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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah, MBA you will move selling Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sahbihi normanby BSN in La ahmedinejad. We praise Allah subhanho wa Jalla we thank him for everything he has given us. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to bless us in every single way. My beloved sisters and daughters I am really honored to be a part of this beautiful annual get together of the graduates who are working not only in the field, but those who have graduated working in whatever way you are working. May Allah bless you. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala

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protect you may he continue to use you to serve the deen granting us success in this world and the next when we say this world, obviously, your work, your sustenance, your families, your spouses and each other your children those who do have those who don't have inshallah you will have and those who are not married inshallah, we ask Allah to bless you with spouses, spouses, who will be the coolness of your eyes, I mean,

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my beloved

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sisters and daughters, something we need to know is as Muslim in the first thing we need is sincerity of intention. I'm sure you've been hearing about it for quite a few days. So or should I say for the sessions that you've had so far, sincerity of intention is one of the first and prime qualities we need to have, what we do we do for the sake of Allah, everything you do bear in mind, you have a grave that you are going to be lowered into. And that is, if you are lucky, unlucky, sometimes people disappear without a sight. And I'm sure you know that. Sometimes people you know, they their families know that they have died, but they have no remains of this because either it was

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a huge explosion or something else had happened. We asked a lot to grant us at least a good death. I mean, so sincerity of intention, there are many ways of looking at it. And I'm sure we've already studied so many different ways, but I want to mention one way of looking at it and that is what ever you do in life. Bear in mind, you have a grave that you are going to be lowered into. That's it. Once you bear in mind you have a grave you are going to be lowered into your contact with Allah becomes powerful, you know, your maker, Allah, the one whom you are going to return to Allah, his hands, has the mercy that you and I are searching for and looking for. So my beloved sisters and

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daughters, let me tell you, it is important everything we do. Let's tell ourselves I am only here in the world for a certain period of time. I have a slot, you know, what is the meaning of a slot? A little timeframe like now they've asked me to speak seven o'clock to 730 I have a slot of 30 minutes, I will walk in at seven I will walk out at 730 SubhanAllah. In these 30 minutes what do I need to do as much as I can without wasting your time and without you wasting my time it is an Amana it is from Allah. Gone are the days when we were children we used to play games and waste our time and so on no room for wasting time. The reason is while law he I do not know if I'm going to live

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this evening. No Do you

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none of you know if you are going to return home after the seminar not even one will lie. We might hear of some who have disappeared, you might hear of myself who disappeared. It's possible. So there is no room to be wasted no time. You know, when people play football, they play cricket, they have a specific time or a specific number of overs, what is their job, their job is to try their best to score as much as they can in the specified time. If they are just wasting standing with the ball talking to each other sitting doing something looking at the crowd, that's a pretty woman or that's a decent guy. All that would waste your time your aim and your focus is supposed to be to score one

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goal after another as much as you can. Even people who already have a score of two zero in football for example, they will try to make it higher 345 am I right? So this is why remember life is not a game it is a reality. We are only drawing an example of this game so that it can be brought to us in the interim. Allah says he has brought us into existence in order to test us You might have heard so many interpretations of that. Let me give you one of the different interpretations today. When Allah says I have created you to test you will love it. It is so accurate I tell you why. Every one of us we have problems we have difficulties we have financial struggle, we have sickness we have a problem

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at home we have a problem for example, sometimes with our children with our neighbors with something else a problem at work a problem here a problem that nobody has a life free of problems, nobody. That means those issues are placed planned by Allah in order for us to live a few years to pass the

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One by one test after test after test after test and the Hadith says in the law either a hubbub Allah when Allah loves someone he puts tests in the life if he does not love someone there is no test for them. The reason is, they have not sometimes yet entered the arena of the tests. Do you know what the arena of the testes? Let me give you an example you see Kufa Allah says La Jolla. naka de la dee da capo Filipina de Mata Oh, Connie.

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Mama.

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Do not let the the luxury lives of the kafar deceive you. It is just a pleasure for a little period of time after that, they will be serving their sentence and they will have their punishment. So don't look at the kuffaar and say, How come these are disbelievers. They are enjoying their life. They are having every luxury that they can think of yet you don't understand. They have not yet entered the game. They are not in the school. We are in the school. So we will be writing exams every year, our liahona and

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Omar watain from Allah to boon Allah.

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Allah says quite clearly, do they not see that we test them every year, once or twice major tests, then they still do not repent to us they are still not from amongst those who take heed. That is Allah. So it shows us quite clearly that once you enter the school, you have examinations, those who are not at the school, do they have exams? The answer is no. They can enjoy they will have sleeping up to 12 o'clock no further novel when I say I mean, I have to read fudge factor for some is a problem. But for others they know it's part of my Eman May Allah make us from those who realize and who cherish the value of fragile, and who enjoy getting up Allah He my sisters, my daughters, it is

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something that will pay back completely, the minute your eyes close in depth, it will pay you back completely. And this is why we see people who've died in this world, they've passed away those who are better looking than us those who are more powerful than us, those who had much more in authority than us those who had much more in wealth than us, those who had more children and much more happiness in the world. When they died. Where did they go? Did they take their children? Did they take their looks? Did they take their wealth? Did they take anything? Absolutely nothing they went down what helped them

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whatever they were given whilst they were alive, if they converted it into a currency that is valid in the Hereafter, it would have helped them if they did not do the conversion, then you can bring your coolers they are not going to work here. They will ask you for US dollars. Am I right? You enter some of the businesses and the you want to give them a Russian ruble or you want to give them one of those Chinese RMB as they call them, they will not accept them. They will reject them. They say no, we want us dollars, or we want rands sometimes, am I right? Otherwise they won't accept it. So you are foolish if you have a whole pile of something that people don't know but it's a value

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valuable item according to you, the people don't know its value. Similarly in the US, Iran, your health, your wealth, everything was wasted completely. It's not going to come, but how you use it when you had it converts it into a currency known as deeds. D double e d s deed. A deed is a currency that is valid when you die. A deed is a currency you need to amass whilst you're alive in order to be able to use it when you fly overseas. Meaning when you die, so to speak, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding. So this is why when you have time, any minute that you have wasted voila, you've wasted your currency. Because Allah says through the blessing glyphs

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of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam five things, you need to seize them quickly before they are overtaken by another five. Your time you have Allah will take it away you will become occupied one day then you can sit back say I had the time Why didn't I do this and why didn't I do that? Whose fault is it? You were there you heard the Hadith you knew the time is not to be wasted. I want to achieve let me go I will do this course I will engage in this dialogue. I will do that school qualification. I will do that business. I will go to this Madras I will go to that Masjid, I will meet with that person. Don't say okay tomorrow, okay, the next day, never leave today's work for tomorrow. You can

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do it now get up and do it here and now. That is Islam. Those are Muslims. These are the qualities of the true believers will lie loving, no wastage of time. Number two, your young age we are young Alhamdulillah young meaning we have the energy we have the capacity use it a day will come when I might not be able to walk whilst I can let me do what I can. Whilst I am able let me continue to do things whilst I'm young. I will do things that I will not be able to do if Allah gives me age to see an old age Subhana Allah so that is got to do with what with your youth. Similarly

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Your health today I am healthy tomorrow I am not. It's part of the test of Allah, it is a guarantee that Allah brought you into the world to test you. Because if there was no test, why would we get sick? Why would we have problems? Why would we have difficulty? These are challenges and the winner is the one who knows how to answer the challenge. For example, when you go to school, it's a beautiful school, you want a high qualification, when you sit for the examination, they will ask you very, very difficult questions. Why not? Because they want to make your life difficult, but they want to see you have learned everything you've covered the syllabus, you know absolutely everything.

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What is it that we can ask you in order to prove that you now know and you appreciate what you've learned. So this is the same with Islam. When you have been given something, do not waste your time, make sure that you you understand what I have here is going to go it's definitely going to go Allah gave me the health tomorrow, my knees might ache May Allah grant Shiva and cure to all those who are sick and Ill in any way. I mean, so my sister's my daughter's Let me tell you, your health, it is going to go Don't say oh, you know, she's dooming us. I'm not doing anyone I'm saying it is going to go it has to go your mother's my own mother every day health is no longer how it used to be before

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am I right? So now why should we just sit now and wait when we have the health and say okay, now when I'm older, when I was young, I should have done this. And I could have done this and this is what I should have done? No, you are hearing it now Do not waste your time. Well, if you waste your time, you need to know one thing. There are millions of others just like you and even in a more difficult situation than you who are making good use of their health and their time and their youth and so on. So I spoke about your free time use it correctly, you have free time use it correctly, you have health use it correctly, you have been given young age use it correctly. Allah has given

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you for example wealth, if you have some money, use it in the in the correct way learn to budget that is a problem we have not only in this country, but now across the globe. Many countries do you know that in our country, we actually have an advantage over some of the powerful countries. The reason is, if you take a look at the USA, or Britain or some of these first world countries, you find a lot of people they are living in a beautiful house, they have a lovely car, but guess what, they have not paid for anything yet. Nothing Do you know that

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it's all on loans Subhanallah and they earn for example, $1,000 2000 5000 whatever they earn, and 90% of that, if not more goes in payment for the payment for the house payment for the car payment for this they are living far higher than their actual capacity. But the system has enslaved them in such a way that it makes it fair seeming to them that this is the way things should be done. Whereas in this country, if someone has a phone it is this truly paid up for. If someone for example has a car, it is theirs, it is paid up for it is their own motor vehicle, they owe the bank zero. If someone has a little house, no matter what type of a house It is, it is theirs in a lot of cases.

