The Beneficial Means To A Happy Life 04

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Shiekh Moutaseem discuss the book of Sheikh Abd Ar-Rahman ibn Nasir as-Sa’di in this series. Presented at the Abu Huraira Center.

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Ilaha salatu salam Ala Moana Viva.

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We are still explaining the book of Sharif Abdul Rahman Surya Rahim, Allah Jalla, Lhasa elimu, Fidel hyah decided the beneficial means to a happy life.

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We spoke previously about his life. And well the story of the book, why he wrote this book and started explaining the first part of the book where he talks about the means that can really give us a sense of well being in our lives, the

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tools that are helpful in attaining life of well being and balance. And the first means that he shares is actually, as a man will another side, the man below will MLS Allah. So we saw how belief in a law proper a man that yields righteous actions, is actually one of the most powerful means to attaining a state of well being and a life of happiness and contentment.

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Second, means that he shared was a lesson on Hulk, doing acts of kindness towards others, doing acts of kindness towards others. So when we extend acts of kindness, when we care for others, something special happens within us, our whole chemistry changes. And today in the science of neuroscience, neuro psychology, this thing is very well is well known. And there is something called the kindness experiment, kindness experiment, it's actually was done, that they experimented on certain people where they wired them to see what was going on, and they scan their brains as well. So they wanted to see what happens in the brain, when a person engages in an act of kindness. So, and it was first

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at the beginning, it was meant this, this experiment, when it was first done, they wanted to see how acts of kindness affects the brain of the recipient, the one who receives the gifts like or the act of kindness. And they realized that when a person receives an act of an act of kindness,

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the chemistry of the brain changes. So there are hormones, what they call the happiness or well being hormones,

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like

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serotonin,

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and dopamine are actually produced in the brain. And these causes a state of well being, and a feeling of grace, a feeling of grace.

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But what was shocking to the experimenters, they found that a similar thing happens to the brain of the one who does the act of kindness, so extends the act of kindness. And

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so they decided to expand the experiment afterwards. And they decided to study a third party, which is someone who observes this act of kindness.

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And they realized even the observer experiences the same thing.

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So you can see somehow a lot of sound, okay, well, hello, being good to others, doing someone a favor, even just being kind. And any kind of any act of kindness, it could be something physical, that you give a gift you give to someone, or it could be something that's non physical, could be a smile, could be a sincere word of compliment.

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This also has a similar impact. So imagine not only the recipient, but even the giver experiences, the blessings of this kindness. And not only these two, but even a third party who was observing this, they experienced the same thing. And by the way, this explains why some videos go viral on YouTube, specifically, when these have to do with, you know, helping homeless people. Sometimes a lot of these videos actually become very viral, is because of the experience that you have. So you as the observer of this, you get affected. Sometimes you get even emotional, but it's not negative, you feel emotional, but you feel some sense of grace within and SubhanAllah. The The, the

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explanation to this is that

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acts of kindness, they act against

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our neffs

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which is our ego, a false self. Because the act against there is the desire of the self is always I want me, me, me, give me so when you go against this, you empower your soul, you empower your heart. And when you do these acts of kindness, this is something that touches your heart and awakens your soul. So this is why you become more spiritual at that time. And this is why the surge of happiness and well being and peace and tranquility, it comes from you empowering the soul of the self. That's what has

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At the moment so now we were going to deal with a third means to happiness or well being that she shares in his book. As usual I will read from this book inshallah paragraph one paragraph at the time and then explain it. So he says phoslo woman as Barbie definitely caught up in Nashi and Tortorella saw bushy hollow called BB, D rot, Alicia hollow B Emily minute ml r l min min Illumina via the inner how to heal poly banish de la Li botanical Emily lady a Calico Natalie

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radical Emery Lydia Calico wabamun sex care syllabi daddy callous babble lead to Java who will hammer home for 30 had enough so who was there than a shadow who had a silver boy one mostella convenient. Meanwhile, he's saying one of the means that repel stress, anxiety and tension

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and remove the thoughts that bring about these states of negativity is to engage in a physical act in engage in an activity, engage in an activity or engaging in studying or learning something. So you engage yourself either in something that you do and perform. Or you engage in a study about a subject, it could be a course that you take in school, or in a training with a training organization, or you take it with an online, you know, educational platform, or you go and study probably at a Masjid, or with a person and so on and so forth. So that you busy yourself or you engage yourself with either something that engages you bodily, so it engages your body, you have to

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engage with it, and on a physical level, or you engage with it at an intellectual level. So what it does is it the secret here is that it absorbs your attention. It absorbs your attention. So he's saying for in total, he called banish the lolly be delicate Emily lady Aquila. Haha, so it distracts the heart from focusing on the source of anxiety.

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When you get yourself busy in something, it engages your attention, your attention is completely absorbed. So when your attention is absorbed with what you do, you don't have attention to focus on the source of your pain, your anxiety and your stress. So what happens you're completely distracted from it, and suddenly disappears from your life. Because it's our mind that creates our stress.

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Our mind is what creates our stress. Because when we focus on negative things, our mind will stress out and we will experience this. So it's this is about managing attention, being able to manage your attention where you put your attention. And this is why there's a famous statement comes from different sources, they say where attention goes, energy flows, where attention goes, energy flows, anything you focus on, you give it power over yourself, you focus, for example, you had a negative

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maybe meeting with someone, someone was very negative, very aggressive towards you was a very unpleasant experience with that person into action.

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You could keep focusing on this all day and you would feel bad about yourself and you would feel negative. And by the end of the day would be completely exhausted and probably depressed. And you could shift your attention away from it and decide to focus on something else. Focus on something pleasant, you'll be surprised once you shift your attention how you mood will change. So oftentimes people when they fall, people say oh, you know,

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I'm experiencing depression, as if it's happening to them. This is what most people this is how they express it. You know, by the way, depression doesn't happen to you. It doesn't happen, you do depression,

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you do anxiety,

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you do anxiety you do stress you do by putting your attention on the source of stress by putting your attention on the source of stress. I know a lot of people have questions or have come back to this When shall we

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so for in the local branch to rally with Alec and Emily levy akula co because it distracts focusing on these engaging these activities or this studying. It distracts the heart from focusing on the source of anxiety, what Obama said he said baby daddy can ASVAB and lead to job at low level home. And probably perhaps by means of that he would forget completely the reasons that causes him. He's talking about a person who goes through hardship. He probably by focusing on what he does on this activity that he's engaged in, that would lead him to forget about the reasons for his anxiety

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for 30 had enough so so his

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Self or his mood would improve and would be happy. He would rejoice was that than a shadow he would feel more energy more energetic about himself. We had a syllable Avon was tala convener meaning he says this means or this tactic is actually can be done by someone who believes in a lot can be done by someone who doesn't believe in Allah This is available to all human beings.

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the siano Silla Villa de casa de who Allahu Allah. Allahu Bmlt Mohammed Mohammed wembury Nicola Shula, the HTTP meta, and this will be in nefs watashi wa, who, in Nevada Idaho Soleil Masuda, naffaa, Allahu Alem. He says, here, there's a difference between a believer he says this means is available to believers and non believers. But there is a merit here there is an exception for the believer in this case, he says, because the believer has an advantage here, because he has a man. And he has sincerity for Allah sincerity of intention, and seeking reward from Allah. So when he does when he engages in an activity, or he engages in learning something he does that for the sake

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of Allah. So it's not only his, he has an activity to engage in, but he also has an intention, which is for a greater cause. And whatever good that he does, it's either a worship an act of worship, or it could be some matter of this dunya. It could be sports, it could be a craft, it could be some art, maybe drawing, maybe carving, maybe,

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you know, working on some project, maybe toys, anything, oh my. So he's saying, and if it's not a religious act, originally Not, not an act of worship,

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but something from this dunya, he can add to that good intention, so he can be doing it

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with the intention that I'm doing this to help myself worship Allah. So maybe I'm playing sports to strengthen my body, so I can worship Allah better. Or maybe I'm doing this. So I remove this dress, in order for me to be able to focus on worshiping Allah subhanaw taala, maybe I'm doing this thing, I'm learning this, and I'm better at benefiting myself. And the ultimate intention for this is actually to be a better servant of Allah to be a better Muslim. So there's always the concept of intention is always available to the Muslim to the believer. So he says this is a very effective tool to remove or repel sadness, and sources of anxiety and pain. Then he says how often there is a

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person that has been tried with extra anxiety and stress and overwhelming,

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you know, negative negativity. Then he says, This caused him a lot of physical illnesses.

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And this is something that's known by doctors, people in the medical profession, they will tell you that mind is everything. Mind is everything, that what your state of mind affects your body. So they say a lot of the illnesses that we have, they actually manifestations of long lasting negative states of mind. So when you dwell in sadness and pain, and you keep thinking about you know, the the the bad things that happen to you keep rehearsing that in your mind. This creates a lot of negativity, bitterness, and this ultimately poisons your body. It poisons your body because it It leads to the

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production of stress hormones. In your body is stress hormones exhaust your body, because they are meant to help you only in emergencies, but if you keep focusing on negativity, what will happen, these will destroy I mean, these hormones will stress hormones will be like cortisol will be produced, and will be flushed into your bloodstream for longer and elongated periods of time. And what what that does, it wears you out and destroys your kidneys, your heart, your lungs, your brain, all the systems in your body. So the person will age quickly. And anyone who was was prone to illnesses like tumor or kidney failure or diabetes or blood pressure, this will actually accelerate

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the process of material

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So this is something that's very well known. So they tell you, connection of mind and body is very strong.

