Selflessness of Khadijah RA

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Talk delivered in Zamboanga, Philippines at the ilm Voyage Convention entitled Khairul Quroon. The Best of Generations


AI: Summary © The importance of being a good believer and not afraid of others is emphasized in Islam. The couple eventually married, but it was not possible to keep their marriage. They eventually married again and eventually married again, but it was not possible to keep their marriage. They eventually married again and eventually married again, but it was not possible to keep their marriage. They eventually married again and eventually married again, but it was not possible to keep their marriage. They eventually married again and eventually married again, but it was not possible to keep their marriage. They discuss the importance of empowering people to make a positive impact on society and finding a way to develop one's relationship with Allah.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. While he was happy

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we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his household, his companions. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to bless them to bless every one of us, and our offspring to come up to the end. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all those through His mercy. I mean, my beloved brothers and sisters, I wish to dive straight into the topic, seeing that time is of essence, but Alhamdulillah now that we have completed solid grip, I think it's loose ended. If we miss the flight, it's okay we can have another convention tomorrow by the will of Allah.

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My brothers and sisters, none of us will taste contentment and happiness until we are concerned about others. As much as we are concerned about ourselves. Remember that? I repeat, none of us will taste true contentment and happiness until we do not care for others, until we do not show that concern for others. In fact, none of us will actually be able to taste the goodness of the man until we have the goodness amongst one another

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in a way that each one is taken care of. It's not about me, it's all about me, I will never be able to get goodness. And remember I'm basing this on a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where he says, you know, none of you would be considered true believers. Unless and until you hit by a female you hit bull enough See, until and unless you love for your brother, what you love for yourself, you love for the other. What do you love for yourself, you would like to have fresh water, fresh air you would like to have goodness in terms of your surroundings, you want things to be clean, you want to have food and accommodation, you want to have so much of goodness, you need to

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know that in order to be considered a true believer, you need to have a concern for others as well. It's not just about yourself, when you are selfish, you will never achieve contentment. And why I say contentment and happiness is because without the man what type of contentment and happiness Would you like to have?

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Now why is it that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam speaks about a man and he says if you don't become selfless, you will not consider TRUE muslimeen TRUE meaning actually true believers. Because to believe in Allah would also include to believe that Allah has created entire creation, those you like those you don't like those who agree with you, those who don't agree with you, all of them were created by Allah, the animals that you actually perhaps can consume if they were to be made hallette and those that you cannot consume, no matter what condition it is. So all of those you need to understand Allah created them, there is a purpose, there is a reason you need to know what is the

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reason why.

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Allah says I have not created mankind Dojin kind except that they worship me they obey my instruction, they understand the way of life that I have chosen for them, and they fulfill it. So part of that belief and part of the worship of Allah is to acknowledge that Allah is the Creator of everything he made, the non Muslims he made the Muslims, he made the tall and the short, the dark and the fair. Those of different places of the globe, Allah made them I need to think for a moment.

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I am just a number a figure, I fit in somewhere, I need to be concerned

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about others.

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And Malawi, when a wealthy person shares his wealth, that's the only time he will receive and achieve true happiness and the real smile. But when he keeps his wealth to himself, it means nothing. Yesterday, I received a call from someone saying My father is very wealthy, he has given wealth to his sons. But for me as a daughter, I'm struggling in my marriage. And my father says no, your husband must take care of you yet. Even if he went to be fair with us, we would actually be well off today. Fair, meaning I don't want him to give me more than what he's given the brothers. But the attitude is no. I am too proud, haughty, arrogant, without saying it obviously without even

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admitting it, to be able to give my daughter in a way that my son in law can benefit. Why? Because he's the son in law. Why must he benefit?

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What attitude is it is he not more closely

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Relating to you than the rest of the globe yet Allah tells you to be kind to the entire globe and not just to your own family members, those who you think are the males are those whom you feel proud to be giving forward.

