Your Family has a Right on You
Channel: Mohammed Faqih
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Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah salam wa sallam.
It was reported that a gal came out all day long complaining the complaining about the
attitude of his son. So this man goes to
the head of the state, complaining about the attitude of his son. And he was offended by the behavior of his son. So I brought the sun
and started blaming him and it started admonishing the sun, you know, how can you do to save your father and all of that? So the sun basically set your own model? Yeah. Mira Romain, oh, Chico. Okay, matter of the believers.
Let me ask you a question. That's the question. He said, Yes. Go ahead. He said, Does a child have some rights
upon the parent, the father. So I must say, indeed, for the child, the sunset, what are those rights?
those rights are to choose a good mother for her.
For the child, to give them a good name, inspiring, you know, good witness, and to, to teach, to educate that child, because some of the basic rights that a child has,
as as a parent is obligated. Well,
so the sunset Well, then,
and our case, or in my case, my father did not do the good weather for me, because my mother is
a woman that that was acquired, not from a good background, not from and not obviously, someone that shares the same belief with with the Father.
So that created a lot of conflicts. Number two, he gave me a very a terrible name, and the name was German. And basically German Arabic. Anyone knows. With your,
you know, with your
Yeah, it's, it's actually a bug. It's a name of a bug. You know, the bureau bug, right. But it's not any bug. It's not any Bureau, but it's a particular type of bug. And I don't have the scientific name for it, but that actually see on TV.
That that was
that, oh, that's what I was looking for. It helps to have someone
into every channel.
So that's the name that he gave, he gave.
And in addition to that, he that he said, and he did not teach me a single letter from the book.
He did not teach me anything.
At that point is almost turned to the Father. And he said,
he said, Listen, you have offended him before he offended you. You have already abandoned him, and you have already taken your child. So never don't come and complain, because you are just bearing the fruit of your own,
of your own work of your own doing.
The proper formatting will tell them
tells us that
a lot of how the data would ask each and every single one of us about the responsibility that was handed over to them.
Whether we take care of that responsibility, or whether we
don't take care of it, the proper
one was approached by Family Policy, along with EPA, DHA,
and EPA, that we're buddies, they were very close. So it's a lot of a lot goes to visit a dub dub.
And, and back then, his job was not get made obligated. So the man walked in and it was just sitting there the shovel. She's not really in, in in any you know, she's not taking care of herself. And so he looks at her and he says, that would interest I mean, shouldn't you be she said, Well, you know, your friends, your brother, I would have that as no interest whatsoever. Dunya or anything. He's always you know, busy with his data and his and fasting and other things. So I figured that there's no need for me to beautify myself and take care of my
son Matt immediately says that there was nothing wrong. There was some time
imbalance. So we go to
Africa the whole time. And because,
you know, he brings him a meal, put it with me. He says, What about you, says, I'm not eating today I'm fasting. He says, No, I'm not going to eat until you eat. And he forces them to break this path. So they end up eating. And then at night.
A Buddha basically prepares a spot for tonight asleep.
But he didn't have one for himself. And I guess it was a custom that is that when you have a gift that the the host, or the head of household basically spent the night together, you know, in case they need something, and you're sitting there, and you told him, told him not to lay down and sleep. So someone said, what about you to now I'm not going to be sleeping. He said, No, you'll go into sleep. And he forces them to sleep, if you have a dad plan was that
putting the message leave, and then going in standing up and praying during the famine. So someone says, No, you go to sleep, he thought he forces him to sleep. So they go to sleep.
after the first portion of the night, laughs
job was wanting to pray to the message or go back to sleep, not here. And he puts them to sleep, then the second portion of the night, you know, passes. And I don't want to get up and said that wasn't enough, you know, and says, Go back to sleep. And then the last portion of the night, the last third of the night, when we got up looking at the man, and now, now we'll play and then they got up the two plates, and then they went to play with a prophet sallallahu sallam. And that's when the man approached the prophet and told him about the story. So upon the story, the possible you can turn to your job and make the following statement, which is basically which is supposed to be a
principle or rule.
