Where are the Real Men
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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Allah subhanaw taala reward you Mashallah some beautiful faces las panatela you know what Allah Mira
Can I kindly ask that before we start inshallah please no want to be recording so I can already see some of the brothers they're holding their phones trying to hide it please if I can kindly ask inshallah to put your phone away Don't record not audio not visual and I'll tell you why. Because
once your phone starts recording your heart stops recording
and there's no point in your phone benefiting and you and I are not benefiting so please can I kindly ask the brothers to not record inshallah that's the same for the sisters as well my last panel Tyler would you guys as well also end before I start or law yesterday, I didn't get a chance. But I wanted to thank Shahada Salim and brother BIA and the committee of measure the sooner for opening their doors and inviting me May Allah subhanho wa Taala reward them and bless them and put Nora in this machine. This is a it's a beautiful sign when when when doors are opened for my husband for unity. So ask Allah subhana wa Taala to bless the chef's and to bless the brothers that are
Type Slava hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah All praise is due to Allah subhanho wa Taala, the king, the master, the Sustainer, the Creator of the heavens and the earth and we send peace and blessings upon His Beloved Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
There's a lot I want to mention.
And ask Allah subhana wa Taala that he makes it easy.
But I asked for your undivided attention. Please,
please, for your undivided attention.
many of us we come to a talk, please read there's no pictures, please brothers, no pictures, no recording.
Many of us we come to the talk, or you come to a Friday hook by or you come to a lesson.
And there's this sickness way you come to see how will the chef or the speaker or the Imam? How will he entertain me?
or How will he informed me of something.
And therefore you find a lot of times today people go shopping for speakers that they like
this is very, very dangerous, because this will limit
The reality is, whenever a Muslim goes to any gathering,
we should seek in that gathering asking Allah subhanho wa Taala to open our hearts
and you benefit only according to how much you want.
That's why depending on where you are with Allah subhanho wa Taala you will take something from the message. You know sometimes you learn something from the speaker, that the speaker himself had no intention on teaching you.
Sometimes you learn something from a speaker, the speaker himself had no intention on teaching you that particular lesson.
But that was based on your relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala that was based on your hunger, your sincerity. So Allah will teach you things. You know, sometimes Allah will teach you from means that you that you never thought plus, will not sometimes Allah will teach you by watching an animal.
Sometimes just by watching to animals, Allah might teach you a lesson
that you could never find in a book
based on what you want.
So tonight, based on what you want, Allah subhanho wa Taala will give
you see my brothers and sisters.
Every single man
in Arabic, every man is a male.
But not every male is a man.
Every man every regional
But not every male is a man and there's a very big difference between the two.
You see most of us we like to think where men region.
speak to anyone
and tell him whether you are a man or a male.
And instantly you will see a reaction in him. Almost as if brother Are you questioning
My abilities are you questioning my honor and my dignity?
Every man is a male but not every male is a man. You see, being a male, my brothers doesn't make you special.
Being a male doesn't make you special.
Because you are born that way Allah subhanho wa Taala made you male.
And in fact, even there, you know, yesterday, you didn't even have to be born a male yesterday, you didn't even have to be born a male, you could go and get a surgery and become a male.
Today, you don't even need the surgery.
Today, you just have to think
you just have to feel that you are male.
And legally, the law will accept you and protect you and give you the rights as a male, regardless of what you are based on a thought,
based on a feeling.
So being male doesn't make you special, but to be a man
to be a region.
There's no surgery for that my brothers.
There's no hormones for that.
To be a jazz, that's not a feeling that you can claim in your heart and then all of a sudden you become a gel. That's not how it works.
To be a man, that's not something you can get tattooed on your arm.
So many of us we like to. We like to look like we're tough.
We like to present ourselves that wish
to be your agenda for something you can get tattooed.
To be original to be a man You see, look, even in the Quran, whenever something is of importance whenever something is of high regards, Allah subhana wa Taala addresses, region men, whenever it's something general, it's something that is not overly important. Allah says vacher males, distinguishing that there's a big gap between the two. And tonight my brothers I want to ask you an AI. How will you stand in front of a law as a vicar or as a region?
As a worker or as a region? Which one?
You see who determines who is the region? Who
what is the criteria of being a man.
Unfortunately, now our society is pushed by social media.
It's pushed by media movies, entertainment industry is now shaping societies.
And unfortunately, even Muslims practicing Muslims have taken the traits of Jay Hillier and tried to make it Dean.
So if I was to ask anyone, he Brother, what makes a journal?
What makes a man
if we're honest tonight, if we're really honest tonight,
in our society today, where we live, there's a lot of honor and respect and glamour given to the one that knows how to fight.
Have you noticed this? Anyone who knows how to physically handle himself,
anyone who knows how to throw a few punches in our society, this is admired. This is love. This is considered an attribute of our agenda.
That if you know how to fight, this is why now MMA is such a big thing in our community. Boxing is such a big thing in our community wrestling in all of these physical context sports, sports that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam clearly made her own because of the because of the striking of the face. But really deep down we don't care about what the prophet really thinks. We care about what the society think. And now if you don't know how to fight them, brother, you're not considered as a man.
So we have this epidemic now. And trust me, this is not new.
Muslims understand whatever sickness we're going through. It's not new. The Habib the teacher, the master, he came to teach. He came to Cuba, the Society of all of its sicknesses. But unfortunately, we're made to believe that the sooner is 1400 years old, but we're living in a different time in a different place. Now, voila, it's the exact same diseases.
