Muhammad Al Bizry – Hadeeth – Episode 19

Muhammad Al Bizry
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The speakers discuss various strategies used by the mind to deal with anger, including divorce, using words and phrases to settle things down, and using adware and language to avoid unnecessary embarrassment. They stress the importance of taking one's own actions and avoiding harms, and emphasize the need for individuals to be in agreement with the Prophet and not resort to abnormal actions. The sharia is also discussed, including the importance of avoiding anger and not resorting to abnormal actions.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. While earlier he was talking to a woman, about well to Hadith 16

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M's Hadith where a man came to the messenger Allahu salatu salam, and he asked him oseni give me long lasting advice. And he said that. And he repeated this three times. So this is how the 16 we're going to look at it. general way first, and then we're going to look at why the profile is so slim said this, when there's other pieces of advice that are for far more comprehensive, then we're going to look at what does it mean don't get angry? Does it mean don't have this emotion at all? Get this emotion out of your system completely never get angry? Or does it mean don't act upon your anger?

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What does it mean both. And then we're going to look at medicine, y equals ceramah. Then we're going to look at Doa, which is medicine, for anger. There are many types of ways you can prevent getting angry and treated. We're going to look at that. There's the word coli, which is a verbal type of medicine. There's the word fear D, which is an action, something that you act upon to try and treat anger. We're going to look at that as well. And then finally, what about praiseworthy anger? Is there such a thing? Can you get angry for the right reason? We're going to look at that as well. So first and foremost is Hadith and Be Heard or the Allahu anhu and Roger and Pauline Nabi sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam. oseni con la,

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Florida Mira, Paula Taka roll Buhari. A Valera narrates that a man came to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, and he said oseni translated usually as give me advice. However, that would have been, and suddenly suddenly means give me Let's see how he said oseni. What's the difference?

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was senior as weather with oseni k from also our UC in Arabic is to give our senior and I will see ya is not just advice. It's not see how Yes, but it's something added on top of that. And that is it's a long lasting advice. It's something that you can apply for the rest of your life. It's like a universal principle that will always help you in all cases, because I will see you is also used for a testament and a will, for the final was senior is like a final will. It's like a final piece of advice. And that's why if a person's on their deathbed, what are they give to the kids that give them more senior, not just the will not just the meat off in the inheritance. But like a final

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testament, a final piece of advice that is long lasting. So we'll see you includes two, but we'll see you includes the naziha, which is an advice and also includes the will CEO, which is long lasting, long lasting. So he asked him give me this long lasting peace advice, the profile Switzerland says

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don't get angry.

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And he asked this repetitively. And the profile is excellent kept saying laptop laptop, or the mirror on mirror means many times and some of the narrations you find these three times. So he repeated this question. And he got the same answer. So Pamela,

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although the profile of Switzerland could have given him other pieces of advice, great opportunity, three questions, three different answers, but no, three questions, the same response every time to show us how important it is not to get angry, or at least if you do get angry, don't let anger paralyze the brain to the extent where you don't even know what you're doing. You don't know what you're saying, because that's what it does. It paralyzes the brain, and it shuts it down like a computer and you do things and you say things you will regret later on. So therefore, if you do get angry, don't get it to a stage where you're acting upon the anger and it's what we're going to get

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into in a moment.

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So that's the Hadith in a nutshell.

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Now, you're not going to mention, scholars say

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that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam knew that the man who asked him used to get angry often, and that is why the Prophet Alayhi Salaam gave him that particular advice. The shift goes on to say, however, that this view may lead to narrowing down and limiting the benefit of the Hadith, whereas it's very comprehensive, far reaching and applicable to all Muslims, because everyone is subjected to anger. That's true. That's true. However, however, I disagree with the show. And in fact, this is the opinion of webinars I mean, that this man did have a problem with anger.