In Arabic, Allah kochalka we're in the battery gallery in the gallery to help
you learn how the right ovary upon you, your body has a right over you.
And your family has the right over you.
Give everyone their due, right. That was a statement made by the hospital Learning Center that fulfill your rights, your obligations towards excellence. And tonight, we want to talk about the rights of the of the family or at least not talk about that, because we won't be able to cover it in in 2025 minutes. You know, the length of the of the lecture. But the idea here is to point out that that the family has aligned
the importance of this right we decided to make Friday night basically a family unite. And again, the main objective is to import these products and to preserve the phonic identity. Right, bring everybody here and let's learn about Islam. Okay, why here is a message Why does your family have the right for you to bring them here to the masjid? Well, I attended a funeral.
A while back
when this righteous old man, grandfather basically located America on long time ago.
passed away. I don't have to be a very righteous individual. Someone was involved in someone who made highs and all of that very, very, you know, islamically oriented individual.
We buried him we lowered her much like that, you know,
several sons and all that, but one his his oldest grandchild.
Okay, in the name of Adam, Adam had a crush on him.
He had a coffee. And he's sitting there. First of all, he did not attend the colossal janazah
for his grandfather.
Why? Because he doesn't consider himself to be a Muslim he is.
So he didn't participate in philosophy. He did not take you out for his time. The only thing that he did is he was praying to Jesus right next in the Muslim cemetery. You know, looking at his grandfather's body, he would pray to Jesus to to bless his soul, whatever.
That you wouldn't imagine if you saw this grandfather, you would not imagine that grandfather's offspring would end up being
you know, someone who plays a law has taken a son in law has a wife and someone that you know, pays to marry and otherwise,
you know, the you won't believe that. When we have people you know, hot and the hundreds and
1000 people basically embracing Islam and becoming Muslim. On the other hand, we're losing some of our children. Why? Well, when Adam was asked that question, he said, because that's the only thing I know.
From my mother's side, my father didn't care. My father didn't take me to the masjid. He did not teach me that. That's what he said.
Obviously, naturally, I follow the path of my mother, my mother took me to church and all of that. And that's what I was exposed to. And that's what I was programmed in.
And he basically needed an incident.
Now, someone did not fulfill their obligation for that.
And now that could be the fate and the future of
most of our children, unless
we try to find a safe haven, and unless we bring them to the machine where they can learn.
Indeed, you can actually teach Islam to your kids at home, but it will be very difficult, very hard, especially if you have TV at home.
And the best place as it has been proven, you know, there are numerous examples of that, you know, we have people we have second and third generation, the best thing and you know, I know a story of one of the oldest societies in America,
they used to gamble. In the basement of that method. The people who basically established admission, used to gamble, and then is to pray, go upstairs and pray. Right. Now, the situation is totally different. Now, this place is one of the largest massages and their, their children are.
And people who memorize for an
oboe, when they started the menses, they had no idea whatsoever, you know about Islam, and they were committing major sin. But because they came to the masjid, and they made the message, basically, the vocal point and message basically, you know, once they're their center over, they used to come and get an initiative to commit harm.
Somehow, through the colossal amount of prayers through you know dour effort by individuals who came and started teaching them gradually, they were able to adopt Islam, the Quranic way, corrective behavior, and that had an impact on their children. And there are cases that I personally know, where the children ended up learning in the masjid much more than their parents. And then they came back, and they taught their parents. And this was the best thing that ever happened to the parent. And indeed, the best thing that could happen to someone is that if they give birth to someone that will end up guiding them,
that will end up you know, being the the best source of good deeds in their mind. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam tells us that when you die when a human being dying, that his actions will be seen, there will be no more income of goodies coming into your account. Except in the process that I mentioned, the three things that most of you are familiar with. And one of them was a wonderful quality and ruler, or a righteous turn that won't make you happy.
Make dua to Allah subhanaw taala, not to Jesus or Mary married, right? Someone that will make drama that allows in house advocacy. And there are lots of house addresses.
And as you can imagine that your child will learn that from the public school, they don't teach that in the public school, the only place where they may learn something like this would be in the budget. And that's why. And one of those local communities, very academic communities, they have a lot of activities on the weekend.
