Mohammad Qutub – Tafsir Juz 28 #25 – Al-Talaq 1

Mohammad Qutub
AI: Summary © The segment discusses the history and meaning of the title of the book "Ok," which appears to be a depiction of the Prophet Muhammad's personality. The title is not a complete depiction of the Prophet's personality, but rather a depiction of the personality of the Prophet. The speakers emphasize the importance of waiting for a period to become a pure woman before divorce, and the need for strong evidence and arguments in political processes. The speakers also discuss the importance of not giving up on love and not giving up on relationships, and the potential outcomes of different actions in the process. The segment also touches on the topic of divorce and the importance of being smart parents and not giving up on love.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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Wa salatu. Was to sleep on so you didn't so you went to the mine? Maybe you know Imam you know have you been a teenager Fionna Muhammad, Allah Allah He was very moment that we are only certain in the Subhana Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah

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not be slightly somebody who is silly I believe that and Melissa and you have only went out and suddenly when she killed Corinne of taxa mana was called

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than July economic. I mean, we praise a lot of meridians and prayers and blessings upon the final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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We ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us knowledge and to benefit us from that knowledge and to help us in applying that knowledge and to give us knowledge that will be an argument for us and not against us on the Day of Judgment. We ask Allah azza wa jal to give us an understanding of the Quran and to open our hearts and our brains and our ears to the Noble Quran and help us to apply it in our life insha Allah and also make it an intercessor for us and not against us on the Day of Judgment.

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Brothers and sisters we continue with the scene and

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we will begin Shala today with Swartz Pollock

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sort of Pollock

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you will find that

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the main issue that it talks about is precisely what is in the title and that is the issue of divorce. But that doesn't mean that the fact of Pollock is all included in this.

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It is also where else do you find some of the fuckup Pollock in the Quran?

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Sultan is

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not really nice.

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You find things you find facts of

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marriage and a little bit of talaga Yes, but mainly know

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what are we talking about what sewer

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system because full

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of fact of Pollock. And this is why

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even miss Oh, Allah Allah used to call

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this Surah Surah An Nisa or surah

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so it's a Pollock, there's a little bit of luck and miss out but more in Al Baqarah.

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However, you will find that some of the

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main issues of Allah and Allah is very well detailed in the Surah and especially on some things where

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there may be missing or maybe there was a regulation and then it was abrogated by another

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notice that

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the chapter begins by addressing whom

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Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam the Prophet Muhammad Salah Salem divorce

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at all

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give you a hint there's a difference between full divorce and partial divorce.

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Partially right

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but this is before anything right before me this is because even before the court there's no there's no right

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yeah, he the worst month

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and then Satana Gibreel Ali Salam told him

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to take her back.

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Who is

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this mother and the building was probably Alana.

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This is a good question.

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Good question. Next week and

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he divorced her once. And then geogrid rallies around came and told her told him to take her back she is your wife in paradise

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and this hadith Allah Allah is authentic

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you either

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know that he know

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what Capilla

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la talk radio

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at him

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what you can do,

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whether you do the law

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or profit when you

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I think we all have the same translation then you see parentheses Muslims, when you Muslims divorce women, divorce them for the commencement of the waiting period and keep count of the waiting period and fear Allah your Lord, do not turn them out of their husbands houses nor should they themselves leave during that period unless they are committing a clear and morality and those are the limits set by Allah and whoever transgresses the limits of Allah has certainly wronged himself, you know not Perhaps Allah will bring about bring about after that a different manner

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as the scholars have seen, say, the Quran is addressing Prophet Muhammad sallahu wa salam. However, the

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though he is the one that is addressed, the one that it is referring to is the whole ummah. And this is to honor Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, because he, after Allah subhanaw taala is the reason for us being guided.

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He and then his companions, that Allah be pleased with them all, who did everything and gave their life for this religion. And for this reason, after the protection of Allah, we have this religion as clear and pure as we have it today. Otherwise, it would have been like the other religions that were corrupted and adulterated because it was not number one, it wasn't protected by almost Montana. And because the people didn't take care of it and they changed and they added and they subtracted and so on.

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So this is to honor Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. He is the one who is being addressed because he's the leader of the Ummah

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and he is the witness upon the OMA on the Day of Judgment. For K for either gentlemen, on Monday, Shaheed Virgina Vika Allahu Allah Shahida

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he is the one who will be brought to witness

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against us on the Day of Judgment or for us, but he is the witness sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he is the leader of the Ummah and therefore it is referred to him the commander's to him and he is the one who has the responsibility of passing that message on to us and this is why a lot surgeon says yeah, you assume that

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we're in lamb khalfan. Another Love Teresa

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is telling Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him pass transmit that which you were or that which was sent down to you from your Lord and of course Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam did that can the best possible way and give his life to this message and to transmitting this message as pure as is transmitted

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Yeah, you hadn't either collectible nice

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so now that's why they say when you Muslims, okay because ultimately

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we are the ones who are also being addressed by this and the meaning applies to us. When you Muslims divorce women divorce them for the commencement of their waiting period, this is where English stops the utility of English stops here, okay, because they can only translate it with several words, which can only give you maybe one meaning but the Arabic can take so many forms and this is the beauty and the secret behind the protection of the language and keeping the Arabic language otherwise could not be understood. What does it mean political gonna leave that to him?

