What if my mother is wrong, Do I still obey her?

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As salam o aleikum, my brothers and sisters, when speaking to your parents speak with kindness and utmost respect, even if you disagree with them. So agreeing and disagreeing is one thing. If they have said something against the pleasure of Allah or something that is wrong, it doesn't mean that because that's your mother, that you need to agree with what is wrong, it doesn't mean that you don't serve justice against your own father or mother. That's not called being obedient or kind to your folks or to your parents. But when you are speaking to your mum or dad, make sure that you speak with utmost respect with a kind tone. And that's why Allah says fella Taku Lahoma off, don't

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say to any one of them off, because it's a tone, and it's a word of disrespect. So many people are suffering and make others suffer because they believe Heaven lies under the feet of our mothers to the degree that even if they are wrong, we should side with them. No, no, no. You don't side with one or both of your parents when they are wrong, but you kindly and respectfully disagree or correct them or even serve justice against them if need be. This is proven by Ibrahim alayhis salam and by so many others, where the parents Allah Almighty makes mention of it in the Quran. We're in Jaha Dhaka, Allah and Toshi cabbie Malay Celica be hidden, if they are trying hard, that you worship

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someone besides Allah, or you do something against the instruction of Allah as well. Allah says,

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don't obey them in that don't obey them. But what do you do? Sahiba Hama for dunya ma rofa. You be a companion of theirs in this world, in goodness, with kindness, utmost respect. So you have no excuse when it comes to swearing or being unkind or disrespectful. There's no excuse. You should not do that. That's not acceptable under any circumstance. But don't allow your parents to trample over others. Be it your spouse, be it your children are the siblings, be it anyone else, be it those who are working with them or for them, or whoever else it may be? Don't allow in justices claiming that that's my father. Well, that's my mother. Many people don't mind they say, Look, that's my mother.

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That's it. I can't say anything. That's it. And in the meantime, she is doing things or she may be doing things that are totally out of sync with what Allah has instructed or completely forbidden haram. She has stepped the mark. She has overstepped should I say there yet. You cannot claim that because Allah has given her such a high status. She has the liberty to do whatever she wishes. That's wrong. That is wrong. Come on, come on. Subhanallah logically, it's wrong and Islamically it's wrong. And according to the instruction of Allah, it is wrong. Yeah, you Alladhina amanu kumoko Amina, Bill is to Shuhada Allah, Allah He Walla, Walla and fusi. Come I will validate Allah Kerbin

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or people are you who believe stand firm for justice for the sake of Allah, even if it is against yourselves, or any one of your parents are both of them. Your parents stand firm against them, for the sake of Allah for justice. That's what Allah says in the Quran. So who knows better? There's Allah no better or do you think no, no, it's a status. This man doesn't know what he's talking about. No. I told you respect and kindness by all means, but you don't allow injustices, sometimes criminal activity, sometimes bad behavior, sometimes outright sin major or minor?

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That doesn't mean just because it's my father, I need to condone it. I don't. I need to stand up. Especially if there's a third party involved whom I need to protect, or at least be just and witness for them. May Allah Almighty grant a string it's a powerful message this evening and it's balanced. We love our parents and we will always respect them and we will always be kind to them. Be the Muslim will not be the obedient or not be they whatever because they're our parents. Allah has given them a status indeed. But that status, Allah's status is above this and the true

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If injustice is way above this May Allah Almighty grant us ease and goodness and a deep understanding and the ability to practice upon it for indeed it requires strong faith in Allah for one to be able to fulfill this Akula Kohli Heather was Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh