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Today, or tomorrow, we're going to launch something like a marriage counseling class. This time around is digital. Meaning that you learn it.

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Before you get married, you can go back to it after you get married, and when Miriam was built, it is timeless, it's timeless, the cost,

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plus years

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and years to come, you can always pick up a phone and just go through what you have studied before you got married. So that's it on the screen. So when you go to w w w dot.com. This is what you will find. This is the home page. It just keeps going. You see the marriage Academy, what the academy offers, premarital tips, marriage and family and parenting, there's a section for that. There's a section for spirituality and personal growth, then you have the sponsorship, you have upcoming event.

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Also on the audio platforms, Apple, Google and several, then that is the certified premarital master class, we have several investments from different people. It's all displayed. So for those of other vendors, we thank you so much. Your name, your pictures are on the website, right? All the way to the end, then, of course, we see our beautiful Miriam over the dentist's opinion survey also, then you want to just hear from us constantly, you can drop your email, then if you go to the About Us page, Miriam takes us through a journey of how far she has come. She's come from the very beginning to how she's built this for many years, and talks about marriage. And like she always says I share

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with you the facts and the ugly truth about everything. So she bears it out. So that's the About Us page. Very simple. Everything is classy, everything is colorful. Madam, we thank you for that right grid, then these are all the other pages, you can find different sections have different pages from spirituality, then she gives up free lectures on the platform. So there's never a shortage of different things you can learn. So much. So.

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Right? There's parenting and family, lots of videos, you can watch. I like somebody's job. These videos are better than cnn quality.

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Someone said that yesterday. All right, so you see lots of them over there, then, of course, it just gets going. Then on spirituality, we've got a separate page for that deer, you're going to learn about the spiritual aspect of life in general, then, of course, spirituality of marriage, the Miriam gives us a lot of resources, you can download for free, you just keep downloading them and just keep studying. You know, the thing about marriage, you need to keep learning from time to time, you know, different resources on different parts. You know, what you see is not been easy. You know, Miriam had sleepless nights, alone with the husband, we were in the office, sometimes when, for weeks on

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end in the logos of all our partners and sponsors are there, then this is the page for the course. Right, you can see how beautiful it is. There are 72 courses, 72 topics, each one broken down, beautifully done 72 videos, at the end of each video, you take a short quiz, then at the end of the course, you take an kind of an exam, and you get smart costs. Right. So that's what we get to see on the platform. So like I said, I encourage each of you to go there and just take Miriam limo.com. And see the beauty of what Miriam has done for for the country for Nigeria and for Africa. Alright, so after the course, then we

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just keep expanding each of them. And you just keep navigating all through some of the seven has lots of topics on the model eight, lots of topics on the model nine by 10 total audit topics, you have a total of 72. And it's a beautiful trailer video for you to watch. So

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this is the first of its kind in Africa.

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This is the first of its kind of built several academies apart several digital platforms. What none of them none comes close to what you've done here.

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So I want to congratulate you and your husband and your brother sitting over there. Thank you all and your friends are gathered around you, Zara, we've worked with you in the past before and everyone got out here today. Are you Excellency. Notice you're here with us. Thank you so much, and representative of His Eminence. Thank you so much.

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Let everyone get let's make Nigeria proud. Let's go on this platform. Let's shed water we truly can be digital. And there is no better than what we have today. Thank you all and by.

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Thank you very much, Mr. Chairman.

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I think what is amazing is when all of us come out and display our different skills and come together, which is what the strategy partnership with my market me will offer you as well. Like, for example, Mr. Moe has built a lot of digital academies and taxis expertise, building digital academies, and system has always been talking about how marriage works. Share it on YouTube, I think the first time I got to know about both of you was a YouTube video that came up was like an interview. And I was like, I think was in my sensitivity, like, I see what people are doing. Right. So I think that this academy, what is amazing is that instead of us to be watching frivolous things,

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as a family, we can actually sit down take our time, you don't have to do for too long, even if it's just once a week, take one would you watch it like a week as a couple try to see how you can implement it. I think

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literally that

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one of the things that you can do to stamp your name is to join a strategic partnership with this academy.

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In front of you that talks about how you can sponsor someone. So imagine where you just sit down and say, You know what, I want to sponsor someone. Now this is what the card looks like. It just shows you straight what you need to do. There's an account cycle to

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sponsor someone you need to do to pay for one to 99 people is you pay $75 or 37 500. As simple as that clearly get access to that you as he said look out for you as well. Right. So I think that is something that we all need to come together and support. This is an amazing platform as we can see. Now what we'll do is we want to give you a sneak peek into what the videos are challenged with. He said is cnn quality so see today what I see no quality but trust and believe that it is even exceeds if I'm not mistaken. So right now we'll go on and show this

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masterclass.

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This is Maryam Lima. Welcome to my premarital masterclass a detailed guide to hopefully getting it right. Many marriages fail long before they've even begun. due to insufficient knowledge and proper planning. We just dive in from the deep end, and then learn about the skills needed afterwards. Sadly, many end up drowning in misery, anguish and pain. The divorce rate today is at an all time high. With over 60 episodes. I have created this course to help you navigate the obstacles and challenges that so many face when they want to get married. Now we're going into marriage. What's it all about? What are your expectations of marriage? How will I know when I'm ready to get married?

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The first advice I will give you is to get married for the right reasons. Next, I want you to do your homework you need to read a lot of books. Now what I'd like to share with you next is the qualities and skills that I believe you need to have or adopt before you get married. Growth Mindset allows you to have an

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this is Maryam Lima. Welcome to my premarital masterclass a detailed guide to hopefully getting it right. Many marriages fail long before they've even begun. due to insufficient knowledge and proper planning. We just dive in from the deep end, and then learn about the skills needed afterwards. Sadly, many end up drowning in misery, anguish and pain. The divorce rate today is at an all time high. With over 60 episodes. I have created this course to help you navigate the obstacles and challenges that so many face when they want to get married. Now we're going into marriage. What's it all about? What are your expectations of marriage? How will I know when I'm ready to get married?

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The first advice I will give you is to get married for the right reasons. Next, I want you to do your homework. You need to read a lot of books. Now what I'd like to share with you next is the qualities and skills that I believe you need to have or adopt before you get married. Growth Mindset allows you to have an open mind and be flexible. You're going to need this before the marriage but you

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Gonna need lots of it after the marriage. Next is fidelity and loyalty. Now, this is a very, very critical ingredients for the success of any marriage. Having respect as a quality ensures that you always maintain good manners good other. Another attribute to have is optimism. It is at this point that I would highly recommend that you do the two of istikhara. Now it's time for us to take a critical look into the background of the person you want to marry. I want to emphasize that it's extremely important that before you get married, you drop any excess baggage that you may be caring. I want to talk about sexual abuse. Now, if you were a victim of a witness the toxic relationship

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growing up, maybe you were drawn into the battlefield, maybe you were made to take sides or become a lawyer or a psychiatrist to your parents. We've been talking about addictions and I want to focus on addiction to pornography. Make sure you come clean. However, make sure you fix it before you go into your matrimonial home. If you were a victim of bullying, it's time to shed that load before you actually say I am ready to get married. Now let's talk about polygamy. If you are a woman who's taking this course, because you are going into polygamy, you are going to be either the second third or fourth wife. I'd like to share some advice with you go in knowing that you are there to add value

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not to compete, not to be disruptive, and not to destabilize the family. The problem you have is often when men go out and marry another spouse without letting their spouse know and carrying them along on the process. They end up feeling so empty, feeling broken, feeling worthless. justice and equity is critical for anyone who is going to go into polygamy. It is my prayer that Allah will bless you for all your efforts and your intentions when you took this course, but he continued to guide you may he always be in your thoughts and your constant actions. This course was labor of love would not have been made possible without the will of Allah. He has been my guide and my compass

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throughout this journey. I want to thank him for the great examples shown to me by my parents, and the beautiful home I grew up in. My mother wrote a book for me when I was getting married ideal Muslim wife, which was later published into a best seller, and then a sequel, ideal Muslim husband please book serves as an excellent guide for us, especially in our early years. Then I want to give credit to my better half my husband's a Tacoma. He supported me on this journey and helped me edit and find the perfect words to express exactly what I wanted to say. This course would not have been what it is had we not gone on this beautiful grand adventure together for the past 29 years. I often

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say he's my happily ever after. Finally to my brother neural label. He also shared many books that he thought would be a benefit to you as well. Just come allow hydron to all of them. It is my hope and pray that this course has been of benefit to you. Join me for this journey of a lifetime by registering today. I will be there as your guide every step of the way. Thank you.

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Nice the presence of the First Lady of Sokoto state Her Excellency Dr. Maria Aminu Waziri tambuwal would also like to recognize the presence of honorable Solomon Godwin, Pamela and engineer shadow apology. It is amazing that we are seeing that not only are the women coming out to support this initiative, but the men as well so I it's my hope that at the end of this we'll have better marriages inshallah. Now for the unveiling. I'm sure all of us are anxious and can't wait to call on representatives of the following organizations to please step forward to the podium their

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representative of

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NASA

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one oma I et di n

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and park new highs all college girl chat concerns I can women or youth initiative woman in

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NASSCO and facia suits is representative of the strategic partners. This komova for the unveiling.

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Okay, please step out onto the podium please

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Just here.

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All right at the moment we've all been waiting for,

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to call and

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none other than Mrs. Zahra Bari in the me, the founder Zed MD homes, an orphanage in Kaduna.

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He steps up

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with also please beg the indulgence of the Minister of human affairs, the importance to also please join us as we unveil this

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person as he steps up.

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I think it will also be great for the cross creator and her wonderful husband to join us as well. So that they can also join us in the unveiling of the product.

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What do you want

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to say?

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also would also like to call on the wives of the governors that are present here to please join us as well?

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for them as they join us.

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November sixth

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okay.

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Type

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in the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, Most Merciful, I would like to stand on existing protocol. My name is our why and we are about to onview officially unveil the premarital course by Maria Maria mu

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would like to do a little prayer first. May this initiative go as far and as wide as we've never imagined. May this be as beneficial as it can be to the whole of humanity. May Allah Spano tala give more people these type of initiatives to actually help humanity and we we have a peaceful home and society inshallah. Thank you very much. So now count down. Can we all join?

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I need the scissors.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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This way

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so it's this I'm cutting.

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Just confirming Okay, can we all join would start with 10 and then countdown.

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Start 10 987654321 Bismillah Ar Rahman

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Rahim

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Mashallah, Mashallah.

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To do to access it is go to wwe.com.

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Please even go back, Jesse, thank you.

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We're here on this special day, our hearts are full of pleasure. That day that brings the two of you closer together. We're gathered here to celebrate a moment you always treasure. We ask Allah to make your love last, rather, raise our hands and make,

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like the proper thought. And with one voice, that's all say.

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All right, thank you, everyone coming, take our seats.

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Now the next item on our agenda, we know that

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most of the people that will actually need this course might not be able to afford it. So the call now is on, how can we make it accessible so that everyone can benefit from it. We have already seen that a lot of thought has gone into this. We have all seen that a lot of hard work has gone into it. But it's it's all this hard work. And all these will come here for if we can't get it to the hands of everyone in the nooks and crannies of Nigeria of Africa of the world. It will be for nothing. So this is why I'm calling on all of us to support this initiative. And the next item on our agenda is to call on our chief launcher

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to launch this platform to support 1000s of people to have access to this amazing program.

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I'd like to call him His Excellency, the executive governor of Kogi state, His Excellency governor

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to watch this event.

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Please.

