Munir Ahmed – Session 65 Shame & Shyness from Sins
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The segment discusses various prophecies and their meaning, including the woman named Malhoa, Kari, Kari, and Kari. The speakers explore the concept of "we" and its importance in shaping behavior, including hesitation, hesitation in religion, hesitation in alcohol, hesitation in religion, shyness, and hesitation in shyness. The segment also touches on the concept of "hammo" and its connection to shyness and modesty in Islam, as well as the prevalence of "hameless shyness" in Islam. The segment concludes with a discussion of the importance of belief in Allah's teachings and the potential consequences of hiding behind one's appearance.AI: Transcript ©
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We ask Allah always to accept from us
and to forgive us to keep us always guided right.
And we asked him for
beneficial knowledge and understanding
light sustenance on him were utterly dependent to Him is our return and go and there is no power and might accept that of Allah.
And today we move to Al Hadith will issue rule
number 20
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He says that it is reported from Abu Masood AKBA in the I'm sorry, from the unsolved l battery. Meaning he was a bother Radi Allahu Allah may Allah be pleased with him. He said that the Messenger of Allah peace and blessings of Allah be upon him said
among the words people obtained from
yeah from the words of the previous prophets
or previous prophecies
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if you have no shame then do as you wish. It is reported by Imam Buhari in his in his Asahi Jamia Sahai
as Imam now we mentioned
this Hadith
also comes in I will download even imagine and in the edible mafia book of Imam Al Buhari as well
a little bit about we don't have much about the narrator Abu misfold AKBA Ibni This is not implement so this is our Mossad Akbar Amaran sorry, of course it's on the unsolved
in the masala wasn't from the answer anyway, but that's a separate issue.
He
Emanuel meant mentioned a battery. Even.
Mr. tofi said there's a laugh on it amongst the alumni. It's not a big issue, to be honest. Whether he was their brother or what he wasn't there, but most of them said according to a mum to feed that.
Yeah, he went there and therefore his name was attached as bodily to it. But Mr. Bahari himself, made a judgment and said he actually witnessed the Battle of us What better meaning he was part of it.
And he mentioned that that this is mentioned in directly now Hadith anyway, so that's the West opinion that he was very. He died in 41/41 year of Hijra.
And again, some difference of opinion as to whether he died in Kufa or with regard in El Medina. He reports about 100 At least from the Prophet salallahu Salam.
This being
Amongst them now
this are these exact words is actually as you find it in Sahil behind me, as I mentioned, and if you were to check it there
the first part of it, that that which has among the words which have reached people from the words of previous prophecy means that it seems that they're from previous prophethood in other words or from previous revelation.
Prophets which have been circulating and been passed on. So prophesized slum saying this these are amongst the words that came from previous revelation and previous prophets. Yeah.
That's also mentioned by
Maven Rosie up as well.
Imam nawawi has only a few lines of comments, which are similarly mentioned by Imam a trophy as well in his shot and repeated again really by Evan Raja.
And we should mention a month now he says the idea if you have no
shame, then do as you do as you wish.
He says it can be seen in two ways.
One, that is it because it's like an order. Yeah, do as you wish, if you have no shame.
So he says however, it's not an encouragement, obviously do it, but it's an order which is called DD it's like a warning. It's like somebody who's been bad you said Go ahead, go and do it, then meaning see what the consequences are. Yeah. So it's come like that. And similarly says,
Even Raja and
similarly says Imam tofi as well. Yeah. Because
and they say this is similar to in the Quran, when Allah subhanho wa Taala says,
in Surah 41, verse 40.
Allah smart Allah says
in Lavina, you will hate on Fe
phone, Allah Ina, solely those who reject our signs, they are not hidden from us say may have in
my tea in a yo mille
is the one who is cast into the Hellfire better
than the one who is brought safely
in safety of the Day of Resurrection. Then Allah says yeah, Mailloux do Yeah, it's an order Malou magic Tom. Do as you wish. Now who cannot be mad Melona bossy? Yeah, surely Allah is Ever Watchful seeing everything all that you do. So do as you wish. So Allah is watching and seeing sees everything that you do is a warning. After mentioning the fire the difference between paradise and hellfire So when Allah says here do it's not an order to actually go and do bad it's a it comes in a sense of warning this is part of rhetorical as part of el mal Manny, when an order the word form comes in an order but it doesn't actually mean an order. It's a warning kind of order. Similarly,
Allah smart Allah says in Surah 39 verse 15,
Allah subhanho wa Taala says farm Budo Massey
Dhoni coal in Lahore CCleaner levena hacia who fossa home Lee him you know?
