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Kano, Nigeria 29 June 2019
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Salam aleikum, wa rahmatullahi obala cattle.
salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Mashallah, I thought they didn't hear me.
Rahman Al Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. While he was happy,
we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we thank him upon all conditions we send blessings upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his household, his companions May Allah bless them and bless every one of us and bless you all, and bless this beautiful city of Cano and its people and its surroundings and the nation. Mashallah Minami
my brothers and sisters, I am delighted to be here. And I'm sure you know that right. You can see I'm feeling fresh, even though it's very, very hot. Outside inside here, it's a little bit cooler. But Subhanallah it's more the womb of the hearts of the people. And Congo is a place that I have fallen in love with a long time back. So I thank Allah subhanho wa Taala. For this beautiful gift of love for the sake of Allah,
we have a very important topic that I will be discussing today. shala. And I want you to listen very carefully. But before I actually go into the topic, I want to tell you, they told me, you know, shall we have a problem? I said, What is the problem? They said, you know, the venues are all taken and the biggest venue is taken and we have a venue about half its size. I said no problem. I can come twice. So panela so it's a bonus. Imagine if you have a venue of 3000 and you come once you have a venue of 1.5 How many times do you need to come twice? So you should have had a venue of 500 we would have ended up coming back six times. Mashallah. May Allah bless you all and grant you ease
We have many issues that need to be addressed, not only in Canada, but in Nigeria. In fact, not only in Nigeria, with many cultures across the globe, there are certain serious matters that need to be addressed. You see, we were created by Allah. We were created by Allah, Allah alone decides what we should and should not do. Allah is the one who gave us life, just like he gave everyone else that life. Sometimes the men think that they're the only ones who are fit to live and the women are not supposed to live in some cultures, that is how they look at it, not here. But Allah subhanho wa Taala created men and women, both of them should compliment each other, both of them should be there
for each other, they should make life easy for each other. They both have a an equality within a certain sense. And that is the sense of gaining closeness to Allah subhanho wa Taala Yes, there are physical differences that does not make them inferior, in a complete sense, or in any sense, in fact, because it's a give and take people misinterpret religious script in order to mistreat and maltreat our women and this is happening not only throughout Africa, but even in Asia, in India and Pakistan, Bangladesh, various other places Southeast Asia, in the south as well of Asia. I've seen it happening in so many places I've traveled. People complain people actually feel suicidal because
of the way they are treated by the men. It's a fact. You know, a woman is a blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala and she is a creature of Allah. She is a daughter of someone. Why do you think the Hadith never speaks about receiving gentlemen to bring up boys but it speaks about achieving gender to bring up and raise girls do you want to know why? Because in that sense, they are higher than the boys you have to raise someone with so much love, so much of care you spend on them, you are so close to them, and you have to give them up to someone else. So you get gunmetal for those. When you lose a baby and or a child and they die May Allah grant all of us Gen metal for those and make it
easy for those who have lost children say I mean
when you lose a child you receive a status by Allah subhanho wa Taala. If you bear suburb and if you are patient, and if you are a person who does not question Allah decree, he tells you that I will grant you paradise because of your patience. Subhana Allah, the child will fight your case on the day of judgment and intercede on your behalf. Oh Allah, you did not give
My parents the chance to be with me during the life of the world, at least bring them in. So we can be together here now, which is Indian metal for those. So there is a sense of intercession that will be taking place but only by the permission of Allah subhanho wa Taala. However, it is because the child that you love you cared for you wanted to care for you looked forward to that child was not given the opportunity to be with you, they were taken away from you by Allah in the form of death.
When it comes to a woman that you have brought up a daughter, you brought, you raised your daughter, she played with you, you played with her, you gave her a good education, perhaps you gave her good morals and values and one day someone else has to come and ask you, you know what? Please, can I marry your daughter? Well,
as much as you are excited, everyone says I want my daughter to get married. Right? Right. But then we don't want to give our daughters away. Sometimes we make it tough. What do you have? That's a question everyone asks, isn't it?
What do you have? Where are you from? Etc. Nowadays, what law? He the biggest question, correct me if I'm wrong, is a question of wealth. Is it right? Whereas it's Haram is haram to make that a primary aim? Did you know that
I remember a time when there was
without taking names, you will know the person if I took the name. There was a man who was starting up in life. 19 years old, 20 years old, he went to propose for someone to propose to get married. They threw him out like you can't believe and guess what he he continued in life without those people in order to succeed, Allah did not want them to be a part of their success. It is unfair to look at a reasonable responsible human being, and to reject him simply because he doesn't have wealth. What is well, you will die tomorrow, leaving it all behind Suhana law, it is only a means of testing you. You can use your wealth to get Jenna like a lot of people do. And you can lose use your
wealth to get jahannam like a lot of people do.
We don't want to mince our words. You watch the rich, rich and famous they are those who become closer to Allah, and they are those whom they become more distant from Allah through the same wealth. The same applies to your looks. Sometimes Allah made you very handsome, very pretty, etc. Some they use all of that to thank Allah the remaining Eva, they gain genital filters through the name of Allah and some because of that gift, they go towards judge gentlemen, may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us utilize these gifts. And Allah gives it to you for a short space of time. You know, there is one problem we have across the globe, I'm not going to say Colonel, I'm not going to say
Nigeria, I'm not going to say the country throughout the globe. We want to compete with each other regarding the size of our marriages and weddings, not the marry but the wedding, the size, how many people are 20,000 people in that way they look my brothers and sisters, not everyone is wealthy, live exactly according to your means. And set a trend where people can follow a good trend, keep it simple down to earth.
There is great a blessing in that which is simple simplicity. If you can afford something huge, no problem, but still keep it simple. And remember, there are people who are coming after you who are going to want to be like you I know of a case where a simple family a young girl, she was very good looking. When the proposal came the her father made a condition to the groom to be that we need to have a wedding with X number of people at such and such a place. And we need to do this, this this. And the boy is thinking Gosh, I haven't even I haven't even moved forward and you already talking about what exactly you want. What is the whole purpose of this marriage? Are you sending your
daughter? Or what is it that you're trying to do here? That should never be a point of discussion. So Pamela, keep it simple.
I know he was the richest of the companions of the Prophet SAW them at one stage. Do you know that in his early life,
he didn't even let the prophets or sanlam know that he was getting married. Not that he didn't want to say it. But when the nica is ready you don't delay it. So he got the marriage done. When the mark of perfume or there was a yellow mark on his clothes. It was seen by the prophets of Allah subhanho wa sallam says, What is this yellow Mark? He says in which to be honest with Allah, I got married on messenger how many of us we would never speak to our friends if they didn't invite us to their marriages.