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So he's saying here that all this kind of sadness and negativity and stress, if a person is, is succumbs to that, or they indulge in these, in this negativity, it will cause a lot of physical illnesses. So he says, and the only successful or effective treatment to this is actually from getting the reason that was causing them the stress and the anxiety and to engage themselves in another activity that will distract them from it. And he says,

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and he gives a very beautiful tip here, he says that the thing that you engage in what to choose, you know, what should I engage in? Is it like physical activities, sports? Is it art? Is it knowledge, science, any kind of intellectual endeavor and learning process? Or maybe something, some profession, or some skill? So he's saying it should be meta and has to be enough. So what I start off by saying that you should actually see what you are naturally inclined to what do you what do you have a passion for? What do you love doing, so you do what you love, that's what he's saying, may matter, and this will be enough sort of stuff, or that you find a lot of peace, you have a lot

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of attraction to it, you're drawn to it naturally. She says, This is more likely to give better fruits in that context. So you you, you want to distract yourself from the causes of anxiety and stress. Try to look into yourself sense out yourself. What do you love doing? What do you engage in? What do you find yourself drawn into? So the things that you are naturally you have a head for these things, or you are naturally drawn into these things? These are the things that are most likely to work out for you in such a context.

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Okay, so.

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So that's the third means that he's sharing. I know, some people have concerns. Let me take your questions.

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So does anyone have a question? Or a comeback?

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It's good to have a discussion about this. I know some, okay. Let me ask the question for some of you probably, okay, you know, you might say, Okay, why should I just ignore my problem and focus on something else, when I need to fix it? In order to fix it? I need to think about it right? I need to think it through I need to face it, I can't run away from my problems. Okay. Isn't this a valid question? It's absolutely a valid question. Right? Now, he's not suggesting to run away, he's talking about stress and anxiety. So there are two types of thinking.

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There is clear thinking, where you separate yourself from the problem, emotionally.

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And you think about the problem logically.

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And you see what you can do about it.

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By this, you actually, you move into a higher level of thinking, where you think with clarity, and I know this is difficult, but with, you know, a little bit of training, you can actually achieve this. And slowly, slowly, you get better at that. So detach from the situation as much as possible, and deal with it as a mathematical equation that you need to solve.

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He's not here, what he's talking about, stop thinking. He's not saying stop thinking completely where he thinks stop worrying about it. So there's a difference between thinking and worrying. Worrying is excessive thinking. And it's thinking with a negative tendency or inclination. When you think negatively, by the way, about something you your mind, your mind is not set on the path to find solutions. But you're just winning on the problems. That's it. And so we need, it's important as well to understand how our minds work.

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I don't know who said this, but it could be it could be Einstein, he said that ships

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were not invented by contemplating the sinking of things. But the floating of things.

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Oftentimes, we're not thinking of solutions, we're thinking of problems. And that's where the stress comes.

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And you will see oftentimes, that if you have a problem, and this problem has really, like, has worn you out, and you're completely exhausted and overtaken. If you get a break from it, something comes in distracts you completely from it, then you come back to it. A couple of days later you have you look at it and say, Oh, I was completely lost. It's so easy to deal with this problem. But when we overthink about a problem, it sucks us in and we get trapped and we can't think clearly.

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We can't think clearly.

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So we need to understand this limit.

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That when we think of a problem, we need to think with a sense of detachment, emotional detachment, this comes with training, if you train yourself, keep trying, you always can, can get better at it. And that's the way you can do it. And by the way, today, they helping people, you know, break from addictions, they helping people. And they teaching this as a strategy for people who have suicidal thoughts. You know, when someone has suicidal thoughts, you think, oh, they're doing it by choice. It seems to be on the surface, but obviously, they got themselves there. But when they are in the moment, something takes over them. And they completely lose control, they find themselves drawn

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into, I looked into some people who really had suicidal thoughts, they said, it's just like, there is a whirlwind, outside, there's a hurricane. And it's sucking the wind out of the building, and an opening, and an opening happens in the window. And I feel sucked into it. And they feel this is even one of them says he describes an incident where he was about to commit suicide, he said, I held on to the door, as if wind was trying to, you know, blow me away, and I was holding on to the door trying to, you know, hold tight to it. This is how the thoughts overtaken to overtake the person. And this is what we know as Wes, Wes, by the way, sometimes we have this obsessive thinking that did

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y'all make Waldo or not? Some people really like wash the whole buddy, probably 1020 times, and they still not convinced that they made a lot. It's a similar process. It's obsessive thinking. So these people lose control completely to their thoughts and what happens, they lose control. And the thought process becomes very negative, and it sucks them in. And obviously shaytan blows into this shadow and blows into this. So we need to understand how omens thing. So now in these days, and they're saying that the the outcomes of these of this technique and getting people out of addictions, out of suicidal thoughts is actually more effective than any other treatment. That is,

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that's known so far. That's the most successful treatments. It's called detached, thinking.

