What Is Love

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari


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especially for others who are present here

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as well as those who are in Sharla the distinct online today's topic

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and title

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the subject that I want to talk and discuss with you in brief few moments in Sharla data

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is about love.

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Why are we talking about love?

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The title is what is love?

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Maybe lots of people have loved love programs in February. Yeah, what's the day to day?

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Do you know the date is

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13th of February. Tomorrow is 14th of February 2016.

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what's what's 14th of February?

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Valentine's Day

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not for Muslims. I'm saying generally Valentine's Day. I don't want to talk about

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the ruling or the discussion and the Islamic perspective on

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but what I want to do is talk about this subject of love.

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I hope you saw a lot of people understand this in Arabic love

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is termed us. Do you know Does anybody know what love is considered as in Arabic love is

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as well.

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What is it muhabba

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or olfa

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olfa is love muhabba is love?

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I want to explain to you and discuss the definition What is love

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mahalo muhabba olfa also Mauer another word in Arabic, describing love MOA de the Quran talks about

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love between husband and wife rajala Vina Kuma de la Allah subhana wa tada place between the husband and wife, Mauer love, Laura and mercy.

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But if I ask myself and you and just generally pose this question, what is love? That's the title of today's talk. What is love? And I'm not singing a song. What is love?

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If I ask somebody What is love?

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Anybody want in tune to volunteering to answer the question What is love?

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What is the

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bond between two people? Well, it's part of it slightly.

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Anyone else wants to say anything else? What is love?

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does love me

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you care for that person.

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does love mean like for husband and wife, spouses, you will be being you will be intimate with one another. does love mean that

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you have

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this care for someone

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because there's different types of love. It's not only husband wife, love we have husband wife love. You have brother sister family love, love for parents is different love for children is different. Love for other human beings and friends is different. What is the definition? What is love? You know, when people say I love this person, oh, I have love for my parents? Is it like you like you? You care for that? Or you will help that person you will be in the help and assistance of that individual? Or is it that it's someone you will give your life for

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your own son daughter is drowning and you save their life but kill yourself did not kill yourself and get yourself killed. you sacrifice your yourself for them. Is that

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That what love is

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because it's very it's an abstract word love.

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You won't you will you does love mean that if they need help, financial help assistance you will give them help and assistance. If all of these things are there, then in reality, if we say these things are not

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do we see today a brother How can financially another brother, real blood brother may do but then we find today in the world that these two brothers real life blood brothers, who are fighting over money

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over inheritance, people are shooting one another killing family members over inheritance. Husband wives spouses,

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they say we love one another until death do us part.

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They love one another.

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You know, when people get married and some of the young people I don't know if you're married or you just married in the beginning when marriage is taking place.

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Or he just before even marriage, I will give my life I will die for you. The same people after 12 years are going through a bitter battle in the court of divorce. fighting over money fighting over children who's got custody? The same people in the first week of marriage can't live without you. I'm going to die. You know, would you give your life for me? Of course I'll give my life for you. Would you die for me? Of course I'll die for it. Now you killing the other person.

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Is that love?

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That's not that's not love. Because love is something that can never decrease when somebody has love real love.

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Then you could never curl with that person. You could never fight with that person if it's real. You could never argue with that person. You could never have disputes and court battles and enmity.

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Parents are being oppressive over the children.

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With friends One moment, there's extreme friendship and love. There's a Hadith of the messengers that although it was in him actually said Habiba holdom acuna, believer, Kahuna love. When you love your beloved, love in moderation, take it easy, because one day he will become or she will become your enemy. What will be the Dalai Lama when you don't have a close relationship with someone?

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Take it easy. Don't be extremely near your enmity or don't be extreme in your disassociation. Because as an akuna Habiba, whoa, number, one day that person might become your beloved. When you're friends with someone, you're so close, you tell them all the secrets everything. And then a day might come, you might become enemies. So moderation.

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Therefore, what is love?

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In actual fact, real love is not found in this world with the creation with a loop of

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real love, even love for parents, love for children, love for your wife, love for your husband, not for your spouse, not for your family members, uncles, aunts, your teachers, your friends, your associates, your community members, your friends circle, there is no real love for the loop for the creation of

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this heart cannot have real love the real love not possible. Allah has given us this one heart. And this heart can only can solely can only have the love for the creator of the heart for Allah. That's only that's the only real love we can have in the heart. However, we as human beings do have feelings, and do have we do care for other people we do. Not just we do but we are supposed to care for our parents and for our spouses for our children, for our husband, for a wife we are but because the real love is only for a lot.

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Therefore, all of these friendships, all of this so called Love, secondary love for your husband, wife, parents, children. This love is based on the love of Allah is dependent on the love of Allah. It's subservient to the love of loss.