Because we have lost focus from the Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim, we have lost focus Subhana Allah. So let us go back and create simplicity in our lives, some of the best proposals who will really look
For your daughter, or some of the simplest people who sometimes might take that child far away from where you live, but they will be extremely happy and you know what they will grow together. You know what, you don't need to have a million, many of us, we will never see a million, you know that, perhaps, even with a few 1000, you will be very, very happy. Many of the women are struggling because they are married to wealthy men, who are not really interested in them. The only thing he has is money, nothing else, nothing else, no character, no fear of Allah, no tea, no respect, no time spent nothing. And you know what it's pain upon pain hurts, upon hurts throughout your lives,
whoa, upon those parents who get their daughters married, knowing that this man has nothing besides the wealth,
whoo, upon them, it's destruction. They have not fulfilled the duty unto Allah, we have another sickness. I don't know again about Congo, but I know about other places in the world. child is born, they promise the brother or the sister, when the child grows, this child will marry your child. Who are you to say that? Who are you to say that you can say you are my sister, it is very, very good. If perhaps our kids might marry each other. Let's see when they grow older. That's the maximum you could do. But you cannot already say from the beginning, right, these two are together. And then that man when he gets up, he could be a drunkard. He could be someone who is a womanizer, he could
be filled with sickness, what type of sickness spiritual disease no sada Nevada but because I made the promise that there are some beautiful suitors who have come through, but you will say no, I promised the child. What are you talking about? You are promoting adultery and Zina because those children will never be satisfied with that type of a man or a woman.
I'm not saying it's not our dream to get our daughters and I have eight of them. Mashallah. I'm not saying it's not our dream to get our daughters to, you know, many people, perhaps we think of in our minds, no.
We all can have a dream but you adjust your dream as time pass, you must adjust to reality. It's no harm to say, look, I wanted my daughter to marry your son. But I don't think it's practical anymore. So Pamela, that's a real man. That's a real father. We need this guidance and guidelines because there is nobody guiding our men and sometimes our women, parents in many cultures, unfortunately Muslims, they make it so difficult for the man to come and propose and to marry that they prefer to just commit adultery and carry on. You know that one line is so difficult. The boy comes in you ask him a whole little 200 questions 200 question is are
you Do you love the processor? Do you really follow him? Or do you just point at other countries these people are no longer problem Muslims, those people are no longer proper Muslims. Those people are no longer problems what makes you and I prefer Muslims we haven't followed the messenger we only do what suits us well, they are doing what suits them. So we have an oma large number, but free or very little in real action according to the sooner he says when a proposal comes to you two things if they are good consider it and let it happen on condition that both of them want to do it.
What are the two Dean and Whoa, look the level of the first thing you need to ask about Salah Do you fulfill Salah you ask someone else? Who is this person? Do they come to the masjid? That question no longer features in our list of questions? Am I right?
Young man, he's so conscious of Allah. He might not have much he's in the masjid. He does his Quran. You know, today I met young boys who are traveling with me. And they are in the opera. Are you married? No. Are you married? No. Are you married? No. How? Yeah, you know, people, they don't like to get their daughters married to some men who are involved in that hour because what is going to happen? They will think these people perhaps they might not earn and they might. Is that what you're getting your daughter married for? Well, no wonder the Naira is dropping so badly.
Hello, forgive us. Yes, it's crashing. Stop looking at it. It will stop looking at you to Subhanallah the dean The first question
the dean, that's why the boys are suffering they are all they could be grandfathers but they are still trying to get made love work. But look, they're laughing because they know it's true.
The Hadith says and that's our heartbeat of discussion today. The topic is very relevant. seize opportunities before you lose them. Allah He sees the opportunities. The young age is not going to remain when the man is a grandfather you know saying right come get married because you have in your first opinion. The next so
when we were younger, the 1 million naira was really 1 million God
Today 1 million, even the guy on the street can have it. Yeah. May Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, I feel sorry for a man who was told when you get your first million come and get the daughter, when he got his first million and came back now the million was worth 100 US dollars or a little bit more. Now there is not this normal brother he will tweet for a long, long time. Like the people who are saving up to go for Hajj. When they are told, okay, it's so many. By the time they say that it's doubled. When they say that it's tripled, may Allah make it easy for us to go for Hajj.
So my brothers and sisters, you look at the dean, and then you look at the character. A person comes with such beautiful character yesterday and today I met some people I can tell you they were raised in a very good home, I can tell you that that character is outstanding. I can I can vouch for it because you just watch how the people walk, how they talk, how they carry themselves is so attractive, you cannot believe it. They carry themselves with utmost dignity, but they're not married. So why character means nothing anymore. You have to juggle the notes and the flesh or the currency That's it, your car, your watch your perfume, the clothing and you need to have a new set
of clothing for every function. And by the way, a new set of makeup for every function, la kebab, Allah make it easy for us, we have become superficial. We have become fake, people will love it. It's my duty to let you know. And I'm not. I'm not saying it in a bad way. I'm just reminding you, it's good to love certain things everyone likes the clothing and the way they look and a little bit of this and that but that should not determine
that you should not determine your real value in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala your value is with your deen your closeness to Allah your clock, as for the rest of the things will lie he they will go they will go. Everything you have is a test from Allah subhanho wa Taala
he will go. So let's get to our Hadith, the Hadith that we are discussing today, a very, very interesting variation of kidnap bustle the love and woman when he says the promise of Salaam was advising a man who was giving him a man giving a man advice. And he told him you know what?
seize five opportunities before they are overtaken by five conditions and they will all be overtaken by five conditions. When Allah gives you something, he is going to take it away. There's no chance that is not going to take it away. If Allah gave you something, it is going to go that's the plan of Allah that already proves that while you have it, use it correctly trained to go to Panama
while you have it, use it, it's going to go. So what does he say?
The prophet SAW, Selim mentioned five items and these five are part of the test of Allah when Allah made you, he says,
I have only created mankind to do things the way I want them to be done. That's the meaning of it. I have only created mankind and jinn kind to obey me to worship Me, which means to do what I told them to do to stay away from what I told him to stay away from and what law he my brothers and sisters, if you do that, you will be contented in this world. You will be happy in this world, you will smile Even if you are living under a tree. And if you don't do that you will be depressed even if you are living in a palace. Did you hear that? How many people are depressed sleeping pills don't work anymore. But they are living in palaces. They have beautiful mansions. But even the sleeping pills
don't work. You know what's wrong, your relationship with Allah is wrong. Something is missing. Your tawakkol your trust on Allah.
Your trust on Allah, something is wrong with it, develop, change, do something and Allah will open your doors, you will be content, even if you are struggling with a terminal sickness. I meet a brother every time I go to Dubai, he is paralyzed totally from head to toe for the last decade. And he's always very happy. He cannot speak with his mouth. He actually the movement of his eyes determines what he wants to say. It takes him half an hour to say one sentence of Allah. But he always says I am very, very happy with what Allah has chosen for me. So Panama,
a man who cannot move telling you I'm happy with what Allah has chosen for me. He is a man looking forward to the meeting with Allah And as for us, we are looking forward to the meeting with someone we can commit heroin with. That's what it is. We are looking forward to something that is material that is going to go anyway. You know the pleasures of this world.
about them. They are all very temporary, a temporary The only thing that remains is your relationship with Allah.
A person who committed adultery How long was he satisfied for a few minutes a person who gambled and won a lottery for it. So how long was he happy? For sure. Go and Google those who have won big, big lotteries. Most of them depressed, a lot of them suicidal, some even committed suicide, but they weren't millions and billions. You know why? There was no Allah in that link. That's why
those who have gone to the clubs, but did they gain a little thing for a short period of time they felt good after that. Reality strikes you become even more depressed. Those who resort to alcohol to solve their problems. Instead of resorting to Allah to solve their problems. They alcohol makes them forget. I spoke to a Muslim brother unfortunately on intoxicants and drugs, and he told me I've got too many problems I said, so you are adding to your problems. That's what you are doing. You're adding his every sniff of pool of weed is a problem to be problem. One more pool. And now people are saying it's legalized? legalized what legalized?
In Islam, the rules will remain the same. Isn't alcohol legalized in many cases? Does it make Islam change? No. Alcohol is legalized, adultery is legalized. So many things are legalized, where we who have chosen to be most in that chosen to be disciplined, we will follow what Allah says Allah says, Don't do it. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala, strengthen us.
Brother, you can leave that tissue that inshallah someone is bringing tissue I can see it's okay. We will sweat it out today. It's kind of
so my brothers and sisters, it's very interesting to see that Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us a chance to prove ourselves. If I were to ask you, how many of you would like to be billionaires here? I think I don't even want to say because more hands would go up then a religious question. Right? But if I were to ask you, when you get to a billion, what are you going to do? You will have embarrassing answers, or lying. You follow what I'm saying? embarrassing answers. What we want to do say Oh Allah, bless me with the millions bless me with the billions and prove to Allah that when I have it, let's see what I'm going to do. People are worried that man has a lot of money, what is he
doing? Go and see he's doing a lot of good work. SubhanAllah he's doing a lot of good work. She's doing a lot of good work. What about you, the first 20 that you got in your pocket, it went into the wrong direction?
To give you more, because I know when I give you look what you're doing. And Allah Subhana Allah, Allah grant us ease. You follow what we're saying.
So my brothers and sisters, Let's work hard, let's contribute to community, let's contribute to society, we need to build we need to build our morals and our values. We need to have a system whereby we take care of each other. Look after your wives Look at her as the daughter of someone, you know, many of our wives and I'm saying our wives because the majority of men I'd like to think stavroula forgive me if I'm wrong, maybe come as an exception, but I doubt it. Many of our ways, they suffer in silence.
Is it right?
The men are saying yes, Oh Allah Subhana Allah. They don't know where to go. This man is number one, adulterous. Number two, they think because they have the money they can go and do what they want. They drink alcohol, but they read Salah at the same time. How is this happening? How Allahu Akbar you have well, Allah is watching you when he's going to take your wealth away. You take your happiness away, even flicked you with disease, with issues with problems. How when you have been blessed respect others Allah will give you respect. The prophet SAW Selim says the best from amongst you is not the best with the billion, not the best. Not the best, not the best car and house. He's
the one who can respect his wife and treat her with utmost respect and be kind and the best to her. That is the best of all men. So Pamela, how many are good men here in common?
I see one hand at the bad karma. Take my brother. Allah bless you.
Know, Allah bless you. Try your best honestly. Make it your own challenge. And my dear sisters, don't start developing a big game and say, Did you hear what happened here? You heard what the chef said? No, no, no, it's given take. It's given take. We also need to carry ourselves with respect. Look after the wealth of your spouse look after his dignity and it should be mutual. It should be both ways to kind of love. We look after each other. We look after each other. And that's how it should be. Take care but respect. You know, in the Quran, Allah has named an entire surah after a woman who complained about her husband to the province of Southern and she was complaining actually
to Allah subhanho wa Taala
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she complained the processor was telling her to wait to hang on etc. And Allah revealed verses to say Allah has heard this discussion between the two of you. Allah heard this woman who is coming to complain to Allah. She's talking to you complaining to Allah about her condition. The husband doesn't sleep with her. That was the problem. So Pamela, imagine how embarrassing it is for a woman to go up to someone
and say, This man doesn't sleep with me. He considers me just like his own mother to be loved. It's so embarrassing, but it happened. It is mentioned in the Koran because we need to learn a lesson that to fulfill the rights of your spouse that are the base desire. That is absolutely your duty on both sides. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for us. I said don't bring the tissue but he still brought it May Allah forgive you, my brother, Zack a lot and it's kind of they do what we say don't do.
It's Okay brother. I'm enjoying the heat. You know, people pay to go into a sauna online. They pay money to go into a sauna. At least here we get it free of charge. No handler that's one of the five stuff. It's a sixth style that you need to have a free sauna. Allah bless you guys. I really don't mind honestly. It's not a it's not an issue with me. May Allah bless you.
So Allah subhanho wa Taala has given us
certain things. Number one, and this is in no specific order, right? no specific order. He gave you your health.
You know what is going to take it away.
He's going to take it away, you are healthy, you can walk a day will come you won't be able to walk a day will come you are not healthy. Every one of us we suffer some form of a flu, some form of a cough, some form of a sickness with our health through the year once or twice, right.
Don't make like a car. No, it doesn't happen. Am I right? Thank you. So it happens once or twice. It might not be a serious thing. But it's a luxury and you know what? Your health is so delicate, it's in our hands. If you're not going to rest properly, you're not going to do this properly. And sometimes he may be he was so careful with your health. You still develop those who are so careful. Sometimes they develop bigger sicknesses. It's Allah and Allah is showing you Subhana Allah, that you know what?
This is a gift. We are going to take it away. It's temporary. It is very temporary. So panela
your health is going to go away. So while you are healthy, what are you doing? Ask those who cannot read Salah anymore standing.
When they were healthy. Did they read Salah on it? Did they even read Salah? That's a question? Did they fulfill their Salah when they were okay? No, no, they were busy using all of that in something else. Allah says Well, we're going to take it away. And that's why
there is an ayah in the Quran,
which says those who did not use to do so do those who did not prostrate to Allah, those who did not do Salah in this world on the Day of Judgment, they won't be able to do sudo to Allah in front of him. yo maya
they used to be called to sujood when they were healthy they didn't do it. So on this day when Allah exposes part of himself and they will be called to do servitude, their backs will be straightened that they won't be able to go down because they never ever did it. So Panama and calling on you and on myself my brothers and sisters Don't be lazy to fulfill your Salah no matter what time of the night or day your fall is something you should never let go of never let go of that which is compulsory don't ever ever miss it. May Allah forgive us mela strengthen us no matter what.
I have been having questions of lakes my brothers my sisters more so for the sisters I need to tell you because it's a new problem. I've been having questions of late of people asking and I thought it was a joke initially but it's not. They say I paid 150 pounds. You know what that is? A lot of money. How many Naira is that can someone quickly work it out?
150 British pounds how many Naira is that today?
150,000 Naira perhaps? Perhaps right
you mean the rate is way up as we are talking about Allah forgive us I hope that's not the case. But my brothers and sisters whatever it is, is a large amount right? I spent 150 pounds on making up my face Am I allowed to delay my Salah? What money can I not just put some you know a wash my face before I actually put on the makeup or the nail polish so that it can act as a leather sock which we are allowed to do massage over because how can I attend the wedding it's going to last from the time of Guru acid all the way to eliminate mate how what law he my sister You sold your relationship with Allah 450 pounds. That's what happened. You sold your relationship with a loved 150 pounds. What was
more important to you your Salah or your makeup?