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Like, they say they teach people they say, okay, you have a thought, and it's sucking you in that I want to kill myself, I need to end my life, I can't take this anymore. And they feel they've lost control. They say straightaway detach from it. And don't fight this thought, let it be, but see yourself separate from it.

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And it does work. At the beginning, it's a bit hard because we're not used to detached thinking. But once the people get basic training on it, they become very good at it. And they detach themselves. And they they say afterwards, these are people talking about their experiences with this specific approach.

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They basically say afterwards, after we learn this, I see suicidal thoughts coming in, and I can feel the pull. And I say to myself, I'm separate, that's something else. It's a thought, it's okay, it has the right to be gone through my mind. I'm just going to observe it, but I don't have to respond to it, I have the choice. And it does work for them. So what he's saying here, okay, not Don't think about your problems, not think about them, and focus on solutions, try to find out solutions.

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But once you start worrying, that's not thinking it's not logical. It's actually we can and this is something about our brains as well, that most of most of humans see their problems worse than they really are. We're not objective thinkers, we're not. We're not objective thinkers.

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We are a mixture of emotions and thinking, we're going to mix. So our thought process. And this is an issue with our perception. There's a difference between reality and our perception of reality, our perception, perception, perception of reality is extremely biased, extremely biased, and we have to realize this, but most of us don't realize that reality is something our perception of it is something else. Once you are able to tell the difference and see the distance between these two, you're better you will develop a sense of humbleness, you will develop a sense of openness, and you will develop a sense of ease.

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So you know, okay, now my mind is going wrong. I know it. I feel everyone is against me. No, not everyone is against you. But when you get into this, you know, pitfall, you you go downhill in that emotional state is going to color everything you see and everything you interpret. So you need to recognize it fine. I'm not in a good state. My mind is not seeing everything as clear as it is. Okay, I'm not seeing reality. I'm seeing a biased, distorted reality. I shouldn't make decisions now.

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This time shall pass. So that's an elaboration on what he said here. So I believe Dale Carnegie in his original book, as far as I remember,

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in when he talks about this, he mentions the story of someone who took part in World War Two

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And

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this man

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was sent with the American army.

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And I think the job that was given to him was basically he was sent to Europe.

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His job was every time they received a buddy of an American soldier, he was meant to contact their family, write them a letter or a telegraph,

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send them something, and pack all their personal belongings and make sure that they're sent back to their families.

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So he had to search those dead people. And he had to deal with their personal memories, sometimes diaries, sometimes pictures, sometimes personal stuff, jewelry, etc. And that destroyed him emotionally. So when he was sent back after the war, and

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he retired, he was still young. He said, I could not sleep for months, just could not sleep, anxiety, stress, pain, trauma, lost hope and everything.

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He said, I lost my family, I lost everyone turned away from me. And he said, basically, I think he ended up weighing only 90 pounds. He said, I was just bones, skin on bones, I end up being skin and bones. And he said, One, I used to lay in my bed waiting for death anytime to come and take me and he said, I was wishing for death to come. Because what I was going through for me was, you know, far more painful than death.

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But he said one day, something just went through my mind and said,

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Why do I just come to that level? Why do I just do this?

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So he remembered, and in the garage in his house, he used to do, he used to

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do so he's actually one of his previous hobbies was to create boats out of wood. He had big pieces of wood, he would make boats. So he used to carve them in wood. So he decided, he said, I haven't done this for years. So he decided to go bring his tools.

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Get him out of the closet. And he started something just pushed him into started starting working with a piece of wood.

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And he said it was early in the morning. I only woke up like I came back to my senses when it was the end of the day.

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And he looked around, I wasn't stressed. And he said, I've never experienced this level of comfort and peace and lack of anxiety for years in my life. He said I haven't I've even forgot how this feels. But I said I realized that my engagement with that work with doing something that I liked, which is a physical skill, engaged, it made me forget all my pain. He said I did not remember anything of my pains.

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So he said, so I kept doing this. And after a couple of weeks, I started to put on weight. My physical, my physics started to get back to its normal shape. My mental health was getting better. And he said a few months later, I was back into normal life. And he said I learned that I learned that lesson. So that's the story. Dale Carnegie mentioned as far as I remember, that's been years years ago, but I think that's what he is talking about.