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The chairman of the occasion,

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our mother,

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excellency

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Dr. Mrs. Aisha Muhammadu. Buhari,

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Your Excellency, the deputy governor of Niger state

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the wife of governors here present

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our father was represented in representing the chairman of this occasion.

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Our mother,

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Her Excellency

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Mrs. Paul in Tallinn, the Honorable Minister for women affairs.

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Let me

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appreciate

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Mr. Zara Muhammadu Buhari indeed me

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just stopped

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For that

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let me appreciate

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the wife of the former vice president of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

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Mrs. Amina nama dissemble

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let me not in order of importance anyway,

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recognize all of us. But very importantly,

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let me appreciate

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Mrs. Maryam Lehmann

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and your wonderful husband

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llahi, laggy, sad, Mohamad.

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Let me appreciate the organizers of this event, all invited guests,

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members of the fourth estate of the realm.

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Distinguished Ladies and gentlemen,

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mine is very simple, just to lunch, and go and sit down.

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But before I do that,

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let me just make a few words that

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before I became a become a governor,

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most times attend events, symposium

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talk shows, workshops,

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luncheon,

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or presentations, and a lot of talks

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will ensue.

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A lot of postulations a lot of ideal things will be said about what our society should be what our homes should look like.

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Institutions emerged.

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And several organizations

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have tried themselves with the idea of

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telling us what our homes or marriages, Nigeria should be.

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But at the end of the day,

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most times even as a young person, even as I speak with you as a governor today,

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you see a lot of our leaders,

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brothers and sisters will come and preach a lot of wonderful things.

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But on the contrary,

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what they do at home is different.

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That's why when I came into this office, I decided to always go into actions rather than talk. So we're going to see the action here practically today.

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Before we go into that, I'll just give you a few example of who I am or what we've done.

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In Kogi state.

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In Kogi state or in Nigeria, generally everybody will be taught shouting, insecurity, insecurity, crimes and criminalities.

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In Nigeria, today, women are shouting and advocating for women inclusion in governance.

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But all was that an end in talk show.

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But in Kogi state today, we have demonstrated it.

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It is on record.

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As we speak, that cookie is the safest state in Nigeria today.

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Instead of talking, we are practical lies in it.

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Women have agitated several that they should be included including my sister here, our mother.

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She's always saying women are not. And she continued to fight for women inclusion.

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Today, we have exemplified in Kogi state by having

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Of course starting from my ADC as a woman

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my SSG my head of service from first time to the second time as women.

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All the vice chairman

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of the local government in Kogi state today are all women.

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And we have at least three women as counselors in every

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local government or in every council words.

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That is practical. So

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When I listen to lectures, I practical eyes. So today I have come to less than an hour study practical from here.

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Honestly, today, Nigeria is what it is today, because we have a broken family system.

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Our marriages are no longer working.

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And what

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my mama has done today, over the years and luncheon today, he is simply

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giving us a foundation

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for better society, and better Nigeria, we thank you so much. Like I said,

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Please, before I launch, let me say this on a very lighter mood again, just like Sheikh Abubakar Mohamad said earlier before,

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on a lighter mood, but my own is going to come this way that events like these when organized, in those days, when we were growing up in Zarya.

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We go there,

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to spy,

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to search

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to look for,

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to you know,

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but today, it's the situation has changed completely. No thanks to COVID-19 because everybody is covering their nose. We don't know who to cite for and take home today, as

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a future bride. You know, I still have one more chance, I want to complete it. And I know that Zara helped me so much.

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On that note, on a lighter note, let me launch this wonderful Academy. But before then please once again.

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See in practical lising. What I have learned today,

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I am going to mandate my horrible Commissioner for education

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to ensure that this academy is part of our school academic activities in Kogi states.

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I'm agin

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my wonderful brother here, the deputy governor of Niger state to equally recommend him

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to his principal, and thank God excellencies here,

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another excellencies you're all here, let us support this wonderful initiative. Because if we do, it means we're going to have

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a wonderful home. Wonderful society and Nigeria will be better for it. On that note, I will launch it. I don't have dollars at her pound sterling.

