Session 80 Gratitude Through Sadaqah

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We ask Allah to accept from us our efforts to forgive us papers always guided and we ask Allah for beneficial knowledge and understanding and wide sustenance we are utterly dependent on a lot to Him is our return and there is no power matrix that of Allah continue with Hadith number 26 of Imam I know is that by him to remind you that it is of your IRA, the the the Allahu Anhu all all of us who live sallallahu alayhi wa sallam could Kulu Salam Mina Nasir Ali Salah khatoun kula yummy tatlow Fie shrimps. Now we know Kulu Salam, every joint from the body of the human beings that is on it a charity every day the sun comes up as we discussed before as well. Yeah.

Paul Salallahu Salam he said as to give examples of those charities today lubaina name sadaqa make peace between two people make things right is a charity what to ino radula fee that but he for TAMIU allow you to help a person Yeah. On to their animal or mount or to lift them up

onto it. Oh tartufo level la hamata who sadaqa Oh to lift their goods on to the mount for the person in it is a sadhaka then he said well Kelly Mottai about sadhaka and the good word is a charity. We're cool look at what in them she Hi la sala saga, and every footstep that one takes walking to the salah is a charity where to meet will other Tariq sadaqa and to remove something harmful from the way or the road is a charity.

Last time,

we stopped at the point of the idea which very much I like of the approach which is giving a what this hadith is really about Ibn Rajab approach is from a point of about every joint giving

upon it to give sadaqa is an attitude of Shaka you remember I said last time that's really its essence. Yeah. Because the idea the joints are mentioned before being mentioned represents the body that Allah has given us a blessing. Yeah. We are not deserving of it. We have no right to it. And as mentioned before, we have no right to existence. Yeah. So the the reality that we're always the the reality for us as creatures of Allah subhanaw taala who have a right for nothing is to be in a state of gratitude. Always. Yeah. state of gratitude for everything is given us and I mentioned last time

we're in town do net Matala Hilah talks to her if you were to count the favors and bounties of Allah you will never be able to count them. Yeah, or the verse I mentioned K for tech Fortuna will live according to him I'm worth and how is it that you are ungrateful or even denial? Yeah. of Allah when you were dead non existent and he gives you life to my you meet to confirm by your vehicle to Manila hydrogen

Old, then he will give you deaths, and then he will give you life again. And then to him is the word. Yeah.

So this bounty and NEMA and Shaka is the real essence of this. And Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran, what is as an Arab Bukom law in Shekhar Otome law as he then Nachum and your Lord has announced law in shaker tomb, if you were to be grateful. Yeah, if you were all to be grateful as he then that I will increase for you. I will give you more as he then Nico. This giving more is both in this world potentially but definitely in the hereafter. Yeah. And it fits also with a different province. Awesome, saying, Yeah, Monica cellml, Minister, Minister Dhaka, that your wealth never goes down. Because again, charities don't have this. Believers not supposed to have this attitude or

I forgive. I'm gonna you understand which one of giving, giving, giving however little but constant. Yeah. So it fits with that because Allah sent healing, he'll give you more.

If you trust and rely on him, and even if you don't get it in a material sense, our attachment Isar a preference is for the hereafter, isn't it? Where money and shilling pounds and things are not going to count over into shillings and shows us how old I am. God Okay. Anyway.

So it's not pounds and things that were really after. I mean, I heard somebody saying that some of us felt you know, is my intention All right, am I giving it so I can make more profit? I'm giving charity sock more profit.

It shouldn't really be effective because I'm not doing it for material gain.

Oh, we really primarily you're giving because you want the rewards of Allah because this multiply storytimes even if I don't get it back in profits in this world. Yeah. So this let us see then that has potential for both this world and the next break definitely has it for the next if we are sincere isn't all right. Let us see the next home. This is in surah. At

Ebrahim run number 14 This was last Ethernet well in Cafaro tune in verbi Lesha the look at the contrast with it. However in contrast, if you are ungrateful and also has the meaning of gopher rejecting because ingratitude least rejecting Dr. Now appreciate what he's given you isn't it? That's what really is. That's why it's the greatest the wrongs isn't it to reject Allah. Well, I uncovered them then Allah just simply says Yes, surely My punishment is the really severe. Yeah.

