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Salam ala Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Shafi lambay well mousseline Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam does live on gefahren cathedra from avago myrobalan sisters, we are on the lessons from Surah two laquan. And in that we are looking at the advice that Lavanya Salaam gave to a son with respect to being dutiful and obedient to parents.

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And I mentioned to you the importance of that and the

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in both the cases father and the mother,

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but Allah subhanaw taala specifically mentioned the woman, Allah mentioned the mother,

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people who died in Islam, there is no that women are discriminated against and so on. And so

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people who claim that in Islam, women are measured against and so on and so forth to read really should read these Ayat of the Quran, where Allah subhanaw taala specifically mentioned and emphasized.

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The woman, Allah emphasized the role of the mother.

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Although as far as the parents are concerned, the importance of them is equal. The father and the mother are both equal. But yet, unless Renata mentioned and emphasized the importance of the mother, there's also the famous holidays where sola sola Salaam and a man came to him and he asked him, Who should I serve? The most who deserves my in and he's talking about not drama parents, he's talking about the world, he says, who deserves most, he said, your mother. And he said, After that, he said, Your mother said after that is your mother. And then he said, After that, he said, your father. So he said, Mother three times before he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned father. Now that does

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not mean the father is not important. Of course, the father is also also important, also very important. But it shows the very,

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the great recognition and the great

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appreciation that is given in Islam, to the woman, and in this case, to the mother,

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and the appreciation for the pain and suffering that she goes through in order to bear children. So Allah when I think about this whole thing,

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this desire to bear children is something that I as a man cannot even begin to understand. And I don't think any man can, cannot understand the desire to bear children. having children from a man's perspective is a very different

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thing from a woman's perspective. For a man, if you want to have a child, he doesn't have to go through any pain and suffering. But for the woman, if she wants to have a child, then she has to not just go from not just

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suffer a difficulty, but

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from difficulty to difficulty. It goes from, you know, from starting from the pregnancy, starting from the conception itself. The first thing that she has most people and those who don't have it are very lucky. But otherwise, the first thing she has is morning sickness. So she's throwing up all the time. Now, how can how can how can that possibly be? And I know, I know, cases where the entire nine months, this continues the whole of that pregnancy period, this poor mother is throwing up all the time.

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And I don't know of any woman who says, You know what, let me get an abortion. I'm not talking about the legality and whether it is permissible. I'm just saying that nobody even thinks about that. The woman does not say, this is too much Sorry, I can't I can't bear this. Just you know, get about this thing. And I'm done with it. No, they don't do that. They continue with that they despite the fact that they are some people I mean, I know people who have literally spent the nine months in bed, because the moment they get up this they have to throw up. It also shows the

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data shows who the hell it is. Because right when the fetus needs nutrition,

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these sorts of nutrition of the fetus is what the mother eats, and the mother cannot keep anything down. Everything she throws up. So this shows us, shows us also and gives us this you know it's a guidance to us to say that it is Allah subhanaw taala who is the creator, it is not the mother. The mother is only the means to which Allah subhanaw taala creates what he wants to create the mother is only the means it's not the mother is not the creator

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so

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And that's what Allah subhanaw taala is proving, by creating the situation where, at the most critical part of the development of the fetus, the woman cannot retain any food. And that is the sole source of nourishment and nutrition for the, for the fetus. 100, Allah Subhana Allah as well as him,

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my brothers sisters,

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so, and then this continues, and then it ends in the most terrible pain that a human being can suffer. And that is the pain of labor. And that's what loss manager is telling us and wanting us as the lesson to have some appreciation for the fact that if your mother had not taken all this trouble, if your mother had not gone to all this trouble, then you would not even exist yet. So I'm delighted. This is the era of Allah subhanaw taala. We are, must be grateful to our parents, no doubt, but the grateful to the woman, no doubt but also, and even more importantly, we need to be grateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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For this, for the blessing of life, for the blessing of coming into this world, and for the blessing of guidance to Islam. And for the blessing therefore, of a focus of the Act is the opportunity to focus on the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So that we can end up in Sharla in

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Jana one day, we ask Allah subhanaw taala for that the the

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the desire to have children is so visceral and primordial and fundamental that only a woman can understand that urge. And had it not been for that the human species would have come to an end. And really seriously thinking mothers make the world I mean, there's no doubt about that. That mothers make the word, Allah tala drew our attention to this burden, both physical and emotional that our mothers bought when they bought us. night when they when they had us, this is a meeting. And it's a miracle that happens all around us. If we only have the eyes to see. It's a miracle because of how Allah subhanho wa Taala

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decreed that though the woman bears the burden of the development of the fetus,

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the actual development is independent of her will, she bears the burden, but the development itself is independent of our will, human who is who is to breathe air, and who will drown if he's held underwater for a few minutes, spends nine months breathing, not air, but water. And case in a membranous sac filled with MBR with with amniotic fluid, from which it also derives nutrition, the fetus is alive. And it's a human being work in process. And that's why abortions are not permitted in Islam, once the fetus is 120 days or four months or four months or because once the fetus has life, it is a living being and to abort it would be tantamount to murder. And so therefore this is

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not permitted in Islam. The only exception

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is where if the pregnancy is allowed to continue, it could endanger the life of the mother, in which case the fetus may be aborted is permitted to be aborted to save the mother's life. And brothers sisters, as I mentioned to earlier

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the

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in the development itself, the criticality of the nutrition of the fetus and what happens with regard to

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with regard to the

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morning sickness and the mother's inability to retain her meals. These are all signs of Allah subhanaw taala and this is the whole point to understand is how Allah subhanaw taala shows us His signs all over again. And I looked around data and that's why it looks around data, creates whatever he wills and that is why he said Eli macusa Malati a lot of the Yahoo loco Masha

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Masha

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Masha Zuko our use of visual home Zoo Cora Nova inasa illuma Yasha akima. In La Mancha, de Allah says in Surah Surah which means to Allah subhanho wa Taala belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth. He creates what he

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wills, He bestows female offspring upon whom He wills. And He bestows male offspring upon whom He wills or he bistros both males and females, and he renders barren boom ever he was.

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If you feel like sneezing, if you press here, that's what I just did. I was getting a sneeze, sneeze. So if you press just below here, like this, press hard, the sneeze will stop.

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Unless it's, you know, beyond the point of no return, but otherwise, it's suitable stop. So this is a

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short lesson.

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So I lost rather I said to Allah Subhana, Allah belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth. He creates whatever he was, He bestows female offspring upon who he wills, and He bestows male offspring upon who he wills, or he best owes both males and females, and he renders barren, whoever he wills. Verily, He is the all Knower and Able to do all things.

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Babylon just as really

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remember this is because many times I've seen people going into getting into a frenzy to have children and resorting to all kinds of gymnastics and you know, and and getting depressed and harassing each other while

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going to fertility clinics and so on. And then it goes, it becomes worse because people can start indulging in ship, because then they will go to, you know, various gurus and whatnot and, and and peers, who give them

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you know, all sorts of amulets and so on and so forth. And may Allah protect us. This is one of the reasons for a lot of the scandals that happened at such places. And this frenzy to have children. It's almost like having a child is some kind of award and proof of the value of the parents, especially mothers. Women, especially are rejected if they don't have children. This is a terrible thing in our in our at least Eastern society. And all of these are signs of God. The utterly, utterly ridiculous and I lost around

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a lot around a teller told us this. Somebody asked me this question once. They said, What if some people are not blessed with children? So I said to him, who said that children are a blessing

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whose children are a blessing? Allah subhanaw taala call them a Trier and a test.

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In Walla Walla, Allah Dooku What did Allah say? fitna? Allah said this your wealth and your children are a test. Allah call them a test, Allah didn't call a blessing, they can become a blessing, or they can become a curse, depending on the kind of tarbiyah you give them.

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And by themselves, they are a test. So be careful about asking Allah subhanaw taala for tests. So when you make this all like give me a jar, give me a child, you can end up with a child, that you will then regret having. Right? You will, you will wish that I had not made this door you will wish that Allah had not given me this child. But put yourself in that situation. Allah will give you children, if that is decreed for you, and Alhamdulillah what Allah gives us. So ask Allah subhana wa tada to give you that which he which he wants to give you, and to give that to you with apphia so that the child does not become a test for you. There are people who have children.

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And those children then turn out to be such evil creatures, that that quite literally the parents wish that the child would die or the childhood

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that they wish they had never had the child. Now, don't don't do that. We contend with the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Because remember, the one who wrote the decree is

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the one who wrote wrote that decree for you is far more merciful even than your mother can be.