A Christian neighbor comes to them with her child with her children
are like my children, because non Muslim children can be part of your youth group, and to be part of your school, and they said that this is an Islamic Center and we teach Islam and she doesn't even know that
you are going to convert to I don't care, they converted most Muslims, they become Muslim or whatever they become out here. But she said, I know that you teach values and principles, that that will that is that demand from, you know, the followers of Islam to take care of their parents, when they grow when they when they're older. So she said I want them to grow, to be righteous and to be kind to me.
So if you can teach them those values that you know that when
they become mothers, they become whatever they become. I don't care to her. It was
The moral system that we have in Islam that she was so interested in, and she didn't care, she brought her children to the message.
as a parent,
let me ask you this question.
Who was, in your opinion, the best example? In terms of, you know,
when I say when you hear the word father, who is the figure or the name that comes to mind?
Common common law? Indeed. Okay.
When I say when I say, Okay,
now, let's think about profits. And let's think about four. And when I say the word, the Father, the Father,
what was the name that comes to mind?
is running indeed, Prophet Ibrahim is the father of prophets, right? And the Prophet Ibrahim was indeed, very bright son as well as a good father.
And one of those beautiful lectures one time that I that I heard from Jeff, and he was talking about the concern of the behemoth and maybe Shall we will talk about this some other time, but I'll go over some of those concerns that Prophet Ibrahim from Surah for those of you who are
reading what happened, follow,
Rahim the Torah that is named after him.
35 through 40 talks it talks about some prayers that positive Rahim made now prayers reflect the concern and the mindset of the individual making those prayers
so this is the prayer that bothers Rahim me.
With father in law, he want to be jarhead and Bella, the admin of a nuclear weapon, he
And whenever ham says,
Oh my Lord, make this land and his refrain referring to the sacred city of Mecca, make this land secure
and protect me and my son away from worshipping idols
protect me and my children from worshipping idols.
This is a concern of making Mecca secure lab.
And indeed, that prayer was, was accepted. And he was rather than that way, but along with that, he said was nobody was ready and now we're gonna snap to cure me as well.
Protect me helped me and my offspring from worshipping, help us avoid worshipping idols.
So this is a very important concern. And it was on the top of the list of his requests from a lot of channels and not worshipping idols.
Look at the mindset number two.
Then He further does have the
Milord they have meaning the idol.
They have misguided many of the people. He who follows me is a me while he who disobeys me. You are forgiving and most compassionate. So Prophet Ibrahim basically submits a lot of Caracalla very an observation that he made, he knows that I won't have ruined the relationship between him and father.
the worship of this business of idolatry basically, is what kept his father from accepting it. Right, he already knows what he knew what what idols that idolatry did to people and how. So this is someone who is very familiar with that type of fortress. He knows what it does to people he understand the danger of it.
And that's why he wanted to lock it out of as to protect him and his offspring from it.
We need to understand the danger of course,
so we can better protect ourselves and our offspring. And it's our responsibility towards our children to learn and understand what kind of dangers they have around them. And the most critical one is the danger when it comes to their spiritual well being.
Because of their fear, physically fit, right. They are plastic, and if they get straight A's, but their hearts are not pure. You have
Not done a thing, because they will end up losing that body. And that goes back to the loss of Hannah's data. And they will be redirected on the day of judgment and a loss of power without on that says on that day says,
Yo, man, I am so mad whenever known on a day, a day on which no wealth, or children will help you, or benefit you in any way or fashion in lemon law, they can be studied except he who come to a panel gala, not in a pool saving account, not with a 11 at a loss be fundamentally
not with a fit body, but except he comes a lot with a heart with a sound card with a clean, pure heart.
So we need to understand what are the things that could ruin the heart
as a spiritual well being of our of us, as well as your children, and after loss of Hannah to Anna, to protect us and then from it. So that was the first concern that he has. Now, this very concerned, by the way, is also reflected in another student in Surah, Baqarah, edited and put into the Instagram for the most part, it was partly how he brought him over here, Venezuela, whoa, Ibrahim as well as the APU learn for the grandfather Abraham had
demanded from their children, they will see as the one advice that they had for their children when they were dying, was what?