There you go well, of course rod will Moby. So all of you worship whoever you wish to worship aside from him from Allah. Because that's not an order to encourage you to go and do that. It's an order a warning. Yeah. If you're going to carry on do what you want men worship whoever you want, aside from Allah. Then Allah says, say, Surely the Lord
losers are those who lose care who cause
loss to themselves
hospital unforeseeable and their families on the Day of Resurrection yeah
on the Day of Resurrection, then Allah says Allah Vatika who will host an honorable being is that not then the clearer and more clear loss obvious lots. So that these verses are similar can be used similar way as per the saying if you have do as you do as you wish, coming from that angle, but another way and other say it can also come in the way of
meaning that
if you have no shame Yeah, what the min here was that
if you don't feel shy about something you're going to do before Allah or you don't feel it's shameless, then do it.
Yeah. So the mean by that that in other words, what you're going to do is going to be more bash
or that which is your order to do
so meaning the meaning of you don't have shame meaning if you don't feel
that this is negative before Allah subhanaw taala didn't do it, meaning it must be allowed. Yeah, that's another angle but they say it can have the meaning of
and then
a third way of looking at it
as is
mentioned, also by mums, is that a bozo?
And even Roger he follows him in mentioning that as well the third way of looking at it is that
even though it comes in the way of an order
its meaning is getting your information.
If it was sense, they call it covered in
a statement once it stating it stating that if a person has no shame, then he or she will do whatever he or she wishes
he or she will do whatever he or she wishes Yeah, so it's like a statement so if somebody has no shame don't do that.
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Yeah, so the third we're looking at so it's, it can be taken as a statement that of course, if somebody is going to have no stand they will do as they wish. Yeah. bad or good, whatever, they'll do anything.
That's
another way of looking at it. And the force way.
Yeah.
Out of those says I'm looking at this statement is that it is actually very easy to have
modesty higher. We'll look at that in a minute what exactly it means to have some sense of sense of shame on modesty, because you're not allowed to do whatever you want. So yeah.
The having that sense of shame will help you to do that which is right.
To be honest, when I look at all these and I look at the Hadith and how it comes in my opinion, the best is like the Quran came with those verses. Yeah. If you have no sent those you please do as you wish, meaning there'll be consequences is come more of a warning. Yeah.
I can be of course it gives the idea secondarily anyway, the one who doesn't have any shame there. Yeah. That they will do. Yeah, they will do bad things because they've lost that sense of shame. So it can have that secondarily. Yeah, but first namaste yet first not now shipped do as you wish is more of a warning when, especially when it's linked with what came from previous prophets and previous revelation.
Yeah,
the rest
most of it has been summarized really
by a mom's or a bozo, whatever. Even Roger says, especially, you know, he focuses heavily on what your mom do and Rachel's sending these shots. And
so if I
move to that Imam even mentions a couple of Hadees which are linked with this boss of our week, he actually says the week themselves so I'm not even going to waste my time with mentioning them because we have authentic hadith to mention anywhere in this regard. So
what is the idea of
higher what is L higher?
In Arabic,
it has similar roots to higher with Tama buta, which means life. And higher, some scholars say is linked with that, in a sense that
if somebody's alive as they should be, as
someone's God, then they will naturally have a sense of shame and modesty. Yeah. And because the dead don't have any sense of shame and modesty and so, low
means shame you can say modesty,
moral conscious and shyness. All that is the meaning of higher when I say modesty, we must differentiate, because in English modesty can be applied in the sense of also humility.
Yeah, you say somebody's not arrogant, they are modest. We're not talking about that here. Higher doesn't mean humility. That modesty means humility. The opposite of arrogance is a talaga. Yeah, Bill Arabiya in Arabic. So this is not the same as that. Toa, which means humility. Humility is opposite to arrogance. And modesty can come there as well. Yeah, he's modest is not arrogance, meaning he's humble.
Humble, and humility is not the same as having a sense of shame and moral conscious and being shy as well. Yeah. Which is a higher, which is what we're talking about here.