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Justice haven't. But I'll launch it from the very smallest to the biggest so that others will follow and support it. So I am launching these wonderful khademi with the sum of 1 billion Cobo. Thank you, God bless you.

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Round of applause for him.

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Thank you very much, Excellency.

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Thank you for that support.

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So anybody that would like to also support His Excellency, in launching.

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We have the Secretariat also going on. If you don't want to come forward. You can also wrap it

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around.

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So anybody that would like to support his Excellency, in launching this as well is welcome. Please

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not take us

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any takers want one or two more people to come and support

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Yes sir.

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Plus for His Excellency the Deputy Governor

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I wasn't allowed to surprise him similar manner.

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Let me surely wasted and what he looked at I mean listen if go call Your Excellency,

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man very okay here, the governor of Kogi state, the eminent did opposite of eminent

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the wife of President Muhammadu Buhari, or the Excellencies,

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the wife of Governor of Niger state.

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The ladies and gentlemen, on behalf of His Excellency and good people of Niger state,

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I donate 10 million naira to support your program. Thank you.

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Thank you very much. Please

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stop louder, please

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would like to call on anybody else I would like to support as well.

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Distinguished guests ladies and gentlemen.

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My name is Mohammed journey. pharmacist by profession

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of

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the

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Kogi state

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sister, Mrs. Marion.

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I've been trying to do the math in my head but

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anybody wants to support this initiative as well.

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim.

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There is no doubt

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that this occasion is very special to all of us.

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Because it is an occasion which will definitely not only help us in the management and follow will the Islamic tradition of the most of the

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family but also is going to help us socially in all our life.

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Now is the

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governor has already learned to the

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this important project

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we in the national mosque

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especially that the governor has mentioned in covers in Cobos, not in IRA when he when he mentioned that I had nyrA not to cover

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when he said when you billion something I thought it was 1 billion Naira.

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But as it is como the national mosque Abuja will definitely assist in help.

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Dr. Maria Malibu, not in Cabo, but in something undisclosed, we are not going to disclose it. But certainly we are going to hell, not in Cabo, but in Niagara but undisclosed.

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But one very important thing we will do, of course, is to continue to pray that Almighty Allah will continue to assist her and also husband,

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also,

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Mrs.

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Zara also in all those that are assisting her in this very important thing, we do hope that Almighty Allah will continue to assist them and will continue also to reward them abundantly. Insha Allah salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa Taala.

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Located on for that, sir

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would also like to call on the honorable minister of human affairs. Tim Paul in Thailand. Just give us a word.

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Thank you very much.

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The chairman of the occasion.

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Who is

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the His Eminence is Sultan of Sokoto, ably represented by His Royal Highness, the Emir of kp.

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Hi Excellencies, the wife of the President, the mother of the day.

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Dr. icmr Madhavi.

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Excellent see, because no of Kogi state.

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Our true he for she? Yes, he's demonstrating it and when we are calling on all other governors to key in so that we can have more women participation

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in order to have a better and healthier society, the deputy governor of Niger state

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why sub governors here present? I acknowledge my dear sister,

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the wife of the former Vice President, Mrs. Amina Sambo, the wife of the governor of Niger state,

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Sokoto state,

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and all other excellencies here present.

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I start by thanking the Almighty God

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for

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touching the heart of

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these two great ladies

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that were hiring me,

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Maryam

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lembu, and her wonderful hosta.

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Please, can you give these two couple big round of applause

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I stand here on behalf of all Nigerian women and children to appreciate and celebrate this wonderful couple.

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Zara called me just last week to alert me

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on

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this program and to replace

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my participation as Ministry of human affairs as a strategic partner. I said Sarah, you don't have to call like me. This is part of our mandate to ensure that we have better homes, better marriages, where we will raise a better children discipline children

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in order to have a better and healthy society.