What are you going to worship after me?
Are you going to stick to the proper updated the proper belief and faith? Are you going to even understand that faith? So one of those rights that we have in our chapter? And that is the father obligation that by the age of 12? I believe no, by the A by the time that the child reaches the age of puberty, it is the father's obligation to teach the children the basis of their belief.
So mandrup, who is your Lord? Who is your prophet? What is your religion? You know, what is the book that you follow? The basic Pillars of Islam, the basic pillars of a man is
the basic articles of faith, we are to teach this to our children by the time they reach the age of puberty, because why the age of puberty, because once they hit that age, they're going to be responsible for their actions.
They will have to make a choice. You know, I remember one time we had a bonfire, and we had a bunch of people sitting and I asked them, I said, How many of you chose to be with them?
And how many of you were forced
to be with them or kind of just accepted or we're programmed or inherited Islam. And I said, let's just be honest. And I started with myself, I said, maybe initially I didn't understand was able to work. But I'm having a lot of adversity with parents and grandparents. That sense as well, as far as I can remember the very first questions that we have to answer with Marvel books, Medina, manorbier.
These concepts were drilled in our pocket, when Islam your choice
for the region, the majority of them were very honest. And they said, Nope, some of them said, Well, I don't even know the answer. Because I said in Islam, what is not your choice? Can you afford not to have?
Can you continue to just practice this man and go through life, without really having said to be a choice that you made, you know, consciously a choice A viewer can afford to do that it won't be accepted.
You can't just be programmed and just go on unless you are really serious, and you understand what it's all about, and you have the awareness of what you're doing, it won't really matter anymore. So you know, and they're worth you said, You know what, it wasn't my choice. But now we have the lab because of the machine because of the activities and programs that we had to go to the educational program that we had 100 and that at one point, it was not my choice, certain practices, a lot of practices were not my choice, but now they are my children. And that's why you find some of our youth who are family oriented, they're, they're much stronger, they're both they stand up for the
truth, they don't care. Why, because it was their choice, and they learned that from the machine.
Nonetheless, this has to be a concern of the parents and those who are in charge in charge of the educational program.
And then not to neglect and I shall I conclude with this. There are many other concerns that he had there about six or seven concerns that he had
the Prophet Rahim only care about this bringing his children to the messiness and
that one in life is very important. Look at what Prophet Ibrahim says, because in the drop
in me occurred to me
or I have settled some of my offspring and he was talking about
Smell has done and, you know, along with his mother Hagar BYD molarity reserved
in a barren Valley and debated and debated como heroine near your sacred house.
Open it up masala
enniscorthy Oh, my word is for the purpose of establish prayer.
So first Academy image, second Academy, Islam, establishing the club, open it up with Allah. And then he understands that you can establish prayer on your own. You can't live in a vacuum, you have to have social support. And that's what you know, gathering and coming and making it part of the activities that we have social activity is to create that invite that Gemma, Gemma or environment upon him,
per se doesn't mean that he can really
open it up.
So that they would establish prayers, such as edit them in a nasty way and
make the hearts of people inclined towards them, or send them to people, create a community around them, that will care that will protect them, take care of them and help them grow. It is very important that we give our children that sense of belonging to a community
to a society. And where can we do this except here? When we come together as a community, one common complaint
that our children have, I have 21 that is a nice and from one side.
You know, one common complaint that they have is they don't have a coaching.
There isn't really a culture that they can
say no, no, no. What are you talking about?
much of my blog today as the culture, some might say, Oh, no, my children are, you know, understand that they're dating and they will.
And some people might say no, no, no, no, we're African.
Well, believe it or not, we're living in a melting pot. And especially here in California more than any other place, right? It's very,
most of our children do really, really associate themselves with one culture and they they're not. And if they do, they're not 100% you know, proud or sure they really belong to that. I tell you about myself I was born in East Africa is a little bit started Arabia ended up coming to America, my family's originally from nowhere. And you know, I was confused as anyone can be. And then at the end, I find myself claiming that I'm a US citizen, and I am a US citizen.
You know, what culture do I belong to?
We need to create this culture of
what better than Islam to be the culture that we all embrace.
This all come together on the basis of Islam. Our culture is Islam. When we celebrate, we celebrate Now, when we tell it to celebrate holidays, we celebrate the father's holidays and an Islamic fashion.
So our kids know exactly what what what happened. They know many people, for example, and we'll talk about this some other time. Many of our kids don't know what to do on eighth.
They don't know what goes I mean, every year is something different.
You know, the athlete comes in, and now we're maintaining a salon. We can but what goes after a salon, Is there like a culture, is there something that they they're supposed to be looking forward to.
We also community, I tell you here in America, except with very few communities with very few selected communities. We haven't been able to really establish a pattern, we haven't been able to establish a schedule. I mean, we should be able to produce something like that we should be able to tell our children Yeah, you know what, what we're gonna do for ages here, you know, just by, you know, preparing that before we wake up our pajamas, then we mix it up a lot. You know, we all get excited about it. No, you know, we all take off from work. You know, I have a doctor that one time told me last year, president of one of the private sector, he said his son, born and raised here in
you know, call them and he said, he said, Well, I'm on call I'm working today. It was data three, he said that. We need to let them know that we're proud of our holiday. You should have taken the day off.
It's late, it's already they don't work in concreteness. They don't work during Hanukkah or or, you know, they were talking here in Orange County about postponing the election because of what it was versus China. The Jewish holidays. They don't do that. I mean, we should let them know that we already care about our holidays and that we we consider them to be sacred days and we this is a fun thing. Telling the fun.
So, you know, these are some of the basic basically, some of the basic rights that our children have. And I think there's, this is a very important subject that we need to discuss further, but
I just wanted to kind of
bring it to our attention. And maybe, maybe this could be the topic of discussion
during the week, or when we socialize, inshallah with each other, how can we better improve our relationship with our kids, and also how we can support them grow as Muslims?
I have a couple of announcements to make.
Oh, you're gonna pass this up?
Okay, inshallah we have and help us spread the word around.
We are we have a workshop titled, the purity of growth, and the growth of purity. And this is basically a workshop on the tip of the cap, the tip of the cap, anyone here know how much?
What is the?
What is the base?
amount of money?
For the cat?
What is the amount of money that if you will have for over a year, you must pay the capital? Anyone knows?
No, no. 2.5 is what you pay. That's the karma. But
like, what is it? $1,000? If you have 1000 12,400 10,000?
Then there's a word.
Okay, so it's based on the gold value, right? Okay, we'll talk about this in the workshop. But based on the gold value, anyone knows what the gold value is nowadays?
You see, we need to be with it, we need to be aware of it. I mean,
it's very hard for me to imagine that that we don't have anyone here who did not maintain for a year, the amount that you must pay the capital.
Okay, last I checked a couple of weeks ago, it was around 17 $100.06 Yes, $1,706.
Once at $1,706, to be on the tech side, I tell people $101,650 if you have $1,650 or more for a year, then you must, you must take 2.5% out of that. And given that you must. Now if you don't do that, then you're committing a major sin you're violating if you guys have trouble, I tell you that. And also
that amount that you keep within your wealth that doesn't belong to you will end up ruining your wealth. It's like I say I call it it's like a cancer cell, you must remove it,
you remove it, your wealth gets purified, you keep it it will ruin your well. This is how critical it is, in addition to what a lot of how does the other has, has, you know, so this is how critical and important the cat is. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't pay attention to the importance of the cat. So we need to spread the word around and encourage people to show up to attend this workshop. Again, this is just part of the series of the workshops that we started. This will be number three and schellenger more workshops to count a very important topic, but show us in this workshop, we're talking about the significance and the purpose of the craft as well as how to
calculate your good Captain math and who the recipients are, and how we can take care of this. This event will be sponsored by Islamic Relief, who will also give a presentation because credibility is one of those organizations that will that makes it easy for you and I
to take care of the company. And they take care of the part that has to do with basically delivering it to the appropriate recipient
that we'll look at, do we take questions or no?
No more questions that this does not want to have