So that mentioned the idea of chakra I had Quran is replete with Ayat mentioned chakra mentioned some last time I've repeated some again today

and

an obvious bounties Allah subhanaw taala says

at the end of surah Allah como Castle Yeah, that

lots of material has distracted you Catherine

at the end of Atlas Martha says gives you a picture of the Hereafter from Allah to Luna yo Maggie then adding the then you will be surely asked on that day and in nayeem nayeem is from nema. Yeah, wine Tao do net masala he Yeah, if you were to count the Pharaohs of bounties of Allah so name comes from the same word. You will be asked to have all the name that Allah gave you. In other words, what did you do with it? Did you show gratitude?

Last summer to Soluna Yama is in any name so name

of the London Mossad is reported from himself. Yeah, the great Sahabi and scholar as saying what's your reporting Albay hockey saying about this area he says a name Amana was Sahar this name is security and good health,

security and good health and good health. Right and actually, he's it's it's true, but it's even wider than that. Because name covers everything that we have of the bounties doesn't it fits with the rest of what the Quran says. But notice, Sahar, especially because Allah gave us a fit

With the idea, yeah. The child of animals 360 joints, doesn't it? The body? Yeah. gonna fit with that. Yeah, even if I may No, no, none of us have got perfection. So the idea is if I've got a bad knee, what about the rest of my body? Yeah, if I got a bad nose, what about the rest of my body? If I've got one arm? What about the other one? Do I deserve even the one?

That's the approach of the believer? Yeah, not sticking their face up and saying, Oh, God, why have You done this to me? Only you've given me a stroke. And I can't move my one side now. 60 years of age? Yeah, he or she forgot about the 60 years before that happened. How ungrateful is that? Yeah. Isn't that right? That's approach a believer. So you'll be asked about all the the bounties and favors Allah has blessed you with.

I'll come back to Shaka in a minute. And in at the end of Surah, Tamim sector 41 where Allah subhana wa says

Stannary him Tina feel far fewer fee up foresee him had had a you know law home and I will help? Yes, soon we will. We will show them Our signs. Yeah, fill out a faulty Wi Fi and foresee him in the horizon.

Meaning all around them fill alpha and in themselves.

You know what this? Is scientists actually who say there's a universe out there when you go outwards? Yeah, which we try and reach with bigger and bigger telescopes. And he carries on? Yes, yeah. And then when you come into the human being to the universe inside

Subhan, Allah Subhana Allah, that's what we shouldn't be saying. Every scientist really shouldn't be saying Subhana Allah, Glory be to Allah. Suddenly, that's not always the case. But the problem isn't the science the problem is the person themselves and there are other reasons not the size, which is making them Nazism, Pamela

there are other reasons.

But before we get to the source, I will show them signs in in in the environment and the horizon outside themselves and in themselves yet, which will make it clear to them that the Quran and that will help that it is the truth.

Because grace mentioning this

showing the signs grant making the signs in you and outside of you. Yet which show which shows to us this grant must be from Allah.

Ya, Allah Samantha is saying that.

But it's interesting. I was looking at this idea if we go a few hours before Allah Samantha says, What either and I'm in sunny our other one. We journey be what either Mr. Wu Shamu falgu

Inari. And when we give bounties and favors to the human beings from ourselves, Allah saying our other one other Johnny B. He grows distance and turns away in arrogance. Other pastor Graham mentioned that when they have lots of blessings, and they're enjoying it day in day out, they claim it's from themselves.

Yep.

So they become arrogant, because there's no pain or difficulty now. Everything's Fun, fun, fun. doesn't last long, though. Because trial is gonna come in this dunya. And actually is the bigger and if you listen to my Joomla hotbar, I said the bigger trial is enriches not in polis.

What the poor people tend to do.

Oh, Lord, oh, God, what a rich people tend to do. They tend to forget God because shaytan has gotten ahold of them. Yeah, the problem isn't the wells. The problem is being duped and deceived by Wells. Yeah. So then we always that's why, as I mentioned in the hot button, the promises since I was shown Paradise, and most of the people in paradise were who?

The poor the poll, because the less I have, the less I have to answer for the more I have, the more I have drawn support, not just that people said that before as well. It's not just that, the more I have, the more

Danger, I am in danger of being deceived by shaitan and Donia. And it's, and it's luxuries and its wealth. And yeah, isn't it true? It's true.

Yeah, some of us say. And he's mentioning Hadith as well, about a person who has envy in a person will have lots of wealth and they spend it day and night in the way of Allah. That you allowed to have that kind of I wish I had wealth like he or she. So I will spend it in the way of Allah day and night. Is that guaranteed when I get the wealth that I'll become like, that? is so dangerous, isn't it to ask for it? Isn't it right? It's true.

