Leaving Islam, Apostasy And Atheism

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in all different Rochdale. He said

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thankful and grateful to the organizers, the Rochdale Masjid here, Islamic Center for inviting me and arranging this central Mosque of Rochdale for arranging this program.

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And really a very important topic, a very important subject that really needs to be discussed. Remember, when this program was advertised, many people will say, will this be recorded people from different parts of the world, different countries, people will say it's such an important topic such an important subject affects a lot of people.

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A lot of people in the family can very easily be recording

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the masjid organizers that

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are going on here and for the speakers and for everybody

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to be of course, involved in arranging this program and contributing a lot of what everybody saw. I have a few points, maybe some disjointed points.

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The versions of parenting.

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This is a vast topic. And time is short, I just have some very random type of disjointed

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points, I can connect them to try to connect them. These are just some random points related to this topic of very, very important subject.

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First of all, I saw the poster and this

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poster, but you hear this a lot. I think we have a poster epidemic of Apostasy, epidemic of Apostasy. This is a big issue. It's a huge issue. But I would beg to differ.

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That isn't legal. I don't know if you can use it as an epidemic of people. But it seems that there are a lot of people in relation to how many people are not leaving Islam. If you look at a comparison of those who are leaving Islam and those who are not leaving

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maybe less than 1% of people who are leaving Islam from being Muslims born Muslims or who have embraced Islam. So it's not a it's an important issue. It's a very sensitive issue. It is definitely something worth talking about discussing and looking at the solutions or the problems and the solutions.

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But it's not something that

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is in every household, in every community in every city, every town in different parts of the world, Muslims are leaving Islam and is becoming ethnic. Rather, if you look, on the contrary, there are more people embracing Islam. There are more people embracing Islam just recently, I actually read the recent report, which was from the government actually tweeted this morning, just find this.

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You know, the government did some research on different aspects of the communities living living in the

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living in England.

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They actually said that, let me let me just see.

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Yeah, this this was from

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government review into opportunity and integrated integration, which is published just like last month. And from that, among faith groups, the number of people identifying themselves as Muslims grew most significantly by 1.2 million people this last year.

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This 72% increase is higher than for any other religious group and Muslims make up the largest non Christian, non Christian, many of them are non Christians anyway, they just identify themselves. So reading Muslims could be the largest played community in England, make some Muslims make up the largest non Christian religious population in the UK at 2.8 million in total, compared with 0.8 million Hindus 0.4 million Sikhs, 0.3 million Jews and 0.3 billion Buddhists. This is last year 72% increase, Muslims are increasing.

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Who knows? The Quran says the world of Islam.

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This week we think this report, and then we're looking at apostasy arising in the future. lot if you don't practice religion, bring other people into religion and take your place.

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That they will not be like you. So this is something we need to ponder over that, are we leaving Islam or people amongst us are leaving Islam and as others are embracing Islam and recordings are taking place. This is just one of many verses to talk about this is quite a few places that a lot will change a lot and bring others into your place into slot. So it is an important issue and definitely worth talking about. But I would say it's not like an epidemic. And it's really when people have ultimate Islam. And this is just last year in the United Kingdom, other parts of the world in America, you got many people, Islam is on the increase. If you go to New York, New York,

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those take literally tons of people on a daily basis embracing slops so many people are embracing this not just in New York, North America, Canada, different parts of the world. So more people are coming into Islam, and very few people are leaving, but we need to ensure that we don't let those viewers leave. It's our responsibility. It's a joint responsibility. This is not just the responsibility of the masjid or the mosques or the moms or the shoe or the teachers who, you know, the scholars or you know, people who are in positions of authority, the committee, this is a joint responsibility of every Muslim. This is everyone's responsibility. We pair especially in parity.

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But it's there's possibility of embryos that we ensure that people don't leave Islam. Now, when we issue how do we show people in Islam, solutions and the reasons and solutions. Sometimes we become the cause of people leaving Islam, sometimes parents become the cause of some children need

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teachers. There's many, many reasons. So that was just my first point. The second point was just just the icebreaker. You know, it's not like a it's all

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gloomy until like Kevin was leaving Islam.

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Bangkok is beautiful religion. We're all people.

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And lots of people. Because they see, they see the wisdom, the

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beauty of this religion, one brother I met in America a few years ago, I he became president, I asked him what ways he becomes.

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He said, Well,

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actually, no, not

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most of the

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time 70 afterwards. But I was picked up, picked up a book, on the seal of the biography, the characteristics of

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just three, four pages. And it was so beautiful.

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I'm intrigued and interested in

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the detailed biography of this messenger of Muslims, Muhammad, I will read about you more, I read more about him. And eventually I fell in love with this person. And then I said to myself, this person with these characteristics, these traits, these qualities, and these are the characteristics and also the messages and

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it is impossible. It is impossible not to believe in what he says. Because these are such characteristics that a normal human being cannot have. And it's true. Even another person once told me that it's just impossible. If you read the seer of the message of silver.

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It's just impossible for someone not to believe in it. But the problem is, we don't need it.

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Don't let the CFO be the priority of the messages of some of his qualities and attributes and character traits are basically beyond being a human who still believes a human touch. It's a he's a chosen he would be a different human being.

