Manners Of The Salaf #06 Refuse Vengeance and Vanity

Mohammad Elshinawy


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Early he was here Jermaine. We begin the name of Allah All Praise and Glory be to Allah homies finest peace and blessings be upon His messenger Muhammad and his family and his companions and all those who adhere to his guidance, may Allah better us in our adherence to his guidance and because of our adherence to his guidance, Allah whom I mean. So welcome back to manners of the setup manners of the early Muslims, as we continue to

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sit in the shade of their splendid manners and see demonstrated so many of the values of Islam we so much more often hear about, then see

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the two themes for tonight in the sections that I'm going to try to summarize in sha Allah, one of them is very much related and would have been perhaps better included in last week's discussion, which is about the awful of the self, meaning they're forgiving nature and their refusal to be vengeful.

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So they would say no to vengeance.

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So we will conclude that section and then move on to the bulk of the topic that was intended for today, which is that they were not people a vanity either. And we will explain what vanity selfishness essentially looks like and how well they avoided it, and the inlets to it. So this first section, though, about no vengeance, the author Have you the whole law says yeah, a full network that Joe was doing and Enos they pardon and overlook people. And he says, and that should be the expectation of the self at least if not every Muslim, because Allah is I flew one of Allah's names that I flew, which means the one who pardoned something as if it never happened. And Allah hipbone

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if we know that he loves this from people, that famous dua, the Prophet alayhi salatu, was salam Tata insha, Allah, Juana Allahumma in Nikka foon to hipbone Alpha Phi Alpha One, Oh Allah, you are a fool to hipbone, fo and you love to see Apple, you love to perform apple and to see it from others you love apple.

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And also of the

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qualities that were foretold the the signature qualities that were foretold in earlier scriptures about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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Were those of his awful his great, awful, his great pardon. sallallahu alayhi wasallam there's a hadith here and slightly Buhari from Abdullah Abdullah Abdullah Abdullah so the Allahu Anhu Omar, Abdullah Ahmed, who was known to be a scholar of previous scriptures, or had great access to them at the very least.

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He narrates that artha mdsr Rahim Allah one time came to him this so heavy came to this so heavy and he asked him about what the description of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in the Torah.

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He said to him, you're so happy but you also have sort of access to the TelaDoc or what translations may exist of it or

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mouth to ear have been transmitted of it. What was he described within the Torah? So he said there's the words of ALLAH had an

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agile may not me so I will tell you what Allah He I swear by Allah, Inna hula mo su phone Fatah Verratti Viva la slifka de fille Quran He is described in the Quran with the some of the very same descriptions and qualities that exist in the Quran, Torah and Quran matchup. And then,

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and he recited the

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a passage from SUTA Liza via Johanna bu in our Santa Kashia he then one more question on 100 Prophet we have sent you as a witness over your nation, and a membership and extender of glad tidings, a bearer of glad tidings when a VIERA and a warner then that's the Quran Torah who matches up perfectly and that phrase, then he had some that he read in the Torah he says, in the Torah, it adds additionally, what he recently mean and you will be a means of great safety of safekeeping for the will mean meaning the unlettered people, and of course Arabia and the Arabs were largely illiterate, largely unlettered.

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And I believe you are solely You are my servant and my messenger. This is an it's IRA. Some may to Cal mutawa kin I have named you al mutawa kin, meaning the one that is truly reliant on God. supremely reliant.

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Allah then it describes him further and it says Lisa Byfuglien well I believe he is not harsh nor is he tough meaning with people unnecessarily right and they said, Well, firstly whatever values well as a Harbin, Phil as well, the nor is he the loud type in the markets. He's not obnoxious, he's not boisterous, he doesn't raise his voice in an irreverent manner laces a hub and fill as well. He never raises his he doesn't argue over prices. He doesn't argue with people over property. He's not in the, you know, in the tenacious race for worldly competition. He's not the type that raised his voice in the markets, while I add for OBC at least a year, nor does he reciprocate for evil with

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evil. Someone harms him he doesn't harm them right back. Well, I can rather meaning these normative behavior as what Yeah, I flew there this He pardons others, why else? And he turns a clean slate sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam.

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And I Aisha Radi Allahu anha. She said and she lived with the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam behind closed doors, men Takoma rasool Allah, He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and enough see here, that the messenger of God sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never avenged for himself ever. What does that mean? For personal reasons? Never did it. I mean, Salatu was Salam, in tune Takahama to Allah azza wa jal, unless a boundary of Allah who has violated meaning he would uphold the boundaries of Allah. Otherwise he would never act. He would never retaliate. He would never take up arms, he would never sort of lay his hand for personal reasons and a Salatu was Salam.

