to talk about what they don't act like. I want to talk about the opposite. Because one way to know the cure for spiritual diseases is to know the symptoms of the disease itself.

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Right? Yes or no? So if we know if we know that one of the one of the symptoms of a hypocrite is someone who lies then we know how to fix that and not be a hypocrite, Stop lying. Right? All right. So the heart and the spiritual diseases have immodesty in the hearts when you break it down when you look at the AI specifically from Schwarzkopf, the last one without talks about certain people who will be thrown into hellfire. And he gives them two characteristics. Number one, that they were rebellious. And number two, they were ungrateful. Or the Bill of Rights on the regime and nuclear Nanakuli Kanaka Nani, men in clay.

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These are people who covered up the truth. And they stopped any goodness from happening. They were rebellious against the last one with Ana. Last one was Allah gave them blessings. He blessed them with so many things. He gave them the ability to do so many things. He gave them amazing eyesight. He gave them a beautiful body. He gave them the ability to hear to sing beautifully to talk. And they used all of these abilities against a lot.

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I want you to imagine that your parents spend their entire life raising you picture anyone, maybe not your parents. Let's talk about random random parents, right? Baba Mohammed. Right.

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And he has a son named Ahmed

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and Ottomans born.

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Now many of us have babies. Can anyone say that babies have like taken a self defense course. And they can like protect themselves from anything. All right. And then you always have the one or two guys are like Yes, I'm gonna be funny now. No, babies cannot protect themselves. Okay, I'm the only funny one here. Okay, thank you.

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So, you're born, a child is born I met is born. And for the first few years of his life, I would say maybe for the first seven

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In eight, he is completely under the tutelage under this the guidance under the bottle of water

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under the complete protection of his parents who have never taken steps

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I suppose.

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plane was hot, okay. He's completely under the protection of his parents everything food, drink, clothing, shelter, love. Love Actually should probably come before food.

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all come from his parents. So he grows up. He turns 10 years old. He wants a ps3 daddy on a ps3. I'll play Call of Duty. You only time while you playing games are rated for 21 year olds. But Baba gets it for him. Right? If you get 100% on that geometry test, I'll buy you what you want. He gets it he nails it. He gets what he wants. He turns 16 that all my friends have cars. I promise you give me a car I'll go to the machine. I'll do whatever you want. I'll take out the garbage I'll slaughter the goat with you next

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I'll do whatever you want. But why is my car

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18 year old comes What are you guys doing? You're 18

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get married inshallah.

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Careful sisters right away quick. No.

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No, I got married. I got married. I was 19. Anyways.

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What are you doing? You're 18 someone college, right? You go to college.

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You leave your nest.

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For many of us, you go away from your parents.

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And if it's not in college after college, you leave.

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Now, when we talk about people who are ungrateful and rebellious towards Allah,

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I want you to imagine the love that a parent has for

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the amount of money that Mohammed spent on his son. Mohammed wanted to buy a car so bad and new car, but instead he spent all of his savings on buying a car. Mohammed wanted to put that new remodel the bathroom for his wife, or remodel the kitchen, remodel the living room, or get a new entertainment system. So you can watch cricket.

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But instead he spent it on his kids college tuition.

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He wanted to go buy a new set of clothes. But his son comes home with a speeding ticket that he needs to pay this for all the sacrifices, all the love all the mercy, uncompromising love that our parents give to us. And then I'ma turns around one day and says you haven't done jack crap for me that

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you haven't done anything for me. You're worthless.

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And then he drives away in the car that his dad bought him with a college degree that his dad paid for nourished by the food that his parents fed him loved with the heart that his parents gave him nurtured.

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And know that Allah subhanaw taala loves you more than your parents.

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So when we disobey Allah, when we are immodest, in our spiritual being, when we deny using the blessings that Allah gave us, for him, we take the gifts that Allah gives us and we throw it back in his face, I don't need it.

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So that is a disease that we must crush. Being spiritually immodest, is something that will bankrupt all your good deeds. You were ungrateful to Allah. You don't think that anything? Everything you do, I did it. I got an A on that test. I am doing well in school. I hit that game winning three pointer. I'd be my friend Call of Duty. I look good. I look good in this outfit. My body looks great. I work out I'm huge. I'm ripped.

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No, Allah made you that way. Allah gave you those things last month Allah if he chose to withhold one breath from you. It'd be over. How many breaths Do you guys take in a minute?

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Someone said one.

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really scared.

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Let's say you take on average 30 right one for every two seconds.

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Allah subhanaw taala takes away one minute of breath from you.

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What happened?

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paint die.

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The people the same people who are using the same faculties the same eyesight Allah subhanaw taala gave you people are watching things on the internet they're not supposed to look at. People are looking at the sisters not supposed to look at sisters. Look at the brothers not supposed to look at the same mouth he gave you with a beautiful speech. talking to people talking back to your parents. You're not supposed to talk back to back buddy my people you're not supposed to do and I'm not saying this as a speaker was way above you people. I am perfect. You are all worthless. No. We all have flaws. We all have mistakes. And that's what we come here to get better together. Right? Right.

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So think about this.

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Your time's running up.

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Your time and my time. Think about this. When you analyze your heart and the quality of being immodest in your heart, think about that single quality, the lack of gratitude towards Allah Spano Tata and how being unsinkable not thanking Allah not using and how do you think a lot you use what he gave you for his sake? And that is what will make you a spiritually modest person.

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Next, intellectual humility. How many of your honor roll students

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how many of you did it by yourself without the help of Allah? Very good. We're getting somewhere. Put your hand out a little bit slow brother. No one look at him. I'm kidding. I love you Mashallah.

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Intellectual humility and with this I want to get the point across the story. How many of you know who abuses

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Emily's Do you have any Do we have any her father's here?

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Do we have any

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harvest any anyone anyone hopping on here?

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Okay, so the am Quran in sort of Baccarat? Who can finish it for me what's called a Brooklyn mela at

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this studio Adam

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sudo Illa Emily's Okay. Who can translate it for me? Everyone quiet one person Raise your hand. Yes, rather than the green?

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Yeah. louder please. Louder.

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Up who was told about with color a bouquet little mela.

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Angels. It was a birthday. My neck. All right. Angels. Okay, no, keep going. Keep going. Don't worry about what were they told to do.

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Except Iblees was at least an angel.

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For those of you Okay, okay. For those of you who don't know, at least was not an angel, at least was a jinn. But because of the amount that he worshiped, because of how good of a Muslim he was. He was hanging out with the angels, right? It's like It's like a 16 year old kid hanging out with the shoe. What up share right past the mango juice.

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Right. It believes was chillin, at least was the best out of all the gin. He was the best worshiper, the angels, they don't have a choice they have to worship it was the way they were created. Right. It's what they do. I'm an angel I worship Hi, nice to meet you.

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It please had a choice. He could have been deviant. He could have been pious, he chose to be pious in the beginning.

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Last month, Allah said to the angels, Prostrate to Adam.

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The sagia do Illa Emily's and a bow except for a blease.

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Hmm, the recent Angel. So why did Allah say that at least in bow when he told the angels to bow?

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He was up with the angels he was hanging out with them. The response of at least when Allah subhanaw taala said, Why did you not prostrate when I commanded them to prostrate?

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it bleeds said what?

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HELOC don't even

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walk on wahaca hoomin. clean. You created me from fire. And you created him from clay. What's that all about? I can burn things. He just gets things dirty.

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But at least was not an angel.

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And because of that answer, a Las Palmas nada that was the beginning of his curse towards becoming a shaitana regime but one who is going to spend eternity in jahannam. But I asked you this question.

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And I make this point with intellectual humility, with the ability to be modest with your brain no matter how smart you are. You realize that Allah knows everything. it bleeds, said,

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I made from fire he's made from clay. And I'll tell you right now, that was the wrong answer. What could have a belief said? Yes.

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I'm not an angel. You told the angels to Baba Allah. I'm not an angel is not correct. did not tell the angels to bow? Did he tell the angels to bow is at least an angel. Could he have said that answer would have been right? Yes. But his arrogance, and his ability to submit to a law with his intelligence made him forget truth.

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He forgot the basic point. His logic was gone. He couldn't even use the most basic argument back y'all. I'm not an angel. You told the angels to bow I'm a gin.

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Instead, he said to himself, I never fire he's made from clay, completely forgetting the most basic of truth on that day.

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He was not able to say to himself, he believes you must intellectually submit a law at a young woman Hala does not allow no his creation.

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There's a lot that create us, does he not know us? doesn't know what's good for us? And what's bad for us. So why sometimes do we not listen?

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Because we are not able to intellectually submit to Allah and say Allah, I know that you are the most knowledgeable, and then I have flaws in my knowledge, and I know that you know what's good for me, and you love me and want what's good for me. And sometimes shaitan whispers to me and my neffs takes me off that street Pat,

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being immodest, intellectually, and spiritually, will take you even further off the street. Pat, being a modest spiritually will make you not thankful, being immodest intellectually, will make you think that you know better than a lot.

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But you don't have to do what he says. Because you know the answer to everything. I don't want to wear hijab. Why not because I don't want to doesn't make sense. My hair when the sun hits my hair. It looks beautiful. I don't want to cover that up. Come on. Let's be serious. Have you seen this jawline? Why would I cover that up with a beard? I could model this jawline.

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DENTIST would die for this.

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Brother? You're wearing that shirt from baby gap? You're 21 years old.

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Have you seen these pictorials? I spent hours on these. I skipped mugger Misha and federa for these.

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Have you seen his biceps? It's hard to open up a char cans.

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A law says something to you. A law says something to you. He says and this is going to take us to our next point about physical modesty. Allah says something to you. And even though shaitan is gonna say no, it doesn't make sense. There's a honey, you guys don't mess up his wiping over the socks. without talking about the conditions leather, whatever without any you can ask your emails and your message for the answer. I'll even be taller. He said something very interesting about wiping over your socks. When he went over your socks. Where do you wipe the top? Do you like the bottom? Does that make sense? Does the top of your sock hit the floor? No, unless you walk really weird.

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Right? Only the bottom is the floor. Why do you want the top because that's just that's the way the Prophet did it. And he is Mashallah the coolest of all creation. A lot of us have you ever seen the Mohammed? He did it one way we intellectually submit to the Quran and Sunnah. We're not gonna make say this doesn't make sense. I'm gonna wipe on the bottom of my socks and you're doing it wrong.

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You follow what a lot and Papa says I'm sad because they have already proven to you that Islam is the HAC. It is the truth. And it is beautiful. And it is a happy way of life. The third and final way.

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The third and final you guys want to keep going so stop. Okay. Okay, is that okay? My love bless. I love you all for the sake of Allah.

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The third and final way. The third and final characteristics of being immodest

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is physical modesty.

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You have the spiritual modesty of the heart where you reject and you're not grateful, and you're not thankful. And your arrogance over the gifts Allah gave you shallow we're not gonna be amongst those people, right.

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Then you have the intellectual immodesty where you say, y'all I know better than you. This doesn't make sense to me. This whole thing doesn't make sense to me. I read it just doesn't make sense. And by the way, if you read it, it doesn't make sense. Don't give up. Don't give up. Give it a chance. Come talk to one of us brothers. Talk to your counselors ask them for help. I know sometimes it sounds like Shakespeare. A lot of times the translation you're using is difficult. We can help you as well. We can guide you to get a good translation because this book once you read it, it will change your life.

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The third immodesty is physical, and I want to tell two stories for this one about the sisters and one for the brothers. First those are the sisters ladies first met him Ali Salim

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Maryam Ali Salim grew up a very righteous girl. She was always at the masjid, worshiping gaining knowledge. She was born into the family of prophethood. If you're talking about someone in the community who was seen as like the mochi right, the perfect girl. This is her and her character was supreme sublime. There was no comparison for someone like her. She was absolutely incompatible in her time. And even now, so much so that all Abrahamic faiths have nothing bad to say about her. Some Hanawon. Islam, Judaism and Christianity all accept her as the purest woman.

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Many of my center

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one day, who knows I have one Marian.

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She gave birth to are you sorry? Did you have a husband? No. And real quick without getting too detailed. You need to have a husband or an advocate. And what okay, but this was a miraculous birth. This was a miraculous birth. This was a birth of a prophet. This was a birth that would never happen again. It has never happened before and it is never ever happened before that and will never, ever happen.

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Again I don't care what Oprah Winfrey has on our show about some crazy Asian dude it's not gonna happen for those of you know what I'm talking about you know I'm talking about

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this is unheard of.

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Now I want you to ask yourself sisters

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this a Muslim does the Muslim community okay without without criticizing Islam because Islam is perfect, but Muslims have flaws. Does the Muslim community have a problem judging people sometimes brothers Is that true to do sometimes we judge each other. We do and we need to work on that inshallah. So Maria Maria Salaam

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she is pregnant with Lisa.

