The Beneficial Means To A Happy Life 03

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Shiekh Moutaseem discuss the book of Sheikh Abd Ar-Rahman ibn Nasir as-Sa’di in this series. Presented at the Abu Huraira Center.


AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of belief in God's biggest and most powerful means to happiness, as it is the largest and most powerful way to live. They also discuss the benefits of extending actions of kindness and love to others, as it helps eliminate fear and anxiety, and the importance of finding a positive fresh mindset to be present in one's daily experiences. They stress the need for training and rehearsal to improve one's behavior and avoid negative consequences.
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This is the third session, explaining the book was

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hired to say that the beneficial means to happy life by shake up the man in Saudi law came along to add.

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And he was

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talking about the reasons or the means to a happy life. And the first one he mentioned, which where he elaborates quite a bit, is basically the UN he considers this to be the biggest and most powerful mean to happy life.

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And it is basically an A man, well, Mr. Swan, it is faith, belief in a last panel to Allah, and righteous deeds, and I'm going to find out as he elaborates on this, he explains how a person who has believed in Allah and His righteous deeds, how they deal with pleasant events and blessings in life, and how such a person deals with hardships. He also By way of comparison mentioned how a person who lacks faith in a law and lacks the righteous deeds that are based on belief and human, how such a person deals with the ups and downs of life. So, we will carry on with this first means with his explanation on it, or the elaboration he has on it, then inshallah we'll move on to the

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second one.

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The last thing we said, he basically says, the person who has belief in Allah, and he does righteous deeds, he receives the blessings of Allah subhanaw taala with thankfulness. And with appreciation, and we said, that means the person really enjoys them, the person really enjoys these and he is present, he is present with these gifts. So he experiences them fully. And this is something sometimes I believe we lack. We think life is meant for suffering. Suffering is inevitable, there will be some suffering, there will be some hardship, but we shouldn't we should not be searching for it.

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It is inevitable to happen, but we are not meant to search for it. And we humans are not designed to search for misery, and to search for hardship. This way the messenger saw Salaam

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before one battle, when the enemy was approaching. And the promises that he was with his companions, he said to me, instructed them because some of them are excited. They wanted to get into the fight. The messengers Allah sent him said, let me know.

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Let me know whether I can either lucky to move home for Sparrow, he said, don't wish for meeting your enemy. Don't look forward to that. But if you happen to meet him, I will meet them in the battlefield. If you happen to engage in a combat or a fight against the enemy, then now show your patience. Now tap into your patience. So we Muslims are not supposed to seek hardship. We're not supposed to seek misery. We're not supposed to seek pain, it might come it's actually inevitable it will come. But we are not supposed to seek it. So when it comes by its own self. That's fine. But when we seek it, that's not an act of nearness to Allah. That's not a good act. That's not even a

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good attitude. So some Muslims are under the false impression that if I live a miserable life, then I'm in good shape.

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That's not that's not what Allah wants from us.

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So he's saying that a believer when a blessing comes to them, first of all, they live in it, they open up to it, they embrace it, they appreciate it, they let themselves live it, experience it, enjoy it as the best just all of a sudden says in the authentic hadith, in Allah your Hippo and Niala I thought I never met he and I believe in Allah habanero. I thought on a meta he I love the last panel, Tyler loves to see the impact and the consequences of his blessing on his servant. So when Allah gives you something, a blessing, Allah wants to see that you enjoy it, that you make good use of it, you're actually benefiting from it that it is giving you pleasure that is giving you ease

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that is giving you happiness. Allah loves this, some people think Allah doesn't want us to be happy. That's a false impression. That's a false impression. In Allaha, you hit an era authority and the last one Tara loves to see the positive impact of his blessings on his sermons. A lot of us to see that.

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And this is why the prophet SAW them on one day they companions about and this is a very good example. He wanted the companions against you know, being proud

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specifically about how we, you know, dress up.

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So one of the components that almost in job for a lot in La Jolla, your Hippo and your co animal Best

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a person loves to be in a like in a in a nice beautiful state in terms of, you know, the way he dresses up the way he was his clothes, he likes to look tidy. He likes to look sharp, smart.

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The prophet SAW his alarm answered, because the person thought, okay, maybe this is part of Cuba. This is part of, you know, pride and arrogance that I'm trying to show off. Some, you know, nice clothes and beautiful style. The prophets also responded to his concern or his question, his inquiry

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is that like, a person loves to really look smart to dress up in good clothes and look good. Is that part of it? Does it fall under the provisions in the law? Hi, Jimmy, don't you have Boogeyman? In the law? Jimmy Don't you have a law is beautiful. And the law loves beauty.

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That means yes to that. These are aspects of our religion that have not, unfortunately, we have overlooked for such a long time. And we don't seem to appreciate them. In the law, Jamie Hepburn, Gemma aliquid is so much beauty in this universe. Why? Because Allah loves beauty. And this beauty has an impact on you. It has an impact on you. So these are part this is part of our religion. So the believer, the one who has faith a man and does righteous deeds, when they are received, they receive blessings, they enjoy them, they open up to them, they embrace them. There's nothing wrong with that some, you know, there are some people and this is very common in the Arab world. I'm not

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sure of other cultures. But like when people have a good laugh, they say, oh,

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something bad is gonna happen.

