Marriage – Deen Vs Culture Part 1

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Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari

Channel: Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari

Topics: Marriage

Episode Notes

Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam gives a talk on the importance of Marriage in Islam and the cultural influence that need to be squashed.

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hamdulillah I want to start you know on istockphoto on a Saturday when are all the way later either mysuru reenforcing only say Dr. Medina.

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especially brothers and sisters, instead of Molly Kumara. To bottle berkata

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hamdulillah today we have this event on marriage, what do you say why don't you marry?

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I'm going to try to make this informal just like a discussion rather than a very important lecture. I mean, normally I like to do lecture standing up, I just asked a brother for me to, you know, be fully focused, I need to stand up. And you know, we have a small gathering in Charlottesville just kind of discuss a few things connected to my topic.

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You can make it interactive if you want to. So it's more like a dose

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than a talk concerning the difference between a token and us.

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Like a classroom setting.

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The topic might have

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mentioned here but my topic is culture and deed.

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Actually, I did a whole talk on this topic once

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at a university a couple of years ago, titled Islam in a prison of culture.

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It's actually on the internet. On my website, the whole audio talk. Somebody this brother from Finland has actually put them all on YouTube, the audio is a convert brother Actually, I was just telling brother in law right now he's actually put so many of my talks on YouTube don't audio talks, but he just puts these pictures and you can have all the parts all audio. Then I we did some research on his brother. Some of the words told me that his brothers and Frederick was somethings playing songs. So we I told someone to email him, one of the brothers I said, email him find out he's got his own channel. And we came to know that he became Muslim in 2006.

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Okay,

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he became Muslim in two years. And Mashallah, really sincere brother.

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He's about 20, I think or 22, something like that. He became Muslim when he was 1817.

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And if you really look, Hanover, this brother how passionate he is about his deed, he's actually coming to England, he says he wants to come and see me. He's a hanafy.

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He calls himself a Sunni, Hanafi, whatever. And he did his own research on everything. Why he would. I mean, before he became a Muslim, he actually did research, why he you know why he should embrace and accept Islam.

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And this actually is very important because this shows the difference between someone who is actually a Muslim by choice.

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And somebody who is a Muslim by culture.

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Big difference. And this is a reason why we see that many times. In this day and age, we find

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that reverse brothers and sisters, those who come into the fold of Islam, those who embrace Islam, those who learn about Islam, they become far better Muslims than those who are already born in Muslim families like me. It's so culture, many of us, whatever cultural We are from whichever background, every community has cultural baggage. Whether it's the Indian subcontinent, India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, or African countries or the Arab world, every community has some cultural baggage which they confuse with Islam, which they confuse with Islam. I'm going to talk about certain topics just made a few notes.

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And that's why I was saying that many times when people who embrace Islam

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they study Islam, this brother, he actually said that 646 months before he became a Muslim, he he studied Islam, he read the book of Allah subhanaw taala. He studied the Quran from the beginning till end. There are Muslims who are born Muslims are there at and have not read the book of Omar. You know, there are people like that, not even in Arabic, you know, without understanding even that at least you should do, but as a Muslim

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I normally say we should at least try to understand you know, goes through some basic translation meaning of the book of Allah. These are the words of Allah for me and you Allah has said this book for the Muslims, not for the Christians or the Jews or the atheist, or some Hindus and Sikhs, this book is for us. If we spend the life of 70 6080 years, we don't even get time we have time to read every other book on the planet, and do every other thing. But if we don't have time, we don't have the time of the words of Allah. Imagine these are the direct words of Allah, our Lord and our Creator.

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Just imagine, you know, sometimes this we forget this, this goes over us. These are the words of Allah who Subhana who has data just imagine a laws words qalamoun law.

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Imagine you know when a law says the verb will follow. This is the speech column of a law no human being no words of the human being, yet we don't have time.

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These are you know, the cultural Muslims who are born in a Muslim family. These are people who they were just born Muslims, they're Muslims because they were born Muslims. Unfortunately, many of us are like that. We should ask ourselves the question why are we a Muslim?

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Have you ever asked yourself that question?

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You have Okay. Let me ask you, why are you Muslim?

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Okay, how did you come to that conclusion?

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Did you did you study that? Or did you come to realize that by studying certain things, handled very good myself

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and ask somebody else rather than Why are you Muslim?

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Study

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the truth?

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Good, good answers, which is good. But unfortunately we find many Muslims a large percentage of Muslims are Muslims by chance and accident. You know what I mean by accident, accident, parents.

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Just born in a Muslim family, born in a non Bangladeshi family, Pakistani family, Indian family, Somalian family, Arab family by by what by chance. And I've actually met brothers who actually have said this to me themselves, but we only Muslims because a Muslim family and they don't practice Islam. I mean, according to someone Oman, these people actually non Muslims.

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You know, there's a great book in Al Qaeda, called O'Hara to toe eight lines of poetry a great medical scholar called chef Ibrahim and Lacan. Yes, it's it's a very good book. It gets taught in many Arab countries. And that is Latin Portuguese is is good lumen palma de Vito Hedy Eman hula muslimeen cara de is good lumen another feito Hindi Eman hula micrometre de de every person who is a Muslim because of who you know, you must have heard of the word duck read everybody knows what that is for no matter. But this is in aqidah any human being who is who just read in acleda there is no reason either, which means you are a Muslim because someone else was a Muslim.

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Every individual who is a Muslim because someone else was a Muslim. Email hula mia luminor de his email is full of doubt.

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Email is not complete. If you're a Muslim, just because your parents are Muslims. Now the organization discussed this they've gone into detail. They've said the meaning of this point of al Qaeda.

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Meaning of of this point of appeal is that

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if somebody is a Muslim because his parents are Muslim, he was born in a Muslim family. Right. But now say this individual he is a Muslim because he was born in a Muslim family.

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He is a Muslim because he's born in a Muslim family. Is that okay? The sound