Reality of Happiness

Mufti Menk

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Light Upon Light 12, London

In this talk our respected Sheikh takes us on our  quest for happiness.

Allah says in the Quran ,“I have not created mankind or jinkind  except that they worship me”. What this verse refers to is leading your entire life according to what Allah has ordained. That is your first source of happiness and contentment- Allah.

Allah goes on to say in the Quran, “..whoever from amongst you who believes and does good deeds (ie stay away from the bad and do good) we guarantee they will have a good life”.

So focus on your relationship with Allah. Remember – the latest gadget or car or clothing or holiday destination will always end in two square meters when you leave this Earth.

The Hadith says the affairs of a true believer are amazing because no matter what happens to him or her, good or bad, it is always good.

Thus the fact remains that the closer we are to Allah, the happier we shall be for Allah is the Owner of Happiness.

After advicing us to protect and nurture our ties with Allah, the Sheikh thereafter continues to inform us of  the other channels that will bring Allah’s pleasure upon us. Do Take time to listen to this brief talk to increase your knowledge in your search for  happiness.

 

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah, Allah, he was happy.

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We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his household, his companions, we ask Allah Subhana, Allah, Allah to bless them to bless every one of us, to grant us goodness, to open the doors of goodness in this world for us and to grant us success in the hereafter such that we are united with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam engine that will fit those. I mean,

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my beloved brothers and sisters, we are talking about happiness.

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And happiness is something that if you were to know is the most searched one of the most searched words, on Google and on social media on the internet, people are searching for happiness. And it seems like no one is actually achieving that happiness, perhaps because they are searching

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in places that happiness is not found. And perhaps they don't know how to achieve it. And perhaps they're looking at people who don't really have happiness. If I were to ask a young boy or girl, what would make you happy? They would usually normally answer with a materialistic answer. Very material. People would say, you know what, if I had the latest car, I would be happy. If I had the latest phone, I would be happy. If I had the nice home, I would be happy meaning a house, if I had the latest perfume, I'd be happy. If I looked good, I would be happy. If I had the latest clothes, I would be happy. If I attracted the attention of others, I would be happy. Yet, every single one of

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those will not give you happiness. Besides that, which is very temporary, and very, very fake Subhanallah you can have the latest phone, it's not a source of happiness, it might make you happy for a moment. And thereafter, as soon as you hear there is another phone you are unhappy. It goes to show that there is something wrong maybe your understanding or my understanding of happiness needs to be fine tuned in accordance with what my maker has taught. And definitely, definitely if you would like happiness, there is no way that you could ignore revelation, there is no way that you could ignore the one who made you and die. For indeed, it is only through the teachings of the one

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who made you that you will understand why you're in existence. If you take a look Subhanallah

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at

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yourself, you will realize that there was a time when you were not in existence. There was a time when nobody could actually refer to you as he or she or even it because you didn't exist. So you came from somewhere and so did I, whoever made me has definitely sent a message to me telling me why he made me and if I were to search revelation, whatever is available on earth today, I would definitely find that the most authentic of all those books is the Quran. Without a doubt without a doubt. People may have a lot to say about what is in the Quran because they don't understand or they don't know the context or they haven't looked into it or perhaps sometimes they are tainted with

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some form of a lack of understanding. May Allah subhanho wa Taala open our doors. But if you went to look at I'm not telling us or my fall upon.

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Although I have not created mankind virgin kind except that they worship me.

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People look at that verse and I promise you I've had young people tell me, that is so boring.

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That is so boring. So maybe you haven't understood that verse, it actually refers to leading your entire life within what Allah has ordained and that will bring about happiness and contentment. Happiness is a choice that you have, you actually would make that choice. You can be happy people who are unhappy, generally look at what they don't have.

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And people who are happy look at what Allah has bestowed upon them in order to enjoy it within the limits of Allah. You know, if a person were to commit adultery, for example, may Allah protect all of us. If a person were to

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try to look for happiness in that which would displease Allah, it might bring about a temporary feeling a false feeling within oneself of happiness, but it's not actually happiness. You're sowing a seed of regret, of sadness, you're sowing a seed of evil that will