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Every love so called love in this world is based on the love of Allah. The connection bond has to be firmly with Allah. That's why you can't have real love in this dunya real friendship does not exist.

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real friendship brother does not

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exist in this world

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who is closest to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam from amongst the companions.

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So you do know about Casa de Cordova who is so close, someone who sacrificed when I said in the beginning, what is love? Is it loving? Is it caring for someone who is it financially helping? He did all of this, the first person to embrace Islam? He said, Amen. That was a Dubner. That's why he was in terms of Siddique, he couldn't he affirmed or the messenger sallallahu wasallam came with first person to believe. And not just that he believed he stayed on that belief. He stayed on I believe, all his life. He sacrificed he was tested. But he sacrificed for the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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All his life he financially helped him, physically cared for him.

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He defended him. We know the stories, what happened in our thought, you know, when they were

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migrating from Mecca to Medina, they went and we haven't been to the cave of thought on the mountain. He went in first, and he closed all the holes, blocked them. And there was one hole left he put his foot

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first he took some sheets and pieces of cloth and try to fill all the gaps. And when there was no sheet and cloth left with his foot, he closed the hole. And then we know the story.

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A snake or Scorpion, was it bitten? Snake bitten?

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Allah talks about that in the Quran is the akula sahibi.

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Allah talks about when they were in the cave, that when the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was saying to his companion, not his friend, his companion, that as a Nevada vocalist, do karate Allahu anhu would have given his life he financially helped everything you could do for a friend. The greatest example of friendship and love.

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Once you don't have to do karate, oh no, he says that, and the same

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journey of hegira he said, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was extremely hungry and thirsty. Many days. He said no, nothing to eat. So I went and got some milk.

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I went and got some milk, I found some milk, only enough for him to drink. And a worker said the per the Allahu anhu himself was extremely hungry and thirsty, hasn't eaten anything for many, many days.

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But he gave this milk to his beloved to the messenger sallallahu sallam.

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He gave it to the messenger sort of ohana himself. And he said when I saw him drink that milk, I became filled. What does that mean?

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him drinking is like me drinking. You know some people say you drink life. It's me drinking you eat I eat.

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This is how he said I saw him drink and I felt satiated, like filled filled.

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This was the extreme connection he had with a messenger sallallahu sallam. Yet the messenger sallallahu Sallam says in a hadith laocoon tomahto Keven hollyland the hook to abubaker in Salida.

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If I was to make anyone a friend

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in this world,

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I would have made a worker my friend of mine,

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Lakin, Asahi, Fredo Ma, but

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I am the friend of Allah. This is what he said.

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If I was to make anyone a friend, a worker would be my friend.

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But in this world, real friendship cannot be for anybody.

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This is why when there's a test, when there's a challenge,

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this is why love has to be love which is based on the love of Allah. How do we know it's based on the love of Allah? If there's a conflict between Allah command and and pleasing one's Beloved, so called Beloved.

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Then what do we do ls command comes before the

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the happiness of the Beloved.

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If your spouse, say something wants to do something, and you are disobeying Allah subhanaw taala, then of course, a loss of pleasure comes before this is the meaning of love based on the love of Allah. And this is what Islam teaches brothers and sisters, this is what Islam teaches. We have to try to make our hearts fully, totally completely D into the love of Allah subhanaw taala and then every love is based on that love. Every love is based on that. Love.

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messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in a hadith men have been in the heat of the lillahi wa

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mela Imani. Whoever loves por la dislikes for Allah gives for the sake of Allah will hold for the sake of Allah. He has indeed completed his faith.

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Loving for the sake of Allah, that's what you call real love. We love the messenger sallallahu anusandhan because we are loving because we love Allah and the reality of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his love for law. But all the other forms of love

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is love. For the sake of Allah, you love your wife, for the sake of Allah, you love your husband for the sake of Allah, you love your parents, because of law, you love your children because of your love other Muslims and family members of relatives for the sake of Allah, whoever you are loving, it's only and solely for the sake of Allah. It's all based on the love of our lives based on the commands of Allah, it's based on dependent on the, on the commands of Allah, the love of Allah, the connection of Allah, the deep, deep sort of relationship and connection and strong connection we have with Allah. I'm going to explain this to you. But how do we do that, but this is what this

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hadith is saying. Every love has to be based on the love of Allah. And you know what, when this happens in our life, then you will see that the friendship of the world, the love, secondary type of love of the world will actually last

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a husband and wife who are married, if they love one another because of a law, not not because they it's for themselves, because I said what is love In the beginning I asked Is it because is love, like you said, Bond, or you care for someone, or you want to financially help them or there's one other thing I forgot sometimes love is you're trying to please your own self, like there's a need in your heart. there's a there's a desire, there's a there's something missing in your heart that you want to feel that you're loving someone is for your own self. It's not for them, it's like, the heart needs to love something. So, you know, I'm feeling lonely, I'm feeling empty.

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You know, a lot of people say I feel lonely, I need to be in a relationship, because there's some emptiness vacuum in my heart. So that is really for yourself.

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Whatever it's for other reasons, for personal gratification, whenever the connection bond love is for personal gratification, or for other reasons other than the love of Allah, then most likely there's going to be problems in this love. There's it's not going to last. That's why people's marriages end. That's why divorce takes place. Because the loved one link marriage connection relationship was not built on the connection and the relationship of the last. That's why divorces take place. And this is why many of the early scholars said that look, have Taqwa in your life, build a connection with Allah. Consider marriage to be a bother if husband wives both have fear of a

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law and they are connected to a law they are close to a law they they worship a law, their whole lives are based on their connection with the Lord, then that marriage will be prosper, that marriage will remain forever because they are doing things for the sake of Allah.

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And that's why there's no many Hadith the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said in one Hadith, that the people who love for the sake of Allah, La hamana

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me new on the day of judgment that have puppets made out of light

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that have puppets, you have a Buddha who will not be you know, Shahada, the prophets and the martyrs will will, you know, be envious of them. There's a hadith that puts you at the message where Allah subhanaw taala says, that allows you to have buena Fujairah

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the people have Betty. Sorry, this is another virtue but Maha Betty realmuto have been a fee. My love ally sing my love

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is for those people who love one another for my sake. One with a jelly senior fee. They sit for my sake. While Mutasa verina fee they visit for my sake. In other words, loving sitting, meeting greeting, going for a generous prayer, visiting, going to a wedding, attending the wedding.

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attending the wedding. Why, for the sake of Allah? Why are you going to visit someone for the sake of Allah? You go into the hospital to some to see someone why for the sake of Allah not because Oh, you know what? He will say why? People will say why didn't you come?

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You know, we have all these wrong intentions. We give a hideous gift

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the gift

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No gift, the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah he was sent to her though to have

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exchange gifts you will increase in love.

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Now this will only happen increasing love, if there's a right intention, giving of the gift is for the sole reasons sake of pleasing Allah with a loss with sincerity even given gift. Nowadays what happens? Why do people give gifts? People will be exchanging gifts tomorrow, giving gifts. Why? People wedding times, why did they give gifts? Sometimes the reason is of giving gifts is because if we don't give gifts will have a bad name, bad reputation. People will take it bad. What will people say? It's just for showing off. Its first intention is for years to say no wedding time you came without no gift, like how can you not give a gift. There is no reward, there's actually sins. This

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gift is an act of sin.

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Anyone who gives a gift to show off anyone who gives a gift so that you know the other you know people don't talk bad about them negatively. That's a sin. It's haram to give that gift. Another bad intention is happens in marriages.

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You give a gift and this is even worse.

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You give a gift to the intention that when our time comes they'll give us a gift. This is actually mentioned the Quran

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in surah thermadata don't do favors on others don't give things to others with the intention that they will give you more afterwards. Another surah Allah considered this, he actually gave it the name Riba. What is Riba? interest? Yeah, we know interest banking interest, but the Quran says this is also River. Mama it to me in rebel Leah, Medina, Sephora Yorba Linda. Don't give gifts to people with the intention that when you turn time comes they'll give you more people make lists. That you know this person gave us this gift. This person gave us this gift this person gave it now it's our time Okay, we have to give them it's payback.

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This whole payment This is transaction. This is not a gift. This is a business dealing interest based dt. My wedding time you gave me this gift 300 pounds so we need to give you 305 this is interest that was part of those that Heba that was a loan.

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These are all haraam and low for customary culture, customary ways of giving a gift.

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Islam says Look,

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this is what we this is what the whole thing is about. Nia Nia has to be correct. The Gift has to be for the sake of Allah what is the intention? When you love someone what is the intention? This is the Hadith, though to have.

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When you give somebody a gift, the intention should be as follows. express your love for that person.

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and obtain the love for of the other for the sake of Allah.

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This is the intention

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when you give a gift to someone only and solely for the sake of Allah to express your love for the other person and to achieve and obtain and gain the love of the other person with yourself. Not centage.

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But it has to be for the sake of Allah sometimes give a gift the person doesn't need to know go to wedding sometimes and put an envelope without No Name one Muslim brother, one Muslim sister, your friend. Nobody knows for say you know and Allah knows. They don't need to know they don't even need to know who's given that gift. They don't have to write on the envelope from Mr. And Mrs.

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Whenever there's no need, nobody needs to know. It's for the sake of Allah reward isn't accurate. This is why we have so many problems in our life. family problems, relationship problems, divorce problems, marriage problems, husband wife problems, parents, children problems, brother sister problems everywhere, there's fights, clubs, disputes, you know what the main reason is, people have forgotten last insincerity and correct intention. every relationship is based on some other reason. The husband and the wife relationship. Islam says love for the sake of Allah, what does that mean love for the sake of Omar. Now for the sake of advice, you're caring for the other person? Because

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Because Allah has told you to care for that person.