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In another narration or another wording, she said, Man Neela Amin who che on

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fire in Turkey moments are heavy, he was never sort of abused in a certain way. And then he avenged himself from that abuser in a new Intel cache Omen Mehari Mila fantasy Malila he Azerbaijan unless one of the bounds of Allah is violated, then he may avenge for Allah the mighty and majestic Subhana Allah to Allah.

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And it wasn't just him. You know, he called people to this on a salatu salam he said in the famous Hadith

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that was authenticated by Albania Rahim Allah. Akbar Tekna Ahmed or Aqua dynamin one of the great Sahaba Slidell, Mankato Iraq where Ottoman Hara neck wa for Amnon Volek. Keep ties with those who break ties with you.

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Someone sort of cold shoulder and you someone is stonewalling you you try to connect you try to restore ties with those who cut ties with you, what our team and how Domecq and give those who deprive you

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when sort of the tables turn is I didn't forget I was in my time of need and you know you acted like you're not able to help me well take a hike find someone else no he wouldn't do this. He will tell you a little demon How am I can give those even those who deprive you laugh for Amen Bala Mac and pardon those who wronged you, those who oppress you, you know even the Tamia Rahim Allah, I do want to share this. He mentioned something very important. He says whomever gets into the practice of avenging themselves, will inevitably, inevitably no way around it, he won't be able to avoid falling into transgression for like trespassing. You know why? Because when you're judging how much you

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should dish it back to someone, it is a conflict of interest. You're one of the two parties. So how can you qualify to be the judge? You're not the neutral objective third party, you're sort of the one arm so how can you be expected to be precise, to be fair? And so he said, whomever gets in the habit of avenging will automatically be of those who violates and oppresses.

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And that is why we keep saying your normative behavior technically. Are you allowed to get your personal rights back within justice? Theoretically, yes, but do you know how to calculate justice? Probably not. And if you keep thinking you can, you will inevitably fall out of bounds and become the oppressor and the oppressed.

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And he also said Sal, Allahu Allahu wa sallam to encourage this. When,

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when I said Allahu Akbar, then be careful in Isla Riza. And Allah never grants anything to a person that forgives except honor ability or only increases them in honor. That could mean this world as the scholar said, it could mean the next world but

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Do you always feel like it's humiliating to forgive? No. What will be humiliating is if you're the oppressor, what will be humiliating is if you had wished you forgave, but you didn't forgive others. And so now you're going to miss out on some of Allah's forgiveness, because that's also the exchange, right? I like to hipbone and yet Allahu Allah come when the mitzvah was among those who repeated the accusation against Aisha Radi Allahu anha Abu Bakr said, I'm never gonna help this guy again. He used to help him it was nephew. And then Allah said to him, don't stop doing good deeds because of people's bad deeds. Don't you wish that ALLAH forgive you, meaning forgive people so you

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may be forgiven by Allah subhanho wa Taala then when you look at the demonstration, so he was like this la Sato setup, and he encouraged others to be like this. And he incentivized and motivated them to be this way. And when you look at the amount of abuse he tolerated Ali Salatu was Salam.

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It is amazing Allah and the Hadith of the of Ns about the hola Juan, you know, he he says that we were once walking with the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam.

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And he was walking in on him was Budo Nigel, Ronnie Yun,

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valuable hasha he was wearing a Naja Ronnie, sort of a Buddhist meaning a cloak, from the Quran, that had like very rough trim, very rough trim. So like right here, the collar was like a rough fabric. And so a Bedouin man, some guy who does not know sort of the protocol with the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, very disrespectful man, uncouth man comes out of the desert, and he sees the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, or he hears that he's distributing money. And so he's saying, How come they got the night didn't get he must be like one of those kings, those tyrants who plays favoritism, so he doesn't ask questions as questions later he goes and he grabs the Prophet alayhi

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salatu salam from behind and snatches him by the neckline of his cloak that had a rough trim. And it says to the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam turned, and I could see the mark in his neck like it wasn't a light tug, it put a mark immediately in the neck of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam.

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And then when he turned from how hard it was snatch, he turned around, he said the man then said to him, yeah, Mohammed morally mean Melilla, he left the indec Oh, Mohammed, instruct them to give me from God's money that you're holding me it's not your money. Don't you forget it. Where's my chair? That's what he's trying to say.