What is the opposite of modern hire? Yeah. The opposite of it. In Arabic, we could say, what are ha? They say? Walk off, huh? Yeah, well off hat or a scarf. airpot. Taha is really, somebody who has a local ham means they are shameless. Yeah. English you would say shameless impudent. Insulin. Yep. impertinent. So if something's pertinent, the opposite impertinent maybe the meaning they are doing inappropriate. Yeah, behavior from words and actions. So impertinent means gone beyond the lid. So the idea means really means shame list instead of having a sense of shame. That's the opposite of course, aloha in Arabic.
So
you might have sent the same Imams or opposite says the same. They say that this higher a sense of shame, or moral conscious of modesty or shyness is of two types that which is natural. Lee put debit Allah subhanho wa taala.
And to say, for example, a sense of wanting to cover nakedness just as human beings.
The difference between
animals including those people,
People claim to be claimed to be out near relatives allow them
that no sense of the nakedness being colored only comes with the sense of they're covering the Lakers with the human being, and it comes in a natural way. Yeah, he can be eroded. Yeah, it can be eroded with the kind of ideas that human beings yet then follow, and with their desires, etc.
So that can be eroded as well. Or it can be escalated and developed further through through
belief in Allah yet.
So that's a quiet now higher, a quiet sense of shame. So, before I go, that it can quiet through belief in Allah, like believers, like we say, for ourselves, but there is an acquired sense of modesty and shame through society as well. Which can affect
not just believers, but society itself, which we call a lot of culture. And that can change with time and place. Yeah. A kind of dress sense maybe.
Shameless in a particular culture and time, and it is modest in a different culture and time. Isn't that so? It's possible. Yeah. So, I mean, you can have people who are modest in their
words, and in their behavior. Yeah.
Who are not Muslim? Isn't that right?
You don't say anybody who's a disbeliever they are all shameless people. No, that's that's unjust. Yeah. So then we come to the idea of belief.
But belief takes it to a different level just like belief in God and the guidance that came with the final messenger Muhammad Rasul Allah Islam took the morals and the love and the behavior of people to a different level that's why the prophesy Islam spec in nama book is totally autumn me Mama caramel. Creamy. Yeah, I have already been sent arrays to perfect the morals and behavior, good behavior, good morals. Perfect meaning they're already there. Yeah. But to take them to the next level. Yeah. So the same idea here with a higher or modesty. Part of that, a significant part of that, in fact, the most important part of that the client,
idea of shame and sense of modesty and shyness is when you believe in Allah and the Day of Judgment is to be shy before Allah subhanho wa Taala knowing he is watching, seeing whatever you are doing, shy from walk, not shy from doing the halal things.
Not shy from doing Halal things, but feel shy from doing that which he made haram. Yeah, that is, that is the very foundation of the Levers source of hire. It begins by having shine before me shine as before people shine us before Allah subhanho wa taala. Yeah. So that is very much linked with belief. And all the scholars mentioned for a higher this idea that it that and that's why Maori for example, he says, I'll hire this modesty and shyness. The whole of the deen revolves around it. Yeah. It is such a core part. Yeah. Because that is this higher is that which is going to push you like Eman? Yeah. Like Mr. Rogers says similarly, Mom always said the same. Like a mom is going to
drive you to do that. To obey Allah. Yeah. And stay away from the MaHA Ronak. That those things which you made haram? Yeah. Because you're going to feel
shy. Yeah. And have the moral conscience and shame from doing them. Yeah. So that's why Imam No, we said that.
The idea that it
the deem the shelf life of a believer revolves around this. And that's why he included this hadith in his book and his 40 Hadith. Because remember, he picks those which are the very core and many times we come across and many scholars said these four that these these three are these. Yeah, the very essence of Islam. Yeah. So this is one of them. Again,
And this is how they saw it.
And that's perhaps linked with the idea which is
mentioned by
Hadith in Bukhari Muslim multifocal LA.
When the Prophet first time said at the Eman a bit on WhatsApp all I'll be doing was to Nashoba.