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Not because

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if my wife is good to me, then I'll be good. People do transactions. You know, I have so many brothers and sisters, when they call me they say, you know, I do I do this, this this for my husband and I'm good and I do this and I do this, but he doesn't do anything in return. So So what

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Do you? Are you doing it? Is this a transaction? Right? Okay, you know, you you scratch my back and I'll scratch your back can you do the you give me two pounds? I'll give you two pounds, you know, you cook food for me and then I'll be nice to you. Is this a transaction? This is this is not a transaction between husband wife.

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It's not about what others do for us.

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My parents don't treat me well, so I don't need to listen to them.

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All My Children are not listening to me. So why should I be nice to them? every relationship has become a transaction, a buyer and a seller.

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That's what's become every relationship.

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That's why Islam says do not look at what the other person is fulfilling because you're not doing it. In order to gain anything in return. Your love for the person your friendship, you're caring for the person you're looking after for the other person, you're fulfilling the hope for the sake of Allah, what do you want to return? When you are good to your wife? What do you want to return? You don't want

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her cooking food for you? You're not being good because she's gonna cook for you. A nice fish biryani No, you're not cooking. You're not being nice to your wife, because she will press your feet for you.

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Or she'll, you know clean the house for you. You're not being nice to your husband because we'll give you some money or he will take you out somewhere.

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You're not showing love because they will do something for you. No, you are showing love because the Quran has told you because the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has instructed us the reason why we are showing the love and being caring and nice and gentle because we love Allah. If Allah has told us, the moment Allah says, Don't love, we won't love.

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We love the moment Allah says, Don't listen to your spouse. You won't listen. If your spouse isn't, you know, don't offer just Allah Sorry, I can't. A lot of love comes before Yoda. Your whole love in my love for you is all based on the level of love. It's all connected to Allah. The whole relationship is based on the love of Allah.

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every relationship has to be based on the relationship of Allah, connection with Allah. And this is why we see that there is a big difference between you know, everyone loves, between our love for our parents, our children, our friends, brothers, siblings, our husband, wives, and the people of Allah. Alia have a lot of people of taqwa

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we love for the other reasons. Maybe most of us we have this love because it feels good. We are fulfilling our own desire to an extent but what they love for or they show friendship and relationship is because of fulfilling the who about Allah the rights that Allah has put on them, Allah cetera. The Quran says Why should

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she choose a women honorably, they feel this they have. They have extreme love for love. And because of the extreme level of a lot, they they what they take care of the spouses is supposed to be a Hydra and messenger sallallahu Sallam says I advise you to look after your women honorably.

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Here are

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the best amongst you are the best to their wives. And about the women in Morocco is our salad Hamza Osama Shahada Xhosa, two gentlemen, a Bobby shirt. A woman who prays for five time offers prayers and first Ramadan obeys. Her husband serves her husband, Shin antigen official from whichever door she wants.

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So many heads, this is the reason why a pious individual a belief a Muslim connected to Allah, this is the reason main reason why you are good to your husband, you are good to your wife, the one who is not connected to Allah, the disbeliever The one who doesn't believe in Allah. It's all for personal relationship, but then that can remain. That's why marriages get boring. How many people stay in a marriage? You go outside and do a survey?

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Okay, just go outside on this. What is it called Hackney road? Going to a survey for a YouTube channel. Okay. Take them take a What do you call it?

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Mike and go around ask

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how many people have stayed in one single relationship all their life?

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I don't think you will find nobody. talk to anyone. 60 year old 65 years since the beginning when you first in your teenage years. Speak to a 65 year old man.

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Till today, how many relationships have you been in?

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1012 1530 4050 Allahu Allah.

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Rarely, you will find somebody who's been in one relationship.

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Very rarely impossible.

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Look at all the silver

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Look at anyone outside, everyone to get married. And they go through a massive divorce or the wastage of money. She just given it to us we could have built a must. Well, I don't know about that money. But all the wastage of money.

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Ask, see how many people

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go under seriously go into a survey. See how many people stay in a single relationship. I'm not even talking about marriage, in a single relationship.

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Very rare. And the same thing is happening to Muslims.

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Asked Muslim young people, if you ask the old people Mashallah our grandparents and maybe

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one, you know, marriage they've never done man has not seen another girl in his life. And he married her when he was 20. And she was 19. And they have 85 and 84. Now, nothing's come between them.

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Why? Because they live the life of Taekwondo. Only way this is possible. To stay in a single relationship is when a fear of Allah, you have Taco Bell, you will have a comma b.