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germinate and grow into a huge wild forest if you're not careful, may Allah subhanho wa Taala not allow us to become lost in such forests. For indeed, if you were to watch the globe today, some of those who have the most glamorous lives outwardly are some of the most depressed people, they don't have that happiness, because they are not content with what Allah has given them. When Allah says, I've created you, and Jin kind in order that you worship Me, it means in order that you lead a life that is within what I have taught, stay away from the bad and do good. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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Whoever from amongst you, male or female believes and does good deeds, we guarantee them that they will have a beautiful life, they will be happy. That's what Allah means here because higher than a man cannot be possible. A good life, a beautiful life, a pure life, a nice life is not possible unless you're happy. So to be happy, you need to look at a few factors. Number one, your relationship with Allah your faith, do you believe that Allah is your maker? Do you believe you're going to return to Him? Do you believe that no matter how much you have on Earth, this will not give you more than two square meters when you leave it. You could be a billionaire, a millionaire, you

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could have every latest technology and gadgets. But I promise you, when you leave this world, it will only give you two square meters to be buried and thereafter you will be decomposed in there. In most cases, another or a third and a fourth buried on the same spot as time passes. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah grant us ease. This is why we say when we came on to Earth, we actually came without anything.

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We didn't even have clothes. And when we leave, we will be stripped of that clothing. We will be enshrouded in a respectful way, but we mean with nothing as well. So while we're on Earth, make most of the opportunities Allah gives you to gain closeness to him. If you don't have faith, you will never be a happy person. A Japan memory movement. the affairs of a true believer are amazing. Why are they amazing? For a number of hula hula who fail because no matter what happens to him or her, it is always good for him and her. It can never be bad, Allah doesn't do something bad. But Allah gives you opportunities to shine. A light gives you an opportunity to prove yourself, Allah gives

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you an opportunity to bear supper to bear patient. So this hadith continues to say if hardship befalls the true believer, then he or she is patient, so it is better for him or her. And if goodness comes in the direction of a true believer, then he or her is very, very grateful to Allah, it makes him or her closer to Allah in terms of worship, so that is better for him or her. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us happiness. Truly my brothers and sisters, the closer you are to Allah, the happier you will be when you make Allah happy, you will definitely be happy. Point number one I raised is the issue of your conviction in Allah, your faith in Allah, your belief and your

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relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala How is it? Hi.

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We've heard that so many times it means come to success. But when the color appointed by Allah subhanho wa Taala is calling us to true success. We are heading in the wrong direction we are going away. We're not particularly without prayer and our connection with Allah and we expect happiness. Can it come? Who is the owner of happiness? Is it not Allah? He's telling you come come to success. And what are we doing? We couldn't be bothered at times.

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May Allah protect us? So when we search for that happiness with those who don't own it, it's like asking a beggar for a million dollars. But when you are asking the right one, and when you're seeking it in the right direction from the owner of it, it's like asking a multi billionaire for one cent. So Panama, Allah subhanho wa Taala open our doors. So my brothers and sisters, you want happiness, you need to develop your link with Allah, you need to improve yourself. When we have for example, a happy day, a day of aid a day of a marriage and wedding etc, etc. Make sure that we understand that

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That happiness in the long term and the short term will only be achieved by making Allah happy on that day. Sometimes when we see these happy days, we cannot help but to ask ourselves, have we just intentionally displeased Allah here? May Allah subhanahu wa taala protect us all and keep guiding us army. Secondly, remember your family is of utmost importance Allah created you within a certain group of people, Allah made for you, someone known as your father, your mother, they may be good people in a lot of cases, most cases perhaps they may not be good people in some cases, they may be ridiculous in some cases, but Allah tells you be kind to them. We made you we know what you want. We

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know what you're looking for. You're looking for success and happiness, contentment, we're going to give it to you but we want you to realize the channel through which we chose to bring you onto Earth includes these parents of yours, your siblings, your relatives, and this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala stresses the so many times starting with the parents, what about

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Budo

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Allah has declared and dictated decreed that none shall be worshipped besides Him, and that you shall be kind to your parents and the verses continue to say how you need to actually be kind to them, what that kindness entails Subhana Allah, but what you need to know my brothers and sisters, if you ignore the channels through which Allah has created you, how would you achieve happiness? So you may disagree with your parents on certain issues, you may if they are totally wrong, but you need to be respectful, you need to be kind. And this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala says

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Giada Khurana

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was our Hebrew man, done Yeah, man.

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If they are trying and striving to make you associate partners with Allah in the displeasure of Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says In that case, you turn that down, you don't accept what they are instructing you to do. But you keep on treating them with goodness politeness with that which, which is common with that which is known as the treatment that parents should be receiving from you somehow, without treating your parents and your family members in a good way. You're not going to be able to be happy people are searching for happiness all over one law. He my brothers and sisters in our homes, our own spouses.