The Imam consists of 60 or 70 branches or 70 or 60 branches more than 60 or more than 70 branches far off value her old Leila. Hi Lulu. And the most virtuous of those branches or Eman is these statements there is no God but Allah. And the least of them. Yeah Is Mr. Tuttle Aza Anatoliy is to remove something harmful from the road on the street, and then the police lustrum said while higher or short but nominal Eman and modesty and shyness is a part of branch of Eman? Yeah, and that's why you see why mum nobody's ever Raj have said that this is like Eman, it it keeps you on the straight and narrow as it were this sense of shyness and modesty before Allah subhanho wa Taala
prevents a believer from sinning
another Hadith which is reported by athma burn
and today mom timidly reward set for Abu Hurayrah the province Iceland said at a higher middle Eman that what we see is from face while Eman will feel Jana and face or Eman will be in paradise. Well the mineral Jeffer and but that all the V is the one wolf speaking foul language. So it's trying to show you shamelessness has come a language in words compared to modesty and shyness and having shame. So then the prophesize them said foul speech and obscenity is from closeness and harshness of character meaning Yeah.
And closeness and harshness will be in the fire. Yeah, well Jeff out often now. This is authentic hadith.
Also,
Imam Tirmidhi mentioned a hadith which is authentic from others, the Messenger of Allah salAllahu Salam Mahal, Makana foreshore fish che in in less China. Yeah. Whenever there is for hush meaning obscenity in something. Yeah, it spoils or ruins it. Walmart kind of Hayao officially. Yeah. And whenever there is modesty and shyness in something. Yeah, it Lazada who isn't modesty and shyness shyness in something except that it beautifies it from the officer. So that also shows you this nice, but one of the things aside from as we said, a lotta in Arabic being the opposite, I will hire Alpha hush or fat Tisha, which is obscenity, again, which is shameless of course is also mentioned
as in disbelief being opposite to to hire or modesty as is bizarre, which is obscene talk and obscene speech
and the prophesized?
Yeah. As mentioned in Hadith in Bukhari Muslim canon obey your Salah lesson a shut do hire Yeah, I shouldn't hire me no alcohol in February have fun Zara che Yatra who are off now goofy watch he
said the post Eisner was one of the most shy and modest people around more sorry, was more shy. The Prophet SAW Salem and Maude is
Yeah, then a virgin girl in her private room.
Yeah, that's how the report for instance, or hobby has mentioned it. And he says that if the prophet saw something which he disliked. Yeah. Which was not nice. Yeah. Or immodest. You can say we would realize it from his face. Yeah. His face would show us.
Yeah, we could tell from his face and his appearance that you know, this was
not a pleasant thing.
And
Well,
one other thing I want to mention while defining this
shyness and modesty. Of course, we have before I mentioned that we have a hadith about the prophesies them saying about postman in the fern. Yeah, that is a Sahabi, whom even the angels feet and because of his shyness, and modestly even the angels feel shy when he's
showing his beautiful character and his modesty and shyness that have automatically our fan, which is famous.
And he's known by the title of the one who was
so shy and so modest, and ideological. And now
another term that
Allah mentioned, to differentiate our hire from is hudgell.
hudgell means to be embarrassed, or to be bashful.
You could say that it has an element of higher in it. Yeah, basketball because it gives the idea of being shy. Yeah.
Many people and many scholars will say hudgell is a negative thing, because it means it's the state's not late with being modest and shy before Allah or having a sense of shame. But this state to be extremely embarrassed and bashful all the time is a sign of weakness or cowardice. Cowardice is like somebody being scared to speak, somebody who feels they've got some deficiency in them, they always feel they've got an inferiority complex and therefore they won't go out too much, you know, or they won't speak in front of people, they will ask a question. Yeah, all that they say are negative signs of Hadoop. Yeah. Extreme bashfulness.
I think generally that can be said but hudgell I believe is not all negative. It does have an element in it of L higher of shyness. Yeah.
But it can, it can lead to negative view whereas our higher we have a hadith in, reported by mumble hurry.
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or the Allahu Anhu ma Miranda be? Miranda bu salaallah Salam, the prophets as time passed by Allah Raju, a person. Whoa, are you at Phil higher? And he was
and monitoring someone else about modesty? Yeah. And China's
your code in NACA, let us start. He was saying you are very shy. Yeah. Heart attack and know who you are all of the above robic
Nilmar saying it seemed as though he was telling him off for being shy and because it's going to harm you. The shyness? Yeah. Whereas in the authentic elite if we have the most shy and modest person was not at their fan. So it's obviously not a negative but this Sahabi at the time of the promise, I was telling another one off for being too shy. However, the prophesised passed by and then the Messenger SAW some spoke up and said that who for in the higher middle Eman? Yeah, and in one version, he said l higher or ley de la vie five.