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It's not like he believes he is, you know, the chairman, the rest of the milestones. If we just read his characteristics the way Mike's

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just like, you know, one of the things that he mentioned that his

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passion accuracy from our legal framework, I served messenger processor worldwide for 10 years. When you serve someone, you don't just meet him in the masjid. I stayed with him day, night, morning, afternoon evening, giving him food helping you assisting him imagine 10 years from now economy

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in 10 years, he never even said the word one word of contemporary

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in our language would be something like

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likes sigh.

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Would you do that in 10 years imagine can any human being today 10 years, you've got somebody who's your employee, you're the person who

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is getting the food it is the

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10 years not once

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one up, and neither

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is shaping up to give up.

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Something I was supposed to do. He never said Why didn't you do it. And something I wasn't supposed to do in episode boy in 10 years.

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So these characteristics have

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become Muslims, they get they they feed into the formulas now it's impossible not to fall in love with this message of promise of love. Martin Seligman is with religion now.

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And we have

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you know, just before

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talking about towers,

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and I had half his talk and a bit late.

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So I want to talk about just briefly and like I said disjointed,

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these demos, these doubts that come to the mind, I think what he was mainly focusing on some of the objections and values of certain teachings of Islam. And those are, of course, very important people need to tackle them, and dismantle them with an open mind, like you will see, with a clear mind with an open heart and mind not being pessimistic, not being skeptical, not like really going to, you know, with with a mind already made up.

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However, there are certain other doubts that come into the hearts and minds of believing men and women.

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And this has always happened, just doubts, should cook doubts,

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doubts about everything, you know, people sometimes

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bounce about religion, different labs, coming to the hearts and minds of human beings. Sometimes the

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misgiving was for

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some of them are to do with

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sinful activities.

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This, but the very, you know, the strong ones, and the dangerous ones are the ones that come from faith and religion.

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And these come into the hearts and minds of believing men and women, even good believing men and women even.

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Like, for example, up believing your Muslim

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house that, you know, isn't a real call, you know, isn't really here after, is there really a life of the tenants?

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paradise towels, you know, like, I may be like, what am I doing? Well, this whole isn't is it?

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These dogs, these dogs affect people.

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We need to understand that these doubts, do nothing in terms of your Avon and your faith. And Rather, he might have mentioned this really loud to the rest of us and

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this is a sign of Eva, those companion because it will give you the message.

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And he said

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sometimes we have doubts I have doubts in my mind that to bring them on my tongue. I know the burning fire because

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that's how dangerous they are. I can't even imagine to bring them on my tongue

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is actually one that's clear your mind that shows your Rhema because you're so worried about them that you don't want to bring in another generation is a Muslim men are a lot more or less the rest of us

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You said the combined believer that is pure faith, that is pure faith. So these doubts, like some of the shields they explained this, isn't it This is similar to you know, a thief or a robot will never come to the heart will never come to the house of somebody whose house empty if you've got an empty house with nothing in there no work with a rubber boat come Chicago, he comes to the heart of that person when there is an EMA. He knows that this person has Mr. Jenkins job is to put muscles and this is why a very strong remedy for these type of doubts is along with many other things make you think of

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other things, but a very important remedy he deserves every day as much as possible after all prayers before going to sleep or out of the ugliness murkiness here he was was 100 nurse. He was

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the one that's very important. So I'm sure everybody knows,

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has memorized.

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In this we are asking a loss protection of us refuge from Lake Champlain was was

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you say for our fitness,

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you mentioned three attributes. And then we say we showed it was was nursing ready, you must

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always seek a protection your refuge from the evil of who it was, was it was from that

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creation that evil the evil of the one who plays with these doubts and was was an misgivings was was a lot of work was was a lot of misgivings in my heart and humbleness and the one who puts the most wasa puts the misgivings and then retreats. The word hundreds is like those little Arabic zealot Movado a lot could have said highness, this is hundreds excessively retreats, you know what the reason this couple of leaves on this one very important meaning of this is that this shape on the beach when he does,

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please the muscles are in the heart. As soon as you seek protection or refuge you retreat run away.

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You run away straightaway recovered, no one expects to hear once a week. Similarly, Michelle was was a nurse and he runs away he retreats and he receives a lot of the translator.

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Take the cheese and go back cookie. This is this is what the shaman does.

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He will retreat, he will retreat. He will just stay there.

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As long as we turn for a lovely take over. This is the meaning of Misha was was a kindness. And this is what the Quran says. Whenever these type of problems come

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when shavon places this this doubt in your heart then seek protection refuge.

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Time for lots of candles Panda and Chevron is very big.

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And he's misgiving and these tariffs do not have

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ammunition or

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misgivings and doubts that whispers that shame on places in your heart naturally like whisper in your ear. In Arabic is a word when someone tells you something secret like you

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cannot use that for Chevron's misgiving when it comes to like whispers in your ear and that puts into your mind this worry about reaching this will not harm me as long as you don't let it carry on and then you act upon it to say something in accordance with it isn't.

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So, nothing to worry about. If someone has the kind of doubts the companions on it, but as soon as these doubts come you turn to a law you practice the and and the more you practice, the less these kind of dogs become

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this point that this is very important that the you know we have a life in which we are connected to

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connected to Oba. You see the mind the body is always in function. You know the mind of the human being is always function. You know this mind.

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Every single one of us here, we think about something 24 seven. Right now you guys are thinking about hopefully what I'm saying right now, I'm not thinking about something else. But as long as we are awake when we're sleeping with dreaming or when we are awake 24

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Seven we are thinking about something every human beings mind is, you know, like in the jungle of false. We're driving a car, if you're driving by itself, if you're listening to something, maybe you're thinking about it. But if you're not

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thinking about different different things, as you're walking Nowadays, people take less because they're always on this, sadly, but we always take the mind is always thinking about something. What do we mean it think about, we think about robots for 95 97% of the time when we think about

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as soon as we wake up, we think about work, job shop, factory, taxi, car, money, Inland Revenue, post, office letter, even even emails, text message, WhatsApp, this app,

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Facebook, Twitter, this person meeting, we only that person, somebody

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said this, or that just everything. I'm not saying it's wrong, but it's

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24 hours of adonia. The only time you think about it is when

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we start off with D and then we're back to Julia and then we come back to the

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how much percentage from 100% of our time is our mind focused on Deena

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This is the greatest remedy that our flow of votes we need to recommend to us. We need to think

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of this is the Quran is filled with verses telling us to contemplate the

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perfection for think about the law Think about

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it, while we will visit one day I'll be sitting in

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my shop, I'll be going there. How amazing would that be? And then shout out and say okay, let's go and have some

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coffee, right? This would

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be amazing, amazing coffee and just you know, imagine, imagine how would we see a line

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and observe and see.

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So, we will see a volume

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you will see in DC or load like you see this is full moon,

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full moon, which is

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you find no difficulty in seeing images or just upon

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reflection about

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Imagine, imagine this country sand hills, that in the north where I live, there's

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a nice you have some nice clothes here, but

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these things bring you to these.

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Why? Take this assignment takes

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so many verses about the

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Arabic word, sometimes those

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Arabic sometimes the same word that in Arabic meaning

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or some other language. These words worry this is the main worry here.

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contemplating reflecting deliberately sometimes?

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Just you

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people, astronomy, astronomy has meant that there are doctors I've met them personally that their medicine has taken them to

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just move

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your own body we have not even understood this you know five six feet of the human body and into pieces of this human body let alone understand the universe and now with you know questioning everything about the universe and the creation of the universe and evolution and creationism and all of that we have an understanding until now science has advanced so much

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not just one forget the whole body one aspect you speak to spray this I spoke to him isolation is so there's so much research probably 10% of it.

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This is a nice question just one I just imagine like just imagine what a great narrow this is the law has given us just close your eyes. Sometimes we don't realize the great game of law. You know how to realize a network

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Realize that once in a talk that one day spending like one hour you're going to close my eyes and spend the life without

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united united give a full grown up, close my eyes

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It's difficult.

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Try this. These are things that take a stroll by saying okay 10 minutes, I'm just gonna close my eyes. I'm gonna try to do okay.

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Okay 10 minutes.

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And then amazing now on this one now, can anyone make this, nobody can make this? No science, no technology, no even cloning you'll be because people misunderstand what cloning is I did a reasonable research recently upon

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coming out of this medical seminar with doctors. So cloning, not nothing is made from scratch, everything is connected, everything is connected, nothing. All of these things are amazing science that take us to the last panel, we should take time out to reflect and ponder as a family. Sometimes you might

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do a romantic, you know, trip somewhere, you and your wife or you and your husband, go and do both in the creation of jobs.

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Look at the sky, look at

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your look up, just contemplate seriously, these things take you to a loss. And this is why connected to the point. The existence of God was never never questioned ever in the history of mankind.

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The existence of a God was never questioned. This is a recent phenomenon. Like maybe 5060 years, all these positions that have come up recently, the whole research, research phenomenas all of this and atheism, atheism and the denial of God has become a reasonable

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question nobody in history you will never find the recorded history that no people deny.

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Now, even if

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you ask them who created heaven and earth?

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And this is why

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there's no need for

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you crazy.

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like can you even down to the creation

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of God exists. This is why every

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even even

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every single profit, none of them called a people to be a con. They call them to delete all the eyes of Oberon diversity.

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Along with me now,

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So many verses are talking about the oneness.

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There's no version of Iran that actually talks about the existence of a god.

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Because this is like there's something wrong with someone's brain in mind. This is a perversion. This is what happens in Europe.

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It's the natural, the natural disposition, the natural nature, the natural instinct to some of these things. They are natural. But we live in a time of perversions which

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means you've gone up and left the balance where you've gone to the right or the left in any aspect of life. When someone leaves a bad story, they go to the right to go to the left and that is considered to be perversion. They

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go this way or that way, in every aspect from

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refuge from the one who's giving was was up and putting in my mind and heart who retreat

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from Jin and from mankind. In other words, this surah is not just talking about the police and Satan talking about shopping and in swertia energy he brings us from the G can emit energy.