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For alayka, Amara Allahu allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So he smiled, like I hear me and smiled. And then he instructed them, give them in the money, like he's head of state haven't executed, he gets executed. It's not what he did, right? He sort of tolerated that he doesn't know any better and most people are like this. And so I'm gonna give him the benefit of the doubt. Give him the money, give the man his money.

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And Javid and Abdullah the Allahu Taala and who narrates that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once went out to five people in direction of an edge the North Arabia and on their way back the the midday sun became too hot and so this is normal. You step aside find some shade in the midday. You don't travel during this time. So there's the

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stopped in a valley that had many trees, the narration says

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thorny trees. And so the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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came off his mouth, they came off their mouth, everyone went to find it a tree that actually had some shade. And as the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi salam set his sword upon a tree, he hung it. And then he sat down to kneel his head on his Salatu was Salam and get some rest for a short while.

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We all did the same, and all of a sudden the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is calling us come come. He's calling the sahaba.

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And when we rushed over to him, we saw that with him, was in Arabi and other Bedouin men.

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And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, This man pulled my sword on me while I was sleeping. And so I awoke, while in his hand was the unsheath sword.

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And he said to me, many I'm now Kemeny,

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who will?

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Protect you from me?

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So I said Allah, three times. I reiterated Allah, Allah, Allah.

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And so the man threw down the sword. This could have been part of the Divine aid the unseen aid that was given to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in a supernatural way Allah Allah caused the man's hand to freeze and him to have to throw down the sword

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And so, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam picked up the sword now his own sword, he retrieved it. And he said, We're many I'm now Kemeny and who will protect you now from me.

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So he said to me, I'm Mohammed Khan Hydra Asad. Oh, Muhammad, like be the bigger man.

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Don't be like me

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and so the prophets, Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam invited him to Islam. And he said, No, but I will never join any people that fight against you. And in some narrations, he said, You are better than me. And therefore I promise you, I will never fight you. And so he let him go on. He's salatu salam, and he returned to his people. And in some narrations outside of second body, not as well established, but they

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have some traceability to them that were narrated by the wealthy.

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He went back to his people and in that time, where he felt not pressured, he became Muslim and many of his fellow people became Muslim because he went to them and said, to culminate in the laziness, I have come to you from just being with the best human being ever. He noticed that from the magnitude of his forgiveness, la salatu. Salam, his magnanimous character. And so these were the Prophet himself. And then there's the Sahaba you know, this, this is an incident here in front of us that he cites It's a well known incident that if not Best Narrative, now best you know, is in the Council of Ramadan club is Advisory Council, and he was one of the only young people in the Advisory Council.

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Another one of the young people was an herb nutcase. Rahim Allah. So heard of NACA is

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had an uncle, a notable uncle, whose name was Ariana Nelson.

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Long story short, the uncle Archana comes to his nephew and her and he says, You have good standing with this man, Omar Khalifa. Right? He said, Can you get me to sit down with him? I must meet him. He said I'll try. And so he wants to follow him and Tom said of course are you know, can can come and so as soon as Ariana walks in,

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he enters upon Omar, he says he have no hubbub. So Allah He met Athena, we'll just let let off Linnell just while attacking Bill Adam. He said there you are Omar meaning you're you can't hide from us anymore. I'm about to give it to you straight. he disrespects me at the moment he meets him. He says to him, You don't give us enough you don't spend on us enough. And you don't judge between us fairly. So his nephew feels horrible, of course, that I sort of set up this mess. So unheard of no case jumps in. And he was a scholarly young man. And he saw that Omar was about to beat this guy up

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for accusing him without grounds for it. And so he said to him yet um, you don't mean oh commander of the believers, Allah the Most High said to the Prophet who the lafa What motivated Rofi ninja he didn't take the way of pardon. Let that be your practice and command what's good, and ignore the foolish. Ignore the foolish. He said and this guy is for sure one of the foolish his uncle. This guy, I'll testify he's one of the foolish

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but he says the narrator says Wallah. He was a role model he in a tele alley and I swear to you, or Omar did not sort of overstep that boundary the moment he heard it, when he hears the boundary of Allah and the Ayat of Allah, he stops dead in his tracks. What can our coffin in Nikita villa, and Omar was the type that would stop on a dime if we can use today's lingo would stop always when it came to the book of Allah azza wa jal, he would never

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knowingly violate the boundary of Allah this is why we're studying this right it's not horrible talk people live like this and we should too.