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Lisa. She goes to the palm tree because she's an extreme pain. And the last one on top commands her shake the palm tree.

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It will get rid of your pain.

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Intellectual submission. What is shaking the palm tree gonna do sisters? How many of you have kids without getting like anyone? How many of you have ever heard of how painful childbirth is? Okay, you've all heard about all the sisters like, Oh my God.

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What is shaking the palm tree gonna do?

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what they're gonna do nothing. I told you go shake a palm tree. But what are you talking about?

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But intellectual submission. Allah is commanding it I will do it and it will work.

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She takes the palm tree

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and her pain goes away. Or it lessens. Yeah, it doesn't go away but it lessens. Afterwards in the A A she says, Oh Allah, I wish that I would have died before this happened.

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As suicide Okay, in Islam. No, is wishing for suicide or death. Okay. No prophet SAW some expressly forbade it. We cannot wish for death.

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Except for one condition.

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If met him I sent him a woman who was not married? Who would go to the masjid, who would study Islam or the religion that Allah gave her which is Islam? Who would who would be pious and worship? Who was from the family of prophethood? If she went back to town, the baby what would the community do?

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Maybe not kill her similar to what they would do today. What would they do today?

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They would have gossip doubts.

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Everyone will talk bad about her. How many of you have been talked bad about and it wasn't just about you. It's about your family.

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They said so and so son did this. Their family must be terrible. What family dominium come from

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Allium around the family of prophethood. If people talk bad about Miriam's family, what are they talking about about profits and who is that lead to Allah.

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Miriam said, I would have rather died before this happened to me. I would have rather died before people can even dare allegedly call out and say that I committed Zina.

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I would have rather died than have a community Think of me as immodest,

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physically immodest, I would have rather died, I would rather give it to my life. Even though I'm a pious girl, and I have a long life to live. And I'm giving birth to an amazing son, and I have a relationship with God, I would have rather ended my life and I've ever had anyone come close to saying that I'm immodest.

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Do you see how big of a deal this is?

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Do you see how big of a deal this is? And I want you all to know sisters that we feel for you. As brothers. We know it's difficult. We know it's tough. I have three sisters, one of whom if you remember last year, I gave a talk she left Islam. I have a wife who also has a sister in law. I know it's tough. These brothers know it's tough, but we support you. And if any of you have any problems with any sort of physical garb or anything, anyone's talking to you looking at you weird come to us, come to him and we will get it taken care of. Because your relationship with Allah and following his commands is not worth sacrificing because you don't want people to talk bad about Allah because of

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any modesty okay.

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For the brothers

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Please stop.

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Everyone, everyone.

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Masha Allah, Masha Allah By the way, I heard a sister put on hijab this weekend, right?

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That's what I'm talking about. That's what I'm talking about. That's MMIC Mashallah. Mashallah. May Allah smart Allah bless all of you, sisters in protect you and the brothers. Brothers. One last story then I'm done.

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One last story and please don't get me wrong of applause. Give her an applause to Allah Tada.

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Okay everyone say a lock button

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okay sorry they run a plus but really weird okay let's use a log buffer Nolan

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brothers one last story and I'm done

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profit use of it some

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profit use values to them

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was better looking than anyone in this room okay let's get that straight yeah you bro

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he's like

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what can I read this

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prophet Yusuf Ali is to them mail last month all of a sudden His mercy and blessings upon him and his peace and tranquility upon proper use of and all the NBA

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was extremely good looking there are narrations that say that Prophet use audience of them received half of beauty that was ever created and the rest of creation the world the plants, the animals, the people, everything in the universe got the other app.

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So he got one half and everyone else got the other half you think Brad Pitt's good looking and George Clooney good looking? Let's be serious

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Mashallah, he was the most beautiful being and there are some narrations as a Mohamed Salah Selim was more beautiful, but a lot of them they were both beautiful

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use of Allah SNM was one of the most beautiful beings to ever walk the face of this earth.

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And you know, he went You know, when he ran into brothers. Hey, Abdul, I want to go to prom with you. You're cute.

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That's not problem brothers. He wasn't running into a sister who wanted to go to prom. He didn't get that Facebook poke. He didn't he didn't get a friend request. He didn't get any of that. No MySpace pic.

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He didn't get those.

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I know just come on. Let's be honest. I see your guys's pictures, please.

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He got a woman brothers. Real quick. This is really important. Cuz I know a lot of us are struggling with with with the situation with females. Muslim or non Muslim. I know. I know, I feel for you. I'm not going to judge you. I feel free.