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Now, I started off with this introduction because if we go back into the history, we are talking about the best of generations. The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam says, Hey, Yunus economy, we've heard this, so many times today, the best of people my generation. So we will go back and take examples from that generation, so panela, but the introduction was connected to encouraging me to share what I have. That's why we're here in Zamboanga with the whole team because we want to share what we have, there is goodness, the highest goodness we have is a man so panela I'm sharing it, we are sharing it with each other, I am open to correction just like any one of us should be. And the

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same would apply to all my colleagues and everyone else. If someone would like to share the goodness that they witnessed or saw and would like to protect us from a weakness or a mistake, they need to care for us such that they correct us lovingly kindly. This is why a person will correct you in an arrogant way. Sometimes their intention can be questioned because of their arrogance. But if you are genuine, you will not have that problem. You will always be kind you will make sure that you love people, you talk to them in a way you would like to be spoken to, you actually cover their faults in the way you would like your faults to be covered and so on.

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So we have one of the best women ever to exist. One of the group known as the best women ever to exist.

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So Pamela,

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she was born in a beautiful family in Mankato, mahkamah quite well to do family Mashallah. She was born in a well to do family, she had brothers and sisters, etc, etc. She had a family. She had cousins, she had Uncles, aunts, and she was well respected as she grew up. So panela, she became known as a businesswoman, very intelligent, with great integrity, and so on. Who was she?

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She was known in the early years as a PA Hara.

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The same person we're talking about. She was known as the one who is you're the one who is clean, not just purity of the external self, but purity internally as well. She had a good heart, she loved people, she cared for them. She picked up those who were honest, and those who were of integrity, she honored them in her own way, she reached out to the poor and the needy, even prior to her connection with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam she was known as a spy. Remember that? I'm sure some of you might have named our hero now, you know, there is a connection, right?

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But her true name was Khadija been to Hawaii.

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Khadija been to Hawaii,

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I tried to do something of late that is when you say the name of us hobby, don't just say to go to the third, then the third name also. So we always say a little bit of awaited right? Now let's go one more and say study Jamba Juice awaited medicine. So we have the asset as well. And the same applies to all of us, you know, your grandfather and great grandfather, and perhaps great, great grandfather. Now it's time to get to know two or three more grades in your name by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So she was an amazing woman. And you know what, getting straight to the point, the selflessness wasn't quality that Allah chose.

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She became one of the greatest pillars of support, not just for Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam but Islam. Today we are sitting here because of the sacrifice of the Sahaba.

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She was one of the best about the lover and when we say her name, and very happily and proudly after that, we say may Allah be pleased with her radi Allahu Allah, may Allah be pleased with all of us to me.

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So my brothers and sisters, what a great woman normally we speak about women, right? And people sideline the women and people say, oh, Islam oppresses women, not at all. Islam gives you a position, learn about it, understand it, behave in that way that you lose, such that people acknowledge your level. What's the point of saying Islam made me very high when you're busy doing bad things? So Pamela, what's the point of saying Islam has raised me and you don't even want to dress appropriately. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us guidance. So when we say Islam has raised us live in a raised way so how to live in a way that people when they look at you they can see that

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you are a person of integrity, respect, care, honor, dignity, etc. May Allah subhanho wa Taala contact you so Khadija awaited on the one hand, there came a time in

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Life when it was pointed out to her that as she was employing men to take her caravans and her business dealings and to head her caravans to different parts of the region, she was looking for different people who were considered honest. And someone told her that there is this man Mohammed Abdullah and Hashimi Akashi sallallahu Sallam at the time he was not yet granted by Allah subhanho wa Taala. But he was an honest man, he was known as a son in an amine amongst his people. Do you know that? I mean, so in his early 20s he was identified by this lady she was 15 years older than him. I'm sure we've heard this. This is according to the the majority of narrations there is a

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small, perhaps number of scholars who speak about a slightly different age, but they all agree she was older than him. She was older than him. Guess what?

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She decided to call this man and to give him

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the slave boy known as Mesa and to give him merchandise and to instruct him what to do what not to do so panela how many of the women here have business women put up your hand?

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business women Mashallah. Mashallah, yeah, I can see quite a number of Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us Baraka in our business. Here is a lady who employ with full respect, Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam imagine,

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think about it, I don't want to go into the rulings of employing a male etc, etc. But that is a topic on its own. Today we are talking of selflessness, so I'm going to move into it. But there is a lot to be learned from this. She gave the instruction to Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam as the one who employed him as to what to do. And he went out with Mesa. And he had such a successful trip that when he came back, Mason told her, you know what, I've never seen such a great man. Everyone was praising him. In fact, one of the rabbi's said this man is going to be a prophet and something else happened and something else happened so many things. And I've seen miracle upon miracle, his

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attitude, his way of speaking his mannerism, his accountability, his dignity, his respect, and so on. You know what, in a short space of time, because of the large profit that was made, she understood, this man is blessed. He has great qualities. So against all odds, she decided to do something. Now there are two three different durations how exactly she married Muhammad wa sallam, but there was a proposal made from her side. It came from her side. Now according to understand our jamara according to the narrations we have, she was married before, twice.