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Robbie Abdullah Hussein Rahim Allah one time

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was struck in the head with a big rock that split his head open a big gash in his head. So he began to wipe the blood from his head and say Allah Who not Fila who for inner who let me at an unmet any unmet need

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he would say Oh ALLAH forgive him because he did not intend me that was accidental. And Omar Abdulaziz Rahim Allah used to say min cough Allah let me Ashfield Eva, whomever fears Allah will not satisfy his reach will not sort of just carry out what however he wants to carry it out. You have no restraint that means you have no fear of Allah azza wa jal

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and finally the off

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There ends the chapter with an important Hadith about how often we should opt out of vengeance not avenge ourselves.

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Abdullah Hebner, Omar Radi Allahu Anhu. Uma said a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and said Dr. Rasool Allah or messenger of God KAMNA flew on in Ha dim. How many times should we forgive our servants so our servants mess up?

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They burn the food, they burn us with the food.

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They whatever it may be right, they steal from how many times should we forgive the servant fell Summit.

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So he felt silent until the man insisted to repeat the question he insisted on receiving an answer. So till he said to him sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or for Anhu fee Coolio min Sabrina Mara

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forgive him each day 70 times what does that mean?

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Stop counting that's what it means are you really

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are you know even number 71 You missed the boat boy

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Okay, we're done with

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the rest of the flight

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Zach a little later. So we said no vengeance and know what

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no vanity. You know, vanity means vanity means to be vain. You know, it means to be vain.

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means to think you're larger than life. Right? It's the that feeling that comes with overestimating your size and your value and your place.

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And so that comes in many forms. When you get rid of vanity, you're not just you know, humble as a psychological state. Right? You're also busy with different things, right? You're not just counting your money, you're not just looking in the mirror. You're not self serving. But that means what you're out serving others maybe. Right. And so that's why he begins here with saying you have to do in a highlight agent pneus that they fulfill the needs of people always busy with that always looking for that the needs of those in need, and having empathy. You know, when you care too much about yourself, you have nothing left for you to care about others, right? So they feel the pain of

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it. He says that it was from the completeness of the humanity of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam that he would feel the pain of those suffering,

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as opposed to many other people who have stopped feeling

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or only pretend to feel

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when it's self serving. They pretend to feel and he mentioned is this well known Hadith in Sahih, Muslim from gelatin, Abdullah Al bacilli, that a group of people came to him in the daytime that had like basically

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there, they were wearing skins, skins of wild animals that were basically hardly covering their bodies. So they were essentially naked and barefoot, they had no shoes and their clothes were not offering any concealment. They were the poorest of poor. And so the narrator says, They were from the direction of Modar in Arabia, Fatima Arawa Jew Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the face of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi salam changed meaning out of what? out of concern for them like all it's very, very difficult condition. And so he went immediately to the member and he spoke to the people and reminded them to give for the sake of Allah azza wa jal and until one man

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went home and came back, hardly able to carry whatever whatever he was able to collect rations from his house, the food, the clothing, whatever he could he collected, film metadata and nurse then the people

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fell in suit. Yes, let's do more. Let's do like that. I have stuff at home too, until they made two huge piles. The hadith says to huge piles of food and of clothing. And then we look at the messenger of Allah's face and it was beaming I saw there was salam. He was so cheered. So much cheer came to him that we were able to fulfill the need of these people. And then he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam man Sena fill Islam is not an Asana fella who agile Ruha or a German ameobi Hayao mill piano, whomever starts a good tradition in Islam. That obviously doesn't mean you make them a part of the deen that mean

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means you act on the values of the dean in a way that encourages others. Right? That's what the guy did. He went and so what can I share of my what I own he brought, it doesn't have to be dollars and cents, it could be clothes and food items. So he initiated so he was happy and encouraging what made him happy for more people to be more proactive, to be more quick to be more competitive in alleviating the suffering of others.

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You know, nowadays, if it's like a photo op for the politician before elections, he'll act like a sweetheart. And now we know this right? Are the governments of the world that can make a difference? on the world stage, they will not actually have a conscience unless what it's in their selfish interests to make a difference. Or it's not going to harm them to act like they're making a difference. So whenever you see the you know, whose right finally say or do the right thing, you become suspicious as you should. It's not coming out of their humanity, someone coming out of state of consciousness, it's either because it's over anyway, so I can just say I supported that or I was

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against that it's over anyway, not going to harm me to polish my image a little bit. Or

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I'll do it but not for the reasons that you think still, I'll do it and make a difference because it makes a difference to me for selfish purposes.