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We live together but we are far apart because each one is searching for happiness, perhaps on social media. Sometimes we look at what is on social media, we begin to compare our lives with the lives of others who are not actually leading those lives and therefore we lose our contentment. But to be honest with you, the Hadith says rakata surgery Cairo mina dounia one Murphy, the two units that you can offer for prayer before Salah

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that sooner

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is better for you than the whole world and what it can offer you some analog, whatever is in it. It's better than that. And what are we are doing at that time, we are snoring so panela the rules and regulations of the dean laid by Allah subhanho wa Taala are not there in order to make you unhappy, they're not there in order to make you lose your sleep. Or

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give me

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the beginning of sort of Baja, Allah clarifies a question that a lot of Muslims have. Why are there so many rules and regulations? Why does Allah make this forbidden? And why is this okay? Why is it not okay for me to do this and why is it that I have to do this Allah says, Ah ha, we have not revealed this urn to you this revelation to you. Oh Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that you can be the trashcan that you can

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lose this happiness, this goodness that you can be a person who's unsuccessful. Whatever else you'd like to say some kind of light in terms of negativity. The Quran is not revealed for a person to become unhappy, unsuccessful for a person to become sad. No, these rules are there for long term happiness. My brothers and sisters when you and I went to school,

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I'm sure a lot of us are still in school.

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Mashallah, when you and I went to school, why did we go there and listen very carefully.

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You started off pre grade one with the nursery or the crash, as they call it. In order for you to start learning how to read and write, you went to school grade one you suffered with examination, after examination, test after test, and so on. And you were happy. If your parents had to communicate with you, they would have told you, it's not about coming first, it's about trying your best. It's about trying your best. And so you continue one year, two years, how many years, seven years later, you graduate into high school, right, or college in a lot of cases. After that the tests become more and more difficult, my brothers and sisters, but you're looking forward to it.

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Your parents are cheering you along, you feel happy. Because now and again, you achieve a little certificate that doesn't last long. Meaning is just a prize of the week or the month or sometimes the year. And you work harder the following year. And the books become bigger and bigger. Do you not agree for what

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they are after you graduate from high school and you end up applying for universities getting loans in 100 way, I hope in order to go to the universities in order to study and sweat, and you haven't even started earning a penny. So panela, you study for 25 years thereafter, you get a salary in which you start paying back what you might have loaned in order to do those studies. But you're happy, you're okay. Why? Because you want to live for another 25 years. So you sweat for 25 years, in order to earn a little bit to help you for another 25 years not counting the 10 years in between paying back that loan. So Panama, and you've lived for 60 years now you're ready to do what you

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probably probably a grandfather, perhaps May Allah make it easy for us. I mean, but a few more years, and you've got to go to Allah and you don't realize that when when the world promised you that if you study for 25 years will offer you 100,000 pounds a year for the next 25 years, then you believed the world. But when Allah promised you that if you fulfill what we are telling you for 50 years, we're going to give you eternity with whatever you want with absolute and total happiness, such that you will never ever regret, then we don't want to believe in law. And then we want happiness. So

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I always say, love. There's a verse in the Quran, where Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us those who believe those who don't believe in the hereafter the two are very, very different. FMO

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Allah says, Can the two be equal? On one hand, the one whom we have made a promise to, that is definitely a true promise, and he will definitely see it, she will no doubt see it and get it. That's the promise of genital vadose. And on the other hand, the one who wants the worldly life and gets it and achieves it but has not developed a connection with Allah such that they lose the hereafter. May Allah subhanahu wa taala help us and when I read this verse and pondered over it, I thought of something amazing.

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If you were to be promised a job

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and you were told listen my brother 20,000 pounds a month. Oh, wow. Isn't that a beautiful salary? 20,000 pounds a month, and you only work a few hours in the day and you relax. So Panama

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would you go for the job? If it was Helen, would you go for it? Come on, don't pretend like 20,000 is not a good salary guys. Would you go for it? Mashallah, yes, I would, I think to make it easier.

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But my brothers and sisters, they give you a monthly salary, right? 20 days if past You've worked hard, you're so excited because someone has promised you that when 30 days cross, you're gonna see your bank account 20,000 deposited, right? You're so excited you work hard. 25 days you working even harder. 26 days you start planning what you're going to be doing 27 days you're so so happy, delighted. You might start ordering things that you don't even know you're going to be able to afford if that money doesn't come in. And so what happens 2930 days and you go to check your bank balance. You look at the phone, you see he has either a moment delay and you are so upset, right?