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Okay, any concerns about this before I move on?

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Okay, let's move to the next means have to a tranquil life or a life of well being when we may yet for obile him Alcala argued for obey Him or HTML or Vickery de la Miami behandeling

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workato he and he and the man if he walked in must have been

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we must determine what Anil has me I will work till tomorrow we will he had a stat and be useful Allahu Allah, he was eliminated him he has an

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arrest beautiful. He says another means to life of happiness and well being. That's number four.

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html are affected equally. He is the man maybe I'm an alien when he says

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gathering your attention, unifying your attention on your present day, on what you're doing your present day.

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So you don't worry about the future.

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And you and you don't ruminate about the past.

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So you focus on your day. It's only the present only this day that you have focus and some people call this presence. You have a presence in what you do what you engage in today. So you're not living in the future. You're not living in the past. You live at the present moment, the present time. And when you do this, you'll be surprised that there's no reason to

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Have an anxiety because anxiety comes from fearing or worrying about what will happen or what will not happen, or feeling sad and stressed out about what happened in the past. But in the present something about the present even when it's hard to when calamity, if you are present in it, if you are dealing with it, you don't feel that you don't feel that and even if you feel pain or you feel stress at the present moment, it's usually you worrying about something in the future, how this will end up.

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So,

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so saying, so block or cut your attention from extending into the future, or going back and having sadness or anxiety about the past and he says, This is why the messenger Salaam says

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a long road obika mean and Hemi well hasn't. So he's saying and hasn't I don't know more than maglia and let alone cannot do how was the draka says has any sadness and anxiety and remorse about things in the past that you could not change any more things happened they're done. They're finished work. You can't undo the past. It's done. So you saying this isn't hasn't so the process of sell them said allow mania obika Miracle hasn't lost one person Selim says Allah, I seek your protection from falling into heaven, which is ruminating about the past remorse about the past, trying to change what's already done and doing it you which you can't win him unless the receiver will have female

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mostakbal and him is actually worried about what could happen in the future or not happen in the future.

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This is fair Kunal Abdo Naomi, so he says, the person becomes the son of his own day, you become the man of your own day. Deal with your own day, deal with the present day, the present moment. Huge metal, did the Whoa, watch. They had a houfy asahiyama he worked a lot harder. So he gathers all his effort and all his attention

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and all his focus in fixing the present day

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and fixing and dealing with the present day and the present moment was still held for in najem I'll be Alec Yuji Buta Camila Amal YSL. Abigail Abdo Alhamdulillah has and he's saying doing this focusing your attention on the present moment and the present day and the the activity you're engaged you're presently engaged in, he says, it brings you perfection of what you do so you do what you do well, and it also protects you from worrying about the future and ruminating about the past.

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So it's a double it's actually has double benefit whenever you sell a lot when you sell them either in the meta who,

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for whom or you have to manage the entity below automatically,

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automatically for the island devilishly hard to help poco Salima Drury hosoda with the holly American at the end of Dora mcquoddy ml Phil Abdo ha to FEMA and Federico de Nueva dunia West LA hoonah. Johanna so they were staring over here. He's explaining a very important point here about Dora because oftentimes, we think okay, there is something you say with your tank, and that's it.

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He's gonna clarify something about this. And for those who are

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here today for the Friday hautbois. I mentioned a submarine the patient ones are last ones that it says about them. aladeen ada sobre Tomaso Eva corlew, in alila, in Nicaragua, they are the ones when they are hit by hardship or calamity. They say, in Allah, we're in La herradura to Allah we belong and unto him, we will return.

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And I clarified in the hotbar, this is not the state of their tongues only. Yes, they say that with the tongue, but this reflects the state of being their state of hearts, what they believe in, that's what the whole state is saying. So this is a bit similar. So he's saying the Prophet sallallahu sallam, when he makes it, or he advises us and teaches us to make a dua. He is also like he along with showing us how to seek Allah's help and hope for his for his grace and His blessing. He's also adding to this that we do our part of the job. So you ask Allah for money, you actually couple this with working or with starting a project. So you have to follow the means. So there is not only what

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you say with your tongue, is you say with your tongue, and you also do or you fulfill the means that are necessary for the attainment of your goal. So

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and then just delicious devilishly hard to have coconut oil in my head, Rudy Casali, so he's saying that you also engage with the person who is teaching us along with engaging in whatever is necessary to help us achieve

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The result or the result of this door and to give up whatever keeps us away from it

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Okay, so laziness is going to hold you back from achieving your goals so you can't make Dora you know and just sit back. So you have to give up also laziness along with Dre you do the work.

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We are in Amman, he says Dora and ml action doing are supposed to be together.