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Okay, so he was from the gym that this verse

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we are seeing a loss protection from the shape of the shape,

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shape, shape

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means the one who takes you far away from as far away from leaving alone. So when it says gene chip off of the camera you will check on We live in a time where this morning he wants to be

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one of the greatest creative chip on his on us and everything around us the locality, the surroundings, the friends that we have, and the things around us and this great you know, Mashallah manifestation of technology that everyone has an answer is playing a massive big role in in people getting all these steps, because you're already with 100 and 400 million ideas, people minds are not perverted, because they've gone away from the palate sweep of perversion, the natural in every aspect, in every aspect of sexuality from from taking in God to different aspects, nothing is now abnormal.

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The things that even in sexuality, you know, we live in a time right now. That

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is not to say,

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we Muslims, or no one should be homophobic we don't hate anyone who was, you know, different sexual

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tendencies may be a good word for it. inclinations, or whatever. Okay, this is of course, you don't hate

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Islam, you don't hate

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Islam, but at the same time, we can't change our religion is not permissible in Islam, homosexuality is not permissible

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and not permissible in Islam. sex outside, marriage is also very

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common very than any sort of sexual interaction is

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unlawful, but it's a simple activity, you don't hate someone having an activity, you have a concern.

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But what I will say is that we are now moving into a time with people, you know, I've seen this trend, but there will be a person. Yeah, maybe like, all these things come together. She's an atheist, for example, atheist, lesbian,

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donor with gender, she, I don't believe in two genders anymore. There's no such thing as Polish versus male, female gender, there's no such thing as make people say this, there's no such thing as male, female, gender

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was a word for it.

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comes again, there's all these different different words I was once reading. So that's

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even sexuality, they use all these words.

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And research pants pansexual and pansexual. And this sexual

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past, so I checked on pansexual was

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a person who has no particular inclination towards a particular gender,

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we connect you to a soul. Soul isn't a man or a woman or whatever, like, you know, maybe it would have been fine. But it could be anything. And this is, you know, lesbian, atheist all of these and then maybe add to that soon to say some sisters might get upset, but the feminists love them. Extreme families are lesbians, and at the same time feminists, and at the same time, you know,

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was the same gender like, it's just a version of ideas.

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So I think what's happening is like, all the gnomes that even in Western culture, even United Kingdom, the West had normal things which were considered to be normal people are coming by this logic question, Lord, Richard, faith and everything, all of these things. It's the mind getting corrupted perversion and all these different ideas. And you know, people are not willing to listen those who are they just no interested. They're skeptical, skeptical about everything.

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believe in God, as I was saying, connecting back to this, that it's a it's a normal thing, believe in God is not short. It's known because it's the study of cases in the hearts and minds of everyone else.

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The Quran tells us what

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to say

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Dhabi, do you know every one of us, this is without his promise from us.

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Number two this

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before he created the universe,

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he took this old from everyone and let's move

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on to your load on setting D

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everyone, we all agreed

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the oath of allegiance testify the source of this happen, we have to believe it.

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Does anybody remember being in the mother's womb?

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You remember seven months, seven months, one day?

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She was the cause, you know, she was in the car, maybe while she was going down the stairs and you felt

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you denied?

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Have you set the live action people?

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The people who actually have set a direction remember this? All

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they remember?

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this is recorded

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from the cell phone? I should remember this.

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And this is why when we have a child that is born into the house, one of the first things What do we do?

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What's the, what's the wisdom behind that wisdom is in into the hearts and minds of the child to read wonders of the law, Shahada testimony of the messenger.

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So we might say what's not doing is an impact, we don't remember that.

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It's just like that, you know, promise to promise we don't remember it, even if it's pouring into the mind. And it starts from that

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time is

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you move on quickly.

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This is I will say this is an actual so that denial of a god the existence of God was never questioned. This is absolutely actual normal, as long as we have a natural normal mind, we don't have a perverted mind, we have a clean sound mind. Anyone who is has a clean sound mind will be guided towards the last panel data. And those who then gets

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deviated or who have tendencies towards leaving Islam was not allowed to leave Islam. One of the main reasons many of them, many of the people who left religion, as I said, it's a recent phenomena 40 5060 100 years

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before this whole leaving, the religion was never in existence. This started a lot within the Christian communities and the Jewish community. Many of them they left religion in Islam is like

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the beginning. It's an epidemic, epidemic.

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If you compare how many people leave Christianity, and Judaism

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is just you know, what the reason, one of the main reasons is, and this is my third kind of points, which you might pick number three

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points is that many of them undergo some of that experience in the name of religion.

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Their experience in the name of religion, oppression, persecution, a lot of them have persecution in the church, etc. And the same thing happens with Islam. In the name of Islam, when there's oppression, where there's holes where there's the persecution, where you use religion, and there's no religion there, whether it comes from parents, whether it comes from religious leaders,

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this happens to people and they just go they make a 180 degree turn like they were practicing or some of them doing practicing families might be from a family or something and then

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they leave Islam

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this issue another issue, do not believe in a religion you should not be believing because of someone else. If someone's doing something, that's their problem, like we try to take you out of someone leaving Islam like you did.