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So when authority around Talalay was, was dying in his last moments, and a friend of his came to meet him, so he sat with him and he asked him he said yes, if Allah subhanho wa Taala gives you this choice. And if Allah says, On the day of judgment, if Allah says I can give you this choice,

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You can have your hisab you can have your accounting done by your mother, or I can do it. Which one would you choose? So Suzanne has already immediately said I will say Allah, you do my accounting. You do my accounting, not my mother. So this friendship, this is a strange reply you're giving, because if your mother does your accounting, don't you think it is better for you because your mother is you know, he's your mother. I mean, she loves you and she, she wants the best for you. So parents around Taylor said, Allah subhanaw taala has mercy. And Allah subhanaw taala love for me as this creature far exceeds the my mother's love for me as her as her son.

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And Allah subhanaw taala is Rahim.

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Allah, Allah subhanho Rahim. Allah, my mother is not that. So I choose Allah subhanaw taala. Even over on, this is Allah, Allah subhanaw taala decreed for you that you should have daughters and that is the best thing. If Allah decreed for you that you should have sons and that is the best Allah decreed for you that you should have both hamdulillah if Allah decreed for you that you should have neither This is the best thing for you.

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And when you do get this, when you do get these children, remember, Allah called them a test. Allah said, this is a test for you.

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And I know in other places like Colorado law commission, they are your enemies,

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too seriously. I'm not saying that you should treat them as enemies. I'm just saying that don't get over get don't get carried away by this whole business of children, children.

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You have been given a responsibility. And I'm going to talk about that, that there is a concomitant responsibility on the children. Allah subhanaw taala said, and this is what we are retreating on the children is the responsibility of being dutiful to their parents of taking care of them, of respecting them, of helping them of serving them. But don't think that this is a one sided Street, don't think that you are the parent, all you need to do is to sit back and relax and enjoy No,

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you have to do your work, you have been given a responsibility about which you will be questioned before Allah subhanaw taala. And if you did not discharge that responsibility, if you were at fault, you will be punished. And not only will you be punished, but your child who turns out that way because of your lack of effort in tarbiyah. This child instead of becoming a southerner to jharia for you instead of becoming a means of ongoing goodness for you can become the opposite of that. And you can be held responsible, Allah Masha Allah, may Allah protect you and me, you can be held responsible for what that child does because of your misguidance of this child when that child was

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in your custody, and when you were bringing up the child, so be very careful with this thing. Children having children is not a joke. It's not A Doll's House, you know, dolls, Tea Party. It's not just bringing,

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you know, men, Barbie doll and whatever the

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male of Barbies called I've forgotten but whatever is not just putting them two together and you know, having a party and

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using that as an excuse for you to have a party. No. Please understand that children are a very, very serious thing. And a very serious matter. When you have a child your entire life changes and it should change. This is what Allah has decreed for you. And that is why when you have children, be very careful and seek Allah's forgiveness and seek Allah's guidance. And if Allah did not give you children, thank Allah Subhana Allah, be very thankful to Allah subhana wa handily lay Allah you saved me from the test Alhamdulillah Allah as for who will make dua for you, all those you help will make the offer you all those you taught will make the offer. And if you say Oh, but you know, if I

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don't have children, they will not make the offer you my second question to all of you is very simple. How many of you prayed in the head job for your parents today?

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That gives you the answer. You are somebody whose child but you didn't bother to get up into God you didn't bother to pray into God you didn't bother to pray for the mafara for the for the forgiveness and for the benefit of your parents. So that that gives you an answer. If you have children, they will be like you. Why do you think your children will be anything else? They will be like you they will also be sleeping

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right

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at the time and they should be making graphs for you. They will be sleeping just like you are sleeping when you should be making your parents

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Stop fooling yourself. Number one says to stop fooling yourself.

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Your children are only as good as you are. If that.

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Because children listen with their eyes. They don't listen with their ears. They listen with their eyes.

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They don't care what you say until they see what you do ask yourself, what are you doing? Anytime somebody asked me a question about Serbia, what do you think I should teach my children? I tell them go look in the mirror.

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You don't have to teach them anything, do not teach them anything, there is nothing you can teach them. They are already learning. What are the learning, they are learning what you are doing.

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That's it, they are learning what they are seeing.

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So if they see you praying, inshallah, maybe they will pray.

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If they see you with tawakkol in times of stress, inshallah, they will have to call in times of stress.

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If they see you and hear you cursing and yelling and screaming and raving and ranting and foaming at the mouth, that is what they will learn.

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If they see you misbehaving if they see you, oppressing people, that is what they will learn. And believe me one day they will oppress you, because that what you have got the child is to operate somebody who is too weak, and one day you will become too weak.