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Therefore the Prophet alayhi wa sallam told him Don't get angry. So he's saying that we can't say that the Prophet knew really that this man was a person used to get angry. So I told him that because that's restricting the Hadith No, because at times are yet will be revealed about particular incidents. But although the ASVAB nizoral is for a particular incident or question, the benefit is far comprehensive general that is applicable to all times and all people

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For example, in Sri Lanka, who will opt out of the one who hates you and opposes you jasola is completely cut off in this world and the next. That's what inertia and eco laughter means. And this idea was revealed about who I lost of nowhere. And some narration to say Abu Jamal and others. However, just because it was really about them, it doesn't mean that it's only for them anyone who falls into this Shanahan, which is only to oppose the messenger, and extreme bald, and bald is hatred, anger, but Shanahan is the height, the extreme version of that, to have that towards the messenger, you will completely cut off anyone who has that towards the messenger Allah So time is

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cut off. So therefore though this ayah in nutshell, Nicola has revealed about particular individuals, it doesn't mean it only applies to them. So the chef is saying that we can't say that this Hadith, really the profile is mentioned. And he's saying this because of this man. Now, we can say that, even though it was about this man, he used to have a problem with anger. This Hadith is far reaching and comprehending, and it applies to all Muslims in all times, not to get angry. So therefore, what we say is, the reason for incineration was this man had a problem with anger, and the Prophet Allah. So to them, this is from the Mara desert, and the Quran, Allah gave him that he

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would know, people situation, and he would advise them accordingly. And this teaches us something very important. If a brother comes to ask you for advice, and you know, this brother treats his wife badly, you know that, you know, he beats her up, and therefore the advice you give him is, for example, the best of you are those who invested their wives first, and comes to you asking for advice. And you know, this person treats their parents badly, or at least I didn't give them time, you advise them, actually, why don't you take your printer for some coffee, when you take them for some dinner sometime. So advise brothers advise people according to what you see from them where

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they're lacking, you know, my brother has a potty mouth.

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A very bad mouth, always swearing using abusive language and you advise him that way. So therefore, this is a very important Hadith. So in fact, it doesn't restrict it when you say that the profile is what Salaam said this because of this man's anger problem. It's actually not restricting it's actually teaching you something else. And that is advise people according to the needs, because everyone has a different problem. Think of like everyone has a different sickness, and you don't give everyone the same medicine. every sickness has its own power, its own medicine. And to further testify that the profile is so slim knew of this man's anger problem, and therefore he said, the

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thumbs up don't get angry, is the fact that the profile is slim. did not give him the advice that Allah azza wa jal has given as the best advice.

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When, if a person wants to ask for the best of advice, the best advice you can give is the Quran. Allah azza wa jal said, when a father was saying alladhina O'Toole Kitab me publikum what a con la de la in Surah, An Nisa It was a 131 Allah says, We have advised given long lasting advices to those before you who were given the book meaning 100, keytab and yourselves and in the Hello, def taqwa. So that's the best advice. So the Prophet didn't say, have Taqwa of Allah. Why, even though this is what Allah has given us as the best of advice, he didn't say that because he knew this man had this problem of other. So therefore, to say what the chef is saying here, we don't totally agree with it.

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Rather, it's not restricting it, but rather, it's actually giving us more lessons on hamdulillah. Therefore, the point is address every person in a manner that suits them. Beautiful Hadith. That's the reason for its narration.

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Meaning the Hadith. Now let's look at the meaning of the Hadith. You find this on the lessons on page 83.

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So basically, the lessons here telling us what does it mean don't get angry.

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The chef goes on to mention four points. However, these four points are really summarized into. I mentioned four, but I've really put them as to the scholar says, doesn't mean number one, don't

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have this emotion of anger.

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Is that the meaning or when the profile is so slim said Don't get angry? Is he actually telling you don't act upon anger?

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Which is correct.

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From North, I mean, said from the apparent view, from the apparent meaning of the Hadith, the prophet Allah sort Salaam is saying, Don't get angry at all, don't get angry, don't have this emotion. And that there's wisdom in that. Because if you remove the problem, then of course, you're going to remove everything after that. Sometimes people look at the symptoms only But no, remove the cause of the situation completely. So therefore the profile is sometimes actually telling you this is the opinion of him and I think we know him a lot and others that don't get angry at all, because if you don't get angry, how are you going to act upon anger, anger doesn't even exist, but to say,

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Don't act upon anger, then you basically

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get angry, get angry, get angry, get angry, but just don't act upon it. But there's no guarantee that a person will ever not act upon it. One person, you know, if they keep blowing the top, eventually, they're gonna act upon it, it's true. So therefore, from the apparent meaning of the Hadith, we say it means don't have this emotion of anger, however, I share him with me after that, that both are implied as well. So if you do happen to have this emotion, then at least don't act upon it. So therefore, at best, don't have the emotion at best. And then at least,

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don't act upon it.

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So that's how we can explain it. So those brothers who said both correct

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shall law scholars in the room.

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So as you can see, it goes on to mention that change your character number one, and adapt your characteristics to the characteristics of kindness, generosity, etc. In other words, if you have the emotion of anger all the time, then change yourself. In other words, that's the first view. And then it says, One should not act based on anger or being angry. Because when a person gets angry, they start to say things and do things that they will regret later, they will regret. So they may say, anti talech, they say that to the wife, you are divorced and angry, and then they come to the shift later. I'm sorry, I didn't mean that. And I was angry.

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No, too bad. You said antidiabetic. You understood what it means you are divorced, whether you intended marriage with the whether you intend to divorce or not. If you say empty toilet, it's Sorry, it's clean. Whether you intend divorce, it takes place takes place. No worries.

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However, to say something else, like go to your mother's, here, the intention has a role to place. So if someone says go to your mother's the angry, then is a divorce or not. It comes down to the intention Did you say as a threat?

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Or did you actually, you know, to basically say, you know, get out of here and go to your mother's and have some time off? Or did you mean the horse so then it looks at the intention? So there's Saudi and there's a Kenai? Sorry, when you say directly you are divorced. Right, but sorry, it's clean. And then the Kenai will use use some other words, and the rulings of this you know this deep, so we're not going to open that door. We've already discussed the sort of the fall of last year.

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Some people say, divorce doesn't take place if you're angry. Well, no one divorces their wife or happy and did all the heavy noses. Everyone divorces while they're upset? they're angry somehow. Yeah. So therefore, the say, divorce doesn't take place when you're angry. That's not really totally correct. What the scholars meant when a person literally lost their mind that were so angry that was so enraged that they can't even remember what they said. They basically lost their mind he lost the plot was the plot way that we don't even recollect at all. What is odd never know what I said. At that level, that's really taking into consideration but just to be angry. No, to say, oh, you're

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angry at actually is binding. We have to be careful.

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Price 730 I shot something.

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So that's the meaning of the Hadith. What's the medicine? And what's the solution for anger, there are many, many medicines many strategies

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to treat anger.

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Number one goes on to mention at the bottom there, if a person gets angry, then it is necessary that the person performs Maha Sabha which is to take yourself to account so therefore number one,

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take yourself to account so it's more of a strategy of the mind

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while the mind will Maha Sabha via the mind

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so you think of the consequences if I get angry and I say this what's going to happen if I divorce my wife even though I'm angry I want to do it now but what will happen you know will break up and what about the kids they'll be affected if I cracked this guy's hidden what's gonna happen maybe maybe the cops will come and I'll get arrested then I'm for example doesn't look good I'm gonna be down to show patients right over today's upon law I had the witness almost a Punjab handed out to stop Muslims or non Muslims about to go head to head

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I would have not been here tonight. Still would have probably went on camera. The point is, you know it's why the mind there's one type of strategy via the mind. The Prophet Allah sort Salaam goes on the next page. It teaches us other strategies, other types of adware medicines,

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number two via the tongue.