What was said Leave him alone.
For Hire modesty is part of faith.
Another statement in Behati Muslim process I've said that higher or modesty and shyness
doesn't come except with good it's it's always comes with good. And that allows still for exceptions. Okay. Despite the prophesy some saying that.
And let me come to the exceptions before I add a few more things aren't the idea of higher and its relevance to us today what exactly it does mean to some people do misunderstand this.
There are two ways and
that higher or hudgell of being bashful, is probably linked more with that. That can lead to negative situation. One
when someone has
As fear of people, yeah.
Fear of people that some people say that's shyness, but actually, it's not shyness and modesty. It's more to do with hijab, as I mentioned before, which is more to do with cowardice and fear of speaking the truth. Yeah, because you're afraid of the people that you're going to speak in front of. So that is not higher. Yeah.
That is not higher. And I'll explain further because higher doesn't lead to weakness. That's not the idea. And I'll explain it further later.
Mom's on a bozo medicines along with the beef which is in Amman and Timothy which is not authentic.
And in that hadith, which is made from say, and we say the humbly saying that the province is isolated said, Hola, la Yumna and Maryland. Hey, bud. Hey, Batali. Nas, haber to NAS and your whole the hack is a Aluma. Yeah. So you say clearly saying that.
That don't that a person
shouldn't be prevented because of the fear of human beings in speaking the truth. If he or she knows that truth. Yeah. And then I will say it starts crying in this week are the same for by Allah, we've seen things. And we've been afraid of the rulers. Yeah. Kira are cruel rulers in our time, and we get to speak and say something. But anyway, this is not authentic this hadith. So Nevertheless, the idea is correct. Yeah. At higher
is not is not linked with this.
A second thing is I'll hire the exception where it can be negative. Yeah.
Is preventing from learning. Yeah. And I think, because my Javed who's a student of the lovely Abbas, the famous professor of the Quran,
from the tap in
mumbles party mentions that Mujahid said, lie Yatta Allah Mala Al Mustafa again, while I was stuck going to people will not yet learn knowledge properly he means to people cannot learn knowledge. The one who is to shy and the one who is arrogant.
The one who is too shy because they're not going to clarify things because they're too shy to ask questions. And the one is arrogant. Because as ignorant as they might be, the arrogance stops asking and inquiring or even learning because I think they know it all. You know, we say Mr. Naito. Yeah. Those are the kinds of people who are in danger of not really learning. And in contrast to that you see in Buhari in Abu Dhabi. The famous statement of money and I said earlier are unhappy Paul. Now I'm only sad Lisa will answer
the most blessing women are the women of the unsolved let me accom young ma Hoon young metal whom they'll hire
their modesty and shyness did not prevent them. And yes, Elena and it been
in asking about religion while yatta
yatta benefi and in understanding it Yeah. Their shyness didn't prevent them. And now we have an example of that. In the Hadith in Bobby Jah from slain
Yeah. Who's the mother of others? Yeah. Um, slain came to the Messenger of Allah suelen Isola last time for Talat Yaroslav. And she said O Messenger of Allah. In Allah Allah Yes, thank you mean. Surely Allah is not shy from the truth. Meaning not shy for us asking about the truths for how lol
Illuminati mean hustling either external it is the boss for a woman when she has a wet discharge, meaning a sexual discharge of course it's talking about
Yeah, either. If tellement
it that limit from Akela
are gonna be yourself some meaning when she has an * basically that's what it's really saying. All
Besides some sort of Mass General prophesy, Salam said, Eva, Salma if she sees the liquid from it, for what Salallahu
Salam tacony? Whatever. Yeah.
We'll call it. Then. It says on selama Yeah. covered her face. Yeah. How to shine this because she wants to ask something even more. She says Alcala, Yara Sula, a messenger of Allah.
Our definitely will Morocco. Does a woman have an *?
All anon. prophesies don't seem to look at the kind of questions the women are asking prophesized. That's why I scepter phase and the previously I mentioned Yeah, there Shane has been preventing them to ask about the dean and yeah. And if they're going to be all the same, they're never going to ask them these questions will not be there for answered for them because it concerns them. And they are the kind of saw on what he's saying about the beat and the women of the answer, because she would not imagine the people or women of Maccha ever asking questions like that. There's a cultural difference between them.