Yeah, because I don't know how I'm gonna respond.

Because the trial will be then when I have it. Will I become niggardly? Will that be me? Me? Me? I don't know. yet. So look what Allah says, After that suddenly become arrogant way, the minister whose job and when any kind of bad touches him or her.

But who do in hourI, then he or she makes long was

long do us? Yeah, so might be thinking here? Well, it's taught long glass can imply believers and even disbelievers. Because when hardship gets so bad, that even the ardent atheist says, Oh, God save me. Yeah. And of course, there's exceptions to that. There are those who are so hard back to arrogant they won't even say that. Yeah.

The disease is so deep in their hearts. Yeah, they won't even say it then.

But generally, people in hardship are more likely to make long doors, as we all do, don't we?

We make long wires, even as believers. Yeah, we make more glass when we're going through tribulation. Yeah, it's not that I'm not saying we don't pray. We don't fast we do. But we make longer an extra glass and do extra one winning tribulation.

Yes, there's nothing wrong with that. What Allah is talking about is when he gives a lot turning away in arrogance and not saying not showing gratitude. That's the problem. Yeah.

So that that was just to mention those are yet and unless not Amazing that how he will show us in ourselves Stannary him? Yeah, yeah, Tina, build alpha p will be unforeseen him to show signs, and that those signs are shown to us to make us realize, and fill us with humility, and have an attitude of gratitude to Allah subhanho wa taala. And what is this gratitude? We got, you know, now, of course, in the West, everything's reduced to we are from monkeys and apes, there's no God. But we've done some scientific studies now. Modern day studies in psychology. Yeah. Which shows that if you are grateful, you feel much better about yourself. There's not the present their data yet. So you

hear you and you see on programs as well. And they just they don't say anything else. You said Be grateful. They never say Be grateful to who

who you've been grateful to just be grateful. And on. You can't be just grateful. There has, if you say grateful, and all the question always comes, who are you being grateful to?

It's not right. Because grateful is not something you just do. But you know, this is a house. It's not a statement. It's in a sense, it's a statement, but gratefulness doesn't stand on its own. One is all you can be grateful for yourself.

Which is so misplaced. Are you being grateful for yourself?

So you're going to be grateful to something or someone else who you've been grateful to. The reality is, we don't need modern psychology to tell us to be grateful. It is a sad state of affairs for Muslims to have to quote modern psychology to become grateful to Allah, isn't it?

I don't be grateful. I'm not grateful to Allah. So I feel good about myself. Is that the reason I'm doing it?

Yeah, so I come out of anxiety and depression may happen, but I'm being grateful for Allah because that's the reality of my being.

is not right. And I know where I'm going.

I know who the master is. I know who to be grateful to. Yeah.

So here gratitude

It is not just be grateful in Nirvana in space. And you'll see, I've seen it again and again. They never say Be grateful to even they don't even say breathe, get grateful to your parents.

Be grateful to somebody who helps you. Are we allowed to be grateful in Islam to others? Of course, gratitude. Yeah, being grateful to them but never leaving out being grateful to Allah because he sent them He created them he made it possible for them to help us.

Yeah.

So now, gratitude also, it is in words, but it's not just in words. It is not just the state of the mind. Yeah, I'm thinking to myself, I'm really grateful. feel really good, because I'm grateful.

Okay, but neither is it just in words. What do we say people who just give words we say empty words.

Okay. But you know, Al Fatiha for example, which is in every salah. And it is the opening is called Al Fatiha the opening of the Quran. The word it starts with is Alhamdulillah year of being me. Yeah, mostly translated us. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the world. But alhamdulillah is not just praise. Mud in Arabic is praise. Allah Hammond Hammond is praise and gratitude within it.

Many people don't realize that. When we say Alhamdulillah we're not saying praise be to Allah only we saying praise and shocker gratitude be to Allah inherent in the world.

So look how we start.

The Quran opens with that as a statement of fact, as a statement of our reality. Isn't that amazing?

Yeah, that it begins with that.

And every Salah has that in it. It is the essence of the Salah.

So that's words. Yep. In words, as we'll see from this hadith, and the other one is before right and others around it yet. Part of South Africa is words, isn't it?