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So all those people will walk around like start balls, you know,

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abusing other people, and they will come

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when you will realize what the receiving end of it feels like.

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This is does.

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Ask yourself this question that Allah subhanaw taala

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told us, and that's what Alice Rhonda said about children the ad which I mentioned to you already, why llamo annamma lokomo Allah Dooku fitna and Allah in the who are Judo nazeem Allah subhanaw taala settings rockenfeller know that your wealth, your possessions, and your children are a trial, there are tests for you. And the surely with Allah is a mighty reward,

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as I mentioned is tarama it's even more strongly mentioned, where Allah does it. Yeah, you will levina armano in mean as YG como la Dooku, Rodwell, la ku, far as our room, we're in dark waters for who the bureau are in Allaha, for Rahim, in wailuku, Walla

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Walla, who are in the who are juru Nazim, Allah said, Oh, believe very among your wives and your children, there are enemies for you. That is, there are people who because of their demands, you will disobey Allah subhanaw taala. Therefore be aware of them, Allah warned us, but if you pardon them, and you overlook them, and you forgive their faults, then very last battle delays of forgiving

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and most merciful, your wealth and your children are only a test and a trial. Whereas Allah with him, is a great reward, which is Jenna, my brothers, sisters, Allah subhanaw taala is telling us that the decision to give children or not give children and what to give whether to give a boy or a girl, all of this is the decision of Allah subhanaw taala a person with a man is content with the decision of is regarded

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as one of the sell of said, very beautiful quote. He said, When I asked my rep for something, and I get it, I'm happy once. When I asked my rep for something, and I get it, I'm happy once. But when I ask my rep for something, and he does not give it to me, I'm happy 10 times because the former is my wish, while the latter is his wish.

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I remember I remind myself when you let us develop this rhythm

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and save ourselves a lot of needless grief. I mentioned do that because of your children. And because of your spouse's in many cases.

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Many people, many men are pushed to doing things which maybe otherwise they wouldn't have done. I'm not I'm not placing all the blame at the feet of the spouses and the children. I'm saying that that's one possibility that if you see somebody who's for example, who's you know, borrowing money on interest building a big house

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who's filling that house with gadgets of this kind and that kind and so on and so forth. A lot of that is really demands from the family. You know, demand of the spouse demand of children, including almost on a daily basis, you know, there is this

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wedding part wedding, somebody's wedding. Big, big Anisha zimi Abdullah Abdullah Abdullah otaku, Anna jordanna when I get you an observer una casa la

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Though the The point is that, you know, he wants to go to this he he bothered to go to this wedding. And then she said, No, no, I can't, I can't wear this same thing which I wore the last time. So I need a new dress, I need a new, you know, whatever it is, maybe I need some jewelry.

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So he is this fellow is under pressure now to provide for all that. And then he has no legal means of getting it so he starts resorting to illegal things. He forgets a lot about it and in the process.

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Again, please understand this i'm not i'm not saying it's only because of this Mira Mira people who do it because of their own personal greed. And it's not as if all men are, you know, free from greed and such pious adiala. And it's only the women who are fighting them are the children. That's not true. If men do straighten up their act is what would be a much, much better place. But this is one of the major factors there no doubt about that. But this is one of the big factors where you end up doing things which otherwise maybe you would not have done because of this pressure of providing for the family. So you are working day and night You're stressing yourself out and so on and so forth.

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Because you have this responsibility of

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providing for the family.

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My brothers sisters, now

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in the question of how obedient to be Allah Subhana Allah auditor as to we to be obedient and dutiful to the parents, to the extent that he ordered as not even to express dislike, for what they may order us to do. Normally speaking, whatever it is, you know, no matter how tedious or inconvenient time wise or something, or no matter how inconvenient because

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I should do this. And then at that time, I'm doing something else. I really want to do what my mother tells me to do a father turning to Allah says not only must you do it, but you must not even show your dislike you must not even show that you didn't like what they said us

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Roma, la cola Houma colon Karima wha la Houma. Jana has Zhu Li Mina Rama de la Cora Wareham, Luma Kamara, piani Savita, Allah subhanaw taala give us some advice and

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told us taught us the manners of dealing with our parents and sort of

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Israel and as Roger said, and your Rabbi had decreed that you worship none but him Jalla Jalla Lu, and that you should be dutiful to your parents, if one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, do not even say to them, don't even show by the, by the wrinkles on your forehead, or by your visual expression, or by any any

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verbal expression that you dislike, something they said, or that you are tired, you're tired of them, or you are impatient with them. And I say, Do not express even impatience to your parents. And then Allah said, Do not shout at them. Don't get angry with them. Obviously, don't curse them.