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hustle bustle Rahim, Allah among the seller for us to say, for me to fulfill the need of mine is dear to me than performing an ICF secluding myself for worship for an entire year. And I've done ignite with Amanda Hema loves to say,

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no one ever asked me to fulfill their need, except that I fulfilled it myself.

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Otherwise, I would use my wealth, I'll sort of, if I can't do it by hand, I'll do it by my money. And if I can't, I'll seek the help of my brothers. I'll sort of vouch for him and spread the word. And if I can stand to the salon, I'll ask the government. You know, subhanAllah notice the difference in the past, the government was the last option. There was a beautiful sense of individual responsibility, not this ugly sense of individualism, the mind your own business one. It's like I need to be doing this. I shouldn't be concerned about the moral accountability. The individual responsibility was on people's shoulders. They felt it and they benefited themselves and

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others because of it. And they used to enjoy it. You know, there's some narrations here, for instance, from Mohammed bin, we'll get there. Rahim. Allah, Allah, he used to say, let me come in let that duniya Illa Cava ha ha one. Nothing remains of the enjoyment of this world. I don't join anything anymore in life, except fulfilling the needs of my brothers.

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And they used to also be very classy, if that's the right word when they did it.

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I'm Rhonda Muslim. One time I was asked by a man like for some charity, and so I'm running the Muslim give him charity and then he cried the one who gave cried. And so they said to him now you Kiko calculate the hijab to Who are you crying on you're able to fulfill the man's need, like this should make you happy? You were a means of help for this person. He said, Hey, through a how to who LMS ality the fact that I forced him to ask said into me, meaning this guy is my neighbor or my relative I should have known without him asking that he was in need. That's how classy they were they would give and even when they gave, they felt like man, I embarrassed him. I forced him to have

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to, you know come and mentioned to me his need.

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I read for a doctor

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was it the boy Ahimsa Quran or I didn't Fifi one of the two contemporary authors from sort of idea that I read for in one of his books. I envy for you. So are Amina Alfie. He says my mother from not mistaken the point is correct, even if the characters in the story have been fudged. Okay. He says, we had a very poor neighbor that always got stuck having to borrow things from us, right? Like, can I borrow like a cheap half a chicken? Can I borrow this? She's stuck. She's poor, here. So my mother used to go to her house randomly and ask her for things she knew she had.

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Just to make her feel comfortable coming back to me when she was actually in need. So I have salt and I go to the lady's house, like excuse me, sister. Can I have some salt because I'm just gonna have some salt to cook with. So that the lady will feel a little bit more comfortable to come ask me when she's in a bind. That's very classy. Right?

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montara Abdullah Rahim Allah, He said to some of his brothers

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Oh so and so if you have a need of me Don't talk to me about it instead write it in a piece of paper and present it to me because I hate to see embarrassment in your face. Keep it in writing so you don't have to worry about how's he gonna react? Am I gonna upset him? See my reaction Missy yours. I'll spare you that

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and, you know, this reflects another important point in this discussion about fulfilling people's needs. They felt like they were not necessarily the upper hand. They felt like these people, we had a need to feed them. I need to carry them I need to spend on them. I'm getting the longer end of the stick here.

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In Islam, this is whistling.

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So even the Hardanger Rahim Allah he says, I've never fulfilled the need someone's need, except that I felt like he had a virtue over me. He was better than me. I owe him a favor. That's how he said it. In the sense that he saw me as worthy of being approached. It's worth not for his good perception of me without came to me. So I'm honored that he thought of me when he was stuck.

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And the Prophet alayhi salatu salam also

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reminded us that if we cannot fulfill people's needs, we should encourage others fulfill people's needs. Like he said, if I look to Giroux welcomed the law, or the law who are listening, Abby, hey, Michelle, like intercede for each other, you will be rewarded. And Allah who will decree whatever he wants on the tongue of His Messenger, meaning come to me, encourage me call my attention to, you know, suggests to me and Allah who will decide whether or not I'm going to pass that verdict or apportion that share to this person. That's what's meant.

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So why, what's the connection here? Meaning you intercede and you will be rewarded regardless of whether or not I ultimately give this person.

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And more Alia if NaVi Sofia and or the Allah on the zahavi. He used to say that sometimes people ask me for things and I delay in giving them so that you will intercede the people around him, meaning you should be in the habit of not letting people go hanging. I'm getting I'm disciplining you into the habit of vouching for each other. He said, Because the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said this to us.

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It's vital to journal make sure that I intercede for each other you will be rewarded.