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It is clear from my beautiful daughter that came out to read the poem here. She is your daughter. It speaks volume. You could see clearly

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a child that is brought up

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in a beautiful home where there is love. There is a fear of God and proper upbringing.

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And that's what we want to see in our children.

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The home is the bedrock of the society.

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The family marriage is divine.

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But Islam and Christianity

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has the same

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focus on all that has been said here.

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All that you've read

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from

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your platform. I listened very carefully Maria.

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And I was so moved. I pray. We will have more homes with such a golden family where we find more husband supporting their wives. If you support your wife, you love your wife. You love your children.

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I want to sincerely thank the First Lady of the Federal Republic of Nigeria Dr. Ayesha Madhavi, whom I know we've discussed a lot of the high incidence of broken homes. She is a true mother who prays and look up to seeing the sanity of our homes.

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And I can't have given you the strength, the support.

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Thank you for being there and reaching out for us to join hands to support is very important platform. I stand here on behalf of the Ministry of human affairs and children to congratulate you and to reassure you of the Ministry of human affairs full commitment as a strategic partner to support and walk with you and I will follow the footsteps of my dad here who says we will not disclose but you will see how we are going to work together the

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Cause we have a counseling department we, this is key to the ministry, and

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you are helping us. And I call on all well meaning Nigerians to key into this platform, to respect the institution of marriage, to love their wives, be faithful, so that we can have happier homes, where we will bring better children, because

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a healthy home, a sincere marriage will bring forth children that will be better leaders of tomorrow. The problem of Boko Haram on all these three children we are seeing our products of broken home, our products of insincerity in marriage. And we have families who have the fear of God and put God first as the Center for cots, India home. Certainly, we will have a better and a healthy society. Once again, Marissa, and

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I congratulate you. I want to assure you of the ministry's full commitment to Qatar as a strategic partner. I thank the First Lady for their support. Sarah, well done, for ensuring that we are all here. Thank you.

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Thank you very much.

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Before we call on our next speaker, I would like to just do an announcement in the male toilets, summer left his phone and flash drive, phone and flash drive. So if you are the person that is looking for a phone or flash drive, please come to the Secretariat and you tell us which phone is it or what type of flash drive.

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Now also, there's a pledge form on each of our tables. If you if you don't want to come out and pledge you can also just write your name, organization, email, phone number, and then tick which package you want that different types of packages, while the bronze package which is from 100 to five to 499 people at $60 at the 40% discount what the silver package which is

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whatever function

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when I feel is the Emperor Italian or their boldness is worn off when a major

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doctor so Whoa,

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whoa, hold the bonus present

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numbers of children of the

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daughters of the nation, sister

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the stylish, ladies and gentlemen

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Alhamdulillah for this event today. It went on various cessful I'm so happy to be here on behalf of the facility or the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

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A mother brings Warm greetings to all of us that are here today as she extends her felicitations she's unavoidably absent in this event. But we all know that has.

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She is well presented by the members of her family and all of us from human affairs also by

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the children

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of this project.

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Her Excellency has asked me

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congratulate our dear sister

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smoothing

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on this perhaps in these many married very beautiful idea. For

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more info, please visit our website to monitor.

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He has also called on our children, the young man and a woman. That advantage of this opportunity provided by our sister to join on the journey

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of my sister and her team. Now transforming a generation and changing the narrative.

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Her Excellency has indicated interest to partner

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with sustainable

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projects. ambitious, is already a feature

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of this project. She has asked me to

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pay for support for this project for an undisclosed amount, which were reached out to our system model.

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I personally call on all of us that are here today to encourage our children, our sisters and our brothers, to also subscribe to this very important platform so that they can be guided to live a very happy marriage life. Have you so I congratulate you, my sister. We are so proud of you ever been a source of inspiration for all the women in the world? The journey in this novel of course, and I pray that Allah will continue to use you to add value and undervalue and to be a blessing to humanity. Thank you so very much.