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She was married before twice one completely confirmed she was widowed. She was a widow SubhanAllah. She already had children.

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She already had children. She was a widow. And then there is a narration that says she married Akil, who was the second husband and either widowed or divorced from him as well. So twice married in our communities. A woman marries once and he's divorced. I think a lot of men wouldn't even look in that direction. Am I right? They wouldn't look in that direction. They would consider themselves Oh, well lucky. You may not know that might be your idea. panela It might be

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Allah, Allah grant us ease and goodness. It has to do with the qualities of a person it's possible that she was the best woman who couldn't get along with someone else or for whatever reason they may have been we don't know we will not give in details. And that's the way it should be. You didn't get along with someone divorced from them. You say look good person. Perhaps we didn't get along. We were two good people. But we thought differently. We had different for example, aiming in different directions whatever it was, we didn't get along.

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against all the odds number one, she was older by approximately 15 years according to the bulk of narrations number two married twice. Now, number three, a young man, very good looking Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam Subhan Allah, a man known as blemish lists, no blemish, he was not interested in all the desires and you know the glamour of the dunya No. She decided let me you know, get the proposal across Mecca told you there are two or three different durations but the proposal went across and guess what it was accepted to Hannah law. It was accepted. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married Khadija.

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She was honoured. She was so happy and Subhanallah they lived for 24 and a half years together.

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How many years 24 and a half years remember that almost 25 years. She is the wife whom he lived with the longest no one else did he live with as long as that the others were a few years. This was almost 25 years, no problems, no hassles, no arguments, no fights all his children from her besides one Ibrahim from Marian.

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So, she was a woman older than him. But there was so much respect to you know what she did now we get to the softest part Mashallah. Her marriage to him, was important to be able to serve this man, great man. And later to serve the dean, perhaps she was not aware of exactly what was going to come in her direction. But she was a noble woman. She had a cousin called waratah. He didn't know.

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He was a person who had become a Christian at some stage. And he learned a lot from the scriptures. And she used to go to him who used to go to him, the cousin Khadija.

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She used to go to him prior to Islam in the period of Makkah. She was born in manga, she used to go to him and she used to ask about her dreams about her ideas or thoughts, get some guidance from him and so on. So much so that the day the prophethood came, she did something quite similar, and we're going to get to that. But before that.

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She was given the gift

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of some slaves. We know at that time, slavery was rampant.

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What happened? She decided to choose a young boy known as

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they didn't.

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They didn't have it. That was good looking young boy.

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And she saw the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam as a husband and she said, You know what, I'm giving you a gift. The prophet SAW Selim says, You're giving me a gift, this boy as a slave, I am freeing him and I am adopting him as my own son. At that time prior to Islam, it was okay meaning people used to do that it was not yet prohibited. Adoption, the way the West knows it is not some Islamic idea. It's not Islamic. But we would look after orphans we would take care of people without taking their true identity away from them. So in Islam, it's more like taking care of someone who belongs to Allah, but you have developed a relationship of sponsoring them, helping them assisting

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them, treating them as your own etc. Knowing that and explaining to them to that you know what, you are actually the child of someone else, but we love you equally. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us an understanding it's a topic on its own, but it's not easy to look after a child who is not yours.

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A young boy considered a slave

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could not tolerate having a slave he said no, let the child be free. The child was read by Muhammad Salah he was known at that time as a demon Mohammed but he was not the son of Muhammad. So later on Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed verses

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call them with their mother's names. It is more just in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So he was always been known as a beheading. Now that was not the only child that she looked after.

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She started taking care of the children. Yes, he was a servant. He used to serve the property. He loved the province, so much, that when his father came around, he chose to remain with the province and not to go with his own father.

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you know, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had an uncle, what was the uncle's name?