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In the first place you

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it's you because you are pressing knees and leaving Islam. Yeah.

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So this is from the beginning. He was wrong. you're practicing Islam was not supposed to be based on some. But anyway, it just happened. he happens to people because of oppression because of persecution because of this. And this is one of great problems. Now this is what we need to tackle in our communities. And maybe the questions you might have tackled this and this is really important in many faith many Muslim communities

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There is a misunderstanding or ignorance, there's a lot of work to resolve this.

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We don't differentiate between culture and Islam. There's so many issues I can list by, for example, forced marriages. There is no place in Islam for forced marriages. It is completely, absolutely, categorically, totally, wholly wholesomely. Fully, completely, whatever was given to us how a normal simple aggression would go on the pelvis.

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Completely a type of force on a boy or a girl, whether it's physical, emotional,

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emotional blackmail.

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Myself, if you don't know you're my sister's daughter, living in the same city in the same village in the same alleyway in the same backyard. in Kashmir.

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Oil, you know,

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this is there's no place for this in Islam. Absolutely. How we need to tackle this.

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Many, many marriage courses have talked about this a lot. This new person needs to pick up this key idea. There is no place for forced marriage in Islam. There's one woman Kate concert with

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her father was somebody who she came to

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my father forced me to qualify for divorces. And yes, why do you do that? She has to stay in this marriage. It's up to her who she lives with. And she has to agree to the one she married.

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You have officially with him. You're married? This is a problem. No.

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No, it's not these two people married. It's like the Great Grandma from his learning the great granddad from this side, everyone that everyone has to match. To get along with everybody. Otherwise, the marriage is not that we make marriages difficult.

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There's just so many examples where marriages are becoming difficult, right? A lot of young people come in how long because the more we close the door for Hello, the crowd open up, you know, you can't get married until x huncle. And x party and great granddad from this one. This one, every single person will 200 people are happy and everyone has their view and opinion. And then everyone and until that one doesn't come from this country. I'm not going to say yes. And this one, everything is on eagle and everybody's got issues. According to the Sahaba the marriage was like, Okay.

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everybody will

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have one companion got married.

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stinking he said, I

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was so

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nervous, I had some perfume. That's the remains of that.

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Imagine, like today until my great chef doesn't come from Botswana, I can't get married.

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He didn't even feel the need to tell the last vestiges of marriages. It takes 35 takes seven seconds to

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actually count it. I kid myself during marriage, I accepted my marriage. Five seconds. Seven seconds. Once we said slowly, so to speak, and that's counted. We counted seven seconds. We prepare two years in advance for seven seconds.

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And then we have to make the community happy and the money is all these are problems depression comes people they feel depressed and what culture This is nothing to do with Islam. So culture.

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arranged marriages, okay, that's fine.

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If you can help.

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People should listen to the parents because they love that game forever. And the end of the day, it's their choice. It's their ultimate choice. If they're in the wrong decision, look, most of the time, some of the time. It's actually nothing to do with the world, the world, the religion of the world. The reasons for cancer disagree.

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It's just the egos because she's not from, you know,

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you're from Sheila.

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Impossible, it's like 105 you know, so

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most of the time, it's

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only 100 and maybe hundreds or maybe even 1000s

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of these kind of marriage issues.

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It's most of the time, it's the reason,

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Islamic reasons. Parents really think this person is not right for my son or my daughter.

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They help you they can carry weight affectionately in a loving way. But remember, if you pick up the last point that if you prefer

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Ah based on this moment, the router via you will get to the situation when they want to get back to somebody who's not

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that uncommon if you start to gain one. So not these things are based on culture in the name of Islam, okay.

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Even though I have spoken about gender roles

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these are cultural things which have nothing to do. But there are certain things which are

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those you have to understand that with an open mind when the wind tells us that look, in a marriage, the man has a right to divorce directly in a woman or directly but she has a longer process, the wisdom understand it

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is a prime minister is an atheist. I say, you know, okay, I'm a half man like I shouldn't be a man like equality. Islam says there's equality between men and women when there's differences like, no, this difference isn't it? Isn't the differences. There's a man who gave birth to a child Well, you know, I can imagine a 14 years old

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we were meant to be pregnant as well, it's not

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possible right? They could be

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coming to us. There's differences there's equality when women are equal in the sight of a woman who is close to us. But these are gender roles is a highly integrated understanding that a lot of great men and women has given message responsibilities and certain rights women certain responsibilities, certain rights, and it's a perfect way marriages are destroyed today because they say that you no longer a man, as a man or a woman as a woman, these are perfect match for one another they match perfectly. The men and women are counterparts to one another, they match perfectly like you know, a man and a woman and married a man it's a perfect match. But we live in a time where the man has

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become a woman and a woman has become now you've got a hot woman

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the man has lost his masculinity is

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tight jeans like you you know everything make men as women like just make everything like even the clothing nowadays, they have this everything's unisex, you know, unisex clothing

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is this jacket is if a man or woman who is unisex.

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Like the guy was telling me that I can see down the you know, a few years with all these you know, High Street shops, many of them don't have a menu, second floor midsection. Living sections just going to be men, women, sexual, whatever sections just so crazy mixed up. Nobody knows what they're wearing. Everything's just women are wearing men's clothes or men or women wearing women.