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The people who know Arabic will wonder why the letter the Love is coming here. It's not fee okay in or something else but in the Quran that that usually Li is for and this is why they say for the commencement

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it's almost like you're saying when you do something for someone you say Lee for land, right. But Nicola

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Is there a

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similar usage in the Quran? Yes, this and this is an excellent

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Intel requested also

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for similar meaning. And the Yanni the scholars of linguistics say that this is coming when he is when the meaning that he is trying to tell you about is a certain time he's saying, I'm gonna divorce them

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in a certain period later in the day

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the meaning of this word

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is well explained by an authentic hadith

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we know that savior, Abdullah and Omar, lovely Allah, Allah, Allah divorced his wife once.

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But when did he divorce? He divorced her in her period.

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And this is forbidden.

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He divorced her in her period.

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And then say now,

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when he came to notice he went to Parliament, he informed him and Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, told him, commanded him. Let him take her back. Whoa, Sally Raja, he commanded him. And this is why many scholars said it is why Jim, if someone did this, he must take her back.

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More hopefully, Raja, let them take her back. Let him wait until

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she is pure. She finishes the menses period. And then she has her period again. And then she becomes pure. And then if he wants to divorce, let him divorce. Otherwise, let him keep her.

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Now, this is one narration.

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There's another narration that doesn't give the one extra cycle. He said, When her period finishes,

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and she becomes pure, then let him either divorce or or keeper. But in the previous one, there was one more cycle, right? Take her back become pure, have her period again become pure.

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Okay. And this is why also scholars different on this issue. If someone were to do that, which is to divorce. If a man were to divorce his wife during a period must to take her back and wait for another cycle. Or it's enough to just wait until she becomes pure and then you can divorce her if you wanted to or to keep her.

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Interestingly, at the end of the Hadith, Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said This is

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Phil Cal. Naughty Mr. Allah and you can land Mr. Pollak law learn that this is the which Allah azza wa jal commanded that

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Muslims are the women being divorced, the way that women should be divorced

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that divorce should not happen in the in the period, sorry, in the height and the menses, right. This is forbidden.

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The two different narrations

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Muhammad Allah made an interesting comment on the previous Hadith with the extra cycle. He said, The reason that is,

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is so that

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it becomes clear to Muslims, that the reason behind taking her back in this hadith is not so that he can divorce her again.

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It is to continue the relationship. Let him continue with let him attempt to continue the relationship. So it's not just take her back, let her become pure and divorce her again. Let her become pure. Let her let him wait until she gets her period again and so on is he is prolonging that period so that maybe the relationship can be saved. And this is the wisdom behind the way that Allah azza wa jal has commanded divorce and the lack of divorce in the first place. Because one may ask, and we all know that divorce is a reality, there's a needed reality. Otherwise, life would be very difficult and you can ask people now who do not believe in divorce, right, whose religion doesn't

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allow them to divorce? But Subhanallah Islam is a practical religion

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as and there's no other religion that sanctifies the institution of marriage as much as Islam. But despite that, Allah azza wa jal made a way out. And sometimes, in some cases, God forbid

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It becomes unbearable for the husband and the wife. And actually there's a mercy upon them that they be able to separate. This isn't reality, let's not live in the clouds. Right? No one wants to preserve this relationship more. But it's a reality, people much better than you and me got divorced.

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Such as who

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they didn't hide out of the law. And then I've been judge on mill many mothers who didn't get along. Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam then married.

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But it's a reality.

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But it is a reality. It is an important reality.

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Because the worst thing is that this relationship be severed. And this is precisely what Michelle Hahn wants. And this is why, as in Surah, Baqarah, what do they share things say?

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right, exactly. This magic that they used to do.

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Harder read was the best thing. And even in the hadith of sahih, Muslim, when the Chopin collects all of his followers, he is looking for the most potent devil and to him the most potent devil, and the best of them is the one who's able to separate between a man and his wife.

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So therefore, don't divorce is a reality. And Allah azza wa jal has clearly delineated the fix of divorce, you find in the face of divorce, that it should be a last resort. And even when it does happen, it should be something gradual, and it should take time and people should think and they should not be angry, and so on. It calls on the man and the wife to be pragmatic, and not to rush and be in haste.

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This is only

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what Kareem was saying about

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that idea, the why there's an additional cycle on that. And either way, we said the scholars different about that for Conley Hoonah. So,

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this is where we focus on

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classifying divorce as of three types, one, which is divorce, which is Sunnah, one, which is bitter, and one which is neither.

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So number

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balaka, Sunni, assuming it is to divorce, once wife God forbid.

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In the time when she is pure, and not only that, in the time of purity, when they did not practice any physical relations

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clear, without practicing any physical relations. Why? What is the wisdom behind that?

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Exactly, maybe we shouldn't become pregnant. Right? And maybe at that point, maybe he'll change his mind.