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And then there's some tough words here that maybe I'll spare you the self there's many different variations where they would say when you ask your brother for something, and he doesn't give it to you remind him because maybe forgot, if he still does not try to help you. Then say Allahu Akbar four times, means what?

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Janessa consider him dead. He's not a living human being the fact that it needs to be reminded over and over again. That someone that is supposed to be his close friend, his brother has to keep explaining this to him. I forgive me just

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the people are in need.

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can we pull this off?

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Another element now we've left fulfilling the needs of others not being vain, not being selfish, being selfless and serving others. Another aspect of not being vain. He says, lie after ruin a visitor. While you the Ronal homo, Paula badly salamati or corona Shahara. Basically, they

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are not deluded by the fact that Allah has not exposed their flaws to others. They don't get full of themselves. They don't forget their own flaws. And they prefer obscurity. They prefer to live in the shadows. They prefer to be low key, as we say nowadays. And there's so many beautiful narrations here about this, but I'm just going to unfortunately have to pick from them. Mohammed Bin has said in the huddle and he says, I saw him I didn't humble when he would walk in the roads. He would hate that anyone follow him? He does not like people to walk with him because then it sort of snowballs into an entourage. And then people figure out oh, it's, oh, it's been humbled the great Imam. And

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you know,

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he doesn't have this here. But that reminded me of all the love and mystery about the hola Juan. They narrate that Abdullah had Massoud Radi Allahu Allah. If he caught someone following him in the streets, he would turn around

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And then you will see I like your Hajah Can I help you?

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Why are you following me? They'll say no we just wanted to walk behind you like just walk in your shadow. He says go back, because this is a trial for the one followed and a humiliation for the one following. For in the high fits Neptune.

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Lynam limits Booher within Latin lit Saba, you're going to sort of get me conceited.

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The trial for the one being followed, and it's a humiliation for you. You're a human being like me, no reason for you to be walking on my tail, right? Don't do that.

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I'm Adam neben. How are you Rahim? Allah, Allah would say, I used to here work here. work here as the chef of a chef Rahim. Allah Hokianga. Java. I used to here work here begin meaning saying to himself, before he narrates a hadith to people so he sits down and there's a world in front of him hearing a hadith of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was one of the greatest authorities of Hadith. I would hear what he is saying before he narrates to the people. Mahieu nadie que de la fu Well, no narration he left the city while Khushi follow Rita Oh Lakeisha and Marina Aleem.

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There's nothing there.

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But his pardon the fact that he has forgiven us so far, the fact that he has pardoned us from being exposed so far there's nothing happening right now but his pardon?

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Well, NRA show electricity and we don't live except in under his concealment.

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While cushy, follow HIPAA and if the curtain is lifted, like cushy for Annemarie, alim, it would uncover horrendous things, horrible things. People knew what was floating in our head. If people knew what our pastor was, if people knew our private sins, they wouldn't give us a lamb. They will not even greet us, let alone sort of

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revere us in this way. And a man once came to Bishop that had it was famously known as bishop haffi that AHIMA Hola, and he kissed them kiss them on his head, right.

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And he began to say,

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yeah, see the Oh like Oh, our Master Abba Nasir. And so when the man he ignored him, and when the man left Bish to turn to his companions, his closest friends are students. And he said a lot Julian had borrowed Julen Allah has hovered into a hammer to hammer home. There was a man who loved the man based on something he imagined. He imagined I'm a good person, based on something he imagined. La Lal muhabba Kadena Elmo, Hidaka Nyjah, Walmart boo boo la you drama Hello, who and who knows, maybe the one who is loving will be saved on the day of judgment and the one who is love.

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Only Allah knows where he ends up. May Allah protect us and you

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and Abraham the Adhan Rahim Allah, He said

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Masada Kola who I've been doing, I had the chakra.

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And I have to look at the clock because this is like a very controversial line in Disgaea and spirituality.

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No one is honest with Allah and loves to be known, loves popularity, loves fame.

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Many of the early Muslims had statements to this effect. That loving recognition and sincerity led me on if you follow Ben Whitehead, they'll never coexist in the same heart. Is that true?

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It's controversial. However, you know.

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There are many great scholars who have said this.

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And maybe some of them meant that if you love it too much, you will not be able to be sincere.

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Without giving you the IET and a hadith, I'll give you some of them of why that is probably the correct understanding. Because even Ibrahim alayhi salam who station we will never reach. He said what? To Allah azza wa jal wa Jalili Sana so you can fill it in Oh Allah give me a good mentioned in the later generations, right?

