Humility is Self-Care
Channel: Mohammad Elshinawy
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After praising Allah azza wa jal and testifying that no one is worthy of worship but Him and Him alone without any parkrunners Subhana Allah to Allah, that the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a servant and His messenger and reminding myself I knew with the Taqwa of Allah azza wa jal to be fearful of him and dutiful to him, and conscious of him, and willing and a non selectively consistently surrendering to Him subhanho wa taala.
After welcoming my brothers and sisters to the house of Allah azza wa jal,
I came across this past week, a hadith that stuck with me.
And before I share the Hadith, we all know how selfless our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was. He never competed with anyone for worldly gains. And when Allah eventually subhanho wa taala, without him pursuing gets still enriched Him, though He was not pursuing riches. He called everybody over and shared it with them and gave them more than he kept so much more than he kept.
And so hunger was was common for him. I think he's Salatu was Salam, and scarce means was common for him and he salatu wa sallam.
He lives that simple, basic, minimalist life that Allah azza wa jal loves to see from someone that recognizes themselves as a servant, as a slave, someone that recognize themselves as a seeker of the Hereafter, not indulgence in this world.
So this incident was narrated. And so I think Buhari, Abul must throw the battery of the Aloha unsaid that there was a man among the Ansara named Abu Sharif, who saw one day the hunger in the face of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and so he went to a butcher and said to him prepare for a food for five people. I'm going to invite five people including the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and then he went over and actually invited them. On route one man went along, caught up with them and stuck with them as they proceeded.
And so when they arrived at Abu Shives place, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said in the Heather Carter, Brianna, for in the law who were in the law who were in LA Raja, this person tagged along I didn't bring him he came. And so you either permit for him to come in, or else he must return no hard feelings he must return.
And so the man said Belka Ventura who now it's no big deal. He's invited as well. He can come
and there is so much to glean from this hadith and the scholars actually have such as the Gam the legal rulings regarding visitation don't come uninvited. It's not your right. Don't press people and guilt them into hosting you. But look at it from the angle that I wish to share this afternoon. That humility of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is the leader, appointed by Allah for all the worlds for humanity and jinn. This is the greatest of the messengers, the one who Allah in the Quran, Subhana Allah, Allah, Allah says, Obey Him, LISTEN to Him, praise him.
And then in this incident, Allah He Salatu was set up.
He was understanding that it's not my place to be obeyed here to be heard here to be inviting here. I'm just the guest. It's not my place.
And this is extremely difficult and of the hardest aspects of humility. I think about it. As someone who is involved in education and addressing people all the time. I always find myself I try to remind myself, don't speak out of turn, step up, and step back, because it's so easy for anyone that fits a certain role to bleed out. So if I speak a lot because the community gives me the microphone, I will have a higher tendency of what speaking too much at the dinner table speaking too much among my friends speaking too much in subjects I know nothing about. Likewise, all of us are this person to be a
Well to understand that I am not it, except in the places where I actually am.
When we are evaluating medical facts, I always say this, your problem is that you think you have the ability to evaluate that news article or this theatrical, you know, documentary, do you think so. But if you were just to get rid of that, you would have so much more clarity, so much more peace of mind so much respect from others for that humility. That's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said mental all the hula
whomever humbles themselves for Allah because I'm with the truth and I am not the truth. Whoever does it for Allah, Allah who will raise them. That can't be a pretend it actually has to be for Allah subhanho wa Taala or else you'll be inconsistent, you'll you won't be able to pull it off.
You know, I would have not been as easy for him to hold law regarding this. He once had a guest himself. And the light went out because the lantern that they burn oil off of, you know, as a lamp, ran out of oil. And so the guests got up this is the Khalifa This is the President said let me do it for you. He said no, absolutely not. It is not from a kromm from honoring your guests to be served by your guests in your own home sit down.
Carla FL will never be able to hold on can I wake up the servant boy Carla in the heteronormative namah he just now fell asleep that's not right either. And so he insisted to go refill the oil in the lamp in the funded by himself.
And then he came back to the man said CMC I went like oh ma i came back like aroma I'm still aroma didn't take anything away from me. He said, Well, this is the part I want. Well, how you don't Nessie men can Kana and Allah He moto Alia and the best of all people is the one that in the eyes of Allah is humble.
If you are because you could be humble with some people, but you're not gonna be humble other people. If you're humble for Allah, you'll be humble all throughout, you'll be consistently humbled
for Allah meaning in his eyes, subhanho wa Taala humbled because he told you step up, step back here, not there. This is extremely difficult.
But all of us need to do ourselves a favor. If you care about your stand with Allah. Keep this in mind. You care about your status with people keep this in mind. We talk so much, you know, in our time about self care, mental health, emotional well, being psychological, you know, peace of mind. Humility is a huge factor in that that we just don't invest in. Because when you are not humble, it is so exhausting when you're trying to always distinguish yourself. And other the parallels I thought of is the concept that we're hearing now it's a new buzzword called Zoom fatigue. Right? Zoom fatigue is a term they talk about now that because everyone in the digital age with COVID is on
Zoom. It's exhausting to be on Zoom. Why is it exhausting? Because zoom the cameras on you all the time. So you always have to posture right make sure the lighting and the angle and
it's so much work. It's so high maintenance to distinguish yourself in the proper light at every moment. That what? So the problem is when people care too much about how they are framed in the eyes of others. It's exhausting. It's Humble yourself. It's just no way people are gonna figure it out. You're human. It's all right. No big deal. You know, people try to overperform in front of others, that's exhausting. Just be humble. Why? Those others by the way, are not well wishing for you the way your family is, yes, they may even envy you for showing for the performance that you're faking, by the way you're pretending. And if you're hurt, stop telling them you're so hurt so much, because
they don't care for you, simplifies for you the way you're that's why the wisdom is worth regarding humility. Show people outside less than your true self. Don't show them so much. Don't worry about don't present, don't posture and be your true self with those close to you.