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Something bad must happen, we've lost so much, that something bad must fall upon us.

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Like they think a lot doesn't even want them to laugh. So if they laugh, he will destroy it for them like he will take it back on them.

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It's not like this. So a believer when that's a gift, a blessing is a gift from Allah, how do you receive a gift from someone that you love, you actually feel it, you appreciate it, you embrace it, you open up to it, you are present with it, you try to enjoy it and benefit from it. So that's exactly how we should deal with the blessings of Allah subhanaw taala. That's different from exploiting these blessings for something bad, or going to excess in using them.

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Like for example, squandering someone, Allah gives them the wealth, they squander the money on trivial things that have no value, the waste that money. That's not what we're talking about. We're talking about a rational,

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you know, average, reasonable kind of, you know, use of any blessing that Allah Allah uses. And he says, After appreciating this and embracing it, the person is thankful how, and you can't reach thankfulness truly, unless you enjoy the blessing

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unless you enjoy the blessing. So thankfulness is the second step that comes after enjoying the blessing. So if you miss out on the first one, which seems to be a very common case, your thankfulness will not be genuine, or at least it will not come from the heart.

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So second is thankfulness. 30 says the person will also use it in a good cause. To do something good to help other people, to advance someone else to bring about a smile on someone on someone's face. Or to

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maybe open a path for someone. help someone physically someone who's in need maybe financially, physically, emotionally, socially. So whatever you have, whatever blessings Allah is giving you you use them in order to help out other people. So basically, you're asking how may I serve? You look around? How can I use these blessings from Allah to help other people Allah help me I want to help other people? Are you use it? How can I help? You know the truth? How can I spread guidance? How can I How can I open people's minds and hearts and eyes to the beauty that we find in the revelation that came from the creator?

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And, and he says, so the person when a person uses these blessings in such a good cause, they will be more happiness will come to the to their heart, they will experience more happiness, the spirit experience more emotion, more elation. Even that's greater than the first happiness they got from these blessings themselves.

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But if the person goes through some hardship,

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that who that's who's a believer, he goes through some hardship, he says, then this person realizes this is from Allah Subhana

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Jarrah, so Hera realizes it's a test.

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Second his patient in the face of these, and he realizes that if he is patient, and if he accepts the other of Allah favorably, then he will be rewarded immensely. He will be rewarded immensely by Allah. So he sees this as a great opportunity to grow. And we said, you know with hardship, there's always an opportunity for growth. And this is why sometimes they say adversity is a university. Any adversity brings an opportunity for growth and opportunity for learning. And if you reflect on your life, any kind of

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leap forward that you made forward in your life and the kind of growth, if you look, it really considered that investigated, you will see that before it, there was some moment of hardship and difficulty. Usually, it's preceded by hardship, and difficulty. So and that's the nature of life. Before construction, there has to be done demolition, before you really, you know, rise up, you have to take a little dip, you have to take a little dip so that you develop enough momentum, then you should up and it take you move on to a higher level up. That's the nature of life. That's the nature of life. So last month or less sometimes sends us hardship and difficulty and tragedy and tests. Not

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to make things hard for us, but for among so many other wisdoms in order to challenge us. So a lot of the latent hidden gifts that Allah has placed within us get activated, because otherwise they will not be challenged. So they will stay remain latent and dormant within us.

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So the believer This is how he treats blessings and this is how he treats

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hardships and calamities and misfortunes. So he's winning on both sides. This is why happiness is always his share is always the outcome regardless of what situation he is in.

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So he's saying now filomeno is actually a be modeled in our filter in a minute. Let's see. I had an obatala for in a movie man he

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was the man in the home in Canada it was Bobby moccasin Allahu Allahu todo para la la palabra de amor en la mujer de Donahoe, young Guru 11, who aduna Jambo lm and

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he says the believer when he is tested by an illness, disease, or poverty and lack or any other adverse condition that everyone is prone to everyone is subject to, he says, that person based on his a man or her a man, and because of the kind of contentment and the richness that they have, because of their connection with Allah subhanaw taala. And they are content with whatever Allah provides for them, you find this person enjoying the peace of the heart in the heart, this kind of peace and tranquility and balance.

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And he does not aspire, he does not aspire, or does not wish that he got something better. He does not wish that he got something better than what he has at the moment.

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Because he is content with what Allah decreed for him, he looks or she looks at those that are below them. Those that are below them, those that are less fortunate, those that are going through or experiencing more hardship, more difficulty, more challenges, less fortunate conditions. So this is why the prophets Allah send them says on vo lm and Hua

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filming come in matters of the dounia you look at the people who are below you, who have less than what you have been given by Allah. For enho as daru Allah has their own amatola because this is will this will more likely protect you from looking down upon what Allah has bestowed upon you. You know, when you look at someone who's got millions, Allah has given you 1000s you still keep looking at someone to whom Allah has given millions.

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You know, you see 1000s has nothing because that's By way of comparison. It's little compared to the millions. So you will not appreciate Alan's gifts upon you.

