The Women Around the Messenger SAW – Episode 08

alameen wa sallahu wa salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa ala with brothers and sisters in Islam. Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

Thank you so much for joining us this episode of our series, the blizzard women around the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And last week we're talking about a mother soda. And we had mentioned the issue of a job relating to her. But before we speak about him to continue on last week, still number of questions that did come through the WhatsApp line, and you are welcome to send us any questions that you have either WhatsApp line, or you can mail me even directly with [email protected] for any comments or questions that you might have. So the first question that I want to talk about, actually the question that my grandmother, I was panatela, preserver grant, good

health and long life and for all of us, our patrons, as well as listening. She wanted to know with regards to the four sacred months, or the four months that are Haram in the sight of plus panel data, which are those four months, and what do those four months entail? So if we look at the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala mentioned that before he created creation, basically, or when time itself was created, a law had designated had decreed that time will be divided into 12 months. So Los Angeles is in the short in the light, if natural shahara that is really the number of months with a law is that they are 12 months. And this is the way basically the universe has been designed by last panel

data. And it's amazing to look at if we compare the different calendars of the world, the lunar calendar from an Islamic perspective, the Gregorian calendar, the Chinese calendar, the Zodiac calendar, you'd find that the months most of the time, or 12, even ancient civilizations, the calendar would be a 12 month cycle. And this is a remnant of the of the Divine religion of Allah subhanaw taala that predated mankind This is how it was even before humanity. So Allah Subhana Allah tells us that the months that are with him are 12 in number four of them home, four of them are sacred who have been sanctified. What does this mean which four months, and I'm sure if I were to

ask you a means of a quiz, you know, list the four holiest or the most sacred months of the year, many of us might actually get it wrong. Because first in our mind, we would say Ramadan, we assume that Ramadan is one of the four sacred months, we in fact, it's not the full secret of months off, you have the character, the al Qaeda, which is the 11th month of the year. Then you have the ledger, which is the 12th month of the year and the month we are currently in the ledger, month number 12. And Haram, which is the month the first month to month 1112. And one they are together, they are sacred. And then you have Rajab, which is the seventh month of the Islamic year, Raja, two months

basically before Ramadan. Raja is these are the the fourth of the four sacred months. Now what does it mean? What are these four sacred months entail? These four months are sacred and in that warfare are not permissible in these four months. It is how Allah says Kavita, it is a, it's a it's an abomination for us to wage war in these four sacred months. And why Why is it such because these are the four months of Hajj and Amara, obviously, the month of Hajj, the hedger the month before it in the month of the Haram. These are the months in which the pilgrims are moving, people are flying into Mecca coming into Makkah traveling from all over the world, and then they leave of the Hajj and

travel and in the back in the day. Obviously this was many, many months journey. So as a way of sanctifying, the Hudson River is to say for these four months, though, there will be no fighting. There'll be no blocking of the roads who judge the pilgrims can move through different territories free without any without any without being harmed. So in the past, they would come to the months of Hajj and the Roger could sort of be a month of O'Meara and people who travel feeling and perform the ombre and they could leave and Alhamdulillah Allah has ratified Allah has confirmed this this was done even before the coming of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam this was the the law of the Arabs and

Allah has confirmed that these four months remain sacred in terms of holiness. Of course we know that the month of Ramadan in terms of rewarding and prestige month of Ramadan, there is no month quite like the month of Ramadan. Yet it is not part of the four sacred months we are fighting it is haram. Then back to our questions on on hijab. So we spoke about the the rulings with regards to a woman covering her hair. We spoke about the ayat of the Quran which tells women that they should she should pull her headscarf from her head all the way down to a chest and she should wrap the South cover around her body her g bB. So from this if we were to say what should a sister we what is what

is what is the uniform in inverted commas of the sister and simile of the mean. So for sisters, for for her in front of Nan Mohammed in front of main which he has which are strangers to her, then she should cover herself and