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Right? Maybe she will change her mind. If she had accepted divorce before, maybe she doesn't want to anymore and so on. And he might change his mind also. So

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it must be at a time of purity, and where there were no physical relations between them. Okay. And specifically, we're talking about

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*, right. There should not have been this is Palak. Suna.

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The other one, to divorce her while she is pregnant. This is no problem when the pregnancy is clear. Okay, well, I can be the opposite. to divorce her at the time of purity after they had physical relations, then, who knows she might be pregnant, as opposed to if they had not had physical relations. The other one, which is taller, they are also the one that we just mentioned, without the love and

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during the time of hype. And the wisdom behind that Allah Allah

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is that

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the man divorces his wife in the time of her period, that remaining time is not included in

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it and it is boring

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for the woman, it is something that makes it difficult for the woman.

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So the men were ordered not to divorce at that time. And this is the meaning of Allah who funnily

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enough, this is why they say for the commencement of, in other words, at

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A time where after you divorce, the understands that period of wedding starts but if he divorces her in her period, that remaining time is not included as part of her and

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but it makes it difficult for the woman prolongs her waiting period for political Munna.

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Some scholars said was stuck below.

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The TN means was stuck villa for the commencement or the beginning of the end. And there is a nother recitation. I'll be it. It is not what Awatea it is not one of the 10 No one recitations in the Quran. It is actually para Chanda. Okay, where Abdullah and Allah

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Allah Han said that the recitation is photonic una fi only a

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free open ended to Him meaning also making clear that the meaning behind this is for the commencement of that waiting period. But as we said this and share it is something which is

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not accepted as one of the accepted recitations of the Noble Quran

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only because it was narrated by one, okay, doesn't mean necessarily that it's not correct, but we don't recite it. We don't use that recitation, it was only narrated by

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one or two people

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for toliko Honda and

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there's a lot about this and this is why we are concentrating on it, you will see it's very rich for polyclonal entity and so we send the dark lastly, one which is needed. So notice that because there is no waiting period, and that is

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a woman who has not reached her period, okay, what is

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the her waiting period after divorce three months, as opposed to the three cycles of menses is just three months, right? Because she hasn't reached her period yet. Okay, she's young. The other one women reaching menopause, they also don't have the period what is their waiting period in case of divorce remarks also lastly, if there was no physical relations, there was no * a person just got married and there was no relationship and immediately they got divorced again, there was also known but this is not sooner or later, okay, is this clear?

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How can we gonna look at him

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as we are talking about Kolak Sana and Pollock Buddha

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scholar is different about this issue of Pollock Buddha as what underlying phenomenon Nadella on debt,

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they are in consensus, that it is forbidden to divorce in such a fashion during the period or during the time of purity. But after physical relations is Pollock that this is haram and whoever does this has incurred sin.

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But the issues are very

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they're critical and they are they might be you have to look at you have to scrutinize it and we can

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find it is hard. But what if someone does it?

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Is the divorce

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valid or not?

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critical question. Scholars different about this a lot. A lot.

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And each one will give you evidence. And each time you read the other piece of evidence, you see it there. Right? And then they answer and then you see if you know they're right. There's a lot of difference and the only reason that can be so many differences is because each group has strong evidence. Okay. And strong arguments.

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The majority of scholars said Yes, Paula can be is valid.

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In other words, it is real once he does it, even if it is in hype it is that is counted as one

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and they will refer to a hadith

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and then the other group will respond and say no, but the person who said it is not Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him it is the narrator and we cannot accept that and so on. And they will keep responding to each other for now our differences between the scholars will lower but this is the only for them to decide and for specific cases. Where

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are we? The judge may judge one way or the other is Paula can be valid. This is what the different point

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Some of these, and even Taymiyah and his students,

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and others said no political does not apply.

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And their argument was, how can it apply when it is how I'm the first place, it is not what Allah subhanaw taala had commanded, and so on.

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And it goes back and forth. And we don't want to

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be here until tomorrow.

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There's another this is one of the types of collateral data which we just mentioned, there is another,

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there is another, and that is to divorce all at once

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or three at one time, and it is also a famous issue. And this also

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they differ upon, and many of the scholars and the majority of them said it does apply. But again, some of these 11 Tamia and others said in does not apply. And this is Allahu Allah,

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what is largely followed now, which is the three apply only as one,

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all three, just in one gathering, they only apply as one. And in the time mentioned, as part of his argument, that when you see

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for fall

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when Allah subhanaw taala, is commanded, and he is saying that you should divorce women for the commencement of their period.

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If you do it all at once,

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then you are not commencing the period, right? Because the period is over. Period, what is the wisdom behind a waiting period, a time where you can go back on your decision to divorce, this is the whole wisdom behind it in the first place. So if you do it all at once, and it applies, you don't have a waiting period, that waiting period choose one, you don't have a chance to take her back.

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And you notice in the next area, and when they have nearly fulfilled their term, either retain them.

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Either retain them according to acceptable terms or part with them.

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So in other words, we haven't gotten to the stage where it is over, he's still telling you, you still have a chance to take them back. This is because this is the follow up which allows or isn't ordered, which is once and then having a wedding period. And then you either take her back or you leave her right. If you take her back, she's yours, but you lost one chance.