So does a woman even have an *? He said, Yes, Tony, but Yameen meaning you don't even realize that
Fatima used to be who? Who have one or two? Ha?
Yeah, you should be who? How? Well, well, how else do you think that he's saying?
Does is a child born meaning there's an element from her not just in the *, but in the
reproductive side? He's talking about the egg and the ovum. How else do you think? Yeah, so he relates it with that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam. Now.
These are the kinds of things that have been mentioned by
with some clarifications by myself.
What is alpha, we've already been discussing it let me clarify further, contrary to what many people think. modesty and shyness is not the realm of females only, like many people in our Muslim community think many men in our Muslim who think shyness is just linked with women.
And there's no, there's no such thing as shyness for men, the more shy the process of talking about the Thada saying he was the most more shy than a virgin girl who used to get keep away. Stay in a room. Yeah. And it was kind of already mentioned, and the the ones will be so this idea of modesty and shyness, which begins with shyness before Allah. Yeah.
And, and then shyness, of course, in society and people is the realm of male and female. Yeah, it can be exhibited in different ways. But it means both
shyness and modesty, from both. And
it is to do with behavior.
Many people think China's modesty is just in the dress.
It's part of it is dress, but it's much more than that more comprehensive is to do with how we behave. Yeah, our speech and our behavior, our manners. Much more about how Yeah, then, is the dress actually,
nevermind our
behavior,
the sayings and doings but I'll hire for male and female. Its first part is to do with before Allah subhanaw taala. Yeah. And therefore it is about in Word and behavior. Yes, staying away from Maxia from that which is sinful for us having to do that, yeah. That's not believers. Of course. That's for believers.
That is higher. And that's of course, for believers who are male and female. That's not we don't say it's only for the females that they should avoid sinning because of hierarchy, we modesty and shyness before God is for male and female.
So
in regards to this
is something which is more and more pertinent in the in a time where impertinence is widespread, and I choose my word on purpose.
Here is more and more pertinent, yet in a society where it
impertinence and yeah, shamelessness is that which is circulating all around? Yeah.
And especially in the world that we live in today of social media of tick tock of Instagram. Yeah, of
course,
call them.
Instantly taking photos of WhatsApp and everything that comes with it. It's not about taking the photo, nobody's saying just taking a photo of yourself a selfie, suddenly, you become shameless. Now, that's not the idea is, you know what I'm talking about deeper than that. And people are able, in fact, today's social media of Tiktok, and Instagram and everything else on an instant, as allowed male and females to be in their own bedrooms young, or wherever they may be, may be living in a more distant good family to send out videos and photos, which are shameless. Yeah. Because it's done in front of a camera thinking it's just the screen, right?
Yeah. And that's, it goes out to 1000s. And the world can see all over the place. Yeah. And if they were asked you to do it with all those people sitting in a hole in an audience, yeah, wouldn't be the same. Wouldn't be the same meaning would it be easy for them to do as it is with the social media? No, it wouldn't be Actually, it'd be much more difficult because of that sense of natural shame. That is that and a sense of society and upbringing, shame and religious shame. But it's easy for that shame. Yeah. To be thrown away, because you're just facing a camera screen or a telephone. And anything goes. Yeah. So that's a big danger. This is checked on playing the role of making
society more and more seamless.
And therefore, the idea of higher and
having a sense of modesty and shame, as being demoted and actually being described, and seen by many as negative, because they mix up modesty and shyness with weakness, which was to do with cudgel. Yeah, somebody's being cowardice and weakened. Yeah, but modesty, and shyness does not equal weakness.