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He got a woman who was not only the wealthiest woman in the town. Wealthy means what she can buy the best clothes. She can buy the best lotion. She can have the best looking body. She has all that.

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Not only the wealthiest, the most popular. And she was known as the most beautiful. She was fine.

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I don't ever use that language. But you have to get that you have to get like the the essence of what I'm talking about. She wasn't like oh my god, she was beautiful. She was

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she was the login.

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By the way, my friend. She wasn't better looking to you as my wife. Sorry, She's.

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She's gonna watch this for sure I'm busted. Okay.

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So she was the best looking woman at the time. And then she got to masking the problem that she asked him to go on a date with her.

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She said straight up. Let's commit Zina right now.

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Like I was laughing

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she said straight up. I want you.

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Yeah. And by the way, how many of you know this new artist named ketchup?

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If you read her lyrics, she sounds the exact same way in my English class of the southpaw nation. I did an analysis of her lyrics. The girls went from loving her to like hating and we have like a dartboard of her now on the wall.

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Anyways, Milan guider and

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this woman said to us about a Salaam Take me, I want you.

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You're the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. Even though I'm married, I'll cheat on my husband with you. I have money I have everything you want. I'm beautiful.

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And in the Quran, it said what she desired him. She felt desired towards him. And he felt an inkling of desire towards her.

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So whenever people tell you, brother, you're religious, you shouldn't have any problems lowering your gaze, tell them probably you've had a little bit issue, not trouble because the last month Allah protects the NBN. But to show us that the prophets were humans and that we can relate to them. A last point Allah gave us what happened in his heart, an inkling a little tick.

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Right? What did he say though? All of us we can agree. We felt that right. We have issues or grades. We felt that what did he do? Did he ask for her number? Did he say yeah, I'll hang out with you. He said, Yeah, Allah make the prison more beautiful to me than her.

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And a lot answers the why.

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He physically modestly submitted to Allah, spiritually, intellectually, and that came out in his physical, physical shyness. He said, Yeah, Allah make the prison more beautiful to me, because I don't want to suffer the consequences. I don't want to commit any wrong deeds. I don't even want to have the thought.

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The intention of being with this woman, so take me to the prison right away. And by the way, that prison wasn't like prison where you get like an hour of basketball time, you get to watch ESPN on a flat screen like it's not an American prison. This is where they shackle you to the wall where the people next to you are telling you they're gonna die when they don't feed you. It's dirty, it's dark, it's dingy, make that more beautiful to me than this woman.

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So brothers,

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I gave the sisters the inspirational message, Mashallah, whenever you encounter this issue of any sort of female temptation, ask Allah to take your heart and solidify it and make a fortress around it, so that you don't have to fall into anything. Because just like many of them said she wished she would have died before coming that trust me. I've had brothers come up to me and tell me the same thing last week, a brother who goes to fetcher at the mesh, it came up with me crying, I committed dinner

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with a JV girl.

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What do I do?

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I just recently got hired as a youth director and assistant Imam in Dallas. I'm already getting emails. My husband married of 15 years, five kids cheats on me for last five years. What do I do?

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Don't think that because your Macho Man, I know my limits, bro. Come on. She's gonna go hit up some Jamba Juice. That's it. No, one step one step one step shikon. Come slowly, but eventually he'll get you.

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And so make sure that we follow the proper use of a student and as a lot to protect us whether they be Muslim or non Muslim because it's not the fault of the person necessarily as much as the fault of our neffs so we asked a lot to strengthen our new fools and we asked a lot to put us firmly upon his deed allama Sabbath luminol denecke yamaoka liberal group Sabbath Guru benalmadena Europa aalameen please make it beneficial. Please make our hearts attached to you into the sun of the Bahamas all sudden, please make all of us have this weekend. Inspiring weekend a life changing weekend. Please make it easy for me to have Murphy the person who people see as a speaker but I'm really your

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servant. Please make it easy for me to practice what I preach and as well as always to practice what we've heard inshallah and ask all of us to inshallah benefit from these speeches and change our lives for the better because I want to see all of us in Jenna akula Korea, how there was suffered a lot he would like him. What he said to Muslim women was manifested through in judo.

Modesty comes in the life of a Muslim in more ways than just one way. AbdelRahman Murphy explains how at the 2010 MMYC Spring Conference.

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