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Or if you leave her

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until the period is over.

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She is no longer your wife, right? Can you still marry her? You can, but

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with a new act, right, a new contract a new marriage, but you still have a chance. And you spell you look at the the wisdom. When you see the way that Allah azza wa jal has commanded the verse, you'll see all the wisdom in it. Number one, he made it as a last resort even to say unto God, right? If they disobey if they do and so on, well let in half.

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The first stage advice. What do you do wonderful Maha jail. If they don't respond to that, then abandon them, especially in the sleeping place and so on.

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And scholars defer to they leave the bedroom, or should he stay in the bedroom, but give her back and so on what many scholars said

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this is a second stage. Third stage what believable one, right, not with the whip. With the miss work with something small. It's just a disciplinary action. It's just the transition from speech to using the hand for discipline. This is a third state. All of this doesn't work. And you keep trying and trying. You can divorce but there was once until

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then you have a waiting period, wait and see and think and weigh the opposite and do the pros and cons chart and do all of that. Wait, relax. You still have a chance then you say you know what? No, I want to keep her you take her back.

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Because the issue is easy. Otherwise, you for some reason you are stubborn. You look the whole time go.

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You can still

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count the chances you have so you can still learn. But because of what you did. You have to start a new contract.

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Okay, no, you took her back. Things are still not good. You still have another you say it again until you have another waiting period. Wait, wait and think and so then you have one more chance. One more chance. You say it

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then she's gone.

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but not forever, not necessarily at least,

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you learn, and you give her the third one. And

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later on, after the wedding period is over and everything and she got married, you still want her Subhanallah you have three chances, and you should have thought about all of this way before.

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Now you have to wait. She is with her husband, either her new husband dies or divorces her, then you can marry her.

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Then you can marry her again, this is the wisdom. So the idea is, if Allah azza wa jal has made the once in this way, can it be that you can just say three all at once, and she's no longer wife SubhanAllah. But this is some of the arguments of Tamia and others. The other group has strong evidence also. But I don't want to I mean, otherwise, we have to get put it on a chalkboard and put it one by one, what each argument is and so on.

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So they differ about whether Paula can read that is valid, they all say it is how

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does it apply or not? And you can see the importance of this, because definitely, some people will fall into this and then they wonder, maybe it's not the first time maybe it's their second. And now he's wondering if I say the third time is it the third really? Or is it the second because when I did the second it was a lot with

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serious question right?

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For Conley, Cohoon.

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And keep count of the waiting period meaning

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fear Allah is counting the period and calculating it.

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Don't make it something of play. Yeah, maybe it was that time. I don't quite remember the date and so on. No, this is serious stuff.

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And also,

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even the first time you say it, when you see the way

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Jonnie Pollock has to be done, which is Malacca, sunnah. Even then you have a waiting period. Let's say today, for some reason. Finally,

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you got the straw that broke the camel's back and you want to divorce her.

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She's in her period, I can divorce her. You already have a waiting period before you even send the first one. You have to wait so that your Paula can be that which is permissible and pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala. So even before you do anything, you might have a waiting period. It's all about Wait, hold on. Don't be in haste. being hasty is from a shape on

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But technically, the one who is responsible for it is the woman of Allah.

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There's no counting or anything

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whatsoever. In other words, count it and keep count of the waiting period.

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By the way, by the way,

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don't just look at our time. Yes, in our time there ignorant people saying it all three at once. At the time of ama it was the same. The hadith the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him it says ibis, where he said that the three counted as one

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at the time of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon and at the time of Abu Bakr, and in the beginning of the Khilafah Obama,

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but then Ramadan, noticed that people were taking advantage of that. So they were doing the three many times even though it was because they said it only counted once one man had come. And because of how angry he was, he divorced her 1000 times.

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You know what the Sahaba replied, The first three apply and the 997 that are left are all isn't on your back on the Day of Judgment is our sins upon the other day of judgment for taking the verses about Allah in place

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it's a serious when you say this word it's not something to play with. As a hadith the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon them. Right?

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Even joking about it is serious, serious word. And when you think about it, that this one word

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is what may separate between you and after so much, maybe so many years, maybe decades being with this wife having children and so it's serious people nowadays, every now and then,

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and to pilot or have laughed about

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Pollock and other ignorant expressions like this. Always swearing that he'll divorce his wife even to his friend. If you don't do this I'll divorce I swear I'm divorced my wife

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strange the way people are. Yeah, honey, taking the the issues that Allah azza wa jal has commanded us with in play.

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Well, taken seriously counted and calculated. Yes.

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One man,

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one time. Yeah. And then they again, come back. So this will be

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the next time.

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Again, again,

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one time

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they come back, they come before the wedding is over.

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You get mixed in

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there if you want to become

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The second one counting the first one he had already said, oh will be a fresh first.

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No, if there's a fresh first one, then you can then it'll keep going like this to infinity that will never finish.