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So he is the shape here is saying that this believer by means of his faith and contentment with whatever Allah has destined for him, he does not chase what Allah has not written for him. He does not chase it. He does not aspire it. He does not wish for it. He does not wish that circumstances were otherwise. And he looks at people who are less fortunate than he is who got less

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Then what he has got and he does not look at people who have got more. Then he says what Obama has added to the agenda who was horrible who wore a hat to who? Allah men who Amata Hassan Elijah Muhammad Ali bin de la mujer Kannada. He says, maybe, perhaps, this believer by means of discontentment and this tranquility

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and satisfaction with fulfillment with what Allah has given him, maybe he has more happiness, and more peace and more elation

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than people who possess everything in this world, but who lack the sense of contentment. They're not content with what Allah has given them. And that's the nature of the self. The messenger sallallahu Sallam says, there can only be Adam, why didn't mean they had that Amanda available.

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If a man

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had a value full of gold, he would wish for a second one. And if he had the second one, he would wish for a third one. That's how humans are.

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Humans. This is the self the natural sir and the last one Allah says we're in a hula hoop belhaj Russia did a lot of describing describes man that he loves money and wealth so much in excess. We are excessive and that's the nature of a neffs is always looking forward to more always wants more. So wishes for this thing once it gets it and once more. And what's what's next now? What's next? What can I get more? It's never satisfied. So there are people possess everything you can think of about this world we still they want more. They're not satisfied. So the believer even though he might have little, he actually experiences more happiness and more contentment and more tranquility

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and more peace of mind than the people who possess much more than he has. Why? Because of contentment and this is why the Arabs are gonna have to concern if

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contentment is a never ending an inexhaustible treasure.

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And this echoes what the messenger Salim said into authentic hadith. Allah Rena, Rena nefs, he says Lisa Medina, amin, Al Arab,

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is Irina, you know, richness.

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being rich, and being wealthy doesn't come from possessions. A sense of richness doesn't come from possessions. You can never get that from possessions. Even people there are people who possess millions and billions. Still, they fear a sense of lack, they live a life of lack.

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So Lisa Rinna, and casati added richness, wealth is not from having so many possessions without getting the ordinariness. The real richness is that sense of contentment within if you embrace it, you have nothing the other day, I was reading something about one person who's

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a very active person in, in human development, and he's a very rich man, very rich man. And he says, I went to this

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island, and I think it was Fiji somewhere, one of these Fiji Islands. And he says, so he has one of those, he bought one of those islands for himself. So that's where he lives. This is one of the adjacent islands, I have neighbors there, so I sometimes go visit them. So I decided one day to go to this very poor family that I saw, then they don't have anything of the possessions that you can think about. And I know that these people have never seen a chocolate bar in their life.

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So I go to the man to the Father in the house, and I give him

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chocolate bar. As a gift. I say that's a gift from me.

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He looks at it.

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And like his eyes are full with happiness. So now, this guy says I thought he was gonna, you know,

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open it and eat it. But he didn't do that. He called all the children or all the neighbors, the children around his own children and the children in the neighborhood, everyone that he could get, and he started cutting it into pieces, and only to give each one a piece and he didn't get anything that is so he gave each one of them a piece and he was looking at them and he was looking at them and he was enjoying the same without getting any piece of chocolate. He never had chocolate in his life. And he saw them enjoying it.

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So our friend says, I saw a level of happiness in his life I never experienced. I saw a level of happiness in his eyes and ever experienced in my life in my own life. With all the wealth and possessions that I have. This is a person who can barely live. He barely gets what he could survive with. That's it.

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So I asked him, Why didn't you get anything he says I don't need that. I just need to see

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happiness in the eyes of the children. That's what, that's what that's what fills my heart.

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That's a sense of richness. And when someone is really content, you can't manipulate them. You can't tell them you know why people fall for fraud. And people fall for tricks, usually because of their greed. Once you're greedy, once you you know, look forward to something, you become more vulnerable because you want it now. So your, your attention is focused that you stop seeing what's the tricks that are being played around.

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So the real richness and wealth comes from contentment, it's not about possessions. It's never about possessions.

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He says, Can I tell you to have the lady Lisa in the Who am alone beam of trouble, man, you have truly a Vichy immunol factory, oh, * the boundary muttalib dunya we get a G 200. And Victor assata Shakur, he says, on the other hand, you find the person who doesn't have a man and doesn't do righteous deeds based on this a man, if he is tested with poverty, and with poverty, and lack of possessions, and aspirations and things that are that they aspire, you will find this person living in misery and despair.

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Because he doesn't have a great greater purpose a higher you know, purpose to live for. So for him, if I don't have what I want, what's the point in living, that's, that's the whole experience. And for those who attended today, we said there are two levels that we do with these things based upon the immediate level, which is my immediate circumstances, how I deal with them, they might cause me some pain, there might be some lack.