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And if they are paying rent, they at least know look I'm paying rental for this home, but they owe nobody any money at all. Nothing there. It's their own SubhanAllah. So and if we do owe people a few things here and there, it is not as big. It is not as large as what others Oh, do you know when they lost their jobs a few years back in one of the countries so many people committed suicide? Do you know why?

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because

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what happened was something strange when they lost their jobs. They could not pay for their houses, their cars, they could not pay for their furniture in the house, the televisions and everything else. So the first month came they got warnings second month came they were kicked out of the house because the man of the house wanted the money and because it didn't come they then said okay we will now sell the house and get our money back and the same thing happened to everything else including the house and sorry the car and the furniture and everything they were left on the street without anything what could they do yet they were leading a life just the previous day driving beautiful

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cars doing so many things showing and flashing. My sister's my daughter's never ever be tempted to flesh things that you have been given, even if they are your own in Islam. Did you hear that? That is the difference between us and the kuffar out there who like to flesh and show things every day a new pair of shoes every day, a new top every day a new scarf. I'm talking of some people who want to show their things every day something different every day a new scent, a new this a new watch a new that is the trend. They are struggling, they are suffering, they have no happiness, they have no contentment, their husbands they are changing them like they change clothes. It is sad but it is a

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reality. Why because they really are people who are after the world in such a way that they are enslaved by it. Is that a Muslim woman? No. You are happy with the same thing you have. You can wear yours your clothing your clock you just wait

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neatly put it on be happy with the four pairs of clothes you have the neighbor who has 400 pairs of clothes, which were perhaps from wherever we don't even know let them live their own life, we do not need to lose our sleep by following them in the same way that they have lost their own sleep. What this means is when we compare our lives with others thinking that their lives are rosier and sweeter, we don't understand the fact that they are not sleeping at night will also come to us. The fact that their marriage is about to break will also come to us. So it comes with a price you want to lead a simple life you will have simplicity happiness, contentment, look after your children

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correctly, to fulfill whatever duty you have, if you're going to work go and come back responsibly. And so on the minute our eyes 10 and the minute we have role models besides those who are good Muslim and Muslim and what will happen, we will have to we might end up getting what they got. But the baggage comes with what is the baggage there are problems we will also have the same problems. Up to now we have not faced those problems because we know and we understand our last plan. So remember something when Allah has blessed you with wealth, use it wisely. Learn to budget Do not waste Do not be extravagant, you do not need what your neighbor has never You do not need what

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another sister or brother has no all you need is what you precisely need for yourself and your children and whatever else is there. You know your budget you know how to slice your piece of cake. You do not need to have a B cake when you have not afforded it Allahu Akbar, may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us I am being honest. And I'm speaking of real current problems. My sisters, my daughters, let me inform you. The last thing that is mentioned in a hadith of Rasulullah salam, when he says sees five things before they are overtaken by five situations is the issue of life. We are living. Let's seize it. Engage in Toba ask Allah for forgiveness, you know we are human beings.

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There are two ways of sinning. Two major ways of sending one is to sin in defiance of Allah. And the other is to sin out of human weakness. If a person defies Allah, they cannot call themselves meaning. What is the meaning of defiance? When someone says okay?

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Allah said it is haram to do this. I'm going to do it and let me see what Allah does. stuff with Allah that is defiance. None of us would do that because we are believers, am I right? We are believers, we believe in Allah and he's assumed none of us would do that because we believe in Allah and His or soon, but something we need to know is out of human weakness. If someone says, Allah has did this, Allah has said this is haram, for example, but you know, I was weak and I fell into it. In that case, there is hope. Allah subhanho wa Taala will have mercy on you. You ask Allah forgiveness, you regret what you have done, you turn to Allah, you promise him not to do it again, and you try

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your best to stay on that straight path once again. While I tell you every sin comes with baggage, what is the baggage? It comes with some heavy baggage it brings about depression and stress and problems and issues and loss of sustenance and so on, you know, the idea of Rasulullah salam, he actually says in Guadalajara RVs COVID mbu Cebu, according to the Hadith of the Prophet, a person loses his sustenance, the Baraka in his wealth, because of the sins that he or she is committing, so we should not do that the owner of risk is Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, in a la hora Zaku.