I'm not saying it's wrong to look good. No. But it depends what you are trying to do. And it depends if you are compromising your relationship with a law that is something wrong. A day will come when you will really regret what you did. So Hannah law, you follow what I'm saying? My brothers, my sisters, and many are asking the question. No, it can't be How can I lose so much of money I you know, and when another thing some of them lose their health because they are holding the Whoo hoo.
Allah. When like many years ago, there was a lady I mentioned in one of my talks long back. So she visited our house some time back and they were attending a wedding. And she was doing Voodoo and not finishing and not finishing. So my mother noticed this. My mother thought maybe she's odd. Perhaps she needs a little bit of help guidance. My mother said What's happening? She said no, I'm making 10 we'll do one time because you know if one breaks at least the other nine out there.
Well, it This was ignorance, she really believed that that was the case. She really believed it somehow a lot. And so my brothers and sisters, today we have a similar problem. It does not mean that because your makeup was extremely expensive that you have any discount regarding Salah. No. And you know what, the less you use, the better you actually look. Let's go back to our natural lips. Be excited with how Allah has made you be proud of how Allah has made you and inshallah you will be very, very successful. On the other hand, we have men complaining about not being allowed to kiss a spouse just because that makeup again was 150 pounds. So had a lot the hang of it. They know what
I'm talking about, don't you?
I see some unmarried men say yes, Allah forgive us that Allah.
But my brothers and sisters, it's a reality. Learn to strike a balance for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala learn to know what your priorities are. One day it will be your last day, one day it will be your last opportunity and that's the day if you didn't read Salah you won't be able to have done it. We always say according to the Quran, there is a Salah at the beginning of the day, it's known as fungible, there is a Salah at the end of the day, it's known as a sham. you started your day with prayer so that if you die during the day, you would have had a blessed day at least you start you ended it at night with prayer. So if you died at night, you would have at least had a
blessed day. Your day starts with prayer. It ends with prayer. If you don't die, you have a blessed sleep and you have a blessed day and you die you have a blessed death either during the day or during the night. So you start your day with pray, how many of us we don't start our day with prayer unless we happen to not be able to sleep. It's a fact. It's a reality. Let's not lie. May Allah forgive us. Fill up the massage. Cry to Allah. Fulfill your Salah. See how your life changes. See how your condition around you will improve. You become a better person, your morals, your values is meant to respect each other. I spoke about health. Your health is a gift of Allah it's going to go
one day What are you doing? Why you are healthy? Are you using that time to do what pleases Allah?
A time will come when that health will go many people are diagnosed diseases and sicknesses. If not when you get old and at the same time, your health and everything goes at once. And this is why that continues to mention other factors.
Utilize your wealth before poverty overtakes you my brothers and sisters when you have money, understand Humble yourself for the sake of Allah. Humble yourself for the sake of Allah use it to earn paradise. How much are you
Going to need on Earth, how much? How much, not much, make other people wealthy.
Now that you are wealthy, so can Allah by encouraging them creating employment, perhaps some business reaching out to them in one way, making them active, be happy when you see someone else earn. I know of some people, when they have a big business and they see another person, open a Tech Shop across the road, you know, you have a massive wholesale massive, worth millions of dollars. And one man opens a tack shop across the road, and we get so angry, Who is he to come and sell the cooking oil that I am selling at one cent less than mine.
And so we get very angry, but we don't realize you can take a page from the Middle East sometimes, and perhaps from areas like these.
Where if there is one shop that sells mobile phones, the whole mall is full of mobile phones. If there is one shop that is selling a bias for the women, that whole area is selling a bias when people are happy your sustenance is with Allah prove your product, people will buy it inshallah. And especially if you are a good person, Allah will send to you your sustenance, when you are giving others Allah will give you to give them so the money needs to come to you before it goes to them. Therefore Don't worry about the provision that Allah will provide you. He provides provision in a way that you will never ever believe that is Allah. But use your wealth in a good way. Don't use it
in a bad way. When you have wealth, don't waste it. And don't be miserly. Some are very wealthy. But they can't even spend a few dollars on their own wives and children.
That's not true.
wealthy, but you can do something for your own way. Your own kids, your own family members, you can do something.
But when it comes to wasting waste, you know what, sometimes Allah does not accept people's wealth, because maybe it is not clean enough. Maybe it is not clean enough. I know of a Masjid project that was really at the doorstep of one very wealthy guy. He told them no, you either put my name as the name of the machine, or I don't want to give you the money. Guess what happened? The project was contributed towards by the entire community and they built an even better machine and it was now named independently from the man. When it was done. He came back said can I refund all those people who gave money? How do you think you are? Love Understand? Along with Stan, may Allah subhanho wa
Taala not make us arrogant.
remain humble no matter who you are, no matter how much Allah has given you. remain humble. Let's move on. The Hadith says utilize your
young age before all age overtakes you when you are young. Use it in the right direction. It's a test from Allah, you are young, what are you going to do? You're active? Are you going to use your health and your young age, to be productive to get closer to Allah or you are going to involve in sin?
Allah says yes, you want to do something, we will allow you to do it. But you need to regularize it is you will have your own spouse, you will have children insha Allah if Allah wills, if Allah has not chosen something for you, like some of those who don't have children, remember, it's the biggest gift that Allah could bestow upon you. He will give you Jenna, when you don't question him. You can keep trying, keep trying to have children, no problem. May Allah bless those who don't have children with good children say I mean.
Sometimes Allah shows people, you might get the child and then the child is such that you will say I wish I didn't have the child.
So Allah says, well, when we didn't give you, you were kind to us. So we gave you now we gave you You're still complaining to us? When are you going to be happy when you didn't have your complaining when you had your complaining? That's why some women they never end up getting married because Allah says, if you want to marry a prize idiot, sorry to use that word. Do you want to marry a person who's going to cause depression and suicidal thoughts to you? Or would you just rather just remain alone for a while it will be sad, but you, you you you actually surrender to what we have decided and dictated for you and we will give you what ever you want. You will have that Subhanallah
and don't be a depressed case. Well, who will I marry? Is no one married me the union. I like people ask those questions. Don't worry. When you go to Germany, you tell Allah Oh Allah. Allah says, Allah. Allah. When Allah promises you agenda, he says you can ask him about it that Oh Allah you promised us give it to us. Subhana Allah, you go to a live show Allah you promised I could have whatever I wanted. I want this and this and this and this as you are thinking it will be given to you Wow, wow. Wow. Some kind of law that is genuine to give those. We have
Samia, Allah, Allah, Allah
Subhana Allah, that which no one has thought of, no one has seen, no one has heard. It hasn't even crossed the hearts or minds of anyone Allah says will give it to you. So don't worry, those how many were married and then we don't, which might be even worse. But Allah says you're a widow. Two things happen. People who take care of you can earn Ghana through looking after you for the sake of Allah and not for something material in return.