Yeah, Subhan Allah, Al hamdu lillah Allahu Akbar La ilaha illa. Allah, all of them suffer for yourself. Yeah, but they have meaning. Yeah, it's not this like saying ABCD EFG. That's not gonna give you anything. What does that mean?

But many Muslims, especially non Arabic speaking, don't realize that it's just the meaning of it.

Alhamdulillah is going to affect me when I say it. So I need to think about what I'm saying. Because I've felt my heart and mind my saying it so many times a day is for what purpose? Just for counting on beads. It is not for that purpose. It is so it is a reminder. Oh, Allah is constantly when I mentioned Alhamdulillah reminds me

that I need to be grateful to Allah and praise Him. By doing that, it reminds me that Allah is watching. Glory be to Allah. Yeah. Allahu Akbar. Allah is the biggest. Yeah, La ilaha illa. There is no God, but Allah worthy of worship all knows. It's a constant reminder, isn't it? That's the idea of doing Likud so many times. Really, it is because of what effect is going to have on me

on my soul on my being, and

I mean, Salah is Deckard and dua, is it not as spaced out five times a day in the day? Yeah, from the beginning to the end, as a constant reminder.

constant reminder. So I don't waver from Serato Mustafi.

Yes, so gratitude

cannot be just words either. And I said to you that if you bring all that hadith together, I said it last time before as well you'll get the idea that if you have wells, then your Celica is by giving the wealth Yeah. And you still do take care of Allah and admirable Maru. Funny annual Moncure. Yeah, and if you have physical ability, yeah. And not the money, then you do the things that prophesy some said in the lowest of these, the rich people run away with all the rewards what was also mentioned about vicar, and you mentioned about yet standing for right and just and against evil. Yes, doing

Good things another Hadith mentioned about smiling. And we're going to look at some of these that I mentioned in this study, removing harmful things from the road helping somebody all this is unable to. That's what I'm busy doing. Yeah. And I still am able to do that, anyway. Yeah, because I can be lying in bed paralyzed. Yeah, my tongue is working, I can record content.

But if I'm not able to do that,

even physically go out and help. And I still have the ability to remember Allah smart Allah, which becomes a sub account. That's how it's all. You bring it all to all of that. And essence is gratitude to Allah subhanaw taala. Really gratitude? Brothers and sisters is Eman. It really is.

Gratitude is a step to Eman and we exemplify the gratitude. Yeah. Gratitude is exemplified. Yeah, if I'm niggardly and don't give to others in charity, and I've got lots, I may be saying they are grateful to your love of my

actions and are showing that are there

is that right? That's why Hadith which we haven't done yet, it's coming later in it the promises some say says as sadaqa to was sadaqa to Buddha, Han and sadaqa is the criterion. Yeah, it is the it is what is the evidence to show that you believe in the hereafter.

And believe in Allah and that you are grateful to Allah.

Tala God, giving to others helping benefiting is the criterion of your real belief in Allah in the hereafter and your real gratitude. Yeah.

So that's something about suka, which is really

the essence of this belief and that's why I never recommend divides into

sugar which is fun to watch it and sugar which is recommended

yet it's mixed together. So the way of showing gratitude which is logic, and found is five daily prayers fasting in Ramadan

fasting in Ramadan

being good to parents is roadwatch event. neighborly needs, which we talked about before in a hadith of combining a mom now who is 40 as well. Yeah. The obligation of,

of being good to neighbors. Yeah, and haram being the opposite. Yeah. So then there is extra stuff that you can do. And the idea of every day the sun coming up meaning and every joint meaning being busy if you've been given the ability in doing good deeds,

the Prophet SAW Islam gave some examples. Yeah. As Allah Ma said, This is not a list which is limited. These are just some highlights. Yeah, and we can think of many others all around us. Yeah.

Um, before I take each one of those in this particular Hadith, the Hadith, the evil Roger mentions,

under this hadith, which I particularly like, which is reported in athma, muslin, and if he's authentic, according to the date, my teacher

and so I'm going to give you part of the Hadees and I think it's a beautiful Hadith.