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Thank you very much. I

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would like to before we go ahead would like to recognize the presence of honorable Stella Aqua at the executive director of Nexium bank. Also, I'd like you to know that we're so Vanessa being passed around, just be sure that it's not only souvenirs that are inside. There's also small shops and a few drinks so that you don't just keep eating okay.

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We've provided that for you as well. We like to call on the Director of Research and Training, Dawa Institute Islamic education trust for the closing, closing remarks. None other than Muhammad,

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who is also the brother of Mrs. Miam lemon, please round of applause for him.

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Oh, the villa him in a shaytan al rajim Bismillah Ar Rahman AR Rahim.

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Assalamualaikum and peace be with you all.

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I would like to stand on existing protocols, as is our tradition.

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But as somebody made an exception, I would add to his excellency and all excellencies Royal Highnesses, fathers, mothers, uncle's Auntie's brothers and sisters in Islam and in humanity, a Salaam Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu.

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They say to travel far, you go with others. To travel fast, you go alone.

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The journey that has brought us here has been a long journey with many supporters.

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One of the metaphors that Maryam uses in her course, is that of the person. And that stands for everybody, that we all move around with an imaginary window and a mirror.

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an irresponsible leader is one who when things go wrong, they look out of the window and see who to blame.

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The responsible leader and in her context, the responsible married person

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is one who when things go wrong,

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they look into the mirror and they take responsibility. And when things go well, they look out of the window and see who to give their appreciation to.

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And first of course, all praise and appreciation goes to Allah

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and our parents, may their souls rest in peace. They are friends and supporters.

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And all of those who have made this happen. Maryam is a perfectionist. If it's not good enough, it's not good.

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And to see how between Salaam TV and Sofitel, the role of art

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Joe, and his team,

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Mr. Berry and all the others. All I can just say is, may God count you in the blessings of this program?

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I was looking up statistics about Nigeria, and about 25% of women between the ages of 15 and 49 are not married.

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So I've tried to see what about men

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42%

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of men are not married.

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Is that a measure of irresponsibility?

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Or is it that we are moving away from a time when arranged marriages and the family is hija. saga to mahadi mentioned

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the family was taking care of things. Now, a lot of people on their own

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arranged marriages

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have a divorce rate of about 4%.

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love marriages where you go and find your own have a divorce rate of between 40 to 50%. In some countries, I would not mention it goes up to 65% divorce rates.

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And one problem is fear of what they're going into some hopelessness,

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too, to have a course that can prepare us better,

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I hope will make it easier for those who are going to get married. Getting married is not too difficult.

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Getting married to the right person,

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being the right person that's more difficult.

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And being happily married, is the most difficult of all. But I think that's what we all want when we talk about getting married and preparing our young for marriage.

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When we were coming here, I wasn't sure what to say. And so I asked my son Anwar,

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they want me to give some closing remark any idea what I should speak about.

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And he said,

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bamboo,

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said Good, thank you,

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which is one of the metaphors meriam uses in her course,

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that when you see how the bamboo tree grows, and I planted bamboo last year,

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you put it in the ground, and it as if it doesn't want to grow, it just stays on the ground for long.

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But when it starts to grow, when the shoot comes out,

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in less than two months, the bamboo was taller than where my hand could touch. Bamboo, you will find out is also the fastest growing plant in the world.

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But it only is able to do that, because it has a very strong routing system. The routing system is the metaphor for character. It's not just how to have a good personality, How to Win Friends influence people to say yes to a marriage.

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But to do it with character.

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Because that's really what keeps the marriage.

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A lot of us as has already been said, a lot of us focus on the shooting system. What do we see outside dressing well, looking nice looking beautiful, a nice house.

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But that doesn't keep a marriage. We focus a lot on the weddings

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and less on married life.