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Like you can't marry me. You can see only three days. Online. I will live. How as you said, Auntie pilot, this is the first you have three chances. Did

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you come back? Haha citizen has counted it is? Of course. Of course. It's not only that some folks have sent in the case that you love her goat.

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You had divorced her once. Right? And then afterwards, you brought her back? You lost one chance, right? Then you let her go on the second one. And she married another man, let's say or you you had a new contract?

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If you come back, the other one is still there. It still applies. According to some fucka there is some difference about not? Not necessarily No, be careful. You have three

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years to take it seriously. You say of course her life three, only one more do you want? I mean, you have so much time to say that. That one only. And you have to wait for the right time you have to wait for her time to be pure and don't touch her. You touched her, then you should not be divorced, you have to wait to the next cycle. If you wait for that time, then you said you are divorced, then you have a long waiting period. Wait and see you I mean, technically it's more than enough.

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It's one of these three times but these three times of course for the whole life. It's not something to play with you either once heard, or you don't. Prophet Muhammad wa sallam said, No, you mean in what mean? I'm getting I mean

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a believing man should not divorce or let go of a believing woman. If he hates some of her manners or actions. He loves others. Is there a perfect women? No. Is there a perfect man? No. So there are things you don't like, that's fine. There are things in you she doesn't like also. But as long as the good is more than the bad, then overlook that which is bad, right? overlook that which is bad and look at what is good. This is the advice of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon it. And believe me, this is a golden rule.

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This rule, this is gold for for all married couples in the world, whether Muslim or non Muslim. I told you one time I saw a television program while I was in the States,

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non Muslims are speaking about how they have been married for so long. They are happy and their marriage is successful. And the program was special because these were people not only maybe of different nationalities but of different colors.

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A black man marrying a white woman and vice versa and so on, which is no problem technically. But we know nowadays with ignorance, Danny how the slightest things or the slight differences can cause problems. So the question was how have you lived with each other for the last 30 years? And their answer was the advice of Prophet Muhammad Salah was not they didn't know this advice. They hadn't heard it. But a concept they thought was new. They didn't know Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him mentioned that 1400 years ago, and that is what they said.

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The way we succeeded is by knowing that my mate or my husband or wife was not perfect and they have faults, but I am ready to overlook those faults because that which is good is much more. It's the same exact advice

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never again, after that, if they divorce, then there is a waiting period.

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But she must wait you can no longer take her back until she marries another man, not for the purpose of coming back. That is also forbidden right? Meaning that if another man marries her to regular marriage and then he dies or he divorces her Nan only she's permissible to go back to the previous

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setup was haram. This is logic Danielle, Prophet Muhammad peace be upon himself this is forbidden. And the ones who do this are banned.

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Usually, exactly, and then you still want to, but even then, the opportunity is still there. But then as part of the the the punishment for you being in haste, but still wanting her, she has to marry another man that now might divorce her

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might die might not, you might not before

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this is you shouldn't make dua against them either.

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Some people are available like Subhanallah, this is

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very serious. This is a very serious sin. And the people who do this incur the curse of Allah subhanaw taala. This, this type of marriage.

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Wow. So let the what type of Allah See, always the Quran is not just giving you the Dreiling 1234567 know, the relationship with Allah Szenario. Lord, fear, Lord, that these issues, so many people nowadays fear their Lord, in prayer, in their a badass in their worship. But when it comes to wildlife, that there is no fear of Allah. When it comes to dealings, there's little fear for loss, honesty, not cheating, being good to one's wife, or husband or children and so on.

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What duckula has become, and it is also

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be this sphere, your Lord saying And fear Allah your Lord, it is a introduction to another

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issue of importance and which is also a sin.

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Let me just

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law to rejuvenate them in blue to him when I

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do not turn them out of their husbands houses nor should they themselves leave during that period. A woman is not allowed to leave her husband's house, when she is in the in the waiting period, it is forbidden for her to leave her house or for the husband to throw her out of the house. It's clearly for men, it is not and

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and the family of the wife should be understanding and fear Allah and should not let their arrogance take control of them and say, he divorced her, then I will take her out of his house, you are not allowed to take your daughter out of her husband's house if he divorced her, this is a sin. And this is taking the verses of Allah subhanaw taala in place. Does that mean she cannot leave the house at all? No, she can leave the house for a necessity

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and preferably during the day.

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And this is an issue of some debate between scholars whether she can go out when and so on. But in general, she is allowed to go out for a necessity, as in a clear Hadith of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him were instructed women to do so. But it is better during the day and only for necessity, but she should not leave the husband should not expel her. And surely someone outside of the couple should not come and interfere. And this is a great sin and a great ignorance that is committed nowadays.

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And it is not practiced. And this is one of the reasons where whereby you have largely

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The wisdom behind the horse being in this way you took her out of the house. How do you expect that there will be some reconciliation, but when she's in the house

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and you are forced to spend on her

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you are forced to spend on her

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during that time and to feed her it means there will still be some communication.

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She might ask for something clothes or food or something else and you have to bring it there's still a chance there might be some communication. Just do you know and she's in the house.

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You start to think

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maybe I should take her back. Why did I do that? It's not such a big issue after your anger subsides Of course, and her feelings also

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relax or calm down and

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and vice versa.

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So you start to think about when she's outside of the house. She just keeps playing with you. When you see her. Maybe just seeing her.

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You think to yourself, no, I want to take her back.

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Right? This is a great ignorance, beware. And I, I want the fathers, especially the mothers who have children in that situation, you're not allowed to take her out of the house.

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God forbid, unless it is something which is really, really bad, where the man is absolutely ignorant or crazy. And he beats her or he abuses her or something else. But other than that, no, that's not allowed, as the idea clearly says that. I'm building what I honed in.

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Except that they come or they bring about a clear immorality. What is that clear on a morality, most of the scholars and the self said, Xena, as she commits adultery, then this is what allows you to expel her from the house

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to learn.

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Some others, such as a mass and Creme de la hum and others, they also added to that other immoralities such as

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her speaking, or abusing

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with her mouth or the way she speaks to her in laws, and insulting them and saying things like that, okay, so they also

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included some of the other big sins such as this, or she's trying or she's abusing or in laws in some way, or her husband or something else in such a way that she's trying to make it impossible for there to be any conciliation that that is also included in inlandia tuna with Shatin will the unite in that case there is allowed to expand and I'll finish the iron brothers who is

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what to do the law. And those are the limits set by Allah How dare we approach the limits of Allah subhanaw taala and even transgress the limits of Allah azza wa jal stay away from the limits of Allah subhanaw taala he placed those limits for our own good. Otherwise, if you go beyond that limit, you're gonna fall from the Clif brothers and sisters, Allah azza wa jal is more knowledgeable about us and what is good for us. When our own selves, he has placed those limits, and He is the One who created us in the first place, and knows what is good and what may be harmful. therefore avoid the limits of Allah subhanaw taala what to do to Allah.

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Again, you notice the

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Quran has life, even when it is talking about filled

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with these injunctions to fear Allah subhanaw taala. And to not go beyond the limits of Allah subhanaw taala ask the people who were about to go beyond those limits, and maybe they will tell you but when I read the law, woman

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it's serious, it scared me Subhanallah This is precisely the wisdom behind the fifth, being intermingled with al Qaeda, with fearing Allah subhanaw taala with avoiding the limits of Allah subhanaw taala with talk of an accurate, being held accountable, you will stand before Allah, and so on. Otherwise,

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when you just have someone telling you, this is the thick of Pollock, okay, I'm allowed to do this. I'm not allowed to do that. But when you read the Quran and you see it in this way, and you imagine Allah is telling you this, it places fear in your heart within Allah. Woman You will love a cup run and I said whoever transgresses the limits of Allah and certainly wronged himself. Now

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you know, not Perhaps Allah will bring about after that a different matter. This footnote is confusing.

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That you have I'll explain it to you.

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What is the meaning of Latin really and Allah?

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this one

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is referring to the statement about luck taking them out of their houses.

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So Allah azza wa jal is giving you the reason and the wisdom behind not expelling the divorced woman from her house. Why? You know not perhaps Allah bring about after that a different matter when she's in the house and she's in front of you. Perhaps Allah will bring about a different manner, which is what a Raja returning her. This is what most scholars interpreted this as this different matter.

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Seeing her love in your heart or your desire to take her back again.

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And this is the wisdom behind keeping her in the house. But if you don't, then the possibility of this decreases

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what can you conclude from this

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what can you conclude from?

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No. What can you conclude from this statement letter drita Allah Allah

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and its relationship with taking them out of the houses, can you conclude something from a fixed standpoint?

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This is where the maybe wisdom, another wisdom for not expelling her from the house, but I'm saying before kaha

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did do some very let's call it

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maybe not so obvious.

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these two statements

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that you should not expel them from their houses. Maybe Allah will bring about a different letter after that.

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Not expelling by the way not expelling is referring also to your obligation of spending on her as long as she is inside your house you must spend on her and other clothes on her food and her necessities.

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Shalom Shalom.

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Before kaha deduce

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that the obligation of spending upon the wife is only when there is a chance to take her back.

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Which is in the first and the second.

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But on the last one, where she is no longer yours. You are not obligated to spend on her. They took it from this

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the fuqaha are not you think when we say the fucka ha ha ha these are the old people the traditionalists. You hear the stupid people no they say oh these are the traditionalist tell me show me what you can get.

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This is what they deduced. They said layer to rejuvenate the new Beauty And when I heard Gina inlandia Tina differentia T mobile unit and later on this will be within the law is an introductory statement after that lack of real Allah

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Allah it means

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these are connected only if the matter this Raja you may be able to return, then this issue of keeping on the house and spending upon it. If it is the third time where you cannot take her back and work you are not obligated to spend on her. And this is clear from Hadith the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him also where he said clearly

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to the woman that

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he is not obligated to spend upon you, unless he has the chance of returning you after that. It is part of his good manners is not obligated.

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As when one woman was

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found what her husband had sent to little he told her the husband replied I don't have to give you anything Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. And he approved of that.

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He's not obligated. He was just doing it out of his good manners. laka drita Allah

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How long have we been doing? One hour?

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We had intended to finish both is

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Allahu Allah Allah Allah

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any questions or comments?

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The Brotherhood has had for a long time Excuse me? No, no no nepotism involved

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then the wisdom behind being the wisdom behind it as being under the same roof, right so that the mother may change so that Allah will change something in your heart and take her back.

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as long as you are together.

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The idea is you're in the same house. You're not expelling her from your house and the only

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By the way, by the way, as some scholars say today is so important design.

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Many of the problems that happen in marriages nowadays are not from the husband and not from the wife, they're coming from outside the marriage circle.

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And especially when there becomes a child between them, and especially when one divorce has happened, this is when everyone interferes, oh, how did he and how to cheat and so on, and they start getting involved, and there's no chance of them ever getting hurt again, the way they deal with it.

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Be smart parents. And this is the way they used to act before the in laws of the husband, you'll find that always on

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the husband side, and the in laws or the wife or on the wife side, they don't support their children, they support the other party, so that they can always bring them back together. Nowadays.

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My son, my daughter,

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each person is looking after their own, and they have no interest in bringing them back together. Maybe something small, which the woman did not make a big deal of all the man the parents or the relatives will make a big deal.

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They want to get to stop, they stop they become an obstacle.

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What normally, on the men's side, what

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divers definitely the woman she didn't like it was like what that was like, then she can ask

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she will come back when she does color, then she does what is called color. She She revokes her

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financial obligations from her husband, she's I don't want any of this and I don't want the gallery and so on I just want you to let me go, this is a different issue.

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This is then

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this is this is where you also have judges coming in between them as in sort of baccarat visa, if there is problem between them, and they cannot get back together, then appointed judge from here and and judge from here and let them try to conciliate between them and so on. Yes, this happens. And many times maybe the husband doesn't want to. And in that case, the only things will go through several stages before maybe eventually, he gets convinced that it's not going to work and they they have to separate and I've seen I've seen this. I've seen this insert before the same city.

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They're in so the girl and

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this girl and

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they're not

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good to the golf game to her suddenly.

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Of course

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she's not

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of course, she can ask for the divorce. In fact, if she is asking for the divorce,

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it is established that the man is oppressing her. A judge can separate between.

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And this is the fairness of Islam. A judge can separate between them.

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In such a situation if he refuses but she's able to prove that he is oppressing her. He is beating her he is abusing her one way or another and that she is asking for divorce rightly a judge can separate.

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Other questions, comments

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it takes them back. Yes. A new contract.

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You're saying

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you're giving me an incident or you're asking No. No second time. As long as you take her back before the end that is over. She's your

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normal, normal. You write a new contract? No, no, no no contract. new contract is only if the waiting period is over. You allow the waiting period to get

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which is different.

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As long as you are inside the ad. The idea is not over her three cycles are not over yet. You want her back, take her back nothing except witnesses and this is the next day and this is next time

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alone. Witnesses having witnesses to

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discuss it in detail next time.

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You know, first, second.

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And then to go and do any again why the period was not over, it was over it

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was over.

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And the children were saying, we are going for a mother and father's wedding. Whereas

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the waiting period is three cycles

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each one

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sample, sometimes three cycles, and then

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waiting to say, this is

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a question

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Yeah, yes.

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Which is three factories, but you don't have to wait. Let's say you said you are divorced. And after one week you say I want him but you take them back, you have to wait a minute, you use one of your rights, right? But the waiting period, this is the maximum that it can be. The maximum that it can be is the three cycles after that, if you don't take her back after three cycles, you lose her and you can only get back with a new contract clear.

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But you can take her back anytime during the

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That's why That's why we're asked when I counted. The precise about it, don't play with it. Otherwise, Allah Allah, you may be divorced, but you continue as if you are married, but you are really divorced. Three minutes. Maybe you didn't count it the right way. And you took her back and you didn't know that you are one day off.

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And actually you took her back after her period was over. She is no longer in your life and you are continuing as husband and wife and this is like Xena

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life Allah, Allah, this, but the meaning is sound. The meaning is sound, the meaning is strong as we That's why I mentioned that I which is that the ultimate hope of shaitan is to separate between a man and wife and therefore it is the most important thing to Allah subhanaw taala the meaning is some of the Hadith Allah Allah has died

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she was,

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she was joking around

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that's why we are saying that's why Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said one of the things that is serious whether you say it seriously or whether you are joking.

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I don't know whether you're joking or serious. It is serious. And this is divorced.

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As far as I

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say, when

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you're because you're saying it.

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I know you're saying it. You're not saying it at the time of anger. And there's a difference about

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divorcing when you're angry and so on. But you are saying it and everything's fine. It's not it's not a joke. Definitely not.

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It is not

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the some of the festival scholars

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even minutes

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but here he is saying he said you're divorced. He didn't say I'm gonna divorce you. And he says, I'm going to divorce you. This is not diverse.

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This is why

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definitely, definitely not. Definitely. But even that's why the only scholars and one of the things they also debated is what constitutes divorce. What expressions constitute divorce is also a serious issue, as well as what expressions constitute marriage.