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There might be some lack there might be some hardship that I'm going through. But that's just the surface experience. There's another experience which is my heart that's supposed to be connected a loss of monetary sees the greater scheme of things, it sees the bigger frame, or things are just you know, in the right direction, even though I'm I lack something here, I'm gonna go through some hardship here, but I'm heading in the right direction and I'm getting reward from Allah subhanaw taala. So that creates a very beautiful balance and a lot of banter that says this to the believers and to them muslimeen after the Battle of boyhood, when 70 of the companions were murdered,

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and they went through severe hardship after that, it was a very difficult moment. Last month, Allah says in Turku, Ala Moana for in the homie Ala Moana kimata, Allah mon Ouattara June, I mean, en la Himalaya, Joe, if you are going through pain and hardship and agony, your enemy as well as going through some hardship, similar hardship. So both of you are experiencing hardship. So your equal your even that. But what's the difference? So in the immediate experience, you are the same, you all going through some hardship and pain, and challenge.

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What sort of June I mean, Allah Himalayan June, but you expect from Allah, what they do not expect, you expect gender,

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you're working for something bigger. So that's the different that's the deeper level. So that creates the balance and gives us makes us firm when we face the challenges and the wind of difficulty and hardship in this life. It gives another example he says, Well, methylone arhaan either had it as Babel, Houthi or elemental insane, and it was a jet 32 so he had a man ether, because I'll be in an FC moto makina biri we see euro who had an AMA with the CD, he had an unrelenting, donoho female who was he was a human figure in our environment. Look at what Vanessa who he had an L mowlem. What has he done

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to refill in San or to Tempe to Florida, he says another example. For the believer, someone who believes in Allah believes in the life after death, in in the reward from Allah subhanaw taala. And the punishment, and that this is this worldly life is not the whole story.

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He says, If causes of fear

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and trouble befall such a person, you will find a man so firm in his hearts that make him firm in his ground.

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So he sees beyond the moment, a man is firm. So it keeps him stable.

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Enough, you will find himself and he's just tranquil. So yes, there is hardship. But that's not the full story. So I'm connected to more than what I see, to more than the hardship that I'm going through to more than just the fear that I'm experiencing now. So I can transcend that fear. Because I see with my heart, a deeper reality, a greater a bigger context, where things are in the hands of Allah things are under control, even though I seem to be losing control. But that's what I can see. And that's what I can sense with my five senses. But I know that's not the whole story of reality. There is much more hidden parts of reality.

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And that's basically allies in control.

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So I had myself over to a lot I know I was in control. So that gives the person that kind of tranquility and stability and firmness, and peace in the midst of all of these challenges.

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My in the next scene watermarking, and maintainability. And this gives you clarity, when you have this kind of inner peace and tranquility in the middle of this tome. You can find this quiet, escape the space on your understanding that Allah is in control, that everything is just happening, according to the plan of Allah. So everything is in good shape. When you enter that peaceful place in the middle of the storm in the heart of the storm, you're able to use your mind without being, you know, frantic without being without freaking out and losing your senses in the heat of the moment. So yes, it's a very difficult condition. It's a challenging circumstances. And there's a lot

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of reason for fear and confusion, and loss of attention and focus. Yet, because your heart is firm, and stable, and tranquil, it gives you the stability, and it gives you the luxury to study things, observe them carefully, and pick or choose the right course of action,

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the right cause course of action, so you have this security, inner security inside, you can always tap into it regardless of how tumultuous or how challenging and

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difficult the external situation is.

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She says mocha mocking him into the beer, he was really happy with the theory, he had an ability to hammer home. So when these challenges fall upon you, because you have this peace and tranquility and the stability inside, you can assess the situation better, you don't lose your senses, you don't lose your focus

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Bhima who have used him in ficklin, I wouldn't want it then this person will tap into whatever they can do. I can change that situation. Let me see what I have, what I can change what I can do what I can fix, then I'll just do this and because I have contentment, I maybe I can change the whole situation. But I'm content with what I can change now. But what Vanessa who had an image he's already he's ready. He's prepared for this challenging, disturbing condition, where he was going to rehab in Santa with a bit of a saying this state of being makes the person comfortable in the midst of trouble and turmoil and makes his heart calm and focused.

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committed to diversity that he man he actually had his hand in the water actually Maha with inside the Agile how Bermuda with azabu watershed of global weather Hello, whoa, whoa, for Rob was terminally ill hopefully, he will call up Paul balcony, Allah de la Tabby, Ron he, later on. He says on the other side, you see the person who lacks a man and lacks the righteous deeds that are based on real emotion and faith. When

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challenging circumstances are there when there is fear.

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This person will be blown away by that fear will be completely bewildered and confused by this overwhelming fear or challenging condition. And you will suffer anxiety, loss of focus and attention. And he will be taken completely by panic and fright. It be completely frightened.

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And then not only this.

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two levels of fear will combine and match to take him over. That's basically the fear that's coming from outside the immediate circumstances and external conditions. And he says I'll call a call about the knee the inner anxiety and fear

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that we have no words to explain. And this inner anxiety and fear comes from failing to know Allah and connect to him.

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Because when the heart doesn't know why it was created, and doesn't embrace the purpose for which it was created, it experiences a very tacit, yet powerful and profound level of fear and anxiety and trouble inside. So you find the person troubled deep inside, even though they might be having some nice ties sometimes. But there is that feeling of void, emptiness, anxiety loss, lack of meaning meaninglessness. They don't know where they live for the searching for something but they can't find it.