Why for your own health, wellbeing, for your own care if nothing else for your own self care. Also, so many tensions arise when people don't have this in place.
And my favorite example is weddings. Why didn't I get invited to the wedding?
Well, maybe you got invited and it was just lost in the mail.
Maybe they didn't want to invite you because they had a tight budget and they could only invite 100 people and you're not in the top 100
Maybe they were too busy looking for the apartment or someone got sick or the two families were busy fighting before the wedding and so they just forgot to invite you.
It could be so many things right? Maybe they feel like you're too religious for this
kind of wedding and so out of consideration for you. They didn't want to offend you, so they invite you.
The trick is, don't ask the question to begin with, why wasn't I invited? Just because if you probe you're gonna get yourself upset, right? Just leave it be just take it easy. Of course we'll probably have our stuff for Allah I'll email you
Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Milena Viva Chateau La ilaha illallah wa hola Chica shadow anna Muhammad Navajo and a BU Hora solo. The same amount of disease Rahim Allah Allah who did what he did with his guests and said to him, I'm Omar either way, this was the man who was impeccably just and impeccably fair and his rule outside. So let it begin at home, let it begin at home, you know, oh my God, Allah and when he died in his home by the way, the last thing he said before his soul left his body was still canderel Farah and Daniel Hannan, Naveen, Allah you redo gnaraloo and fill out of the OLA facade, this the home of the Hereafter, we have deemed it for those that don't seek to be
exalted on the earth and don't seek to corrupt it because it's okay to be famous, okay to be known, okay to be respected to even like that. That's natural, human, but to like it so much that you cling to it and start chasing it luxury Duna they don't seek it, this exaltation and that's where it becomes destructive. And that's why Allah said and don't see corruption, because if you want it that bad, you're gonna get tear down anything in your way to get it, your relationships, your well being your mental health, you'll tear everything down, and then you won't get it in the end. And then you will suffer as an individual, we will suffer as communities, because you're insisting on you being
it, right. So just lower your gaze from the world get off of social media a little bit. Stop, you know,
I'm sorry, there are people who have laid have become like a united front against the CDC COVID doesn't exist and things like this. Just take it these like you the world will not change much with or without your opinion. Right.
Abu Hanifa and I'll close with this. Now Abu Hanifa Rahim Allah
they came to him for his judgments, okay, we always want to make judgment calls and pass our opinions and just make sure people are listening to us. Abu Hanifa Rahim Allah Allah they came to him for his judgment. He didn't offer it about something he is qualified in not something he's not qualified in, which is Islamic law. Okay. Abu Jaffa monsoon, the Khalifa said you have to be the chief Supreme Court justice. So Abu Hanifa Rahim Allah said to the Khalifa,
let us look, I am not qualified, I don't qualify for this position.
All I can say no, you're lying. He didn't want the position these other people can take it up. He's not letting go of the responsibility. There were others that could fulfill the role. And so why should I have to step up?
He said to him kept, you're lying, you are the most qualified. He said to the Khalifa. In Ameerul, Momineen, the Khalifa you have just proven that I am not qualified because a lawyer cannot be the supreme court justice. And if I am truthful, I'm telling you, I am not qualified to be the supreme court justice. And so he put them in prison that a human would love to Allah.
And so imagine everyone operated with that mentality, right? Only step up if I have to. How much nicer? Would our relationships be between families? Right? How much nicer would it be an easier to navigate the public space on? Discourse, right medicine, science, religion, law, everything. We thought that if we just put the information age on turbo, by the way, everyone has information in our in our times, that the world would just be a smarter place, but it wasn't. Because there is no point in having expertise. No point in having knowledge, no point in having skill, no point in having religious information even if the humility is not there to take care of it to keep it in its
proper places. So the message to everyone invest in humility, for your own peace of mind for your own self care before anything else, though the most important of course, is for your care in the sight of Allah not just your care in this world. May Allah azza wa jal protect us in this world in the next help us differentiate between humility that leads to incompetence and apathy and between pride that is not arrogance. May Allah give us pride without arrogance, dignity without arrogance, and give us humility without weakness and incompetence. Allahumma Amin, and we ask Allah to forgive all of our disease and cure all of our sick and have mercy in particular to the mother of our good
brother Abu Bakr, who volunteers every week at
On our security team, he just lost his mother Rahmatullah yada yada. And also our sister who Dahlia who runs sister's activity committee here at the masjid. She just lost three days ago her grandmother to COVID May Allah azza wa jal filled their graves with light and may Allah expand them for them as wide as their eyes can see and fill the hearts of their families with consultant and solace. And tranquility and contentment with Allah's decree and help us do right in in sha Allah this last stretch of the pandemic and protect us and protect us from harming others as well. Allahumma Alameen wa sallahu wa sallim wa barik ala Nabina Muhammad Allah Allah He was like a big