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Well, Abdul ha to FEMA and Pharaoh who victini dunia saw the the person does everything they can or he can

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with two to achieve what benefits him in this dunya and in matters of the deen

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whereas a lot of boneta hamotzi he asks Allah to help them attain success and achieve his goal. And he seeks help with this. So he says come on Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Hello sila my and fellow Costa and biLlahi wanna charges you know a Helsby keen, be very keen on the things that are beneficial to you.

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Be keen, and that's advice from the prophet SAW Selim be keen on what is beneficial to you Western Billa and seek Allah's help while at the edges. Whether charges that just means don't fall back into laziness. Don't hold back any effort or anything you can actually do with either a Saba cache on Fela topple and if something happens to you mean negative fella taco Don't say no unev al Qaeda Kanika de Vaca don't say only if you know or had I done this would have been different don't use it don't do this

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for in

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a shape that will that can put the polka dot Allah Masha, Masha Allah but say

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Allah has decreed Allah made a decision and whatever Allah decrees comes into comes to pass whatever Allah wills will take place

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in Allah to homeownership, I'm because using same as like what if or had I done this or that this opens the scope or the arena for shavon

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to you know, mess around with you.

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For Gemma sallallahu alayhi wa sallam been in Emeryville he'll say Ellen ohmori nephew Atif equally had will is the entity below Adam in the world castlebar webinar list Islamic model Amalia Nafisa. Well Moshe Kabbalah is saying in this Hadith, the prophet of Islam combined together, his command or his advice, that we are keen, and we seek the things that are good for us in all our states, and that we seek Allah's help, and that we do not succumb to laziness alleges which is laziness, etc.

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And he's also combining submission, submission and acceptance of the things that already happened. I can't change them. You know, he said, but that allow Mushaf add, this thing happened. I can't undo it. Allah Subhana Allah made a decree and whatever He willed, came into existence. When Moshe had to take a look around to see it's actually the order of Allah subhanaw taala. Then he says, more of his main kosma neum Kindle.

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Asahi tassili he out sad monkey No, no, I will definitely he oughta Fifi for her that ubv labdoo Machado with the annovi Mahmud II, it says the province of Solomon this Hadith, classified things that bad things that happen in life into two things, something that you can achieve,

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you can achieve it either fully or partly so you can achieve all of it or achieve some of it. If it's good

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or something bad that you can either repel completely and avoid completely or avoid as much as possible of it. So he says in this thing, the province of Sanam is giving the advice that you should save no effort you should put you should do everything you can to achieve the benefit and repel the the evil.

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Another type the prophets of Salaam, made what this Millennium kinvey Dallek The other type is things you are helpless about things that are beyond your capability, things you can't change overwhelming things, things you can't change.

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So he's saying for her that Yattaman in hula, hula do what you say to him he says as to these things, the person should find peace in these things and should accept them and should submit to Allah.

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What are you banasura to handle asleep? Several boneless Rory was a word to me welcome. He says there is no doubt that observing this advice is one is a great is a reason

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is a means to happiness, and to the removal of stress, pain and anxiety.

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So we have now four means that the chef has mentioned in his book again to repeat them.

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And Eman, beloved homicide, having true faith and belief in Allah and righteous D having righteous deeds. Second one, Alexander Illa, Hulk being good to people, extending acts of kindness and generosity and favours to them. Third, engaging in either a physical activity that can absorb your attention and can engage you, or engaging in some kind of study or learning that also attracts you and draws you in. And the third one, or the fourth one, is to focus on the present moment and the present day. And don't worry about the future. And don't ruminate about the past this this, that we mean that we don't plan. I said, No, we don't worry. We don't worry about the future planning. Once

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you worry in the planning, you're not logical, you're not doing good planning. Planning is a very clear mind need detachment. So think about the future, but don't worry about it.

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The past, does that mean we don't reflect on our past? We don't think about it. No, there are so many lessons. Look into your past, accepted as the decree of Allah subhanaw taala, even if you contributed to it, even if it's a sin that you've done in the past, and you made Toba of it, okay? Look, I consider this to be the abode of Allah subhanho wa Taala. reflect upon it, see the lessons that you can learn from it and try to detach from it.

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And then focus on your present day, focus, because that's the only thing you have. And oftentimes, by the way, most people don't do what they should do, is because they escape either in the future or in the past.

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Your life is what you live now. Your life is now it's not tomorrow. It wasn't the past, the past is gone. It's not a reality anymore. The future has not come and it's not a reality yet. So what you truly have is your present moment.

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And there is nothing about the present moment. And that's a reality. There's nothing by the present moment.

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Because what you will have by the past is a thoughts. The past is gone. It's non existent. It's a thought. And the future is a thought.

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Tomorrow, tomorrow, okay, now it's 744 7:45pm.