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And the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He said, when Allah loves someone, God loves him, the angels love him and then acceptance is placed for him on Earth. So it's almost like we're being encouraged that one of the benefits of being loved by Allah that people also like you, the people that matter anyway, right? The believers will like you. Yes.

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And so the idea of like you liking to be praised.

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Automatically, meaning you're not sincere is a hard one, to be honest. And that is why not all scholars agree with it, because can you actually remove it from your heart to not like to be mentioned? Is that even possible? It's unlikely and unnatural.

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And to be honest, maybe unnecessary. But if your love to be recognized, to be mentioned, to be celebrated, grows too much for sure you're going to be serving that end, you're going to be addicted to it, obsessed with people's approval of you. And you will not be able now to prioritize Allah's approval whenever these things go separate ways. And that is the X Factor really, so long as you're prioritizing Allah's approval of you over people's approval of you, then in sha Allah, that is sincerity.

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But if you're always seeking people's approval, you should question yourself, or if you are seeking people's approval in ways that compromise your standing with Allah, you should question yourself and none of us can be sure by the way that we are sincere. So we should always on some level be questioning ourselves. And part of that is trying to ask ourself, why am I showing people these things? Was there a need for them to discover that I knew this or did that? Right? Always.

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I'll hustle bustle Rahim Allah here he says in a Raju kunafa ki Han Journalisten Malko Ferrara Babul call me and be here. Ian, why am I behaving in rain in Cara Hiya, Tahoe and yesterday here. At times, a man will have so much knowledge

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and he will sit with the people and they think he's the most ignorant out of them. And he has no ignorance. He has no speech impediment. It's not the issue. He's just afraid for them to discover how much he has learned how much he has collected. He says that and I've met people that have memorized the entire Quran and even their wives don't know. They tried very hard to sort of like put a lot of barriers between them and insincerity.

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And also between them and people. That sounds a little wrong but I'll read for you here that Vishnu did not did not have the SR salami Rama Allah said of Khalil min Marie fattiness for in Nicoletta de Maya Kunal yo multi Amma for Intercon for the hatoon can many I didn't focus kalila

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he says minimize the people you know, because you don't know what's going to happen

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on the Day of Judgment, if it's an apocalyptic, humiliating day for you, you can minimize the damage less people will be discovering that you are the exact opposite of what you sold yourself as or what they assumed you to be an added Naveen, how are you? I cannot Allah said I heard your iPad and how I'm saying to a man in the hull tell Cabrera Who am I can Islam for Abby Schiff. Like all this praise, and people say this and people say that and people. They talk about you and they name their kids after you and I really don't know how it is a really big deal. By the way. He said to his friend, listen, here's the game plan. If we get into the grave, and we got Islam with us,

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that's it. That's the only game plan. A very humble objective. He's telling him I have no high expectations. I want to get out of this world. With Allah's forgiveness with Allah's religion still in my heart. That's it, even if nobody approves, even if everybody approves, that's my game plan. Look at how vigilant and concerned they were about this component. If we enter our graves and with us Islam, that's good news.

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And they're happy Rahim Allah said I'll be done in four minutes. wakad Kanuma speaking about all of these early Muslims having this pattern of behavior when it came to people, and performance and people discovering what they've done and what they've learned. And this is despite the fact that they were so well intending. And in general, they were sincere.

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They were fearing to speak, fearing to show people their virtue and their extent of their knowledge. He says and today so many people speak with a lack of knowledge and poor intentions. He's saying that the time the age has flipped. This is the happiest time like 600 years ago.

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He says Phil may Allah have go home and so many times Allah azza wa jal outs them he exposes them, where Aloha Jaya Hello whom will howa who Mata Raba, whom female Alamo and he exposes to the people to protect his religion. He exposes to people the reality of their state, their condition, their ignorance, their inconsistency, he says in their knowledge, finesse that Allah Delphia our class we ask Allah for his divine grace he says and to spare us

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and so they would hate praise the prophet that is also gonna tell him don't praise not because praise is haram. But because it could. As we said today in the hotbar in toxic in one Hadith you know he says

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it our item will meet the hate when you find people excessively praising you feel free will Julie and will to rob then cast dust in their faces meaning what does it mean actually?