So starting from the middle of it, which is linked with this particular these the prophesy Salam says

Sahabi says, First was set out to who animal models so I asked him the Messenger of Allah I asked Messenger of Allah, about my roof, all that which is good. Remember, one of the Hadith was called Luma roof sadaqa all Maru which means all good things you do is a charity. Yep. And that hadith mentioned smiling in the face of your brother is a charity charity and removing something harmful from the road is a charity and pouring from your bucket of water into the others who's thirsty yeah is a charity. Yeah, that we've mentioned. So here again, similar is saying I asked the Prophet SAW Islam about Mark Ruth. What he's good, he said Salallahu Salam Latta Kiran nominal models say don't

ever look down on any kind of good however literal it is. Don't think of it as nothing that attack Iran.

Even if it's only little misses the idea of small beads so taxonomies don't ever look down. Thank God is in nothing.

Yeah. And then he explains it Salallahu Salam because he says wallow and thought Dr. Phil, that'll happen

if you were just to give a little rope to someone

a little rope.

Then he says, Yeah, wallow and tortilla chips and now and we're if you were to give a strap our sandal in today's world, you could say a shoelace worth you to give even if you were to give only a shoelace, or a strap of a sandal or a rope little rope that he mentions. Willow and two, three min Dell week. phenol Mustafi This is similar to the other and we're even if you were to Yeah, empty the remainder of the water in your bucket in the person who's thirsty into their bucket.

Yeah, Willow and tenakee a shaman Tariq Enos, yo Z him?

Where are you to even remove something harmful? Remove it away from the past of people, which was going to be harmful for them? Yeah, all these is saying Don't look down on these things.

Even if it was to do that, or even wallow and tell a haka well what Guca la Haman Pollock were you to meet your brother meaning another human being and your face is smiling?

Yep, well and teleca haka for to Salim Allah He

were you to meet your brother and you say salaam Wa alaykum to him or her? Yeah.

Well, and Tony shall work shall fill out. Were you to give company for the lonely person.

Yeah, but a lonely person in the world. And how many lonely people are around, especially in this kind of society we live in, which has become a very selfish society. Yeah. Were you to give company just for an hour just for half an hour to somebody who's lonely. Look, what's the last one fine. Does it fit? It's beautiful. This is I mean, don't look down on any of these things as though they were nothing because they're all part of sadaqa and then we're in now look our Salah so he says what in sub Baqarah Don't be che Yeah. lemahieu feed and if some person

insults you, because of some negative in you. Yeah, that he knows about what entity level fee he Nagwa and you know, something similar? Negative in the other person as well. Yeah. filata so boohoo Don't insult him back or her back

via kono Angelou who laka well withdrew who are late then it will be a reward for you. They're insults to you. Yeah, and the sin will be on them

if you don't respond back with the like

Yeah, well my Sandra and Tessa who fat Melby and whatever you're here likes to hear meaning of good works yeah. Yeah.

Do according to it be busy with it? Well Massa, also neck

Yeah. And Tessa who face the neighborhood and whatever your ears dislike to hear about meaning is evil or bad things Yeah. Then stay away from it. That's a different box

so I don't know what use him I found him really beautiful how prophesies some missing things and saying don't look about any down as the with disdain, any kind of good. And he's missing little things which are so beautiful. Really? Yeah. And how ever little we think that we're helping somebody with how it's multiplied and counted before Allah subhanho wa taala. So we come specifically now.

And if we look at this hadith that prophets Aslam says about sadaqa he says Allah Allah Azza da de Loup Bane is named sadaqa.

To make good between two people is a charity. Yeah.

And if you look at the society, the kind of society we live in, we got a lot of stairs stirrers.

gossipers and not people who put flames out but actually ignite them more

isn't that right? That's my experience. It's a sad experience and we have very few who actually do the opposite and say Look he didn't mean that she didn't mean that just leave it forget about it. Overlook forgive

is not right. Yeah. sorting things out between people

to make peace between people so important

and the best example of that are making good between two people.

Husband and Wife

Husband Why do I say that

that is true as well. Foundation will tell you why

the Hadith inside Muslim Woods I'm sure you'll remember when I mentioned it.

Obviously as Tom said, have you seen Sahih Muslim reported by Javelin he says in that in Malisa Yoda Arthur who Alma that surely IBLEES shaytaan a puts his throne on the water. So Maya so Suraiya who, by other now who mean whom and Zillah 10 Azam will home fit that time.

Yeah. Then he sends forth his battalions.

Shakedowns,

right. From gin and ins you can think

right?

From Jim and humans, but other than our home Minho. And those who are nearest to him in ranks are the most notorious in creating dissension

fitna between people, they are the nearest to him in rank, meaning he brings them close to him. The most evil of them are the best for him. Okay, share

your G we'll have the home fire cool. One of them comes back.