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Tomorrow, like this time is a thought. That's another reality yet. But when you get there, when you get to that point, it will be present.

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When you come to tomorrow, 7:45pm it will be the present moment. So the only, you can only deal with the present moment. You can't deal with the future, you can't deal with the past. But do we have to think about the future? As I said, Yes, you have to think you have to plan otherwise, you know, you're not going to have any future. It's normal to have plans, but you need to make it with more detachment. So you focus, you're focused about what you and you more logical about these things. You have clarity of thought.

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And we but what is actually you are advised against worrying about the future, worrying about the future, in a sick way. Because sometimes your concern about about future as well could push you into action, that's fine. As long as you do not lose focus. As long as you it doesn't suck you in and you lose control. That's what we're talking about. But there is a level of worry, that's actually healthy, right? Okay, tomorrow if I don't do this, so there will be no ramifications, there will be some consequences. That gives you a boost of worry, that will actually push you into action that's healthy and could that's healthy and good. We're not talking about this again. But we're talking

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about the worry that causes you to lose balance causes you to fall into a state of stress and anxiety. That's what we're talking about.

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Okay, we have time to move on to another means he's saying FOSS lone woman activator as well as babbling Sheila has suddenly wautoma Nina t l Excel woman decree law for internally dedicated fear on Eben Vinci Fincher has surgery. What Nina t he was awali me he won me call it Allah. Allah. Allah He talked to me in a loop, valedictory la Hassan Avi Murphy has already had to lube the house yet he will he May or June abdomen Sahabi Mentawai he will actually he

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he says one of the biggest means and most effective means to expanding your chest and finding peace

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tranquility is to increase in the remembrance of Allah, the Quran, Allah,

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the Quran Allah, for in nearly dedicated theology when he says this has magical, amazing impact

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on the expanding the chest and bringing ease to it, and finding peace and tranquility, and for the, for the removal of anxiety, and worry. Then he quotes the verse from Allah subhanaw taala last month and it says allowability karela, he taught my inner loop indeed, in the remembrance of Allah, the hearts, find serenity, peace and tranquility.

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So he says, the remembrance of Allah has a very tremendous impact in

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removing anxiety and achieving what we're talking about, which is removing anxiety, and finding peace. And it also gives the hope of getting Allah's reward.

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The reward from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And by the way, Vicar of Allah,

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when you try it first, it doesn't seem to pay off.

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You might push yourself into it days, weeks months, and you don't see the payoff, you don't see the payoff. But if you stay consistent with it, a loss monitor will open the door for you with the car. And then you will start finding so much sweetness in the car that you don't find in anything else.

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So there's a price and you need to pay, there's a threshold that you need to break through.

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So you need some consistency. And that's an advice.

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Try to do remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala try to do remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala they're in a line a lot, it gets to a stage where it becomes very addictive, not physically addictive, but the sweetness and the peace and the tranquility that penetrates your heart because of it, it becomes addictive. And if you don't do it, you feel there's a big part of you missing. You think you've lost yourself.

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And the problem is that most people try but they give up on it too early.

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There's a threshold that you need to push through, you need to stay consistent until Allah subhanaw taala opens up for you that door of thicker

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and thicker actually puts you in a state of companionship with a lot.

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It gives you a state of Mariya where we can make you feel this closeness and and Subala you feel such a closeness to Allah, that you can only find peace in that closeness.

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That's an unstable, that's an ensemble. This is something can only achieve through the

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can only achieve through the as the vicar according to the Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim landecker, according to some people will start singing it and doing so on different things not not it's not the vicar that some people do when they jump up and down, and they do it in unison, and in a certain rhythm. That's not the way the vicar that came from the Prophet sallallahu. It was

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the Hadees that came from the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam. I remember like,

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reading from even taymiyah He says, for himself, he had a habit between abandon fudger and the karma. He used to say Yahuwah yom La Ilaha Illa antibiotic St.

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Lucia and Aquila, hawala tacchini

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Xiao Hai, yo, yo, yo, Miss calling upon Allah. Yeah, hey, you are the one who's alive. You are alive and perfect in your own self. And you is the one who gives life and sustenance to the creation. So you are yourself alive full of life, and you give life and sustenance. Yeah, how are you?

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ematic as I seek, I beseech your help and your mercy.

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Especially shaniqua fix all of my affairs so you let go. Unit a lobbying charge us Alicia Nicola. You fix all of my affairs. I hand them over to you. When I had to kill the NFC tag for time and don't leave Don't leave me for myself. Not even for a blink of an eye.

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Don't leave me for myself. You take care of me. I hand you over myself and all my affairs.

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Well as a Canadian a super tight

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Yeah, that's the that's the that's the she says. He said I used to say this and he said, Whoever says this, Allah subhanaw taala will put life in their heart. This is not called a daddy carabiner man. It can mean a dental surgery will akarma

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a law as Georgia law called for what?

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He says this is something that I he found with it with experience.

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experimenting because even using the names of a lot of Hey, Liu, it has to do with a lot with life. A lot is the one who's alive, the source of life and the giver of life.

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He also says men suffer who only akuna Aquinas. Failure for Luke Thurman? I will Holla Holla Holla quwata 11 is whoever wants to be the strongest of all people? Let him always say that how will our water 11 there's no power, there's no mic, except with a loss of power.

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So these remembrances each each has a different impact on your heart. Some scholars have written certain things about these, what this does to the heart, what each does to your heart, what does it give what is offer your heart. So there's a world of viken that most of us have, have not tapped into, because because we start with it and becomes a bit redundant. We don't feel it. We give up on it too early. But try to do the cutover last month, right? Remember on last panel data,

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it gives you as a state as I said, state of companionship, you feel the closeness to Allah subhana wa talens, something so addictive, you don't want to let go. You don't want to let go of that is such a pleasant feeling. And, you know, there's this statement, famous statement from him, he says, in NFL Kobe opposition,

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layer we in America to lie, when they have to who will also be he will show who

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he says there is a sense or a state of thirst in the heart that can never be satisfied or quenched. Except with knowing Allah, loving him, feeling this closeness and companionship to him, constant companionship with him, and longing to see his face.

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longing to see his face, he says there is this need in the heart that only this can satisfy. Nothing else will satisfy. Whatever you get, it will not satisfy this. And this is deep in the heart, because that's what we are created for. And the heart is always searching for this. So the closer you can get to this in this life is through the through remembrance of Allah SubhanAllah. To add. The problem with Vicar is that sometimes people do it as an exercise of the tongue. You need to get your tongue and your heart and the same rhythm

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and the same wavelength. So he says if you're not doing it,

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you're not doing this. I have one of my friends in the UK, very normal person, Mashallah. But this person, as far as I know, has a key Alan has a bogus Alec. He loves the law so much very normal, ordinary Muslim, he knows very little about Islam, but he does so many good things for the sake of Allah. If you see him, sometimes you might not even think he's a Muslim. But this person does so much goodness in his life to people is just mind blowing. And one day I was spent like a day with him. And he says to me, you know, I was thinking, looking at these people when they do the care, like after somebody says,

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What if someone like he loves his wife? And let's say they just got engaged, and the earliest is engaged, or they just got married. And he always says to me, you know, I love Your love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love? How would you feel about this?

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What's this, like an exercise, verbal acrobats. But he says what if, and that's I'm trying even to capture his own tone, what he's saying. But listen to how when he tends to have in silence. So there's so much silence around because silence is important. It's part of what we say.

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Otherwise, what if there's no silence? There's no pauses what we say doesn't make sense. Right? It will be mumbo jumbo words put together. But the silence gives the accentuation it gives the meaning. So he says

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he says but if he tends to and he says, I love you.

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He says this is more powerful than 1000s and 1000s of Love, love, love, love, love, love, love love. Allah says most of us. Most of us a smile smile after

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the done.

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La la la la la la la la la la. Ido. That's not that's not the case at all. That's not the kid. So you do one reflect on it. Let you harden your tongue via the same rhythm. When you say Subhana Loftus, Allah Subhana Allah, think about the greatness of a lost partner that he's exalted. He's the free for all from all imperfections. He's the perfect in all sense. So behind on life that lets your heart sink into that feeling of great recognizing the greatness of Allah. Then you will realize when you stand up after Salah, having done some panel law 33 times Alhamdulillah 33 times

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You said hamdulillah you feel gratitude to Allah Thank you Allah for everything. Praise be to you for whatever you do and whatever you say.

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And Allahu Akbar, how great Allah is. If you really let your heart sink in each one of those when you say them, when you stand up after the prayer, after doing the vicar after the prayer, you will be surprised that you actually feel different about yourself.

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I think the problem is that we don't give ourselves enough opportunity to really indulge into these beauties that Allah Subhana Allah has given us. We don't indulge in this. And

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there's amazing stories from the early generations about doing dicker for the sake of a last panel Tada. It's really this is why many scholars said victo Bustan will everything he said it's the gardens for the ones who know Allah. There's nothing like this, I think lies peace and tranquility paradise for the heart. So this is an encouragement that we take from this inshallah, next time we will carry on with this means which is number five, the vicar of Allah subhanaw taala. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to make us from a Daiquiri and the ones who remember Allah in all our affairs, and who really benefit from it and make the call with our hearts alongside our tongues desert Camilla Hello.

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So last minute Mohammed Williams.