Tafsir Juz 28 #26 – Al-Talaq 2
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we praise Allah Almighty all praises due to him, we praise Him we seek His help we seek his forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evil of our souls and our deeds will never Allah guides. There's an ultimate guide. And whoever Allah leads astray, there is no one to guide and I bear witness that there is no God worthy of worship but Allah and the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is his slave Servant and Messenger. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to make our deeds sincere to him, and our learning of the Quran sincere in sha Allah so that it may intercede for us on the Day of Judgment in sha Allah, my dear brothers and sisters, we continue with Siewert of
which in the beginning is outlining some of the facts of
we spoke the last time about the the importance of the realism,
of Islam, in solving the problems of humanity,
Muslims as well as humanity. And
one thing to keep in mind, because always, the way we understand things, it's always related to our perception. And this is why the Scholars have always say, and he'll come on a sheet photo, and I'm
judging something is related or is part of your perception of it. This is that's when you will judge it.
You and I are speaking about divorce in the second divorce nowadays.
But you have to understand that when the second divorce came in Medina, this is shortly after, or might also be happening at the same time NACA where people are still learning their female infants.
And the females are as oppressed as they work in that society. And in this society, in this environment, you have this complicated set of divorce, well delineated issues of the waiting period, the different waiting periods for the different types of women, this is unheard of.
This is something else this is literally miraculous, speaking about the issue of women, the issue of marriage and divorce, and the fact of marriage and divorce, and in such details, this is the way Islam raised the status of women. And
just because divorce is part of the religion, this is not something negative, actually, this is positive. This shows the practicality of the religion and the the pragmatism in the religion in that it is solving the problems of Muslims. And it is taking into consideration the real possibility of not having
good interaction or understanding between the husband and the wife. And eventually, life literally becomes unbearable for the husband and the wife, such that at that stage when they haven't done everything, and they have followed all of the Islamic injunctions to try to retain the relationship after that if things still don't work out. It is the mercy of Allah to allow them to separate
religions or philosophies and understandings that do not allow this lack this realism, the practicality and realism of Islam, is it possible for others to come out together so that we so that the third is less than 180 degrees?
Fluffy come, you can come behind each other. Okay.
Before we continue with the verses that we left off with from last time,
just a few things that we discussed last time one of them the issue that was brought up about
a man divorcing
and then returning her
returning her after the waiting period is over. We said that requires what a new contract right? And we said that in that situation.
When he brings her back and he marries her again. Does he have the same
Does he start a fresh new three
kinds of divorce or not? He does not. There is no difference between scholars on this.
and then divorced his wife,
for the first time for the second time,
the wedding period,
finished, he didn't bring her back. She's no longer his wife. But then after that, he decides he wants her again. So he marries again with a new contract. Right? Then when he comes back, Does he still have three? No, he either has one or two. He either has one or two. There's no difference between colors on this issue. I'll give you the two extremes. I'm gonna give you the middle. This is one of the extremes. The other extreme, also no difference between colors. And that is if he divorced her three times. Right? And then obviously, the waiting period passed by. And she married another man. Right?
And he divorced her.
And then she went back to her old husband. Does he have three new ones? Of course he finished them anyway. Right? He finished them anyway. So he has three
new attempts or let's say,
chances, let's call it. There's no difference between scholars on this. This situation where it's different is if he divorced her in the first or second time.
And then she married
a new conflict. But she married the first one I told you she didn't matter. He divorced once or twice, waiting period finished.
After that, he regretted he said I want to go back. And they had a new contract. She can't he came back and he has the number of chances that he has left from the last marriage. But what if he did was to once or twice and after the wedding third finished? She married someone.
She married someone then not one divorced her and then she wanted to go back to her husband, then does he start three new?
majority said no.
He does not start three. He divorced her once he has to last been divorced. Twice. He has one more left one more chance and she is no longer yours.
Right. This is the issue. Some scholars, some scholars said yes, he starts he has another three chances. You see the difference between the first and the second one. The first one is
she got married to another one. The second one or other the first one she didn't get married. The second one she got married. This is the difference. This will be different whether he has three or not. And this was an issue that was raised. Last time this
due to the lucky give. Yes. And then she married. But she doesn't have to wait for the third one to get married to somebody else. No.
Winning Hands over.
Also needs to give no she's no longer because he didn't take her back in the wedding.
He didn't think she's no longer as what's
the difference between the second and the third one is that he has the ability to take her back with a new contract without her marrying another man. But if he divorced her three times, and then after that, he said I want you back. He cannot take her back unless she marries another man.
She married another man. And it's a real marriage. Marriage. Right? It's not fictitious. It's a real marriage. There is physical relations between them. And then he divorces then she can go back to the original one.
Clear? This is one issue that
we had discussed.
the winning pages over Of course, this is why we'll get to it we'll get
these are the attempts you these are the chances you have you don't necessarily finish them.
You don't necessarily forever if that's the case, there would be no meaning to this difference between scholars about whether she gets back one or two or three. They're all gone according to this understanding No. Three, this is the ignorance
No, she can marry but only the for waiting period is over. And this is the wisdom behind that waiting period being there in the first place. If the waiting period is over, then
And then he doesn't take her back then. Then she's no longer his wife, then she can get married if she wants to. And she can also get married,
remarried, to her own husband, or former husband.
This was one issue that we discussed. The other one was the issue of hula.
The issue of hula.
If she asks for hula, she is asking her husband, she is the one who wants the divorce. But what she forfeits her financial rights. Right?