And he says, for how to cover our cover.

And he says to IBLEES I did such and such and such and such.

Fire Cole. Yeah. And he says mass on attache. And Emily says he didn't do anything. In other words, it's not evil enough. What you just come back and come back with

color Samaya Gee, who? To whom? Yeah. Then one of them comes back for your poll. And he says he or she says multirack. To who?

For rock to Dana. Whoo. Bina in Marathi. I didn't leave such and such a person. Except that I caused the split between him and his wife.

Of course, dissension between them. The husband and wife

niveles says, yeah, all the problems so first says that you need him in who so he brings in really near to him.

This person who's caused such havoc, wire pool net month, and he believes says to this person. You are the best.

You are the best. Yeah.

You are the best. The one who's caused the dissension between husband and wife. Okay. So that's why I say making peace between husband and wife. If the worst thing is making

fit damage was back then it must be the best thing to try and make peace between them. Let's not get the wrong impression of that though. It needs to be nice place.

Does that mean that that we should

avoid this? Then then divorce would be seen as something shutdowns achieved but it's not always the case.

Yeah, no. What was the case? Does Islam allow divorce? Yes, it does. But for a reason. Not for no reason. Not for no reason. Yeah. So a husband's a drunkard Muslim talking about beats his wife every day. Yeah.

And were called in to make peace between them. You don't turn up and say to the wife he saw right? Lame hobbies be a drunk. He only beats you three times a week. Yeah, it'll be fine. Carry on. Is that Is that what is what we're saying? Absolutely not. So don't take it to do that.

Stream. Anything goes Yeah, as long as they live together. That's not making this beast between two people. Remember? Ba da da lubang genus name from Aadil

justly making peace not any kind of government injustice is going on you say it's all right. Carry on carry open doors not

everybody with me. Yeah so tardy Lu come from other

justice zone. lol cannot continue as we'll see another Hadith mentions anyway.

So making peace and you know, here we have to be very careful

because making peace between two people is fraught with dangers.

Firstly

is Jo Muslim who's been called to make peace with peace between two people, whoever they are to females male and female brothers, people in the community husband and wife is Jo Muslim who's been asked to help in that got any experience or wisdom to be able to cause peace between two people? That's the first thing one has to look at the ones who are choosing? Who am I going to ask? Okay, and the one who has been asked yet.

If I have no idea, no wisdom, no experience of our console matters. And I don't put myself folders here, or I'll sort out between you. And by the time you've left. They were crossed with each other now to try and kill each other. Is that possible weathers this this? It is because not everybody is capable, and got the ability to sort out matters between people. Yep.

And we know that in families in wider families, they know that person is quite wise in in that brother, those two brothers I'd never call to ask them to make this week peace between anybody cuz I know what's gonna happen. That'd be world war three. You see what I'm saying? So here is not willy nilly. Anybody comes along? Yeah. So person asking file needs to be careful who they choose. Yeah. And when you're talking about two people both must agree on the person they're going to call, right? If we take a simple idea of the husband or wife, the husband chooses his mate

to come and make peace between them because he's got the same views as he's got, right? The wife has never agreed. But he said, Well, I'm going to call him in and we'll we'll take our case to him. But she has to agree as well, with such and such a person

is not right, if you're going to get justice, or otherwise, one side will say not just husband or wife, any of two people, one will say, I'm not going to do what he's saying. I never agreed with it. I never agreed for him to be an arbitrator. Right. So they have the first step is the arbitrator must be agreed upon by both parties or more than two parties. Is that right?

Then the second step is the arbitrators when it's agreed upon, and he or she listens to both sides of the equation, you make an agreement that whatever he's going to recommend, we will seriously take it on board.

Okay,

not when it comes up. Now, because it's negative for me that I say or forget it. I'm not having any of this.

Because I don't really resolve anything. So these are some parameters. I'm not here to give a complete course on it. These are some of the parameters that need to be looked at.

It's a bit like, and we'll come to it asking for the C hat from somebody. So asking advice about a particular matter. If somebody comes and asked me about an architectural matter, right, I'd be stupid. Give him advice. What not because I ain't got a clue about architecture. I'll be sending them to Zareen.

You understand what I'm saying? So when it says you have a responsibility to give him the car advice, according to your ability. Yeah.

