FAILED My Exams!

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Salam Alaikum I failed my exams, GCSE, oh level a level matric, whatever it was. I didn't do well, my brothers, my sisters, my children, it's not the Day of Judgment. It is not the Day of Judgment. It's not the end of the world. Do you know what? It's okay? It's fine. You did? Well, that's okay. You can repeat the subjects if you want. Don't worry.

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If you worked hard, and you still failed, then it's okay. And if you did not work hard, and you failed, you are to blame. And you should do better in the future. May Allah subhanho wa Taala, make it easy. But remember, it's not the end of the world, you're not the first person who failed. It does not mean you're an evil person, it does not mean that you have no future. Remember, you are a special person, unique human being, Allah has your path planned in a beautiful way, there is no point in becoming depressed simply because you did not make the grades for something. Remember, some of the wealthiest people didn't really pass at school, some of them didn't even go beyond a certain

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level at school. And they really earned a lot of money, go and study the lives of the millionaires and the billionaires, some of them were dropouts. So your wealth, your sustenance is not directly connected to the level of education you have. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. While I say this, I must mention it is important to have a good education to work hard to try your best to enjoy your days at school, the discipline so much more the friends, you make the company you have the growth Alhamdulillah it's really a good thing. But it's not the end of the world. If you didn't make the grades, perhaps Allah wants you to do something else. You might have wanted to go into a

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specific faculty or a field, and perhaps your marks were not enough or your grades were not good enough. It's okay. You're not the first person this is happening to that is really fine. You can repeat if you'd like you can repeat again. I know of people who've repeated three to four times and then they've made it and some who've repeated three to four times and still did not make it. It's all okay. Allah perhaps wants you to go down a different path. Perhaps your success will be through something else. So it's not the end of the world. Consider other things. My beloved children, my brothers, my sisters. Remember, work as hard as you can. And then lay your trust in the Almighty and

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inshallah proceed progress, do your best, and leave the rest in the hands of Allah, if you passed and hamdulillah if you didn't still Alhamdulillah. In fact, who knows, that might be your doors opening to something that you didn't imagine you would receive. So it's not the end of the world. Now, to my dear parents who expect so much from their children. Remember, if your children have failed at school, don't swear them. Don't insult them. Don't belittle them. If you do that you have failed your test as a parent, as a parent, you should have encouraged them from day one to work hard. You should have supported them and given them a good upbringing. And at the same time, if they

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failed, you needed to support them, show them that comfort or give them the comfort that they deserve at the time. Sometimes people go through challenges. They don't do well not because they didn't work hard, but simply because Allah wanted it that way. And here comes some of the parents and they swear the curse they abuse they belittle their own children causing trauma,

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causing mental health issues, and belittling in a way that the children feel so rejected and dejected. My beloved parents say a good word to your children, let them know it's okay. It's not the end of the world. Do you really care for your children? Subhanallah true success is when you succeed in the hereafter. How many of us have given importance to that knowledge to those deeds? Many of us are guilty of not being bothered in that regard. And then when it comes to subjects, I paid the fee. I did this I did that we know as a parent you did it. You should have communicated with your child from day one. Good communication love a beautiful relationship. You don't just come whenever the

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results are announced. And then you say you failed. You're a flop. You're an idiot, Stanford a lot people use these words.

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If we were to use comforting words, we will empower our children, they will believe they can do it Subhana Allah, they will enjoy the few days that they have with you remaining on earth before you are taken away or they are taken away. I've known of parents who've regretted their excessive reprimanding of the child who actually did not live long enough to see the age of 20.

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So my beloved parents, take it in your stride. If your child has failed, he or she is not the first child who has failed. Unfortunately, we expect too much from our children sometimes. Remember, it is your moment of trial and test when the results come out. And they are not what you expected. That's your challenge. That's your test. Are you going to pass it by saying it's okay, it's fine. inshallah you work harder next time, and you do better or you can repeat It's okay. You may lose a year the child might lose one year, that's fine for as long as they haven't lost themselves or last a lifetime. So my beloved parents don't over expect Remember, these children are entrusted to us by

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Allah, we call them an Amana a trust and trusted by Allah. treat them with respect as well. And inshallah we will find goodness in this world, we need to bring up a generation that believes in itself. Some children are good at different subjects, different things, some at sport, some at mechanical things. Alhamdulillah recognize that some may be in religious studies, some perhaps, in something else altogether. So learn to recognize the greatness the goodness of those children, help them develop by spending time with them. If you have not spent time with your child, even if they've passed all the examinations, you have failed as a parent, especially if you were doing nothing

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besides wasting your time. Nothing constructive, and you still didn't spend the time with your children. that's who we're talking about. My beloved parents.

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I've spoken a lot. I've said enough. I hope you've heard what I've had to say. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless every one of us. Those children who have passed with flying colors are not necessarily the best of children. Remember that?

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