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How? By saying

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and this is based on a hadith

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profile is so slim to saw two people arguing and one of them was enraged he said another word that if he was to say it he would come down it's all the Billahi min ash shaytaan regime base the other so first we said why the mind in accountability take yourself to account before you will take into account

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and next the tongue

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is the other by saying oh the Billahi min ash shaytani r Rajim

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and another way is via the tongue is not just this the other

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but also

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soft kind words it's actually more of a term from the beginning. So it's the others when you are angry but use kind words and soft words before beforehand so it prevents you getting angry angry or prevent someone else getting angry with you as a lot as Virgil has told us there is sort of this law

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a law says say that which is US and US and not just good us and from sn Excel choose the best of words as we've already taken last week when can you know build volume left for local hero title from Hero hero is the cream of the crop the elite choose the best words the best words because if you choose the best words it's almost impossible for them to be taken out of context but if you choose borderline words what's gonna happen I could have said this equipment he said this particular man is an equipment that if you choose borderline words it's on the border in equipment this equipment that

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although both yeah both because kind words will settle it down like today I got the punch up that almost happened we spin with some brothers and some confirm today although they deserved getting a tell off which was you know was good after this. They those good let him go off a bit intimidating because these guys they they basically are abusing our sisters you will some terrorists and that so the boys came down and gave him a good deal on intimidation and the girl shaking in the end, you know, he got the sister and he said say sorry to

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non Muslim fingers. I apologize. I apologize. No, say I am sorry. I am sorry. Okay, and then say I will never do it again. And the normals I will never do it again. I humiliation front of his from his family. That to be told Listen, the brothers is really

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the woman. This woman was evil so much you're swearing the words I really want to say I didn't want to actually spell it out for you or give you the letter that I start with. That's how bad and disgusting this old woman This was impressive. And and when when these brothers came down. She was she had watery noise.

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She she had enough to come and educated. So I said to her really she Carly's gonna speak English. I really I've got two degrees and doing a Master's what do you do? What do you have? She has none of your business. Okay, no worries. And she was using the word irony irony This is an irony again even know what it means. And it's because I'm you're educated as a final so because she was going off and and she was racist you people you people were very tolerant. We accept origins. You don't accept any other religion but your own. And if someone doesn't accept Islam, then you're you're you get him killed ago. Do you accept Islam? She goes, No, I go Okay, you're free to live.

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You're not gonna get killed. I'm not gonna kill you. Because Are you very, very cunning on you got a chip on your shoulder. She was off. I'll just call you Salaam and Uber today are speaking very soft. And she was calling another competitor Carlos lm. I wasn't going off at all. And anyway. Yeah.

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And then after that, she said, do we accept all I said, you accept Islam. Do you? She goes yeah, I said that can repeat after me. A shadow

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goes No, no, no, no. I said so you don't. She goes, you don't accept Christianity. I said, we'll just as you didn't accept Islam, we didn't accept Christianity. She said and you say it's wrong. Do you say it's wrong? Do you say okay, yeah, I do. She goes, What? How can you say we're wrong? Okay, it's wrong. I go because we are honest. We are truthful. Yeah, it's wrong. I said, we have more followers of Jesus than you. She went. She couldn't believe I'm saying that show.

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And I told her I said, you know, we look like him because no you don't. I said we have the beard. Look, your husband has never been she know what to say. Well, like she was told that I gave all you know, like the hookah we gave and I said I want to

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know what to say.

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And then one guy and his son He goes, Oh, your Quran says this. Are they really

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was the first verse of the grant.

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Guys, I don't know. Like I don't quite something you don't know. And I said, Well, your Bible says 1234. Anyway, in the end again, look, that's enough talk Yami we're getting nowhere we actually looked at we're getting no with you people. And he, I'm not. And I said, Look, do you want a solution or not? Because yes, and then I told her, and I was the peacemaker, one of the brothers, it comes to me. He goes, if it wasn't for our community leader, you'd be six Rhonda

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said to them like, and he was shaking, he was shaking, but although they they've been abusing our sisters for weeks now. I'm at college, because they park in the street. And anyway, they think it's their street. Like, you know, that park, you know, in the end, I agree. They're gay. You can park on the street. It's not on the driveway. I said, No parks on your driveway anyway.