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And a person promised you that in 30 days you work so hard when it's finished when it's over when you're done with it, I will pay you 20,000 and you were ready to believe

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them and perhaps they may have given it to you. But when Allah

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Allah tells you to work an entire lifetime, and to work very easy work, Salah doesn't take too much of you, being a good person doesn't take too much of you. And then we don't believe Allah but we can believe the guy down the street would be got a job there.

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We don't believe Allah.

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We have a doubt in our hearts. We don't get excited. The older you get the happier you should be that I'm closer to what Allah has promised me. I always tell people would you like Jenna, let's ask you would you like Jenna? Yes. Who wants to die? The answer is not yet. But to get to gender you need to go somewhere it goes to show ultimate happiness is something that Allah has kept in store for the believers in the dunya and the alpha, you need to look after your relationship with Allah, your relationship with your family, your relationship with the community you live in, because you will only achieve happiness. When you make others happy. Without that you're not going to be

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achieving that happiness kind of love of God makanan aberdovey only a fee, Allah continues to help a slave for as long as that slave is helping another May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us happiness and goodness.

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So if you want happiness, search for those who have less than you, that's the criteria that Allah has given you to be happy. Allah didn't say it for no reason. But Allah is telling you, you really want that happiness. Well, there are so many people who don't have what you have helped them, reach out to them. Look at them, you appreciate what you have, I promise you the problem with most of us is we keep looking at those who have more than us. And we forget to look at those who have less, we keep looking at the next thing, the next thing, all of that even those who won the lottery, I'm not talking about its permissibility here, I'm talking about those who won the lottery, please go and

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search and see that their happiness did not last more than a few months, in most cases, in almost all cases, go and see how many of them have committed suicide thereafter. Yet they want millions and billions. That is why I read a story of someone who won a huge lottery they decided to donate it because they didn't want their lives to be compromised.

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But with us so karnala happiness is become connected to materialism, and that is fake. Allah tells you my brothers and sisters I want to say something very interesting. I don't have much time but inshallah we'll meet later on in the day.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the most beloved unto Allah thereafter, the prophets of Allah the messengers, their companions and so on the most beloved unto Allah Abu Bakr Siddiq are the Allahu anhu the best to check this earth after the messengers of Allah subhanho wa Taala, Omar Abdullah, Allah and the companions and all of them. I love them more than you and I do you agree.

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The prophet SAW Selim, the best of creation, the most noble of all prophets. He didn't have a phone, he didn't have electricity. He didn't have him. He didn't get to sit on an aircraft. He didn't have the cars we have. He didn't have the roads we have the phones, the technology, the internet, none of it zero not one droplet of not even attempt that he could open and the water came out they had to go they had to go for water. They had to light a fire in a certain way. They had to ride on camels and donkeys and so on, that they were the happiest of people if Allah kept happiness in these things. The first person he would have ever given this to was Mohammed Abdullah Al Hashimi Akashi sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam being the best of creation, the most noble of all prophets, even he didn't get all of that because Allah knows that there was no value in this connected to your happiness on earth or connected to your happiness in the hereafter. Don't be mistaken.

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Those who Allah has loved more than you and I will law he they didn't have a fraction of what we have in terms of materialism and technology, because that is valueless in the eyes of Allah. You have to use all of that as a pleasure and an honor and we will use it but in order to gain closeness to Allah. It's a bigger challenge. Have you ever thought of him? Who's better you are Abubakar Siddique, I'm sure he is 100% better. He didn't have any of what we have in terms of technology. But that doesn't reduce his value at all. If Allah wanted to Obama

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wanted he could have given you much better than that. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. I want to mention the last factor I spoke about community I want to say we need to understand ourselves. Be happy with yourself be content with what Allah has bestowed upon you. Reach out to others fulfill the instructions of Allah and see how you will be happy throughout the day. Today, we will be looking at various aspects of the family and how to bring about happiness within that family. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant every one of us success in the dunya and akhira true happiness. Like I said, it's your choice. You can be happy, make others happy. Make the environment

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around you easy

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Develop your relationship with Allah. And here goes you will always be happy. Even if you're living in a hut Apollo called Neha or salatu wa salam ala nabina Muhammad