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But address them in terms of honor, be respectful to them, show your respect. As one I don't, I don't even even the words I'm having difficulty bringing them out of our mouth. But I have to say it because I'm sitting here, do not strike your parents do not beat your parents in that in a way

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that I have to say something like this. This exists in our society. This exists in our Muslim society. Believe me, there are people there are these bugs, but 13 bad car bodmas but buck, people who hit that finish line.

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Go and make for their feet, kiss their feet, make apologize to them, beg their forgiveness, otherwise Allah subhanaw taala will rose to an alpha level. And if you if you if that is how you treated them. And if your parents died, then go and spend huge on humongous amounts of money in charity and beg Allah subhanaw taala to give that award of their charity to your parents and beg Allah subhanaw taala to forgive them because believe me on the Day of Judgment if you are resurrected, and you are standing before the throne of Allah, and if your mother is there

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asking for justice

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or if your father is there asking for justice.

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One lie.

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I don't want to even think of what will happen to

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the hotel.

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So those of you who

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do this kind of stuff,

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I don't care what the parents do. Don't tell me that, you know, my father is like the mother like this. My father doesn't listen to me. My mother doesn't listen to me. They're difficult.

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Allah has not given you that choice.

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As long as they are not telling you to do something, which is haram, as long as they are not telling you to come and chill, as long as they are not telling you to disobey Allah subhanaw taala.

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As long as they are not leading you,

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or they are not being toxic, I will come to that toxic parents do exist. And I will talk about that also equally, frankly. But I would say now, the children.

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You have to honor your parents, you have to obey your parents. And you must take care of your parents and serve your parents and there is no choice in that.

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You're not being given a choice to do that, if they are nice to you.

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This is to the extent that these laws of how to treat your parents, they apply even if your parents are not Muslim. Think about it. This is the justice of Islam.

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There is no there is no requirement that for parents to receive good treatment from their children

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who may be Muslim, that the parent also should be Muslim. No. If you have reverted to Islam, your parents are still non Muslim. They in terms of treatment, they still deserve the best treatment from you.

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And they deserve you even more that you make dua for their Hidayat and for them to be

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enriched and given Islam.

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The most beautiful story about this the one of the best DeLisle of this is from the city of

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Omaha, Viva Madhava, the daughter of Abu sufian

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been hurt

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before he became Muslim, and we call him or the Alon who of course, because he became Muslim, but the daughter of ours

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was the wife of herself.

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She was married to another man. They were digital too.

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I was senior to have a shot. And there

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she was divorced.

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And Rosaura Salaam sent a proposal of marriage and he married her.

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So now she came from there to Medina. And she was living with Rasulullah Salah.

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This was a time where after slavery via the forage broke the treaty. So I was very worried that Rosaura Salam would now retaliate. So he came to Medina, you can do to Medina to to try to you know,

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he didn't come to he didn't come to apologize. He never apologized for what he did and what his people did, but he will try to see if we could, you know, do some political bargaining. So he came to Medina. So when he came Medina, he went first to his daughter's house to my house with Elena.

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And as he entered our house,

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there was on one side there was a platform on which was spread the bed of resources.

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So he came there and he was about to sit on this platform on the bed of Rasulullah sallam. When Omaha Viva La Ilana, she folded up the bed.

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She folded up the bed.

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So that was a vn could not sit on it. He had to sit on the bed platform. So I was delana. He asked her he said he kind of jokingly said, Oh, you folded up your husband's bed because it is not good enough for me.

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Because I'm the I'm the Chief of the clan, I'm your father and so on and so forth. So he said you folded up the bed because it is not good enough for me. Is that why you did that?

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Oh my happy birthday. Ilana said I folded up the bed because you are not good enough for the bed. You are unclean.

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Now,

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later on,

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she told Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam this incident.

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I imagine see if you are in this if you aren't in this place, that your father in law is your sworn enemy your father in law's sole purpose in life is to destroy you is to kill you.

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Back to this man. There's no there's no there's no hidden secret there. Your father in law and I must say in this

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guess maybe your mother in law

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is your sworn enemy. And

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there

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his

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aim is to destroy you and he has done he has done everything in his power before before that time he has done you lead armies against your against you and so on and so on.

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Now he comes to your house and your wife, who is his daughter.