Number two, if you bet patience, you will also get those Subhan Allah Subhana Allah, those who are widowed actually are many, many. It's a struggle. When you have children, it's a struggle.
One of the hosts of this event today is a foundation known as orphans and women, orphans and women. If I'm not mistaken, orphans and women support foundation. You haven't heard of them. They're the ones who made this possible today. And they deserve a little bit of recognition as well. hamdulillah there are those who know the work. And there are so many organizations and foundations, I have found doing a lot of good work, a lot of goodwill, all of them. We support them monetarily with our grant. by mentioning them today. Here we support all of those who are doing good work. A lot of good is happening a lot. Please keep it going. My beloved boys and girls become volunteers get involved, go
out and reach your young age is going to deplete and you don't want to have regrets later on that I didn't do this and I didn't do that. So go out, work for them. Donate, give, see, participate, go and meet others meet the underprivileged, Allah will help you to see how privileged you are.
You know, before many years ago,
when we didn't have bicycles, when I was a kid, I used to wish for a bicycle.
One day I got a second and bicycle from someone who was known to be for that bike, a small little 20 inch bike, little one. And I was so excited even though it was a dilapidated bike riding and coming up and down the driveway and going here that day, we were excited. Anyway, as time passes, what happens to men, we went to university. In fact, when we went to high school, we used to catch a bus and catching that bus to Panama. You know, when you want to come back home, you have to wait for the bus at five o'clock. And it's one o'clock already. And you think Can I walk? If I walk? It's going to take me two hours Anyway, you see cars passing one after the other and you think yourself they
don't even think Can I give a lift to this young boy? Right? You see people with nice cars they even wave at you when you say I don't need to I just need you to stop I'll jump in it costs you nothing right? But no, it's a nice way of teaching you some Hana love so you're wishing for a car, any car. The day you get a car was 500 US dollars a small little microphone running around, whatever whatever to you. It is my right. It's
my car just jumping around here in a look at people until you see the Mercedes next door. Hey, hey,
guys an embarrassment Allah Subhan Allah. So you are now forgetting your humble beginnings and you are now focusing on something that you didn't really ask for it was not in the picture at the time. You know, it's an amazing way people operate. It's the nature of men. So now from your car, you are now wondering wishing for another car, then you want to expand it. And if you didn't have a house and suddenly Allah blessed you to rent your own place, you don't care. Ask those women who are living in a big extended family, those families that are not easygoing. What this means is Islam does not encourage you to live in a huge extended family where everyone is together and everyone
needs to be at one place at one time. Unless you are easygoing, easygoing, nice, give the people their independence. It's okay you can make it you cannot make it perhaps there is one important function we will all attend. And then we want it happens across the globe. In my family too. We have a very large family but now less than less people are getting involved because the world is changing and people are preferring their individual independence rather than a collective intolerance. And sometimes it becomes so tough and so difficult that it tears apart a family within and above it's just a fake, good look. But inside there is real crying and and real hurt. So what happens is when
you have a person who tells you No I don't care, even if I live in a heart, but I don't want to live here.
You follow what I'm saying? I don't care even if I live in a heart but I don't want to live here. When they get the hot they are very excited. By just for a little while. Then what happens? You start missing your electric kettle. You start missing your hot water. You start missing everything.
Is this hot? Yeah, it's a bit tight in here. So panela. And then you want your own house, by the time you get your first own house, your own house, you don't mind how small it is or where it is. But for you, it's a huge achievement only for a short time, you get your latest phone, that is 10 plus one terabyte of space, you get that phone, and you know what you're excited with it, you're very happy with it. But guess what, just for a short space of time, once the next one comes out, you are on edge once again on edge. Once again,
you weren't looking for more and more and more and more in the interim, you lose focus from Allah.
When you run behind the dunya, that dunya always runs faster than you remember that.
When you run behind the dunya, it will always run faster than you no matter what. It's at a faster pace. You will never ever keep up no matter who you are. Never ask those who have wealth, they cannot keep up. And you know what will give them happiness. Getting closer to Allah, nothing more. You have your set of clothes, some of the richest people
who are close to Allah, they don't have too many clothes. They have their own sets of clothes. And that's it.
That's it, they are happy with it. They close others, they feed others they give others they are happy to serve others because Allah bless them. Let that be the case.
I always tell people, if you look in your wardrobe, my beloved sisters, if you have not used some pair of clothing for one year, give it away. Give it away, it will bring you into gentlemen.
Some of us have clothing. In fact, sell it if you want. If you need the money, sell it if you don't need the money, give it let's see someone else in a set of clothing that made you very very happy and give it to them. So kind of love.
I know of some sisters may be many. When they show something for their wedding, they keep it for 3035 years in the cupboard. And when you say why have you kept it? Perhaps one day, I'll fit back into this. So Mahanama, you've given birth to three, four children, you want to go back to your wedding clothes. Why don't you look at another bride and give it to her. If Allah has blessed you with the daughters, they can have their own they don't need to be in your clothing. What you wore when you made it their father perhaps doesn't need to be if you want it okay. But this is only a way of looking at things give it away.
Yesterday I was flying to Canada from Abuja on the common airlines known as max at least they are on time usually hamdulillah.
There was a brother sitting next to me he was a Christian. We got talking about life and various other things. He told me in my wardrobe, I only have four or five sets of clothes. every six months, I removed what I haven't worn and I said that's my preaching. That's what I've been teaching. But he never heard me. He's doing it on his own with his own accord. Imagine what Muslims
that care for humanity is shown in your clothing.
Six months I told you today one year right? But he's saying six months I looking at this thing. I didn't wait give it away. What am I to do? I was studying the life of Mike Zuckerberg, what Mark Zuckerberg and some of the others including Bill Gates, they have very few pairs of clothes, trust me, and they were the same thing almost all the time.
Why they are focused on something else. May Allah help us focus on genital symptoms, or live life is not about showing proving. I know cultures. Not only here, trust me, it's not a problem only here is a problem across the globe, where weddings today are becoming so big and so fancy. And everyone struggles the amount of money that the community spends on a wedding goes into the billions because every person who attends wears a new set of clothing No wonder there are so many people who are tailors today because that's a booming business. We've had a lot booming business
Mashallah, we need a new set of clothing. How can I wear the same one that I wore last week? That's an embarrassment. We'll learn how you can and why not? Why not? You are setting a trend that is dangerous. Our children will not be able to live it they will have to steal to live it. They will have to do haram to live it.
Let them utilize those resources in something more constructive. Not on this.
Just go with something plain and simple. look good. So what if you want it so many times? Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us forgiveness we become such that we run by
These things if Allah has blessed you with wealth and Hamdulillah, but you have a problem, you are sitting a trend, the trend to be conscious, others might not be able to afford it. I know in Europe and in other places, even in South Africa, and perhaps even here, people take bank loans in order to show a wedding bigger than what they can manage for what have you. It's simple, straightforward.
Get a few people and that's it. I gave you the example of
Mashallah, if you can afford it and handler but like I said, Be careful you're sitting and training, others will say what type of waiting is this?