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So this is what happened. No meanness in them. Yeah. So let him Babble Babble Toby. Yeah, let him do that. I'm leaning Cafayate in harlot coahoma

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What I thought I saw boom was that you can talk to a man. And let me know Allah subhana wa susanville, Mahalia Maharaja will while and masina, Animals Asia, he says this type of people who don't have the man,

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if they do not learn certain techniques, and certain practices to reduce that level of anxiety and these techniques,

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and these procedures that can lower the level of anxiety, they need a lot of rehearsal, they need a lot of training in order to develop them and master them.

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These people, usually in times of hardship, they experience a nervous breakdown.

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And that's because they lack a man, the kind of a man that equips you with a profound type of patience, and someone

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specifically, at challenging circumstances. So he says, For the bottom one third, well, meanwhile, cafard, yesterday can if he will be Sherif Tillich, this abbia, he says, the righteous person, and the evil person, the righteous person and the evil person, both of them, both of them

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have access to these techniques and strategies to reduce the level of anxiety, the level of fear, the level of trouble in their life. And they also share the access will filter these atleti to not play for them, how if I were to how we know her, and also they have access to the natural ability, natural ability, we said, if you remember those who attended the first session that some people have, in the genetic makeup, they have this kind of easygoing, Enos, they have this easy nature, they come by nature. That's how Allah created them. So these are instinctive characteristics. Some people, as we said, are just troubled. Some people are very nervous by their own nature, some people

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are more calm. So just saying, the person whether they are righteous, or they have no faith at all, both of these people have access to

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the natural demeanor of who they are, if it's leaning more towards being calm, and tranquil and peaceful and easygoing. And they also have access to strategies that are learned from experience and also learned from science and also learned from research on how to reduce the level of anxiety and fear in one's life. He's saying but the believer here stands out. What can you tell me yours will move me know what he man he was somebody he whatever could hear a lot. What tema de la, he went, he said, behavior therapy, he will move on to his dad to be Hasha. to who he says we're, as the believer has an advantage here. And the advantage that the believer has, is the strength of his a

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man and the level of his patience, and his ability to tap into this state of reliance on a loss upon what's Allah

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and seeking reward from him. For any circumstance that he goes through, he says all of this increases the level of his courage.

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All of this increases the level of his courage in the face of these hardships, what to have before and what other, hopefully what to how we normally hear massage, and massage, he says, and all of this reduces his suffering, as we said, because he's tuning into not only the immediate experience, but he's also tuning into and he's also connected to a greater experience, which is beyond the scene beyond the scene world. We said that's the function of the heart. So it reduces his level of anxiety

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and makes hardships easier for him as Allah subhanaw taala says, which is the verse we quoted previously, in tekun, lamona for inami, Ala Moana kimata. Ramon, what's our June Amina la Himalayan June. So if you go through pain and hardship, they also go experiencing similar pain and hardship. Without June I mean, Allah, He May or June but you hope and you're looking forward to something greater from Allah, which they completely lack. They don't hope for anything, there's no hope for them. So they're only their experience is limited to what they are experiencing or what they are facing immediately the immediate conditions or circumstances work. Whereas you as believers, yes,

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you're going through the immediate experience, but that doesn't color your whole experience or your whole state of mind. That's only part of it, because you have another input, which is we said the greater frame of things, the greatest, the grand grand scheme of life.

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So he says we absolutely love him in my own Atilla he will Marina Hill House will Mehta de Mayo bathroom house he says also the believers Allah Subhana Allah gives them and he aids

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them with his own help.

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And with his own support, and this kind of support obviously diminishes and takes away blows away the reasons and the sources of fear. What Carla tala was built in the law, Hamas Siberian Allah subhanaw taala says and be patient, indeed a lot is with the patient ones. That means Allah support and Allah's help is with the patient ones. He says, he moves now to the reason or the mean. The means number two, on how to attain a tranquil and happy life. He says one minute s babolat e to z Lu L. Hannah, welcome our follow up.

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Email Hello, Bill hopefully will fail. what and why is my roof wakulla ha ha your own way son will be hired for a long and even better we will fetch you real home Oh maybe has to be her. While I can remove melamine Hackman will help everyone asleep. He's saying one of the means

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that repel

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worry, concern and fear is kindness to others,

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extending a favor to others.

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Doing some act of kindness to someone else.

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He says

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extending a favor and or kindness to others either by means of speech or by means of action, like an actual kind of kindness or service that you offer the person

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or any kind of help and support. And he says an any kind of kindness and help is considered to be good and is appreciated by a last one. He says by means of this kindness and favors that you extend to others. Allah subhanho wa Taala repels a lot of the reasons that bring about fear, worry, pain and trouble in life.

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And he says this rule acts for the believers and people who lack a man. It works for every human being

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LX four, it works for every human being. He says what I can eliminate minimum acumen will help anyone not save he says but the believer taps into a higher quality of this.

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So you get it better. A believer gets it better than someone who doesn't believe we're here to make yours will be Santa who saw it last and wacky sab in Lithuania. And this point of excellence comes from the fact that the act of kindness and generosity and fever that he's extending to others is actually stemming from

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his sincerity to Allah, from his sincerity to Allah and seeking Allah's reward for your help widow Allahu alayhi betzalel mercifully May or June Ohio so Allah subhanaw taala facilitates for him to extend this act of kindness because he knows that Allah will recompense him.