If she does that,
according to most scholars, there is no there's no return, she gave back all that he wanted in the first place, only to get rid of him, she doesn't want him anymore. And maybe the judge, maybe he didn't want to so the judge forced him based on her request to divorce her. And this is,
if that is the case, most colors sent below. There is no return. There's no
it's not like product. But there is.
But they differ on what that is.
Many scholars have died that is the same as a regular divorce. three
cycles or periods.
But a famous opinion, and one that may be the correct opinion of Allah Allah, because it is based on an authentic hadith the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon is that it is only one cycle
for the hola
because of the famous
the wife of sad face asked him for hula
and Prophet Muhammad and she wants to Prophet Muhammad peace be upon for this and he was essentially the judge in the situation. And he asked him or she that, are you willing to give back his garden? She said, Yes, he said, then divorce her and wait for one period. So he gave it as one Hiva. But this is and this is what was not of the law.
When when he was Khalifa, this is what he relied on
hula is one period, but many other scholars said
sometimes there are differences on the authenticity of it, but that it is authentic.
Then she goes to the court. She asked the judge which school she goes to what do you mean which court the court
nowadays because nowadays
of course she goes to besides some places there are courts that are Yanni there's especially for these types of things here you have this
which one exactly, there they have also this is where they do such things. So she goes there and and a judge studies the case. And then he can ask if she is rightly asking for full, he can ask the husband to divorce her based on this as long as he gets, you know, whatever finance
is divorcing, right? Essentially she's asking him to
okay to the man
afterwards, but in the same one he gets to the wills to wallow
in the same one no. There's nothing the same. In other words look like. Right? She cannot take him back. Yes. Okay. She is in other words, if she decides afterwards, that they still want each other majority of scholars said no, some scholars said yes. If he says okay, I give you back whatever it is, like in this case the garden or the money or the dowry or whatever it may be, I give it back to you. We want to be with each other again. Most color says no, there is no return. In color, there is no return and this is precisely why she forfeited her rights she just wants to get rid of and she cannot live with them anymore. And either way of course in the case of the man and the woman but the
Hadith the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him is speaking to the women. If a woman asks for divorce,
without due right, that she will not smell this the fragrance of paradise. It is a warning
to them not to ask for divorce if she doesn't have the right to divorce. Just because you know he did one thing that you got angry with or something else. This does not give you the right to ask for divorce. Divorce is something big and this applies to the men also
Let's be careful of these chances that you have been given. And this is why as we discussed last time,
there's the issue of we don't slam them all three in one and we discussed the difference in scholars on that issue.
Last time Genesis block
and when they have nearly fulfilled their turn, either retain them according to acceptable terms are parked with them according to acceptable terms and bring to witness to just Min from among you and establish the testimony for the acceptance of Allah that is instructed to whoever should believe in Allah on the last day, and whoever fears Allah he will make for him a way out.
Last time was homework.
What was it I
forgot what it was
much less having the answer.
No, that one forget it. That one is more difficult.
the woman who Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, the worst one.
And then returned her, based on the
request of Gibreel Ali's
And when they have nearly fulfilled their term,
this shows us that the verses of divorce that are being spoken about what the evidence of some of the scholars who support this opinion is that this pile up in the beginning on the hill, this is one,
this is only one, it means you cannot slam all three in one. Because if it was, then he wouldn't be speaking about if they have fulfilled, either retain them or not. Because if you slam three and one, she's not, right. You can't keep her anymore. As you are being given the option of retaining her or not, it means the divorce that Allah has commanded is one. You say it once until you are divorced. And then there is a waiting period. It's enough that you have said that one time.
And this is why the brother was asking last time even if I said it, and I was joking about it. There's no joking in.
And this is why Yes. You said it that way. You didn't mean it. You were just kidding. But you meant what you said maybe you didn't mean
the consequences of that word, but you meant that word.
your divorce. There you go. There's one.
And scholars did not differ over this. The one they differ.
When someone said it by mistake, it didn't even mean to say it.
To say let's say maybe he wanted to say you know, I don't like it when you do this. So he said instead of a vitalistic you're divorced, but he really didn't mean to even say those words. In that case, it doesn't apply. But if he meant to say those words, no, he didn't mean the consequences of it, it applies.
It's serious stuff.
Okay. So, this is why the correct ways to say it once and to even be careful when it is being said and this is what we benefited for last time to be careful when it is being said I should not say when the woman is in her period, or if it is in a time of
her period. But it is a time where there were physical relations between you This is
This is unacceptable. This is sinful. Even though as we said below, I love putting too many scholars in a place
it's a genuine difference between
what do you mean?
Okay, knowing that it was not allowed in the country.
According to majority scholars, they said it applies but the famous opinion of some of the Sahaba included and some of them would actually like the thing
Hello, does not apply. And they supported their opinion with different types of evidence. It's a genuine issue of difference between scholars. And one of the pieces of evidence that I mentioned rahamallah Is this one?
Subsequent? How can this divorce that has been spoken about in the first verse? If it can be applied in three? How can it be then that Allah subhanaw taala is speaking about keeping them or letting them go? If you slam three in one and it applies, she's gone, you can't take her back anymore. Right? And this is the opinion of the majority of scholars, if you say it three times, is no longer yours.
According to the majority of scholars, there's a waiting period, of course, but you don't have this waiting period. You cannot take her back the last one, the last one, no, no, she's no new contract new.
A new husband and not a new contract.
If you say it three times in a row, according to majority scholars, she waits her period just to get married, but you don't have the chance of taking her back.
Allah, as we said, there is the other opinion Allah.
There's a difference between scholars about this world depends on the level of his anger, he understood he didn't understand there's a lot of differences between them above the law.