So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, utilize your wealth, before poverty overtakes you, how will poverty overtake you? A day will come when you won't have that money. And the day will come when you will die with the money and leave it behind.
One of the two. Either Allah takes it away while you are alive, which has happened to many, oh, Allah takes you away and leaves the wealth behind. What did you achieve by it? What did you achieve? Did you deposit any of your money with Allah or you just left it behind for your children to fight over?
children to fight over? Sometimes this is what happens. People fight over the wealth left by their parents. And I wonder, but can't you do your own thing? Why are you worried about what your father left what your mother left? I know of a case where one wealthy person came to me and told me I have a problem with my son. Why? He told me Give me my inheritance now.
What line Can you imagine? And the father says whatever he says, I don't care. I will not give it to me now.
A lot will give me my inheritance. Now. Although we love
that statement and what lights effect that statement is so dangerous. It goes to show how lazy we are how sometimes we haven't even taught our children to earn a living but we have
we haven't passed the baton on to the children. Be happy with what you have. Don't worry about others living live in your capacity even if people think that you are a wealthy person, but you know, you are not.
Some people they dress well. From the dressing. Everyone thinks they must be multimillionaires, but they are poorer than what you are who is talking. But they just know how to dress. That's all
You know, there was a man, another wealthy man, he was wearing a watch. I told him you have a nice watch. Many years ago, you have a nice watch.
He said, I bought it for 20 years in Makkah from one of the shops that sell things for nothing. I said, Oh, that's interesting. He said, But when I sell it, I'll sell it for 4000 US dollars. I said How? He said people just offer me because they think as a rich man, I'll be very, very expensive watch. Imagine, imagine, sorry, the wealthy here I'm not giving you ideas. I'm only letting you know, when people look at something you have they think this must have cost the three 4000? You know, I'll offer you four. Okay, take it. May Allah forgive us. Look at how do you know, personally, I cannot tell the difference between a Chinese product and another product. I can't sometimes those
look more smart than the other ones. I don't know if you know what I'm saying?
What is it all about? I really don't know. And that's why now when you see an original Rolex, you look at that from China. What? What What did you just say? You have embarrassed me? No, I didn't. There's some in China that look better than this.
And by the way, Chinese products are quite good to be very fake. It only depends how much you're willing to pay. It's like the story of the fans. You know the story can say it again.
They say you know in China, they make the best products. A lot of what you have original like our phones, iPhone, Samsung's whatever many of the components are actually made in China. So people look at China and in China, they base the product on how much you are prepared to pay for it.
So if you want a watch with $5, they make a $5. Watch. You want to watch with 500 they make a $500 watch, etc. Even the toys, some of them you only paid one nine for it. As soon as you do this, it breaks. They say well, you paid one. You've used it for one, you see. So what happened is there was amazing demand. He was preparing for the wedding of his daughter and the wife kept saying What are you doing? The wedding is near What are you doing? The wedding is near one day when he was working on the street he saw a man on the side selling these fans, you know, they opened the fan nicely and they actually have a fan that fans use of Allah. So he said, How much are these fans he was told is
one cent, one cent. So he said these ones are 10 cents. These ones are $1 but these ones here
One said, he said, give me four boxes. He got four big boxes, right? Let's take it home, you paid a little bit and he went home. When he went home the next day, his wife told me this. And you know, I tried those fans, I opened one. As soon as I did this once it broke. Then I opened another one. I did it once it broke. He said can't be those are proper events. So he said, let's see, he opened one. He just did this. He went one time and it broke. He did it again. It broke. So he took the boxes. Let's go back to the man. He went back to the men, the man says
to the one man says to the other, you know what, I need to return these pens. There's something wrong with him. He says no, what's wrong with him? He says they are breaking. He said, How much did you pay for them?
He said I paid a cent. He says Ah, did you read the instructions? He said no. He said if you pay the same, they are different instructions for that fan. What are the instructions this time Look, read the instruction. Okay, Open it, open it and put it in front of your face. Now move your head.
You're not supposed to move the fan you paid one sense you move your head. So kind of layout.
Moral of the story is you get a product based on how much you are prepared to pay for it. You want to pay one cent, you have to move your head you want to pay 10 cents to $1 you can use the fan? May Allah Subhana Allah Allah forgive us.
So my brothers and sisters the same way when we have wealth, what are we giving to Allah? Allah says he wants two and a half percent. In most cases, he wants two and a half percent from us only. We find it so difficult to calculate it and to give it yet there is no merit for a person
who does only his father except that he has fulfilled just the fact it's like a person going for Salah they do not follow that workout. What happens Allah tells you you want to gain real closeness. Don't just do what is compulsory, to move sooner, nephila etc, then you will get close to us. You are healthy. Why do you want to run out of the masjid immediately? Why do you want to rush out of your Salah quickly? If you do 12 units of sooner through the day you will get going. So why didn't you read some sooner Salah after your phone. The same applies to your wealth. You wake up two and a half percent it works out to so much. You're saying but I'm not liquid. You know, I hope that you
know the more you have the more you're good the two and a half percent is going to be I had a brother who once told me I'm going to give 1% of my turnover to Allah. At that time, his turnover was 10,000 it goes to 100,000 got to a million to 10 million. He came and asked me you know what do I still have to just give the 1% why it's 1%. But because 1% of 10 million is no longer 1% of 10,000 shavon comes to you and says maybe there's a way out, give it say 2% and move on like give me more I will give more when you have nothing you are promising one when you've got something you want to chop from the one How is the opposite? Look at this.
That's why the hobbies were the products or services one main thing was half a portion of dates so that the people were laughing at him says in fact Allah revealed versus
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Allah says those who are making a mockery of others who are giving a small charity and that which their hands have earned, they are making a mockery of him Allah will make a mockery of them and for them will be a severe punishment. Like man, he gave 50% of his earnings Disability Law which translated as a half a kilo of dates, you have not even given 1% of your earnings and you are laughing at him. You follow? Allah looks at your heart, then to give
donate while you can.
So I was telling you my brothers and sisters, that
we give only that which is necessary two and a half percent soccer you really want to show closeness to Allah give more than that. Your sadaqa that which is for the sake of Allah, your voluntary charities give them give more for the sake of Allah, you will find a lot that you will get in return.
Every day, put a few cents put a few nighters into the box every day. Is it hard? It's not a lower bless you start your day with a sadaqa
the prophets of Salaam used to ask his companions at times saying who has given a charity today who has visited a sick person today who has visited the elderly today
Who has read the Quran today? Who has done this today? The one man who always used to answer Yes, yes, yes to all of the questions. What was his name?
What was his name?
Abu Bakr Siddiq
Abu Bakr here formerly known as Abba, right?
Am I call them up? How many of us are the discount brokers? How many of the brokers here
will lie I've seen more than about 2030 years. Only in Nigeria, maybe only West African, all these beautiful names, we have them and they are here. And everyone loves using those names. The rest of the world we are moving on to exotic names that have less in meaning but a sound like you're very modern, you know?