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Otherwise the marriage is going to end marriage cannot be prosperous, without connection with the law. This is because we get boring. How can you stay like 16 years old, same person. It's boring.

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It is difficult, it's boring. Sometimes you get bored after five years bored. Okay, divorce move on. The other woman looks better. Now. The same woman after five years she gets boring. And then a third woman looks. Some people say I want to get a second wife and I want to get a third wife. But you know what the second one will be like the first one after two years. And the third one will be like the second one and the fourth one will be like the third one.

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And then all of them will be then you just get rid of all four of them go. Somebody actually did this. He got married once and took a second one third and fourth and even headache got so bad that he just divorced all four in one go have had enough for headaches.

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Because the relationship is with no law if someone has this deep connection with a law.

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connection with a law marriage is based on taqwa. This is why a lot of people don't know this whole a lot of people may may know this, but they don't think about it. You know when you get married nikka the What about the mom recites is called portable charger. In there the son needs to recite three verses of taqwa

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messages of love when you send him when he would conduct marriages.

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from Surah Nisa yonezawa takuro documentary Holloman Nevada, Muhammad has OSHA overtime in Houma region into hiromasa

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naritasan in Nevada

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that is number one. Have you ever attended any class ceremony? Yes. So you must have heard of these if people don't know because number another problem you don't know the Arabic Quran otherwise nobody knows what's going on. What is the car? What's happening? Why is the EVO meatiness nobody knows anything?

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Taco LA, porta potty.

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Sort of Allah. And then yeah.

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a folder. Now. Thema all verses of taqwa. Like in the sun, in the Sunnah of the

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messenger. sallallahu Addison could have chosen any other Ayah to do with nikka marriage.

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But he didn't do that. He chose three verses that have the word, Fear Allah in them. Why

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nikka time, we're not talking about nikka.

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He could have recited a verse, get married.

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Or, you know, it could be something about nikka and marriage.

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I want somebody asked me, we want to talk on marriage.

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So I went there and gave a talk on taco. afterwards. They said, We thought you know, the talk was about marriage. I said, Well, marriage is what marriage is. This Agata This is why three versus the fear of Allah why these three verses are being recited now to remind the bride and the groom, the husband, wife that if you want this marriage to survive, there's only one way that will happen. Which is fear of Law at every moment.

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The moment you want to speak to your wife

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into yourself, what is the point you think to soften the way I speak the words or use the tone I use a law when asked me Allah subhanaw taala when asked me on the day of piano, Why do you shout at your wife?

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Likewise, the woman alone asked the woman Why did you swear as your husband is

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Why did you talk to her this way? Why do you know the way we treat our parents, children, everyone all this relationship? This is what the whys there's one chef

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from the subcontinent. He once said to his students, in his old age, that in 55 years of marriage, I have not raised my voice over the voice of my wife.

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Imagine 55 years I've been married, have not raised my voice over the voice of my wife.

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This is not possible. Unless you have extreme taqwa and love. Nobody, no romantic person can do this.

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You know, all these people being romantic on Valentine's Day? Yes, it's easy to be you know, I give a flower and I love you. And you know, all of that. And then what after about one week, you probably be swearing on the street or somewhere.

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Or at home, you've just woken up and probably you swore at one another. You went to get, you know, something went wrong at home and, you know, argument,

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gave a rose. And then two weeks later, there's an argument.

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What's happened?

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This is why I look at the chef, the same 55 years I've been married, I have not raised my voice. haven't said.

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Nothing. raise my voice just even though

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I've mentioned this many times in the talks. And it's when you think offering more and more is just sometimes we think it's humanly impossible. imagined this is not just I haven't you know, I can say to his brother, I've never shouted at you in my life. I've never raised my voice. First time I've seen you. It's easy.

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I can say to any brother here like I've never got angry. He never saw that easy. Imagine saying that about your wife. You sleep in the same bed you sleep in the same rooms eat the same food use. You eat together, you sleep together, you live in the same house. You do things together, you discuss you raise children together, you raise your sons together, you raise your daughters together, you think about everything about life together. Imagine 55 that's five, five years, you live day and night with someone and you don't let him swear and shout. You don't even raise your voice.

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What do you mean soltec. The Quran says when you talk to someone lower the tone of your speech in uncurl is worth the salt on me because dunk husks shot. This is what the Quran says. Not human beings, they don't scream and shout.

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Imagine this is his wife.

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Five years is never his time. This can only happen. This can only happen if when this person this chef was connected to Allah. He loved his wife for the sake of Allah. It's this fear in the heart that I need to fulfill

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her who writes for the sake of Allah, and this is why the dialysis alone cookbook I have been assured they will not make your love the most beloved to me.