All of us should be covered. Except for I mean, what's permissible not to be covered is a face and a hands. And there's some difference of opinion with regards to the feet, finding the Hanafi madhhab feet are not part of the hour, in the animal guide feet are regarded as part of our law. And you find that this is even mentioned in cinema, the wife of the prophets, Allah we will discuss when we get to her, when the laws with regards to his ban, the prophet peace be upon him said for the men, that they should raise the pens above the ankles on Salama asked, Well, what about the women and the promises for them said no for the woman, she should have her him down below her ankles. And in fact,

a handstand should even be further him should be quite long to prevent her legs or feet being exposed when she walks. So for the sister, she basically covers in front of non Muslim men, and in Salah Oliver, and she's permitted here and this difference of opinion with because to a hands face and feet, as with regards to her overall what she should cover in front of, of non Muharram

men that she had fathers and brothers and uncles and sons and so on and so forth, then from her chest, to her knees, this area needs to be covered. So women obviously cannot walk with anything exposed from her chest, down to her knees, or private parts, those kind of areas should should not be exposed even to find a woman. And I find sometimes that this is something that sisters, perhaps a bit laxed, that they will change in front of one another, we may even mean finally go to gym, and they they undressed in front of one another is not permissible even between members have the same the same sex. As for her husband, of course, there is no, there is no odor between a husband and a

wife, of course, whatever may be seen by a husband, and all of him may be seen by his wife. And this is not only permissible, but is in fact encouraged for husband and wife, you know, to be to be, you know, open and to enjoy each other. And we'll find this as we go through our series, when we look at the intimacy of the prophets of Salaam had with his wives, that there was no distance between husband and wife as part of being part of being married, in terms of the clothing that she should wear, the clothing should not be so tight fitting, that in reality of form is suppose Nashi and it should be loose enough that when she walks her, the parts of her body should not be exposed, it

should also not be transparent or translucent in such a way that one can basically see through it, especially in bright light. further restrictions is that a woman, both a woman and a man, there are certain items of clothing, which should not be which are haram to be worn, if it is if it's gender specific. So certain items of clothing Are you know, unisex or gender neutral. And both a man and a woman could wait. But there are certain items of clothing that are really only for women, and they are items of clothing that are really only for men. And this should not be mixed. A woman should not wear clothing only for men, for example, a turban

This is perhaps not a turban, that mainly a goofy face, as we call it perhaps isn't something a woman shouldn't be wearing that. And similarly, a mention of being a female, a buyer, whatever it might be, also both for men and women, it is impermissible for Muslims to weigh the clothing that is synonymous the religious clothing of other religions or even cultures which are not part of an Islamic culture, which is it goes against Islamic ethos clothing, which is you know, for example, crucifix cannot be a crucifix. Why? Because this is something synonymous with Christianity. It cannot wait a Nazi uniform, right? Besides for being illegal. This is synonymous with something

quite, quite evil, it's quite it's symbolic of something which is anti Islamic. So this is clothing that we have as Muslims are not allowed to wait. Furthermore, there are certain types of clothes in terms of materials that are not permissible to be worn in here for example, we will meet in particular men cannot wait so clothing, women may wasteful clothing, but for me, you're not allowed to wait so clothing. And lastly, you also as a man and a woman, you cannot wait clothing. That is as we call the Bossa Shara clothing that is really inappropriate clothing that is and in the space is distasteful in a certain environment with a certain certain cultural custom. So perhaps in a certain

culture in a certain environment with a certain color that might not be that may be seen as unacceptable, culturally unacceptable. We should not be clothing like this that upsets the culture not that it is haram or anything wrong with it. But it is perhaps something which we should try and avoid. For example, I joke that if someone walks into the masjid wearing a Batman outfit, nothing wrong communist His body is completely covered. In fact, he's wearing a hijab because he's wearing a mask. So this this clothing, of course, would would be something laughable and it would make you know, it would seem it is silly, and therefore it's not permissible. You find in the Hadith, it's

mentioned you shouldn't be walking around with one shoe or one sock. What's wrong with wearing one sock? Well, it obviously creates it's something you know, it's not appropriate in the environment or the society that you're in. So therefore, these kind of clothing should be avoided. And this is in summary, what the clothing attire should be for but for a Muslim man

A woman for a Muslim and miseries in all cases, besides with his wife is from his navel until he's below his knee. This should be covered at all times, getting back to our mother so that

as we said she was with the prophets of Salaam and she performed the hegira with him. And she was the chief and basically for the next five years after the death of Khadija she was his only wife. The prophets also lived in this period while he was married to soda. He got engaged to Ayesha or the head Annika. And but she did not live with him immediately. And now next lecture, we'll talk about Ayesha, we'll talk about her age. But there was a period of time when soda and Ayesha were the only two wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and they existed between them a very strange, unique, beautiful relationship. Even though these two women were completely different. You couldn't they

were not two wives that were completely opposites than soda and Ayesha. So that is the oldest wife of the Prophet Salaam, I, She's the youngest wife. So that is very domesticated. Ayesha isn't domesticated. So that is not so