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Yeah, but in the end, so panel law, they they were, they were subdued and hamdulillah the Muslims are on top. And they won't ever do that to a sister again, they were, you know, it was good. They needed to be intimidated a little bit. But it looked good because it looked like I was there to try and mediate and that people filming as well on the iPhones. So I look good.

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You know, if it is I'll send you the link. But yeah, sometimes I see people being soft, because when I was trying to talk to a soft and it wasn't working. So these brothers came and they they intimidated, though quite big. And he thought Mohammed's big, pretty big.

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But yeah.

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Or is it?

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is big, they were bigger. If you smell What am I pencil?

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Yeah, relative, it's relative of you. There you go. So the point is, the point is,

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I have to use kind words to to relax these brothers only if they were going to deck the block. Honestly, I thought they were gonna, like if they if and I didn't want him to hit him, because then it would have been worse. But anyway, those I gave him some words, and it calmed him down with hamdulillah. So kind words, either before or during one of the two, it's going to reduce the anger, inshallah.

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We're going to get into praiseworthy anger, which is unnecessary. There's also medicine via the limbs

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that were unfairly unfairly medicine, of the limbs. And among the strategies is, number one.

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Perform odo.

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This is also a prophetic strategy, the profile is so slim said

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that when you perform, although it's a way of coming down why because when shake when a person gets angry, shaitan has thrown a jump rope, which is like a piece of fire or coal into that person's heart. And because shaitan is the one who's causing this enmity and anger, and we know shutdowns credit from fire, therefore we'll do which is metal, of course will do using water puts out the fire. So therefore, that's how you come down via water. And if that doesn't stop, if that doesn't prevent anger, or calm the person down, then they should change the state by moving. Let me change the environment, maybe leave the room.

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Or sorry, not change the environment. That's the story.

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Now, if we do doesn't calm them down, what they should do the proper advice, if you're standing, sit down, if you're sitting, lie down, so change your hand, change your state.

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That's the next option. So the first action of the limbs is the second action of the limbs is change your state. So if you're standing, see, if you're sitting like that, if that's not working, that's when option number three, you leave the room, you change the environment.

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You walk out, you go somewhere else. But big problem. Big mistake is when people arguing and you're letting them stay there No, move them completely away with them. Because they What are you seeing that person's face is just seeing red, red, red, you got to get them to look at something else. You got to get them to look elsewhere. Change the environment. So when you leave the room, don't go to the shed.

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What's today what's in a shed, an x and a hammer and things like that. So when we say leave the room, doesn't mean go to the shed and go and get your tools. No, or doesn't mean go get the boys but leave the room go go for a drive pull down and that's sometimes you know, the spouses who are fighting that they fail to recognize this. The husband wants to leave letting go. The wife wants to go to her room. Let her go. Don't keep following away going. Where you going? Where are you going? I happens a lot. You know, she locks the door open up, open up a lever lever. She wants to cool off in the room. And we laugh because we know what happens and how it happens. Let her go Let it go and she

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should let you go then sometimes the husband just wants to go to his mancave but he wants to go to the Batcave and just wants to just chill out there.

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Letting Go. So we have to give out our spouses. And that's what happens when you give them some space. They come back and they go, I'm sorry. Sure.

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Okay. In ideal situation, they come back more firepower with the list. All right? Yeah. Like what you said the other day or you did this right? They come with the list. No, but usually this is usual. If that doesn't work a lot homestand I don't know what to give you after that, unless you've got some advanced setup.

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So, strategy of the mind. That is the extremity of the tongue, that doesn't work strategy of the limbs, that doesn't work. Then along with that, and after that, I don't know what else until

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and then you Yeah, then you get a shake involved or immediate involved. So after that, you get immediate and home. The pins if this is if it's between spouses, and so forth, and but generally speaking, people don't stay angry forever. Generally speaking, if you have Taqwa, they'll eventually get over it, or they don't get over they should get over.