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, please, please, I want you to live this with me. The Prophet walks into the measured one day Salallahu alaihe salam Yes. walks into the masjid and finds the Sahaba wrestling
with the Sahaba do something Haram in the measure all the blennow
so clearly, they were wrestling in the masjid wrestling, not
not striking the face wrestling in the masjid. So he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam walks into the masjid and sees the gathering. You know, I just I just because I have a very strange way of thinking, let me think out loud with you and Allahu Allah. I'm not saying this is Shara of the Hadith. No, these are just my thoughts. You know, sometimes sometimes, you're doing something with your friend. And it's funny between you and him. It's funny. But then someone walks in. And all of a sudden he goes from funny to looking very foolish. Have you ever had that? You know, sometimes you're someone walks in halfway through the joke and doesn't see the jet and then you start or your
a lot of jokes or what an embarrassment. So for Sahaba this is this is how I'm thinking, you know, the Sahaba they're wrestling in the masjid. And then imagine, imagine Rasulullah walks in. So
imagine, imagine the honor of the men
walks into the masjid, and Sahaba are wrestling.
So, me personally, I can't help but think
you know, now, not the Prophet, walking chandeliers, pull up my brother Jeffrey.
You know, in high school, whenever we were doing something that teacher was coming, we had a code word, Asia, Asia, Asia scenario, because he's coming, he's coming, one of the principal newer Asia men, right? Because everyone says it. So imagine now for Sahaba they're wrestling. And now the Prophet sallallahu wasallam walks in. So you can imagine what happens to the companions.
So they Oh,
Then he asks, he says, What are you doing?
Didn't the Prophet know what they're doing?
On this honestly, honestly told me something didn't mean know what they were doing.
He knew exactly what they were doing.
But the Hadith is not just for them. It's for every Muslim to the Day of Judgment.
And they tell you Islam is ancient habibie Islam is contempt, one law, one love custom. Sometimes I will read or hear a hadith or read a verse. And it's like a law said these words in 2019 March. That's how alive the Quran is. People told me it's old.
So he walks in, he sees them wrestling. He says, What are you doing?
Let it go. He walked in. We've stopped wrestling labor.
But he saw he because he's the doctor. He's the teacher. And he's there to cure the sicknesses of societies. So they said you're rasulillah we are.
Then he asks, Why are you wrestling?
Look at the salt now. Now the salt is straight to the wound.
And imagine the Sahaba who's gonna explain why we're wrestling? Who, who's going to explain why we're fooling around.
So they said Dr. rasulillah, we're wrestling to see who of us who amongst us is the
who's the shell Baba.
Has anything changed in 1400 years? Anything changed? Lower lots exactly the same.
They're not doing anything wrong. The law knows that they weren't. But he was worried about something far deeper.
So what does he say?
He said the religion the man amongst you is not the one that can physically put down the other.
Any meathead can do that.
That's not how we determine who the region is.
Imagine how the Sahaba felt.
Imagine when the Prophet is telling him this is not how we determine men.
He said there are a gel amongst you.
Very the man amongst you please, my young brothers, please don't fall for the fitna of the street man.
This deal will
will make a man out of you. The street will only make a thug out of you.
He said the reject amongst you. The man amongst you is the one who went and we'll see by when a calamity happens.
He can control his anger and his wrath. He can control his patient. This is the man
go to the UFC gym and tell him this.
Brothers are spending hours hours and it's fine. Tonight I'm not mentioning anything about halal and haram so don't come and say look one of the brother was saying it's halal and haram please my brother's halal and haram This is kindergarten language, kindergarten language we need to develop we need to move on.
We need to start having a deeper relationship with Allah. This halal and haram this is the this is for babies kindergarten
Are you did good to me give you a sticker. Or you did bad you should get a timeout. This is halal and haram Unfortunately, no no deeper. The Prophet is telling them the depth. This is not the man the man is when something before he is what he controls. Try this. Try it. I challenge everyone in the try it see how difficult it is. Understand why when Allah mentions that a gel? There's other energy behind the word. Try we say meant anyone.
Anyone that can throw some punches. Yeah, he's a man. So we have another epidemic. You might tell me Nanana bruh you don't have to physically fight? What's the other epidemic we have in our community in our society? How do we determine who's that a gel?
How big is the river?
We have a steroids epidemic now Muslims Muslims, Muslims, the Allah steroid then asked me halal and haram but the sickness the sickness Have you ever heard of the sickness called the small man syndrome? Have you ever heard of this? Small man syndrome?
No, you've never heard small man syndrome is the small guy who feels like all the bigger guys never take him seriously. So he starts doing things that are out of his character in order to show them the look on the man as well. They call this one
small man syndrome and custom by Allah 99% of brothers on steroids. It's all small man syndrome. It's insecurities in the heart.
That if Iran look intimidating
if Iran look physically stronger muscley
so brothers will be pinched you know who benchpress 100 120 a bench pressing? He'll benchpress amazing weight and it's recorded and snapchatted but the same brother cannot lift the blink of a joke
I was in the gym
the set one way the same brother yet can lift up a blank
we have a steroids epidemic steroids now. Everyone's watching. And you know what's funny? You know, it's funny.
Everyone's on steroids, but no one says it. And we're supposed to all act like okay, you know because you're not saying it and I'm not saying it so therefore it's not happening.
I see a brother today is a pencil neck. He leaves six weeks later he's got muscles on his ears and he's knows something in Brava Nia tabarka la la Akbar How did you get so muscley so he's so now so now he's trying to convince me you know because I'm the fat one and therefore I don't you know clearly are and understand the gym, but
I've been eating go Habibi. What are you eating? Yeah, what would you what do you what are you eating that muscles on your ears and your nose brother? Tommy Tommy out now what you know you know you know brother I've been eating tuna and rice.
Something you brother will have been eating tuna and rice too. But how come?
So we're all in denial when the Mio small man syndrome to look big to look intimidating. This makes me a man in the community.
Just before summer comes down everyone hits the gym. Why? So when it's a hot day and I go to the gym, and I go to the beach at Bondi and I look how shallow we'll become
will lie. It's embarrassing.
But this is not new. This is not new.
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam please please leave this with me bro. The Prophet is working in Medina imagine walking in Medina and he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he sees the companions that they have gathered around the tree
but you know these stories they they
then you wish you with a
what a time man
so he sees them gathered around the tree so he goes through the trees on the low values and
then when he gets there he notices Abdullah ignoramus road ever heard of this name of the love? Demas road
yahara mala this
brothers told me brother I don't know what to name my son while I want to rip my hair out when people told me this
so he comes to the companions and they've gathered around a tree imagine imagine
so he comes to the tree
and he notices Abdullah evening
hanging off the tree what happened was
there was dates on the tree so but so how about I said who's going to climb the palm tree and get us the dates
of the lovely mushroom wasn't a very big guy. In fact he was the opposite was very skinny
and he was very like he was very active is very feet
sub The law says look out climb the tree and I'll get the dates now you need to leave this with me
it was very common fashion for the Sahaba that they used to wear the Louie you know the the Louie that what what's
the izhar is or is it
yeah like that skirt?
Right here a lot like the one that have this was very common fashion for those who have a very very common in fact many of them This was all that they would and don't think that the or it's like today Wallah they had these noise Under Armour boxer shorts under them Nananana No, they wore these are Habibi. There was nothing under there. Nothing under there. So when they set up the law, every muscle you climb the tree and get us the dates of the law had to lift his izhar up to you and in order to climb the tree.
So when you're down there, and haraam, he's a VA.
They were seeing a bit more than what was intended.
So what they were laughing and giggling.
So the Prophet came sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he said to them, What are you laughing at? Remember, remember that sometimes you're laughing It's funny, but when someone asks you, brother, What are you laughing at?
It's hard to explain. So therefore the laughter is taken away and then it becomes very awkward.
He said, What are you laughing?
What do you have to tell the Prophet of Allah?
what a time man.
So he looks at the tree and he finds out the law.
He said, Are you laughing at Abdullah's legs?
They said yes. Oh prophet of Allah. Look how skinny they are.
He said I swear by Allah, the legs that you're laughing at are heavier than the mountain of God in the eyes of Allah
not determined by steroids
not determined by their ability to bully other people.
But qualities so you might Toby Nanana brother look this is the new age rather it's not about physically fighting and it's not about being physically big but in our hearts what determines who the regime is
we're obsessed with this
so there's always a brother tells me the brother stuff or law
we either love money
yeah cuz Zeb you lie ever.
Not because I'm calling you a liar? Nah, nah Allah Allah Allah. Allah says in the Quran what to hate Boone el mela Hoban
law says you know, it's not that you like money. No, no, no, it's deeper. A law doesn't say you like money. A law says you have been driven to the state of possession.
You know when someone's possessed your love for money has made you possessed? What to hate bonell Mela obon
so who's speaking the truth a lot or you?
sedan Tell me brother IRA love money.
Law says you love it
the one that has money
today if you have money one way you can take the spot of the share
tobacco law a $50,000 at our last fundraising dinner. Yeah, so inshallah he's going to be leading the prayer for the next week.
We love money, we honor money, we the money as a job, but I provide brother
I I provide brother.
I've had grown men come to me and tell me, brother, my son has brought me great shame. My son has brought our family great humiliation. Some thinking allow a barista to redo the redo Xena and he had a baby a great shame to the family.
it's awkward. What did he do? It's just me brother. He's 30 years old, he still hasn't bought a house.
This is deep down in our hearts.
So our ability my ability to make money determines how much of a residual I am.
I asked you sincerely don't answer.
Don't answer rhetorical question.
The Prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
by the standards that we live in today.
Is he a man or not? The answer?
By the standards that we live in today is here a gel or not?
What a dilemma.
What an awkward position we've just been cornered into.
Try the sister tells me I wish I was married to the Prophet solo. But sister please Carmela logistik down in sha Allah and stay on your Facebook please.
Or he she wishes she was married to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He says this is this is all wishful thinking, you know?
My ability to make money determines how much of a regime well I am the prophets Allah Allahu Allah. Ayesha Chateau de la talana authentic narration in Bukhari, eyeshadow de la talana. And please don't misunderstand what I'm about to say. What I'm about to say doesn't mean that we have to intentionally be poor.
No, that's not what I'm saying. No, but this idea that being rich will bring me success, that being rich will make me a man, this is a sickness, because your risk is something that was determined by a law.
So don't question that because when you question your worth,
you're questioning Allah. And Allah says in the Hadith, that are my slave, if you're not happy with what I've bestowed upon you, if I'm not happy, if you're not happy with the list that I've determined for you and the situations that you're in a law says in the Hadith, then go find the rub other than me and worship Him.
Ayesha is telling her nephew.
In the authentic narration, she says to me, I'm
the son of my sister. She says, I swear by Allah, we used to see the moon, then the full moon, then the full moon, the sister that wants to you know, you know, the sister that wishes she was married to the Prophet. I hope you're listening. I hope you're listening. today. The sister complains by husband hasn't taken me out to dinner in two weeks. He's a behavior that is a bit hazy, Alicia.
It's been two weeks we haven't gone to dinner. But oh my god, I would love to be married to the Prophet. Isaiah is telling her nephew. We used to see the moon and the full moon and the full moon. two consecutive months, 60 days. 60 days would go by and there would be no cooking and no boiling, no flames, no cooking and no boiling. In any of the nine houses of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
is here to share or not? Don't answer.
Please don't answer. Don't embarrass yourself.
two consecutive months.
No cooking and no boiling
is really a man or not
looking at the dilemmas that we live in,
when deed is no longer
the measuring stick when deed and unwind is profit are no longer the ones who dictate when social media and public perception is what drives us. Look at the calamities.
I've seen people, they struggle with the battle. What do you have maybe one more person in the huddle? It's not me.
But we pick and choose what we want from the team. We try to make the 21st century we tried to make a slam that look Yeah, with all of the Habib is a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, This Deen started strange, and it will return to being strange, so glad tidings to the strangers. Yet every single one of us is trying to be exactly like everyone else. My dress is like the non Muslim by food is like the non Muslim. my schooling is like the non Muslim. My appearance is like the non Muslim. My house is exactly like the non Muslims, my dreams and my ambitions of owning a house and taking my family on holiday at the end of the day, and driving. every ounce of my body's ambition is
exactly like the non Muslim. My name was Muhammad I changed it to Moe. My name was Mustafa. I changed it to Steve every every ounce of me is dripping not Muslim brother humble llama Muslim.
The Prophet says glad tidings honey and honey and
honestly, who feels like a stranger? Who
you walk into any restaurant Hillel not Hillel is a Allah coloration below God rather we deep down in our hearts way, way. way. So Oh, I couldn't believe he is young couldn't believe his ears. So he says oh my auntie
my auntie. Too much no cooking, no boiling.
How did you survive?
She said to him elsewhere then. as temporary Walmart dates and water is all we had for two consecutive months. That's all we ate.
Where's this sooner?
No, that's not sooner. Brother. This was roof roof. The profit went through difficulties. Salalah values. Look at Look how sick we are. Not only look, you know what, it's one thing when the brother says we listen, I have an addiction. And I'm trying to deal with my addiction. While law he I will appreciate it. Look, the man knows he has a problem. No, but I have an addiction. And I'm in denial about my addiction. And I tried to use DNA to justify my actions.
Isn't that interesting?
So you might tell me look bruh you know, maybe the Prophet was going through hard times. On his deathbed on his deathbed sama Allahu alayhi wa sallam. He was going through Sakura tamale conscious unconscious in and out, in and out.
So he lost consciousness. Ayesha Is there a lot Alana then he wakes up?
Then he says to her authentic narrations. He says to her Isha magian I wish I was 18 years old when the Prophet died.
How old was she
18. And a law called her and the others in the Quran. Allah called them on mahat meaning the mothers of the believers meaning they have become haram on every man and he wants the Prophet dies Allah Allah says no one can re marry her.
At in a world and in a society where the man was everything.
Imagine this 18 year old is watching her husband die
at the age and she has her whole life that now she knows I'm gonna be alone. I can never remarry after him.
So he wakes up from his
you know, he was unconscious.
how much money do we have?
This one, no one talks about? shaft please may put these stories behind. Let's speak about investments and stocks and let's speak about buying houses brother
because in our hearts We believe that honor that money will restore the honor of Islam the Irish
so she says from our Prophet of Allah all that we have seven gold coins
imagine a man with nine wives
Is he a man or not? By the standards that we live in please don't answer don't embarrass yourself. Don't be a hypocrite
by the standards that we live in is he a man or not?
tribe others have paid off the houses paid off
and he's working to pay off the second and the third because brother I need to leave something for my children by the
exhausting his life.
The halal haram I don't care about halal and haram but tell me told me when the Prophet was dying and there were seven gold coins between nine wives. Is he a man Sister Sister another one? I wish I was married to him.
What Chanel handbag was he gonna buy you with seven gold coins to me man?
What hair and makeup studio? Were you gonna go to on a fortnightly basis? Tell me
what restaurant where you're going to be fine dining in Tell me tell me.
So he says to Ayesha
take the seven gold coins and give them in charity now.
See the sicknesses my brothers? Just try this. Just try this. Get over share. Get over share.
Tell him look share. There's a religious brother. Don't tell him the profit because we've been programmed. We've become professional liars. My brother's professional professional.
You know, some some some brothers, brother when you say the name of Rasulullah I get chills in my spine solimar who Allah Subhana Allah His name. It does something to me, you know.
And you look at him from top to bottom. There's not an ounce of rasulillah on him. Some of us
just one line. Just try it go to a chef and a missing chef. There's a brother we know he has a big bead. He's dying and he's leaving his family with nothing What do you think share?
What then is this? What is this? What understanding is this? This is extreme weather this is then tell him the perfect left mine wives with nothing.
But he left them with something far deeper. He left them with Eman and tawheed and belief in a law.