I I didn't understand at one stage when I went when I first came here. What is your name? I mean, what is your name? What is your name? What is your name? Fatima. What is your name? Halima what is the same names over and over and over and over again? Now I know its value. Don't lose that. Don't lose that. So Han Allah. May Allah bless you. I met a family Mohammed, Muhammad Ali Muhammad Ali Muhammad Radha Muhammad comes
in that family
Subhana Allah, all the children Mohammed first, second, third, fourth, fifth. I said Subhana Allah, then what happened with Saudis? He said no, then we had Amina Mashallah. Nicola Bless you, after five cents.
mela grace So, so my brothers and sisters, that was Abu Bakar his real name was not abubaker by the way. His real name was Abdullah. He is not his name was Abdullah and his father was a fan. So he was known as alkaline earth man. But they used to call him aboubaker. It was just a cornea, it was just a cornea mini nickname given to him some heinola What a lovely person, one of my dreams is one day to spend some time with him in general.
You want to know more about these people. We want to know what was what is there and we know a little bit but Allah kept them so special. Like he chose them to be companions. I now know some of the reasons why. If the professor Salaam was here telling us in Canada not to do this not to do that we wouldn't listen to him. I don't think many of us would be prepared to listen because today we are telling you what he said. And still we don't want to listen. So it's better. We are not. So However, if we were Sahaba we would be an embarrassment. We're like, do follow what I'm saying. Imagine he comes in he says interest is haram and you say Oh, if you know the fingers, that's what people would
say. They say don't have a big wedding and say oh, you know we have to show there that we are big people here. People will have something to say to the Prophet all the time. That's why we are not Sahaba. When I second thought Yala, you chose the people. Allah says Allah chose the best of creation, and he made him Mohammed.
He chose the best of companions and maintain the companions of Mohammed. We believe
that as a woman, Masha Allah ambia, Abu Bakr, Siddiq, Monrovia, Lahore and Oman. We believe the best to treat the earth after the prophets of Allah was a man known as Abu Bakr Siddiq, he was known as economic kochava he was known as a delightful Man, what a great man. Allah says we chose him to be the companion. But I didn't choose you and I
you know why?
Emery him it is not a true believing male or a female. It is not for them. Once Allah and His Messenger have declared something, to have a choice in that regard when you're a true believer. You know, if Allah said this, I have no choice I have to do it. If Allah said don't do this, I have no choice. I would not do it. If Allah said it's five, Salah is five, so Allah, if Allah said it's two and a half percent Sokka it's two and a half percent. If Allah said do this, do that if the prophets or someone said this, it's that finished. It's over. That is a true believer. But with us we have so many words of advice, those whom Allah has blessed with a lot, they still stuck thinking I'm not yet
ready to do what Allah has allowed, or what Allah has dictated or what Allah has said, or to abstain from what Allah has prohibited. I went to one country where those who go for Hajj are all very old people. So I asked them why they told me the waiting list is very long. If you applied it will take you 15 to 20 years for your name to come together. How long does it take
Nigeria, not long am I right? If you want to go this year, you can go this year, right?
Thank Allah thank Allah, there are countries where they cannot go even in South Africa, they have a short, small quota. And if you apply today you might get to after two or three or maybe even four years to kind of learn because there are too many people. When you witness the people who go very old, you ask the young Would you like to go for have many of them
and not yet ready? Why?
You know? Do you have the wealth? Yes. Do you have the ability? Yes, it means Allah has decided you should go now. But I'm not ready. Why?
Then they can tell you I want to still sin for a few more years before I go for Hajj. That's the true answer but you are embarrassed to tell me I'm not a fool we can read between the lines
why you might never ever live to see another hedge you will die how many of the people have died in the young age many nothing wrong suddenly boom did nothing wrong suddenly gone dead.
my brothers and sisters I have spoken beyond one hour but I think they can carry on right? We I don't come to Congo every time.
Although I promised the brothers that inshallah I will be in that. We said 1500 we will have by two. So we only have the first one will come after a few months again.
And the heat is keeping me going. You know, the longer you remain in the sauna, the healthier your skin. People ask you what do you use on your face? Can I tell you nothing? So Pamela besides sweet What else? May Allah forgive us?
I'm grateful to have you been given the opportunity to clarify that. I don't use 150 pounds.
My brothers and sisters, the blessing of Allah is with us always the fact that we are sitting and listening to the words of Rasulullah sallallahu telling us watch the opportunities we have placed in front of you use them you are young, watch out, do good things before your young age goes and you become old and invalid and you won't be able to move and walk and suddenly you can't even walk properly. But if you use your young days correctly, you will always be able to thank Allah and be happy how you use your young days. That is why the Hadith says that there are seven types of people who will be granted the shade of Allah on the day of Yama, VIP, you know what is VIP,
very important person, we are being in this dunya hamdulillah they may not be VIPs in the half here, famous people in this world, maybe they are not even famous in the heavens because they have no good deeds going up. Some people who are not famous in this world, they are very very famous up there because they have deeds going up every day. You understand. It's up to do more so we can become famous there and we can be VIPs there as well. Who are the VIPs there are many many a list of seven all at once and then even more than seven but the seven mentioned in one study includes Shah, Boone, Masha
Allah tala LA, a young boy or girl, you know in Arabic language they use sharp, it doesn't refer only to avoid it, they use it to leave and if you know the Arabic language, they use that gender, but it refers to both, like when they say them, it means the sons of Adam, in actual fact it means the children of other male and female. So no one must come and say this is only for the males. No, it's for both. Anyone who in their young days they grew up and use that energy in the obedience of Allah. When you are bubbling, bubbling with energy so much that you think you are a big person. If people don't look at you, there's something wrong with them. Because you are doing things to make
them look at you and they're still not looking at you. So you are irritated.
Allah says I use that energy in the obedience of Allah, we will make you a VIP on the day of gamma. Because why you gave us the energy that you had at the beginning of the energy when it was at a peak when it was at a peak
feel encouraged to do something inshallah. My brothers and sisters those of us who have faulted
us your opportunity of life, as the Hadith says, before death overtakes you. Use your opportunity of life before death overtakes you, what should you do in your life? Turn to Allah repent, seek forgiveness every day. ask Allah forgiveness, we are human, we falter. We make mistakes, we commit sins, knowingly, unknowingly, we commit my innocence at times. Some may commit major sin we may follow
In two major sin, all of us, remember,
turn back to Allah you are still alive, there is always hope and never let shapen make you think that Allah will not forgive you. That is a secret. It's amazing. Never let shapen make you think Allah will not forgive you, He will forgive you. But if you have oppressed another human being you have around your wife, you have wronged someone else you have wronged your spouse, your husband, you have wronged Babs whoever, then you need to seek forgiveness from them. Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for us to seek forgiveness from one another, backbiting, slander, etc. People say very bad things about us nowadays, we have something known as social media. Social media has its positives
and its negatives, it gives the opportunity for many people to hide behind the screen of a phone.
If only you could see really what they look like and who they were, you would actually turn a blind eye to their statements.
Some of these people who utter terrible bad words, they are people who don't even respect themselves. And we feel so bothered by the fact that they have said something negative about us, don't worry,
they will say negatives about you, they will say negatives about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, who was the best of creation, So who are you and who am I?