If they notice you put them they put you in parentheses nearly nearly fulfill their term, even though in the Arabic technically
it means have reached or completed their term.
They completed that term, do you have the ability to take them back?
But without the new contract or anything? No. So this is not the meaning. And there are many uses in the Arabic language of certain words, where it may not be exactly that issue being finished or completed, but coming up to it.
Alright, so here,
indeed, liking his trumpet, it means when they have nearly fulfilled that term, in other words, when they are about to complete that term,
just before it either taking them back, of course, do you have to wait? While you decided after two days of saying you are divorced, you are stupid that you said it. And then after two days, who said you want her back? You have to wait till
you take her back? She's yours. But Allah has given you the maximum, the maximum is all the way up to that waiting period, as you see it.
A second or two? If you are calculating that specifically and you shouldn't be because Allah azza wa jal said last,
right? If it is a few minutes before the time, you can stick still take her back. This is the maximum time right
now No, after one or two brothers and sisters, if you say
forget saying it's one minute, one minute, not on a one minute. Give me a minute, give me a minute.
If you say empty panel,
if you say that say all three in one, okay.
According to majority scholars, okay, even though the other opinion also has its evidence. But according to majority scholars, she's gone, meaning you cannot bring her back, she has to just wait that period, right? That waiting period after the third, you are divorced, whether it is all in one or whether it is over a long period.
That third one, you cannot take her back. Is that clear? So you said to your wife, God forbid, you are divorced. And then you waited for 15 days and you took her back? Then you said you are divorced. And then you waited for let's say the whole period before it's finished. And you know what? I'm gonna take you but you took her back. That's what two times right. Then things were unbearable. And you said you are divorced, finished. There's one more waiting period just for her to get remarried.
But you can't take her back anymore. It's only in the first two times. Is that clear?
The same? It's the same
Oh yeah, you can pick her up the one name you can take on the same day. The maximum is the winning 10 which is three sizes
either retain them according to acceptable terms. What part was according to acceptable Subhan? Allah? How Allah azza wa jal says
acceptable terms what does acceptable terms mean? It's more general than this model is a very general word and it means everything good
meaning retain them with everything good. Meaning take her back in the right way.
Okay. And this is Willow animus will see
just after this, one of the ways to take her back in the right way is to what? To have two witnesses. So this is part of taking her back when
taking care of her after you take her back, looking after her
treating her well, all of this comes under the unsecured roof. Okay. In addition
and even more importantly,
um SQL heavy metals, meaning take her back with models, not intending to oppress her how
let's say you're a malicious man.
And you want to malicious, you want to punish her.
So you divorce her. You keep her in her all the way up until the three cycles just an hour before
it's over. And maybe she doesn't want to anymore she wants to get married someone else and then you take her back, but you don't intend to keep her but you took her back.
a few minutes after you said you're divorced
you are imprisoning her this way. Allah azza wa jal
commanded against this
should not be done.
This is how
okay, but it applies. It applies.
It means it is
it is it cares it can be done, but it is
I'm sick who who
goes against this? Right? If you're gonna do this, then you have not retained her with models
or Parkland according to acceptable terms similarly, parked with them in a good way in a civilized way. Not insulting each other not throwing each other's clothes
not insulting each other's families, right do it in a civilized way in a good way remember
the goodness that was in your relationship before Okay And fear Allah subhanaw taala in these issues, so part with them according to acceptable terms. Similarly with the dowry pardon is in the correct way is not to force her to ask for hola because you want your money back or the dowry or whatever it may be, as is what some husbands do. They refuse to the person they're punishing them because they want the money back. If you decide you don't want to part with her, and the money is hurts, right?
This is part of one of your models.
In that case, you can forgive each other as an insult the person
you can forgive or she can forgive
Yeah, in India
unfortunately this is part of the Muslims not applying the religion and following others. Shiva Shiva was developed as the Hadith the Prophet Muhammad
though some men might might like it,
because this is the only time possibly that they will be receiving a dowry and not the other way around.
The way huddling
the correct divorce and the correct
taking her back is to have two witnesses to just witnesses.
Notice that the last point I said was handled the way I've been. It's a command and this is why many scholars said it is why Jim
it is obligatory
to have two witnesses, when divorcing as well as taking her back.
But there is the opinion then this was to have, it is recommended, and it is not obligatory when
someone divorced or took back without having witnesses, applies.
It is yummy. You have not done that the properly, the proper ways to have to just witnesses. And this is why I lost planet Allah commanded it. And that applies to both.
Because he didn't say, the roof. And then he mentioned the two witnesses. And then he went further alone. After he mentioned either retaining or letting go, he said, what should you do the way
that you should have to just witnesses?
Some scholars said that it's an obligation for one and it's not and it's recommended for the other.
Which one do you think might be
more important to have two witnesses?
Not marriage, now we're talking divorce or taking her back?
Fragile is more important. Why?
Because chances are
behaving differently. Sure. behaving differently is one but reputation is another
because it's famous. Now it does become known that you have divorced your wife, all of a sudden, you're back together and you are acting normally and so on. When did this happen? Where's the origin? They start doubting? The Do you see what I'm saying? This is why this is the importance of today's witnesses. Some scholars for some scholars made it Whadjuk for a job and sooner for
Okay, either way, the best way is to have it in both cases. And this is the saying of the sahaba.
When he was asked about a man with divorce and took back without to just with his, he says you divorce, the meaning not on the Sunnah. And you took back not on the sooner
the sooner the correct way is to have to adjust witnesses in both situations.
stablish the testimony for the acceptance of Allah subhanaw taala Okay.
is not for money.
It's not to help your relatives.
It's not to help your friend or the one closer to Him. It is for Allah. And the issue of testimony is so important. Okay, this is why Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him warned against giving false testimony. This is part of testimony, if you are testifying the where you're testifying here your testimonial here is not to help this relative of yours or a friend of yours or someone else, it is for Allah. So you are testify and you are
saying the truth, you're doing it in the best way possible console.
And established the testimony for Allah
will be human
that is instructed to ever Some believe in a lot in the last day, what is instructed.
It could be the issue of the two witnesses. It could be everything before this that we discussed from the beginning of the surah.
Select the All of us. And then he says Daddy Kumu I believe
that this is instructors, whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, all of the all of what you have been instructed in the Sunnah from the very beginning of the issues of divorce and taking back and so on. This is to be applied and implemented.
and the best way, if you believe in Allah and the Last Day,
Allah subhanaw taala now is
he's trying to get people to apply and implement this film, even though it may be against their own lonely desires, by what by
mentioning the issue of believing in Allah on the last day, and if they are true believers, then this should bring them back and guide them to that, despite wanting to do things the wrong way. Because of what Shavon is for
thing in their head of divorcing her in the time of hire, or in a bizarre way, or not giving her money back or punishing her with all of these things.
If you believe in Allah and the Last Day, then you are instructed to implement this. And this is why you will find them many,
many of the verses, the verse mentions believing in Allah, and the last day.
If you don't believe in Allah, definitely you won't implement any of this. But you may be a believer in Allah. But the last day means nothing to you. Therefore, there will also be difficult for you to implement this. That's why these two
issues of belief, these are two of the pillars of
these two pillars of ima,
you can come to even logically
believe in the angels have come to believe in the angels logically without Allah having told you that he has angels? No. This is part of the Hebrew you don't know about you believe in it, because Allah azza wa jal told us, and He is the most truthful, but believing in a
part of the
believing in the last day, it's part of the
knowing that there is a day of accountability. And believe me, even the people who argue with you about it, they believe
they're afraid of it. So they fooled themselves, to believing that there is no accountability. And there is no last day, believing in a lot of the last day is one of the greatest ways of disciplining oneself and disciplining the society at large, believing in Allah and the Last Day is greater discipline.
all of the policeman, you bring all of the ministries, all of the laws, all of these things, they compare nothing to believing in Allah and velocity. Because you may be following all of those laws, in front of people, and in front of the outside, and then all of a sudden, when no one is looking at you. You do whatever you please, no law will stop you. But believing in Allah in the last day, if you are in the depths of the earth, or somewhere in the Heavens, no one sees you, you know, Allah sees you, you cannot violate his loss. This is the difference between the different ways of discipline,
believing in Allah as well.
If you're in a situation that both parties agree,
you would like to be the witness. But suppose both are not.
If you are with getting that
if they ask you to be a witness,
that the other one doesn't accept.
But is it a negatory? In general? It's not.
But if you do, do it, you should do it in the right way.
they are asking you,
one of them is one of them is asking exactly.
Technically, you don't really need someone specific. There's no reason for someone
that he wants, he cannot be the witness. There has to be two other words. He's asking someone.
the part of the witness must be
if the husband has no, Allah Allah? He doesn't have to be technically, anyone can be a witness. Right? This is not the type of thing where the witness has more information or is judging against someone. It's not like a hacker mean. Right. It's not like having the two judges when there are differences between them and discord in the marriage. And then
they appoint two judges, one from her family and one from there, it's it becomes important the issue of dodging and what they know and how they will act. This is just This is just a testifying that I follow divorce happened.
So why should she object and why should why should he want someone specific? You see what I'm saying? There's no reason that I would want you know, someone close to me to witness it. It can be anyone. As long as I hold someone witness that I divorced my wife, or I took that when you see them
As far as I know, Allah, Allah, He will bring someone else, as long as he brings someone else that has no problem, and he can bring anyone technically, it doesn't have to be users, it
doesn't have anyone else that was then it is logical, then it becomes obligatory because
whatever, you know, whatever
is required to fulfill an obligation, then that thing which is required is also an obligation, you see, I'm saying this is a rule that we should learn. If there is a wedge a wedge, something is an obligation, then whatever is required to make this condition come true.
Everything required also becomes what
is that clear.
And that's situation, okay. This is, of course, the opinion that having witnesses was in the first place, and he asked you and you are the only one, and he has only one other person, then you should be a witness, you should witness that there was a law, or retainment, or something else
is meant to be just
to just to just to just
be human can be liable.
So beware of these instructions, brothers and sisters and implement them tomorrow, you won't have to. But if you are in that situation, see a lot in the last day.
And fearing Allah and the Last Day in these issues, is what is so rare nowadays. Well, mania,
and whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out
there is no iron, which gives more hope
of solving a problem, or having a way out than this woman yet.
Scholars understood this in two ways, and they're both applicable Allah was
one of them is that this is applying to the issues of divorce.
Whoever fears Allah, Allah will make a way out for him.
The law on said that whoever divorces in the right way,
they expect in the right way, implements
these instructions. Allah, Allah will make a way out for him in his predicament. In other words, this predicament of divorce, Allah will make a way out for him, it means follow these instructions and implement them and Allah azza wa jal will make a way out for you. Whether it is better to come back together, Allah make it easy for you.
Or if it is better for you to park, then Allah subhanaw taala will facilitate that for you, also, in a good way.
But the point is fear Allah and implement these instructions, Allah will make a way out for him. And indeed, subhanAllah if you divorce in the right way, you do everything to avoid divorce in the first place. And then
this fight that nothing's working. So you go and you hire two judges as you are supposed to. And that also does not work. And if you divorce her, you divorce her and you say you are divorced, but you say it only once. And you don't say to a period, so that
because then it won't be part of her.
And you say it in the title of
your physical relations so that you don't discover pregnancy later.
You say into panic once.
And you wait for a new sink and you pray and you make dua, and then you realize you want her back and you take her back. There's so much time. There's so much time and there is time to reconsider things. Consult people do istikhara and all of these things, if you do it in the right way.
And if eventually you have to say you are divorced, and you bring to just witnesses and when you take her back you bring to just witnesses, you avoid all of the problems and all of the doubts and all of these things. Subhanallah there's so much wisdom, just follow these instructions. Well and yet
and Whoever fears Allah, Allah subhanaw taala will make a way out for them. Look at people's life nowadays will divorce. It has helped.
Because of this, because of forgetting this, they're not implementing these things. Allah azza wa jal, and this is the wisdom. It's not all or nothing. Either an excellent marriage, or, you know, without divorce, you have to stay with her whether it's good or it's not. A law version may
So we offer you and that is divorced in the correct way with wisdom. And here's the most wise. So implement these instructions. Every single one of these instructions that we talked about it more, and we see its practical application. Now you see the hell people are in because they're not applying it one after another.
A simple one is washed
And this specific unit,
one person did it, let's say and they didn't concentrate, and now they don't. Did it pass that has not passed, maybe it was
the second time. And now he wants to take her back. And he's not sure. Are we going to have a new contract? Should we, her family doesn't want to have a new contract, or they won't allow her. If you're going to do a new contract, you marry someone else, you can imagine all of the problems that are happening, just because of not following one injunction, Watson.
The same with all of the others. Let's just finish these verses but and then we can maybe if you have questions, well,
this is what understanding their understanding and it is also applicable Allah Allah is that it is general and Whoever fears Allah, Allah will make a way for them. What ever your predicament may be, whatever your problem may be, just fear Allah for Allah sake. And Allah will make a way out for you.
when you come, if you come to that level of despair,
you have disparate. And of course, no one disappears from the Mercy of Allah.
But let's say three pounds working on you, and you don't see the way out and it's difficult and it's gloomy, and it's dark, and you don't know what to do. Fear Allah.
And go to Allah, and rely on Allah, and seek refuge in Allah subhanaw taala he will make a way for you know, verse gives to the believers more hope than this verse.
And if you need to resize it often remember it often, so that it rekindles this hope and knew that everything is in the hands of Allah subhanaw taala just fear Allah.
Are you a bachelor dying to get married?
Are you someone who has a risk, which is all
problems people have? Do you have
a disobedient son or daughter?
That has become completely misguided? Didn't you just lose? Your most favorite child?
Did you just lose one of your parents?
You can go on and on people's problems.
Do you suffer from a debilitating disease which is not disabling you from worship from thinking from going after your provision and everything, whatever it may be brothers and sisters, every single problem is your husband in prison or you in prison.
Whatever problem you have fear Allah Allah will make a way out for you.
Fear Allah subhanaw taala when
Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, was in Makkah.
And he's speaking, when the only the some of the companions are coming to him, and they say oh, messenger of Allah and there was no one more efficient than this habit of the law.
They say all messenger of Allah.
Why don't you make dua for us? Don't you see the situation we're in
they don't see the way out. Prophet Muhammad peace be upon them to be patient. You are a people in haste. People before they used to get cut in half,
and it would not dissuade them from their religion. Look at you and me. Now, if we get pricked in the head, we say I don't want the religion anymore. Or I'm afraid or I don't want to apply this. Or I'm afraid of applying the sunnah or I know it's magic, but you know what I'll get in the head. Just a funnel foreign prick, we say hello. You know, we give up. So be patient, Allah azza wa jal, we'll make our way out, implement what Allah subhanaw taala has ordered.
What about Prophet Yunus?
I asked you by Allah one of his way out
when he is in his his living now, in the belly of a whale,
what's his way out?
he's sitting in those darknesses he has nothing but to seek refuge in Allah subhanaw taala
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If it wasn't for the fact that he was of those who mentioned Allah and remembered Allah invoked Allah azza wa jal, he would have stayed in his belly until the day of judgment. The Quran is telling us this Allahu Akbar, this is Prophet Yunus. I said, What is the way out for him? Woman yet, Allah.
Allah azza wa jal is the one who made the whale for him. And it is said that he used to say, Oh Allah, I am worshiping you in a place where no one has ever worshipped to before
who has worshiped in the belly of a whale before except you and as Halley's Santa. And then you think, Well, my problems no one has ever experienced.
Have you ever been swallowed by a whale?
And then you say no, but I say this is Prophet Yunus. One of the most beloved to Allah.
Fein don't see these things. Praise Allah subhanaw taala. He used to say that whenever I was faced with a predicament, I used to thank Allah that it wasn't bigger than this.
Believe me in a minute.
After saying this, God forbid, it can never get worse. It will get worse immediately.
No, no question about it. It can get worse. It can always be worse. Praise alone, that it hasn't gotten to that woman yet. Allah.
Allah azza wa jal will make a way out
And the the stories that I'm sure you have plenty of stories
of the application of this, so many people being in predicaments. And then Subhan Allah, Allah azza wa jal made a way out for them.
Whether it is risk, I've heard a lot about risk and provision, you know, they were in a place where it was haram money and so on, and they feared Allah, and they left that job without having another job to go to and all of a sudden, subhanAllah
a new job came out of nowhere.
And this is the meaning of the next one. Where Zuckermann hater
will provide for him from where he does not expect Allah? Who is the provider? Is it Allah? Or is it your employer?
Is it Motorola? Are they the provider? Is Motorola the provider? Or is it KDD? Or is it if source? Or is it all of these companies? Are they the provider by Allah? Then why is it that once that person is fired, Subhan Allah to put the hands on Allahu Akbar, where am I going to feed my family and so on, and they start crying men cry
upon this, Allah is the provider. And not only that, well Zuko woman
who provide for you for where you least expected. You see Subhan Allah, how can you provide me from this, there's no way it can come from this. And that's precisely the issue. That's precisely the idea where,
if you know that there's a possibility of risk coming from this,
then idea doesn't apply to that. The whole idea is that it is coming from where you least expect it, such that when you get that provision, you say, subhanAllah, I would have never expected that this is where I'm gonna get the job.
I applied to this many places. This was my worst interview, I can't believe they're the ones who hired me Subhan Allah. This is reality where a woman hates the last person, if you apply it to the case of divorce specifically,
it applies to some of the men
don't want to give them the full amount to their wives, they fear, maybe they need money, maybe this is all costing them and so on. And therefore they don't implement these instructions. If you fear that, here it is women, yes. You
were in high school I will provide for you. Allah is
the provider, don't worry about it.
Woman used to work
for Hua hospital, and whoever
relies on them, he is sufficient for him. And what is one of the most important worships of the heart, the deed of the heart.
we mentioned last time that there are verses that speak about
and immediately after that, depending on Allah subhanaw taala I don't think we answered the question, did we eventually. So that was the end of solitude.
what are what can i lay? So worship Him meaning the one and only without partners and depend on him.
relying upon Allah is a life journey, you will never
reach the end of it. You can always have more dependence on the last panel and our reliance on the last panel to highlight so we and especially concerning the issues of the OMA and the the problems that we are going through and so on, and you find people despairing, sorry, disappearing from the Mercy of Allah and
thinking that this ummah will stay in this situation forever Subhana Allah, less dependence on the last panel to honor the terms of philosophy of Allah for your provision, where's dependence on Allah subhanaw taala for
Allah azza wa jal making a way out for you where is the reliance upon Allah subhanaw taala it's weak. This is why you will find many situations, our reliance upon Allah is actually reliance upon the means. It's upon this map.
And you know, how you come to know that when the means all of a sudden, are eliminated.
And you start crying and shouting, then, you know, your reliance was not on Allah was on the means. Because once the means were canceled, you lost hope.
If you are truly depending on Allah, you don't care about the means, does not mean that if I want to depend on the last part of Allah, I cancel the means no,
of course. And if you don't, then you have not understood.
And the leader of al mutawa, Killeen, whose name also
is Prophet Muhammad from Allah, Allah.
And he SallAllahu sallam, and he is the one who was promised by Allah to be protected from everything.
When he used to go for jihad, did he throw himself in the fire?
Did he go without his armor? No.
But he's the one who was promised by Allah, Allah, we will come in and Allah will protect you from people. Maybe someone will say, Oh, Prophet of Allah, don't you believe in this and that maybe he just throws himself?
Of course not. You take the means necessary.
pious and then depend on Allah subhanaw taala not live in and say Allah will take care of it. And then it gets stolen. And you come out of the measure that has gone as in the famous Hadith.
But in your heart, if you want the truth to look good, and I mentioned this in malaria,
if you want to to look good,
in your heart, cancel the means.
In other words,
make your dependence on the means just in what you do. In other words, with your lips, I'm taking the means necessary to achieve certain goals. But in my heart, my dependence is completely on Allah, I don't care about the means. And I know the means are useless. It's like medicine.
Be careful of medicine.
Oh 100 I took the Tylenol and then I was excellent.
I'm lucky to do through the Tylenol or something else or whatever medicine you took or whatever antibiotic and so on. Oh, this Panadol is excellent. It cured me. Careful, Allah cured me with that. Right? Meaning when you take that medicine also,
in your heart, know very well that this medicine might not work. And this is because Allah didn't intended for didn't intend to cure you. So don't think about the medicine in this situation. You're taking it. You're taking the necessary you're taking the medicine, but your dependence here in your heart, on Allah only.
And not on the meat. This is true to a woman you cannot Allah for who has worked for you depends on what he is sufficient for you you need no one and nothing.
And that's why the example amazing example of the workplace saved no Sally's.
When he was
faced with the sea
and flowers and his people are behind him and even the people with him they said in other words,
they have reached us. In other words, we are going to be destroyed. The see is in front of you by Allah what means
what means Do you have a
depend on the means depend on Allah subhanaw taala.
straight answer without studying without thinking without doing is to
know, My Lord is with me, He will guide me.
That's all this is dependence.
This is reliable. And nowadays Subhanallah the slightest thing the slightest predicaments we have. And we don't see the way out in front of our eyes. Oh my god, what am I going to do? Just because we can see the way out.
You believe in this right? He'll provide you from where you least expected, this provision may be money. It may be well, this provision may be
a pious wife, a pious husband. And this is the best provision, right?
His provision may not be something tangible.
He might provide you with a man. And this is the greatest
to provide you with faith with patients with reliance on him, as in the famous story of someone who lost all of his
limbs, essentially his hearing and his seeing and his hands and legs and so on. But he still had a tongue that was mentioning Allah and he said, Oh Allah, I am praising you for still allowing me to praise you and to remember you and to mention you. And this is the greatest risk, Allahu Allah
willing to work around Allah. So hustle
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Indeed, Allah will accomplish his purpose. There's another recitation and it is the recitation of the rest other than
indeed Allah will accomplish his purpose.
Allah has already set for everything and decreed extend what ever Allah subhanaw taala wills, brothers and sisters, it will happen
no matter what if everyone in the universe comes together to stop something Allah decreed they will not be able to stop it.
Everything that he wills will happen, the ones who are being divorced, the ones who are in these situations, it is most important for them to remember these things. Also, Allah if he decreed something it will happen in Allah valuable. For the ones who have doubt Subhan Allah, look at the wisdom. If someone has doubt
that Allah subhanaw taala will indeed make a way out.
How will you make a will? I don't understand. People will ask the question. Why? Because it's the means. The means have totally dominated over their thinking. They don't see the way out. They're just looking at the means. You tell them brother, sister, Allah will make our way through. I don't understand how precisely you don't understand. But it will happen. Allah will accomplish his purpose. in Allahabad
there's no doubt about this. And this is part of the appeal of the Muslim that whatever Allah subhanaw taala wills it will happen and he will accomplish it and whatever he doesn't win will not happen no matter what
a done Allah, Allah. Allah has already set for everything and decreed extend
Subhan Allah how does this also apply to the divorce?
I'll tell you, but
this can apply in the general sense right? Everything Allah subhanaw taala has made
and this is why even Cassia and others said that this is similar to the other if we're just saying that Allah subhanaw taala decrees everything with other like soil to come on what is the if
everything was created to a different extent or for a certain decreed extent. So everything has a cause of everything has decreed extent or a timeless decreed and so on. Alone equally Schengen has already said this is also important for these same people, depending on Allah waiting for a whale when is the
Brother sister Wait, it will happen.
The solution is honestly, just be patient when when it happened.
Number one, they don't know when it's going to happen. They don't know how it went up. And you don't know when it's going to happen. Everything has a decree this John Allah is equally shaped everything is by the will of data and to a decreed extent
I conclude by telling you
part of the national dimension mentioned and see if I can we,
you mentioned this idea of Allah, Allah is one of the ideas that have miracles in it. And that is
in its location,
coming with respect to these verses, for the job of not only coalition
it speaks to
and about many of the things that we discussed in the last two times in the deceit that Allah has made into creating stuff. But this has different meanings, because of the scanner has different meanings. One of the things to understand from it, is that it is speaking about the fact that someone may ask, Well, why is
this long? Why is it three cycles? Why is it four months and 10 days? In the case of the husband dying and other questions?
Allah has made everything
with a certain extent, this is also one of the meanings of Kedah, that it is, it is made with a certain extent and for a certain extent, this waiting period has been made this way, by the wisdom of Allah subhana wa.
It also speaks to those people who seek to transgress the limits of Allah
whoever transgresses the limits of Allah, as we mentioned last time, Allah says, Allah will equally say if it's a warning, it's like when Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said to the youth, whom they
thought was the the jet, you know the story, the famous story, they thought that was the jet, the jet, you don't know the story, okay. Briefly,
there was a youth at the time of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. And they thought he was the jet.
when he came to Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon them, and he told them to say some of what he had or what he knew. So, he mentioned
and he was talking about the beginning of swords and Doohan.
But he was working with whom the Jin Jin are trying to listen and all they got was do not do. So he said, find the
Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him then knew that he is cooperating with the shale clean,
he will not doubt
he will not be successful, he is saying
that, that Allah has decreed for you similarly here, it is a warning. Allahu equally saying,
Be careful all you want to transgress the limits of Allah subhanho wa taala.
For those people who are in this predicament of divorce, and have problems with their wife or with their husband, and they are waiting for that, for that way out, when is the way out or the Jehovah
Allah has made adequate extent for it. So
be patient with it, all of these things. So, all of these meanings Subhanallah they can come
and they can be applicable after these verses coming in this specific location.
These verses SubhanAllah.
When we talk about these verses and the importance of these verses for people who have problems, you might think well,
probably I'll find these verses in one of the napkin chapters, right, because it has to do with
but it comes in the sort of sorted
and that may be surprising in the beginning, but it's not surprising after we understand the concept of the importance of juxtaposing
the injunctions of Allah subhanaw taala with aqidah and remembering Allah subhanho wa Taala and fearing Allah subhanaw taala and depending upon Allah subhanaw taala So, it has come
with relevance to those who may be most or one of the ones who most need these verses and these glad tidings and those are the people who are going through marital problems, may Allah subhanaw taala help us a new and bless our homes and our families and give us understanding and accept from me and you inshallah Baraka Luffy come back
any questions or comments?
meant upon divorce and
what should I do?
Once a person or last name
in that situation is better for you?
Because you cannot get to your parents, and you can get another one.
Really, that is why me
if the lady,
you said we didn't have any problem between us, then of course, you should not, you should not divorce?
and he was also saying that, I don't think that my wife has got any issues doing anything wrong,
then they should not the other scholars have been asked this question. And the answer is,
if there is a valid religious reason for divorcing her, and her your parents are telling you to divorce her for that reason, then you should obey your parents. And this also will
please your parents and your parents pleasure is most important. And indeed, you can get married to another wife. If,
however, even that story
this is because it was given.
That's why the said when the man was asking, should he divorce his wife, as in the story of Satan sent
to divorce his wife, right?
He said, If your father is like a lot and you are like, divorce your wife, otherwise, you should not. If there is a religious reason to divorce her. Yes. If they are asking you to divorce her because of their whim.
You should not divorce.
especially if she has not done anything wrong. Or she is not she doesn't have a religious problem, then no. But otherwise, yes. Now.
This is after getting married. What about before you really want her but your parents don't?
In that case, it is better to follow to accept your parents opinion.
Unless she is something else, even on the religious level.
But if it's just that, okay, you know, she's good and I think it would work out you're not absolutely sure. Religiously she's okay. Then no. And that might cause problems later on. If your parents are objecting to her in the first place and your obedience to your parents in this situation in sha Allah will be a blessing for you in finding someone better in that situation. Again, I say unless she is something else and even on the religious level, okay. In that case, you can try to convince them in different ways and bringing someone
knowledgeable scholar or someone have any knowledge or merit and so on to try to convince your parents but after being married, just divorcing for no reason. No religious reason. No, Allah
Yeah, it's not not.
Breaking family ties like this is not something easy.
happens a lot. It happens a lot
I don't think it applies here.
Not happening here.
yeah, that's true. The weather is correct, but it'll affect some parents have
totally skewed standards for judging the wife. They're just looking at cultural basis. And sometimes they are refusing the wife just because she's probably not another nationality, another tribe.
She's from the same country with a different tribe for Allah sake, what are you talking about? What is this? Where are we bringing this Subhanallah this this rottenness, nationalism and so on. This is this is also true, there are parents who are or maybe judging on other things, they're not judging based on religious merit. Now, this is why I say if the girl is most worthy
on religious merit, try not to let her go even if your parents are against by
trying to convince them by
like I said, maybe talking to some of their friends, someone they respect, who is also supporting you, you can try to bring them and so on. In that case, you can really try it and ultimately, a person does this they have they consult Allah subhanaw taala and they fear Allah subhanaw taala so that he will make a way out for them.
that's very unrealistic, unfortunately. And
we have a lot of lettuce, we have a lot of cultural baggage. baggage is a nice word. Sometimes I like to call it cultural trash, because literally, that's what it is. No, I'm serious. I mean, Frank, and this is not. This is not to be disrespectful to culture, but disrespectful to culture that goes against religion. Yes. That is cultural trash in that case.
And a lot of these cultural, you know,
Ahsoka called norms
take people far away from the religion. And they until today, many people exist, who do not like Islam, because of what they saw of culture, which they thought was Islam.
It's very, there are a lot. And it takes someone with understanding to tell them, No, this is not Islam. This is your culture. But Islam does not
condone this. Allah. Allah subhanaw taala. Guide us.
India, you mean? Yeah.
I mean, it is definitely against the Islamic way. Definitely against the Islamic way.
Yeah, everything that is done in Islam, done with the wisdom, five, it goes, it goes against that wisdom Allah. Definitely. This is not the way to do it. And Muslims in India should feel no obligation whatsoever to do with the way it's done. They their culture is flat. In fact, they should feel obligated to do it the appropriate way. And this is the Islamic way. And the wisdom.
it's all about giving think marriage is about quid pro quo, right? It's all about exchange.
That's why you have certain rights and obligations upon the men and certain rights and obligations upon the woman.
let us call it privilege that the man has is the privilege of divorce.
Now you are giving him the privilege of divorce.
You are giving him the privilege of por la.
He is the so called head of the family.
And he also given the privilege of the dowry, the gift that came from the woman what is left for the woman
one of the greatest things about the dollar
that it is
it has been given to the woman to balance that, if you look at it in its entirety, you will find that marriage this Islamic marriage is is balanced, they have tipped that balance, in addition to the fact that the dowry takes into consideration the personality of the woman, and the woman in her nature,
likes, gifts and who doesn't like gifts, and the woman likes
jewelry, right as Allah says, Our noona shelf
is talking about women as if they are being raised in a heavier being jewelry and being endowed with it and so on. That is something in their nature. dowry is a gift.
Literally, it is a gift. This is why the other word in the Quran is
it is a gift to the woman
when you are married,
and now you have reversed that this has tipped the balance. And it will have an effect on the marriage, I guarantee
the dowry when it's done right.
And not according to cultural baggage. The cultural baggage now is that we have what is called
I don't give her the dowry upfront, if I divorced her, or if I die or something else, or I tried to face after two or three decades, when the relationship has maybe deteriorated, maybe it's still good Insha Allah, but after so long, look at that, when we do nowadays, and look at the person who gave the dowry up front here, this is my gift to you a certain amount of money, or maybe it's jewelry, or gifts or whatever it may be looking at the difference, giving that gift in the very beginning from the first day of marriage,
it will help and serve its purpose
and the effect on the woman probably throughout your life.
This is part of the wisdom of the dowry, and now we have reversed it in India. And
it is being given to the men instead.
Tell you what,
a disastrous consequence of this. And it's not in the marriage.
There are families who are practicing what
in order to know
what isn't normal Buddha to see what is
the incense being varied. The female infants when they used to be buried in India, they are practicing this maybe not maybe not very okay. Or they're killing.
Part of it is financial responsibility.
I have three daughters, I have to marry them all I have to give them
the killing. Because of this.
When you go against the the curriculum that Allah subhanaw taala has placed, everything falls apart. This whole universe
it is standing literally on the laws that Allah subhanaw taala has placed
everything is there with imbalance Islam is there to balance everything in our life. Once you start going against those injunctions, you are tripping all of these balances. And this is a recipe for disaster may Allah azza wa jal guide us
to implementing the religion, may Allah azza wa jal
keep us alive to see this religion in sha Allah,
glorified and being applied by Muslims. And by the ones who are leading Muslims in sha Allah, Allah seems powerful Muhammad, Allah Allah Allah