So he loses consciousness. Then he wakes up and he says to Ayesha Ayesha, what did you do with the seven gold coins?
seven golden years Lola leave a man let him be
18 years old she's alone her army and he leaves her Hello seven gold coins? They're not gonna make her rich. No, it's
no but there's something far deeper.
So she says our Prophet of Allah
our mother man
she said I held on to them I didn't give him away in charity.
he says to her Isha Do you want me to die and stand in front of a loved one? I still own something from this dunya
Is this how you want me to stand in front of Allah hi Isha.
what's what's going on?
My brother's who's the regenda?
Who is the band?
So you might think look, brother, that's that's better. That's
a loss. No.
Buhari the Diwan of Rasulullah.
made the list of the family that had etc Buhari
Yeah, make the list of the family, not just Mohammed, Mohammed and his family for Lola, make the list and the provisions of Muhammad and his family.
I challenge you to make this
one more if the man made this, he would throw a shoe at him from the back.
Because in our hearts, in the sicknesses of our society, a man is determined by his money.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sitting One day, he was like, you know, for me, yeah, just drives me crazy. You know? Like, you know, when we say, the prophet was sitting with gibreel
you know, it's like, brothers are sitting there and just hearing like, have you ever thought about that?
You know, sometimes you meet a celebrity, you don't know who to show off to. You don't know how many photos you can take from what angle? So you can share with the world that I had a moment with Boolean or Boolean and this celebrity or that single this actor.
I'm telling you, the prophet was kicking back seeding them with Jupiter.
What was that gathering? Like? What were they talking about?
And all of a sudden,
the heavens start shaking.
And Jabri goes to
Jabri becomes shock.
So imagine our rasulillah sees jabril skate
and an angel comes to the profit of a lot while gibreel is with him.
But what was happening to the profit then what what what?
Like, you know, if you've got jabril next to you,
bro, is with me.
But when you breed becomes scared,
what happens to you?
And then an angel came
and said to the prophet of a law
Do you wish to be a king? prophet?
Or do you wish to be a slave prophet?
Come Tell me about our ever Brother, you know, that was the proper and you know, like you went through tough times, and and and
did he have the choice or not?
What do you sleep? Did the Prophet have the choice? Or the angel is telling him? Do you want to be a king, Prophet, or a slave but yet he is still a prophet.
The power to be taken away from you? Do you wish to be a king prophet? Or a slave prophet?
sallallahu wasallam looks at jabril.
take the slave.
Be happy to be the slave
good advice or bad advice?
Can you see the dilemmas we're in?
By the year the theory says it's good advice.
But the practice says now very bad advice.
You're not my brother's
is not determined by his ability to fight or his physical this. That's not our agenda is determined.
A real man my brothers and we'll live we can speak for hours and I'm not going to cover what makes a real man. There's a lot to cover.
But for me, above all, above all,
a religion a real man
is realistic and down to earth and understands
that you can't have the pie and eat it too.
Have you heard this saying? It's an English saying they say you can't have the pie and eat it too. Yeah, and he can't have everything, brother.
Were trying to have everything.
One of the elements said that the difference between us and the Sahaba you know what the difference between us and the Sahaba was? He said they only wanted agenda. That's all they wanted. We also want gentlemen, see difference.
They only wanted agenda. We, we also want to
see what's happening.
You see, a real man is realistic, a real man is realistic. A real man knows and understands that if I'm gonna be a JD l see to be a man. Like I said, it's not a taboo. It's not something you get to be a regime. These are decisions you have to make the sacrifices you have to take. And these are, this is a lifestyle.
It's a lifestyle
that you have to live.
And a real man in a real shell understands that if I'm gonna be a man, I can't be anything else with it. It's either a man or something else. Where am I going with this? A real man is realistic. He understands that when I get married, or when I have children, that when I take on a job, that when I give by word when I make a commitment, there are sacrifices that have to be made.
You see today, we're not men were boys. Were little boys that are stuck in big bodies. That's what we are my brothers were lucky Forgive me. But I gotta be honest here tonight. We are little boys that are stuck in big bodies. We like to think women. We like to think when men but when you go by the criteria of Allah and His Prophet, we're very far from it. And he's he's exactly what I'm saying about being realistic. You see,
everyone, he everyone, he
will have women.
Or at least I like to think you like women. Chela, you're like women. Yeah. Shall
we all like women? Who doesn't like women?
woman makes your heart dance for
me if I see a woman on gone for six gone for six. Hello. So I know. I know. We love women.
But no one wants to be married.
Have you noticed?
We love the idea of being with a woman who doesn't like the idea. We love women.
But no one loves to be married.
Ah, the commitments of being married. the sacrifices of being married. The challenges and the difficulties of being married is something
that we don't, we're boys. We love women, but no one wants to be married.
That's why Xena is widespread. That's why brothers now they're getting married on the darkies in secret. You know these? You know these secret marriages. The brother comes to tell me brother Tyler law Please sit down. Sit down. Stop trying to play with the dean. Stop trying to play with the dean.
Brothers are getting married to sisters with no, no one. No one. No one there to represent. No one day to do to acknowledge no one that nothing. Nothing but a phone call text messages. But this repeats the many women in secrets. Why? Boys? He thinks he's
a little boy with hormones. That's why you are any different to me. You're not really different. Everybody who has the size and has shower, but the difference is being a man or being a male being a boy. Anyone can get by with my brothers. Anyone can sleep with someone but a real man a real Rachelle my young brothers. He gets married
and understands that in marriage.