So this is also the case here. Yeah. And it's fraught with dangers, because it's not the same as two people going for arbitration to a judge who is got authority in the land and under the law. Yeah. It's just a Jomi in the community.

Do I want to take on this or do I don't I'll tell you my experience I've taken on many times, and

I shy away from it now most of the time because by the time you finished, you have no authority to make the two parties do anything survives by time you're finished. Both parties hate you.

Good. We got a serious problem. I want to be helpful. First, it takes a lot of time. Okay.

Secondly, yeah, often the two parties, they still hate each other, but they hate us well now

is fraught with dangers. Okay. So be careful. I'm not saying we don't make peace between people. But we do. But it requires wisdom. Very careful treading. Yeah. And principles to be laid out beforehand. Yeah. And that people jumping in and saying, Wow, sorted out. And actually, they end up. And I've seen it so many times in the community, people jump in and say they sorted out. And we actually make it worse.

Yeah, because they never got the full picture. People get one side of the story and jump in as well. That's another thing fraught with, that's not just this. Yeah.

I could mention a lot more things on this topic of just getting involved with making things right between people, because there's so many things, so many tripping points. So dangerous.

Now, so that little veinous named sadaqa, to be able to achieve that. And it's not to put you off because it can be achieved, and I've seen it achieved as well. Yeah, it's a charity. Those people will make dua for you for the rest of their lives, if you're able to achieve that.

So and that's why the Sonka the salata, because you gave up your time, yet, on your experience, and of your good advice, which actually help them and they're resulted.

They're resolved or moved on from the issues. Yeah. So you can see what kind of salad it is, it's great to be able to do that.

To have the ability to have to do that.

All the negatives I've mentioned is not entirely to put us off is to make us think that wisdom is required and experiences acquired.

Wisdom and experiences acquired

to people who are in the 40s and 50s, particular issues of God, you don't ask a 15 year old because he's half is listen to me very carefully. Because he's half of the Quran to come and sort it out.

Yeah, Mashallah. He's half is that's nothing to do with sorting things out between two people who are in middle age, what's he going to do?

And how they're going to receive such a person.

And that takes me

wisdom of trying to sort things out between people. And and actually problem the community is facing.

Yeah, wisdom required with understanding and knowledge. Yeah. Where you are, what your background is, what the education level of the person doesn't all persons? Doesn't that come into it?

All right.

Let me give you a simple example. We live in Britain. We've been brought up here since baby's here.

And we have some issues.

And

you bring in somebody who's a recent

immigrant, because he's a movie from India, Pakistan, Syria, I mentioned all the countries and ask them to come and sort out.

Very knowledgeable in the Quran. Very knowledgeable in the Hadith. is not just about that dog

has no idea how the society works that it just arrived.

has no idea what makes us tick.

Because they've been brought up somewhere else.

You understand this will have an impact

costs it will and to think no, it's just gonna throw Chrono defense and everything will be sorted. No, it's not.

One of the biggest parts of each the head of Scholars is appropriate application of the Quran Hadith that you learn off by heart, not just knowing it. Yeah. Appropriate or miss appropriate application of chronic wasting disease.

So important

So

sorting things out, I'll give you an example. Simple one, real one. In one of the towns, I will not name the town because it might. Yeah, we could take a few times in the youth. And I think they still got the problem as many other times of the Muslim youth in this big community living around the two or three mosques, dense community, Muslim community,

big drop, big drug crime problem. More and more going on drugs, and there's those who are dealing as well from the Muslim community. Yeah, raking in 1000s, while they come to Juma prayer as well.

So they've got this drug delinquent drug problem. So the mosque decides to have a committee meeting with the Imam and molvi.

And

half is or whoever else they had a How shall we remedied

this problem? So after a long meeting,

the conclusion this is the conclusion how to remedy

we need to start more hips classes of Quran

that was the answer.

So, I'm not gonna help

the guys doing drugs, complaints classes,

just because you're holding his classes. And now you're holding three classes. Right?

X is just unfathomable. That's the conclusion of after a long meeting of how to deal with the problem of delinquency in drugs.

You see what I'm saying?

So this is about relevance, understanding society, understand the youth what they're facing. Yeah. What the parents role in it is, what the societal role is, and what the mosques role is. In it is or lack of it.

Yeah, because majority of them went to the Medusa in the mosque.

Did anybody think about where did we fail them as the mosque

even though they spent years coming off to school, chucked into the mosque to read that Subak spara? Yeah. But they went, and then the drug is and then the drug dealers.