Modesty, and shyness means you stand your ground and speak in front of a tyrant. And you speak the truth. Yeah. Because you have modesty and shyness before Allah, that you're going to speak the truth. So modesty, and shyness actually gives you confidence not makes you weak people. People make that up. And therefore, when they're mixed up. Yeah. They have perpetuated in schools and in universities, and then society, this idea that the confident person instead of the weak one is the one with a loud mouse. Yeah, even if it's got foul words coming out of it, the louder you are laughed out loud in front of everybody talk loud in front of everybody. Yeah. And then also even
dress and wear makeup loud, which is to attract everybody's attention. Yeah, this is a very confident person. She's isn't cheap. Isn't she? brave and courageous? Isn't he brave and courageous? Just for having a big mouth and nasty words. That's not That's not confidence. That's your shamelessness. Yeah, and this is the kind of thing that it's all been mixed up with. And perhaps because we've misunderstood I'll hire doesn't mean that you become timid like sheep and let people walk all over you. I will hire doesn't mean that somebody is prevents you from doing good or prevents you from your salah or your religion that you just timidly walk away like a mouse that is
not on hire, that is just cowardice.
I'll hire if we really understand it is it gives instant confidence because we give priority as we do for Immanuel Allah. We give priority to having that higher before Allah subhanho wa Taala before anybody else, whatever people think, yeah, wherever people think as long as we are not doing maths you have seen before Allah, then it gives that confidence of
so that's very important understand. The other thing
is that people reduce to L higher to
some superficialities. Yeah
and
I'm going to make some firstly the female
that now now the believed was the idea. We reduce shyness and higher to just putting a scarf on the head
that has its problems to reduce. And this topic I've talked about in my lectures on Islam and hijab,
etc. And there's they're available for a five long session I don't intend to open the whole topic over. But
the idea of modesty and shyness wasn't just to do with discuss more than that it was to do with how we talk how we our mannerisms, yeah, what we talk about. Yeah.
Too many times, I witness, girls, young ladies with a scarf on the head. And I've heard the most foul list of language and inappropriate conversation where I've overheard going on Yeah, loud as well. Yeah.
Which is the height of shamelessness not having, so they haven't really understood what this idea of modesty in Islam is. Yep.
And, on the other hand, also.
And that's, that has many, many reasons to do with her beyond understanding here. And it's a problem for our community, not just for the parents of that particular girl, etc. But for society and Imams as well, and how they've perpetuate this idea, and often to the extreme that they reduced a woman and a girl, her her Islam just to the scarf, that's it. And if somebody is not wearing a scarf, they may be modest, they may be praying five times a day, may be a very good woman who's done on ramp into hands fast in Ramadan is after quite a lot. Some have gone as far as even calling such women prostitutes, just because they didn't wear stuff on the head. And that's kind of indecency from the
people who make those kinds of statements, I would say. Now, on the other hand, we also have this
male chauvinism in our community of the thick that the the sense of modesty dress and behavior is only to be applied to female again.
So the guys and one of the reasons why good girls are sitting around in their 30s and 40s not married is because they can't find a decent guy who's got any idea because they think the lads, we can do anything, we can swell a friend and take the center take drugs be you know, mess about with girls left and center. But when I want to get married now looking for a modest girl. Yeah. What happened to your modesty and in modesty and shamelessness? Yeah.
So this idea and and even the dress sense, their thing, they can do whatever they want, but the woman has to be dressed in a particular way. Well, that's not the one we're going to mess about with this, the woman didn't want to perhaps settle down with she has to be like that, but normally going to mess about with the
problem with a dressing the way she's doing, and behaving the way she's doing beyond that as well. But the idea of you know, the
so so this this idea of is prevalent because of what I said earlier, that is because they think hey, yeah, and modesty. Yeah. And shyness is only for the females, not for the males. Yeah.
So
this is also in itself, causing problems caused problems and continue to be perpetuated.
And it's still prevalent, perhaps more so than ever in the past.
Yeah, I think that's all I want to say.
On this, suffice it to say that you can see why my mum we included this hadith. And I, in a sense, I agree with him because obviously as I'm making
higher as a part of Eman and then that's why mom nobody is saying that
the whole of Islam really revolves around this
idea of higher finally, I just remember the last comment on to me,
and this is the nature of the fitrah under laws of Allah subhanaw taala just like if you sin
and don't do Toba trying to mend your ways. Yeah, a black spot prophesized from appears and if you send more you carry on sending what happens more and more black spots appear and they go
together and your heart becomes hardened. How you behave similarly, if you behave shamelessly
without being told that
and without the the volition to change, then you carry on doing more shameless, than you become shameless. To the extent that you don't even realize that you are being shameless. Isn't that sovereign sisters? Yeah. So little by little shutdown takes a complete hold of people. That and that's what happens to human beings actually, aside from the believers or otherwise, yeah. When a man or a woman and what's prevalent in the society of course, which is the selling women, they start taking the clothes off, they take a little bit. Yeah, the clothes gets shorter and shorter. Yeah. And they get used to it. There's no shame then wearing a minister once you start wearing it. And
then those who take the clothes off completely. Yeah, they may start start off because of the fitrah and nature shy, they all do. It's, it's, they all do. But when they keep doing it, yeah. All that disappears.