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And that's why the howdy again, now you may know how to come Hector you

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were the messenger sallallahu wasallam said that

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akuna had balay human nuptse

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message mind you probably a complete believe until I don't become more beloved to even then your own self, your children, your wealth and your whole of mankind. Even then you own sauce. In other words, we have to love Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam more than even our own selves. You know someone when you say what is love?

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again back to the original question, what is love? What is love? original question.

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Can you love yourself? you when you say love is like you know you give you a life, then of course the most love will have we also

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in Islam, we have to have love for Allah and His Messenger sallallahu Sallam more than even we love our own selves.

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If we take this in our life,

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everything revolves around the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala everything revolves around love for direct Islam and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this heart cannot have more than two loves.

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We have to be what

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we have to be what's the word I'm looking for.

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Not dedicated, but we have to be loyal.

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This hot, you can't. You can't cheat. can have other loves.

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Love is only for love. Everyone else is based on that love.

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If Allah says love

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That person Yes. You know, when someone has a beloved that even their friends become Beloved.

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This is why there's a hadith that says that alcohol could have been helpful in a more human action a reality. The whole of creation is a family of law.

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That's what Allah loves those people who are good to his family, which means the creation.

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So, even being good to the creation of Allah is based on the love of Allah.

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Which includes everyone in any way. Now, the question is, and I want to just talk about this and then inshallah Some people ask this question, it's a genuine question.

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We always hear talks about love for love people talk about love of us. Everything should be for the sake of Allah build a connection with the law.

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But how is that possible? How can we do that? We can see a lot.

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Have you seen a lot better?

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No, I haven't. Can you see a lot? No. It's your Muna letting you know

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it's about and see. If you have

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your father, your mother, your parents, your wife, your husband, the in front of you, the tangible

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This is a lot of people don't address this question.

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Many people do not address this question. The message is just on a level and he said we don't the Sahaba had loved they saw him, they would sit with him, they would meet him. We don't see him.

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A lot of people because there's so many talks on this, build a connection with a lot of love, for love, love for love. But this is a logical question. Okay, have it but tell us how.

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How is it possible to have love for Allah subhanaw taala

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it's very important.

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Because your wife, your husband, your children, you see them in front of you. Everything has to be Now look, one mother, she asked me this.

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He said to me that yes. Okay. My love for my wife has to be based on the level of law. So here if there's a contradiction, this is what this means based on the level of a law if there's a contradiction between the level of Allah and the love for my wife, then of course love of Allah should come first. So if she for example, wants me to do something which is

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which is just obeying a law that I will not do it, that's where the heading says lithotomy McLovin de Massa Holly, no obedience to the creation which takes which results in disobedience to the Creator. So of course I will not do this. But sometimes it's difficult because a lot you know, my wife is right in front of me. I can see her getting angry I can see a crying and consider getting upset

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with a lot. I don't see a lot.

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My son, six years old, you know teaching. He asked him like why can't we say when are we gonna see Allah? Very soon inshallah. Don't worry, we will see Allah but this is a genuine question.

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This is the test of the dunya we don't see a lot in this one. But everything around us MFI equally, shading.

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Everything around is is a sign that there's one and only God everything under God is actually filled. We don't look

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around tells us that think, reflect? Think build a connection with Allah. How do you do that?

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Is every minute of our life we can build a connection with a love but the problem is we are so busy in our lives so fixated in our lives that we don't really know you know, things are so common like we wake up, wake up in the morning. Okay, bathroom, toilet, quick work, bus, underground tube, network, trade, workplace, computer, laptop, iPad, this work factory, or this place, or shop or this office or post email. Everything is like a robotic life. When it comes to doo doo doo doo food drink toilet. Like one chef said that half our life revolves around eating and half the life revolves around exiting.

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Earning money have the life is to eat and have the life is to release. Everything is a robotic life.

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Robotic life we don't have time to think about Allah. This is why this we can't build a connection. The whole of Quran gives us this invitation.

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Everything you know Seriously, this is how we build occurrences in

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our theater the vasila film lady when

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indeed in the creation of the heavens and the earth

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in the creation of the sky and the earth, the heavens and the earth. What Tina have been lately when

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the interchangeable the or the changing

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of the

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The day and the night. When the night ends, the day comes when day ends and night comes.

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There are signs for the people. Now the Quran tells us use a colored brain. This is what we don't do so many verses in the Quran if you want to build a connection and love for Allah use something that I was given here. You know when we don't use this

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then this is when problems occur. That's what the Quran de comida Karuna for me I

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sometimes take all your phones and iPads and everything just go and think you know what this means.

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Look at look at how the days ending and the nights coming.

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One of the ways

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this is where we live you know you go in London you guys you see buses and cars and this is what's causing the problems.

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Go look at real disorder artificial lights. Everything's artificial around us. The Quran says walked in you know what what a lovely lady wouldn't Horace what's what's the lovely lady?

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Maybe one day maybe if you're married your husband and wife going to catch a sunset.