It's not all rainbows and lollipops. Its difficulties. Yeah, there's good times, no doubt.
But this hardship and that's why it's half your deen. It's half your faith.
Little boys. We love women, but we don't like to be married. We love kids. Have you noticed? I love kids. Yeah.
We love kids.
But no one wants to be a father.
mean be a father, we mean be a father. You know why? Because in the sixth society here, the same society that says this is a jail, the same society that says this is the man, the same society that says, brother, this is the bad. That's the same society that doesn't praise fatherhood.
We love kids. Everyone loves kids. But no one likes to be a father man.
That's why most of our so called men, you know, the little boys that are stuck in big bodies. He's married, married with kids, and one life custom by Allah three, four, sometimes five days a week. He's hanging out with his mates in cafes until 910 o'clock at night, bro. While his wife and his kids are at home waiting. Is that hard? I'm not saying it's wrong. Remember what I said in the beginning?
This is kindergarten language. But your wife is waiting. Your kids are home and wait 2345 days a week. He's hanging out in cafes.
I see brothers with beads hanging out at cafes on the corner sitting looking at women as they go and come
back because he has a total and there's two three of them. There he's a man.
We love kids. But no one wants to be a father. Don't you ever think my brother that having a child makes you a father? That you think that having a child makes you a man when he Forgive me with all respect and all honor and all rights? You know the bug the girl? The girl? The animal? The dog sometimes has a puppy puppies in one lira. Does that make him a man?
Does that make him a man? No, it doesn't make him a man. Yeah, ability to have children doesn't make you a man. Your ability to raise those children. Your ability to father those children. That's what makes you a man.
We love money.
But no one wants to.
No one wants to work right?
We love money.
But no one wants to how much time do I have?
Is that then now?
12 minutes for the iqama
are 12 minutes for then.
We love We love What? Please my young brothers, please.
Tonight's talk is very important for you and I man.
We love money.
But no one wants to
know one wants to work for. That's why drug dealing. And being a runner is so appealing to the young boy. Why? Because he's 16 years old. He's gonna earn 200 maybe $250 a day as a runner. Yeah. And he starts off on $250 a day. straightaway. He's earning more money than his father is. So he's 16 his father's 40 something and he's earning more money. So now it doesn't matter that it's haram income. Doesn't matter that this is a lot of money. Doesn't matter that this is gonna earn the Wrath of Allah subhanho wa Taala because all he sees is what in front of him is money. And the very society in which he lives in is driven by money. And so wherever he goes, it's all designer labels and
designer names and bad names. So this poor kid he's thinking he's doing the maths, he's thinking about the washer. So we all love money, but no one wants to work.
Today the brother is 2025 I know brothers that are 30 he's telling me brother I want to retire by the time I'm 35 retired
and I'm kicking back and I wish one now I wish he wants to retire at 35 say he can dedicate his life.
He wants to retire so he can indulge in dunya till the day he dies. Because work is taking him away from his love his real love dunya cafes and restaurants, fishing trips, fishing trips.
Holidays vacations weekends.
See a real man understands Abubakar of the law when he was the emilian when he was the halifa he went outside and went to the market to earn his villa.
Even in old age, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
vied with debt.
So, what's happening here? We all love Allah. Have you noticed when I go to the junkie, go to a prostitute? Go to a brother who's a murderer till brother Do you love Allah?
Everyone loves Allah.
But no one wants Dean
no one wants Dean.
But how can you love a law?
Not have Dean. No, no no. Chanel is the Sikh culture. Have you noticed this culture? But you don't know what's in my heart. My Eman is in my heart brother. My relationship with Allah is in my chanel this idea of the heart
It's very poisonous. Why? Because it comes through brother Do you know what's in the heart? No, I don't know what you know. But really, he's hiding his he's hiding his hypocrisy with this. So yes, everyone loves the law.
But no one wants the
everyone loves Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam brother Please brother please when you say his name brother.
Everyone claims they love the Prophet.
But no one wants his Sunnah
remaini sooner either on the floor.
Eat with your fingers. Grow a bead.
Live simple lives.
What's that brother?
We love Rasool Allah we sing his songs and who parade and we'll have big protests when something happens are we show
but no one wants his son.
We love gender. We love gender.
But no one wants to die.
Have you heard when someone gets cancer?
Did you think you can live forever?
What do you
we love gender.
But no one wants to
know who wants to buy you?
Tell me my brothers. Is this the quality of a man?
This is not the quality of it.
It's not the quantity of a man.
A man is realistic.
A man is realistic.
A man is honorable.
You know what this oma is suffering from my brothers.
Trust me, it's not knowledge.
lm is ocean books, books apps will let you jump on YouTube hours and hours and hours of talks and bands and hot baths and classes and knowledge is there it's abundant. What is this Omar suffering from more than anything?
The biggest disease the biggest sickness of the Muslims the
the biggest calamity in the mud. You know what it really is?
And you know who suffers the most when there's no men?
You know who suffers the most
women and children.
With this notary journal, who suffers?
In English, they say in English, they say when the cat's away.
Guess who come to play?
when the cat's away? There's no cat.
When there's not a journal when there's no man, when the cat's away who comes to play?
The rats and the mice? No men, rats and mice look at our societies.
When there's no
one law when there is no men, you know, any man wants any man True story. I hope this is my knees and he meant once you he was narrating his story. Please don't lie. I will wrap it up but just stay with me. These are the last very important moments, events at once.
He was preparing for Friday. He said, so I'm sitting in my office and I'm trying to prepare my football. He said that my son he was four or five years old drama was sneakily driving me crazy, man. Every time I put pen to paper, he jumps on me and once the plays a little boy, so the sheriff is thinking he's thinking, you know, look, your life is driving me crazy. Remember, but to be a man is to be a father also. So for us, we will do our give him an iPad, get him off your back. Yeah, this is the father now. This is the 21st century father. Yeah. Give him an iPad, get him off your back. So the chef is saying, Man, look, I need this kid off my back. I need to prepare my hood. But
how do I engage the kid give him something constructive. So the chef was saying the meme says he says I had a magazine. I'm flicking through the magazine. And I found the picture of the of the world, a globe was a picture of the globe. So the chef said, Look, let me rip this page out. And I'll cut it into a little puzzle. I'll cut the country's in two pieces. And I'll give it to the boy and I'll tell him to put it together. He's thinking this will give me and this will keep him busy, at least for an hour. Get him off my back. He said I kept the picture. I gave it to my son. I said to my son, listen, put the world put the world together. So the man said the boy took her I'm
thinking her finally now I can gather my thoughts and put the hook back together. He said within a few minutes, a few minutes, the boy was back in the world was put together.
So the chef's thinking llama Anna,
my son a genius. He says he's a little boy. Santa chef says he says my son Allahu Allah. How did you know where you rupees and the Americas and the Africans and
the kid doesn't go to school? How did you know?
You said to our father, and I don't know.
You said so how did you put the world together?
He said that on the other side of the picture, there's a picture of a man.
So put the arms together and the legs together and the head together.
So the man said what he said so Pamela, you gave me my topic. When men comes together, the world comes together. But custom by Allah as long as man is destroyed, this world will always be destroyed.
region who suffers the most? When the cat's away?
The mice will play
brothers come to me all the time. And I'm going to wrap up with this and I'll try to brothers come to me all the time. And they told me brother are women of our who act by our sisters, our beloved brother, what's this? What's this? And women have become ruthless they there's there's no more higher, there's no more. You know, women are wearing whatever they want and they're carrying on and and you know what? What law what law? I genuinely I agree. Genuinely, I agree. And what I'm saying outside this is ridiculous.
But then I'm thinking to myself, okay, so now Who do you address?
address? have women lost their ways? Absolutely.
You know, the other not the other day, but a while back, I was driving. This is a true story.
I was driving here
and I was in Grenada.
What's that street code? Man? You know, the one that's in front of Mr. Sharma that this so Waterloo road and then there's
makes a Waterloo yet. So, so I'm on banksia and I'm coming to Waterloo. And it's a left turn. I'm sorry.
There's no right turn. You can only turn left. And there's a sign as big as your head right there in front of you know, right on.
So I come and I want to turn left. But there's a system in front of me about a kilometer system, bro. Yeah, have you been? So there's a sister there. She's in front of me. Yeah, she's wearing her nice scarf and her makeup and her claw nails and, and the music's on and she's got the window down. I'm thinking yeah, Habibi.
Look at this honor. Anyways, Honey, I'm standing there. And guess what she's doing?
She's got her blinker to turn right.
My right turn. Why is this a sign like this?
So I'm thinking then, you know, and I'm looking like this. What do you do?
Right, you know?
But in my heart, Bernie on Bernie.
I'm waiting, waiting, waiting. A couple of minutes now. You can't turn right. Like it's a very busy right. That's why there's another right turn. So I'm thinking you know, you know, I was looking like this, you know, if I beat the whole Yeah, it's very difficult, man. Anyway, after a few minutes, remember what the rationale is? He can control himself. Well, obviously I couldn't control myself.
So I was very, very sensitive.
I'm thinking, you know, I left the boys see me. So I will
be like, yeah, and he she didn't know I touched the whole
palace Barbara left.
As soon as she heard the horn,
she looked at the rearview mirror like this.
She put her window down and said, Whoa,
whoa, thank you.
She wants to punch on
the women, so the brothers are complaining. But I look at our women look at our women. That was the way they lost their way. And I say, Well, it's true. But tell me something Who do you blame? Who do you hold responsible? Because in one token, yes. And women, unfortunately have lost their way. But they look at the men. Look at the men the same brother that's telling me brother, look, you know, women are out of control. This is the same brother who takes a photo with his wife while his wife is in a job with a red lipstick and her eyelashes are better color. He'll take a picture with her. She's smiling and he's smiling. And then he puts it on his WhatsApp profile that says this is his
Somehow every guy that has his phone number when he's sitting in the toilet, flicking through his phone, he has exclusive access to his wife.
And he's smiling.
Where's the honor wisdom? So yeah, you don't know it's very easy to look at the cipher by remember when the cat's away. Yes, you come to play this by men were the men in the society. I had a brother once I had a brother. He came to me with his wife. A brother came with his wife gave me Salaam and I'm thinking this is awkward, bro. This is against the law. I must
say comes up to me. He gave me Salaam
Alaikum. I'm thinking this is awkward. And then it gets me a brother. This is my wife. I'm thinking like So Michael. So she puts her hand there she gets
some sequelae on it. Do I hit you first or do I hit by your husband? Or do I just do a clothesline and just knock out the both of you?