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So he sees a greater context. Someone who doesn't believe says okay, if I'm going to donate $10,000 I will lose it. Fine, but they are good enough to donate it. But I believe it says I'm donating the stamp $10,000 but I'm getting it from a light tenfold right?

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So makes it way easier for the believer even to extend more acts of kindness because we see a bigger context. We see a bigger context.

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So it says Lima your juvenile higher wired Pharaoh unholy. mcherry have a philosophy went to Serbia and the last month Allah removes away and repels a lot of the causes of pain and hardship in a person's life just because of these and this is exactly what the messenger Salaam says.

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The prophet SAW Selim says that Omar bakoma sadaqa treat the ill ones among you with sadaqa

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and he says in sada kata top to bottom you give some money out in charity, Allah subhanaw taala helps,

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you know, someone recover and heal.

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And the sadaqa extinguishes the anger of Allah.

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And there's something beautiful

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about that another Hadith from the process, and this is very profound. He said Sana

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Sana aroma roofie Sati masari. So what a beautiful beauty

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For Hadeeth unblu he says Sunnah alma haruf. Doing acts of kindness. Extending acts of kindness

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protects you from having an evil and in your life.

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It protects you from dying

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in an unfavorable or disgraceful states.

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So now, Murphy 30 masari. So,

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so extending kindness will cause you when you die, to die in a very good state.

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So, he's saying here simply, you want to do away with worry, fear, pain and stress and anxiety.

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Just do someone a favor, extend some kindness to someone, and you will see how it will be removed. And this is something that you know, from experience, even sometimes, if you just you know, give someone a genuine smile, and you just make them happy. You just feel that kind of, it fills you up that fulfillment and that satisfaction fills you up. Because the last one the prophet SAW Selim says, A hug onesie in a law and federal homeliness, the ones that are our dearest and most beloved to Allah, among the creation are the ones that are more benefit most beneficial to others.

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The ones that are most beneficial to others. So if you add value to people's lives,

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and you have a man, you're more, you're more likely to be amongst the people that Allah loves most.

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As well, I see, Islam has these beautiful, profound meanings. But sometimes we limited to certain technicalities. But that's not the whole picture. We need always to

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keep our eyes open on the organic nature of Islam. Okay, just using this term organic nature, because Islam is more of a full, holistic experience.

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And we need to be aware of this.

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I have been nasty Illa Allah and found leanness, the ones that a lot of the most among the creation are the ones that are most beneficial to others, beneficial through acts of kindness through favours, what anything, any service, any value, you can add to someone's life adds to your assets,

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or to your reserve with the amount of love you're going to get from Allah subhanaw taala.

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And it also brings you a lot of happiness in this life, a lot of satisfaction, a lot of fulfillment, you know, when you help someone out, you relieve them out of a challenging situation. Everyone knows this, you experience some kind of satisfaction. You can't even buy with money. You can't, you can't buy, you know, find someone who's hungry, buy them a sandwich, buy them a meal, and feel the satisfaction. And you know, let's make our

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let's make this HELOC a little bit practical. In this next week, this weekend or next week, why don't you make it a point to search for someone who's really going through some hardship, financial

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or emotional, I would say financial is easier. Why? Because emotional you might be sucked into a very difficult situation. So to say financial, so you know someone

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like who suffers even to get the daily food.

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Honestly, I remember one day it was here in the masjid. And there was one of the brothers a new Muslim, but he also has, he doesn't. I only saw him once in MSgt. And I was told that he has some issues in his mind. So he sees a psychologist, psychiatrist, etc. But he's able to relate to people still he's to certain extent he's normal. And I remember I, I saw him but he asked a couple of questions, answered his questions, then I left and that day I was hungry, so I decided to go buy some shawarma. So I went to the shop. And I saw they had an offer. So you buy you get one for 650 but you get two for 950. So I said

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there was another guy here in the masjid that I usually usually like he gets something he shares it with me. So I said okay, I'll buy him a sandwich, this other guy.

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So I bought two sandwiches and I came back to the masjid.

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I looked at the brother, who I intended to give who's usually here in the masjid. So I wanted to give him the sandwich.

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And I see him dressed up really nicely. He's wearing a suit and everything they said, you know, you know what do you have today? He says I'm invited for a very big meal.

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Says Subhana Allah I bought you a sandwich. I didn't say that I was in my mind that was in a conversation. I said, I bought you a sandwich. So

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I'm not gonna give you a sandwich and spoil the meal for you and let you go. So I didn't share with him.

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anything about it? So I had my sandwich and I left the other. I didn't know what to do with it.

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But somehow law, I remembered that brother who asked me the questions

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and I said, his new Muslim, he has issues with his family. He has a lot of issues, and he's trying to find some work because of his condition. He can't even find work, etc. So I thought, maybe he's hungry. Let me go and check. I hope he's still in the mystery because it's been like about an hour now. I come back to the question. I find him sitting there right there.

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I come to me said How are you doing? Are you good? I said, Did you eat today? He said, You know what? I mean, eating anything. For two days.