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Spend that every few days a Muslim should look try to look at the bottom you know the greatness of the creation of love and marvels of Allah looking going I mean we don't if we don't have to go but go this is the Quran says see roofing

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traveling the earth on guru reflect See?

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Don't you see how the camels are creating weightless America? Do you see how the sky and the heavens are raised? Well Jeeva look at the mountains make a special journey to the mountains. You don't see mountains here. We just above the hills.

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This is what the Quran is telling us. Seriously, we should make a journey to go and just look at the mountains that Allah has created us created before.

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Look at sunset. Look at the sun look. How's it going down? How is sun? You know, rising? How is it setting? How does the night come to an end? How does the day come?

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You know, I've been to Norway many times about nine times I think Norwegian when Norway's Norway is next to Denmark. Denmark is next to Sweden. Sweden is next to Finland. Been to Norway, Denmark, Sweden, Norway, Finland yet but

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he once was there in one of my journeys in Norway.

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But the other journey he didn't come to that journey. But one of the other journeys that I went to.

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There were some other brothers with us. We actually went to the northern part of Norway where the sun doesn't go, we went in the sun that summer, we took a two hour flight from Oslo. And then we traveled 10 hours, like to the north. This is called

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the end part of the world.

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sun doesn't go like some places son mother, it was at 11 o'clock at night. But then someplace is simpler than 12 o'clock at night is white sky. Outside midnight. We pray no pressure midnight, one o'clock virgin, his son is his death. He gets a bit dim ascenders and descenders.

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And in winter, data's there's just three months four months, five months just not summer, just day

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especially you wonder I said I want to go there we spent five days in those parts of just just to look at the amazing you know, the sun is an amazing creation of Allah we don't have time to think to study about the sun about about the different stars and planets. The Quran tells us that even when you have milk

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we all drink milk conflict cereal milk came right or whatever What did you drink? I don't even remember we drank milk or water we drink every day. Things just you know passes by our life just go like in a robotic fashion. This is why there's no connection with Allah. Quran says when you drink a cup of milk, a cup of milk

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not drinking like straightaway how they look at it.

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Think named a different thing whether I'm in Lebanon, Holly Sansa Eva Nisha, be

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ready this will come from Allah telling us in the Quran. Think. Don't just drink it. Look at it. Think Close your eyes. This is building connections number came from an animal that's not white. It's a dark, different color animal. The cow mean baby first thing whether the place where the milk is coming from is between blood which is red, and four, which is filled. It's the dung of the animal dirt, right from the middle of that it's going wrong.

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From there, it's coming in benei first thing whether I'm in Lebanon Hardison, pew milk white milk is

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extremely tasteful and pleasant for the people who drink amazingly an awful lot like it just comes. You don't think about it

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every Nirmala re there's so much I mean this is a topic on its own. There's so much to think about when it rains, Allah senses rain. How does this rain? Water is the name of Allah How does the water come from? There's so many these are everyday ways and methods. This is why the Quran says Allah Dena Yes, Guru Rama Yamamoto Mata Juba him waiter for Corona our will our

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universe is thicker, thicker. This is what thicker means. Thinking pondering and then bringing that fort in our a bada Sala, which

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nobody can build a connection with with a lot without having to shoot in Salah when you play Sora thinking about a lot of thinking about what you are doing.

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You know what you offer salave'a Allah, we are studying before like we thinking, Okay, I'm studying before law. This is what this is one I guess. Because we do it every day. We don't even know we're doing. So you are stuck standing before law.

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Which means all prayers for law the Lord of the words Allah mean so he's created Mars and Jupiter and Venus and the moon understand under stars and every creation. This is a law that ecomo la hora buco. This is your Lord, everything.

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Holly kukuli shake. This is

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not just this universe, the whole cosmos system, everything. This is what we need to think in Surah Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Rahmani Raheem, this is why it's actually

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some Allah say it's makrooh to recite Surah Fatiha in one go. When we recite Surah Fatiha, we should make a pause handler horrible admin stop. Because how do you say when the servant recites sort of refer to when he says Alhamdulillah? Allah means a lot of response. Allah says hamadani have the majority of the earth now.

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After every verse, after a man Rahim, there's a response from Allah. So we need to think

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when we say Alhamdulillah Ramadan Rahmani Raheem, think Allah is telling me that.

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And there was one young man in the olden times, who said that I humbly love God to a level that I could actually hear a sound. Every time I would read Rahmani Raheem, I would hear the response. And I would not move until I don't hear the response. Malik Yomi D hear the response. A sound is coming from somewhere, which is in the Hadith.

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We need to know the meanings to be able to get that

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need to know the meanings.

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Then Roku or why we did Roku were bowing down Subhana B.