If they spoke bad about the best of creation, they will speak even worse about you. And they will accuse us because they are dirty minded. When you see a man and a woman talking to each other, they are not talking dirty. And if you think they are talking dirty, your mind is dirty. That's what it is. When you see something, you come home and you are doubting your spouse, there is something wrong with your own trust of yourself. That's why you are doubting your spouse. That's the reason. Those who trust themselves don't have trust issues with others. But those who have trust issues with others, one of two reasons either glaringly the person has done something wrong in front of your
face, which is a reason why some people have trust issues, because I saw you openly committed this deed. Now you want me to trust you. So that is one reason why people have trust issues. But a bigger reason is because they don't trust themselves.
When you don't trust yourself, and it happens to a lot of men, unfortunately and some of the women when you don't trust yourself, so that's why whenever you look at your own spouse, you start thinking things will lie, that dirty mind needs to be washed with what we call Allah and salah and, and and turn to Allah and leave things to the in the hands of Allah, Allah will give you a lower grant you alone will open your doors. That's what will happen. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. And there is one more portion of this hadith that we need to talk about Subhana Allah
we spoke about health.
We spoke about wealth. We spoke about young age, we spoke about life. The last thing I want to speak about and I told you, I've not given it to you in the order of
your free time, spare time, occupy yourself with something when you are when you are having some time at hand free. Don't just sit and decided we are going to play you know that which is you know, do something constructive. Join a class join something. Yesterday I had the good opportunity of visiting Xena, Xena who was who had the ordeal in Saudi Arabia. She was arrested under false charges. Do you know the story?
I had the opportunity to see her. One thing she said to me, which actually moved me. You know what she said? Imagine I want you to imagine something. Imagine a person who's been arrested, falsely framed, put into a prison almost waiting to be executed. Do you understand what I'm saying? Guess what she started doing?
memorizing the Quran Subhan Allah. She said I started memorizing the Quran in prison, Allahu Akbar. Imagine the type of hope Allah instills in the hearts and minds. May that not happen to any one of us where we are falsely accused. I mean, if you don't accuse others, you won't be accused. And if you are accused, without accusing others, Allah will take you out of it. Look at how Allah took her out of it. The reason why I visited her was to draw inspiration for myself. Imagine it could happen to anyone. We are inspired by the fact that so much positivity was beaming from a totally negative situation. Totally negative. Generally, I'm a positive person, but sometimes we are human beings. We
feel a little bit low. It's normal. It's natural. When lucky when you start thinking she said that I knew inside I knew it from Allah. I just knew something that I'm going to be released here.
Imagine and there wasn't even a chance if you asked me. The systems are very, very unique in
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now make it easy.
Allah grant us goodness. So my brothers and sisters use your free time no matter where it is to do that which is good use of Allah Hassan has a similar ordeal he was imprisoned and guess what happened. When he was imprisoned, he use the time to do down, he used the time to talk to the others to call them towards Allah to remind them, and he did a lot of good when they came out one day, they had to remember him. And one day he came out to Panama, but he was imprisoned for a long time for nothing. He was totally innocent accused. That's why we say those in prison are not necessarily guilty of the crimes that they were supposedly found guilty of having committed. Remember what I
said? You see someone in jail? perhaps maybe or maybe not, you don't actually know. Allah subhanho wa Taala give us goodness. So these are the few words that I thought we would share with you today, I tried to speak about some of the matters that we definitely need to address within our societies and communities. I want to leave you by telling you my father's and my mother's my brothers and my sisters. Make it easy for your children to marry. That is my main request for you here. Make it easy for your children to marry. Let them marry spouses whom they are happy with. Let it be if they are making a little mistake you can guide them if they are still insisting let it happen. Look at the
deen look at the clock in sha Allah, Allah will provide for them. Allah says it in the Quran. You don't have to look for a wealthy spouse unless is if you looked at the right reasons, allow will make them wealthy as
if they are poor, if they are not well to do. They are good people responsible, etc, etc. But they are not wealthy. They are not wealthy. Allah says Allah will provide for them from his virtue, he is the owner of wealth.
Let your children be happy. We are in the 21st century people are looking at us and thinking of how backdated we are not because we are Muslims, because we are clinging to certain elements of the culture that happened not to be in sync not only with Islamic teachings, but with the values that we are living by. And with the fact that we are in the modern world, my brothers and sisters, technological advancement will never make us change Islam. But our culture, sometimes one or two things in there, we will need to change. And by the way, culture is very, very important in the life of a Muslim and in the life of a human being unconditioned. That culture does not contradict Islam.
Wherever there are one or two things that contradict Islam, Islam comes first their culture comes second, the rest of it, you can follow the culture to the tee. So don't be mistaken and say we are against culture Not at all. We stand for culture, we believe in culture. The cultures are what makes the people the cultures are what made us recognize one another. But there are certain things that Islam takes precedence over when it comes to the culture. So this is why I have given you the piece of advice. And I really pray that Allah bless you and grant you goodness. And I pray for all those who made this possible. And if Allah gives us the life, perhaps we will meet again with with a
different topic. And we will speak on words of advice for the brothers and the sisters. Let us develop our relationship with Allah. Let us use the opportunities that Allah has blessed us with. And let us understand that when Allah gives you have an opportunity, that opportunity needs to be seized. If you don't seize it, you will regret it. Something came to my mind. Let me share it with you. There was a case where
a good man proposed to a certain family to marry his daughter. They refused him. Another good person came they refused him they were looking for. I wonder, right? They were looking for an angel from heaven perhaps.
So what happened is after they refused two or three men, people stopped coming. That woman arrived at the age of 40. Totally depressed, very sick very uneasy. Parents have died, everything else has gone and she's so lonely and alone and she curses her parents. You know why? The day that this came to the parents, they just turned it down. When a proposal comes to you it is from Allah. It's like a man walking into your shop and asking to buy something. So Pamela it's an is from Allah. Consider it seriously if it is not worth it decline. If it is worth it, take it one step more. And you will allow will open the doors for you but to close the door immediately.
You are saying Allah sent me this guy to come to ask for my daughter. Get out. How Subhan Allah? Do they use that word get out here and come.
The boys are saying yes, they use the word get out Buchanan our
army ministry Panaji, mela, Allah make it easy. So that was a good addition that I added, I was unaware that it happens please consider and my brothers be responsible. Don't just say hi to her. But she said I'm coming to propose and you will not tell me to get out but you have no job. You have no nothing you don't want to there is no responsibility. You are on the street every day. You have no good standing. You're never in the machine. You have no good character. And still you say ah, but why are you saying no? I have every reason to say no, I worried about my daughter, please. I love her. I wanted to marry someone respectable. So please be someone respectable and then you can go
forth May Allah open your doors I could only have I enjoyed myself speaking here today in the heat with the switch. I refuse the fan and I refuse the tissue because you know what? I enjoyed the sauna May Allah Subhana Allah Allah bless you all. I could only Hallo Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. sallallahu wasallam. ohana. An interview.