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It's just so this is these are all the versions of the mind. Okay, so shamelessness is a big issue.

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porn is a religion that takes away from young people away from the topic. I'm just giving you highlights the topic on its own, you know, I recently gave a talk recently, it was increasingly it could be one year, two years because

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I can remember once we did a one hour talk.

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You know, this is something that needs to be addressed in our communities. How it's a killer disease is an addiction. It's like drugs. little research on dopamine.

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Porn has, it has.

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Yeah, it has. It's a drug. And it takes your song and you can't think about that, you know, how

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did this jerk then you've lost like 80% of your business. This needs to be tackled how people can see

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how it destroys their life, their marriages. Once you're addicted to it, you'll still be addicted to it. I've met people I've met people in the 50s and 60s have said to me that we started this when we were 1516 we are in our 50s and 60s. We still can't let go of this habit marriage has not done anything to me. There's many many examples too much too many to sort of mentioned before you know this all these sexual perversions of shamelessness etc. So,

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we need to tackle these issues. Try to become basically to be competitive in the mind in the heart, have a heart of modesty higher you know, get back to the balance sheet. Once we do that, then automatically will believe in this. This will go away.

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But there needs to be a distance

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It needs to be desired, there needs to be a one.

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We need to ask a lot sincerely.

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You know, I just remember one incident, my teachers, it was named Michelle.

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Law, he mentioned this once he's mentioning some of these books, but even you can find it

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once he received a letter from somebody from Germany, and Pakistani brother was living in Germany, that can lead to employment working to a Christian woman.

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So he wrote to him, about 20 years ago, this incident took place. He wrote to him, I moved to Germany, and I'm interning here for many, many years, I got married to, you know, a Christian,

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etc. and find a now the other day, I've had children with him. The other day, I was, I saw that she was teaching my child, you know how to worship Jesus, and you know about Christian faith.

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that something happened to me like, you know, it affected his dad, even accidentally, this is not good. You know, my children is mainly thinking of my children, number of grown Christians. I've been born Muslim, but my progeny does.

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So it struck him. So he wrote to the chef and said, you know, what to do? I'm trying to tell her but she, I spoke to her and she said, No, we never agreed on how the children would be brought up.

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Become not going to be your religion, which you will from your country, they're going to be German Christians. So Tough luck. Women have power control anyway. So whatever you do, you're going to be the way I want them to be. This I'm really like worried concerns.

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So the shampoo factory, look, no worry, brother, Chihuahua.

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make lots of artwork. And there's a power of Dora, like he was saying, as well, that we, we need to connect we need with sincerity as

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anyone who has doubts, make the offer. So

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if you have children, to ask for them, and the person really needs to still see the window open all the time. So he said to me,

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but I'll give you a tip while you do is tell you a lot if you're German Christian, why have you been married to for many years? Look, I want children to be Muslims, and you want them to Christians, like maybe you want me to turn them to Christian and I want you to accept Islam. That's the bottom line. Let's both do this next poll every night. That's what we do is less go alone in Egypt, in rooms by ourselves, and with sincerity, pray to God, you believe in God. And I believe in God, we believe in God. So this is not about atheism. Let's both receive our God your God might say, I will say to my God, that Oh God, you know, I'm a Muslim and I please You know, if, if this religion is

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true with sincerity with absolute sincerity, that keep me on this religion, open my hearts mind to this religion. And if not, it's not true that okay, you know, let me become a Christian,

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sincerely, and tell you what to do. This

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is why you do that as well. That every day,

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go and make this supplication to God, please, God, you know, open my heart and mind to the truth. If as long as a true religion can open my heart, you make me a Muslim. And if it's not, then keep me on this Christian faith.

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And then he said, also, I'm sending a book with this letter. This is what the right this is a book that I wrote. And he wrote a book called was Christianity, sexual, he wrote, I think, and

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then he got translated into Arabic, nyan lasagna. And then it got translated into English for his Christian

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book. So he said, I'm sending you this book, tell you what to read this every day. Just one thing.

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He said, replied, after a week or two person replied back, and he said, Yeah, we'll be doing this. But there's no change. Like, it's still like saying that, you know, they're going to Christians, etc. So she replied back and said, can we

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continue this for 40 days? Normally 40 days?

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40 days,

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40 days,

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40 days, just continue for 40 days, and then let me know.

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his reply didn't come. And then after about maybe five, six weeks after past 40 days, he replied back to the show.

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He said,

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I'm so happy. You know, I've seen he actually said that people believe in God throughs you know,

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and proofs and this evidence and people believe in God, I've actually seen a load in my eyes like, you know, it's it's clear the existence of a law

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that he wrote. And what happened was we did this for 14 days. And soon after 14 days, the other day, we were in a car, my wife was driving. I was in the passenger seat chauffeur driven. And she was driving. And she was going to some university that she had, like, I think, I don't know something to do on the university. Certainly, while she was driving, a car swerved into the silence, really, like head onto the steering wheel. Like shedding

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Okay, so the combination of old ambulance

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ambulance, you know, there's something wrong, he had an accident.