So what about some self criticism and analysis that actually didn't work?

What we taught and how we taught

you see what I'm talking about? I'm just giving you this is a real example, by the way is not made up. This actually happened. Yeah, and of course, the problem wasn't resolved.

Surprise, surprise, okay.

Okay, I'm gonna stop there. To give some time for questions. I'm going on for about 45 minutes. And we will mention the other stuff inshallah and hoping that we'll complete the Hadith next time.

Any questions? The other stuff I haven't mentioned yet, about helping people

on the mound. And of course,

Mount means the horse and the camel, but don't say it's not applicable today.

Just because we've got cars and buses still applicable.

And we'll look at that next time and tell anyone and some of the other stuff in Sharla

any questions online or from the from what was covered today?

Nothing online. That's fine. must be very clear. Just clear.

Okay, so we'll stop there, then inshallah. There's no questions and basically law, we're not having a break. Normally, I used to do three weeks, one week off, we're not having a break, we'll carry on.

Alikum Islam plus somebody asking? Yes.

I just wanted to ask you that. I heard that. As a Muslim, you're not supposed to tell lies, but sometime solves our problem between a husband and a wife. You're supposed to tell Little White Lies. So that they, you know, said a good thing about to the other and said this is what he says. Is that true? Yes. That's one of the exceptions. Yeah. Exceptions. i We're not talking about big lies, like you know,

he's cleared your bank balance out or he's put 10,000 pounds in your account. Of course, it's not true. You can't get no, the idea is something small

All to appease the hearts of people like, you know, they said slum or they're asking about you this kind of thing. Yeah, that's what it means. Okay.

Yeah, that's the exception.

The idea isn't to go into

the rule of life is haram clearly, but there's exceptions and these are small exceptions because it may help

in the relationship of people.

Good question.

Anything else?

I don't think in that example you gave about people that must've failed the people show experiences outside of it. And me.

Yeah, it is experience outside. But the masjid has to look at the fact that they spent a few years reading Quran in their classes.

The Masjid? What effect did that have? And if it has little impact, then we need to reanalyze ourselves. Because what I'm getting at is when you've got opportunity is not teaching the Quran in Arabic, which is just a rhythmical tone, and they go away after all those years of studying it, they complete the Quran, they don't understand the word of it. So in the end, it's about teaching them something about something about Islam, why are they reciting the Quran? What is even just a Fatiha about to give them something? Why is it after all those years, majority of them go out to the boss and they don't understand and know hardly anything about Islam? Yeah, during the meaning of salt,

okay, that's different. So that is gonna have a massive impact on their life. And not telling them that is also going to have a massive impact on their life, because actually, it took nothing away, really. So they finish and that's why many, many finish with the mosque and never come back again. Because,

listen, I've been involved in Islamic Dawa, since the 80s. I know I've met so many youth around the country, not just in my locality 1000s. And majority have a bad experience from that teaching, not a positive experience. And nothing they really took from it. And they spent time afterwards when they got their 20s and 30s to rediscover Islam.

That's a sad reflection, and we need to take some responsibility for that. That's my point. Of course, society around what's going on

temptations, they're always there. We're not saying the rest of society scot free, and the person has a God hasn't got some blame on them. Of course they have. But where we have got opportunity, we have to make use of it. You've got captive audience.

Those young people have been sent by the parents and they're sitting with you, and you're being paid as well. Yeah. And you couldn't have used that opportunity.

I could go more on that, you know, you know, reality is, it's better now and was better in some months, but it was very negative and majority the most if you go back 20 years, about the anger of the Mowlana and the stick of the Mallanna. It's very well known that I'm not going to mince my words. And that's not every mass and very unlikely now because you know, what stopped it. Local law, not because of Muslims, they're frightened of the law. non Muslim law, sadly, wasn't the Muslim. So they got that kind of treatment, very bullish, very harsh in the madressa teaching Quran.

Islam which represents the Word of God, who is most Merciful and most compassionate, and then went into the school where the non Muslim teachers were loving and kind Come on love Come on, dear. Let's do this. Did they get that in the mosque? No, they didn't. Which way are you going to go as a child? I know which way algo so these are so many other things but anyway, I'll stop there. May Allah Allah Allah guidance help us forgive us

and make us of those who act upon the knowledge and give us deeper understanding of his beautiful beam that he blessed us with long Amin working with that one, annual handling liabilities.