you know, not so, so deeply involved in learning and discussing fatawa. And involving herself in debates and in politics. Ayesha is very, very involved in these kind of things. So the two of them are completely different, yet they exist. It's such a great love between them. Of all the wives, as we say that I share found in soda, a woman that she admired the most. In fact, she said of all the women, if I could aspire to be anyone like anyone, it would be soda. And the two of them had a had a lovely interaction, some moments in the lives together. We see that Ayesha, for example, she mentions that she herself was not very domesticated. She wasn't very good in the kitchen. She could

do many great things. She could memorize Hadith, and she could give speeches, she could lead an army, but ask her to make a you know, a bottle Breanna and then you know, the world comes to an end, where so that was, you know, the expert in the kitchen. So so they had trained Ayesha, how to cook. And one day, I should decide, you know, I'd like to cook a pot of food, make some food, and she invited the prophets or lamb and soda to join her. So the two of them, they come and they have this meal. And I should have made this food which was like a BD or something like with a gravy in it. And she presents the food and she's all proud and excited that she knows you've been busy all day. And

when the profitsystem looks at the food and soda, it looks at the food. I shall go ahead Bismillah eat. And so the sheikh said, No, the food is completely ruined, it's a mess. And I shall insist up to eat this food. And if you don't, you're going to see what I'm going to do. And so this is no I'm not going to eat that. So I shall see if you're not going to eat it. Then I'm going to put the food in your face. And so that persists. You won't eat so I should actually take a handful of offers BD is gravy, and she smears it on sodas face. So that looks at the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and she's as if to say Yasuda LA, are you allowing her to do this to me. So the Prophet son picks up the

plate, and it gives it to soda. And he says, Now put some in her face. And so the throws I share with some food, and they have a food fight. So behind Allah, we find this amazing story in the life of the Prophet of Allah, that he actually had a food fight with his wives and they're laughing. And just as you know, they throwing food around, they hear the voice of Satan normally approaches the house and the Prophet says go up, go and watch your faces. Go and watch your faces. The only one will see you like this. Once it's iterative, that the Prophet peace upon him comes home. And again, the imagined soda is like more than 50 years older than he, he comes home. And he finds soda in the

corner shaking and she's, you know, covering herself and She's shaking and she skied and the profit sister soda soda. What's wrong? Why Why are you like this? So she says, Aisha has been skiing all day. He's telling me scary stories about the journal and these kind of things. And, you know, I'm quite scared. So the probability on smiles and he takes a hand and he says, No, no, there's nothing for you to worry about. Everything is fine. This is a controversial story with regards to soda. And two story Oh, it's an event that we find within our shadow. Finally, in the books of history. It's mentioned in some books of history written by Muslim historians that as soda became old, she feared

that the Prophet peace upon him with devotion, that after the Prophet had married Ayesha and you'd marry have signed more and more and the other lives. So that was the oldest one. And she felt the way these books narrate the story that the Prophet peace upon him was considering divorcing her. Because you know, and this is a story which you find quoted very commonly, by islamophobes, those who wish to tarnish the reputation of Salaam, they would say, you see, as the Prophet when he needed her, he so that was good for him in his difficult time of Khadija, but as he married younger and more beautiful women, now she became a liability, because the Prophet peace upon him he made it

compulsory on himself to visit all these wives equally, and now he had to give one of his days to soda. So this is what you find narrated about this event. But all the the quick view and if we look at the authentic sources, from the

Quran and Sunnah. So Allah subhanaw taala mentioned Sudanese and if you are believing men, and rather and if a woman fears from a husband, contempt or evasion she feels that he would harm her. There is no sin upon them if they make terms of settlement between them, and settlement is based and presented in the hearts of mankind distinctness but if you do good and feel a love and indeed a lot of people with what you do acquainted, so Allah subhanaw taala is saying that husband and wife, husbands and wives, you can determine how you'd love to how you'd like to live with one another. And perhaps in the case of multiple marriages, this makes more sense. You can determine do I want to

spend three days with Ayesha and four days we'll have saw how much of my money is gonna be distributed, this is something which must be mutually agreed upon. And Allah subhanaw taala says, There is no nothing wrong with the husband and wife in making an agreement, which is good. And then Allah says that settlement is based, it's always good to be well suited to hire, it's always good to have something which is agreed upon mutually. And then unless it's an emphasis show, but inside mankind's heart is always stinginess, husbands will always try to get one above the wives, wives will always look to get one more on their husbands are always saying give more than what is required