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This thing happens, where your wife, who is his daughter, does not allow him to sit on your bed. And then she gives him this,

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this reply

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where she says, You are not good enough for my husband's bed, you are not good enough to sit where my husband sits? Tell me what would you How would you feel?

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I suggest do that maybe you will be very happy to say fantastic. This is the kind of woman I want, who's completely and totally, you know, loyal to me, even against her own father and a father with any case is a bad man is a father in any cases is somebody who is my enemy. And my wife is my supporter. So she

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she answered her father. And so once she was rude, it's okay. I mean, after all the man deserves that. This is perhaps what how you would have thought about that? This is perhaps maybe how I would have thought about it.

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But what was the solar cell reaction? When O'Meara delana told Elijah Salaam that my father came? He was about to sit on your bed, I folded it up. He said, Oh, you are? You're folding it up? Because you don't want it because the bed is not good enough for me, is it? And I said to him, No, I'm holding it up because you are not good enough for the bed. This is what I said to my father. What was his reaction.

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He said, You have not done a good thing.

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He said you did not do a good thing.

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He said you should be dutiful to your father. You should be respectful to your family.

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No matter who is. And that's what I'm saying to you that in Islam, being dutiful to your parents, being respectful to your parents, respecting your parents, even if they are disagreeable in some way. This is your duty. And this continues to be your duty. Even if your parents are not Muslim.

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It does not matter if they are not Muslim. It does not give you the right

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to be unbeautiful. to them. It does not give you the right to be disrespectful to them, because they are not Muslim.

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You must still be respectful to them, you must still show them.

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Show them mercy and kindness and allow us run into certain lore unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy.

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You have seen this happening so many times where we obviously I mean, I'm not an age where I've seen children growing up from being little children to now being parents. So I've seen them when they were little kids,

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little children, you know the mother, changing the diapers and a father carrying them and so on and so forth. And today, this young man is a, you know, strapping six foot plus. And a lot of them are oriented towards body building and whatnot. So they've got big muscles, and so forth. And now the parents chill. As you grow older, you know, your body also shrinks. So you actually lose some height.

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So you lose height, your body shrinks, you are now weaker, maybe because now you maybe you have arthritis or something your back is hurting or something is hurting. So when you're walking also you're a little bit bent. And then there is this huge Hulk, which comes at you.

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And if he is, if he is not happy about something, he will talk to you in a loud voice or something like that. I mean, it's so intimidating.

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is so intimidating.

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And I've seen parents literally shrink.

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You can see the fear in their in their faces.

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Even though if you talk to the boy but no, I was not doing anything. I was not going to hit them or something and loud or whatever.

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But just physical dominance.

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Allah subhanaw taala says, Don't do that. Be aware of this. Be aware that without intending you can become very domineering and very becoming you can become very dominating.

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So lower the wing

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of submission and humility. submit yourself go sit at their feet. Don't even sit on the table.

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same same same sofa or bed with them go sit at their feet, reduce or shrink yourself, don't stand like this go down.

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Go down.

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And then Allah said, Make dua

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make dua for them.

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Right? Make dua for them and say Robert Hama, camara benissa, Allah Palmyra vesto on them your mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.

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Allah used even the word verb in this context because the word rub is somebody who take something which is noxious which is small, weak, incomplete, and takes it to a state of perfection

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shanaka score but average, Kemal rajagopalachari calm,

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a lot of monitors are weird is to take something which is incomplete which is small which is weak and raise it to a stage where the where it becomes perfect.

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More inshallah

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you know our next class on

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duty of parents. As I mentioned, I'm going to talk also about the parents responsibility towards their children. But do give a thought to what I have said. And sit down and look at yourself. Look at your own behavior.

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Be be absolutely brutally frank with yourself. And if whatever correction you need to do do it, because as I told you don't want to meet Allah subhanho wa Taala in a state where the one seeking justice against you is your own mother is your own father that you don't want. You do not want that because there is nothing that you can do in this life. There is no good deed there is nothing that you can do in this life, which will be enough to pay for that injustice that your mother or father will bring against you don't do that. If you are in that situation, the time to change is right now.

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Do it right now before you die we don't know when we are going to die. And if you are not in that state Alhamdulillah all part you continue in the good work, be kind to parents be be be Don't be fair to them be over that be merciful to them be kind to them give them

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as much as you can given you more because that is something that they did for you. And we look at that in the in the in the next class inshallah. Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah Karim Allah Allah He was savage manga