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And she was actually shedding tears.

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She said, No, no, no.

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He said before I shouldn't need to take you to the closest mosque and

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I will say the Shahada

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and then she said for the last two or three days, we do this for 14 days but just two three days was just in my heart and having this you know this in the heart of our goddess places that I need to become Muslim and this is a true thing.

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And he wrote this in the lesson and then he said this is another lesson as well for my wife she was writing to you as well.

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Now imagine this this is if we have sincerity those people who have these thoughts if you have an open mind not skeptical mind not already mind made up by a professor of philosophy at the university has already said this is wrong and that's wrong and evolution and creationism

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as though there is no other way to the truth of course, if you broke your mind from seeking the truth that you will never see the truth. So you have to keep your mind open asking a law for soundness and for your protection from diversity and version.

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Now finally, I was committed and as well as religious

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or just briefly one of the things is that a lot of times people

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have those questions because the questions are so maybe that some people think that happiness in the world why is that what happens in my life

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point number one, since when I was having The Good Wife committed to practicing

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there's no such thing in Islam

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you know, we should be practicing the worshiping Allah for

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Chicken Tikka Masala. You know, this is transacting with this Deen is not we are not supposed to be praying over for

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really over the rules. In the next slide, gentlemen, we are an even that. For some pious people who are very high level even they have a civil, they worship Allah for Allah not even for Jenna, many of

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the even if there was no agenda, I will never just obey your boss.

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Extreme love that's a very high level that even if we can't get to the level

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we want.

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We want the next 150 6070 years is

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the average lifespan right now is about 6065. Any days you get over 65 is

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the lowest and people are dying like every other day every day. It's a short life.

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This life is full of tests and trials.

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order to see or even

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to test you with lots of things you should fear or hope for

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you have financial problems in your life. This is normal. It's you

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dhupia is a mixture of happiness, goodness, and

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hardship. Gender is only one is bliss have protectors is where it's only difficult to hardship. This is a mixture of both and also real happiness you know those people this dhupia

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everyone faces

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imagine our problems anyway compared to the masses. Has anybody ever placed two stones on

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How would you do it?

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eat meat,

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eating, eating, eating, eating, now have

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three questions in the household over

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two months, nothing.

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That's another topic as well, you know, we should try to balance our diets and eating some good to eat too much. And eat too much. Not really good to eat.

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Balancing that, but imagine how much

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he actually says, Who are you are called Regina is not even. You know, when I get fever, I have the pain of fever by the two of you.

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it's about a *load of nursing.

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The most people who are affected most affected most of the cognitive issues of profits.

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So this notion that if I practice that would just take you out of your minds, there is no such thing

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as a wrong understanding of faith at all.

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Why is that?

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here's the message.

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Yes, there will be one thing that will be when you practice you should have wanted which is internal.

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Internal peace is something else. systems we have misunderstood what internal happiness and real happiness is. There's one thing called means of happiness is happiness itself is a massive difference. Having a lot of money is means of happiness. Having a car means of happiness, a nice house means abundance.

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work visa, happiness, happiness, now, you can have all the means of happiness and abundance, and you can have happiness.

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old thing you will see. I have old Amiga happiness, fame, these are happiness, all the many millions

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was singing that all like you know, but there's something missing in my heart when I tend to be

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at peace. And that happens. We don't get that.

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Do you

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have setup celebrities?

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They are depressed. Depression is another problem in our community. Many of them when it comes to drug addicts and alcohol abuse, many of you might know this already, but we're looking at his mind. In his heart what was happening. Many of the cultural crisis points especially when they reach about 3035, many of them crisis they're not they're not happy with life, many of the suicide, they go through mental illness issues. Because of there's no piece of chocolate in the life of

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a guy and the death is unexplained. To

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us, that is not suspicious, but unexplained death is one of those are Football Manager.

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Was it suicide, who knows

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what was going through his mind.

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You might think this person's got so much money, still not happy.

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real happiness is a gamble is given by the law. It's not in how much money you

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got here. So we need to bring this you know, into our lives. And so we do not think practicing of the has to do with having no hardship difficulties. We will hit the hardships that we have not

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following Islam or believe it or not because

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of worldly benefits. That's the whole idea here.

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We are believing in God, because of we want worldly benefits. That is when we start getting afflicted with hardships and difficulties and we leave Islam. So our practice and our formula should not be based on that.

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And finally,

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this final point with a parenting issue, very important, touched upon it briefly,

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especially on it briefly

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about parents and

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cultural issues.

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We live in a time where like I said, young people that were loaded with all these different ideas, divergent ideas is convergence in balance, things about faith, about sexual practices about about the world.

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We are being told and people are being told what you should think and nobody should let you tell you how you think.

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That's what they say. Don't let anyone tell you how

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to actually enforce the idea that no, you think this way. This was happening? You think this way? This is how we should be. Parents have a big responsibility. We have lots of parents here. It starts from a young age. You know, a lot of people they realize that the children have left Islam they left long time ago, but it's too late. My 23 year old daughter has left Islam today. She probably left 30 when she was 13. She never told you from a young age. What did we do? Did we actually contribute as parents for leaving Islam? It's very important issue. Of course, I recently

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we did a one day seminar on parenting from 9am to 5pm.