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It is Allah who is the given the Sustainer he is,

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he is the all powerful, the strong, the mighty, who is He is Allah. So we worship Allah and Allah alone, my beloved sisters and daughters, another very important quality that we need to instill in ourselves, the quality of patience, forbearance, what is known as suffer, suffer is something you need no matter what you are doing in your life, you are married, you need support, you are not married, you need supper, you are teaching you need support, you are not teaching you need support, you are employed, you need software, you are not employed, you need everything you need support, what is the meaning of suffering, you restrain yourself from that which is around you enjoy when it

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comes to that which is

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obligatory upon you, and at the same time, you will have to bear patience or you will have to surrender to the decree of Allah when something you do not like has happened, but it's a last choice. So you know, I'm sure a lot of you have had family members who have passed away what could you do you could say in an interview in a in a Rajon? We are we belong to Allah and to him is our ultimate return. And we can perhaps read the dua or say something in Allah Allah Houma. Baku Lucia, in in there will be a jelly masama that you know for Allah belongs that which he has taken that which he gave in the first place and everything according to Allah is with comes with a specific

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time. It comes with an expiry date, I have an expiry date, and so does everything else including the battery in this torch right now. SubhanAllah but when it comes to Allah subhanho wa Taala his decree is final. I cannot have a say

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The date of my death May Allah subhanahu Allah grant us forgiveness the day he takes us away. So bear patience before bed, do not want to break a marriage just because of one problem. You have two problems you have five problems you have. So what others are suffering 50 problems, they are still working on their marriages. Remember this, your marriage will not be rosy why it's a test from Allah. Marriage is not just a honeymoon, I need to go and start saying right that's my man. And this is what it is. And I'm walking around in town everyone must see me smell me Look at me. And my hair needs to be different every other day. That's not muslimeen Well, it's a fact people are wasting $35

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a week on their hair yet they cannot even afford to buy food for their own families. This is what's going on in this country. We're live. People are ready to buy nails to add on top of these nails of this. But when it comes to the evening, they will say there is no food in this house. This is what is happening well lights effect. And this is the issue we are people who are content, consider it a test from Allah, things will flesh on the side, things will flesh on the side.

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Never ever turned to what is flashing? lead your real life though that's all fake. Let me tell you. Sometimes people ask well, why is it that Allah subhanho wa Taala puts on the sides of what I have so many different temptations. And he says this is a temptation. That's a temptation. Stay away from it. When if he wanted me to stay away from it, why did he put it in the first place? That's what some people ask. Well, I can tell you, when you know the answer in mathematics still they give you multiple choice. You know what is multiple choice? They glare the wrong answers in your face in order to test you you know the right answer. Put a tick on the right answer. For example, if I were

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to tell you 10 multiplied by 10 a one b 10. c 100. d 1000. What would you say Subhanallah?

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These are wrong ones you can say if you wanted me to answer it, right? Why did you give me three other wrong options? You can say that? Because I am testing you. I know you know what is right. So now I'm showing you everything that is wrong. You are supposed to be a believer. powerful enough to be able to say I'm putting my tick on the right answer. Here it is it is answer number c t. There you are now you have one. So don't say oh what about all these other people forget about them, they are taking D they are taking a they are taking B at the end of the day when they collect all those papers and this the Kitab comes Allah says For

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those who are given their results in the right hand, the book in the right hand, they will be so happy, so proud, they will say oh here read my book, see see my results. Look at it beautiful.

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Those who are given in the wrong hand, the left hand, they will say we wish we will not even here today we wish we were dead. Those are the ones who are taking on the wrong answers. But it is our duty to try and reach out to them. To correct them to remind them to tell them to tap them to say you know my sister, this is what Islam is all about. Do not spread Islam in an embarrassing way or in a way that is not befitting a Muslim spreading the goodness of the deen. We want to spread Islam but in a good way live as a Muslim they will see your happiness they will see your contentment, your concentration on matters that is that are supposed to be within your concentration. So concentrate

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on these things be patient, everything you do in life, one day, it will go wrong besides your link with Allah every day you do in life one day, it has to go wrong Allah will test you you know you come to work every day at eight o'clock okay for example, there will come a time there will come a time when something happened to the company something happened to the transport Something happened here you will late It's and how people deal with it is all your test. You will not leave because you want it to be late because Allah is now testing you Hey, today you will be late nothing of your choice when you go to work they will shout you they will scold you they might cut your salary they