of you, and take less of what of your demands. So getting back to the issue of soda, and Ayesha. So, as the story goes, soda fears that the Prophet peace one would divorce her. So she comes to the Prophet salon, which is quite in panic. And she sits on the side of the road, basically in tears, and she says, yaroslava don't divorce, we don't divorce me or other kids, me as your wife, but give my rights to Ayesha, you can visit Ayesha on my day. So you don't have to visit me, you want to spend time with I should spend time with her, but keep me as a wife and the Prophet against us. This is what it says in these books. Or if you look at the the stories of the in terms of the Hadith

books, which are more authentic. And you find in Bali, for example, very different story, the prophet peace be upon him never had any intention of ever divorcing Sodor. And in fact, his entire life, his entire life, he would distribute his time, and his money freely amongst all these wives. So you would have a habit custom, where every day he would pop in and visit each one of his wives. And he did this in order, in terms of agents hitting it, he would visit all of them, and he would have been the youngest, you'd always be visited last. And then he would sometimes have a meal with all these wives together, supper with him. And then he would spend the night in the wife, whichever

attorney will also tonight have sustained, you would spend the night in our house tomorrow using solid muscles. And he would have this would be his cycle and his routine. And he would maintain this as much as he could until he was too ill to move around. And the Prophet peace upon him literally might do our sr, Allah, I have been feeling in terms of my distribution of time and money. And that which is in my control. So be yellow, don't hold me to account in things I don't have any control about sometimes, you know, I show makes me laugh. Sometimes I'm upset would have saw my moods change. So don't hold me to account in those things. So I should tell us that when the Prophet peace

upon him would go on a journey, he would take one of his wives with him. And he would give, they would throw a lot so they would pull stores and no one would get the store. She would win now. So they're being really old. Being in a 60s, she wasn't very keen on these kind of journeys. It became a strenuous thing for her. It wasn't exciting to go out on a campaign in a battle, it was very excited to go out, you know, with the professor, even it was Jihad she was very happy to go with, and suddenly the other wives but for so that this became burdensome. Also, she felt that she no longer had any physical need. So she was not interested in intimacy anymore. So I should say,

whenever the apostle the Messenger of Allah wanted to go on a journey, he would throw lots as to which of his wives would accompany him, and he will take whatever name came out. And he used to fix for each of them a day and a night. But so that gave up her day and night to the to Ayesha, in order to seek the pleasure of the Prophet Sunnah. So so that comes to the prom, Solomon says, jasola, you have many wives. And I see that you visit each and every one of them. I physically don't need you to visit me every night. And I don't even want to go on these journeys with you. If my name gets out of that. I'm not really it's actually burdensome for me. So rather, you can take my nights, and you can

take my day. And you can give it to Ayesha, she didn't give it to the elements. You can do whatever you want. I want to have it. So she specifically gifted her day to Russia. And the prophets also accepted this from soda. And he of course very happy because she got twice her turn. But even such you'd find that the professor lamb had made ashes house and sodas house basically being interleading they live basically almost in the same house. So he would visit both of them at the same time. And that's what we that's what I should say is about soda. Never did I find any woman more loving to me than soda being disarmer I wish I could be exactly like her who was affectionate as she became old.

She had made over her day with Allah's Messenger to Ayesha and I have made over my day with you Ayesha, and she says I've done this to please Allah.

to please his messenger, so send them. So this is with regard some other soda, one of the last notes to mention about beautiful sweet, the prophets of Salaam says to his wives, you know, as he's about to die, that after he dies, the wife that would meet him first would be the wife with the longest hands. And it just kind of shows you when he passed away, there were nine women that he that he left behind, and they would get together regularly to have a hand measuring contest to see who would die first, and who would be first to meet him and they were excited. And so that would always win, because she physically was the biggest, she had the longest hands. And they always believed that so

that would be the one that dies first. So that's very happy. I'm going to die first and I'm going to meet the Prophet salam, I'll be with him. Of course, so that would not be the first to die. Another wife saying I've been to jack would die first. And we'll speak about how come and then they understood what the prophet meant by longest hands. It wasn't something physical. So so that would actually live about five, six years after the professor salon and she passes away. And I'm sitting home and she says of soda, that I should tell us that soda was so comfortable in our house, that she only performed Hajj once in a life of the Prophet salah and she remained in the house being

comfortable with a family that the mystic woman and she never ever desired going out any any any way after that. And she died in she had longevity she died in her 70s in the time say normal people homogenizes a lot upon her and she's buried in Buffy my Allah have mercy and blesses our mother sewed up in December. Tomorrow inshallah or rather in our next lecture, we will discuss a shell of your life. And this is a very controversial issue about how old was she or she's six years old and nine years old when the processor married her. How is this possible? We'll discuss that tomorrow inshallah in our next lecture, so sokola Assalamualaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh