Silent Demands of Youth 02 – Jumuah .03.06.2020

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To begin,

we discussed last week, the silent demands of the youth, and how some in our times

say that the US demand require five things that they would be in very difficult standing without, and they were called the five C's.

The first of them we covered it already was that of competence.

We don't instill in our youth invest in our youth, and in their skill set, they will become irrelevant. And we said this is different from confidence. Because the problem is that when you're confident without skills, it becomes even worse.

And so to actually be skilled, though, we will revisit confidence later is very important. And we've had some times we fall short in this because we are limiting ourselves. Instead of discovering what their strengths are and helping them master them. We decide automatically what their strength has to be, which is unfair.

Because that may never be their potential. And people have different potentials. And so our job is to basically set them in their right direction for them, not for us.

The second we said was the need to feel connected.

And we said through family and we spoke about how that mitigates so many problems, statistically speaking and otherwise, and through the masjid, which is the second family and it should be we're so many things that the household may lack could be supplemented here in the massages. And then we said the OMA at large that you are part of a great nation a great OMA that Allah azza wa jal chose and privileged. And we said the history of the OMA is extremely important as well and OMA of great all throughout history, so that they are not bogged down by the fact that the OMA is certainly going through a period of weakness that makes it hard for a person to want to connect, when all they see

is the status quo, the present condition here and now. Today, we begin with the third of the five C's, the third of the positive youth development necessity. And this is the sea of character, character. Character is the most important one of the five. It's especially for our times. This is the gaping hole in all of the theories, even though that the the importance of us developing the right character, the right personality, the right principles.

Because they see that in theory, they don't know how to apply that in the most important sense of the word sometimes. So what do we mean by character? We mean having structure on how you see things and how you do things. You're a person of clarity. That's what we mean, you have a defined character.

And this should never mean just manners, not just your dealings with your people even before how you deal with people. Character is how you deal with yourself. How do you see yourself how do you see your relationship with the world how you understand your existence?

That is a very, very important part. Why?

Because

So many of the faulty expectations people have set them up for a life of turbulence. Like, if I don't accept that I am here for a very specific reason I know why I'm here. And I know exactly what I'm supposed to live by. At least I have the ideal it is clear for me unless I have these things where I'm going where I'm supposed to be going, if I don't have these things, I'll be playing trial and error. I'll be experimenting my whole life

and that will fill our lives with frustration.

You know, even the blessing of being told in our deen not just our purpose, why we're here, not just told our guidance, what we need to live by. But we're even told in our Islam what we should expect to face what I will face that is a humongous blessing.

When Allah as those incense, for example, led to Villa woonona, three M one equal one physical, you will be tried in your wealth and in your own lives. Whether that's my own nomina Lavina O'Toole keytab, I'm incognito. Wamena, Latina as yaku as and Kathy Roth, and you will hear from the people that receive scriptures before you and from the idolaters are the polytheist many annoyances you're gonna hear a lot of stuff from them, lots of offenses gonna happen a lot, don't you, you will surely be tested in this and this and here that you will hear a lot of this. Allah says nKC era where insults Bureau was itself who and your only resort is was if you are patient, and you are conscious

of Allah in the valley, Kameena as Middlemore this is of the very virtuous face of a state of affairs. This is a matter that requires great determination, just embrace that.

You know, the expectation that somehow one day people are all going to like me,

that is a very, very faulty way to look at the world, especially at a time when Muslims are in the state that they're in. And this was the case for most of the time, which one of the prophets lived in a Muslim majority population, which one of the prophets of Allah was politically dominant?

You can heart you can hardly find any, almost none use the valets dilemma at the end of his life, there was an elite dilemma, the exception, the rule is always was that they faced lots of pushback, they face lots of counter pressures, counter forces in their lives. And so Allah is telling them, you're just going to have to stick in your skin

so that you're not broken, you're not brought to your knees know that it's just gonna happen. It's over. It's done with stop trying to imagine a perfect world that is not meant for this world. That in and of itself is a huge asset for character development, you know, for our youth to bring this down to the youth, for our youth to say, You know what, I'm not here to cater to you. I'm not my world does not revolve around you. I am not your slave. I don't drool at your feet until you're pleased with me.

That in a in a way is a problem for so many youth nowadays looking for validation from everyone. And it will never happen.

Especially if you're a person who wants to be committed to Islam committed to the religion of Allah azza wa jal, it's not trending at all. It gets the lion's share of bad press.

So for you to accept that that's who I am. I'm a person that does not beg people for validation. You know, I made many, many parallels last week with the

the abolitionist of the civil rights movement, and Malcolm X Rahim, Allah and otherwise, even before Malcolm,

Harriet Tubman, who's known as the one who built the so called Underground Railroad, it was basically a bunch of safe houses that you would sneak people out of slavery to escape slavery through it. They say she freed 70 people, sometimes you freed 1000 people. This is where the historian to debate, but it is said that she used to say she used to say, I saved 1000 People

1000 slaves, that will be underground system, right? She said and I could have saved 1000 more. If only they knew they were slaves.

They kind of internalized and accepted that they have to be like this.

They could no longer imagine the world any other way.

That's why many years later, when the civil rights movements were starting, Malcolm Rahim Allah he used to always tell people he would chain people and he would say them which which type of black person are you? He used to draw this this parallel? He would call it the house Negro in the field negro. He says Do you know the difference between a house Negro and a field v grow? The house Negro is very submissive. So we can be inside his Masters House, he gets to wear some nicer clothes. He always gets the worse and nicer shoes and he doesn't cause any problems so you can be inside the house. Whereas the field Negro review

chooses to allow his master to think that I am not the threat.

He refuses to back down so he has to stay in the field. He would say which one is the true slave, you pick for yourself. Likewise, the Muslim says, I'm not your slave, I'm not going to cater to you. Because that would be slavery and I don't belong to you.

That type of I don't want to use the word existential, but the character development that begins that understanding my existence, that is the key to so much strength.

What does it mean to behave the way that I behave?

Malcolm Rahim Allah himself used to always say you have to stand for something What are your principal or LT that you'll fall for everything? You'll be a handkerchief and everybody's hands. You know, in the Quran, we find this regarding the youth

that were in the cave, the youth and social care that fled persecution before their beliefs to the cave, Allah azza wa jal said in Nahum Fithian and obey Him in the home Ghana fitness, 52 m and Robbie Medina, Hamada. They were young men that believes in their Lord. And so Allah increase them in guidance. May Allah make all of our youth that way. But what did they do?

Historian thing, these people were princes, they were the children of the Royal class.

You know, the Royal class because of their extravagant lifestyle, it is harder for them to sacrifice than anybody else, because they're so used to comfort so used to luxury.

And so Allah azza wa jal said, because of their Eman, we gave them the determination to sacrifice we increase them in guidance, we enabled them to do what people that had a harder life even couldn't do. Meaning the odds were stacked against these youth, they may have had the most difficult time because of their upbringing, because of their background sacrifice. But somehow they're able to sacrifice because the heart of character development is your conviction, Allah Azza Allah subhanho wa sallam.

That's what it's all about.

And so they're able to leave the palaces and go sleep on the cold, hard floor of the cave. Because they were youth who believed in their Lord. And so he increased them and guidance in that way to kind of hold on to Allah.

And so for our youth, and just the part of it, to accept that the road is not going to be easy to accept that.

Not everyone's gonna like me, no matter how hard I try to be a golden citizen, there will still be people out there that are victims of their ignorance, what they don't know about me, there will still be people out there, that even if they know who I am, and how well I behave and how ethical I am with others, they'll still be prejudiced because I look different, because I speak different because I believe different. These people will always exist. So that's if that's my destiny, then that's my destiny. Is it my destiny is that people don't like me, so be it.

Didn't the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam say to a young man, he said to the youth, did he tell them something that that they couldn't understand? Of course, he was telling them something if I could understand. He was saying to someone in that age, the way we should say to the youth that young, as he said to even I bet that young man,

the whole world wants to collaborate against you, they won't be able to harm you in any way, except in a way that Allah has written for you. Isn't that part of what he told him? Didn't he tell him depends have lifted, so be it right? That mentality comes from the pens have lifted, the ink has dried on the pages, it's over. Once you lose hope in that, you are able to find the determination to live a life who have some tunnel tunnel vision to do whatever it takes.

You know, interestingly, in the life of the Prophet salallahu, alayhi wasallam, it will always be us that spoke up first.

Sometimes they had to be reined in by the elders for their wisdom, but they were always the ones ready to sacrifice ready to have determination.

They were the quickest to believe.

And, and we need our youth to be like that as well. Whether in our families or in our massages.

We need their courage, we need their strength, we need their determination, but that has to be grounded in their faith or else it could self destruct.

As you know, the poet's he says, Wayne lamea could omit Allah He did better can our domain engineer he had to, if Allah doesn't direct the energy of the young person, the very first thing to do him in will be his own strength. Because we're so forceful, we're so strong in that age, that it could cause us harm against ourselves. Before the battle of vendors, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the Muslims as you know, they were expelled from Mecca and they had to leave in a rush because they were not

It was voluntary those escaping persecution.

Two years into their stay in Medina, they heard that a caravan was passing by near Medina. So they went to confiscate this caravan. I mean, it only accounts for half of what was taken from them in Mecca when they had to leave. There do right. So when they went to do that they thought they would catch the caravan off guard. And they would greatly outnumber the caravan and just take it as

a scout was on to them informed the MCKINNEY They sent forth an army of 1900 to 1000 soldiers, and the Muslims were only about 316 317 On that day.

So the night before the battle, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, Ushiro Allah, you have none so people tell me what do you think?

And so what are the Allahu Anhu and amaro de la anhu, consecutively, they're always the first

they rose and they said, We're with your sword Allah. Let's do it. And each time the Prophet SAW Salem would, you know, commend them acknowledge them for their statements. But still, he was waiting for something. And a young man notices. This young man was saddened in my eyes about the Allahu Anhu sad that bin Laden did not die in this battle at Orinoco, he died years later also in the lab at 37 years old. So this is a young man, surrounded by elders, he's in his early 30s At the start of his life, as they say

that advisors can negatory do Naraku Allah rasool Allah says, if you're waiting for us, you see because it will work and Omar from the Mexicans and the Americans were only a small amount of those 300. So even if the Mexicans are down to fight, it doesn't it's not the majority or anywhere close to it.

It's a quarter or less of the army. And so he says you probably are waiting for us to speak out for the law. You want to make sure that people from Medina, the Ansari are in agreement with it. Here's the Rasul Allah do you think that we may not stand by your side because of the promise we gave you?

Because they told him that also Allah come to Medina and we will not have anyone attack you. So technically outside of Medina, we don't have to defend you. That's what the letter of the contract says.

Do you think we're not going to defend you?

They certainly are Rasul Allah, national airman because of the Connect we believed in you and we accept everything you say is true.

Well, husband has to Allah Danika. Who then Allah see kinda you took our promise on that. It's not because of the technicalities of a contract. We believe in you. They said yeah, that's what Allah

do whatever you want. He says go where you want to march forward, forth where you want to stop where you want, make allies with who you want, sever ties with who you want. That's what he told them. He said to him, take from our wealth, what you want leads for us what you want, what you take is more beloved to us than what you leave. The professional speech writer, a beautiful orator. He says hello, unless the bass I can help. I swear by the one who sent you the truth if you walk into the ocean and we're going to walk in after you

and don't be afraid we are true men on the battlefield. We are as tough as they come. And maybe Allah will show you tomorrow something from us that will please you.

And so the prophets of Allah Allah Islam was overjoyed by the statements of a young man

who understood the simple clear

understanding that is pure guidance from Allah azza wa jal that gives you such clarity in your life to see in a uni directional way when it comes to faith when it comes to existence when it comes to this world and the next May Allah grant us and our youngsters that Allahumma Alameen wa sallahu wa barakaatuh Vienna mushroom

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I am determined to dedicate our next hope bow to the elders in Salah. So Allah so allow me to finish very quickly the last two of the five C's and they are caring and confidence. We need to ensure that our youth are caring.

They are caring, they don't live in alternative reality. They don't live in a video game world. They don't live with cold hearts after us. And we need to make sure that our youth are confident

being caring will only really happen

if they have received proper care. If they have not received enough of it. They're not going to be able to extend much of it. You know that our deen made it a requirement in order to receive Allah's mercy to be merciful in his creation. That's a given. But it was especially emphasized mercy with the youngsters

because it has an extra important role when it comes to youngsters and youngsters are not just children. Though you can never start too early with something like this. You know, can you consider that our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

said to allow cavagna habits in the hadith is very famous when he saw him kissing one of his grandsons. He said to me, rasool Allah like I have 10 Boys, I don't use any of them. Meaning that's not how you're supposed to treat men. That's how you raise real men, you got to make them tough. He said to him, LM legal encounter partners Allah who can be Kurama How can I possibly help you? What can I offer you If Allah has plucked the mercy from your heart?

So this calls our attention, something very important, not just mercy and the importance of mercy because we all have mercy for our children, we will have mercy for our family members.

Expressing mercy acts of affection

is the secret here. That's the challenge for a lot of us sometimes. You know, sometimes with girls that might be slightly easier because it's obvious. But then with boys, we show boys extra toughness, though we want our boys to be tough, but toughness is not instilled in our boys in our young men, by withholding sensitivity. That actually backfires. Studies show this backfires you know, the huge studies out of Stanford University.

A famous researcher his name was Albert Bandura. He wrote a book in the 60s, about how adolescents aggression the youth that are aggressive and winds up in jails in juvenile detention centers, and then prison, those that commit the crimes the most crimes, crimes of aggression. They all seem to lack paternal affection, affection from their men, the male side of the family or fathers or grandfathers, their uncle.

And so when you when you show insensitivity to the youth, men don't cry concept our Prophet SAW Selim had the most tender heart ever where this comes from you don't know. Yes, instill some toughness, but not in a way that doesn't show sensitivity.

And then of course, caring is not just about being sensitive. Caring is also about showing them that you are proud of them, showing them validation, expressing that is very hard for some of us. Maybe it just wasn't the way that we were raised. But it's the way the prophets often called us to. That is his way from Allahu Allahu wa sallam didn't he say about that Hassan

in Ebony has a say yes, well, Allah Allah useless. We'll be hearing about if attaining them meaning this son of mine, meaning his grandson is achieved. He's a leader. He's a born leader. And Perhaps Allah will rectify reconcile with him two warring factions of the believers. How do you think that makes him feel to hear someone say that about him?

Even in a gathering of men, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when his daughter would enter, and this was not socially acceptable, normal. He would say more haben dignity welcome my daughter. Welcome. Come in. How do you think that made her feel? validated in any gathering?

Abdulla had neuroma Radi Allahu Anhu. Ma said one time we were sitting in a gathering with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and we asked him all the questions. He said, What is the tree that is most resembling of the believer? There's a tree that is

very much like the believer.

He said, and people mentioned different trees, types of trees that are found in the desert.

They mentioned a number of desert trees. And I felt inside me that it was the NASA it was the data tree, the date palm tree, but I didn't want to speak because they were working on what are their the elders are there I can't speak.

So eventually, after they all put forward their guesses the Prophet sallallahu alayhi. wasallam said, in the hands of Allah, it's the date palm tree. He says when we walked out, I said to my father, oh, my father, I said to Omar, I knew it was the date palm tree. And he said, Why didn't you say,

lo and behold the hair. Canada had the ilium in Canada or Canada, because oh man, you don't know how much it would have pleased me for you to say that my voice said. Right.

And so he said to him speak if you have something to say you say is to validate him among elders in that way while teaching them how to speak while teaching them to wait their turn while teaching them respect. That of the ways to show you care about them, you validate them their existence.

And the last one very quickly,

is confidence. And confidence is a big one. But you we need to always recognize that our youth that we see in the massages By Allah's grace, we have them with us that we have at home maybe they can see through empty complements.

And they get dissatisfied. They're not satisfied at some level at some age.

At some point they no longer satisfied even with genuine compliments. Like even if you're honestly proud of them, they don't really care. Why? Because there is a part of confidence that only comes with not with kind words not with flattery, not with compliments. But with me feeling like I did something, I achieved something.

A part of confidence has to come see, I accomplished this, I succeeded.

And the only way to allow our youth to see success to themselves become confident because of something they felt they did is that we have to learn how

to let our youth fail. And this sounds crazy.

Most people don't know how to let the youth fail.

If they just let them fail and the ugly sense of the words, right, they're totally negligent of their youth, it's uncalculated and it becomes a disaster. Right? When you just let them figure it out, no, they need you desperately.

But at the same time, if you don't allow them in a calculated way, to fail and feel accountable for their failures, they'll never feel accountable for their success, they won't feel like it's my success. Like if you don't let go of the steering wheel, he's not gonna believe that he's driving. You have to give them some room to possibly fail in something not too dangerous. So he feels like I embarked on the risk and I got it done. That is the type of confidence they look for.

And Subhan Allah, the perfect example and our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. It is amazing how a human being this could only be through divine guidance that the Prophet SAW Selim could be the master of every field of every character tree. This perfect balance was found in him.

And I'll end with that. Some of these aides are the Allah who I know that the dearest people to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

He was called the ship of new ship, the beloved, the son of the Beloved, like, you filter out everyone is beloved to the province awful and when he comes out on top, he can tend to that Hassan and Hussein his grandson, who used to carry them together. He was the son of David inhabited adopted son of the Prophet SAW Phillip, hardly anyone on the face of the earth earned that love.

When he was young, younger,

the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent him and a bunch of Muslims on a expedition, a military expedition. We went to a place for some people from a photo op, he says, and there was a missionary command that did so much damage to the Muslim. He was killing Muslims left and right. Until finally, Allah gave us victory. He ran mean and I'm sorry man chasing down and then he falls under a tree. And he says that in a Mullah.

As we stood over him, he said that Ilaha illa Allah so the Ansari man pulled his arm back, but I couldn't. I didn't. And I pointed my spear into him and I killed.

News of this got back to Medina. They told the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he goes back to Medina he admits it. He goes and tells it himself. He finds out the province often them had heard it already. Even though he went he was not hiding it because I felt uneasy about it.

So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to me, I felt bad and called Allah either Hey, Lavon killed him after he said that, you know, hey, Mama, is it Yeah, rasool Allah Kadam was I was and he was just trying to protect himself. And so obviously he just killed all of us. The moment we're about to give him some feedback is that you know, hey, Lola is can you said I shall talk to uncle Vinny? Did you open his heart to know if he said it out of fear of death or not? Did you open his heart?

And so, Sam eventually back down. And he said, stuff with me are Salalah I also love seek forgiveness. We ask Allah to forgive you. You know you would think the Prophet SAW Selim immediately would raise his hand Talia ALLAH forgive him. Yeah, Allah.

Except from him. Yeah, Allah, the ocean of mercy. That is the Prophet SAW Salem.

held him accountable because it was definitely rasool Allah, the province often then just kept repeating. The key from last night will be that you know, hey, Lola, Elijah Tillman piano, what are you going to do? Let you know hit a low and it comes with a of judgment. Here's Leila. Hey, Lola, because he also will seek forgiveness from me because what are you going to do with that, you know, hit Allah when it comes to the Day of Judgment? How are you going to face that? And you keep saying that Osama said, Until I wished that I had not become Muslim except that day.

So that I can start all over. I wish I had not become Muslim until that day.

So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam held him accountable for his mistake for his failure. And also not only but the Prophet SAW film did not allow Santa to see himself or the community to see him as defined by his mistake. How do we know that

didn't allow him to get crippled because of that huge mistake he made. The very last army are prophets often themselves before he died was called J Xu Santa was led by Osama disease. And Osama on that later day was 17 years old. And

he still had him at the forefront once you own this mistake, once he admitted it, once he felt sorry for it. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam did not dismiss him because of it. And that is the key to the success of our youth to give them room to make a little bit of mistake and to hold them accountable, but to not cancel them because of it.

May Allah guide us to the guidance of the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam and protect our youth and raise their ranks among the Lumina when was the man well I mean our minute or is that it's not also loosely mean assume Audubon. Our hand Alterna or sal Allahu Allah barakaatuh b&m Muhammad rather early he was thought to be useful

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