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with dirt in their eyes by the way, it means what? discourage them send them away right? shut them down don't let them do these things. And another time a man was praised in front of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam so he said way heck What is wrong with you called Lata Ono Casa Hey Vic, you have struck cut the neck of your brother like you chopped his head off You almost killed him. Meaning what with your phrase

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meaning you've destroyed him either can hadoo command the hand Sahiba hula Mohalla if one of you is going to praise their friend their companion Allama Hala anyway meaning no way around it fairly cold and let them say this phrase Cebu Falana. And I assume I expect I believe so. And so to be this Wallah who has Cebu and Allah has his ultimate judge wala Ozaki, Allah, Allah He hadn't, and I don't pass a verdict about someone's purity against Allah or on top of Allah has meaning whatever Allah says,

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eclipses everything else, right or overrides everything else. Of course, that does not mean that doesn't mean we shouldn't praise people. The Prophet SAW Selim praise many people. It means people who praise too much or praise those who could be or are showing signs of being diluted because of the praise or praising inaccurately like when you go overboard. Like when they came to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam and they kept saying, and to say you do not and so you do now, he said to them, I say you the who Allah. They say it the master. The true Master is Allah. Think about that. He also said an authentic hadith and SAE do well at the Adam, Yeoman ki Amity Allah. I am the say the master

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of humanity on the day of judgment. And I say that without both.

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Who wants to reconcile it for us? We only have a minute left.

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They were new to Islam. And so he knew that to them, the implication or the intended meaning was, you're like, the biggest chief of all of our clans.

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Right? And they used to over exaggerate with their chiefs. Right? It was like they essentially would worship them, right? And so he says, well, Allah is the ultimate say it. I'm not like your clan leaders in order what you praise overpraise your clan leaders as that's Allah, even though he told us without now exaggeration, because we had to know I'm not saying it boast, but you need to know and if I don't tell you, how are you gonna know? Right? That I am the leading human being on the day of judgment. And I say that without boast. And so the seller inherited this from him, they would sort of stop people

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from over praising them or exaggerating and praising them. Like

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it was reported about the Sahaba in general, and some attributed this little bucket himself or the hola Juan that when he was praised, he would say, Hola Hola. Hola to actively be Maya Kowloon Workfit Lima Allah Allah Moon Oh Allah don't hold me accountable for what they say and forgive me for what they don't know. And a man's one said to Abdullah hidden Omar Abdullah the son of Armada son of a kebab? Yeah, fire on us or best of people webinar, Heidi nurse and son of the best of people, meaning you and your dad with the best of the law was the best. Omar was the best. Right? And so if not, Omar said Matt and Abby hiding us well, I've never hidden us. I am not the best of

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people and I am not the son of the best of people. But I will I came near abdomen everybody now has our gel I am one of the servants of Allah, the mighty and majestic out of joola hella Ahafo I have hope in Allah and I have great fear of him. Wallah he lent a Zaloga Roger, you had that of Liko he says, You guys don't leave a man alone until you destroy him like can you just enough slow down with this?

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I will follow the scenario, Rahim Allah He would say one of the signs of a person having escaped this dunya at heart is that he does not like the praise of the people and does not mind their criticism. And if you are capable of not being known that don't be known disappear. And what does it harm you to not be known? And what does it harm you that you not be praised? You know the idea of social media and more and more likes the end of the day? Only one like matters if he likes us Subhan Allah Allah, may we all earn his love. That's it. Nothing else can harm us.

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But they would also very commonly say that nothing has ever been dealt with that is harder than this than removing this desire from overtaking our intentions in our hearts.

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And Salim and I'm done. Salim Radi Allahu Rahim Allah Allah narrates that a poet once praised Bilal.

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The son of Abdullah had no role model. So the great, so the grandson of Irwin mclubbe. His name was Bilal Bilal the son of Abdullah Abdullah Omar he praised him. And he said to him, were Bilello Abdullah. He will be Lally. And Bilal the son of Abdullah, the poet said, is the best Vidal ever. And so, Abdullah Heppner, Omar,

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his father now said, Caleb, you're absolutely wrong. You're a liar. My son is not the best person he's not the best Vidal Belvoir biller Ali Rasulillah he will be nearly the beloved of the Messenger of Allah Bella naraba was the best villain.

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There's no sort of room for for compromise here for no self promotion will be a means of self destructing if we tolerate it even from others. And so we should all keep each other honest, none of us are Gods we're all flawed. And let's just help each other conceal our flaws better our condition and arrive at Allah azza wa jal safely that was part of their edit with each other is that they would not seek praise from each other and check each other when the praise was out of place. Well loads Allah allah sallallahu cinnabar kind of Vina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Jemaine just a little bit later on