He's standing there.
One more it's not because he's bad. One more. It's not because he's an evil person. But because there's no men in our society. The very concept of honor and honor has been lost.
It's been lost you know a lot of my brother's one men, and please stay with me. This is why I'm telling you anything that we're suffering from the most is the lack of regional one man that's only took it took one religion on top one men came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam while he was in Medina, please understand why this is important. My brother's one men. One region. That's all we need one the gel one. That's all. He comes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and system of Prophet of Allah.
I don't feel I don't feel that it is right. There are men and women can mix in the streets and see each other. I don't think this is befitting.
So the next day the next day, this is a man not a prophet. The next day alone brings down
making hijab compulsory until the day of judgment.
That's all it took.
How about women lost their way? Absolutely. Absolutely. But who do you blame? Who do you blame?
Who do you blame? The sister that's leaving the house looking the way she looks? Where's your father? Where's Bravo.
They're busy fishing, bro. They busy at cafes.
They busy chasing other women.
Like little boys. So yeah, bro. And women lose their ways. Stop laughing. Stop plotting. So what are women they lose their ways. Honor honor just just on average.
It's not there.
But what are you trying to say? You're not in wallonie karbonn Sutra. What's this? You know is this again again? This is this.
Just raise your hand. Raise your hand as a man as an honorable person. Where's your dignity? The purpose
Someone was sitting with two of his wives was sitting with two of his wives today today, when we have barbecues, my wife and your wife and his wife and the Allied, we're all together.
And when my brothers are sitting, having dinner having dinner, him and his wife and me and my wife, and I'm talking to his wife, and he's talking tomorrow, and he's laughing, and we're laughing and giggling, and this is this is considered as What?
Come on, man, what's the gills upstairs? Well, this is backwards. This is backwards in our hearts, man. And I thought that it's backwards. If there was a single region or just one region, you will know he would never ask, Is this true? No. He would never ask, but is this appropriate or not? as a judge the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam zero Jelena
done? Please don't answer that he bounced yourself. The perfect is here is Jelena.
I see Michelle, shaking hands with women.
Maha burns, the perfect city with two of his wives. Two of his wives is sitting there Salallahu alaihe salam
someone knocks the door
with the salon.
So the profit goes to chick.
It was at the library mother room, you know, the man is so happy he was blind. You know? So what's the blind man that came up to him? He was the
The man's blind.
So he gets up and he sees the law.
And he says to his wives up the lies on the door. Stand up the both of you and go behind the sutra go behind the veil.
So they said a prophet of Allah have the last blind he can see us
he said yes.
But you're not blind you can see him So get up and go behind the veil.
To your father this will lie he will slap you slap your chef who slept the measure that you go to buy the What's this backwards thinking?
Please please the Prophet of Allah and this one live with all other than respect of the loved him you know i i really don't imagine Abdullah being anywhere near as handsome as the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, so really, there's no threat. And when you're married to the Prophet of Allah, you're gonna look at anyone in any way.
a real man has higher.
Every man has bashfulness Today our women don't possess hire.
the men of the men of hire. You know, just to understand the English language, the whole English language.
The whole English language doesn't have a single word, not challenge, not a single word. To translate the word higher.
That speaks volumes about its society's
highest comes from the word life. All I might say whoever doesn't have higher he might as well be dead.
I hope the sisters are listening today. It's all about the platform. The platform
will know shocking to me when
a shark came to me and said me Baba, how come you don't have sisters in your videos?
How come? How come you don't have sisters in your videos?
Like what? Are you really asking me this? You said yes. Yes. We have a problem. What's the problem? You want me to put a sister in the video? You said Yes brother. Could you give me your wife to put her into my video?
Come on, give me
give me I can see and talk to her. She talks to me and I laugh and she laughs and we give when she giggles and then once the camera goes off, I have a coffee with her. She has a coffee
is higher, higher higher. The prophets Allah and I'm ending with this. With this, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is sitting down, sitting with his wife Ayesha in his house.
And the narration says that something of his leg was showing, you know, he's at home is with his wife. There's no one there. So he was sitting in a relaxed state. So something of his leg I'm not sure exactly something from his leg was showing.
someone knocks the door.
So the Prophet says, I shall see who it is. So she goes and she sees, she says to my prophet of Allah, it's my father Abu Bakr.
He says to I shall tell him to come in. And the Prophet stayed exactly as he was. Some time later.
The Prophet says, I shall go see you what is on the door.
So she goes,
she says from a prophet of Allah.
What a house. Imagine when the people knocking your door these men
say sister, Ayesha, tell him tell him
and he stayed as he was. Some time later.
She says to my prophet of Allah, it's off man.
So the Prophet stood up.
The Prophet stood
and fixed his posture,
fix these clothes,
etc. I shall tell him to come in.
The greatest scholar of Islam was Ayesha.
When they left
she said a prophet of Allah my father walked in, you stayed. Omar walked in, you stayed? Why when a man walked in, he stood up and he fixed your posture.
He said, Why
should I not be shy of a man whom even the angels are shy of?
A few. If you stay reserved by the you're not a man a real man is loud is noisy. his, his his.
We need to restore men. This oma is suffering from a lack of men, my brothers
ask yourself tonight
are you a varchar? Are you a man? Are you a male?
We ask Allah subhanaw taala to make us men.
Men whom he's pleased with men whom revive this man. Just Aquila heightens on semantical on my behalf because shadow Laila elantas