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There are different expressions, the word Stuka and Gattaca have led to many different expressions. If he were to say it this way, or that way, is it my

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I have not forgotten discuss these things because there are

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these very big responsibilities you are putting on your shoulders with simple expressions, you're saying with your mouth.

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And this is why Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said, control this and what is between your legs. And I grant you paradise. You, I give you the guarantee of paradise. This was a serious thing with one word.

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When one word

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Danny, you will become the spouse of a woman who no one has ever seen before or touched or anything else. He says, the watch to cabinetry you say she's your wife.

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It says stuff when you think about it, this woman who maybe didn't allow any other man to see her, to touch her to get nearer to speak to her, protecting herself, keeping herself chaste, for the husband that is going to come during all of this. Then a strange man comes completely unrelated to her not her brother, or uncle or anything else never seen her before accepting the time of getting to know her for merit. And then he says few words and she's his for life.

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Serious stuff. So this is this is the this is also a see. It's serious. But this is part of the

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the flexibility of Islam.

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No. Two divorces were pronounced

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and so they went for a new countries Yes.

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Now a few years past

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and no more guy said yes.

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That's why I'm saying

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this is this is what I am saying scholars scholars different amount. Whether it is

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yeah, whether it is fresh or not. Some some difference about it

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shouldn't be or shouldn't be. That's not for us

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I believe Allah Allah, that's a first start. But

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after three hours, and she goes to another one, and then she gets

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a new contract

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regardless of one or two, by the way, regardless of whether it applies even in the first as long as the idea is over.

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Let me just see if I can find it One minute.

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One minute, 20 minutes.

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India now, some

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They go instead.

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What is the

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Yes, this is the issue. It's called a show of hands.

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The issue of hadn't hadn't had the meaning breaking.

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In other words, does the new marriage cancel? Does it give you a fresh start?

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He says no.

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Comes back. You still have that one more?

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Wave series? Yeah, give me that right. You can keep making well.

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Usually it won't go to that practical life situation. It's tiring. Saying you're divorced. If you are in a state, with your wife, where you are saying you are divorced so many times in the first place. It's already a very rocky relationship. When you think about it shouldn't be even in that stage where you kill you are even thinking of things. Right? So he told me now a new contract once and twice and three times. It's not practical. It doesn't happen.

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I'll tell you, I'll tell you concluded with a small story. Because this was Janice Pamela.

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It had an effect on me also.

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A couple was not getting along.

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And I'll go to the end of the story.

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And I'll tell you eventually they did get divorced Subhan Allah, I think it was a Mercy of Allah. For them. They didn't get along.

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When you they tried a lot. And I heard from from the husband, what kind of problems that he was having

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she insisted she wanted to divorce. And he wasn't accepted. She wanted Hola.

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And they came.

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I was gonna do the follow up for

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They were sitting there.

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And I started talking about what cola is, and the repercussions of it.

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And how this is something which is

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abhorrent to Allah, subhanaw, taala, and so on.

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And I couldn't believe it, because they finally after so much argumentation finally got the courage to say, yes, we want to separate. And they came. And I was about to separate.

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And as I was explaining these things, they both started crying.

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They both signed up.

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And they said, We don't want

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and they they, they went back. Again, I think in the end, they got divorced.

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But just that ceiling, and thinking finally they're going to separate. And this is something serious and so on. They will started crying. And they said, no, please, when they laugh together.

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It's not simple. We talk about it as if it's a game, you are divorced, you're not divorced, and going and separating out. I think it took several months, until they finally got divorced completely. But it's a serious thing. And it also shows you that

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when people say things, it's not necessarily final.

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And this is precisely why I have chosen.

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Gradually like this, this is the wisdom behind it. People say things that maybe they don't mean it, or they don't understand the gravity of what they are proposing. And later on when you put them

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in that reality. They wake up

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she asks for it. No, it's a separation.

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So that will allow

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any other questions or comments?

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We are putting, yes. Now.

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If you say what the one time, we will say, Oh, this is not only 100. This is most of these colors, and even the other forgot the other three.

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They said the same that it applies. And they have that eminence, and one of their evidence is why I was gonna use one of their pieces of evidence is this idea. They said Latin thriller and it's about America. Why should there be regret in the first place?

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If you can divorce once, and you have the chance to return.

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This is one of their evidences, they're saying basically, this

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it means that you can divorce three times. And it all applies as one

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applies is three, right? And she's no longer your wife, it ends no relationship, this would be a cause for regret.

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So they are taking that last idea, let him rely on the license. And

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they're taking it as referring not only to the issue of taking them out of the house, also to the previous part, which is divorcing them from the commencement of their period.

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They're taking it to refer to both of those. Right? But they are they

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the other evidence that I told you about also of the other group shows you that three actually only applies as one. Otherwise it defeats the purpose that this trick was was put in the first place, what law

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and so on. So that's why that's why I'm telling you this issue is one of three countries religions. This is not just you know, a scholar here or there gave a different opinion or a weak opinion. This is a real difference of opinion. Like some of the other issues of fake where there was a real difference of opinion. And both argue both groups have good arguments.

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