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about money? He had a few uncles, one of the uncles The most common his name was, he had, he had many children and he was a poor man. Listen, oh, people of Zamboanga. Listen very carefully.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had an uncle called abou barley. His uncle had children who are now his cousin's many children and the uncle was a poor person. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam decided to go to his uncle and say, Oh, my uncle, you've got many children. Let me take care of one completely you cannot afford it you are struggling.

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How many of us would look after our brothers and sisters children, let alone uncles and aunts.

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Look at the selfishness.

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It required the wife to be in sync with Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam and she was she took great care of it.

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He grew

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Up in the house of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam Did you ever know that? So Panama, he was brought up by Khadija

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and Mohammed Salah Salah.

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This was it

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was a great man.

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Amazing. And he's not the only one.

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There is another one. So can Allah

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allow me to Hawaii

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was the brother of Khadija with the Hawaii

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he had a son called as soon

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I told you at the third name, it will help you a lot

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it was brought up by a DJ

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in the same house,

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did you know that she was married to Sophia.

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So he was brought up in a home way he was related from all angles? How many of us are prepared to look after the orphans within our own families? Many of us wives and husbands, we wouldn't like to take care of the children of others. Where is the quality? We want to be? We want to be like,

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we want to be like everyone else. But where is the quality? Come on, open your heart. It's not about you, you and you alone? No, it's about every one of us take care of each other.

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Look after the others help someone cross the road and see what happens. That's a simple example. Feed someone some food, you have wealth. What are you going to do with that? Well, where is it going to go spend it, spend it on your family, on your children, on your relatives on the needy, see what happens spend it on good causes like this. We'd like to see the wealthy sponsor and entire conventions of this nature such that we don't need to have a ticket charge for every person to be able to contribute towards the convention of this nation, although it is an honor if your 205 100 1000 vessels were taken for such an August gathering.

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Beautiful gathering with lovely people, honorable dignitaries all around all around us. We have come here only for the sake of Allah to listen to something that will move us we need to be moved.

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Your heart needs correction rectification. The only way it's going to get through rectification is by going back to those Gruen those best of people that the prophet SAW Salem bore witness about

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and do something about it. It's not about me, how good do you make others feel? The Prophet sallallahu Sallam when he greeted children, he gave them a smile. He gave them a moment he gave them time. He made them feel important. In other words, he empowered them.

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Just the child. how those are the leaders of tomorrow.

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We don't even greet children we don't even notice kids. When the child makes a noise. I remember on the aircraft there was a baby by default it happens a lot. You know what the pressure going up and coming down the baby screaming and yelling and you see all the people looking down?

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It could have been your baby, my baby. Everybody's with me. I have nine kids. Don't worry. It's absolutely normal. It's okay scream yell. That's your job, man.

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It's normal. We cannot tolerate the sound of a crying baby, let alone help people. Look how low we become.

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Someone's crying. We're not even interested. Why are they crying?

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Yes, we won't be able to help everyone in the way they want. Because now you might get a few wisecracks at the door saying you heard about selflessness, right? I need a million.

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I can't help you. You see, where's your heart? Where's your quality? And come on? Come on, come on. So we don't want that type of attitude where we take advantage wrongly of the advice that is being given to everyone as a whole. But rather each one of us look into our own hearts. Here is a woman I've only started talking about.

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She looked after the children of others, and she had her own children as well. So panela thereafter, let me explain. She served Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. She continued serving him when he used to go up for meditation in Hara, and she was a wealthy woman. She'd never told him, I'm rich. You're poor luck, but never. Because if she was wealthy in terms of material wealth, he was the wealthiest in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala in every way.

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Money alone is nothing. It's the blessing in the money. That is everything. You don't have it and even if you have the millions and the billions with all the zeros

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right up to the end, it will mean nothing. It won't help you or deliver you from any navel.

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So my brothers and sisters she used to go to Mohamed Salah salon with some food. She used to talk to him she used to comfort him. Now let's get to the point where, why he came revelation came.

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The prophet SAW him sitting in the cave of Hira, jabril Ali Salaam came to him we know of the story of the first words, right? Revelation we've spoken about it before.

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When that first revelation came to him, his heart was thumping. Subhan Allah, He ran down and first person he went towards Khadija.

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He said some Milani, some Maloney, you know, cover me, embrace me. And you know, give me the type hug.

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You know, that shows a relationship.

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There are very few men who would actually go to their wives First thing first. And tell them I need confidence. Something has just happened. They would rather keep it a secret. Why me tell my wife Are you crazy? stuff? I hope we don't think my girlfriend.

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But that's the attitude of people today. We don't think straight and we don't trust each other. We haven't served each other. We're all in it for ourselves. That's what it is. You're in the marriage because of you. You wanted yourself. I remember I heard of a marriage recently that was broken, totally broken.

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before the wedding took place over what an argument as to whose car we should go into after the walima

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lie I'm not joking. People are hearing this perhaps all over the world they would know where it was and who did it. What an embarrassment What are we in therefore we cannot sacrifice I would say don't use a car go walking.

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Go walking. So once if they're fighting about whose car to go into. You'd rather just go walk and get wet in the rain and seeds romantic isn't it? As it is Mashallah that's the best way of spending the first night in the rain Mashallah

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Allah grant us ease. So he comes to his wife Khadija been to Hawaii.

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And he says, You know what, this is what has just happened. She says

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it's impossible for a lot, let such a great man down how many of our wives or husbands can declare the spouse to be a great person? If they can, they are truly great. I've said this in the past in the same hole, where I've said, the person who knows you the best, your spouse, and those who you live with X, Y,

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and Z, the best from amongst you are those who are best for your family members, your spouse.

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Why, if they can bear witness that you are good, you're really good. The rest of the people only see you good behavior. They only see you part of the day, one two hours, you can actually pretend like you're a great person to others, but when they see you morning, afternoon, evening night when you just get up when you seek when you unwell when you've come out of the bathroom, etc, etc. When you're going into the bathroom. When you leave your room and see what type of amenities and see what attitude and lift you give the people so Anima they would know your value and your worth. If they can say good man, you are a good man.

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Don't just listen to what I'm saying. Think about it and tell yourself I'm going to become like this. I want to be a person and listen, my brothers, my sisters, you have a spouse, may Allah bless you. You don't have a spouse, may Allah still bless you with a spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes will work on your marriage work on your relationship very hard to not allow the distractions of the devil to lead you away from good people who are already with you in marriage, and you can't see the goodness because of your own evil.

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We cannot see the goodness of our spouse because we are evil. People have a dark hidden side to themselves a dirty part of themselves for that they cannot see such a great spouse in front of them. They cannot praise the spouse they can praise everyone else. Just the woman saying straight to the man will lie that you're a good man. You look after the neighbors. You take care of the orphans you help people in need. If you've never Swan, you haven't done anything bad. You're a great man. Allah will not let you down impossible. She's saying with so much confidence because she knows great man. Whatever comes in your direction can only be good.

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Then she says hang on I take you to this man I know is knowledgeable the cousin.

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She took Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam

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But it was out of care and concern that she took him to care. Look, this is what has happened to my husband. He's a great man. He just heard a little bit of it. And he said, You know what? That's an angel. He is the same one that came to the other prophets. And if this is the case, then you know what, I'd like to be there the day you got driven away and out of your community.

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So Mohammed Salaam Salaam looks at him says, You mean my community will drive me out of my community says yes.

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Everybody who has come with what you are about to come with, has been fought. Rudy Rudy means that there was enmity against them.

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And this is why we consider it an honor.

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When people don't like us simply because we're Muslim.

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It happened to people better than us before us. Why must I get excited? I need to keep on proving that I am. This is what Islam is this word Islam stands for it doesn't stand for the violence of the killing and the hatred and everything that people perhaps say it stands for No, it stands for goodness, respect, dignity, honor, it stands for firm belief and conviction in a law in the law alone. It stands for worshipping Allah and Allah alone, not rendering acts of worship to sticks or stones of people. No, we worship Allah, we glorify Allah, we don't glorify the creatures of Allah, but we respect the creatures of Allah, because they are creatures of Allah.

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That's the Islam. So don't be embarrassed if someone were to laugh at you just because you have a scarf on your head. And then you take it off and say, they laughed at me. So I took it off. Well, that was your test. The test is they will laugh at you, they will look at you, they will pressurize you. If you still have it on your head. You're the winner. When you wrote one plus one equals two, and they laughed at you. And they laughed again. And they scoffed and they all looked at you and they gathered around you and they laugh and you kept on writing. One plus one is two, one plus one is two. Do you really think a day will come when they're laughter will make you write one plus one

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is three, just because they wanted you to write three then? Well, that's what we're doing with Islam, when we know what is right. But because of people and their pressure and their laughter and whatever else they have to say sometimes we are giving up the deen just because others are saying things and you know it's wrong. You know what they're saying is wrong.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala guidance.

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So he says, I wish and I pray that I will be there that day He will send to your people and the day of people will drive you out. But unfortunately, he passed away between that one and the next one. According to the operations Water Company. nofal was a very old man. Although he was the cousin of Legion on the long run, he passed away.

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Now comes a time and I'm fast forwarding when Quraysh had now decided that they want to boycott the Muslims in a place known as she has been so they boycotted them. Khadija

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was a

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powerful woman, wealthy woman from a noble family.

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She decided on joining my husband.

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She decided I'm joining my husband. for three whole years. They were in an area known as she

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there was a boycott against them. Not one day, did she complain? There was no food, there was no drink. There was nothing. There was a time when the companions say we used to suck on the roots of the trees in order to get liquid into our bodies. No complaint, no complaint. How many of us complained about small things.

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The exact fruit juice that you love is not available in the market. So there is a piano in your home. Yes.

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The type of makeup you use suddenly is no longer there. So what happens? It's like the trumpet is blown. in your own home. Everything comes down.

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Relax, relax.

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I always tell people the best makeup is that which is absolutely natural from Allah given to you the day you are proud of that is the day you have really truly arrived on a new level of connection with Allah. Just remember those words.

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The happy with what Allah has given you. Some of us are such

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May Allah forgive us. I don't even like to say this but every time you know, I am in my 40s Okay. And I can tell you when we were young will lie he will lie I swear by Allah.

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Macomb was not treated as it is today. Online.

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Today, your identities change people will

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recognize you and people are thinking, you know what, it's a good thing with a lot of these chemicals. We are stoned because we say the chemicals are bad. They're not good for your skin. They're not good for us. And we are so people say, look at these guys, these chefs, what are they promoting and preaching, we're just telling you to love yourself as you are. Because if you don't soon, you're gonna want to change every single thing, then you won't be happy and you die not being happy. Your life is only 60 to 70 years if you're lucky. Nowadays, people are dying earlier. Every other day we're hearing of cancer, cancer, cancer, may Allah grant cure to those who have cancer.

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But there is a problem. We don't know exactly what it is. Some of it might be the mobile device. You might be the food, genetically modified, whatever it may be, but it's there. People are dying younger and younger. Let's not fool ourselves. Life is too short. Please Allah serve the people and you will earn the pleasure of Allah become selfless. Don't think all about yourself. Come on, I don't mind whatever. So long as I'm presented with a company you like me for who I am, you know, in Islam, one of the reasons why the job is prescribed is in order for you not to be judged based on appearance, but rather based on you your character, your conduct, your service, your whatever else

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you are and what you stand for, not on your looks. Someone is dark, they are ashamed of their darkness. Someone is slightly you know, I don't want to say overweight but but bigger. Why are you saying overweight is because even if you were 200 kilos, they might be a guy saying wow, 200 kgs you know,

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goodness, you'll find someone who likes you by the will of Allah. But we've become such that one Kg 500 grams more on that scale and against Panama. It's like no one can even go near Mama. Why? Because he didn't come from all those

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tacos that you're eating.

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Now Allah subhanho wa Taala really grant us think about the bigger picture. Think about the bigger picture.

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Here is the great woman Khadija.

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She went with her husband. When she didn't have to go she went to join him in the spirit to serve him to make sure she had children of her own. Her children passed away one after the other. Do you know that her boys they passed away her girls. They passed away later on, but her boys in her life. The girls in the life of the prophet SAW Selim besides one Fatima Mohammed

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passed away a little bit after Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam

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passing on.

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She didn't complain. Never. She was a happy woman content. Look at what you have.

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You have water you don't have fruit juice. Others don't even have water. Others don't even have water. You have food. You have something to put in your mouth one lucky there are people yesterday they were living in better conditions than you today. They are living in worse conditions than you may Allah grant all those who are struggling across the globe is whether they are in Syria or Iraq or Afghanistan or Libya or Yemen wherever they are on the globe, wherever they are. Even our brothers and sisters in Indonesia, who have suffered weather in Lombok or the the earthquake that happened last night and the tsunami we asked a lot to grant is to those of our brothers and sisters

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who were affected.