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What does that mean? Why are we saying that? Who are we saying it to? What's the meaning of that? semi I love it even hamidah for barnacle Hamed. Then again, supernovae Rolla, why are we saying it? What does it mean? What are the deep meanings of this of these statements? Even before that this is even before the Voodoo, why are you washing our hands?

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The mind has to be focused and you know what the more we do this, the less we do, we will talk about

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the person who talks too much doesn't use the brain.

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The people who have intelligence use less of this use more of the brain. The people who are not intelligent, they use too much of this the less of this

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a sign of the intelligence of a person is that he speaks less the quiet ones they think the brain is talking.

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But we even although we talk everyone just talks, talks, talks talks like me talking so much for human can you have a woman Arthur Falco? hirundo Dr. Smith, the one who believes in Allah let him say that which is good, but stay quiet. This is why one of the you know, mercyhealth Lockman the wise was to stay quiet and and also the Hadith many Hadees for the messenger sallallahu said, even

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thinking of washing the hands. This is the first thing so now the messenger sallallahu wasallam would wash his hands on his wrist. This is you know, just really to check the water. I mean, whether it's pure,

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you know the three qualities of the water or the qualities of the water, taste,

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smell and color. So you just checking the color, really

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it's not red

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Doesn't have blood in it it's clean water, then Maximova tasting is non adjusting it all fine then it's still sharp smelling. No it doesn't taste smell like alcohol. There's nothing wrong in it it's clean water. Check the three things. Now let's do our first photo.

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Wash the face. That's the Hikmah when and the Hadith says every Olden that you wash, Harajuku the sins are forgiven. So when you're washing your arm

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all the sins have been forgiven. I think we need to think you know I have my son who's six years old when I'm making the video actually tell him I said what do you think? Yesterday you were naughty? Look that naughty. That water is naughtiness going away. That naughty that that was when you were being angry. That's that all the all the sins are forgiven. So watch it think hamdulillah please yes forgive my sins. It's all coming off.

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Howdy. This is the thought every will do we do that?

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Every now

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and then read the unlimited read which your mind is focused every will do every Salah

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What does it mean? We need to understand the meanings attached here to Lillah wa salatu

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wa salam Arica yohanna be all of it. And then after Salah why are we doing Salam this way and who we are intending and why are we making Salaam this way? Who are we intending all of this? And then every day I wake up in the morning we need to ask what's the meaning Why would it

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matter when a new shoe Wallah opens for your friends for Allah who gave us life after death we were dead death sleepers death that's why we say a lot

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to move to every job you go into the toilet

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a lot older the government will have a

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whole lot to ask you to protect me from male and female shape and

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you know my son making since four years older than me can not just an Arabic but I'm making learn the meanings. So when he goes to the toilet, it's okay time to go toilet. Okay, left foot. Before I do that, a lot of mania I will be coming to the hobo they will have all of these tell all the dirty naughty shaper men, women shaytaan origins and bad ones to go away and don't clean my toilet when I'm in the toilet. That's his translation. You need to understand the meaning after we come out overall, and hungry, the onion are funny. What does it mean?

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What does that mean that

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we seek forgiveness? Why are we seeking forgiveness?

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Why did you drink up on the toilet? Did you do something?

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There's a reason What's the reason we need to know that reason only then we can have the intention of ronak

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Alhamdulillah hinder the other and in funny All Praise to Allah who removed dirt from my stomach gave me alfia if I wouldn't be if I hadn't gone to the toilet and the dirt wouldn't have come out

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then it would cause illness and sickness I would die. This going into the being able to go to the washroom and the toilet and to be able to relieve oneself is an act of

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treason is is an act of health. And it's you know, it's something that's being able to go is an area from Allah subhanaw taala. So that's why that's why we think about these things.

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Every moment of life. This is what's meant by what building connection with Allah.

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And there's much more I just summarized it. All of this and much more is what building a connection with Allah, having love for building a strong connection. Once that happens in the beginning, we have to just try like we start from today like from 6:45pm today.

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Now in shaba first who do we do? First Salah we do every day might take about six months or a year or two. But then the connection will be so solid with the law like you live you breathe, you sleep you drink, you eat everything is just to do the work. Then your wife is dead. You're being good because of a law, your husband because of a law your relationship is because of a law. You're fulfilling rights is because of a law. You smile at someone is because of Allah His Messenger somebody said you be kind to someone because of law is messengers

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is because of the you're smiling. You're being kind you're being considered you're caring, you're loving you're fulfilling of rights, you're giving of money, you're financially helping assisting anything good to anyone in the dunya is all based on this connection.

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The law

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This is how then a human being becomes a medieval becomes.

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So this is the real meaning of love. What is love? What is love?

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Love is loving Allahu subhana wa tada and when in connection with him and then based on love having love for others, that's

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our current is tofield Hola Hola,

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Salaam Alaikum