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I haven't eaten for two days. I said you haven't had anything said for two days. I haven't had anything. I said. Why didn't you ask? He said I'm embarrassed to ask. But I said to him, did you ask me the questions that you had? Did you really did he want answers? Or were you trying to open up a conversation? He said, honestly, I was speaking to you hopefully they would offer some food.

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So how am I you don't know sometimes.

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So I gave him the sandwich. And a lie for like two days, I was in a state of peace and tranquility, that I have no words to describe, just by helping someone offer him some food. So let's do it this weekend, or next week, inshallah. Find someone to help out. Maybe someone has a debt that he needs to pay off. Sometimes it says as as little as 100 or $200.

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So you know that you can afford that don't put yourself in trouble, you can help that person. Go ahead and do it. So make it a point to find someone who is in need of help and offer them offer them that help and see how you feel. So that's the advice of Shambhala mountain center here.

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So he says Kala Allah to Allah Allah He Rafi remain najwa home in lemon Amala be sada Putin oma roofinghow Islam been a nurse, woman as daddy kaptivo amaravati la he for sofa naughty john Halima, he quotes this verse from Surah, Nisa, he says, There is no benefit, there's no good and most of their conversations, their private conversations.

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They're just you know, idle talk empty speech. There's nothing people just talk and talk. And there's no point in that, except

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for someone who enjoys or advises someone else, to give sadaqa or extend some kindness and generosity or to reconcile,

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you know, two people or two groups of people to bring about reconciliation among people. This is for most of what people say there's no benefit in it. Except in these cases, when someone you know, advises someone who directs another person to give sada to help someone else, or to bring reconciliation.

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And he says, Well, my EF l Valley Captiva amaravati law has affinity I don't know ever does one of these seeking Allah's pleasure and allows reward, we shall give them

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a great Recompense.

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So he says for

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more Kula ha ha your own monster admin who will hire you they will hire wait for our shop. Minamata said beauty

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of the man, woman Joomla allegedly has allowed him to have more than one. He says Allah subhanaw taala is saying in this verse, that all of these things that we mentioned in the verse are actually good regardless who they come from, regardless where they come from, whether a Muslim or a non Muslim, someone who believes in Allah and Allah doesn't believe in Allah. So these things bring up and he says the all of these things are good, and good, brings only good and it repels evil. That's the balance in the universe. When you do something good, I was gonna repel an evil that was on its way to you. And oftentimes, you have no clue about that. Sometimes you might say I've done so many

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goodness, but I've never seen the fruits. Maybe there were so many things harmful things on their way to you. And by means of that goodness that you did a lot removed those things without you knowing about it. All of this was happening in the background.

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And you didn't know about it, just trust. Just trust and let go let Allah be in charge.

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So he says good, always brings about more good and repels evil. And he says the believer is seeking reward from Allah subhanho wa Taala in these things, so Allah reward him and one type of reward is to remove the anxiety, remove the stress, remove the fear from your life just by doing

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Okay, so these are two means great means to a happy and tranquil life should wash your hands The man said the first one is belief and righteous deeds. The second one is extending acts of kindness or extending favours to others.

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So let's make it practical. So this weekend, or next week,

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make a point to help someone else extend some actor, you know, sometimes it's even holding the door back the door for the person behind you, just holding the door for that person. It could be as simple as that.

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It could be sometimes just some coffee, you buy yourself coffee, buy someone else's coffee,

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and give it offer it to that person. And now McDonald's are giving free coffee. So you can get coffee and give it to

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other people extend the good. All right. So

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as simple as that you find out someone who's in hardship, try to help them out.

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Someone who lacks a piece of information that might help them in their business and their family, and their personal affairs, you know about this, help them out, give them half an hour of your time, half an hour of your time, if you don't have time, give them probably finances, or offer them a connection. Maybe there's someone who really in order to advance their business, or improve their career, they need a connection. And you have this connection, you know, that person. So connect these two people. And that's a great act of kindness, and that repels evil. And this also repels anxiety and stress and pain. And this is something that's very well known even, like in self help

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and psychology. And in the original book that, that she said he read, which is Dale Carnegie's book, stop worrying and start living. He mentions a lot of examples, a lot of examples of people who've been through some serious trauma, he talks about people who came from World War Two, who lost their minds, and they were having suicidal thoughts.

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And they didn't know what to do. But someone advised them to volunteer to help out orphans and widows. So they started helping out, they completely forgot their trauma and their experience. And they recovered, although previously they were on drugs, like medicine or medication. And they were seeing psychiatrist and getting a lot of professional help. But it wasn't really working that great. So when they got involved in helping out people who were in need,

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they completely managed to transcend the trauma and their hardship and difficulty. So part Allah, so Allah subhanaw taala, says Hellraiser only ehsani in lesson is the reward of goodness, except goodness, is the reward of kindness other than kindness, you act kindly to people, Allah will be kind to you.

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And part of this kindness that Allah will give you is actually take away your worries, your concerns and your fears, and replace it with happiness and tranquility, and more peace of mind. So inshallah, next week, we will start with the third means of

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to a happy life from the book, sell mafia will hire this side. We have a, I have a couple of minutes. Any questions?