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It is very possible for that to happen to us very possible.

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Reach out to others alone reach out to you. Remember that

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Allah will continue to assist his worshiper for as long as that worshiper continues to assist another. Remember that don't lose focus, you want help. I remember from the time we were young, we were always told if you want help help those who need similar help.

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So Panama amazing. We don't have the time. We don't have the time.

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So here is this great woman she comes back.

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She supported Mohamed Salah.

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And you know what?

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The 10th year of prophethood.

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The 10th year of prophethood. Now it's 24 and a half years later, a little while after the death of Abu Talib,

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who was the uncle of Muhammad wa sallam who suddenly looked after

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fell ill she fell ill during the time of the boycott, and she passed away thereafter.

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When she passed away, it was very, very sad, very sad. Such that that year was known as our

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Isn't the year of sadness, the year of sadness because the boxer lost his uncle.

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And he lost his wife. And he went to die. And they treated him very badly in time.

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123 things started happening that were negative. He didn't complain practices over law and weak. You've asked me to do something here the people are they're not even listening to what I have to say. My brothers and sisters We are the Omar Mohammed Salalah alayhi wa sallam, be proud of the fact that you are muslimeen but work towards adopting the message of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam in your lives. remember two things we need to develop your relationship with Allah and your relationship with the rest of the creatures of the same Allah. We many of us develop one, we become pious, according to us because we fulfill Salah but we swear people, we cheat we deceive. We had people

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were abusive. We accused people we no longer think good about people. We think the worst thing if someone does something, you think the worst thing about them, rather than thinking a good thing about them, where is the goodness it's called a personal one has not been means to think good about someone when something has happened that might have a negative side to it. But you thought of the positive side

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that's called

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she had sacrificed so much for the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam, that after her death, he used to treat her friends with the utmost respect right up to the end.

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I shall also says that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam at times when he used to get things or when there was a sacrificial animal, she needs to send in some of the meat to the Friends of Khadija. And he used to say that was the friend of Khadija who had Allah look at the treatment. Look at the honor, look at the dignity, the respect.

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And that's why the prophet SAW Selim says that she was one of the best women, Khadija decoded the essence of the alarm, and he mentioned three others. He mentioned Fatima, Mohammed of the allamani. He mentioned us yeah, the wife of Freetown and he mentioned money from the mother of these is

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the promises lm says these four women, they are of the highest level of the women. May Allah grant us all paradise, Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for every one of us. My brothers and sisters, I've touched on a few aspects of this great, great role model all of ours male and female. There is a lot more than you need to read about this great leader of ours when I say leader, I mean in terms of being role models, Angela.

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She cared for her husband, she served as

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she was wealthier indeed. And Mohammed Salah Salah never married over her which means when she was the wife she was the only wife

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and as I told you right at the beginning he chose someone not looking at whether she was married before or not looking at her character or conduct her dedication and so on and she expressed as well that I'd like to marry you based on character conduct your the way you speak your honesty and so, mela makers from those who can revive that beautiful era known as tablespoon the best of people, the best of nations, and May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless every one of us. You notice today we didn't really have time to crack any jokes, but that's fine shall we'll keep that for next time because time was not an outside Mashallah. But I'm sure my brothers and colleagues did a good job, you know,

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put on the wagon.

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Last time in Malawi, I said he was telling me you guys remember

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now he came back with a vengeance and he lost all the teddy part of him. He lost the teddy part of it and then guess what? It happened when he shipped it to Australia. It happened when he shifted to Australia so I agree rather in the teddy part of it is gone because Angela you look slimmer than me Mashallah.

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But the bear part of it is still there. I think you now can be called a koala.

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Koala coming from Australia inshallah. Allah subhanho wa Taala bless you and bless every one of us. I really enjoyed it with my brothers and sisters here. Please forgive me for my own shortcomings. And if I have been wrong in anything, I would expect you out of your love for all of us to be able to correct me also. And the same would apply to the others aku kolyada Allah

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Subhana Allah subhanho wa Taala

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Allah Allah Allah