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And that's the meaning of life is to not just forgive but to forgive and forget to remove that from your heart completely. So that's the medicine a solution for anger. However, is there praiseworthy anger?

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To sureys? The profiling sort Salaam would at times get angry.

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And as believers we get angry when we see what's happening overseas. Why, why is that sister that was getting attacked or verbally attacked, rather, this is upsetting. We are humans, we're not robots, we get angry. We have these emotions. Therefore, it's okay to get angry at times, in a manner that is praiseworthy, in the sense that you're getting angry for the sake of Allah. This is how the profiler sorts numbers. So the Praiseworthy anger is when you are getting angry for the sake of Allah.

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When a laws rights are transgressed when they believers are oppressed, so you're not going to mention

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some of those

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ways that anger is praiseworthy. So, how do we know

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where the anger has to be? So how do we make sure our anger is in accordance with the Sunnah? How do we know whether our anger is in accordance with the Quran and the Sunnah? It says, This is on page 85. second paragraph. However, there are praiseworthy anger as far as known from the examples of the Prophet sallallahu sallam.

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He never got angry, except when the commandments of Allah violated like when he saw a Sahabi, he had pinned down a sheep and he had put his foot on its neck, and he was sharpening his knife as the sheep looked on terrified, the problem is angry. You're oppressing the animal, and you're going to kill it twice. He said, you're going to kill it twice, the first from half earlier. I'm going to see what's going on. And the second one actually slowed, is it so he got angry.

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Also, when the Muslim man was killed, sorry, also when the Muslim man was attacked, I would I was exposed from the Jews if you recall and Sierra and Sahabi was killed trying to defend the the prophets angry and of course, he waged war on the hood. However, it says if we want to get angry for the sake of Allah, then we need to be careful that way. Number one, I really not getting angry for ourselves or for our own interest. In other words, you're not getting angry so you can benefit. You know, there's not there's no really muscle aha for you, but rather you're doing it for the sake of Allah. So that's praise with anger and anger.

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For a lot of sake.

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Number two,

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if you're going to act upon this anger, it needs to be done in the right way. In other words, you don't get me wrong actions. You don't resort to vulgar words swearing obscenity, because the profile is so slim was never like that, even though he'll get angry, you wouldn't go swear, you wouldn't go curse, and so forth. So therefore,

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what's the tongue

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and of course, that implies watching actions.

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And point number three,

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you need to be careful that we can achieve the benefit as intended while the Sharia if the action leads to more harm than benefit, then it should be avoided based on the principle of weighing between the muscle hurt and mF seller, the benefits and the harms. So therefore, if you're going to act, you need to ensure that it doesn't result in more harm.

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So what's the tongue and of course, limbs meaning, so this is point number two, once the tongue limb has meaning that what you do has to be in accordance with the Quran and the Sunnah. So you can't do something even though you're angry, you can't do something that is stepped outside of the Quran, the sooner so, brother may see a sister not wearing the hijab, but she's not. He's not mahanta but he's angry at her. He's upset. She's violating the commendable law. He can go grab her and you know, take your home and lock her up and say no, you're not leaving until you were here for example. So it goes against the shittier or your brother's who see a fine

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doubt that other brothers are drinking so they start, you know whipping him, but take him get the boys and live with them. This happened a few years ago in Sydney and it resulted in more harm. Right? So point number three was that it doesn't result in more harm.

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I'm pretty sure

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that's very important. So those three things are taken in consideration that your anger angry for Allah sake, and that you act in accordance with the Sharia. And number three, you don't result doesn't result in more harm.

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Now, let's give some examples. And with some examples, the profile is so slim.

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As Alissa Malik narrates I bedwin came from the desert rushing or running towards the profile so slim saying Yeah, Mohammed Mohammed. That's a big no no, you never say Mohammed you say jasola la una bella correct? Yeah, Mohammed Okay, maybe something's important. we'll forgive him for that. He comes to the Prophet alayhi wa sallam and he tugs at his cloak. big no no number two in a target the messenger so lots lm a person won't even digital to shave imagine he's talking about a suit and Alison nomadic said the profile is so slim was wearing a nudge Ronnie mantel andronik like that had rough engine. So when he tagged actually left a mark hurt the profile is lemon left a mark on his

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neck. So this big number three is wanting to talk. Third is to hurt the person literally you leave a mark on the neck. That That must have been a big tug. And then Okay, maybe this person is forgiven because you know, maybe some his family just got murdered. Or His house is on fire. Hey, Sheila, what do you want? Yeah, Mohamed, give me from the wolf has given you

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give me money. That's what he's saying. Give me money a lot. But how rude is this person? Give me money. So it was a profile so slim. Do they punish this simpleton for his brainless actions?

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He smiles to anything he says give the man what he wants. Don't get angry.

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What amazing character.

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Salahuddin center.

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Now a person may say Emma, he's out of school because he's a prophet. I can't match that. Okay, how about give you an example of someone who wasn't,

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wasn't a prophet, and wasn't even a companion.

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Haruna Rashid Rashid was one of the qualifiers of our Islamic history is a halifa. And he was also a master of a particular slave. One day this slave is bringing tea towards his master. He trips, almost trips.

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He trips and he spills all this tea on the floor and also lead some of the on Haruna Rashid boiling water what what what Haruna Rashid was furious he was about to explode.

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Now what can he do? He's the halifa he can do what he wants. I was gonna stop him and he's this master as well. If you want you can torture him imprison him kill the bloke. How don't Miskin

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accident. So what is heroin Rashida is about to explode, but before he does anything, this slave recite an ayah from Ali and Milan, while Calvin Meanwhile, he tells her owner Rashid well Calvin Minh alive and knows who repressed the anger. Allah is praising those who repress the restrain the anger to her Oh no, she said, Come home to her lately. I've restrained my anger hamdulillah so then this slave he continues in the air the next part of the ayah will I feel and in us and those who part and others not just forgive they part an LFO in Arabic is to wipe out completely whereas most filler is to cover you can ask Allah for mouth filler is asking a lot to cover your sin when you ask

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Allah falafel it means not just to cover to remove that sin completely. He says we'll have phenol in us and those who pardoned people completely so how to negotiate said our photo anchor I have pardoned you so then misled thanks man, I'm on a roll. Okay, let me continue in these if so he then he completes and he says while law who you have been watching him and Allah loves those who use Excel in good and Allah loves those who excel in goodness. So he said a lot of luck Touka I've set you free of fried you have a lot for so this let's be thinking you know, I should spill tea more often.

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But look what happened here. Look what happened here. Look how three phrases from 181381 I took her on a sheet from being enraged, blowing his top perhaps even killing the slave to calming down pardoning and forgiving and then freeing the slave three phrases in one area. One is upon Allah lokomo This is the power of the Quran with the brothers, three phrases many of us we don't need three

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At or three months or three years, we some of us need three decades to start changing three decades, three phrases, change them a lot. You know what's also amazing? Who's reciting this as

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a slave. You could have said you were a slave. What do you know? You're just a slave. I'm the halifa. I know more than you. But no, he knew, although the slave is speaking, he's speaking a law's words. This is something that we fail to recognize. Sometimes the person who's speaking to us is may be small, or someone who may not know as much as you or whatever the case may be. Just because coming from them, we don't accept, no, don't look at who is talking, look at what is being spoken. Look at who is doing the talking, who is speaking, or rather what is being spoken. That's very important. And that shows you the power of the Qur'an. And I is in sort Allium, Ron,

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I 133. It's actually mentioned in your notes there.

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And it's right in the beginning on page 82.

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But I didn't want to mention that then because I wanted to end with a story and we thought we conclude panicle locomobi handig Machado and Mr. felucca, one or two

Hadeeth 16

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