They just do it as like, it becomes like second nature. And this is the dangerous thing with with with sin itself, including this idea of shamelessness. And that's why it will take him actually when I was thinking about this it said similarly interestingly, students have given me a schedule a person commit sin is Hey, our lessons and this is before Allah subhanaw taala more and more seem to do their HIA gets less and less until it becomes non existent. Yeah. And people even start bragging about it through.
People actually start bragging about you and why use that from the soul stars appear on the shows and things that people are bragging about. They've done this and done that. Yeah. Which is when really you've gone to the pits of shamelessness, the bottom and marble thorium we'll finish with this the progress as salam said
good luck my team will Alpha ELO Marja here to beam all of my Alma will be pardoned and forgiven except those who expose their sins openly. We're in nominal Bucha Hora and part of that exposing is and yarmulke Raju person. And yet the mullah regime will be labeled MLM for us we hope that a person does by night a deed meaning a bad deed. Then by the morning, then comes a morning walk on Saturday hula hula Lee and Allah had put the cover on that same for that person. Yeah, in the debate in hiding for your call yet the person says or song so I did yesterday such and such on such and such. Yeah.
What are the birthday yesterday? Who? Whereas Yeah, he had covered it by doing it in darkness the night before?
Sorry that his Lord had covered him. Yeah.
covered him.
So he's exposing it himself. Well used to be who UFC for? Sipping Allah He angle? Yeah, yeah, in the morning. He's taking the cover that Allah put on him, he or she and exposing it openly. Yeah, this is the prophesy slum, saying Allah we're not part of these people because they are actually bragging about their sin and evil and modesty and shamelessness. May Allah save us from that?
Well, that one little humble elected Abila let me any questions on systems
unbelievably, we've done one in one session
I'm almost disappointed that we've only done it in one session. So expecting and shallots and more commentary from you.
There's only there's only four words of life are there these
deep Mashallah. And he went into amazing that span. I'm always amazed by the wonderful words of the prophets. I
just want to ask you, I think it wasn't a context for the Hadith, because when it was reported, it's just I think it's directly wasn't it rather than perhaps, when it occurred? Was that significant? Or perhaps not, not this studies, not misplaced or not? That's why they say what was it this way? Was it that way? You know, how can we take them? I mean, some of them have context. The other Hadith I gave you, for example, the two who were one was telling the other one off about being too shy and those mindsets that has the context this one no, this
comes as it is okay
thank you I know the report brings any other context to it
as if
you were looking for a sub who were rude as they say for the Hadith the situation have it coming no we don't have
any and look at the the contents of it it doesn't require it
it's quite explanatory as it stands good seats to major principle like that's why I was saying I'll hire someone we know that you man but he's a piece of brand savvy manual hey it's such a core value
awesome any other questions
just off the back of what you just said it was so branch up man and obviously that the highest is belief in Allah subhanaw taala and lowest is removing a harmful object from the path was it stated whereabouts on that scale? No, this was
part of it. Meaning it's very
the fact that he mentioned it specifically shows you it's very important right? And you didn't miss it all the other branches true Malala olive salon sort of factory mentions it shows you how serious and important it is
just
like
any other questions
Nope. Everybody all right that
So
brothers and sisters will do the next release.
Next time inshallah if you have no more questions on this one
yeah, what's the date next week? The
15 1515 Yeah, yeah, so next week salon tonight I think we'll be stopping in some
Alright, suffer? Yes. No written questions that I'm avoiding. No
I noticed that there's somebody else in Manchester doing a 40 Hadith course.
There was something speculated. But
I
forgot the name of the person doing it. But I think it's short presentations.
May Allah help us and accept from us, forgive us and give us benefit?
Anything good I said was with a top fake from Allah subhanaw taala and the mistakes are mine and from Shaytaan.
May Allah forgive me for that? Because
that one in light of Billa mean Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.
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