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Any questions?

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No questions. Okay. So, okay. Yeah.

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That's a very good question. That's a very good question. You know, when you extend an act of kindness to a complete stranger, or randomly

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on the surface, it's more effective. And the reason is, because it breaks a pattern.

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The problem when we extend acts of kindness to the family, we're waking, we're working from a paradigm. We got so much used to it, we became desensitized. We became desensitized, and this, thank you for bringing this question. Oftentimes, you find a parent, a father or a mother, they do a lot of sacrifice for their kids, and they see painful.

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And they see maybe the kids are not appreciating it. They don't see the point. Right? They might even like, sometimes be defiant, or reply back to talk back to you. You guys like I sent you to the best school. I'm paying $2,000 a month for you to go to the best school. And you guys are talking back to me. Like you show me no respect. Why? Because we were already in this pattern of offering our families, our children, our spouses, our relatives, some acts of kindness, we stopped seeing the value in them. That's the problem. But if you can get a fresh outlook on this, it would be more profound than extending an act of kindness to a stranger.

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So anything you do for the family, remind yourself that

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Even if it's as simple as you know, being kind to your child or saying a beautiful word to them, you actually might be making their day

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you might be making their day. So try to get out of that pattern which causes, you know, this kind of decent becoming desensitized to it and see that I'm making a difference in my child's life, by sending them to a very good school,

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I'm making a difference in my child's life, by offering him a decent life, he doesn't have to go and beg for money or go and work from an early age or go to

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has good good. Two cups as well.

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strange things happen, right? Had a dessert lesson a lesson. That's another kindness that came my way. Okay. So when.

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So when, yes, when you do it to the family, send an act of kindness or favor to the family, make sure that you don't do it out of habit, you're doing it right. But try to develop a fresh perspective on that.

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Maybe you see your wife not feeling well, or feeling upset that day.

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You go and do the dishes.

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Now the sisters are happy, you do the dishes, or you buy half flour.

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Or you if she likes books, you go and get her a book or whatever anything to change her mood, you might think was okay, that's fine, like I've done this 100 times.

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But if you look, you know, break from that pattern and say, have changed her day have made her day, I gave her a completely different experience. Today, I gave a completely different experience.

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You you'll see it yourself doing something really great. It is great. But the problem is that when we get used to something we take it for granted, we stop appreciating it, we stop appreciating it, the things that you do on daily basis to your friends, to your family to sometimes you you stop seeing the impact of this. Why? Because it's part of a pattern recurring pattern. So you tend to underestimate these individual acts, because there's so many of them. But if you see each act of them as unique as a building block in this wonderful building, and it fits in its right place, and it's necessary because the building won't be right without this even single block.

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Then you realize, well, this is actually more profound is why the prophet SAW Selim says, We're

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Phil lomatium, to how to configure feasible jetty, he saw that, you know,

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some food that your wife eats, you're getting, you're getting, you're getting reward from Allah because of that. Not only this, even the promise of Salaam says a husband approaching his wife, he's getting reward for that.

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So everything is kindness. So and and basically that goes to what we said previously about handling life with a state of presence.

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You know, we live life. Honestly, absent mindedly

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absent mindedly we do the things half asleep. We do most of what we do out of habit half asleep.

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You have to be present in what you do.

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You know, each cup of tea that you drink is different.

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But for you, they're all the same. But if you can develop and get the habit of developing a fresh perspective, each cup of tea is different, because happening at a different time, different circumstances, even different cup different tea leaves, it is different. And if you pay attention to this, you will start to feel the difference. Each cup of tea will be different will give you a different experience.

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Each beautiful word you say is a different experience. Each night you sleep is a different kind of sleep. It's a different experience. Every morning you wake up, it's a new gift from Allah.

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It's a new gift from Allah because you were dead in your sleep. Allah brought you back to life again. developing this kind of fresh perspective is very powerful. It's part of appreciating the blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And this is what we talked about this the last couple of times, is be present. embrace those gifts from Allah, embrace your daily experience, you know, live fully, you know, any experience, have it or experience it fully. We go through life. As I said, absent minded most of the time. We are half awake or actually half asleep. We're almost fully asleep. We're hypnotized. We go through life completely heedless, unaware of what's going on. Why?

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Because we're so used to things but everything in this life is new. Everything is unique. Everything is fresh. Even if it's a friend that you've known for eight years of your life. every encounter is new, there is something new and fresh about it. And if you are open if your mind is open to that, you will start to see it.

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But if your mind is on autopilot, everything will be the same. All people will be the same, all cups of tea will be the same. All your encounters with the wife will be the same. All your encounters with the children will be the same. Each ride in the car will be the same. old days will be the same. This is a dull and boring life and you won't realize the blessings that Allah puts you away, day in and day out. So Dracula has opened a room for a letter even, but it's necessary. So I would say if you extend acts of kindness to family, people have more strike more rights upon you. And you do it from a fresh perspective. I think it will be more rewarding. But if temporarily you can't get

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there when you do it. A random can act of kindness to a random person. It seems to give more impact. Yeah, particle rafiqul. So lots of them have been hammered while he was so happy.