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For parenting, a whole day seminar.

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It's a big issue. It starts from a young age.

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I said from a young age, if parents are not worried about the the soundness of the children about the EMR.

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And when I say young age, he starts from a young age, it starts from infancy. childhood, he starts from infancy, not even intimacy, sorry, I'm wrong. I made a mistake.

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Then he stopped.

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I was going to go step by step starts from pregnancy before the

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starts before the first write your children have over you is that you choose for them a perfect mother or father.

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We think of ourselves like how will you be in a hotel? How would you how would you

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Coco Coco, there's more to life than cooking right?

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And there's

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so much to

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learn. But

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we are selfish, as long as you know it before your child's birth right? Even before they are born, they have a right over you

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even before they are born, this is an emergent behavior.

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Because carefully select the mother of your future.

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Travel whatever you're going to get the most out of you will receive and get to

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choose their mother or choose a father. Is this person right? Good Enough, enough, appropriate enough to be the father of my children with this man? teach my children Islam and bring the closest

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you know, make them far away from Islam with this woman be a good Muslim or mother.

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If you haven't done that,

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to date, from infancy from pregnancy, we have responsibilities you know when we during pregnancy the age

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that people have to

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practice the way you think the mother is thinking good positively. thinking positively. Or on restriction of a woman during pregnancy even is being instilled and this is scientifically proven as well. Right? This is

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even is being instilled into the heart and the mind of the child. If you are reading that

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We did there are examples of history

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examples in history where young children are three four years old and when they came to the mother some of the chef those thoughts that's not really the already memorized

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recent times in the subcontinent

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they already knew

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how because the mother during pregnancy and breastfeeding everyday

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and they memorized it was the

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child has been breastfed. When you breastfeed even the father though you know how he treats the life of attorneys very, very important email and fake adapter it goes into the mind of the child, you are nourishing the child even

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if during pregnancy has been committed sins have been committed.

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listening to songs and watching movies in Hollywood in Hollywood and whatever whatever

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gets the job done. If you if you're

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breastfeeding your child you're watching Bollywood and good childhood inshallah not each other, maybe turned out to be

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So from that young age, breastfeeding time, young age, from every household should when you have young children instill the man in the hearts not forcefully with

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practicing of the

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stick parents.

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practice yourself what more

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if we pray ourselves

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to my four year old daughter,

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she comes to

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prison credit

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as a primary care to children should grow up to three for parents to

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read, loudly.

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rediscovered azima read religions with

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reflection think about the easy verse to ponder over them, reflect over them have a collective reading at home every day, if not possible at least once a week. Any book is a book

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in the house of mother nowadays.

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Korea, Korea. Now children who's going to look after

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the ps3 and the TV and CBP is the nanny nanny.

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Nanny nanny which is

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no time. We are so busy.

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We are too busy earning the money or we are too busy trying to make a house or not a home.

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Seriously, live in a smaller house if that

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is a problem. I will tell you what. So listen to a radio talk show. They did a research. They went to 20 schools across the country. They surveyed the class questions from eight year olds to 10 year olds, young children. They said can you tell us what makes you the happiest in your life? Is it really that big? We won't buy the toys or games or holidays or nice house a nice car. You know what majority of them said but 87% of young children at schools this was a research radio. The thing that makes us happiest in our life is when the whole family eats a meal together.

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Children a need that connection. Any household with a mother father and everyone in the house coming together one meal families

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can really take time out. We

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will use them before we spend the money for

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connection. You should have a gadget free zone in your house I have 1.5 hours in my house where gadget free zone everyone's mobile phones, mobile phones.

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Everything should be off phone switched off mother's phone, wireless phone, everyone's tablet, everything you've got TV, everything one and a half hours at home. Just keep one second.

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Phone, if there's an emergency call, you know, people don't have a phone anymore. But

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just keep that on if there's nothing, no technology on speak, speak to children, what did they do at school?

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Actually, parents should teach themselves, many, even now mostly researchers and thinkers that said that the education that comes from parents is far more effective. When that comes from other people. I know we need to send them to Madison schools, of course, those experts, but

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I don't know what you're doing. That's wrong. Parents should know that teachers are

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teachers, everyone needs a bit of

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teacher so you've got to

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be protected courses. And

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teachers own children, you need to teach them.

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teach them

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everything I teach you

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correctly. So education, young age, give time to children like that with attention with love with care. Show the goodness of Islam, your level of Islam. And as I'm saying, have a collective reading and reading at least once a week, every Sunday morning, for example. 11 o'clock, Everyone sit together, read a book, everyone has the duty one week you read one week you read son, daughter, brother, sister, mother, father,

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and read together different books,

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different books, remember, sorry, I need Shema a lot.

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You know,

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read them together. If you have a household that parents bring up their children with him on with faith with goodness

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with amazing characteristics and there'll be this love for dealing with the hearts and minds.

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Sorry for going over time. I don't know how long the whole event but these are just as I said in the beginning, I'm just going to talk about some random disjointed points that are talked about on the show.