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let's see what you do. It's part of your test. That's life that's the challenge so when you come if you start swearing, shouting hating you have lost the test you ticked on the beat instead of the right answer. Now if you come back you apologize you say look I'm very sorry to say we're going to cut your salary try to explain to them in a nice way and try to say something in a in a good way still they don't agree and say okay, no problem. What can I do? You know I inshallah, next time it won't happen then you ask Allah Oh Allah guide these people, they are cutting my salary, nothing of me, but you did not cause a commotion. One day they will realize and understand, ah, this person

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here. You know what they are honest. One day after 10 years, 15 years, you may get a promotion, something may happen. You might not get it. But when you go down into your grave, Allah knows what happened. That is your agenda. Allah knows what happened. So it was never between us and them. It is between us and Allah all the time. Remember this. These are the qualities of God. These are the people who will enter gender with ease, and I haven't even spoken of many more quotes.

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But this quality of software is something very, very interesting. Another very important quality my sisters, my daughters, read and educate yourself, listen to things today, there are CDs that are readily available DVDs, there are so many different formats of

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being able to learn the knowledge, please try and do something. Try and continue learning until the point of death. Learn and learn and learn more learn from the source, try and get what is right continue going ABC, let's get right up to Zed and even beyond SubhanAllah. And we need to constantly learn never ever think I know enough. And this is it. Now I'm a big chef, I'm a big shaker or I'm a great Imam or whatever else it is. And that's it. I just need to stand up and issue decrees and decisions for everybody else. No, continue become humble in your knowledge. You know, sometimes people have wealth,

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the best of those who have wealth or those who are humble, you agree.

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Sometimes people have knowledge, knowledge comes with exactly the same arrogance as well. Same 100% knowledge and wealth are two things that are gifts of Allah, both on either side, they can either come with humbleness or with arrogance. The best person with knowledge is he or she who is humble humble humble. You mix with people you interact you talk to them like they are your boss's finished they don't need to know you are some big shot they don't need to know that. When you when it comes to delivering the goods you deliver them But otherwise, you're an ordinary human being like everybody else, because knowledge is actually an Amana just like wealth is an Amana how you used it,

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how you achieved it. How did you disseminate it? How did you give it to others? How did you benefit others with it? All that test from Allah subhanho wa Taala remember this it is something powerful, seek knowledge and continue seeking knowledge do not think I have graduated it's fine. Now I go back to my home area and I do things no keep on learning your phones that you have with you. A lot of you have internet access and that internet access you have on it different pages, find out what are the good pages, where can I read how can I improve my knowledge? How can I increase so tomorrow you can spread the deal. Be kind to your neighbors and to everyone else they will see the goodness in you.

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They will be inclined towards the deen purify your own knowledge. Today we read Quran Okay, so sometimes our Quran we need to understand no matter how well you read your Quran, it is like flying in an aircraft. The minute you stop in midair, your plane will drop. You need to continue flying in order to move on that altitude. You need to continue flying the engine needs to be on constantly in order to be able to move forward the minute you turn off the engines do you come dropping? The same applies with your Koran with your armor, your deeds, your Quran, you need to improve it every time don't think I know I was first in class. No, no, no the standards however they were even if they

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were the best without that constant improvement, there are certain things I have learned and continue learning now. And and I'm so happy to Allah subhanho wa Taala that Allah has blessed us with this. So this is why I continue learning every time wherever there are seminars wherever there is something to be done. Make sure that you try and take part as much as you can. And make sure that Allah Subhana horn that you ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to continue using you an eye for this deal. Because remember one thing, if you are going to turn away and you are not going to save the deen, Allah does not need you and I, Allah can replace you with someone else. So sometimes we have this

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feeling army, I'm going to leave me I'm going to do this army, I'm not going to go there and God we have this feeling. It is also one of those wrong answers that keep flashing to us. Don't take the wrong letter, not at all. Make sure you understand. If I am not in the picture, Allah will replace me with someone else. One day after 10 years I'm going to see someone else doing a better job than me and I'm going to regret in my heart to say I was here one day Why didn't I continue working and doing good and so on and improving and whatever voluntary whatever deeds they are May Allah Subhana Allah Allah bless us all. I have spoken for exactly 29 minutes and I will cut the We ask Allah to

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bless you all and to bless us all. Come along Clara masala Allahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad Subhana Allah Subhana Colombo beheading the shadow Allah Allah elantas Asuka, I wanted to break