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And what I'm happy about regarding this course and this sounds like a conflict of interest. But in another way I think it's a convergence of interest

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is that we are able to help young people with easily accessible sources of guidance. But as we talk about that, and I think for governments, this is also very important. The Singaporean government

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got marital counseling, compulsory for all citizens to solve a problem of housing

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that whenever there was a divorce, they needed more housing.

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It was more expensive for citizens and for the government to not be involved in supporting marital counseling.

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It's easier to get married,

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unfortunately, than it is to get a driving license because

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I think as a society,

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we tend to assume that if you drive a car without the qualifications, bad things will happen. But we seem to pretend as if you can go into marriage without the necessary qualifications, and bad things won't happen. But as we all know, there's nothing that a parent dreads more than their child is getting married, and you have your fingers crossed.

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In business, there's what they call the blue ocean strategy, where you look at the business environment as an area that does not need competition.

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What this event I think has done and the buzz around it has done is to let us know, so many people are interested in better marriages.

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So many

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people are ready to spend money to support better marriages.

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And so for someone, and rapper,

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and NASA and all the other organizations, faith based and non faith based organizations that are interested in better marriages, I think there's a huge opportunity for a lot of collaboration.

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In physics, they say nature abhors a vacuum. I think in social relations shaytan loves to fill vacuums. And before long, other courses will come up on marital and premarital counseling, just to make money out of the fact that there's a demand for this. And so I would like to advise all those organizations and individuals interested in supporting

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good quality marital counseling, to do all they can to fill the vacuum to collaborate.

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It would be good if we could have, for example, for one to have marital counseling centers in every state where they have branches.

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Because while this is an online course, and most likely offline will still play a role. The biggest problems of marriage are not solved online. It is sitting one on one person to person, but at least to take advantage of technology to reduce the workload ahead of us.

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Mufti menk

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is a person I think most of us know and respect a lot.

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And for long, he has been Zimbabwe his gift to Africa.

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And Africa's gift to the world.

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That isn't getting emotional.

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I think Alhamdulillah I would say Maryam is Nigeria's gift to Africa, but also

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Africa's gift to the world.

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I would advise Maryam as I advise myself to remember.

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Allah first

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in everything.

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And the reason why saying that is difficult for me

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is because it was the advice our dad

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always gave us.

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But it's not enough to keep it up.

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But to keep improving.

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To stay curious, continue learning.

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Try and be humble. And if you can't be humble, pretend to be humble. That's how I get away with it.

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I'd like to congratulate everyone for this program support. May it be adequate to injuria from all of us.

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For me, there's a new norm I'm trying to get used to.

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When we were in secondary school, I remember Maryam once telling my dad, she said I was well known. I'm very well known in school.

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And my dad said how everybody knows me, they will ask anybody, they will just say, I'm Marian Oh, this one. She's the sister of nuridium.

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So I said no. So he's no dilemma. They know you they just know you as a sister of neurodevelopment.

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So you can imagine how I felt once I was in a restaurant here in Abuja

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when, you know, somebody was looking at me as if they knew me and I was going to be a bit. You know, let me not be rude and assume I don't know these people. So I went and greeted them. And somebody said, You are the brother of Madame lemko.

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I said Tor hamdulillah Yes, I am.

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A new norm and may that new norm be blessed inshallah we continue in all our ways to support Alou to continue our students say, Victoria SATA. inshallah, God bless you all. salamati

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Thank you very much.

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Thank you very much, please another round of applause for him.

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So just to remind all of us, as we are talking about this, the hashtag is change the narrative. It doesn't end here. The support for this platform should end today. We should keep being advocates of it. I also like to also announce that

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I'm in Tacoma on behalf of cinema Tacoma family has pledged 1 million naira to support this. So please, a round of applause for them. We'll also like I said, the pledge forms are on your table. Once you feel them, you can pass them off to the Secretariat, and we'll you know, collate it as well.

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The next item on our agenda

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is the vote of thanks. By the one I'm only allowed to say Takuma the supports the the person that has actually helped us to support her and you know, make this a reality because in 30 years, I can only imagine all the